HE JUDGES ME ON MY HIJAB *TRIGGER WARNING* 

I have a friend who experienced this. She got to know a guy they caught feelings for eachother and then suddenly a year later he started telling her she dresses terribly and he wants her to replace her wardrobe and wear a hijab. She did it and I never saw her outside he started controlling everything. Ironically he was living a free life had female friends smoking etc. He even went and considered a rishta behind her back.

How you gonna judge your girlfriend’s hijab when you’re in a ‘haram’ relationship with her? Muslim men are so funny

The truth I think is, it’s difficult to wear hijab because our faiths are low. We need to stop thinking of this world and act for our hereafter. Then hijab will be just a natural thing… it’s my opinion. It’s nothing to do with how comfortable I am wearing it or people opinion. It’s an Islamic rule. Also it’s good and normal to feel guilty taking it off because it’s a sin and so it’s a proof of imaan… may Allah guide us

I really felt your anger and you really voiced everything I’ve felt about this topic recently. Sick of being policed for our clothing- men get away with everything and women get shit on constantly.

The unfortunate thing is its only women supporting Dina in the comment section.

Dina I feel your rage and completely agree with you.

You need to have a pink neon sign over you saying something cool. I think the pink with the green would look good.

I feel like Dina needs to have a conversation with her father regarding all her angst about hijab. Because it obviously stems from her childhood and it now sounds like she was forced (or there was no option to not wear it, etc), even though she previously said she wasn’t forced and it was a choice. That would be an interesting video to hear both sides, esp from a male parental figure

I dont understand why people ask people to change for them. If they're not your type , then find someone who is. Don't marry someone and then expect them to change to suit you

I don't appreciate you guys giving advice on Islamic topics, like Hijab/the scarf. When a Muslim doubts anything related to commands from Allah, the way to re-assure is to bring it back to the fact that Allah commanded it, and refer back to Sunnah, and hence the only one you need to feel concerned about judgement from is Allah. And advise people to sincerely think about this. Hijab IS a command directly from Allah, just like salaah, and your only concern is what will I say to Allah when I go back to him.

Good to see you back dina and sid

"you've never even left Bradford mate" I'm crying this part was so funny. On a more serious note, I respect your views Dina and Sid. Definitely don't think ppl should be policing each other on what to wear and what not to wear. It's horrific that men on the Internet will cancel women for practicing their rights on removing their hijab and labelling them as some evil. Women, don't be afraid to focus on your own individual religious journey and be happy with the decisions you make.

You only should wear hijab for Allah and Allah alone. That is your journey. People will always have something to say which is why your reward lays with Allah💓

I just wanna say Dina you’re looking great I hope you’re feeling great too you seem healthy, I’m trying to push myself to be more active in my day to day and you’re a real inspiration 😊

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD- DON’T DISAPPEAR AGAIN 🤣

I love you 😭. I recently stopped wearing my hijab and it’s been such a difficult and isolating experience. I wish there was some kind of community for us muslim women that have been thru this stuff.

Y’all uploading this today like you knew I was rewatching this series recently…thanks fam♥️

He’s ok with it when he’s dating her but wants her to change when they get married. That shows his views on women. To be someone he respects he needs her to change and cover but had no problem when dating. It’s a weird complex. Also I need to add, in regards to the different attitudes to men and women in the Muslim community: women show a bit of hair and skin or do something and get so much shit. I’ve been at a wedding where the IMAM conducting the nikkah was a known sexual abuser of YOUNG GIRLS and everyone is absolutely fine with it. The moral gymnastics 🤦‍♀️

Love love LOVE this! To be honest this has been my long time struggle with hijab. It was forced on us against our will by our father. The judgment we got from community because we are black and non Arab added to that. Not to mention the various "dawah" videos promoting the ideology that a women are going to hell based on her outer appearance yet a man commited zina, died, and went jannah. Like what?! I just don't understand this obsession in policing women's bodies/ appearance. This doesn't just happen in the Muslim community. It's literally EVERY COMMUNITY AROUND THE WORLD that has something to say about how a woman looks, behaves, etc. We are reduced to how we look (whether modest or lack of modesty), how available we are to men (if you catch my drift), how many kids we carry, etc. It's actually so ridiculous! I would love to see a day where we support one another's journeys instead of tearing people down based on your own individual principles.

