He’s Seeing Prostitutes After 38 Years of Marriage

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@naelyneurkopfen9741 6 месяцев назад

There's no way I would even consider staying. I caught my now ex husband, the father of my 3 kids, trying to slip around with someone he knew before we ever met. They were in the planning stages. I packed up and moved out while he was at work. Not a way in the world that I would tolerate someone who cared so little for my physical, mental and emotional well-being.

@big123lak 5 месяцев назад

lol

@girlygirl1890 5 месяцев назад

@naelyneurkopfen Love you for that! So glad you did not tolerate that nonsense. Good on you!

@Ravioli-uw9uy 5 месяцев назад

I’m so sorry that happened to you. You’re such a badass for just packing your stuff, and getting out of there. You already knew in your gut you deserved better. I truly hope you’re doing well now.

@truthjunkie63 5 месяцев назад

Good for you.

@sezstamorae9004 5 месяцев назад

Someone that gets it…

@tyrabandz2845 6 месяцев назад

Her leaving this situation will be HARD…. married at 19 ?? he’s all she’s ever known! such a terrible situation :(

@michellesimmons3150 6 месяцев назад

Staying could be harder. She will become a shell of herself if she isn’t already

@veebliss1266 6 месяцев назад

She’s brainwashed!

@alluringbliss4165 6 месяцев назад

@@michellesimmons3150she doesn’t know anything else, it’s unlikely she’ll leave. It’s take courage to start over and face the unknown.

@girlygirl1890 6 месяцев назад

@tyra that's why he did it. He's all she's ever known, so he took advantage of that. You put MY health in jeopardy like that??? Oh HECK no!!!! I'm worth more than that. (and she is too.)

@girlygirl1890 6 месяцев назад

@@veebliss1266 yup!

@canarytea7094 6 месяцев назад

It made me angry when she said he was frustrated that she hasn't moved pass it. THE AUDACITY. The expectation that she should just forget it and move on already. Like he didn't betray her and their 38 years of marriage.

@girlygirl1890 6 месяцев назад

@canarytea He's gaslighting her.

@oh_k8 6 месяцев назад

Her husband's logic is that without his ladies of the night, he would have left the wife long ago, so she (the wife) should be greatful that he stayed and accept that he has to do this to stay with her.😂

@lilinsulatorchick9665 5 месяцев назад

Lol right. How dare you not be un-hurt yet! Lol

@SpidermanandJeny 4 месяца назад

I can see why he is. She hasn't left! If she's going to stay, she has to move past it. I'm not saying she has to move past it. It'd be fine if she left, but she has to make a decision.

@heather4089 4 месяца назад

That guy is sick of his mind and narcissistic. She needs to get out of there, oriole like are capable of even put that other woman to live in the wife’s house.

@Anne-ee1pw 5 месяцев назад

Never stay in a situation where the “guilty party” is not seeking help for behavioral issues/addiction.

@Justme0288 2 месяца назад

I don’t think help is always needed for people to making shitty choices.

@sinceresinclair 6 месяцев назад

He’s exposing her to sexual diseases and that’s disgusting.

@vianjelos 4 месяца назад

Not just that..most sex workers are doing so non consensually..if people like him didn't exist there would be no sex trafficking in the first place..him using prostitutes creates the demand for them which is what leads to exploitation and trafficking in the first place because the amount of women happy and willing to do that line of work is far far smaller than the demand for it. So he is harming his wife and other women with his actions.

@STak-ju7gx 2 месяца назад

@@vianjelosglad someone pointed this out.

@saladgirl2062 5 месяцев назад

My husband of 30 years deceived me for years with his PA , the two of them coordinated their efforts to hide their affair. He was devastated when I left , but I knew I could ever trust him again and I told him him , if you manage to go through the hard work you need to be an honest man I’m not the woman for you , at that point you will deserve a woman who believes in you. By leaving I freed my self from the impossible work of trusting him and freed him to live what ever life he chose .

@LP-km7gj 3 месяца назад

This may be a dumb question but what is a PA?

@saladgirl2062 3 месяца назад

@@LP-km7gj his personal assistant , used to be referred to as secretary

@soupergiffy 3 месяца назад

Physicians Assistant

@lilac7082 3 месяца назад

You are so right! I mean, I understand forgiveness, but staying there and force yourself to trust despite the warning you own brain is giving you?? Yeah, why not remove the seatbelt from your car and drive insane 🙄

@ElleY-ks8pl 3 месяца назад

@@LP-km7gj Personal Assistant

@igotyour6fitness936 6 месяцев назад

I was in the same situation 20 yrs ago. I was married to a man from a culture where this type of situation was very acceptable for married men to do. The woman's role was to look the other way just to keep the family together. I filed divorce and said he needs to fight for me and change. The divorce is just a piece of paper. I am moving forward but he still had an opportunity to fight and change and create something new. He decided to abandoned me instead. It was hard but I was able to move forward. I met a new wonderful husband and he adopted my boys and had 2 more children. The reason why she can't let go is cause he really hasnt changed. He is on good behavior right now. Once things get comfortable he will go back.

@lauren4078 6 месяцев назад

And where is your ex now? Still sleeping with prostitutes and cheating on whoever he's currently with, most likely. Those types of people never change, unless they face a reckoning of divine proportions.

@shellymichelle904 6 месяцев назад

You’re so right! And her mentioning he never comes clean about any of it??!! She can’t heal bc he’s not trustworthy and isn’t helping her. She can’t see clearly bc she’s too close to the situation and makes excuses and gives grace when truly he hasn’t really changed… just on good behavior like you said!!

@adriana27100 6 месяцев назад

I’m curious which culture? I know I’ve heard about the Asian culture being fine with it like it’s the normal for them and just accepted.

@suzieq1704 5 месяцев назад

I always wondered why a woman would intentionally marry a man whose culture demeaned women. Would you expect something different from him?

@littleme3597 4 месяца назад

@@adriana27100 Same with hispanic. They have the housewife & mistress. Housekeeper.......

@myurbangarden7695 6 месяцев назад

This is a MULTIBILLION dollar industry. Its no surprise, but there is NO WAY her husband would put this amount of effort into their relationship if the shoe were on the other foot.

@ST-rj8iu 6 месяцев назад

Yep. Men leave after a woman cheats. They know it isn't an accident. They downplay their actions to appease the woman. They don't love or respect their wife when they are seeking outside the marriage.

@Chungiewungie23 6 месяцев назад

@@ST-rj8iuthey leave more often after infidelity, in cases of long term chronic or terminal illness, and when the wife is suffering with some kind of addiction. In every case, men are far more likely to leave, leave faster, and remarry. It’s so sad.

