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I was divorced at 19 also. Married my junior year because he enlisted in Air Force and we wanted to be together. Turned out he was never really around, too busy partying with his AF boys. It was a disaster, my first love, completely devastating. Turns out I met a REAL man just a couple years later who actually loved me, and we've just celebrated 18 years married. It does get better. Doesn't feel like it will, but it does.
You married a child and expected him to act like a man? Young people need freedom and experiences. He did you a favor babes, hope you got to enjoy your 20s
He really didn't want the divorce, he just wanted to be like his friends without the guilt. That's why he didn't want to sign the papers. He will regret loosing a great woman to play the field.
Or he wanted full ownership of her life while he was out being a player. Because the moment she moved on he would claim adultery on her end. My father attempted that shit with my mother. He refused to sign the papers for years out of controll tactics.
@@chaeun-woon8405 They do. It’s not uncommon for military to have a military bae in addition to a spouse and kids. Not everyone operates this way, but like I said it happens, and is common in this particular field.
Sometimes so called friends don't always have their friends best interests. They get off with trying to destroy families but if the friend is easily influence then he should not be married.
You don't just marry a man you marry his friends. Approval of the pack means more to men than anything and they will make any sacrifice to maintain it.
My husband left me too. After ten years together and 3 years of that were marriage. He left one night after a big fight and texted me that he wanted a divorce. He had a new girlfriend 2 months later and they’re still together, 2 years later. I’ve been single since. It’s fucked my head up permanently.
Something I learned from therapy years ago that may be able to help you move on and get closure is to write an “open letter” to him, where you write out all your feelings. And it’s up to you if you want to send it, through Facebook, email, etc., or just keep/trash it. I remembered this tip for years and I ended up doing it through my recent break-up, and it helped me sooo much. I hope you get closure
We need to stop settling for these broken men ...the red flags been there but we choose to ignore them ... I promise things will get better but you gotta heal from this . Don’t worry about them . Guaranteed you it won’t last anyways ...men like this continue the cycle until no one wants them anymore trust
I had my first husband leave me after 7 weeks of being married. We were 21. Young men have no clue what they want. I know exactly how you felt. It was unfathomable when it happened!
Oh sweetie, I can't say I am sorry. Be glad, be GRATEFUL to God you had guardian angels watching over you and you were able to leave that marriage quickly with no children and your whole life ahead of you.
I'm proud of you! We all make silly decisions in our early teens and twenties. You have so much life ahead of you and he saved you from years of wasted time.🙌
That is a good point. I met my ex husband when I was 19 years old, got married when I was 26 and he dumped me in 2018, just for my 49 birthday. Whe have two kids who are now 23 and 14 years old and we all three got hurt so much, I am still not over it. He is now 58 years old and has a baby with a woman he met at work, 14 years younger than HIM.
Not waiting until after you had children was a blessing. My kids were 8, 9, and 11 - all girls - when my husband of 14 1/2 years decided that the women he was picking up on-line were better than me and our family. My kids are now 29, 31, and 32 and these years have been tough as a single parent. (My girls are fabulous!) Sadly for my girls, when I got divorced, his family divorced the kids too. That was shocking! I had not seen that happening. He chose to pretty much chop the girls out of his life. Enough of my story! Even though you don't have any big negatives to regret about your relationship, that in itself leaves you with such a strange feeling. And he's out of the service now so that comradery he was missing with his military pals is no longer even an issue. It seems as though he was just too immature to be married to anyone. I do believe you have an amazing future ahead. You are obviously very busy living your life. You have a good head on your shoulders and a great work ethic. Congratulations on finalizing your divorce - especially as he made you run a marathon to do it. Do go for those funds he still owes you. Yup. I'm a bit vindictive. He wasted your time and you paid a lot in attorneys fees. Best of luck!
Why did he take so long to sign the papers when he asked for the divorce in the first place?? What a jerk. I feel for you girl. I’m so glad you saw his true colors so early in the marriage. You will find someone who loves and cares for you so much.
Divorces cost money AND hed get a pay cut from the military once he was single again. Its all about money, thats why these military people get married asap
I met my now fiancé when I was 28 and he was 32, he was already in the Air Force reserves. I definitely don’t think we would have worked out if we met when we were younger. I think maturity definitely helps.
@@catieq5270 The kind of people that are attracted to the military are the kind of folks who like to sow their wild oats so to speak. Which is completely fine in and of itself. But then the government gives them all sorts of incentives to get married. So they end up trying to force relationships that never should have happened. Seen it many times.