Yes hijab is a huge part of Islam yet the reality is that it’s so hard to wear the hijab especially properly. We need to have grace towards people, we are all fighting our own battles! The way people go about things (the way they criticise them) just pushes people away from Islam! That’s why Islam teaches that there is a specific way to advice people, so a nonjudgmental and peaceful conversation can take place and people don’t feel shame and guilt ❤ May Allah SWT make things easier for everyone

It’s crazy how we all connected to this!! I felt her every word!! Thank you for addressing this!

Other people just want to controle what you wear in general. As a revert I also get judge because I wear a haijb. Was no problem to be a Muslim. But when I wanted to wear a haijb, people had a problem with it. People overall like to judge, is just a human thing that we should controle.

I really felt Dina’s anger. I wear the hijab and I recently started talking to a guy. Right off the bat he said he’d prefer someone who doesn’t wear the hijab but he’d continue talking to me. I made it clear that I don’t plan on removing my hijab for anyone else and it’s my decision and he said he respects that. I don’t know where this will lead but recently I’ve felt so much more comfortable talking to less practicing Muslim men because the very practicing Muslim men in my life are so overbearing and authoritative for my taste. My cousin is always making comments to his wife if a little bit of her hair is showing from her hijab in public. She likes dressing up in traditional Desi clothes for parties and he just wants her to wear abayas. I would feel so suffocated in a relationship like that and I feel like the less practicing guys are just more chill and respectful of women as people. Idk yall make dua for me lol. I also appreciate that Dina & Sid pointed out that some couples like to ask each other about acceptable clothing, and didn’t ridicule that. We need more respect for different types of Muslims rn.

I feel so sorry that you still have to go through this hijab thing… I don‘t think that you taking it off is the general „problem“. Your audience grew with you as a muslim modest dressing woman in the western world and seeing you as some kind of role model. The problem is, that we forget that we evolve until death and we can have a change of mind literally every five minutes and that‘s ok. But when people look up to you as a „guide“ on how to dress „properly“ they get confused, which is totally not your issue. I think we should just let people live the way they want and look for our own path. We should not rely or be „influenced“ by anyone other than what Allah swt gave us. And if we start mocking on people, bc we have interpreted their behaviour and opinion as a call of action, we are the issue.

At 15:01 "never being enough"... this hits hard because its so true, no matter how we wear, more or less, people will always judge us, and all what men do is telling us how to wear and eventually make us feel that way "never being enough", when we don't even need to feel that way, we just want to live happily freely and enjoy our lives, we can still practice our religion, islam is not just about "hidjab". Please can society just stop. And yes, not all of us women have the choice to wear it the way we are comfortable in it, because its all written in the Quran, but people forget that the whole clothing thing is about modesty and also forget that men and people should not stare at other people's bodies, which is way worse than not wearing the Hidjab. Part two please Dina... I honestly never felt like I am finally being heard.

I think one the main problems with attitudes towards the headscarf is 1) equating entire hijab to just the head scarf and 2) having this weird all or nothing approach to it. Cover every strand of hair or nothing. Wear the scarf every single time in public or nothing. We don’t say that about any other religious practice but we have this weird obsession over the headscarf. I don’t wear a scarf personally but I do try and dress modestly and take it seriously. I wish we lived in a society where I felt comfortable to wear it when I wanted to. I like how Pakistani women have their dupatta incorporated with their outfit. It’s draped around the neck/chest/hair but every strand of hair isn’t policed, but the intention is clearly to be dressing modestly and have a head covering on their persons.

