NO ATTRACTION AFTER MARRIAGE! 

😂😂😂😂 “so hot when you clean and do the dishes”

I feel like women or men should look at the opposite gender when there married because it causes problems like this

I remember watching the show The Real. Tamera also says she is attracted to her husband when he does chores. I think many woman do apparently. 😂🤷‍♀️

Honestly, I find it really sexy too when a man does the dishes 🤤

fix the audio sid and dina! pleaaase my ears

That was so funny

Sum Umar I love their videos so much

LOLLL yeah 🤣

Was that the 1 where they would do it in a prayer rooom ?

AdamLdn who tf knows 🤣🤣🤣😂

​@will de why do you feel entitled to give your opinion when no one asked...?

Sex is two way street lady

Biggest bullshit I’ve ever heard. Sex is non transactional. Do u find a ‘hot’ guy attractive cuz he cooks and cleans for you? NO. You find him attractive cuz he’s Hot & acts like a man. Men don’t listen to women. You don’t ask a fish in how to fish. You ask the fisherman. Women are easy to work out. Be Hot, be A man, be in shape, be sexually Attractive & make her orgasm. Simple. Don’t over complicate this shit.

TMZ 142 what are you even saying?? some people find acts of service attractive and that’s okay. what does it even mean to act like a man?

fai ali what does it mean to act like a man? The same thing it meant since the dawn of time which is a minimum of 4 millions years. Take you’re ‘Woke’ modern day Social programming somewhere else. What does it mean to be a man god 🤦‍♂️

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@@StikManJones I totally agree with you! The spark comes and goes and it takes a lot more than that to keep a relationship going.

Same with a woman.

What do you exactly mean by “work hard” what kind of things do you have to do to keep it P.s I’m not married yet but scared to lose that spark too along the way and I ask myself sometimes

@@rukiawarsame4794 communicate talk about your desires etc

@@rukiawarsame4794 I think she means you have to make an effort in marriages because it can get boring if that makes sense. You have to do things to keep marriage exciting and fresh. Like whether it's dressing up, going out for dinner dates, romantic getaways, or just doing things in the bedroom a bit differently it just depends on what your partner likes and the effort has always has to be mutual!! You don't have to go out your way but as I said it's an individual preference after a few years into marriage you'll see what I mean but at the moment don't stress if you're single. You learn as you go along the way. Enjoy the single life x

Yes I think she means make sacrifices and make time with each other

@@saraleena007 thats exactly what I mean

@boimackhead true, I hope she doesn't hurt his feelings. She can approach him in a kind manner.

@boimackhead maybe its sad but at least she will try to change some stuff and the husband needs to say what he wants her to be like ..can buy her the type of clothes he likes on her.. talk more ..then they can find the spark again ..better thinking everything is fime when its not .. n it may get worse with time! Dont u think?

and I oop-

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Isnt that different? This girl does have sexual desires, for other men though, not him.

She has fantasies and desire about other men, but isn't sexually attracted to her hhsband

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It’s normal tho lol

This issue is normal.

it's hardly many, you see like 4 stories out of millions of people who are married lol

In this day of age it's pretty normal and expected. With all the unrealistic looking relationships and people being shown in society nowadays, we lose track of reality. Self reflection is important🙆‍♀️

@@maysal2801 the divorce rates have never been higher sadly. The statistics are depressing

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Alhamdulillah worth it with the right person.

@zahra saani That may be the case for some but not all. For me, I come from a family that is not religious but culturally strict, so before I got married even basic things like me going the masjid to attend classes was sometimes seen as 'not caring for my family'. I had so many negative things that people would say e.g. "you need to learnt to cook coz nobody's gonna wana marry you just coz you pray" and things like that. Alhamdulillah I married a man who is religious but not robotic and his entire family are the same. So for me, after I got married, then I was able to do things freely e.g. attending classes and meeting up with friends and going swimming or going to the gym etc. My husband is supportive and encouraging and let's me do what I want. He has no problem that i don't know how to cook or do anything domestic coz in his eyes having a wife who doesn't engage in gossip etc is more valuable. With him, Alhamdulillah I have been able to travel to different countries too, Allaahummaa baarik. He has no problem that I'm not domestic, or that I don't wear makeup etc, and he admires and respects that I am strong when it comes to my principles. He tells me to ignore the people who think I'm rude. He always tells me the way I am is just perfect for him. We were colleagues and what stood out for him is when I went against the Management in the company, lol. This is what made him take notice. I have not changed who I am, I have not compromised anything. I have been married about 2.5 years and Alhamdulillah he is still the supportive man I married at the beginning who doesn't keep me locked up in the house or stuck to his hip. He is the person who is my partner who has become my safe space to be vulnerable, who likes me challenging his views, and who is my rock, Allaahummaa baarik. Oops - didn't realise this would become an essay 🤭

