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I could not afford my children but I had three and raise them by myself but we had Democrats in charge of Tennessee and they greatly helped. They made it possible. They are all grown now. But the entire time I was raising them I never had any extra money now that they are all out of the house and have their own houses I'm finally starting to have my own money. You don't have to spend 80% of what you make on everyone else
I'm 35 and if I could have a kid in my 20s, I 100% would have, but I didn't have a husband (partner) to have the baby with. Joy is right, you're never actually ready, you just do it and figure it out.
But then the grandkids come and you are happy you get to send them home. 😂😅And being a young Gramma, grampa .they expect you to do more things with the grandkids than when you are an old grandma,grandpa.😮
@@quitaulla1569 I only have the one child and grandchidren aren't on the menu, which is fine with me as I'm retired now and still young enough to come and go as I please.😊
Yas Alyssa!! I'm 31 and im seeing people my age have kids and my immediate reaction is "oh no" or "your about to be financially stressed for awhile". But i also have to remember those reactions are me projecting....
I had my first child at 31, which was great, however I had been married for 6yrs. We traveled and enjoyed each other so we were ready to grow our family. Time will fly by and I find there's a balance of stability & youthfulness still to engage with my children since I had them in my 30's.
Had my daughter at 23. I was always one of the younger moms when she was in school. And I knew I was done having babies before 30 by choice. Now I’m an empty nester at 43 about a year away from being mortgaged free
I concentrated on my career in my 20s, started wanting kids in my mid-30s, and met my husband when I was 35. We had our 1st child I was 40 and our 2nd child when I was 43. We were very fortunate to have no "issues" with conceiving but I have to admit that by 42/43 I was worried about complications. Thankfully it all worked out. But I am definitely an older mommy.
I had kids in my 20’s and I’m don’t with kids. One out of college and one going into his second year. Love it, 47 and husband and I enjoying our freedom.
I had one at 18 and 20 and twins at 27!!! I was married at 17 (not pregnant yet... military) I loved being a young mom. Btw, still going strong at 30 years married, and our 4 kids are now awesome adults ❤ it happens 😊
Thank you for saying that. A lot of women (not all women) who waited to have children are struggling to have those children. The earlier you have them the better it is physically for the woman. The issue is that people are not financially in a good place to afford them.
I'm in Iowa and had babies at 27 and 28. I thought that was pretty normal age but when my kids got to school, in comparison to other parents, we were ancient.
You think that's something, when my granddaughter was little and getting close to starting school, I met what I thought was another grandma with a little girl the same age as my granddaughter, except she was her mother, and she was a year older than me 😲
I am 28 and I can say I am glad that I do not have children. I have gotten the chance to travel solo, with friends family and I feel like I had the opportunity to truly know myself and enjoy my singlehood. Now, I am getting married next year and plan to have children later 💕
Good luck!! I feel like there’s not one size fits all, but it sure is nice for people to do follow their hearts into whatever it leads them to. As a single person who won’t be having any kids, I salute all parents in their journey to having or deciding to try for kids.
Nowadays ppl don’t want babies in their 20s bc life is already hard and expensive as it is! Most ppl in their 20s and early 30s are more likely to be living with family/roommates to make ends meet.
Boomers always have the "just make it work" line, because in 1970-1990ish, if you had an accidental baby, there were plenty of ways to make money. Even single moms had it easier back then. They literally live in the Jimmy Carter era of cheap apartments, cheap used cars, easy to find work....out of touch.
I think Sunny is noticing the difference between how people receive Sarah vs. how people receive her. Sarah started having kids at 41 = good. Sunny starting at 38 = '"old". Sarah indulges conspiracies about the royal family = cute, Sunny does = horrible person. Sarah doesn't take responsibility and blames the royal family for what they get = a little unfortunate. Sunny = playfully apologizes for indulging Sarah's conspiracies =devil. Hmmm....
Sara is 9-10 years younger than Sunny, so Sara probably was also told she had a geriatric pregnancy, but it was more commonplace than when Sunny had her kids. There have always been women who had kids later in life, but it's definitely more prevalent today. I mean, Janet Jackson had her son at 50!
@@debbiedoodiedandi Could be! In general, though, there's a giant difference in how both are received across episodes that Sunny definitely seems to be picking up on.