@blakelandes 6 месяцев назад

Women file for divorce at a far higher rate than men

@abor1males 6 месяцев назад

@@Chungiewungie23Yet men are the same ones whining and crying that women don’t stick with broke or sick men!!! hypocrisy

@naelyneurkopfen9741 6 месяцев назад

@@Chungiewungie23women file for divorce in far higher numbers.

@kristenstone1721 6 месяцев назад

Immediately get divorced!! No excuse, no help for this man!!

@no_prisoners6474 4 месяца назад

Their finances and assets are probably inconveniently merged. Sadly

@nt3833 6 месяцев назад

This is why I don’t think I could ever get past my husband cheating on me. Even if I still loved him, I don’t think I could stop the intrusive thoughts and images. And it’s so unfair that the person who got cheated on has to do the most work if they stay together. I feel bad for this caller. She sounds like a very nice person who now has to deal with this. Sounds like torture. If she is unable to stick it out I hope she finds the courage to leave and hopefully find peace in her life. 🥺❤

@valnsky 6 месяцев назад

I worked in a hotel for 2 years as a teenager. This was happening a lot! We would suspect there is a prostitute somewhere and kick her out after the 3rd man walking in and asking for that room. They would always be wearing wedding rings. I can’t justify this ever - it is dangerous, disgusting and super low. No woman I’ve ever known has gone to sex workers to get her fix, yet I’ve seen many men do it. It’s never just sex and its always cheating. I would not stay in such marriage - ever!

@RepentImmediately 6 месяцев назад

@@SarahConnor562money is money to most prostitutes. Some straight men are gay for pay, especially in their broke college years. Also, many prostitutes report that the men who hire them often just want conversation. 45% of married men have emotional affairs. Men need connection as much as women do but they often want the women they marry to think they're Superman and so they are basically putting on a persona in their primary relationship. I've been an intimate confidant to several married men. I wasn't aware they were married at the time but trust me, when a married man spends time with another woman, it's RARELY just about sex. I've been involved with married men who text me all day, or late at night to talk about their feelings and frustration...or they would just wanna rest their head on my lap and sleep. I've had married men shed tears in front of me. A lot of men don't get sufficient affection and emotional support from their wives and a lot of wives have no clue about their husbands' inner lives.

@RepentImmediately 6 месяцев назад

@@SarahConnor562 money is money to most. Also, many report that the men who hire them often just want conversation. 45% of married men have emotional affairs. Men need connection as much as women do but they often want the women they marry to think they're Superman. I've been an intimate confidant to several married men. I wasn't aware they were married at the time but trust me, when a married man spends time with another woman, it's RARELY just about sex. I've been involved with married men who text me all day, or late at night to talk about their feelings and frustration...or they would just wanna rest their head on my lap and sleep. A lot of men don't get sufficient affection and emotional support from their wives. And a lot of wives have no clue what's going on in their husband's heart.

@RepentImmediately 6 месяцев назад

@@SarahConnor56245% of married men have emotional affairs.

@RepentImmediately 6 месяцев назад

@@SarahConnor562all I can tell you is that the married guys I've dumped have never been able to fully let me go. Some even tried to get me back in their lives more than 10 years later. And somehow I doubt you'd be ok with your husband texting another woman all day and telling her things that he isn't telling you. I'm not talking about conversations, I'm talking about emotional intimacy... men being vulnerable with a woman in ways they aren't being vulnerable with their wives. But if you're ok with your husband pouring his feelings out to another woman late at night while you're sleeping, kudos to you.

@RepentImmediately 6 месяцев назад

@@SarahConnor562if you would be ok with your husband pouring his feelings out to another woman late at night while you're sleeping, kudos to you. Btw, none of the men I've dumped were able to just let me go, ESPECIALLY the married ones. I've never been involved with a man who didn't develop deep feelings for me. They typically try for years to get me back in their life. One guy pursued me for 6 months straight right after his wife gave birth to twins. Many men don't love the woman they married. Men often marry the woman who will simply put up with the most. I get hit on by married men as much as I get hit on by single men. Men generally don't respect their wives.

@texuztweety 6 месяцев назад

Some people will never be trustworthy, and you can't be safe in a relationship with them. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS

@kiwiskiwi 6 месяцев назад

he said "it's just a service", man... no respect, no remorse. So much time with this man, he is not worthy of trust and you will always be wondering. The least he can do is acknowledge it was wrong!

@hayley179g День назад

no respect, no remorse, no intelligence. Obviously, sex is not "just a service"

@TitaniumTectonic 6 месяцев назад

Leave him, girl! Don't you want a peaceful life?

@oh_k8 6 месяцев назад

The consequences of that is dying alone. Waiting too long to leave = you run out of options.

@sarahalderman3126 6 месяцев назад

Yeah just leave, after 37 years... sure.🙄 I mean this is the risk we take when we marry and trust a man. She chose a dud and it is very simply too late.

@notherejusthere3324 6 месяцев назад

@@oh_k8Death comes for us one way or another. At some point you will die alone. Years of marriage doesn’t prevent this. I was with my partner for 10 years before his sudden passing. He went into his grave, alone. Forfeit this antiquated ideology out of your life. Today.

@mirandawarning6732 6 месяцев назад

huh? where is that coming from? we are all capable of meeting new partners and having better relationships. @@oh_k8

@stephengallagher2209 6 месяцев назад

Go, girl! Hit that single over sixty swingers' scene... ugh.

@frankieoz8350 6 месяцев назад

I really appreciate the nurse coming on. Crippling anxiety can sneak up on you even when you appear to be thriving.

@Cuntspiracy2.0 6 месяцев назад

If I were this lady, I would dissolve my marriage. She's at the point in her life now, if she continues all she becomes is a caretaker. Many older women are doing this: Evaluating whether or not their husbands are worth caretaking for. If he's treating you poorly, taking you for granted, spending your family money on prostitutes and whores, doesn't care how this effects you..... it's time to take care of yourself. He's not thinking in marriage terms anymore, she should stop also. Many older women get together for living situations, friends, group activities, etc. I hope she gets out; what a disgusting thing for her husband to do right at the end..... Very sad.

@hillarybillary21 6 месяцев назад

56 is not “right at the end”. That’s why marriage at 19 is ridiculous. We have a life expectancy of 80, and it’s growing.

@daCubanaqt 6 месяцев назад

@@hillarybillary21 There is nothing wrong with getting married at 19 if that is what you want and you are marrying a good person. I seriously doubt this is the first time her husband cheated. Unless something dramatic happened in his life, people don’t change that much after almost 40 years.