@zahra saani I have spent most of my life feeling rejected. I'm not pretty enough, not light skinned, too headstrong, not domestic, too loud, too short, can't speak native language etc. I always pictured marriage as a compromise and something I'd do just coz I have to, and even if I marry someone of my own choice it still would be unhappy marriage somehow. But Alhamdulillah, my husband loves my 'flaws', same with my in-laws. I don't get any grief nor do they expect anything from me. The only compromise we have both had to do was decorating the bedroom (I love pink and floral things, lol), and regarding finances, Alhamdulillah we both agreed we didn't want to be in debt in order to get married so we never took out huge loan, the dowry was what he could afford, and we don't buy things on finance. The only hardship I had was towards the beginning where I found "being spoilt" wasn't happening but I didn't complain coz that was coz we had to look after own money since we didn't have loans and just got married etc and had other expenses e.g. car and home etc. This hardship was coz I had romantic views instead of real views. He still treated me and surprised me of course but not to the extent I thought he would. Anyway, now our finances are better and we're stronger. He also notices little things about me and encourages me to to share with the world. Alhamdulillah we have never had a moment where we hated each other. We have always gone to bed resolving our problems. It's hard to change your life from thinking about yourself to thinking about both of you, but for me, Alhamdulillah it's a minor thing. Allaahummaa baarik, I feel blessed. Don't get discouraged from getting married when YOU are ready with the RIGHT person, Alhamdulillah it is worth it having someone who truly cares for you and wants to make you shine

@zahra saani Jazakillaahu Khairan. Btw, I got married over age of 30 where people are more set in their ways, and Alhamdulillah it has been fine. Make dua for a blessed marriage and someone who accepts you for you, and in shaa Allah you'll be fine

@zahra saani I wasn't pressured to get married. I think more than anything people felt sorry for me for being single at that age and that's what bothered me. It was difficult having people like my cv and then rejecting me when they see my photo, but my single life wasn't spent "I need to get married!", my single life was spent enjoying and learning things about myself and trying things. This had limits so when I got married Alhamdulillah I didn't have limits coz my husband always encourages me to do more of what I love. People probably thought "oh she married someone who settled for her" but the truth is, marriage talks had come for us for each other and he always agreed and I always said no coz I didn't wana deal with rejection from someone who people say is 'perfect' for me. Anyway, turns out we were colleagues! Bengali people have official names and then family names so we only knew each other at work by our official names yet families would talk to us about each other using our family names. Anyway, he was interested in me for marriage at work and then found out I was the girl his family had told him about, so now he also knew how I was outside of work which made him even more interested. Anyway! We had been colleagues for about 2 years so when we realised who each other were and actually discussed marriage, it was what we agreed with each other. He loved me but I didn't love him til several months after marriage and Alhamdulillah he was fine with this and patient. People kept saying to me "you need to get married, you're getting old, religious guys get married at a young age!" But I always said Allah Knows when the time is right. Alhamdulillah we both got married to the type of people we wanted - we wanted someone strong and principled, and I wanted someone religious yet fun and sociable and who will accept me wholeheartedly, and Alhamdulillah I have this. Allaahummaa baarik. Hard part of getting married is trying to ignore people's comments and judgements and just putting trust in Allah.

Lmaoo

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Read this as Sid said it😂

What if he can't grow a beard

Well she can't control thinking about others. It just happens.

Yes you are right she married him because he was a nice guy but she isn't attracted to him 😬 I completely understand where she is coming from but even in Islam it says it's very very important to be attracted to your spouse now we know why that is because otherwise you will imagine yourself with others 😐

Yep and I think this is the issue they missed in the video. The woman in the email was highlighting that she doesn’t feel a strong physical/sexual attraction to her husband and you can’t force attraction.. it’s either there or it’s not. Physical attraction is the basis for building a healthy sexual relationship. I don’t think the woman felt this from the get go! But some more information would of been helpful for Sid & Dina.

@@targaryenblood well this person is not chastising her for having these thoughts.. merely highlighting the problem.

@@lailahkhan2683 This is 100% true. I dont even look at guys in that way, but what happened to me was strange. I was speaking to this guy I wasn't attracted to (in the hopes the attraction would somehow kick-in.. it didn't) and as time wore on, I found myself randomly checking out guys whenever I was out. It wasn't even intentional, it's something my mind would automatically do and I had to force myself to stop it. When the talks ended with that guy, I went back to my usual self and didn't check out guys anymore. It was very very strange thing indeed. Your mind simply cannot help who you are attracted to or when it chooses to find a person attractive. I realised that being in an unhealthy relationship dynamic (whatever you wanna call it) is actually a way bigger fitnah than being single.

