I was married & he cheated.. The Red Flags & How I Healed -Storytime 

Aready followed❤️🥺

we have already followed 🥺🥺🥺

You're really strong

Where is your top from?!? 😍😍

Do you have a link for the top 🥰

Exactly 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

*FACTS!* Im genuinely MINDBLOWN That she would ever get cheated on she's absolutely GORGEOUS! & Seems like such a sweet, genuine person

Right

Yesssss! Some people can’t control it and just can’t commit to just one person but can’t admit it.

@@RobbiJan i love how you are like exactly👏👏 😅😅😅 when she is saying regardless of how perfect you are.. you got cheated on 😆😆😆 and you are like yeaahhh ...so humble😅😅

Love this soooo much. Congrats on your engagement 👏🏽👏🏽

I'm curious why are you guys using black hand emojis instead of default ones when you aren't black or brown 🙏

♥️♥️♥️

You are lucky 👍👍

@@AbhinavChoudharyOfficial why does it matter what color they’re using..? 😂 it’s a color.

I ignored this in the past 😩.Lesson learned.

Omg yes it was so hard for me to accept because he never hid his phone and did it openly and instead gaslit how I felt

It’s seriously so frustrating. The last two men I’ve been in a relationship would do things like following and liking the thirst traps. There were days where it would be 3pm and I hadn’t heard from him, but was able to see the constant bikini pictures liked by him all morning and all afternoon. I brought it up to him and he broke up with me at midnight - - the night before he was coming in town to meet my family and go on our family vacay together. But I’m the problem!!!!! Lol. 💁🏻‍♀️

I'm sorry but what is thirst traps? :(

'Sexy' photos posted on social media

The significance of your words is not lost on me, and I genuinely hope my feelings resonate with yours. Despite our current physical distance, I cannot conceive of my life without her; my love for her is deep-rooted. I yearn for her return, and I'm committed to doing whatever it takes to make it happen. We've explored different paths, including therapy, in our journey toward reconciliation.

Letting someone you deeply care for go is always difficult, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual mentor who preserved the unity of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

Thank you for this direction. I'll swiftly seek her out online. I appreciate it. I'm hopeful that following this course of action will yield results for me as well; her absence weighs heavily on my heart.

You definitely should... I promise you will not regret it.

So sorry you had to go through this but for you to write this now shows how strong you are and moved on from it! You deserved better anyway so he removed his trashy self from your life, count yourself lucky. He would have done it regardless. You deserved better and he likely will cheat on his current partner too. I hope you are feeling so much better now and healed and I’m sure you will soon or later find the right guy who deserves you. Have hope and never lose it ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻

Thank you both, I have been in a happy new relationship for the past 8 years so fortunately I found new love and my health is stable

So sorry 💕

Sorry you had to go through that. Sending you lots of love

I had a LTR where my partner cheated on me and then went on to have a family with that person. It is SO painful when someone goes on to have a "successful" relationship with the person they cheated on you with. Took me so long to heal from that. Even after I thought I no longer cared it was validating to hear they did not work out in the long run.

As a woman, I would never step into another woman's marriage and I find those women disgusting. However, if it happened to me, I would say nothing, change my locks, neatly pack his crap and put it on the porch with pictures of the them together. And all that would be after I had filed for divorce and had tons of proof. If I ever ran into the other woman, I would thank her for taking out my trash.

I agree. I have a coworker who told me when she got cheated on, she mainly spoke about attacking the other woman. Of course she was upset with her ex husband, but I find it odd that she mainly talked about how she tried to get back at the other woman while she was still staying with the man.

Man is mostly too blame, but you don't have to exchange the vows to know what is morally acceptable and wrong. Your attitude is purely selfish and immature. Having sex with married man or the man who has family is wrong regardless. Seems like you were in the other woman shoes since you defend such a bad behaviour.

@@brandiphillips5775 Exactly.

@@TheTruthHurts6666 I would never do that. She can have him, let her suffer now.

DAVID JOHNSON - 👏👏👏 The world needs MORE good men like you to speak out about the benefits of fidelity!

True.. Very True...A person's heart is not something to play with just for fun or just for the thrill of it.

