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This fight against the Shaitaan and his allies is an uphill struggle. All these extreme desires are from the Shaitaan and the Nafs and Nafs is the dopamine deluge that the brain always wants which is not good for us. The fight is real and we won’t give it up to Shaitaan, this evil and vile invisible enemy with absolutely no moral standards whatsoever.
VIDEO IDEA!!!! Let us know the outcomes of all your Q&A’s if the person that emailed let’s you know what happened in the end (and obviously they give permission) because we are dying to know what happens from these situations !!!!!
I'm seriously scared for the safety of this child. Like Dina said, I would not want my husband to even be in the house if is he able to sexualise a caring moment with a baby. That's some scary shit. I would advise you to divorce, because he's obviously also a manipulitive person to obstain you from sex trying to force you into doing something you are not comfortable with. But besides that, you need to try get evidence of his fetish. Idk try to record him or something when having a convo about it or save clips from the babyphone. Once divorced he is going to get a shared custody and be alone with your child like that....
Once you go through with something as fucked up as this..there's NO going back. You won't be able to look at your partner the same way again. All respect will go down the toilet (pun intended) DO NOT DO IT!!!
Hmmm!! Yeah!! Totally nodding in UTMOST agreement!! I just can't believe this! This would totally destroy my marriage!! And would destroy any trust I have with him in sexual/intimate times!! It will now be forever ingrained into my brain if some sicko did that! It's absolutely vile though! And just like you said, there is no going back after this!! The information is already out and there's no taking it back!!! Honestly this is one of the MOST disturbing sid and Dina's vid I've seen!!
I would get a divorce. There is something disturbing about him getting turned on when you are changing the child’s nappy. If you are religious the imams, priests, religious leaders of whatever religion you are would agree that this is grounds for divorce. Please make sure your child is never alone with this man. You never know what someone is capable of. I can tell you first hand that you need to look out for these warning signs before it’s too late. As a mom it is your job to protect this child.
I can’t remember being this uncomfortable while watching a Sid and Dina advice video before. Not only is it a major red flag that he doesn’t understand boundaries and then buys laxatives, but he also gets a kick out of watching her wipe their babies bum. He obviously needs help for his mental health but regardless of his backstory and trauma, I think don’t think that she should feel obliged to meet his unreasonable expectations. Her answer is no and she should stick her ground or else like Sid said. She’ll get stuck doing something that will ruin her mental health and their marriage for good. The only way I see it working out is if he A) gets therapy and B) he no longer asks for it or he gets his needs met by someone else. What a tough situation for this poor sister. She just had a baby and this dumbo is asking her to wipe is a** when I’m sure the sister barely gets time wipe her own a**.
anytime children are involved... ELIMINATE THE THREAT IMMEDIATELY. risking your child's safety for your own romantic interests is not only selfish but morally wrong 💀😭
@@zeena3411 lol how is my comment ignorance? It's actually the opposite...Also I'm a woman too and I have no issue with their gender, I'm just saying it's black and white, you believe in God or you don't. There's no "identifying" about being Muslim 😂
@@ghadeera1642 so you don't think part of your identity is Muslim? You just are Muslim? There's obviously a bigger conversation to be had here but yes, you can identify as Muslim and have it be PART of YOUR IDENTITY as long as other things. Don't be so daft.
@@ghadeera1642 you remind me of the girls I used to go to school with, ignorant hijabis who want to haram police everyone. Read a dictionary and understand what the word identity means. If your WHOLE identity is based around being Muslim, you sound pretty damn boring.
Regardless of whether we’re allowed to have sex before marriage or not.. islam has a guideline of sexual etiquettes! This man is waaaaaay out of line.. pornography and exposure to the perversion of sexuality is to blame .. i dont mean become a prude.. the prophet and companions didnt shy away from talking about what constitutes a healthy sex life .. but people are so twisted nowadays..ewwwww ..allah protect brothers and sisters from the unknown horrors of a potential spouse ..
UK Law Grad here... Any one is eligible to file for a divorce after 1 year of marriage. This is called the '1-year Rule'. Therefore, this woman (being married for two years, can in fact apply for a divorce). There are 5 grounds for divorce. One of which includes the ground of "Unreasonable Behaviour". This can include refusing to provide intimate relations, lack of affection, lack of financial support, etc. Therefore, this woman can divorce her husband on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour.
Okay so this was weird but irrespective of what your sexual preferences are, it’s wrong to ‘force’ someone to comply to them. It’s a compromise, and if something makes you feel uncomfortable then he needs to respect that not force it. So for me, the way he’s approached it is a red flag because he can use this same technique to force it impose anything else. It’s important to set your boundaries. Completely agree with Sid and Dina and well put !! I would have a conversation with him like they said, and really get to understand where it comes from and if he is willing to change it. If he is, then perhaps try sex therapy or a psychotherapist to address the issues beneath the surface. If he tells you that it’s non negotiable and that you must do it, then you might need to think about your options of moving on for your sake. Hope you get through this and all the best xx
I agree with Dina 👌🏼 Conversations about intimacy need to happen before marriage for sure. We can’t assume we are marrying someone heterosexual with no weird fantasies.
broke his arm and he couldnt use his other arm to clean himself??? honestly he has issues and needs help or else this is totally grounds for divorce. he should be helping with the kid and not be jealous of his own child, thats really fucked
This is a very disturbed individual, regardless of his past, just think about it, many abusers may have a disturbed past or whatever, but they are what they are and u stay away from them. It's next to impossible to cure this individual, he's not going to change, this kink is part of him and you need to get out, I also agree with Dina, this is just the start, he's already told u something very disturbing so early on, things are only going to get creepier with this guy.