@oh_k8 6 месяцев назад

@@hillarybillary21It's well over the end of your ability to find another mate. That is the what is meant by "end". The reality that you wasted your most viable years on that chump having sex with other people and you laxk the ability to find a better replacement.😂

@girlygirl1890 6 месяцев назад

@Cuntspiracy yeah, I'd be afraid to become his caretaker. I'd end up "mistakenly" poisoning him. (lol).

@Cuntspiracy2.0 6 месяцев назад

@@hillarybillary21 That's actually incorrect; statistics are reflecting higher mortality rates among younger people and for the first time in quite awhile, the mortality rate has started to trend downward versus the consistent upward trend the US has enjoyed over the past 50 or so years. Even if we are generous and say you'll for sure gonna live until 80 (no guarantees for anybody) you can most certainly expect the latter part of those years to be more focused on caretaking and preparing whatever it is you need to do before you pass. I know if I were to observe what my grandparents/parents are doing, none of them are certainly dating that are single; the female ones especially are VERY against the idea of cohabitating with a man due to the caretaking expectations. The ones that are partnered? The women 100% are caretaking. My mothers husband was barely 60 when she had to begin caretaking for him: Obese man. That's if they're healthy, which you make this assumption that they are....I'm going off of American statistics, here, and it doesn't look so good health-wise for your population. I don't think it's unreasonable to start thinking at 56 as to whether or not caretaking is coming down the road quickly or not.... Maybe you should listen to some of Ramseys callers who call in discussing how they can afford to caretake for their ailing parents when they themselves are only in their mid-20's.... caretaking for individuals who are not even yet 56 years of age.

@MrDedvalson 6 месяцев назад

Man, I am grateful for my husband. Get out for the love of God! Leave!

@JG71980 6 месяцев назад

Every time I listen to this show, I’m extra thankful for my husband! There are great guys out there!

@LipstickNWhiskey 6 месяцев назад

Yes! 👏🏾 ❤

@alqoshgirl 6 месяцев назад

I got the most amazing guy too! So thankful for my husband who would never put us in any harm or hurt us like the people on this show

@citlalliyepez5379 6 месяцев назад

I thought the same about my husband he is a master kind of disguise it’s so scary, I. Caught him cheating again for the millionth time now he can’t fool me anymore I was way too nice and naive and forgiving not anymore

@sezstamorae9004 5 месяцев назад

@@JG71980please, remind us. We’re losing hope

@veronicavillasenor5215 5 месяцев назад

My dad did this to my mom with multiple affair partners. They are both in their 60s now. He still lies to her. He lovebombs her and then he lies again.

@user-hr1ql2fu3f 4 месяца назад

Exactly! They don’t change, they manipulate. 💯‼️

@Pettyyoungthing 2 месяца назад

exactly, this guy has decades of patterned behavior. He is not changing now. He never loved, nor respected this woman and never will.

@STak-ju7gx 2 месяца назад

Lol and if you're messed up in certian areas, let me guess, they can't understand why you're so angry or messed up? You were provided all you ever needed?

@RepentImmediately 6 месяцев назад

This show is the single-most effective anti-marriage campaign of all time 😂

@iStorm-my5fp 6 месяцев назад

You are so right, I can't help but lmao but you are so right... Now when I walk passed married couple I give them the side eye

@RepentImmediately 6 месяцев назад

@@iStorm-my5fp😂😂😂

@victoriapetersen650 6 месяцев назад

Agreed 😅

@Whatorwellsaid21 6 месяцев назад

Not necessarily. You just can’t marry without knowing the person and realizing you can’t fix people. This lady married when she was 19-20. Not good.

@Recoveringred 6 месяцев назад

A show that people call in to ask for advice during the worst times of their marriage = all marriages are bad. That’s like saying watching 911 is why I never leave the house. Did you see what happens to ppl sometimes?

@Misbehavedcollection 6 месяцев назад

What grosses me with men or women cheating.. is the exchange of fluids and diseases that you will transfer to your partner who is there taking care of you and the household... it has nothing to do with jealousy. It's just nasty and disrespectful.

@amyismail8604 6 месяцев назад

This breaks my heart. 💔 I can hear the pain in this woman’s voice. I’m so sorry.

@oh_k8 6 месяцев назад

Behind every woman's mental breakdown is a selfish gaslighting manipulative deceitful man.😂

@forestspritestephanie 6 месяцев назад

And men wonder why women want to be single and childless now...

@simba8665 5 месяцев назад

I think both men & women want to be single in western countries. its not worth it for either parties.

@xxx0ox0 5 месяцев назад

@@simba8665it used to be worth it what changed?

@simba8665 5 месяцев назад

@@xxx0ox0 people’s mindset. People making simple things complicated.

@sezstamorae9004 5 месяцев назад

@@xxx0ox0men don’t love us

@nataliabusko1432 5 месяцев назад

@@sezstamorae9004I’d say men hate us

@midnightblue117 6 месяцев назад

Sometimes love just isn’t enough! Leave him Sylvia....

@mistermanman 6 месяцев назад

I feel terrible for the third caller. He sounds like he's in terrible pain over his wife leaving him. I hope he can find happiness again very soon

@mirabella2154 6 месяцев назад

Yes. That was sad.

@alluringbliss4165 6 месяцев назад

Agreed, that s so awful

@Jack-pd4ps 6 месяцев назад

@HoneyHoops-ig9wsthat was a messed up situation

@nt3833 6 месяцев назад

Happiness again? Sounds like he was in an awful marriage that wasn’t happy anyway. Hopefully he can find happiness for the FIRST time in a long time or at least peace.

@nt3833 6 месяцев назад

@HoneyHoops-ig9ws yeah I’m not mad at him. But he needs a little fire lit under him. He needs to man up and look out for himself now! If someone doesn’t want me I’m moving on - learned that the hard way.

@donquixotemom 6 месяцев назад

I know Dr. John only has a few moments with these callers so he has to give whatever advice he can in that short amount of time. But this woman has experienced severe trauma. Just saying stop isn’t addressing the trauma at all. She needs extensive betrayal trauma therapy. Her body has physiological responses when she’s triggered. She has to work through all of that with a professional. Even if she does leave her husband, she needs help.

@theshunnedBandersnatch 6 месяцев назад

Wholeheartedly agree!

@gemruca9 6 месяцев назад

Agreed. I’m glad she pushed Dr John on the question of HOW do I get unstuck. She knows she needs to get unstuck, she is calling to figure out how. I’m not sure “you just have to stop” is a helpful answer.