@@Laura-tv2dx I totally understand that and have seen people in the military solely get married for my money. By the time we get married next year, we will have been together for 4.5 years. Some people aren’t motivated by money but love instead.
I admire you for getting through something so tough as Divorce. My husband and I dated for 5 years , he proposed and we married a year later. We tried to get pregnant and after a year went to a fertility doctor. During the workup, they found some polyps in my uterus and the biopsy showed Cancer. A year after being diagnosed, he left me. We had a big argument in which yes I told him to leave but didn't mean for good. Well, it was the perfect excuse for him to leave, claming all these things which pretty much made me at fault but weren't completely accurate. A year later he filed for Divorce. This August will mark 2 years since he filed. I have no idea what the hold up is, he won't really say. He does claim to still love me, etc. but as I told him, actions speak louder than words. As for me, by the Grace of God, I am in a much better state mentally, emotionally and even physically. Prayers for everyone going through Divorce. 💙
Keep your official marriage license/certificate and divorce decree. Trust me. Almost every little thing you do from here on out, they always want you to pull out those files for them to keep record of. I’m glad you’re on the road to recovery and feeling better ❤️
Facts here! My fiancé and I are planning to get married this winter, and that’s the problem we ran into - he doesn’t know where his divorce decree is and to make a copy he needs to fly all the way back to his hometown where he got married the first time.
Don’t say for sure if you don’t know for sure. You forget men can’t get laid that easily always. Especially by strippers without costing. He’s around men the rest of the time. I highly doubt he got laid.
Absolutely. He better have been giving her the extra Money. I would handle this. I would make sure I got what I DESERVED. what an asshat. I can’t. I’m just a little more than half way thru so I haven’t even heard the part about signing the papers
This happened to me twice. First time we were very young and married 3 years. Second time was after 18 years. I’ve been single now for 5. I’m finally happy alone.
So have you asked the question why me? I've never married because I don't believe in it yet I have been faithful to the same woman for 30y and raised 2 boys. We are happy as hell.
My advice: Don’t listen to anyone who tells you that it’s all fine and to “just forget about him.” I went thru my early 20s thinking I needed to keep it moving but now I know that break ups and divorces are like a death (of a relationship) and you take all the time you need to grieve them! Even if 2-3 years from now you randomly still think about him, don’t feel about that.
I kinda hope he sees this and realizes the true pain it caused you by being blindsided with divorce. You deserve the world and someone is going to give you that one day.
A man that can go into a strip club wouldn’t be anyone I’d want to be married to. I’m so sorry you went through this. It’s almost like he thought he was just breaking up with you, unbelievable!❤️
I was in the army for 4 years, and I got to see first hand how shitty military men are. I stayed single throughout the whole thing and I don't regret it one bit. All my friends that got married in the beginning of our army career didn't even make it past a year.
Yes, ma'am! Yes ma'am! My husband's first marriage didn't last 2 weeks and then all his friends started getting married so he felt left out so we married and he was in for 6 years.
Sad. A Present from God that was disgraced by little boys wanting to play men. Marriage is a big deal. If they want to go out and sow your wild oats that’s up to them but do not marry until you’re ready. Why is that so hard for ppl ?? Especially men. It’s not that hard. Don’t marry someone when you’re not ready. Geez
It’s unbelievably incredible to me how strong us women are, this is the kind of story you hear and you just feel like you know the person you wish she would’ve just called you and vented all her feelings and you would’ve been there for her that’s how I feel.
Your story sounds so much like mine.. high school sweethearts, married at 19, and he was in the Navy, and Wisconsin!! We lasted 19 years and 2 kids. One day he decided he didn’t want to be married and just left me out of the blue. It was a piece of me that I’ll never get back. It left such a hole in my heart.
This video popped up in my recommendation I dont know why. I usually don't comment on videos but I Really think this is a sign. Im currently married to someone in the military. We just made 7 months on the 1st and its been nothing but hell. From the day we got married every week he always say He wants a divorce. He seems to never be wrong and always blame me for everything even when im not doing anything and he's just controlling. Its finally to the point of no turning back. This is so crazy.
Pre-25s (people under 25 years of age)... We never learn. 18-24 is a time to develop yourself please. Marriage is not for people who don't know what they want. You dodged a bullet...
@@raquelortega2383 I got married at 18. I’ve been married for almost 4 years. And it was the best thing for me. Just because someone is young, doesn’t mean they don’t know what they’re doing.
