SCARED TO HAVE SEX!.. DOES IT HURT? *TMI* 

Exactly. He’s patient and kind and he must love you. Take your time and enjoy each others company. It will happen!

This should be the norm

Right

The standards here are SO low 😂 applauding someone for not forcing/pressuring their wife into sex wowww

@@lucymillar2066 you are missing the point.. but go off miss high standards

You’ve made me cry. I’m in the same situation. You’ve given me hope, I feel like I’m useless because I’m so scared. Thank you so so much and god bless you for eternity for putting this comment.

Did it hurt sis? I am on same boat... 2 years🥺🥺

@@nadiratabassumpapri4639 If your in a haram relationship dont have sex. Its one of the biggest sins in islam. Just research for 30 mins the effects of zina on the mind soul morality and from a islamic perceptive. May Allah protect us all from zina ameen.

@@suhulahmed7422 I am a married person.. do u really think a Muslim girl will do a Haram relationship?

I got married recently it's been 4 months now and it's still taking time for me to overcome this fear. Buy my husband is a good man 🦋

Agreed! But most men are terrible at it 😒

Absolutely idk why they didn't speak about that

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Even in Islamic view the Prophet sallalaahu alayhi wa salam FORBADE men to come up to their women WITHOUT foreplay!

I agree. But most men just wanna get it going for them without caring about pleasing their wife

Me too 🤣🤣😂😁

Your comment is so important! Went though the same as you and it took quite a while to build down that mentality

I am struggling with vaginismus currently and it is so difficult for me. Feels impossible to overcome 😭

@@LittleMissPharmacist_ oh my dear don‘t worry and don‘t put pressure on you for having those difficulties at the moment ❤️ there‘s nothing wrong with you and your body, all you need to show your body is that there is no danger when something is penetrating your vagina, be that during sex, at the gynecologist or when you out a Tampon into you ❤️ what helped me overcome my vaginism was to „train“ myself with dilators, these are tools that you can get at the pharmacy (at least here in Germany) or online at Amazon. I got them made out of silicone and they came in 5 different sizes, from very small (like finger size) to bigger. These tools are also used by sex therapist (which are basically specialized when there are problems evolving regarding having sex etc.). I basically trained my vagina with that tool by myself and helped my body to unbuild that anxiety regarding penetration and helped it to feel for itself that it is capable of any size of penetration as long as I‘m relaxed. I slowly did that over time and finally after like training myself for 1-2 Months I was finally able to have sex with my husband and not feel pain while having it. It‘s been quite a sad and depressing time for me till I was able to have no pain during penetration because I felt like as if I‘m unworthy and overall not women enough because I always had so much pain. Looking back I wished I where more kinder to myself and would have been much more gentler with myself because my body was only trying to tell me that it‘s not feeling good, mentally and physically - I hope this helps you a little bit and I hope you‘re being gentle and kind to yourself because there‘s nothing wrong with you and your body ❤️❤️❤️

@@fr3agy thank you so much for this lovely message. I really needed to hear this!! Inshallah I can overcome this soon xxx

@@fr3agy Thank you do much for your comments ladies. It's really helpful

Don't be a hater. Think good.

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It’s not haram to talk about this don’t think so

He talks wayyyyyyy too fast 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭

Yeah I hate that mentality. It promotes marital rape. And its so damaging for women. And some husbands use that against their wives and manipulate them and harm them. Marital rape is really big problem in our communities. My husband told me that once and I was like if you want this to be a good marriage you will never say that to me again. And you will respect my "no". I don't care what scholars and imams say. They don't have to live on my body.

@@hyrunnisa997 lol you do realise Islam encourages this ‘marital rape’ you’re referring to. The angels will curse the woman who denies her husband and all that biz. You might want to read up a bit more about all the cruel and inhumane things your favourite prophet cane out with.

@@hyrunnisa997 I hâte this mentality too. It is utmostly scary. Actually it is even the reason why I fear men because what will heppen if I ever have a husband like that ? May Allah protect us, I'd rather observe celibacy my whole life than have a coercive husband.