@kathleenmcintoshhypnothera6118 6 месяцев назад

I agree she has had some serious trauma but scientificly he is correct. When you create a road block to the negative ruminating and focus on the positive memories, you are building a new neuropathway in the brain. He was very clear that this would only be the answer if she was wanting to stay in the marriage.

@nt3833 6 месяцев назад

Yeah I really felt bad for her. What he’s asking her to do just seems icky and unfair (not faulting Dr. John). It’s crap that someone has to work this hard in order to save a marriage to someone that betrayed them.

@radicalreactions1633 6 месяцев назад

No he's not, and you can't even spell scientifically right, so how can anyone take you seriously? That's called "Toxic positivity" BTW, or magical thinking, and IT DOESN'T WORK. She's needs real therapy not some dope telling her to "just your thinking and everything will just get better." Your brain creates new "neuropathways" FOR YOU, when you sleep FFS. Don't really know howthe brain works, huh? The only thing clear about him or you, is the space between yo ears! @@kathleenmcintoshhypnothera6118

@ajisenramen888 6 месяцев назад

She is 56. Married 37 years. She married him at 19. How old was he?

@daCubanaqt 6 месяцев назад

Probably around the same age, but she never said his age.

@oh_k8 6 месяцев назад

@@Austenfan177I know you must have heard this before but men have a greater propensity toward selfishness. Testosterone isn't a nurturing hormone.

@STak-ju7gx 2 месяца назад

@@daCubanaqtsometimes not the case that they are the same age. Most times, the guy is significantly older, depending on the culture they come from.

@breeeque 6 месяцев назад

She needs to leave him, hes sick and doesnt deserve forgiveness. Hes nasty

@veebliss1266 6 месяцев назад

Beyond NASTY and so are these men blaming the woman!

@bjkarana 6 месяцев назад

Isn't it weird though; when you're single all you see are married couples, but then once you're married, all you see are prostitutes?

@SashaHoneyGoddessLove 6 месяцев назад

As a prostitute myself, I want to add that I wouldn't have taken up this role if so many men didn't inquire. After being offered thousands of dollars for what I've done for free, it's easy to say yes. In my eyes, at this point, it seems being a woman is a facet of sex work in itself. Our labour can be commodified, as there is little expressed value from men in forms other than monetary. I appreciate compliments, or adoration but my truest form of love has not been expressed to me. While I await my future partner, I feel compelled to entertain a few offers. I can share that many of my deepest desires have been fulfilled due to my lifestyle. Life is a game without a particular rule book; while we have guidebooks nothing is as simple as it seems. While I have gained so much, I have also given up a sense of my innocence. My eyes and ears have witnessed things only few can imagine. I do not consider my innocence to be 'gone' forever, but that I moved along the path that has been meant uniquely for me. As a business woman so often I am praised for my bravery, while in comparison to civie women I actually screen men to gain information prior to meeting for my own safety; Actually those women are more brave than me. I also wonder how women go on dates without ensuring their safety and and that their time is well utilized. Before wondering why I do this, please consider why men come to see us first. It is supply and demand. Without demand, supply would go down, with more supply, demand decreases. Consider as a human race, why is this "job" considered the oldest profession in the world, and lastly, consider why monetary compensation is one of the primary focuses within a divorce. Consider charging beforehand in order to save yourself a headache. P.s. Even 'high-end' escorts like myself, have standards.

@otiliamanuelajurj 6 месяцев назад

😅😅😅😅

@otiliamanuelajurj 6 месяцев назад

People should marry when they are mature mentally.

@tinkerbell003 6 месяцев назад

Omg I clicked to comment think I would be the only one that found this funny 😅😅😅

@deeprollingriver52 5 месяцев назад

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@user-jk4jj4nm1q 6 месяцев назад

I can't even begin to understand the torture this woman must be going through, trying to convince herself to trust that man again. It's almost unfathomable what she's facing, yet I don't understand why it's an equally pushed narrative that she could work on the brokenness inside her caused by him, to fix the marriage that he ruined. Her doubts are very well placed, placed there by infidelity done over years. Blaming herself one bit for not being able to move on from this, when he was never the man she thought she married, breaks my heart.

@joywebster2678 6 месяцев назад

She doesn't have to trust him, but she also doesn't have to torture herself. So by healing herself vs forgiving him, she opens the doors to possibilities...be it building something new with the husband, or finding companionship only with him, or walking away. But she's right she is stuck by revisiting every trauma. So healing is for her. I call it accepting reality, vs. Forgiving in the early steps.

@raya74 6 месяцев назад

50 something and no sense wow. This man did the most disrespectful disgusting behavior and put her health at risk and downplayed it to her saying it was just a service. Disgusting. In her heart she knows shes checked out. That is the ultimate disrespect. I wonder what she would tell her daughter if her man did this her

@steelmagnolia8619 6 месяцев назад

This is one strong woman cuz I'd be in jail if my man ever pulled this mess. Prostitutes?!

@courtneymurphy1023 6 месяцев назад

Unfortunately, she's not strong enough to leave him. It's sad

@hell2thennnaw 6 месяцев назад

imo this is a weak woman, to me its easy to lay down and take this kind of abuse. But It takes strength to leave and change

@girlygirl1890 6 месяцев назад

@steel Love you for that! Yep.

@Author_I 5 месяцев назад

Sylvia, imagine this happened to your daughter. What would you advise her to do? Leave. Remember that you caught him and he was not forthright. Trust is gone.

@standground8284 6 месяцев назад

*Marrige is only for a select few qualified individuals.* The people who are not qualified like to chase a dream they know they are incapable of fulfilling.

@lambchop6278 2 месяца назад

You know what?...I think you're absolutely right about this.

@hayley179g День назад

And yet, people need to keep on reproducing, and marriage is one of the ways to do that

@jbeats1930 6 месяцев назад

I guess my tolerance is very low as a women, cuz any kind of cheating equals a wrap for me, and it would be over.

@LemonsAreNummy 4 месяца назад

And that’s how it should be

@MrDedvalson 6 месяцев назад

Just a service? I am going to get my hair done and then to the sex salon!😂😂😂

@ineedhoez 6 месяцев назад

😂😂😂😂😂😂

@coureenlawrence4915 6 месяцев назад

I know, that is just horrible to say or hear. If he feels that way, he will definitely do it again.

@ineedhoez 6 месяцев назад

3rd caller: My heart breaks for this man. He has to get help. Divorce is rough but it doesn't have to be toxic. When you marry a taker is never stops! You have to change you!

@toscadonna 6 месяцев назад

Either you divorce, or you stick around but do not sleep with him, have separate rooms, and you go date other guys and stack your money for the inevitable day that he find the woman he wants to replace you with.

