Decent handsome men have the hardest time. You either go for women who are really attractive and face your fears or get treated badly by average women who feel like you can do better than them. Average women treat you the worst. Taking care of yourself body/face/finances/personality really can play against you if you don't meet a woman who is confident and offers the same thing. When you meet an insecure woman, even if she is pretty, you will get tested continuously. Most pretty women do not want a man that is better looking than them, especially if beauty is their man offering to the relationship.
@GJones247 and what's WORST is as a good looking (7/10 face,stubble,groomed, stocky-buff, broad shoulders, deep voice, masculine BLACK guy here🧔🏾♂️) BLACK guy you face MORE challenges. 1) decent looking BLACK 🐦 who DONT ALREADY know(coworkers/classmates/friend group) you long enough to get comfortable around you WILL avoid,ignore,be super timid/quiet, pretend you do not even exist. I get THIS treatment from 80+90% of the BLACK 🐦 I encounter EVERY TIME I walk out into public places. No checking out(except old grannies),no choosing signals,no NOTHING... JUST THIS treatment. 2) WHITE/latina/Asian 🐦 do NOT even check you out 90% of the time. They catch a glimpse of "brown skin" and avoid looking at you much less showing any type of attraction to you. ONLY the grannies, married older chicks, and VERY unattractive ones show any interest in even wanting to acknowledge your existence...much less all of this "dating" stuff these guys complain about. I KNOW guys(nonblack guys) who I LITERALLY MOG in 9 outta 10 ways(including LOOKS,SEGGS APPEAL,and masculine swag) YET I CAN'T even get a 2nd look from the EXACT SAME vvomen who will date/flirt/sleep with/laugh and talk to THEM. *"It NEVER even began, homie."* 😒💯💯💯💪🏾🧔🏾♂️
I regularly get compliments on my looks by strangers... men women, all the time, anywhere. It doesn't even matter how I feel about myself because others make it fundamentally clear... and I struggle with women way more than anyone would think, especially considering I'm a genuine dude without poor motives. And yeah this video is ringing true. My appearance has changed a lot in a year though. I've seen both sides. If you're good looking you'll know to say the least. Lol
Sooooo I could be getting rejected because I’m TOO good looking??🤔 Dude WTF is wrong with women these days? It went from telling a girl you think she’s pretty and ask for her number with no problems to a text book of issues, rules, etc… this is ridiculous. I’m seriously considering just being alone for the rest of my life. F this shite
i just went thru this again which is why the algoriithm probably suggested this video to me. but i feel like your comment is exactly what i thought. its funny cuz the first guy that wrote to you said it never even began lmao which i totally relate to as well. the only times ive got lucky was with women waay batter looking than me. im an 8 and all the ones below my range have those insecurities and issues and just reject me to give themselves ann ego boost
Yep, got that right bro! We men are screwed either way we go. We will get rejected if we aren't good enough, as well as get rejected for being too good! Yes, that's right-WTF is wrong with women these days?!
We're all ears. I thought it was just my head going crazy over women thinking they're done because of me being too good.. But that's what happens some times.. Good Lord. How in the world are we supposed to settle down?
Experience this all the time. Not just with looks but with status. That’s why single moms always get bitter when nobody takes them on because they know most single guys who have things going for them won’t take on the responsibility of a child, especially if they don’t have kids.
Facts some chicks will play like they don’t see you when they do and they love to reject for a ego boost and some be insecure, Intimidated and jealous 💯
Dude this happens to me all the time. I’ve gotten so many compliments on how I look and I’ve been hit on several times but I’m literally rejected most of the time
Strongly disagree back then in high school my knees are literally shaking by saying the word " hi" with the average looking girl that I want to approach, rejections give me this thick skin plus rejection will give you an idea on what types of game or approach is effective to you or not in my own experience I have learned to hold a converstion on decent looking girls after being rejected alot @@bavarois25
A man just can't seem to win in modern society. "You gotta do this, you gotta do that. You're too handsome, you're not handsome enough, you're too tall, you're not tall enough, you work out too much, you don't work out enough, yap yap yap." I have a migraine from all the damn mental gymnastics.
The high expectations thing is very real, I am experiencing this first-hand as a nerdy guy who worked his butt off to glow up by getting in shape, grooming, dressing well, etc...
I’m glad my girlfriend has a great group of female friends. I can’t handle toxic friends and their drama. If you date a girl with toxic friends, and commit, those same toxic friends also come along with the relationship. 😬
4:30 A friend demonstrated to me this predictably obnoxious self-absorption. At a party he said in a loud voice, "The trouble with women is they take everything personally." Two women started arguing with him that _they_ don't.