I love you for this comment. When u said -it’s 2021 u can screw someone everyday if u want, don’t tell someone u love them if u wanna chase after someone else, if ur not happy jjust leave……thank you, bc sometimes I think I’m crazy for feeling this same way. Feel like no one can stay faithful anymore

@@nicolecocoxoxo what is done in the dark with due time will be brought out to light, Jeh God has a plan for those who harm the innocent, they will reap what they sow...What does not kill you makes you stronger and more of a hero than a zero....

Djk33❤😍😘 you have a boyfriend how old you are

So true,they won’t stop if they haven’t been enough

My man 👊🏼

sus

Here’s our gentleman

Take good care of her❤️❤️

Simp

More men need to be like you 🎉🎉👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

So happy men like you exist 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

the "female mind"?? there is no female mind the same way there's no male mind. everybody is different. although i empathize with this woman & her horrible experience there are things that are red flags to her that i don't care about & i'm a female. every woman has a different mind that functions differently there is no "female mind" we aren't dogs.

better talk to your SO cause every person is different

@daManonthehill lol sounds like you think that you're the good man that's being passed up. You're probably not good just probably entitled.

EXACTLY

Well said 👌🏻🙌🏼

Not all cheaters want to play the field, some just want to be worship, be the number one and when they don't have it, they look for it somewhere else.

They usually can’t play the field that’s why they try to keep one woman around at at times and then cheat if there’s an opportunity here and there

@@jenneh.s649 yes that also exists, the need to seek constant validation.

I agree. The phone thing is definitely one of the biggest red flag. With my current partner, we're going 7 years and never have I ever tried checking his phone. He is the type of guy that will never live a double life.

@@bubblygirlduddett3 Never say never. I thought mines wouldn't either after 11 yrs "but he had an emotional affair with an ex. I never even thought he would do that after being together for so long. I would never used that statement again!! " he would never' as long as u dont have ur partner password for their phone. U don't know wat they are capable of.

@@samantacool152 oh God I hope not. But if God forbid it will happen. I'll be so devastated and disappointed. But i'll move on for the sake of our kids.

@@bubblygirlduddett3 I for give him but I will never forget" it's hard after things like that happens. So always leave room for in ur heart for disappointment, it's in ppl nature to disappointment other's. I just hope that never happens to u. Stay bless hun.

@@samantacool152 thanks hun. I actually have learned from a previous relationship about giving my all. I have invested so much in that relationship and it went downhill. It really is true that a cheater would always be a cheater no doubt bcos that's what happened back then. But glad I am with my now partner and all is well. Thanks God. Our relationship is always in my prayers and I always prepare myself for the unforeseeable. Take care hun xxx

This is spot on. My ex literally admitted to this being the reason they cheated. Because I didn’t give them enough attention and they craved / “it felt good” to have someone fawning over them

@@amandaleighplans so sad, and honestly those type of men almost never change. They have a complex and need therapy.

I think most of cheaters have NPD !

AKA "Narcissistic Supply"

Yup I love how this mindset (the sensical one) is slowly becoming more dominant in society as opposed to the mind numbing “sHe wAsnT gOoD eNouGh fOr hEr mAn” bs we are constantly fed.

Guys will gaslight and then tell their girl that they’re crazy. Being told you’re crazy is the first step towards the destruction of the trust in a relationship. That’s another warning sign. So if a girl gets in touch with you, it’s to let you know your guy is not being loyal. (Women should have each other’s back)

@@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger I know - I don't mean if a girl hits up another girl to say 'hey, your boyfriend is cheating on you' (I agree that women should have each others backs). I mean when the girl with the boyfriend, hits up another girl (who probably doesn't even know the girl or boyfriend and has never interacted them) all 'my boyfriend is liking photos of you so please block him'.

I notice a lot of guys manipulate their girlfriends to where they feel insecure to speak up. They feel like they are just insecure women when really their partner isn’t cultivating security. It’s twisted hut I see a lot of guys doing that.

When you're younger you don't understand that, you realize it when you get older.

its because they know they aren't going to leave them so they direct their anger and hurt at the woman. Its sad

You're watching her video because you have a gut feeling about your own man

Lol my soon to be Ex Husband always had an open phone policy, but he is a talented serial cheater I later learned. He doesn't need a phone to cheat, just a willing warm body. Many serial cheaters don't waste time with texting etc they get down to business fast with no audit trail

Or they have a 2nd phone. True story

I have no need for my husbands phone password. I trust him.