This is from 2 hours ago! 😂

@@NK-eb1qh loool! My days are sooo offf. Don’t blame me though because I live in the US and the election has occupied my mind😭😭 The funny thing is the way I calculated this is because i for some stupid reason thought Tuesday, Election Day, was Nov. 5th. Hence, the election fiasco has officially claimed my brain as its home.

lmfao💀💀💀

@@kkeot 🤣🤣🤣🤷‍♂️

I'm dying right now 😝

wtffff yooo1🤣🤣🤣🤣

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Thats a really good point

Or maybe she wants a bit of fun and he's only giving her boring vanilla? Maybe hes the one who needs to get some help

@@ayeshaali1392 totally. But its not a bad thing to want boring sex. It's also not bad wanting to be creative. Both are fine. But if two partners are not on the same page, a specialist can help them come to a common ground. Or gently nudge them to communicate about their needs in a loving manner.

she should not be watching porn or any movies that have suggestive pornographic scenes? if she is indulging in such things, she needs to lower her gaze, and fast.

@@ayeshaali1392 she needs the help, her perverted activities prior to marriage is what has lead her to where she is now.

Don't think living with in laws is tbe solution 🤣 If anything it's off putting bec you have a huge lack of privacy (totally unislamic also). They won't be "in eachother's way" 24/7 if they have jobs, hobbies, commitments etc

But her hormones aren't the issue, she has sexual desires, just not for her husband 🤷🏻‍♀️. People are really missing the point.

Richie V yea true. She stated she still feels attraction just not to him

Yes, and it's a scientific fact. Especially with a 6 month old. The most important thing she has to do right now is realize she's not her regular self. So she has to cope with it, whether it's with a psychologist or a family member or a friend, maybe even her husband(without belittling him in any way). Marriage is work.

@@farimb2380 but she literally said she has a sex drive and finds other men attractive!!! Except her husband.

Sadly it's a lot more complicated with a child now involved. Let's say hypothetically she can't get that fire burning again and tries a year of therapy with her husband. Then what? Divorce, become a single mum and have very low chances of getting remarrid to someone she is actually attracted to, considering the stigma of marrying divorcees/mothers in the brown community. It really depends how important a fulfilling sex life is to her

@ 😂😂 I really Cba so I just dodge the guy when I know its coming 😬

I would rather stay single. After sometime the attraction goes out and that might lead to divorce. Also can't trust girls nowadays.

@@danielkhoury8163 marriage is a working process and progress pretty much forever. If one slacks it takes a toll and vice versa.. yes it’s hard to trust anyone these days.. date nights are important to keep the spark going. It’s all down to both parties to keep the spark going and communication is key

@@wefb3608 Yeah. In a way you are right.

what is the list mum's and wives have that you claim is endless? lmao. you are trying to hard.

@@willdei4724 what do you think

Exactly this! They need to stop generalising in all their advice videos, I know they can only know their own experiences and stuff but think about the other possibilities too, instead of giving one piece of advice for the whole video

It's an advise video they have to speak from their own experience that's how it works if you are expecting something else from them watch something else mate

@@iqrazab3625 it is exactly because it is an advise video that they shouldn't generalise. Dina talking about not being bothered doesn't relate to the woman, cos the woman is telling them she wants it just not with this person. Her issue is not not feeling it. When they generalise and assume all women are too tired and not bothered and need to be in the mood that's not helpful in an advise video where for many people that's not the case. Look im not hating I just don't think its correct to generalise like that

@@ghadeera1642 you clearly look so bothered by it just watch it for the entertainment and MOVE ON it ain't that serious. They are not required to put a disclaimer everytime that ohhh we are not generallizing. They have said in their videos before that they speak from their OWN experience. You don't understand the meaning of advice they share their opinion and they can't talk about everyones POV bcz the video will be hrs long! you don't like the advice just don't watch it PERIODTTT.

@@iqrazab3625 why u so bothered by me? Lmaooo they are generalising. Im entertained and love them as a couple, and I am also allowed to have an opinion. Thanks

Maybe he's just not good in bed and could be quite selfish bang bang thank you ma'am 😫

I agree, most people go into marriages with expectations thats are not realistic, marriage is no bollywood movie or 50 shades of grey sex its sumthing u have to work on, compromise, adapt and better it constantly, that's up to u and ur partner communicating and supporting one another

Many couples have great sex lives, for the ones who dont, they are not on the same level either natural imbalance of hormones or just not attracted to each other, or they be looking outside of marriage and the one they have wont be attractive anymore.

Or maybe she’s just not physically attracted. It would be hard to put in effort if your physically find someone ugly

@@flabbytobaddie she had a love marriage she was physically attracted to him its just after its fizzled out

I dont understand ppl who marry ppl theyre not attracted to. Like how do you just overlook that

@@ye23. parents force them, arrange marriages

Pakistani Khan not all the time. I know ppl who willingly married someone they dont physically find attractive (they married for other reasons like personality or deen, etc). Btw islamically its haram to force ppl into marriage. Ppl do have a right to choose who they want to marry

Sid’s reaction though loool

What does she mean by role play all I imagine is naughty latex outfits 😭😭