Exactly there is a difference between age and maturity life teaches you maturity not your age. Theres still 60 year old women that dont act grown people
@@peacerocks77 Good! I wish you nothing but the best. Unfortunately,...48 percent of those who marry the age of 18 are likely to divorce within 10 years.
This relationship is so immature. Definitely not ready for Marriage. Lots of growing up to do, especially him!! I would have left him find his way home from the mall.
My thoughts exactly. He had someone else as his distraction and that's why he was emotionally unavailable OR there wasn't anyone special or specific and he was just being a player. Like he said, "I can't cuz I'm married" he wanted to be unattached like his buddies 😒. Hes an idiot
@@The-realnews why is that disgusting? I thought many thing and definitely one of them was that he cheated. If she was 19 then that means he was 21 and was with her since he was 19. He was a 21 year old guy, away from his wife, never experienced much dating at age I bet, and he might have wanted to have his youth and have fun. I think that is a pretty good assumption. Do I think it's wrong if he did..no!! She even said they didn't have a toxic relationship and maybe he realized he didn't want to be married and continue to hurt her. This is why I think people should wait a little longer to get married. Like she said it was a shit show trying to get divorced and I'm sure she spent alot of money for lawyer fees and everything else. I think they were both young kids and being away from each other was hard on both of them and yes I feel so horrible for her that this happened but I don't think it's disgusting to think that he might have cheated or atleast wanted too
This really helps me. I was abandoned at age 21. I started to think life was over when it should've been just beginning...thanks. I don't feel so alone in my circumstances.
Hunni I’m 34 and happily married with kids now BUT if I could go back to my 19 year old self I’d say DONT WORRY ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS JUST ENJOY YOUR LIFE EXACTLY AS YOU WANT IT! It’s the only time your truely free hun! I love my life now but I met my man at 28! I didn’t need to try to settle down (with the wrong guys 🙄) in my early life! I should’ve been having a good time exploring the world! Now I’ve got kids it’s really hard to be spontaneous, sleep in, change towns, go on trips.. I love my kids but I wish I had my care free time before settling down. Please just enjoy YOU 😘
I understand this so much!! My ex husband was a marine, and one day he just decided he didn’t want to be held down by a wife; a child, and the military life. He attacked me and caused a lot of trouble for himself, but i finally made it out. He was not the man for you, DO YOU first ❤️
Not to stereotype but someknes gotta say it: marines are violent as fuck. Something about the culture attracts and generate violent men. So happy you are free now. Good luck with your healing ❤️
Ugh. My first love when I was 18 went into the military, and tried breaking up with me before he left... and then stopped by for a booty call before he left, so I was under the impression that we were still together. (Young and niave) He gets stationed overseas and we talk over facetime all the time. One day, he ghosts me. And I get a message from his new girlfriend that I need to leave him alone. Broke my little 18 year old heart. Now i'm 25 with a beautiful 2 year old girl and a fiance. The point of me telling this is that I am so thankful I was so young, and it really taught me so much, as hard as it was. Praying for you! 💕
my husband always knows never get drunk while gone, never go to bars, never be alone with women. its his choice to honor our marriage, i dont force it. hes in the service. im blessed to have that. but im glad youre free and youre gonna find someone awesome! because youre amazing, he didn't deserve to be married. you deserve every happiness in your life.
Yeah that sounds so toxic. If he’s the right man- it would so not matter if he was drunk or around other women or in a bar- he’d remain loyal no matter where he is. Going to bars with friends is a way of socializing.
Bars are not just for socializing.. it’s a bunch of drunk people making bad decisions and hitting on each other. Also you make bad decisions when drunk. They can go anywhere to hangout with friends that respects your relationship.
@PeriodicalAdventures I don’t agree at all. The bars in buffalo don’t even have a place to sit. Theres better environments to be in to hangout with friends and make better decisions.
@PeriodicalAdventures and btw I grew up in a small country town.. don’t assume things. I know how “country” men are. Don’t judge other women because they don’t support bar scenes. I don’t want my man in those environments. To each their own.
i’m sorry that your man is so weak he can’t drink, go to bars, or happen to be alone with a woman or else he might cheat. 😭 my boyfriend could do all of that and not even be slightly tempted. why be with a man who is basically on the verge of cheating as soon as he gets alcohol in him or has the opportunity?