Well, it could be that Sarah is just a more likeable person than Sunny. Sarah is almost always open-minded, non-judgmental, and never has that arrogance about her. Sunny frequently, if not daily comes across as very arrogant to me. Joy does too honestly. What I like about Sarah and Alyssa is that they're not so entrenched in their own bias that they can't look at things from a different perspective. Sunny and Joy and Whoopi are so deeply hypocritical. Like how? If anyone criticizes Kamala Harris it's because of her race but if someone made a criticism about Winsome Sears or Condoleezza Rice Then there wouldn't be this immediate assumption of racism and sexism because Sunny doesn't agree with them either. Little things like that that just tick me off. I also get tired of how Sunny thinks that she speaks for all black people.
Joy always sounds like my late grandma, she repeats stories every time we are having conversations. She has told that story about her baby daughter, Ex and the Volkswagen over and over again without missing a bit
That's the way it should be done, not, lets have kids now while we're still in the poorhouse, and then try to catch up financially later, I know from experience, you never get ahead if you do it the other way around.
I was at new mom and wife at 22 and it was great. I didn't know where life was going for me before that so it was nice to not gong thru everything alone. Now 10 years later, life has balanced out. Another kid and we're still together with great jobs. For some, your 20s aren't the best time of your life lol
I'm 27 and expecting, ready does not exist 😂 but it happened and I am enjoying every second of it. We're not financialy 100% stable, but we are not spoiled and we will get to it some day eventualy. It's not such a big deal...
My mom had my Brother when she was 20 and my dad was 23 almost 24 I am 24 Years Old now and it makes me think how different it was to have a kid back in 1985 compared 2024 (my brother was born in 1985). I am 24 and I still feel like a kid my mind does this weird thing where people born in the 2000s still feel like children, people born in the 90s still feel like teenagers, and people born in the 80s still feel like people in their 20s.
Had a baby last year at 28 and tbh a lot of my friends are in this weird space between omg I can’t do it and I I’m ready for my own. I think late 20’s is a good age and you get to grow up together. I think also it depends on how mature you are as well. Also I think I was ready because I travelled I lived such a full life and ticked off everything I wanted to do before I was 30.
Back in the day,we never thought how expensive baby’s would be ,we have them and we deal with it,today it’s all about finances ,yes there’s a lot of responsibility in having babies ,but at the end it’s all worth it ,compare that to being completely alone as you get old ,their love is priceless ! Joy is right on point as usual !
It also depends what culture you're in. I'm around a lot of chicanos in calif. and they are less about planning/ being financially prepared. That's not a slam- they'll say that's the way it is and rely on others to assist.
@@ilovegoodsax my generation has been told we won't have social security,to invest in our own retirement. So since atleast the early 90s we know ss won't be there. Get prepared if your not already.
these women are so out of touch like usual… i would say about 90% of women from 20-40 can no longer afford kids lol. it’s irresponsible to “just figure it out as you go” most people don’t have that privilege we can barely afford housing…
My sister was a teen mom It was tough at time, but now I'm in my mid-thirties and I'm recently a father.She's a year older than me and it's already a grandmother.I'm a bit jealous of how much time she will have with her grandchildren. I will most likely be in my late fifties.
At 32, i would love to have children but whew childcare by its self is expensive af! I hate when people say "youll manage". Because all the couples thst are stressed tf out each month will disagree.
I'm with joy I'm 34 and when they let me leave with my son from the hospital I'm like that's it!!! No pamphlet no anything you just assume I'm responsible and can take care of this precious angel😅
Had mine at 26 and 29, by 48, they were in college and my husband and I started a new lifestyle. Worked for us…so happy we didn’t wait until we had ‘everything’. We STILL don’t have everything and we wouldn’t have had those two darlings….
I would have had my son earlier like 25, or 26 but i grew up in abuse and wanted to heal before I had kids, i was scared. I had him at 28 and zero regret about having him in my 20s
@@idotgotitme3280well not everyone is the same. 😊But many women notice a decline in fertility as they approach perimenopause and may have to resort to fertility care, which is not easy or cheap.
@@miss_bougie6653 Yes, definitely. But I would recommend women to have a realistic view of their own fertility and to talk to their family doctors early on and perhaps considering freezing their eggs so they have a bit of time to spend on other things while still having eggs in good condition than when reaching 40.
I think mid to late 20's would be good...brain is more developed and more financially stable. I had my son a month after my 17th bday. It wasn't easy... very difficult actually. BUT, I figured it out, worked my butt off, and grew into a pretty amazing young woman. I'm very proud of myself. My son is 19 now, a hard worker, and about to start college. I'm so proud of both of us. ❤
People are getting married later. Nobody can really afford life until at least their late 20's early 30's now, then you have to find a partner. Then you have to get married. it's still of course best to not have kids out of wedlock. And yes I see many many new first time parents that are mid-30's. thats just what the economy has forced us all to do.