Sid: starts talking Dina: no, but wait Sid: 🤦🤦🤦🤦 🤣🤣🤣

Sid dinaaaaaaa i screamed!!!! Seen you after ages guys 💚💚💚💚

Yass! This video is so relevant and needed more than ever. Good on Dina and Sid 👏

I think its just sad how we are playing into western medias hands where they have reduced a muslim woman to just her hijab. I think there is fault on both side, on those that force ppl and those that say hijab isnt part of islam. I think if someone wears it, it obviously means they are trying to please god so we should encourage ppl to wear as much possible without forcing them. And dina it would be interesting to hear why you gave up your hijab so your followers know your personal reason without them guessing as to why you took off and taking them off themselves. Maybe you had trauman from your father forcing it on you? Its better to explain your reasoning if you continue to make videos on the topic. PS you are wrong about pakistani culture not forcing it. I have seen it happen a lot in pakistan being from there myself

Dina I think you need to do a whole video talking about how you felt when you took off your hijab You need to get it all off your chest

If people focused on climate change rather than what people wear, imagine how much better the world would be

Dina, Thanks! This video was so timely

Yay 🎉 Another Sid and Dina video! 🎉

I don't know why sid always says he comes from a famili where his sisters never wore the head scarf, when all his sisters have mentioned that they wore the headscarf one of his sisters still wears it so does his mother ,his mother has also mentioned that she once wore the niqab ,I actually enjoyed this video but what's the need to lie!!!

Damn Dina I feel for you :( sorry you went through so much shit

I think if a man is certain he wants a woman who ALREADY wears the hijab (in the way the Shariah says it should be worn), then he should only approach and talk to potentials who are already doing that. Otherwise, there isnt much benefit in considering someone who doesnt wear the hijab or considering someone who wears the hijab in a manner she is comfortable wearing it, in hopes that she would conform to his expectations later down the line. When he already saw her appearance from the beginning. No one should be judged Islamically. But I do also think some men find the topic difficult to navigate around as the meaning of wearing a hijab (in the proper sense) has changed somewhat in todays society especially with regards to the different styles of hijab shown on social media and on websites.

If you prefer someone who shows their faith through their clothing (wears hijab and abaya) then you seek someone that does so. That doesn’t mean they won’t change though. Easier for all parties involved. However, my thought is that’s many men think their mind can be changed on this depending on if they catch feelings. Why else would they speak to someone without hijab if they prefer hijab? And that is the frustration for women.

Bravo. Everything you said is so right. And I completeley understand your rage and your anger.

Dina yessss speak up!!! You’re SO relatable to so many including myself

Character and morals are a important part of Islam and that is what is modest how you behave and treat others

So, so controversial. I honestly think we as Muslims need to not speak on these issues when clearly hijab is a command from Allah. I agree with what's being said but ultimately these videos can be the cause of women abandoning hijab. We will die and face Allah and will be held accountable for any influence we have on Muslims abandoning their deen.

I’m so happy you guys are uploading ❤

The struggle of wearing the hijab is real. And I think people need to be more sympathetic and understanding. There's a reason why it wasn't one of the first rulings in Islam. Because back then there was such a focus on good character, mannerism and establishing a love for the faith. Wearing a piece of fabric on your head doesn't make you a better/superior Muslim if your void of any good inside. Unfortunately most Muslim communities its all about appearances....... I don't think that's going to change.

I think you have to be brave to wear it in most European countries because people will shout abuse or try to pull it off 😭 Hijabi women are fierce 😍💕

15:38 LMAO Dina I freaking love you, never change

I don't think men should have any right to suggest you change your ways on how you dress. I have been married 29 years now to my fella he has only said something once when he said that coat is just awful give it away.

hm really unfortunate that you still keep on talking about the cultures. okay we agree that people don't have to criticise everything, but we should think about how Allah judges those situations. everything is for our own Khayr. What does one have to take off the hijab for the wedding subhanAllah? how narrowminded is that, fi you're a muslim and you know Allah doesn't like that, when knowing Allah gives us everything and only commands us few things? and also lets not forget that this ummah is praised for commanding good and forbidding evil. may Allah guide us

THEY ARE BACKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK 🥳

Preach 💯💯’he only respects women who he deemed respectable ‘

Dina as long as I’m alive you’ll never be cancelled 😌🫶🏽💘

Preach it girl! I fully agree with you Dina. ❤

💯 👏🏽 👏🏽 Dina is my ride or die RU-vidr ❤ love you soooo much!

From the thumbnail I thought it was a social experiment vid lol

woooooo! you're back!