Wow to hear how calm and sweet you were to him when he first FaceTimed u, I would’ve went crazy, blown up his phone and made him say it with his chest and then block him on everything and had a whole glow up. He didn’t deserve you. I admire your emotional strength, well I guess you just harbored and handled it well. You deserve a great man. ♥️
I’m so glad that I found this video! I am currently going through a very similar situation at 22 and seeing your strength is comforting. Life is hard sometimes but everything happens for a reason!
I’m sorry you went through this, but he’s going to be really kicking himself and I hope he just sees you thriving and kicking ass and not looking back! Sending love and knowing you’re going to have an amazing life.
I was married at 18 to a military man for ten years… It stinks to get a divorce now, but better than hanging on for 10 years of unhappiness. I am currently married for 5 years to a wonderful man… He is in the military, however, such a better fit, and I am so much happier. You are a beautiful person, and something better will come along ♥️
First of all, I am very sorry. I can only imagine how hard this video must have been to make. You told this story in such a composed manner, but I know this was not how you saw life playing out. I recently had to break off my engagement with almost the exact same circumstances. Random emotional distancing after the commitment, having no desire to be physically close, and then not even bothering to officially cut off the relationship. I hope you know you are not alone in your experiences, and I am thankful you have your friends to support you through all of this❤️
Being in the military I'm so sorry but truth is everyone who is married takes off their wedding ring when they go on deployments. I've seen it first hand. Its disgusting but its "the norm" so no one cares anymore because it happens every single time. Its nothing new. Also everyone who first gets in the military gets married to get out of the dorms/barracks or to get the extra money every month. Its the unfortunate fact. I'm so sorry you had to go through this.
I know some days will be hard. But take this time to embrace your singleness and truly love your solitude. I’m in the military and spent 4 years overseas and saw some crazy stuff that makes me fear marriage tbh. But through it I’ve found that if I’m confident in who I am and love myself then I will always be okay. The right one will come when you aren’t even looking.
You are such a awesome cute person! I still can't understand why someone would do that to a girl like you!? But you definitely deserve a man who loves you a lot and takes care of you!
This was really a blessing in disguise. Marriage wasn’t the best option for you two and even though the way he went about it was poor, it’s best that it happened so early on. Like you said, what if he had went years without saying anything and then sprung it on you? That would’ve been an even bigger blow. I wish you the best!
Wow... this is so tough and you are so strong for talking about it. Im sorry you went through this and that he put you through this. I wish you happiness
yes you can marriage is a big commitment. if he didnt want to get married he shouldn't have. she said we should break up or get married which was weird. hopefully their parents talked to them before they got married
i just don’t even wanna finish this video my heart hurts so bad for u, for this entire situation. I know you don’t want sympathy but to hear this story it’s just so awful. What’s even worse is there’s stories like this especially in the military :/ glad to see you’re doing much better !
What's with military guys and the strip club. They are ten hours away from home. Just this weekend two guys and my bf went. The two guys were married and have kids and they made my bf the DD sense he really isn't into the whole strip club thing anyways. To me it's like your wife is at home taking care of kids and working and then men just go out and f*** around. To top it off they were at the strip club for 5 hours. I dont get why this triggers me so bad since it's not my issue but it just bothers me so much!
It’s triggering for a lot women because it further reinforces the sad fact that a lot of women feel like all they do is cook, clean, and raise children while the man pays the bills and lives a regular, fun life. Like he has a life outside of the family and the women typically does not, especially in military.
@@willnill7946 okay that’s your experience. I don’t know your friends. What I do know is I see allll my friends with kids taking care of them all the while the dad can leave whenever he wants to go do whatever. Mom can’t leave and get drunk because they have the baby. Mom has to put the baby to bed so she can’t hangout with friends when we’re over. I think you’re playing the “not all men” card without saying it and there’s no need for that.
I was thinking I wouldn’t have driven three hours to pick him up. You tell me you want a fucking divorce three months into our marriage, while you’re out of the country, ON FACETIME. Excuse my language, but FUCK YOU. Go kick rocks. Get someone else to pick you up three hours drom home or get an Uber. The nerve. Your idea is better though because then he wouldn’t have had time to plan a ride hahah. I do understand what she meant and what she was thinking when she thought if she was the first person he saw or the moment he saw her his mind would instantly change - but usually when a mans “done”, he’s done I would say. I really believe he was with her for so long and hadn’t experienced much time as a single guy, and just wanted to sleep around or do whatever he wants and when he wants. We all know dating is a pain in the ass and the rarely is greener on the other Side. I guarantee he will live out his life with a lot of regret
Too young to be married for sure. I got married when I was 19, he 20. We were married for 10 years! Recovery time 4 years. My advice to all - wait till you much older. No need to rush!!! 6 months recovery- great result! All the best.