Yesterday I saw a video on tiktok of a story of someone who had similar issues to this... its about a wife that realised her husband was sneaking out at night and going thru the bin to sniff their child's nappy... honestly me and my husband couldn't believe it and were disgusted, we thought that its probably a made up story... but now you posted this and I'm starting to believe that some people are really messed up in the head 😐. I hope he seeks for help because this is not okay.
F***** on so many levels. Some people are sick in the head. Life as a Muslim girl/woman isn’t easy as it is. Imagine getting married and then getting mad requests like this. May ALLAH be with you girl. He needs help big time. Him watching you as you change your child is creepy AF! Like Dina said, he might of been abused before or maybe a gay relationship. All sorts are going through my head for his creepy requests. Be strong darling. All the best.
I think his "kink" has more to do with his desire to be taken care of in the most simplest form. I think therapy might be a good idea for both of them. I think they need to have a deep talk about this. She needs to know how this really makes him feel.
The big red flag is denying intercourse if you do not accept his request… it’s very manipulative way to get what he wants even against your desire so if he refuses any deep chat about it with you or someone else can support you as a couple, honestly start to think about divorce… feeling jealousy looking some acts on your child is very weird behaviour, definitely something disturbs him so please… get support ANY asap
💀 did this kinky business surface after the two years of marriage? Because I can't imagine you'd want to have a kid with this heffa after those deplorable requests
I would recommend her to please go and see a therapist because honestly the husband's mind is **** up but after the situation, I am sure her brain must be ***** up as well. don't hesitate even just for yourself as an individual to reach out for help. other than that I definitely believe the husband needs help with therapy for himself and maybe couples as well. Don't do anything you are not comfortable with and is completely wrong. put an end to this shit from the beginning rather than keeping up with it and ruining your own mental health and regretting continuing the relationship with your husband. it will take a lot of strength for you to do anything, so pray to Allah and I hope you can figure out this mess and continue with a happy and healthier life.
Dina is right! As a young person myself surrounded by people looking to get married, people truly are desperate to get married simply so they can have s*x. Most of these people don’t even love each other or are financially and emotionally ready for married yet rush into it anyways leading to divorce because of reasons like this. Also, with the trend of getting married at a young age (like there’s 18 year olds getting married now), and so many young people defying their parents and family to get married, there’s a rise of Muslims getting divorced before the age of 25. Obviously, your parents shouldn’t determine exactly who you marry nor prevent you from marrying someone you truly love but your parents are there for a reason to seek knowledge and advice from. The problem with the older generation is that the parents controlled too much of their marriage-related decisions, the problem with this generation is that parents have little to no control. Divorce is a sin in Islam (unless it’s done for valid reasons like the reasoning in this video). People these days are treating marriage like a reason for one night stands and not something that should be cherished and lasting. You need to be having those uncomfortable conversations about childhood, traumas, expectations, intimacy, finance, goals etc before marriage. You wouldn’t start a job without knowing all the details so why to the same with marriage
He needs major help whether she stays or not because if she leaves the kids will have to spend time with him unless she can use this to keep them from him in the courts. But as a mom I'd hate for my kids to be with him without me knowing he would stare....... 😁😭
How many of these problems are brought on by the women's lack of awareness of their spouses? The need for dating and relationships is best illustrated by these kinds of circumstances. We could save time, effort, and possibly lives if we only got to know the man these unfortunate women are marrying. Seek pre-marital testing and screening programs and go to therapy.
Yah I agree with Dina here lol I like how fair her observations are… Sid is just reacting lol (which yes I get it cause it is disgusting lol). For the wife to simply be disgusted and try to shoo his kink away will not be productive, clearly it hasn’t worked and he is just demanding it more and more now. It is important to know where this desire comes from and for sure they need to get a third party involved, a PROFESSIONAL third party to discuss this with them and to better understand each perspective. Preferably a relationship therapist who specializes in sex and sexual trauma. Who knows maybe the husband might realize there is a bunch of shit (no pun intended lol) he hasn’t addressed in his life that he needs to heal from or like Dina said if this is just a desire that isn’t attached to anything than he is simply incompatible with his wife sexually and its better to realize these things sooner than later. Communication is key and since this is clearly a subject matter that is overwhelming for the wife (I find it quite disturbing, so I understand if she can’t discuss this with him without making faces or getting angry), having a therapist there to explain things will be easier on both of them. Also the fact that the husband is withholding sex could possibly be an indication of something else too yikes… maybe he is slowly revealing his manipulative ways. She does say he is perfect with everything else but i mean is he? Again therapy would help with this too.
I wish you guys started the video with a trigger warning, because the amount of discomfort i have felt watching this. dear Allah may Allah protect us from such creeps
Ya I get the part their talking about as to why he wants his butt wiped BUT the fact that he wants her to smell it just throws all those theories away cuz no no no that’s all wrong
I’m not knowledgeable in Islam enough for this, but I’m sure this is grounds for divorce even Islamically. The first question. He needs to get therapy and work on these disgusting desires.
I wouldn’t say divorce because breaking family is not good but wife should request sex and scold him and make him better and love him more yes wife can do certain things when husband is unable to do things but this is just disgusting anyways wife should try to make husband better and also make dua for him if everything fails only then she should separate.