@@axelx3923 And it is extremely problematic, that's also the reason why I said that I'll pray for a caring husband because the thought of your absolution being in the hand of another person, a person that could potentially make you miserable is scary. That being said, I Think you should be respect people spirituality. If Harm have been done, it is to be understand within the context of the time. Conflict and war always Bring along misery no Matter which side you're in.

@@axelx3923 I know what hadith says. Didn't you read what I said earlier? It doesn't matter to me. If husband's want a good relationship with their wives they will never follow those hadith.

I didn’t even realize that until you said so...periods:pain, pregnancy:pain, sex for the first time:pain, beauty:pain

Agree but overcoming the pain is our strength, you can’t deny

@@adwoatumtum not forgetting getting waxed. the pain is unbearable sometimes 😣

@@saniaf258true but in this case I really dont want pain to be part of it ,but Allah designed it this way so I have no objection! May Allah rewarded us for the pain we go through 🤲

@@nussy3652 what about period cramps 😩😩 your so right sometimes its unbearable!

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exactly people need to stop mixing up religion and cultures. So many issues come from the culture and not the religion itself but the religion still gets blamed.

@@munazaahmad6389 but the religion is clear that a woman has to satisfy the man's needs

@@fn33338 send me reliable sources x and pretty sure our religion states that a man needs to satisfy his wife's needs too x

@@munazaahmad6389 well you have just admitted its in the Qu'ran 😂 so you accept that religion does have a part to play when it comes to marriage and sex.

Islam promotes feminism. It was the first religion to grant women the right to own land. It’s more so culture that oppresses women rather than Islam.

@WOMAN LIKE ME I feel like by commenting this you’re kind of disregarding all the misogyny and sexism which is very much prevalent in Islamic communities today. I agree Islam is definitely not this way but there’s no doubt that many Muslims are. Also about the university you mentioned, its true it was founded by a Muslim woman but women could only attend in the late 1940s so it doesn’t really prove your point.

It's a shame that you don't know much about Muslim women. Islam liberated women and gave them rights at a time when the western world were still discussing if women had souls

Lol talk about a backhanded compliment

There Is nothing to be surprised of tbh

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oscar for best supporting actor goes to the croissant tbh

Same lol

HAD ME DYING

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HAHAH

Literally 😂😂💀

That's great! Hope you have a blessed life

Periodt! may Allah help you on your journey 💜

Foreplay is super important!

Definitely, even for young Christians.

I think it will be our generation who will really start to have these convos with our kids. Our parents generation, especially those that came to the West and have strong cultural and religious beliefs - not so much.

where u from? and r u Married?

Its actually a disgusting practice. Makes me sick

@@ye23. super disgusting !!

Me too😂

Wheres ur place? are u Married??

it's not a muscle. but yes it's porous so fluids can come through.

Yes, sorry, it’s a thin tissue* not muscle

Ikrrr i love how these muslim young youtubers r educating people on these srs sensitive matter. They have a big platform and can reach many people. Young people look up to influencers and seek their advice and they deal quite maturely about it which is very helpful. They r doing a good job addressing this someone's gotta do it hahaha these youtubers r our saviours🤣

@@nahiedlaila9601 Literally, so true! Don’t think they understand how much they’re helping people. May Allah (SWT) always bless them and keep them happy, Ameen🥺

@@aisharashid989 exactlyyy! Yesss ameen🙏❤❤

Gone a year and no actual sex? Woah, how do you cope? :o

@@teneshalulu2482 probably the same way she coped the length of time before she got married..... 🤨 wym.... @smartipants123 take your time sis, you have your whole life to have sex. You’ll get there in’sha’Allah. You can enjoy your marriage in every other way until you are comfortable 🤎🤎

@@breezeybee Thanks, Inshaallah I can get over the fear and relax soon. I’m praying for you to have a blessed married life too. 💕

Same 🤣🤣🤣

cz shes used to it by now 😂