Honestly Dina with all the respect towards you and Sid… you are very lucky to have a Muslim man like him close to you. You must feel blessed every day of your life being able to meet him and your daughter having him. I’m not flirting 😅😂 I’m just highlighting how many men (sorry but specially Muslims) who are not so supportive and understanding of every journey you decide to take with your spirituality. Mine, Muslim and proud, shown different approach in the beginning and I am not Muslim changing straight away after being pregnant and being asked to convert for the seek of the children. I like Islam but It’s not easy. I also want to say I fully deeply love him and I am happily open to learn about Islam but he does not make it easy aspecting me to become holy and spiritual like the women of his family and this sucks… I think the pure soul comes from the inside not how you look. Certainly religion helps to understand what’s worth it in this life and give a way of living with serenity but it must be taught by giving examples and inspirations not through judgement about every detail is not correctly followed. But, I have to say, maybe for me it’s easy as I grow up in an Italian background in a very open family towards different cultures and differences. It is such a big gift what you have for each other mashallah , he must be very in love with you indeed. It’d be very nice to have more men like him around, seriously 🎉🎉🎉

😂😂 loving Dina’s rant

You should write another book, Dina 💛

Lol ... Sid's face 🤣 but you gotta love Dina 💘

Yum! wicker- great chewing material for a rabbit. Guys- steel or tubular aluminum indoor-outdoor furniture might be better with a rabbit around. Just saying bc I had one years ago who chewed on, and left huge gouges in my wooden furniture legs. Your views about hijab? You are soo correct. You're fine. Don't feel as if you need to feel awkward around those who knew you before. What you've gone through is a sign of growth which needs no apology. As you well know- hijab is much more than a hair covering. It entails overall modesty of dress and deportment. You are impeccable in your dress. 😎 I, for one, applaud your honesty too. Enough of the institutionalized dishonesty. Btw, I'm 64.

But thank u for sharing with us how u felt about the whole hijab thing. You are right about men doing stupid crap and society focusing on women, but question is does it help our growth and connection with Allah if we focus on others and what they're doing? We r not going to go in our grave with them just focus on urself who cares what umar next door is doing.♥︎

People who don’t observe hijab or wear it incorrectly, or have worn it only to remove it, are looking for people to condone and validate their choice. The ruling over hijab has no grey areas. If the person is feeling shit about her situation then she needs to analyse why and the reason why is because she knows she has done wrong. We cannot pick and choose elements of Islam. If you’re a practicing Muslim, you strive to adhere to the Islamic way of life. I just don’t understand the struggle with hijab.

Guilt is a sign of faith however, make sure the guilt isn’t societally induced rather because you are not fulfilling an obligation that God has commanded Muslim women

As an Iranian girl, I really appreciate that u talked about the situation in Iran!. Dina, I love u so much!😍🥰❤❤❤💛🧡

I’m not sure if you’ve heard of the concept of Divine Condescension. It’s not negative I promise! God is greater than the greatest angel and there is a need for God to condescend so as to instruct, or to meet them at their level to instruct them based off of what they can understand. So, as a Catholic man I believe Scripture says women should cover their hair if they are praying and it also says we should pray always. So unless a woman needs to take it off for practical reasons she should not. But, I live in Orange County California where girls are wearing skin tight revealing tops and yoga pants/skinny jeans to church and I’ve grown up wearing Hawaiian shirts my whole life and could work on my own modesty and self-discipline. But, I believe firmly in Divine Condescension, meeting people where they are. So, I don’t force anything because instruction comes from this meeting people where they are and sometimes that means hearing a lot of what you don’t like. And we’ll find that we ourselves need a lot of rewiring as well the more we accept that God does this for us and in a certain sense God leads us to do this with ourselves too to sort of reclaim our bodies and minds from our ignorance before we began seeking the right path in reality. It’s one of mercy, essentially. None are worthy compared to God, not even the greatest and purest angel, but that isn’t the point. It is about accepting the Divine Condescension/Mercy and becoming a child of reality and learning the joy that God has in store for us IN THIS LIFE and even greater and more complete after it. All we can do is enter into that and the joy itself will heal us and the world. The joy permeates all emotions and situations, no matter how difficult. This is God’s laughter filled victory over the evil spirits that pervert our world into self destruction! Blessed is the frustration and pain that made you seek happiness. Jesus said about worldly things, seek first the Kingdom(of God, the Kingdom of Happiness) and the rest shall be added. Basically once you have God’s happiness all things fit in their proper place in their proper time. He said, what use is there in gaining the whole world if you lose your self? That’s when we wake up and seek the Kingdom of God is when we get fed up with the systems of thought fed to us by others that just aren’t working. We seek it out for ourselves and find reality meets our desire and points us to God as its joyful source! I know my journey for happiness didn’t start with godly things but eventually led there naturally. Our lives are lives of continual seeking of happiness. When we stop, other things fill that desire of our soul to seek and guide us instead of our soul guiding us itself, us seeking for ourselves. If we aren’t seeking ourselves, our brains are shut off. And if happiness isn’t our modus operandi, we get stuck in our emotions without them ultimately leading there as they should and they become toxic.