What is a relationship without trust. If they're deciding you, the truth will come out eventually. They're only digging their own grave, so be present and positive

I think you mean highly overlooked not underrated. Something underrated has inherent value whereas I think you intended it to mean gravity or weight.

@@loungewear13lol

Very true. Dealing with this now. I'm severely broken and it's been a big challenge to heal.

Agreed 100%. I speak by experience. WOMEN UNITE!!!

Exactly, I told my husband if he ever wanted out or someone else to please let me know bc I didn't want to be with anyone who didn't want me but he pretended so well to love me while telling all his side chicks he didn't want me but I wouldn't let him leave and I was cheating on him, it was so humiliating bc he told our friends the same thing. I was so embarrassed I didn't think anyone would want me after that plus he put unflattering pics of me on fb saying this is what she looks like without makeup on but it didn't work bc I'm still getting asked out 2 years later but I don't want to trust anyone yet.

Can confirm the musicians thing 😂

What about actors?

@@creamerasant same 😂 everything in the entertainment industry

extremely attractive people too cause they know they are attractive and use it to their advantage

you shouldn’t generalize. i personally know hockey and soccer professionals players and they can be really faithful. it really depends who you connect with.

Sending you love and hugs. You got this 💚💚💚

Good luck ☺️

Yup they do.

Yes! If I could do it all over again I would've handled myself better and with grace and walked away and healed like a boss instead of posting all these memes about being hurt bc I didn't know until my sister in law told me that him and his mistress followed me from a fake account and talked about me and were saying "she needs to get over it already" why on earth would a husband and his mistress follow the ex wife? Sounds like their evil together, she is married too.

Me too 😭😭😭 I feel like a spark in me is forever gone

Same. 😩 I’m still picking up the pieces.

This hits home so hard 💔💔

I sid for a long time, but once I understood narcissm and had therapy and talked to God I am coning outbof it a lot better now. Was not a nice place to be.

Geez sorry about the spelling mistakes. Sleepy. 😁

Eh not necessarily. People are young and stupid and can move on. It’s important to be open with your new spouse about your past, but that doesn’t mean they will continue to do it over and over over. Some do some don’t. It’s a case by case basis. Your generalized view of someone’s past mistakes that they will do that again, and can’t possibly ever change or grow is sad. It’s like with any bad thing whether that’s beating drugs, alcoholism, any addiction, money issues, etc, people all have pasts.

@@cocomarineblu993 Then they should change. If they don’t, it’s in the character.

People CAN change. It’s not true that ALL cheaters will do it again. SOME people learn the lessons about their stupid, selfish and destructive behavior.

Gaslighting is real

👉CHEATING 101 👈 (Written by a Betrayed in Many Relationships.) As soon as they call you ‘CRAZY’ the next thought would be: ‘HE’S DEFINITELY CHEATING!’ Calling you ‘Crazy’ is Rule #1 when a cheater is trying to get the attention off of HIM. This type of gaslighting happened to me when I was young & dumb. It initially caused me to doubt my intuition. 😂 Now I see it’s just a pathetic tactic used by a cheater who was clearly 100% a LOSER. Whenever they think you are on their trail, they turn the tables and try to put the spotlight on YOU. For people high on the scale of Narcissism, if they can also get YOU to apologize for your ‘sin’ of accusing them - they WON THE LOTTERY. Cheaters are MASTER liars and manipulators. That goes double if they are high on the scale of Narcissism.

@Jefparkn then they should not have gotten married. Unless they married a woman who doesn’t care. Just don’t be a liar. Tell women who you are and let them decide. There ARE skanky women out there. There ARE women who don’t value themselves.

@Jefparkn Then the responsibility of women to have nothing to do with them. And they choose cheaters, then they can’t complain.

@Jefparkn Who said it was the woman’s fault? I said IT IS THE RESPONSIBILITY OF WOMEN TO HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH CHEATING MEN. If a woman CHOOSES a cheater, then she is ABSOLUTELY responsible for having A MAN WHO CHEATS. Ya know, because she PICKED a man who cheats. Not a hard concept to understand. A woman is not responsible if a man cheats, but she IS responsible to choose a man who is not a known cheater.

