HE WANTS TO LIVE NEXT TO HIS PARENTS! 

RUN GIRL!!! Ultimatums are a big red flag 🚩

I personally would not marry someone who doesn't ask me and make big decisions on his own. This shows that he doesn't respect your opinion.

Can never get over how stunning Dina is

It's giving me big "it's my way or the highway" energy

He seems inconsiderate and manipulative 🤢 going to his parents first and then an ultimatum?? The audacity

I feel like Sid and Dina spend time guessing the situation. Instead people need to give specific details. So Sid + Dina can clearly understand everything and answer accordingly.

Simple He’s creating a “non negotiable “ to end the relationship but make you out to be the bad guy. It happens all the time. Sorry love. Ask Allah to send you someone better and worthy of you 🤍🤍

Ngl he got you Dina with the “HAI GUYS” 😂😂😂😂😭😭😭 love y’all ugh my faves

No woman wants to live THAT close to their inlaws. Sorry. I want my own space.

Please don’t marry someone who makes decisions in this way

I agree with Dina, he doesn’t value her as a person. That’s a major red flag for me and I’d probably just end the relationship and find someone who values and respects me as a human being.

Kinda sounds like this dude has been thinking/planning this for a long time... If he doesn't care about how she feels about a major decision in "their' lives.. might not be the one for her.. marriage is a job that you work for the rest of your life, day in and day out!! I believe he isn't really wanting a marriage!! Just his way!! It was to easy for him to say, (with or without you being my wife) not a good quality and a husband at all!!!

My husband is the same and it’s causes massive arguments! If this is not something you want and you know it’s not within you to force yourself into a situation, do not got forward. Sid and Dina are right, they can live near by. And you were definitely not part of the decision, a major factor that affects your life - which matter, you matter!! Think hard about your decision, and don’t be afraid to fight for what you want. ✌🏽

I’m with the girl on this one BECAUSE she never said NO to him. She gave him another reasonable respectful option which is ”we can still take care of them but they don’t have to live this close”. Yet he said: either you do as I say or we go seperste ways. She was willing to compromise but he is just stubborn. People like that who can’t compromise will always try to get their way and suppress their partner over and over again .

DON’T MARRY HIM! I understand he’s not rich and buying a duplex is much cheaper and convenient than buying two houses on the same road. If you marry hun you’re signing the rest of your life to taking care of his parents that’s exactly what he is looking for so know what you’re getting into and if you want the fairytale it is NOT with him ❤️

i understand the desire to live close to be able to take care of aging parents - however, the guy in this case did not go about that properly. it should always feel like conversation and compromise, not ultimatums thrown down. in kind of a related topic, i wonder how he would have reacted if she had proposed the same idea for her own parents. In asian cultures especially (pakistani, indian etc), the boy's parents tend to take priority so it's been normalized for the girl to move with all of them. this type of traditional thinking worries me as an only girl child because i too want to take care of my parents as they age.

Apart from all the points you guys mentioned, another problem is what is he dumps 100% of the caring of his parents on his wife later on. Since he didn’t even take her opinion for this, he might not care to ask her about that. He will say he’s too busy with work and she might have to run back and forth between taking care of her home, hopefully the kids inshaaAllah and then his parents 😳

I agree with Dina. The issue is that he’s made this decision without her and is forcing her to go through with it rather than the fact that he wants to live with his parents. This generation has a big thing against living with parents for some reason but to each to their own I guess. My point is, if you want to live with your parents after marriage then consult that with your partner as soon as the relationship is beginning to get serious and possibly heading towards marriage, not after the marriage is fixed and definitely not after the wedding. Vice versa, if you are a person that do not want to live with yours or your spouse’s parents after marriage, get it out there and make sure they are aware when things are getting serious. Stop forcing them to live with your parents or forcing them to leave their parents, that’s not healthy. Young people are often too wrapped up in emotions and ‘love’ that they become desperate to change a whole person just to fit their life which doesn’t seem too bad at first until a year into marriage and everything collapses because you realise you have become a complete different person for a person you no longer get butterflies for. Be realistic about marriage. It’s not all sunshine and sparkles, it’s the promise to literally spend every day of your life including the good and the bad with them. Making every decisions together. Being a good and strong team.