Everything Dina said is sooo true

As an Iranian, I really appreciate you highlighting the situation going on in Iran

Spot on, Dina. Very relatable message for all women.

The thing is we don't even know if "Hijab" meaning is covering your hair and also if it's really wajib. I read Quran this year religiously without having to listen to others preaching about me or women in general, and God the things I discover myself about Islam whenever I do that is insane. I highly advise anyone listening to others preaching to just take their time and read Quran.. So many things will become Cristal clear for you. Love from Morocco ❤️❤️

Looking great 👍 Dina you look so gorgeous! ❤

Dina I took my hijab off a bit before you and I totally felt everything you said. Really hit home. Thank you for sharing your voice.

I'm an American revert to Islam and while I don't wear the hijab in public I do wear it to make my prayers. I believe it's a choice and not to be forced and we should not judge or look down on others who do different. We are all Sisters and Brothers in Islam. Now if in the near future I decide to wear it out on public and permanently it will be my choice and mine only not because someone said so. Another thing I don't believe clothes makes one religious. It's what's in the heart . I've seen an witnessed fully clothed niqab sisters who committing all type of sins while covered but they think wearing niqab hides it the same with brothers they wear the big beards and sin and think it's ok because they are preaching Islam .The same people policing you on what you need to do normally are the one comitting the most sin. Don't listen to this people just keep doing what you feel is right Allah is the only one that can judge us and you can still dress modest with out wearing hijab

The time you took off your hijab will go down in RU-vid history. The most shockingly mean thing ever.

Yes Dina 👏🏽

11:35 " YOU think she should shut that down" and " She DOESN'T KNOW where is that coming from" it's coming from the aya الرجال قوامون على" النساء" و في ذم بني إسرائيل " كانوا لا يتناهون عن منكر فعلوه" the community is only toxic for a منافق my dear. Putting others' children before your own and putting others before yourself is only beautiful it's called إيثار or for the least حب لأخيك ما تحب لنفسك. People do it because they want أجر and they know that their children's wellbeing is only in the hands of God! I'd do it and I'd teach my children to do it! Where I am, adjusting your sisters hijab is an act of kindness because you know she'd like you to be her مرآة, and because you know her صدق when she's put it on. The advice you're giving in this video is called فساد هدانا الله و إياكم!

Preach ❤ Allah wants us womens lives to be easy but society (especially Muslim society) can be so corrupt which is why men and women are the way they are today.

Dinaaaaaa hahahhahaha loved your rant :)

Love you guys 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡

I really want to hear Sids honest opinion on the idea of removing the hijab because, I don't think hes being totally honest with how he feels about it. I am just assuming right here but I don't think Sid is 100% comfortable with the idea however, doesnt want to come across as judgemental.