@girlygirl1890 6 месяцев назад

@toscadonna You are the big sister she needs.

@girlygirl1890 6 месяцев назад

I agree with you.

@annaelisavettavonnedozza9607 6 месяцев назад

Agree completely

@sloeberdoet 6 месяцев назад

Good plan why nobody thinks of something like that?

@crimsonskyy1 5 месяцев назад

I’m a month late but this❤

@allison2879 6 месяцев назад

Sometimes its easier to stay married because of finances and keeping the house. IF it was me, I would never sleep with him again! Married Room mates from now on as far as I'm concerned

@michellesimmons3150 6 месяцев назад

I can’t even imagine staying sexually active with a man who sleeps with other people. You risk your health, so not worth it. Also not worth staying g just because of finances

@ineedhoez 6 месяцев назад

Agreed. I can release myself from all of that drama. You go do you and I'm going to go do me.

@veebliss1266 6 месяцев назад

She needs to divorce him take his house and social security . His behavior deserves it after he endangered her HEALTH !!!

@oh_k8 6 месяцев назад

It only comes with the cost of mental decomposition of having to live a lie for the rest of your life.😂

@allison2879 6 месяцев назад

@@oh_k8 The woman in the story is almost 60yrs, going through a divorce at her age is extremely detrimental

@eugenialarue3677 6 месяцев назад

Greg needs to tell his wife and daughter that his original commitment to her college hasn't changed so he will not be taking on any of the debt associated with this decision. His daughter is welcome to change her plans but he doesn't have to go into debt for it.

@MsKaraWhiplash 6 месяцев назад

Let his ex & daughter pay for it if they choose. He sounds like a great catch & the wife is done with him & has been for a long time. Happened to one of my best friends over 30 years. He was happily dating after a few years.

@radicalreactions1633 6 месяцев назад

Or maybe he should tell the TRUE story and stop BSing easily manipulated people, such as yourself.

@xxx0ox0 5 месяцев назад

@@radicalreactions1633what? This happens all the time

@carriedooly3449 4 месяца назад

Each time I listen to your podcast, I cry. You go so deep into people's psyche. It makes me realize all the negative I hold on to unintentionally. I'm a "fixer" for Everyone but myself. Your conversation with the nurse has me in hard tears. Thank you for helping others navigate through past traumas and push forward to the better things in life.

@iamsarahsteed 5 месяцев назад

How long should a wife grieve for what was lost, until she must create a “new marriage” or leave? My husband wanted me to forgive him immediately, and because my grieving took longer than 3 weeks, he ended up leaving me. I finally divorced him, but the grieving took 6 HARD years! How do you grieve while staying in the marriage? To me, that seems impossible. I’d love to know if any woman has done what he suggested and TRULY has been able to recreate a new trusting healthy marriage after betrayal.

@user-hr1ql2fu3f 4 месяца назад

It is very rare that a husband that acts like this can or will change. It really doesn’t happen. They just become better masters at manipulation and gaslighting.

@user-hr1ql2fu3f 4 месяца назад

I’m not feeling the love in this conversation. It seems that Dr D was is putting this all on the woman, which is so typical. There is no talk about what the husband has to do or is willing to do. This is the husbands mess, yet the making it work is put on the wife. This thinking needs to change.

@jen8595 3 месяца назад

@@user-hr1ql2fu3fI see what you mean but I went through this too and the difference was that my husband didn’t take any of the actions that I required. Sounds like her husband is at least doing that. She said he has done everything she asked.

@jen8595 3 месяца назад

I know women who stayed but the marriage is less than decent.

@marijaabromaityte9951 6 месяцев назад

John is changing lives, both with this show and his books. Lives not only of those calling but also of anyone watching-because there is so much everyone can relate to.

@lorieweyrick281 4 месяца назад

In 2001, I found out my husband of 17 years had been seeing prostitutes for 2 years as well. A year later, he told me we're bankrupt 1.2 million and pending. He moved to the Virginia islands, and I divorced him then. This still resurfaces now and the, and I try to just deal with my emotions. It has affected my way of looking at relationships. I'm not the same person I use to be and never will be.

@alycewich4472 2 месяца назад

I'm SO sorry this happened to you.

@magpiegirl3783 2 месяца назад

I feel so badly for Sylvia. The pain of a betrayal like that is shattering. All you thought was your life was a lie. I don’t believe the husband has changed. He’s just going low key at the moment and will revert back to behaviour he has enjoyed. He got sex with multiple women and had a home to go to and meals and laundry … comfort. Sylvia, you deserve better. It will be strange to be on your own after so long, but he is not safe. He will continue to hurt you. It will take a while, but you will recover especially if you CHOOSE to make a new life for yoursself. He has lived his life without respect to you. That is not a husband worth having.

@miltoncat 6 месяцев назад

She has low self-esteem (no shade intended; so do I sometimes) and is taking the infidelity because at least she still has a husband. Any love better than none. It’s sad that she feels she deserves to be treated badly.

@Mmmmkaaay 6 месяцев назад

The irony is that once women in crappy marriages get out, their lives improve drastically. It is scary to leave, but it is so necessary when the husband is acting like a jackass.

@alluringbliss4165 6 месяцев назад

She married him at 19

@meesh1002 6 месяцев назад

Just want to give the 3rd caller a big hug ❤

@rfpnc 6 месяцев назад

Wait wait wait! What about counseling????? And he doesn't get to choose how long she grieves her marriage! Come on Delony.

@ineedhoez 6 месяцев назад

They are a year out. She isn't grieving and moving forward. You have to make a choice. Get over it or leave. You cant stay AND not create the space for healing

@Andreea-ew6nm Месяц назад

Here sobbing because I wish my dad cared for me this much when my mom divorced him, you don't even imagine how much you're doing just by being there for her. You don't need to be in the house, you have to be in the heart.

@MaggieMay1013 4 месяца назад

If you’re in my car, and you have the audacity to call me a b*tch, you lose the privilege to remain in my space. If I was an Uber driver and you did that, you’d be kicked to the curb. Shouldn’t be any different because we’re in a relationship. You can 100% get out and walk.

@jamielaufenberg4043 6 месяцев назад

Why not make the daughter pay for her own college?