@Jefparkn WHEN you know. If you stay, you’re not a victim, you’re volunteer.

She said she was paying his expenses. That's not what men want. She should allowed him to figure his way . She was playing the male role and doing so femenise the guy. He felt useless in that relationship. Men like to give and love when women receive with appreciation. Women should never give to guys. Plus she was 20 when she got married. That's too young.

Sorry for what u went through, it happened to me 14 years ago, (2kids 14 years) My eldest Brother said to me at the time what doesent kill u makes u stronger, and can I just tell u it is so True .

How are you guys doing today?

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Omg so true!!!!

Wow never thought about that. Comparing notes and you're so right🤔

so true! my trash ex had a gf right away like a month after we broke up but he would still text me, call me from an unknown number and even though I already changed my number so many fckn times, idk how he would still figure it out and bother me. He got “engaged” to the girl right away too 🤣 and I’m already in a happy relationship and he would still bother me and even my bf now. What a trash.

It's because it bruises their ego, they don't actually want you back, they want power over you and feel validated again by them running back to him.

@Jefparkn No never again. I am free.

I did the same and felt like i had six years of my young years taken from me. He never admitted any wrongdoing. I never looked back, and now I am happier than ever. Best wishes for you and your new, happy life!

@@mediocrebankai3114 Thank you, best wishes also to you mediocre. Doesn’t it feel wonderful to be free.

I went through that too. The sun will always shine again, even if it takes years!

that’s all “most” 🙄 men have. the AUDACITY

Obviously it's not that simple. You don't know what happened.

@@norlinz6660 it’s funny because it’s true 😂

Just goes to prove it's the person who cheats that is the issue. U can be a beautiful person in all ways a dysfunctional person is gonna cheat n any time thinking u weren't good enough is just wasted time coming back to knowing U R BOSS. AND... cuz of this ur even more strong n beautiful

@@amandaclark2340 There could be a million reasons. Maybe he didn't feel loved, or maybe she was never home or distant or maybe putting him down. Just putting it down to "the cheater is always just dysfunctional" sounds a bit like someone who doesn't want to admit their own contributions. Cheating is never okey but usually it's not just a one sided issue.

It's not the other woman's fault. The person you married betrayed you...not her.

@@chrisw9122 exactly that’s so true these married men act like they single but really married and they out here cheating on there marriage. So sad and disrespectful to the spouse which means they don’t have respect for the self or there wife’s.

Wow what a fu*king piece of s*it. Cheating on the mother of his children. Also.. Once a cheater, always a cheater i hope he cheats on that piece of trash as well

So true, his current gf stalks me on fb, she likes my pics, she probably thinks she won a prize, I left his ass after the 5th woman I caught him sexting and for 7 years every time he gets drunk he begs me to come back but I've never told his GF, he tries to hoover me by having the kids ask me to eat thanksgiving with them, nope, I'm glad I left and the kids never witnessed the abuse, he hit me once when I was pregnant and another time while I was holding our 2 yr old daughter.

@@chrisw9122 I'm aware that it's him, and him alone.

I was so scared

Alex is our man and he would never cheat on Robbi😁

PROUD 👏🏽 OF 👏🏽 YOU 💜 so glad you’re being treated the way you deserve

Well not quite. I got nudes of me flexing after the gym and I immediately said no to my gf who wanted to check my phone. So not always but most probably.

@@Mali-qw7hx Most for sure, because that's exactly what my Ex used to do, and was caught.... Now my current, makes sure I've got access to everything( including passwords), etc... Which is how it should be. You are one of few who hasn't alternate intentions when doing that...

Also some ppl have 2 phones or even more 😂

I dont check the cellphone of my husband. I find this very sick. I dont let my husband watch my cellphone, not because Im hiding something, just because I have my privacy!!! And Im sure he also wants his.

@@14loveuall I love that answer. I totally agree with you on that. Everyone should have their privacy and if you dont trust a person to the point you demand to check their phone then you shouldnt even be with that person.

If I know I guy that is cheating on his fiance.. should I tell her?

@@vanessaanders1619 I would tell him, he has to tell her, if not, you will!