I really liked a guy I went out with last year and to me he was crazy handsome but he joked that my one red flag was that I was interested in him. He bailed on me after 3 dates. Amazing dates. Kinda felt like he thought I was out of his league given he just kept talking about it and it didn’t help when we went to the city a street vendor was joking asking how he landed a girl like me, and I inwardly cringed because of the way he had been joking about it I knew that wouldn’t be good. Like this guy had nothing to be self conscious about. He’s a beautiful guy and his values made him even more beautiful to me. I still think about him and it’s been almost a year. I haven’t dated since.
Danny, you are awesome man! I just ran across your video today, and I have watched many other videos on this related topic by different people, but this one hits home even more. You took the words out of my mouth, esp in the comparison section of this video. I have always said that there is an unwritten rule that a woman must be more beautiful than her man, and if she even perceives he is as pretty as her even if he isn't, she will become insecure. She will reject him in the first place or ghost him after the beginning of a relationship eventually. Like you, I lost at least 15 lbs two years ago, mostly belly fat as well as under my chin and face. Besides a good diet, I stopped drinking altogether. I got on a good diet to compete in some bodybuilding competitions, and the first one I competed in, I didn't even place. But my girlfriend at the time told me no more bodybuilding, and no more competitions. I didn't listen and competed a few months later and took first place. She didn't even care and gave me a nonchalant 'congratulations'. Shortly later she walked out on me. And it was also hatred and persecution from other exes and women who I knew at the time. I always knew men could be jealous of other men, but not women jealous of other men! The notion of a woman must always be prettier than her man (and she needs to know it!) and women can be blatantly jealous of men took me years to figure out! I had only one girlfriend since the one I told you about, and she was also very nervous and jealous of me, and she is smoking hot, too! Like a model! But she doesn't think so. So we handsome men do NOT have it easy!
Surprisingly enough a lot of women are intimidated by guys that they deem as 10s. The neuroticism gets them in their heads a lot and they think they're not good enough. You're entirely right Danny. Great video as usual!
I see this out here in atl. I'm a 6ft3 215lbs lightskin panafrican. I take care of myself ,smell good, kept my health and fitness up,and my fashion game is on point and different times from the average atlanta man. I can tell you how many time the super pretty woman when I look at them ,they hurry up and look away or turn around. I had a woman walk into someone because she trying so hard to not look in my direction. Average woman,my goodness they will come up to me, stop me while at a light in my bike. Stare at me. Yes it seems like some uber attractive women don't want an equally attractive man. My favorite isnqhen i try to talk to them and I get the , are you bi, down low, or "oh you lightskin ,so I know you must be trouble, I know you sleep around,he's a pretty boy" Like sheesh ,so I'm not supposed tontake care of my self and be presentable. And seriously colorism is still real in 2024
This has been my “ None existent dating life “ In my adult life ! I actually can’t get a date and have NEVER been able to get a date with a girl I find attractive because of it !
Don’t forget about diet. Diet is more important than face care routine, WHY? Bc you are an exact reflection of what you put in your body and that is an undeniable fact💯‼️ it’s so easy to look good when you are not eating like shiii like most people💯
The quality of your content is top notch. The overwhelming of the channels on this subject is just trash. Relying on polemic cherry picked cases to gain engagement. It’s a breath of fresh air to see your videos.
Very well said. Most women are afraid of high quality men not wanting to commit. Living overseas in some of the countries I've been to, it's even worse. I lived in Turkey, Ukraine, and Russia and women from those countries are even more leery of attractive men because such men in those countries are some of the worst to women, and women in this part of the world happen to be family oriented, relationship and marriage minded, want a man who is NOT all that! Being handsome and great looking is thrown out the window for a man here because women fear such a man, afraid he won't stay with her. Or if he does, he will cheat on her constantly. Women in this part of the world just want a "regular" guy. I know because I heard women say that!
Dont listen to what womany say. Im from Poland, and its the same in russia and ukraine since we are slavic people every person i knew, every family member or cousins and stuff, was treated badly by woman or cheated by woman. Most of the guys i know want family, yet they end up with girls that cheat or cant take care of him or the kids. Some woman sleep around when young then to trap good looking guys when they are 30, lying that she was abused by exes. Meanwhile when you look up her social media, she was constantly partying :) I have tried dating in Poland, Germany and England, every woman out there is the worst, like in America I went to Philippines for 1 month and the girls out there are like heaven, they take care of you, help you, lead and even help others around, are kind and family oriented.
Here's the problem as I see it: Rating people on looks. Either you're attracted to the person or not. There's MUCH more than physical attraction to keep a relationship, it's about integrity, empathy, kindness, confidence, and security. If you're all about rating people for their looks, it's no wonder why your relationships do not last. At the end of the day, a woman or man you "rate" as a 9 or 10, they still take a shit and wipe their ass. Get over it.