I disagree with the whole blaming the age thing. Yes it didn’t work out in this situation but doesn’t mean that’s just the age issue. I got married at 19 and have been married for 12 and have three kids together. Marriage is freaking hard work but worth it if both people are willing to work at it.
I’m already 7 mins into the video and I’m getting worked up from this story. I can’t stand it when someone else is that selfish that they can’t think of the other person. I wasn’t married but my ex is in the army, we were long distance because I’m in graduate school, and while he was at a training, he broke up with me over FaceTime.
That pretty much sums up my experience as well. Its been over a year and found someone so much better when I thought id never be able to. As my friends told me during that time. The trash just took itself out.
The violent me would not have been able to sit in the car for that long with no answers 😂😂 cudos to you for keeping calm you deserve so much more queen 👸❤️
I’m so proud of you for putting yourself out there! Your story reminds me of my first love who did similar thing. The only thing I can say is that better to find out as early as possible!!!! That is your silver lining ❤️ you can go and live your life without thinking about the years you’ve wasted about your marriage. He owed you closure. When he didn’t give you that, he chose to hurt you. I hope you find the person you are meant to grow old with. And when you find him, you will be thankful for all that you’ve gone through bc it led you onto this path 🤍
This story is almost exactly like mine. My ex was located overseas where families could be with them, so I got told face to face what you were told over FaceTime. It was very hard at the time, but looking back I'm so thankful I went overseas with him and got to see first hand what happens. As you said towards the end, your ex could have kept it inside and never told you which is what SO many of the guys do to their wives. It's so wrong!! You will find someone who loves you and treats you like you should- you're still young!
Girl! I’m so proud of you! First time on your page but wow, you’re so strong and so wise! I’m happy that you wanted to try and fight for what was yours, your future husband will be thankful that you have that characteristic! You’re so mature and I was cheering you on throughout this entire video! I admired how you kept it to yourself and told your client (grandmama figure) first; I truly feel like that was wise because she could give you advice and guidance that friends your age probably haven’t experienced. Also, I truly loved how you wanted to work on things and keep it between y’all, I think a lot of us need to learn how to keep certain issues within the relationship especially if you’re not in harms way. My father told me that it’s best to keep your relationship business to yourself & not run to your loved ones every time something bad happens because we (in the relationship) tend to forgive one another while our family may have 100 reasons to hate your partner LOL. 🤣. Anyways, thank you for sharing your story, gorgeous!💘💘
You're so brave for sharing your story and I believe it's much better for you to have taken the step to marry your boyfriend even when you're this young instead of jumping from relationship to relationship, you actually chose security even though feelings can change on either side. At least you did the right thing. I understand heartache is hard and empathize with you! But being divorced at 19 is actually admirable given nowaday's hookup culture. You're so pretty and adorable, you'll find the right one, you're still very young.
My husband was in the military too and after 1.5 years of marriage, told me over the phone while I was in graduate school that getting married was a mistake. He wanted the divorce over and done with so fast, I was so confused. Found out eventually that he left me for a girl he worked with. Good riddance though! Things worked out for the better :) wishing you the best!!
This is so common with military men. My brother's childhood friend joined the air force at 19, met a beautiful and sweet girl and they dated for a few years and got engaged. I was super happy for them, especially because I really liked her. He got her a very expensive ring and seemed absolutely in love and then he ended up having to to another state for several months to train for a new position and during that time he met a girl he was training with and decided to leave his fiancee for her. I was very shocked because I met the girl soon after and she was really unattractive and had a very unfriendly personality. I have only ever seen her and him one other time since so it's been over a decade since and they are still together but the last time my brother heard from him a few years ago, he said she was having affairs to get promotions.
You are such a kind young individual. You’re only 21, live life. This is your time for you and your sister to make your boutique even bigger and better and become more successful for yourself and better yourself. You are sweet smart gifted talented and beautiful. Any man would be lucky to be with you, always remember that. You have beauty inside and out, I feel for you but I already know you’re going to be even more massively successful. It would be so cool to meet you or at least talk to you, because you’re someone who has survived such a traumatic event and come back up to the top. I love it. Final thought, funny how he’s such a man and he’s got a little emotion and tells you it’s over, but then when it comes to signing the divorce he uses the military as a shield, and then when he gets back home he still doesn’t show up to a court date? Wow what a coward.