As someone who was basically alienated by family AND friends when I got pregnant with my son at 23 I COMPLETELY agree with this woman.😢 Even though it makes the most biological sense society shames women for having kids too young especially in liberal communities. You're looked at as irresponsible because you didn't get established in a career first. This generation puts career before family and many end up regretting it.
Lol no they don't end up regretting putting career before family. You're just saying that because you regret having kids early before you had an established career😂😂
@omphilemoerane I have an established career as a stem cell scientist & I've just been accepted into medical school. And I'd argue getting married and having my child early is what gave me the perspective and drive to pursue a career in medicine. I speak about my close friends who are doctors who after all their training and career are now having infertility issues related to their advanced age ( as far as pregnancy is concerned) and working hours that wouldn't allow them to be the kind of mothers they want to be anyway.
I got pregnant at 21, but i had a still born. The negative way people, including my family treated me while i was pregnant and after i lost the baby, was eye opening for me. I decided immediately after that, that i never wanted to have children. I'm 38 now and wish i had the money to get my tubes tied. Now, i just get snubbed for not wanting kids.
Wow really, if that had happened under Trumps rule, you may have been accused of losing the baby on purpose (I don't know if you heard about that women that was charged after having a miscarriage, like she did something to cause it, and she didn't). So ridiculous 😡 In Canada, getting your tubes tied is free, I got mine done at 23.
In Europe, nobody has a baby before their thirties. For us, it's so weird that Americans from the countryside get married in their 20's and have baby right after that.
When i was in my 20s i could imagine taking care of a baby and a husband...i didnt feel i was adult enough till 35 i could actually see myself able enough.
Times are different now, for most people especially in richer countries, your 20s are for exploration and 30’s are for settling down and starting a family.
3:15 this is strange for Sunny, there are MANY videos on how she protected her kids, drove behind a kid just to make sure he drove to school safely by their self. Now she said that in that tone 🤔
I gave birth to my son a month before my 27th birthday and I didn't feel ready. But looking back, I'm really glad I birthed him in my twenties! I had the ENERGY and STRENGTH to handle the emergencies, long nights and stress that comes along with bringing a new life into this world. I was also young enough to remember what it felt like to be a child and was able to relate to his emotions and be understanding.
I had three between the ages of 25-29…. I recouped so fast from each one…Then I had one at 39. FORGET IT…. He actually wanted a brother or sister because he felt the older kids had each other. I had to say sorry. I think I would have died if i had another one after that.
Not gonna lie a lot of people in my 20s that I know have kids I’m 27 and I’m waiting for my 30s that’s just me, to each is own. I know I’m not ready to have kids, I’m trying to get myself together so I can’t take care of anyone else right now
I got married at 21 and quickly had two children within 18 months of each other and then I was divorced. My ex took everything out of our bank account which was my money cuz he wasn't working and went to Puerto Rico which is where he was from. I raised these kids with barely any money in my pockets and ended up having a third along the way, I remember finding out that I was pregnant when the other two were 12 and 11 and I barely had 20 bucks but I went ahead and had the child he is 26 years old now and it all worked out fine. But I was fortunate to live in Tennessee during the 1990s when we had Democrats as governors and senators and they really helped mothers with children they helped me with child care gasoline rent utilities everything they could help me with as long as I was willing to work. The last 12 years Republicans have been in charge and they have been hoarding all the money to help needy families they have a record few billion dollars sitting doing nothing they haven't helped a single family
I'm a male in my late 20s, and we straight up cannot afford it. I can't think of a single girl friend who has the time, money, or resources to have a baby.
IF you have a baby in your 40s and your kids have babies in their 40s, you'll have a very short time to help them with their children and less time to see and enjoy your grandchildren, which is quite a sad thought for some
So did I, worst thing to happen ever. Wish I could've had time to enjoy my life and had kids later, cause I've never been able to enjoy my life ever because of that too soon knock up. 😔
Whoopi kills me 😂 She is fully her show tv character. I fear for these new 20 years that I know. They definitely seem less mature than you would expect from someone their age. They’ve been through a lot of things no one alive had the playback to help them navigate through so it makes sense they’d be a little different. They’ll be okay I’m sure.
Disappointed that they mentioned egg freezing, but not social programs that would make it easier to be a mom in your twenties, married or not, established in your career or not. I met a danish woman who got pregnant at 26 by her ex-boyfriend. Denmark paid for her apartment, and childcare. While she got her master's in anthropology. College is free, so zero student debt. Healthcare is free as well.
This show needs to come to an end, minorities are not watching this boring , especially Sunny Hoston who the reason the ratings are horribly low. Barbra Walters would be dissatisfied and disappointed.