Dina's love language is to bully sid xD

The title messed with my head 😂

The cat content was much appreciated 😍

Well she should agree and get her parents there as well, let's see how that goes

The problem is he didn’t talk to his wife first about it and now he’s giving her ultimatum wow. That’s super unfair. A marriage is about sacrifice/compromise, he is not even trying to compromise. At least maybe for the first couple of years they could live close by but not right next door. I think if he had discussed it with his future wife first, maybe she could’ve slept on it and allowed it. Because his parents are important, but he now also has to think of his wife first when making decisions. Him making that decision without discussing it with her first and giving her an ultimatum is a major red flag. If they do get married, he’ll probably behave like this and not include her decisions. I personally would call off the marriage but they can work it out.

Sis needs to run for the hills. Imagine him handling situations this way? 'Oh if it's not my way then i'll end the relationship'. He sounds weak and pathetic. He disrespected his gf and took her out of the equation when the decision affects them both equally. Writing is on the wall for the kinda husband he will be!

Salaam from Mauritius 🇲🇺 Love the couch videos, especially on a sunday afternoon 😁

Yeah sounds like my way or the high way situation my ex was like this. Huge red flag.

I totally agree with both of you, it’s so selfish of him not to tell her first. He’s right by wanting his parents close to look after them but there are other possibilities like living in the same neighbourhood or even city if he has a car.. But bro the ultimatum thing is a bigggg red flag!! They’ve been together for 1 year and he would end it all even though they can find an agreement. Sis ruuuun

I’m in this situation now and let me just tell you something, he will never choose you over his parents and unless they are good people, amazing people, the best people on the planet, better then your own parents, the best Muslims you know, get out now, consider the ultimatum a blessing. No judgment, but nothing that didn’t start halal could ever be halal. Get out.

i didn’t realise how much i missed you guys 🥺🥺🥺

Such a gorgeous couple inside and out!

Awwwww Sid!! That was so nice at the end when u mentioned about your mum. 🙂👌 Love watching Sid and Dina ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐🤩

When Sid drank his coffee and then made a face about the topic and what he said, Dina didn’t even clock on, she carried on! I was laughing my head off! 16:43 sec lmao! 😂😂😂 On a serious note love the video, some people need telling that you do things for people naturally you create a bond. It’s not a game x

Warning: narcissists will promise to buy something w you to get what they want from you eg. Live with my parents. If he comes back later as if nothing happened then he probably has a "harem closet" somewhere. If he doesn't ignore you for a while then maybe he rethought what he said (in which case he really just wants to be there for his parents) but some narcissists have a narcissistic parent which is another reason they want to be near the parent (bc they're under the thumb of their mom or dad) find out. I don't agree with "dating" anyway but its their life.

Chaplin is so beautiful!!!!

Sid and dina are hilarious love them!

this is why I want to get married in my 30s and be financially independent so a man can't "control" me because I will have my own money and sadly thats the only way some men will respect a women

Your cat has distracted me from the story 😅. Too cute ❤️❤️❤️

5:26 the way Dina said Sorry 😆😆😆

I LOVE HOW SID LOOKS AT THINGS

That is one cute cat.

He's gonna keep pulling stunts like this! Break up.

Title is wrong 😂 love you both

Ultimatums are the beginning of the end. It's like a toddler throwing a tantrum to try and get their way. I'd walk away now from him because it'll happen again and again and again

ok this is not related whatsoever but 4 mins in and it's the third time my brain goes "dina looks so pretty" 🥺🥰 mashaAllahhh

Sid was really being a meme at 16:46 hoping that Dina would notice and laugh but she didn’t lol

The conclusion: you’re almost always helpless 😂😂😂

Leave him sis but also respect that he has vision for his future. He doesn’t need to compromise but neither do you!

Video yesterday and another video today, i am living for it!!!!! I love you DINAAAA!!!