@Swiss_Girl I don't want problems with him tho. I was hoping he would tell her... but it been years. I kinda wanna have someone else tell her

@@vanessaanders1619 oh no, thats hard. I wonder if she deep down knows? I had a bad feeling… or maybe tell her: someone you know saw him with another girl, but you are not sure, if it was him… kinda like that? but she deserves to know😢💔

@Swiss_Girl Maybe ... I just dont want the backlash of the drama. Plus some women are dumb enough to stay

Djk33❤😍😘 you have a boyfriend how old you are

Djk33❤😍😘 he have a boyfriend how old you are

I understand.

holy shit that hurts. ugh... i hope your life is better without him.

you made the right decision to divorce him and not stay….it’s devastating

It only made me do the same to an innocent man :( cheating messes you up I cheated on my latest ex with a woman not only because I'm gay but because I thought men are okay with cheating they all cheat it's no big deal all my straight relationships just made me hate men sm

@@justpeters8858 Where can I contact CYBERLOGICS_?

You live and you learn hun

Why marry so young. That’s not good imo. I’m really sorry you got cheated on.

Say it louder for people in the back

My dad told me this when I was in high school. Then he taught me how to change my tire so i would never NEED a man lol

I stayed drunk for 6 months bc I couldn't handle it, I finally healed and saw a pic of him in my memories yesterday and cried for the first time in a long time. I was married to a lie, he pretended to love me but secretly hated me and told people awful rumors about me while we were married and I didn't find out til after plus he was taking his mistress around our friends and justified it by saying I was cheating on him. I don't know who I was married to, for real sleeping with the enemy.

You got this sis! Praying 4 you

Right back at you 💕

Hello do you need help ? I can recommend you to someone that helpe eme restore back my broken marriage and he can also help you as he did mine too

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Whtsapp him directly

Cheating usually isn’t about looks.

Agree 100% - I couldn’t have done it without Jesus. 💕 “I can do ALL things through Christ.” - Philippians

Forrealll👏

Haha all they will say is that she married chad and that’s why she got cheated on

You are so right! Wow!

Becca Vry,You are beautiful 🌷,Hope you are with a good man!

My heart goes out to you my love. You got this ❤️

👏👏👏

Agreed. I’m going through divorce absolutely horrible . Thank God for Jesus✝️♥️ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Tb3Q4nRQjVY.html

Cheaters are greedy and they always want MORE. More variety, more options, more frequent s*x, etc. This is exactly why women say men are pigs!

Surprisingly, cheating has little to do with physical appearance. More than one Psychologist has said the other woman is usually a downgrade from the Wife. Clearly, one has to feel somewhat attracted to someone for this evil to happen - but cheating is often more about connection, validation and feeling (so-called) ‘loved’ 🤢 than it is about physical appearance. Dr. Phil’s episodes on Mistresses shows how scarily average and unattractive these women really are. Out of YEARS of studying infidelity I have NEVER seen any other woman who was above a ‘6’ (and that’s being generous.) They seem to usually be average looking and sometimes scarily unattractive. NONE of the numerous other women I have seen would turn anyone’s head out in public. NONE of them would be hired for modeling jobs! The main draw of these women is: - They give the cheater attention and - They’ll participate in Adultery. TRAITS OF A MISTRESS: 1. Desperate enough to drop their previously held values. 2. Lonely because they can’t get a man of their own. 3. Low self esteem. 4. Broken. Men don’t cheat on their Wives because SHE is not enough. They cheat because THEY are not enough. No one is perfect. Cheaters use the Wife’s faults as justification for what they KNOW is wrong. Cheaters need serious therapy because are broken people, too. Cheating is SICK and SAD and DESTRUCTIVE. NO ONE wins in an affair. Only 3% of Mistresses marry the cheater. Over 85% of those marriages end in divorce. With odds like that, anyone would be as dumb as a box of rocks to think having an affair would be a good idea. The problem is, these people are NOT thinking logically because they are being led by EMOTIONS. GET A CLUE PEOPLE. HAVING AN AFFAIR CAN VERY LIKELY WRECK YOU! Consider yourself warned.

good to know there are decent men out there

@@saga2828 Appreciate that

I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate

He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay

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