@maccamac13 6 месяцев назад

Because then how would the wife ever weaponize debt? 😢

@radicalreactions1633 6 месяцев назад

Or him weaponizing easily manipulated stooges like yourself, to feel sorry for someone that's clearly not telling the whole story.@@maccamac13

@missmichelleluv Месяц назад

Yes! And I’m kinda mad at the daughter for putting that demand on her father even though she knows they would have to sell everything for her

@adelinaponzio9370 5 месяцев назад

My advice is GET OUT! He will do it again, don’t kid yourself he told you he justified it as “a service” Don’t agree with Dr John on this one, follow your gut or heart - it’s over

@brendaleverick3655 6 месяцев назад

The husband is bored with the wife and not attracted to her anymore. Time to contact a divorce attorney. Or she will wind up with a STD or Aids. Women love being married, and will avoid leaving a marriage long past the time they should leave.

@Rachel-wc8ie 6 месяцев назад

Why do I feel like when dr John says “I’m so proud of you” he’s speaking right to me? 😢❤

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974 6 месяцев назад

Receive it for yourself, too😊❤

@nancydtrujillo2389 5 месяцев назад

I stated watching/listening to the Ramsey show when i was curious to know what does dr delony does on his show.. searched him up and ever since i saw an episode its all i wanna do on my free time, while indrive, while I cook… ive known i need therapy and listening to alot of advice he has given ppl has helped me so much mentally. I cry alot not gonna lie. It almost feels like im on the phone with him and says just what i need to hear to snap out of it and get back on track and love my self. ❤

@queenofthebutterflies5212 6 месяцев назад

So sad. Anyone who does this to their spouse is evil. The spouse doesn't sign up for the physical risks to their body and what it would do to someone's sense of trust?.... He has broken her. Sylvia needs to get away and be alone for a while and learn to love herself, get her self esteem back in check.

@Maraaha55 6 месяцев назад

Oh good grief. Why on earth should she believe that the changes he has put in place are genuine. The reason that she is struggling to move forward is because he is STILL not doing enough to change himself and his life. The ONLY reason he claims a wish to change is because he was found out. She does need to forgive herself, but she needs to start holding HIM accountable and not herself. What EXACTLY has he done to hold himself accountable. Instead we hear that he is frustrated that she is struggling to move on and accept his changed person - he has absolutely NO RIGHT to expect or even hope for that from him. If she decides to stay, she will be sacrificing far more than he does. And I doubt if he would comply with her actual requirements that she have total control. And the likelihood of him doing this again is very high. When a person tells you who they are - believe them. Now, she can chose to alter her mindset - but I fear that when he does the same again, she will feel even more foolish and perhaps completely overwhelmed. Altogether too much of this is about that SHE has to do rather than what she needs from her husband, and how to ask for it.

@joywebster2678 6 месяцев назад

No one wants her to stake her self out as a victim. But to find a way for her to live, what ever that looks like, she must forgive herself, and accept the reality he was a smuck. Protect her finances, lifestyle. They can live parallel in same home, or build a friendship, or see what happens. But it's on her because he will never be that amazing guy she thought she married. So she needs a counselor to help her rage, and feel the anger. Then she can start making decisions for herself.

@plaidpaisley5918 6 месяцев назад

Liquidating your life savings to pay for a college 5x what you saved for? Address THAT BS!

@tiannanelson8986 6 месяцев назад

His wife isn't wanting to do it to pay for college, she just needed a good excuse to liquidate her marriage and give the proceeds to a good cause.

@xxx0ox0 5 месяцев назад

Good chance she ends up at a place that teaches her to hate him

@plaidpaisley5918 5 месяцев назад

@@xxx0ox0 you know it.

@junejunejuniejune 6 месяцев назад

Sylvia is choosing to stay, but shes already left emotionally, and I don't blame her. I think she should be gone, and stay gone. 0% chance her husband did not seek prostitutes throughout their 38 years of marriage, and (in my personal opinion) 0% chance he is going to be able to 'change'. You don't just all the sudden have respect for the woman you love, the mother of your children, when you've done something like that. The trust is broken. I think the fear here is that she is worried about being alone in her later years, and thats valid, but better to be alone than to be with someone who has hurt you that deeply. My grandfather was very abusive to us, I was raised by my grandparents, and let me tell you.... the moment he passed, my gran was sad of course, but it was like she was finally able to breathe. Sylvia has her children, she will not be alone, and leaving gives her the opportunity to be with someone who might treat her better, or being alone wil give her the independence to do what she wants, whatever that is. Her husband made his choices, he needs to live with those choices. You don't get to have a wife after you do something like this... for years.

@michellesimmons3150 6 месяцев назад

The fear is not completely about being alone, the fear is at that age how does she financially start completely over? She may or may not get anything in a divorce and how would she retire? Many women stay because being homeless after divorce is a very real issue for women. Women do 40% worse financially after a divorce a men at 18-20%. The biggest difference is men rebuild wealth faster too. *she is already alone in her marriage and that’s FAR lonlier of a situation than being g out on her own.

@erismana2105 6 месяцев назад

@@michellesimmons3150 There is no guarantee she will have financial stability if she stays , He doesn't care about her financial abuse is common with such people

@girlygirl1890 6 месяцев назад

@@michellesimmons3150 Heck If I was her, I'd get a full time job and rent out a room if I need to for starters.

@MariannaSovic 6 месяцев назад

I think you should gather all the evidence of his cheating and serving him. If you decide to forgive him, he will always be haunted that you have proof so he can't lie anymore or say it's not true. Also, I would request therapy for both and after therapy you can decide if this is something you want to continue (your marriage) or move on.

@michaeltorres2780 6 месяцев назад

Kudos for him changing, and props to her for acknowledging that change. If it’s not enough it’s time to move on. But only way for anyone to enjoy the fruits of intimacy is to gamble. Her lack of change in perspective is draining her. That’s hard

@brightpage1020 6 месяцев назад

There's one of those motels near where I live. Drive by around 7-8 a.m. and you see a lineup of trucks and cars leaving for work.

@jdarnell9656 6 месяцев назад

Some of those guys leaving for work are probably actually just traveling.... line men, welders, mechanic crew - they all travel and stay in hotels.

@brightpage1020 6 месяцев назад

@@jdarnell9656 this is a real small town. I know most of the auto owners I saw ;o) not many folk travel through here but in the summertime. It wasn't summer. 😆

@girlygirl1890 6 месяцев назад

@@wordsalad01 But how was he caught though? (glad he was.)

@girlygirl1890 6 месяцев назад

@@wordsalad01 Got it. So glad the PD is watching! Thanks for the reply.

@lsf71 6 месяцев назад

Prostitutes should all be jailed!

@barbarayoung190 6 месяцев назад

The woman who left her husband on the side of the road, did stop the car first. He was the problem.

@alycewich4472 2 месяца назад

🤣😂🤣

@courtneymurphy1023 6 месяцев назад

It would be over for me. I'd leave so damn fast. Id be too disgusted.

@toomuchinformation 6 месяцев назад

First thing: check for STD's.