Hi. Look it as a blessing. I was also married for 3 months after knowing him for 15 years. These things make us stronger and realise that the only one we need us our Heavenly father. God bless
Very sorry that you went through this so young. Hard to make it work when you get married as teenagers. You definitely don’t want to be with a guy who has just told you he doesn’t want to be married to you anymore. If he were to stay with you and you had gone on and had kids, eventually he would’ve left you anyway. He saved you both a lot of future heartache although it might be hard to realize at this stage. PS you’re a great storyteller. I was on the edge of my seat even though I already knew the outcome. I almost felt like I could feel what you were going through. Nice job and you have a talent for storytelling.
I’m happy that at least you were able to leave free of becoming a single mother. You can do it right by marrying someone you truly love, and thought you knew, until they switch up on you. Then if you started a family, you have now became a single mom and he is free to continue his life without having to stay home cooking, cleaning and raising a child. He can have his career, advance and further his education while single mothers have lost their freedom. And have to struggle to make it. There was a blessing in this lesson. I’m happy for you starting this new chapter in life, your twenties are the time to enjoy it. 🥂
Just found your video. I had to check your channel to make sure you were ok. I’m old enough to be your mom. Trust me when I tell you that you dodged a bullet. You will look back at HIS life one day and shake your head. He will regret it even if he doesn’t admit it. You live well and thrive! You got this! ❤
I'm so happy you survived that crappy time in your life. In all honesty, it was SUPER triggering for me because it reminded me of my last relationship. I think communication and transparency are ESSENTIAL because if he would have told you things AS they were happening, maybe you could've talked about it in detail, gone to couple's counseling, etc. Whatever though. What's done is done. He stinks. Proud of you!! 😊
Be proud of yourself. You are beautiful and your true person is out there and you will cross paths when the time is right. Be thankful no babies were conceived or he would forever be part of your life. Wishing you a lifetime of happiness and future of true love. 💗
It was so heartbreaking listening to the whole thing but I'm happy you're out of it. You deserve all the happiness in the world. I'm happy you are no longer with a person who never valued you. Lots of love ❤️
Just be grateful you guys learned this young and didn’t have to go through divorce later on with kids involved. Now you can move on and start a family with someone worth it. Also the question about telling kids.. why would you? If you remarry a good guy and have kids with him leave this in the past. It’s irrelevant to them & they wouldn’t be here if you didn’t divorce this guy.
I’m thinking the same thing about the last part. Why would you “need” to tell them? It’s not their dad. I would understand if she had a kid with that guy but she didn’t. It’s like talking about past relationships with your kids. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal and not something that needs to be brought up unless asked about. My mom only told me about one of her ex’s while I was going through a heart break. Otherwise she never would have brought it up. I’m glad it’s not just me who thinks it’s not relevant🤔
Wow you're amazing! I've been through similar when I was older and I didn't have such a positive outlook as you and didn't feel as empathetic. You're a treasure
God damn it. Your ex sounds like my first boyfriend. He acted the same way when he nonchalantly broke up with me. Horrible. I was an emotional wreck while he seemed not to have a care in the world. I am so sorry you went through this traumatic situation, but honestly you dodged a bullet at the end of the day.
that’s honestly so messed up. my ex broke up with me like that. same age difference. only difference is he wasn’t in the military. and it was a 3 hour drive back to my house it was horrible 😭 crazy similarities though. I was 15 he was 17😭😭😭 then it happened when i was 19 and he was 21. smh just so immature .
Girl I feel like we are kindred spirits.. mine was a phone call from Afghanistan while I was at work and it was I don’t want to be married anymore never got another phone call or anything...
Good that you know he wasn’t for you, you deserve happiness 💛 Also, I lived in a city that has a big army base. I used to work in a restaurant when I was 17-21 and had known a man who swore up and down he was single, turned out he was married and JUST had a baby back home. There were many other army men who were up to the same game. It seems to be normal to them This isn’t to say all army men do this but many do 🤷🏻♀️
Relationship advices: don’t date military people lol My bf was in the military he was married got a divorce a few years ago. I told him I wouldn’t date you if you were in the military 💀
Thats honestly not fair. I am a military partner, and while it isnt always easy, I wouldnt want to be with anyone else. I have met a lot of aholes and toxic people both in and outside of the military. Like in all places in life, you just have to be mindful of who you surround yourself with, and put your faith in.
I'd argue that dating military is going to show you true colors, because the temptation and being away from your partner is there for both parties. You'll either find you have a keeper or know not to waste your time!