I'm nowhere close to getting married and here i am watching marriage based content 😂😭

Was anyone else staring at the cat the entire time 😄

Communication! A huge part of any relationship. There are alot of factors to consider here. We don't know how bad is his parents condition. If he is a care taker and she does want anything to do with that then that is pretty harsh. You marry each other's families too. So there are alot of unknowns. But true both parties need not to give ultimatum. It will create resentments at the end. Not healthy...so better to put healthy boundaries around the relationship early on. This is a very hard topic when it comes to parents. My son is struggling with this issue, ironically its his wife who lacks Communication. We as parents stay out of it, but my son is hurting and they are only married for 6 months. Knows each other for over a year. So we are giving him sound wisdom to get his wife to see his point also. I think the biggest eye awakening for my son was when we here in US we had wild fires and all our counties were getting evacuation notices, she only thought about herself and her parents. Not understanding that her husband too has parents and he will make sure we are ok too. It was very hurtful. So like I said married couples have to view parents as one unit also when it comes to some important things. We all grew up and lived very close to my parents, so my son is a family person. May Allah give them wisdom to get through the Communication and their relationship.

i love the thumbnail, Sid looks so reactive and Dina looks so meh about it 😂😂

Sid has such great big bro + decent guy vibes! Much respect for you

I understand him considering his parents as his first priority and him wanting them right next door - HOWEVER, ultimatums? Thats a massive NO NO! So even if you guys have been dating for a year and it's time to discuss about marriage ; don't. You deserve someone who does consider you in the equation and does value your thoughts and opinions than end it with "my way or the high way", especially when there are a lot of issues that will come up after getting married.

what's a duplex is it 2 separate flats next to each other with separate entrances and separate kitchen or is it same flat on different floors or something if its 2 flats with separate entrances that's a luxury there's bare husbands that make the wife live in the same house with parents and out of love the wife does it because his parents are old. if its separate entrances what more privacy do u want atleast he dindt ask u to move into the same house.

I totally agree with Sid and Dee. I know it’d be hard to leave, but it’s only going to get harder. Don’t get yourself stuck in a bad situation. See how he responds after you give it to him straight, like Sid said, tell him you’re leaning toward breaking and why. Make sure you stay calm and break up the argument in a concise manner. Who knows, he may agree with you and see why his actions are toxic, but if he continues with his way or highway, drop him hun.

That was really good advice. Thank you guys. You give me hope for “Muslim marriage institution”

I INSTANTLY CLICKED ON THE VIDEO AS SOON AS I GOT A NOTIF

He is choosing convenience for himself over her comfort. Like Sid and Dina mentioned, it’s possible to look after this guy’s parents if they live in the same neighbourhood. He doesn’t want to make the effort to travel this short distance but expects this girl or woman to be okay with something that she is not okay or comfortable with. He is choosing his own happiness over yours. Kick his ass for being selfish, not for wanting to take care of his family.

Ultimatum? Run, sis!

It sounds like he wants her to take care of his parents, typical in many cultures. What if the woman wants to take care of her own parents? Why do guys think their family comes first? Boy bye

I have a feeling she would have just been stuck looking after the in laws by herself rather than the guy actually looking after them for the majority of the time. She wouldn't really be able to give him any excuses as he would say well they're only next door. Definitely major red flag with the ultimatum I think to him it doesn't really matter who he is with he wants a carer

I mean can we just talk about the consistency for a sec ?! Whatever got you back am so glad for it. Missed you guys so much❤️❤️

I think he is trying to see whether he can manipulate you and continue doing this later on. I do not think he will break up, he will back track and see that his mind games are not working with you. Stand your grounds.

It would be so good if we could have an update on these after. Like what actually happened after they took your advise on? Obviously if they get back to you that is.

The fact that he gave her a ultimate is so wrong on so many levels. Why should she put her feeling aside to plz everyone but herself. NO. It’s not fair. Why does the daughter-in-law always get the shit and can’t have a voice. It’s either a joint decision or it’s not happening. Like Dina said why cant they move close by, not next door. Which newly married couple wants their In-laws a wall away ... girl I’d say really think about this situation. This is a big thing and if your truly not happy don’t do it to plz people. Remember you Matter too.. 🙏🏻

At this stage in a relationship, he can do what he feels would be best for the parents, and also his future with you...and if this is already causing problems then you need to rethink before getting married to this person

I needed this after the crazy work day I’ve had! Thanks Sid and Dina!