@RubberWilbur 6 месяцев назад

Sylvia should talk to her husband about putting Life 360 on his phone to track him everywhere his phone goes. That can build transparency.

@janelleg597 6 месяцев назад

could help, but It's easy to fool someone with location trackers

@RubberWilbur 6 месяцев назад

everything has a work around, but will he smart enough to fool her all the time now that she knows@@janelleg597

@mirandawarning6732 6 месяцев назад

it's interesting to suggest she deserves to work toward salvaging this level of betrayal.

@stephengallagher2209 6 месяцев назад

He should get himself microchipped and a dog collar too... If she can't trust him, then the marriage is over.

@ineedhoez 6 месяцев назад

I mean for what purpose? If I gotta track you down, I'm just going to be single. Why would I want that level of stress in my life?

@theshellest 2 месяца назад

That first call was weird. I cant imagine not screaming "LEAVE HIM" to a friend saying her husband was sleeping with prostitutes. Then throw in he lied about it and happened to get caught. And you stayed with him?? That's crazy to me. There's a 100% chance he will do this again.

@kiyaniwinborne6051 6 месяцев назад

Wow very dangerous. I’m glad she’s safe but this is so sad. Leave him please

@adrianjeffrey2897 6 месяцев назад

danfgerous?? the prostitutes wear condoms. The average NON prostitute has multip[le sexual partners NO CONDOM most the time

@shellymichelle904 6 месяцев назад

John please please know that it IS worse when the offending spouse Never comes clean with any of their actions and behaviors. When trying to heal and rebuild trust within the marriage and the offending spouse is closed off, quiet, secretive with the actions they’ve been exposed for, truly hurts the betrayed spouse. If they can’t be vulnerable and open and honest, then we can’t heal and we need to leave the marriage.

@thermalreboot 6 месяцев назад

The solution to the college fund it to give daughter the money that has been allocated and let daughter pay the difference.

@bradleypowers3580 3 месяца назад

It sounds like it's a bad investment all the way around A) College in general is becoming a worse and worse investment, depending on your plans. Going out of state where it costs 4-5 times a degree you can get in state almost for sure makes it a bad investment. B) She's paying 4-5x to chase a boyfriend, which has a 95% chance of ending. At best, you could double what you planned to play and say she needs to play half. But in reality, she shouldn't go at all. It's a bad choice based on emotion, it sounds like.

@saimarif84 5 месяцев назад

That 3rd caller guys…. Something doesn’t sit right with me. He seemed bit shady and erratic blaming his daughter at one point for the downfall of his marriage bit off… or is it me ?

@ladycactus110 5 месяцев назад

Not just you. I think he’s a weepy victim. His wife was so bad for decades 😢 yeah right. I really wish she’d call in and reset the clocks.

@heather4089 4 месяца назад

Im sorry that marriage is over. Love is respect, plain and simple.

@vanessamallard1111 3 месяца назад

I really don’t understand why anyone considers staying after a spouse or partner cheats. They didn’t care about the relationship and now YOU will have to carry the burden of forgiving them and working everyday to get past it. It’s a huge waste of time and in the back of your mind, that little “what if” will always linger. Move on and have some self-respect.

@imunique10 6 месяцев назад

She should leave him. The marriage trust is gone and broken If it's meant to be it will be after the ink is dry on the divorce papers.

@waikikime2281 19 часов назад

I was my ex's first wife and I left after 24 yrs. of marriage when I found out he was going to prostitutes. He cried and begged me to stay, promising to change. He's now engaged to his fourth wife and I doubt she'll be the last one.

@chrssyd 6 месяцев назад

There are a lot of ppl who are married and are actually living together but separately. Many reasons behind it. I've come across a lot ppl who live that and they're trying to cope with this new way of being married. Its sad.

@oh_k8 6 месяцев назад

It's mostly because they are morally dishonest and cowardly, but they will use words like "children" " house" "family" "finances" etc. to justify their situation.😂

@heather4089 4 месяца назад

Im pretty sure he has been cheating from the beginning of the marriage but this time got caught.

@cynthiaa5198 6 месяцев назад

"AM I THE PROBLEM?" NO. This is not 1950! He got "kicked out" of the car (he stepped out of the car) and then... he called an Uber. Yes, if you call me a B*** you can step out of the car and get an Uber home. Thanks!

@alycewich4472 2 месяца назад

🎯💯 That's what I thought too! It was an inconvenience for him, but she stood her ground. Good for her!

@PathllDiscovery 18 дней назад

What I've learned about people who have cheated, stolen, or has done anything deemed as wrong...They can only suppress the need for it to happen again. They will do it again. It's a battle.

@geeem7889 6 месяцев назад

This is one of those situations where she should just leave. She clearly can't move past it and it's destroying her inside. She can't ever trust him again and if she stays she'll be miserable and prolly end up leaving anyway. I don't think this can be saved. John - sometimes you need to just tell ppl they should leave. She can choose to be someone new, but not with this dude. She'll definitely need therapy to learn to trust again but this marriage is over.

@CHrisPetE056 6 месяцев назад

It’s going to be incredibly hard but the other shoe has dropped. You can be strong. I would say you need help to get through this but love yourself and he needs to leave. ❤ love yourself. You are worth more. I just think even if it’s been this long, you need to think of you! I’m so sorry. ❤❤❤

@turteltaube2277 6 месяцев назад

To the man who had to walk 5 miles home because he was disrespectful to the driver (your wife)...you must be full of adrenaline already, that helps keep you alive. Hopefully, you are fit and a good walker so that you will reach home in 1 hr and 30 minutes, plenty of time for you to think and calm yourself down,

@LyYAHN Месяц назад

Why do people get married after 1-4 years of dating in the USA? It's like a given... if a couple isn't engaged after 4 years, they might as well break up?!

@PCKA1987 6 месяцев назад

I’m not the only one who got my holidays HORRIBLY mixed up this year. I said Halloween about Valentine’s Day this year. 😂

@girlygirl1890 6 месяцев назад

@PCKA1987 That's o.k. We ALL have our moments.

@terriowens2869 6 месяцев назад

He probably called someone to pick him up as soon as she left

@gladysover5368 6 месяцев назад

Um...anybody worried about what diseases he's bringing home???

@alycewich4472 2 месяца назад

She said they both got tested and were clean.

@KittenlessLadyCat 28 дней назад

The pain I hear from him about his daughter going to college and the divorce. OMG I feel it as an empty nester

@aries84151 6 месяцев назад

My heart breaks for this crying man. God I dont understand this woman. Im a 28 year old woman and Id be so damn grateful if i had a man who wanted things to work, who wanted to work things out. People are so stupid nowadays

@aprilhumen1229 24 дня назад

That poor guy, whose wife just sounds awful. He just so heartbroken. 💔

@sandras2479 6 месяцев назад

This is just horrible. Poor lady.