Please dina let him speak 🙏

I can never understand when muslim men meet a girl with tight jeans/short skirts etc that then want to later on to dress modestly or wear hijab, when there are 1000s of modest dress and hijab wearing sisters

I agree at the fact that everyone has their own journey and we cant judge anyone. But as husband and wife, we can mention as a couple about what we dislike and work on it together. Hijab is part of islam and even though its more difficult to keep to it in these times, we cant deny its part of our faith. Were in the end times and holding on to our deen will be like holding hot coal like the prophet Muhammad saw mentioned. But thats the beauty of true imaan, you stilll holding onto your imaan in times like this is a very big thing and you will be rewarded in the hereafter. Especially if its been difficult for you. And a husband and wife both help each others journey better. I helped my husband get into praying 5x a day as he ws struggling because of work. And my husband gives me life advice on right and wrong if im feeling unsure about my decisions. I truly believe that we have made a difference on each other. Feminism is also a big issue and women now think that a husband can't say anything to his wife and she can do what she wants. My mum used to say that a woman can take 4 men to hell if they don't fulfil their responsibility of keeping her on the right path, her father, brother, husband and son.

Dina you went off on this and i don’t have your experience but thank you for sharing it You would think people would care more about the INTENTIONALITY and being kind Muslims. That people wouldn’t get KILLED over it. It’s actually mad

DINA U ATE AND LEFT NO CRUMBS

I cannot believe as a pakiatani pathan sid has never known about women wearing hijab/covering of hair infront of non mehram. Even if its not his sister theyll be atleast aunties

Yes Dina is very passionate about this topic, but PLEASE LET SID SPEAK! Let him finish a thought, even a sentence without interrupting him!

Honestly I feel like crying listening to you get heated. I remember when you took the scarf off and all the men who had to give their opinion but never saw a video about nouman ali who was playing lots of women 🤦‍♀️

I've faced more hatred from people who don't wear hijab telling me that I'm not wearing the hijab properly or unappropiately because I wear it with a bun under my hijab. These girls have made a huge chaos in my life when they don't even know how difficult it is for a Muslim women who wears the hijab. When I look at a women who doesn't wear hijab I wish I could style my hair or dress like them but I choose not too and I find myself checking back on my intention. I think for all people who wear or choose not to wear hijab it's totally your choice and the communitys should respect that and not be judgemental.

OH Dina we've missed you.

love S&D

Both men and women need to be clear about what they want in their future spouse from day 1. Advising someone about something that is part of our religion is fard on us but there shouldn’t be any judgement and forcing. Hijab is about being modest in all your clothing and mannerisms. A woman who has good character and wears modest clothing (with/without headscarf) is better than a woman who has a bad character, wears tight clothes and a headscarf. We should make sincere dua for ourselves and for people to better themselves everyday not judging someone solely on their clothing.

Love you guys ! It'll take time to gather your old viewers back but you guys are great MashaAllah may Allah keep you both together always ameen love you alot stay blessed ❤

Dina where is your jumper from?

Dina you are looking good😍😍

I think for me wearing the hijab and dressing modestly is apart of the Islamic requirements as are many things for both men and women. However, it is something I am personally struggling with day to day. I never condone the way I dress. I always clarify to people that this is not the correct hijab the religion of Islam describes. However, wearing the hijab or successfully implementing a deed is a journey for me to get closer to Allah which is what I am aspiring to do. If Allah Wills. I know what is right from wrong and I do not need women on the street approaching me or a man making a comment. I understand that Allah said in the Quran 51:55, “Reminders benefit the believer” but if you are unable to remind a believer to get them closer to Allah through your words I’d recommend you focus on your own actions. It should be your actions that people witness a sincere Muslim that makes someone think “maybe I need to change accordingly to what is pleasing to Allah”. Before you decide to make a comment about a womens hijab just ask yourself; is your plate clean?

Do not ask Dina Tokia for advice. She is misguided and misguiding people, corrupt and evil. She is the last person you should ask for advice in regards to matters like this.

I went to a school where I had a lot of pakistani friends and I'm not sure what they were saying about Pakistanis in general is right in terms of the headscarf? I understand that Sid if from a particular pakistani background where it might be more relaxed but I didn't get that impression about some of my pakistani schoolmates? Anyone know if there a differences in Pakistani culture?

❤❤❤❤ love you

Wearing hijab is fardh.

Really interesting views that Dina is expressing, but I wish she wouldn't shout, and would let Sid finish his sentences!