When they start singing Circle of Life lol!

Aww HEEELLLLLL YEAH! *Jenna* *Marbles* *voice*

But is it really lazy? He could be looking for a duplex as it could be more accessible financially opposed to having two separate properties. Can't judge without all the info

Girlie runnnn infact SPRINTTTT

Watching Sid sip his Tea makes me want a Tea with Sid segment. Idky!

Exactly what's with the "ultimatum"? When he didn't even ask YOU, his WIFE before he made a decision? What type of a relationship is this? Business deal? Just BECAUSE they are his parents does NOT mean *automatically* they are yours and that he does not *consult* you. I have like zero tolerance for a fake man like that. But I'd smell that a mile away and never marry. But of course you both know each other, so clearly chose to marry one another so there's obviously more to this understanding and misunderstanding... hopefully it is all sorted out. Sorry sister you had to go through this, I would automatically feel distrust from my husband and feel like an outsider if he did that. :( Everyone should respect one another. The End.

Exactly the fact that he gave an ultimatum is just....😤😤😤😤😤

i really hope this video doesnt reach her too late...girl run

Sid said stupid enta 😂😂😂😂😂

For me it's the ultimatum. She has to think will he be this way with every decision? Im not saying he can't be the way he is,the way he talked it through with his parents without her present can be discussed. That was wrong. But what should have been discussed at the beginning of the relationship was his expectation to be the last word in decision making.Had she known I bet she would have thought twice about marrying him. He may have found a woman who doesn't mind living next to his parents,a woman who is okay with letting her husband make the decisions.🤷🏾‍♀️ It doesn't matter if he's thinks its for the happiness of his family,and it shouldn't matter if he is paying everything.Its a marriage and decisions and moves are decided together. Divorce should never be wielded like a weapon.

im so glad you guys brought these videos back

I don't think theres anything wrong living next door to your parents. Having said that, the ultimatum thing is wrong

I like Sid's advice, talk to him and explain why this isn't okay. If he's still defensive and doesn't understand what he did wrong, let the relationship end. But it at least gives him the opportunity to think about it from her perspective. Also wanted to add, for those who say islamically the sons need to take care of their parents, that's fine but keep in mind that there are situations in which there is no son. I am a woman and with only a sister, so it's going to have to fall on us daughters to take care of our parents.

Just binge watching these! Dina looks amazing in all the videos, she needs to drop a morning / night time routine

I really wish everyone was as logical as this 😂😂😂😂

You need to give him an ultimatum, that you guys wouldn't base any decesions on a ultimatum😉

do you have any tips on moving out away from parents for the first time? i went away for uni which was fine but now i've gotten a job quite far away and i keep getting paranoid of leaving them :( (i think i have separation anxiety)

Parents 1st always

Awww Chaplin!!! 🥺🥺🥺🥺💞💞💞💞

Hahah I already liked it, before watching it. Missed you 2!

How is her privacy violated if parents live next door.. and not under same roof. So much paranoia is not good

Your cat 🐈 is HENCH 😻

Miss Sid and Dina. 😍

Been following you for so many years now and have loved the journey!!!

Guys it's a Sunday yeah and I only have two brain cells working in shifts, so could you fix up the title pls

AHHHHH ANOTHER VIDEO SOOO HAPPYYYY 😭😭❤️❤️

It’s a huge red flag and an indicator to how he’s going to be dealing with you dear. If he’s doing it now, it will continue.

I do the HI GUYS things looool seeing dinas cat love her and then turning to my cat watching it shit.. Niceee

LIKE A PROPER WEIRDO 😂

You look so similar!! :) like Brother and sister!! Thanks for the new video :))

Ultimatum is his way of emotional blackmailing and this trait will carry on..he is confident that u will agree..he doesn’t want to lose face from his family or maybe he’s not even approach his parents but made the whole thing up to give you no choice..I would think twice red flags..take the hurt now..

Yayyyyyy I love these videos !!