@laveniajohnson2283 4 месяца назад

I would be out of there in a heartbeat. Done!! No more chances because I could never trust him again.

@LipstickNWhiskey 6 месяцев назад

I’m from Atlanta and if you’ve ever been there, there is a “highway” if you will, called Fulton Industrial (FID for short), going West towards Marietta. Those hotels had working girls standing outside and there would be cars and trucks circling the hotel like a drive thru to choose their “pick”. Sad really, as I am sure most of them were married men. *Le Sigh* 😔

@janelleg597 6 месяцев назад

holy crap

@popa213 6 месяцев назад

Wifey won’t do what those women are very willing to do, for money of course but still. This is the number one reason why no man wants to get married anymore. My church has a no judgment zone men’s conference call once a week to vent and converse about everyday problems. ALL OF THE MARRIED MEN YOUNG AND OLD COMPLAINED ABOUT SEX as far as not getting it how they like or getting it often enough/not at all. Just to hear that and all of us single men are having wonderful casual sex, I’m even having 3somes with women, it amazes me that sex as a single man is far better than married sex. Just off that alone I will never marry.

@ssiegreen5292 6 месяцев назад

There are streets like that in all major cities, and little hidden secret corners like that even in the smallest townships! And trust me - 75% of all men know the locations, whether they choose to go there or not - they know where it is!

@LipstickNWhiskey 6 месяцев назад

@@ssiegreen5292 Which is so sick. And not in a good way, of course.

@girlygirl1890 6 месяцев назад

that's crazy!

@Judi-lm2fj 4 месяца назад

I've been thru this. Hardest thing I have gone thru. The money he spent was crazy. One of the women kept hanging on. She sucked him dry financially. Took me years to finally quit going back. We were married for 35 years.

@kayfeuchtenberger3601 6 месяцев назад

About the "am I the problem" scenario - 35⁰ is a nice day for a walk in a Minnesota winter. A sweatshirt is enough (unless it's windy). Not going to die from exposure in the hour or less that it should take to cover 5 miles. Walk fast and stay warm.

@alycewich4472 2 месяца назад

Or use your cell phone to call for a ride...

@karenpyra5200 Месяц назад

I usually really love Dr. John’s advice, but this man is not a man of character at all and highly unlikely he’s going to change. She’s just gonna live in pain for years.

@sarahharris2729 6 месяцев назад

Admit that you cant forgive him and leave. It may have to happen in the future. Its hard to do different when youve been married that long

@sarahalderman3126 6 месяцев назад

For what? What does she gain by leaving? Personally I'd just stay and draw a line in the sand... your life and my life. He chose a roommate, business partner, and employee relationship. It isn't optimal or even remotely ideal but it is what it is. She chose a dud, but their time has run out. He chose to end their marriage when he chose to begin thinking about cheating... now it simply is what it is. She might as well try to enjoy her own life now. I mean if she's independently wealthy it would be best to expose him for what he is and leave. However for most of us the financial situation doesn't work that way.

@ssiegreen5292 6 месяцев назад

@@sarahalderman3126 Peace of mind. The stress of living with a partner that was/is cheating, is unbelievably stressful. It can turn you into a person that you don't recognize yourself, that you don't like and that you can no longer respect. It's bad enough to loose respect for your mate or partner, it's worse when you cannot look yourself in the eye in the mirror any longer!

@janeddooee 6 месяцев назад

I think forgiving him would be wise, but she may never trust him again and that might be the death of the relationship

@ArkansasDeerChaser 6 месяцев назад

He will 100% do it again. He wasn’t sorry.

@erismana2105 6 месяцев назад

@@ArkansasDeerChaser He will just get better at hiding it

@semperdecorus37 4 месяца назад

Sylvia, please leave. You deserve better. You cannot rebuild that trust ever again.

@kellykirk4244 6 месяцев назад

The last caller should move to the same state his daughter is going to college. Get a job in the state she’s moving to. She will love having a dad near by. And his daughter is all that matters now not his wife.

@radicalreactions1633 6 месяцев назад

Did you even listen to this wack? The guy sounds like he has an obsession with his daughter, that's why he doesn't want her to have a boyfriend.

@kellykirk4244 6 месяцев назад

@@radicalreactions1633 Did you listen? He's concerned with finances. He doesn't agree with choosing an out of state school they can't afford, primarily due to a bf. And his ex wife is willing to put him in severe debt to be the "good guy". He's trapped in his ex wife's basement who is leaving him. He didn't cheat. He didn't abuse her. He doesn't deserve this. Are you the ex wife or something? You sound nuts.

@user-st2ex2tu3s 5 месяцев назад

RUN.

@Jmc989 6 месяцев назад

I don't understand. What makes John think this guy has changed and wants something new? I can't imagine he isn't still cheating or won't....... I really like John and his show, but John makes a lot of assumptions all the time.

@flashthecorgi2053 6 месяцев назад

I don’t think John is saying this guy has changed. What he is saying is if she has perceived he’s changed, and he’s shown her/taken the steps to be trustworthy again then she has to be all in . But listen to 10:59 and 15:27. There is really nothing to disagree here with Delony because he didn’t put his personal perspective out. He gave both sides of the fence. Either be all in or be all out!

@ssiegreen5292 6 месяцев назад

Agreed - unless she is giving him what he wants, and meets his needs - he is still out there. Just better at hiding the evidence and leaving less trails...

@Jmc989 6 месяцев назад

@@flashthecorgi2053I see what you are saying. And I wasn't saying John was wrong. I was just trying to see what I missed. She has to decide whether she is moving forward with the perceived changes or not.

@flashthecorgi2053 6 месяцев назад

@@Jmc989I completely understand what you were saying. I’m just saying I don’t think he really thinks the guy has changed but she decided to stay and so he has to counsel her in BOTH directions! John hit the nail on the head either be all in or be all out. There’s no middle ground, and you can’t ride the fence on this one!

@bonniegropper 3 месяца назад

I had gone throigh this almost 20 years ago and although prostitutes were not involved,I almost left my husband.I couldn't prove it,but I felt it.Our children were 11 and 8 at the time and I told my husband that even if I can prove this 25 years from now,we are done!The thought of what this affect our children made me stay because I felt so trapped.The woman usually always feels it in her gut,that something was off.The hurt and betrayal almost 20 years later I just learned to live with through therapy and trying not to look back.