It’d be more accurate to say that jealousy actually kills more relationships than being an attractive man lol. I know cause this happened to me. My ex fiancé ended things cause she was convinced I really wanted to be with someone else. Who? Well what about my friend from work who is a girl. Or that old college classmate who posts instagram stories all the time? When we would go out she would often say(imagine) “our waitress is giving me a dirty look for being with you.” Or “that cashier was definitely flirting with you.” Eventually it gets old and they know it too which only feeds into the insecurity more until they break things off. A rare case of “it’s not you, it’s them.” In my case, I wish I hadn’t invested 5 years with that girl but oh well. You love and learn.
That explains why i'm still single and a relationship virgin at 27.Even though i've had experienced women claiming i must be a playboy or something with girls and then acting all surprised when i tell them i'm not because i'm an introvert and i don't date girls ever,like maybe once a year or something lol. Their confusion always gets them and make me laugh ironically.
A woman I used to know (not romantically, she was married) would always assure me that the women I thought were interested in me were not. I could describe a situation to her where flirting took place. Rather than say something like "she probably wanted you to ask her out" she would always say something like "No, she was just being nice" or "no, she didn't like you she probably is like that with everyone". She would tell me this with utmost confidence. So, I thought its true that no women like me as I had always believed.
@@drmahidhar1876 I never asked her for advice. I was merely conversing with her. The point is, I don't know if she was giving me the hard truth of the matter because she could see that no women would be attracted to me. Or if she was attracted to me but couldn't act on it because of her marriage but still she wanted my attention and thought that if she could remove the possibility of other girls from the equation, she could have it.
@@bavarois25 yeah, you and her are right. Every woman that ever flirted with me, even making it obvious, was just being nice or does that with everyone.
I don't have problem on attracting a modern beautiful women, I've been in situationship many times but when I change to be a better man, keep trying to be religious and be a mature man who dream to have a good life, I've got opposite effect and always get rejected. I use to be a guy who don't even court and I can get a woman I wanted but then, since I've changed for good and forget the past and leaning on good things and healthy habits. I'm into traditional smart women now but I'm always rejected because they feel like I'm not serious and I'm a playboy that destroys everyones heart for real. Now, I'm stuck in the middle, I won't date again badgirl but I can't even date good traditional "intelligennt" girl either hahahahaha. I've got karma I guess and I'm willing to pay for many rejections as long as I can get the traditional woman that matches me
I have all the 6s and women see me as a checklist. I refuse to be a Chad. I want one woman who is worth it. They all complain that men use them as objects, but they are doing the same thing to me. It's really depressing.
It's funny, I don't know if I'm handsome or not because I have been told I am. At the same time, women almost treat me like I don't exist nowadays, which makes me think I'm below average in looks. One thing I do know though, is that between the years when you become sexually active until now (I'm 29) I have had almost 0 attention or interest from women. Except for one year. When I was around 21, in a spann of around 8 months, I probably had around 5 encounters where women even approached me in a bar or nightclub and with some of them we started kissing within 5 minutes. And keep in mind that I very rarely even went out. I didn't sleep with any of them though because I didn't know how to proceed, messed up in some way and was stupid. But those 5 or so were more than twice what I got during my entire life It is still a mystery to me what made me so attractive that particular year. Was there some kind physical transformation that took place, between late teens and early adulthood that made me have nice facial features? Or was it just pure extreme luck? Or did I for some reason exude some kind of confidence and charm that they picked up on? One will never know but intersting to think about
Basically what you're saying is you're a competitive social media guy dating other competitive social media girls - the vibe is competitive selfish insecure and anxious - find other maybe older women, and stop competing with everyone over everything
The first 40 seconds really shows the dating situation, (at least here in my country) lot of beautiful women, with guys who, compared to them, are more average. Idk if it is because they are insecure, and they thing being with a more average guy, he won’t be cheating as they think there are no better options for him
I’d say I’m about a 7.5 or 8 and have noticed women will go out of their way to not even look at me, it’s pretty obvious what she’s doing too. I just laugh. I’m like the nicest, kindest person you’ll ever meet but they just assume I’m some egotistical ass hole. Their loss.
Some women stay confused. Some pretend confusion. Women who values personality will go for all qualifying aspects in an individual including looks. Women who values looks would still go for an ugly guy. GIRLS CAN'T HANDLE REJECTION V. WELL. INSECURITY -> key word. Age is just not a number. Their priority may drastically change with age. All a man can do is be himself and set his boundaries. Most importantly be happy with your pros and cons. The more you value a women's judgement/opinion etc the more trauma you shall invite.
How the hell does this guy know? It's absolutely not true. The chads I know can get alot of women. Men sub chad get mixed results, and mid tier normies and lower are always rejected.
Most women ARE SO INSECURE. I may like a 7 or 8, but most women will never be comfortable with a solid 9. At the end of the day, thats why you see a lof ot handsome men with an 8 or even a 7. Better to have a 7 that has a lot going for her than a 9 or a 10 that has zero on the inside.
