When Her came out on theaters I had just broken up with my boyfriend of a year and a half, who I met on a semester abroad. We only spent 5 months physically together and our relationship was mostly based on Skype. This movie GOT to me, it was TOO REAL for me. I was SOBBING while the credits were rolling. SOBBING. My friend was so freaked out, she didn't know what to do. It was so so so weird, I had never had that with ANY movie. Amazing film.
I understand how you feel. I was in love with a man I met doing a language exchange on Skype. It felt very real, and I hated to realize how impractical it was.
I watch this documentary ever so often, I really think about it and how others perceive love and I guess we all need love but achieving and keep it is one of the hardest thing. It's mostly the middle part that really gets to me, all these raw emotions and feelings and even though they are someone else words, I can relate to them all. Such a powerful, beautiful piece relating to a fantastic movie.
WednesdaysAttack exactly. when they start discussing why relationships end and the after effects the emotional toll is ineffable and you sorta put yourself in this circle of pain that you want to get out but you don't want to at the same time because you don't ever want to feel that way again. it's hell.
I love that Jonze got to have his own film relationship with Scarlett Johansson after his wife, Sophia Coppola did so well with her. It was a wonderful creative 3 way.
Am I the only one who wants to be loved, but when someone arrives and gives us what we want, we immediately close ourselves? I really think I have a problem with intimacy.
Does anyone realises that this movie is not just about the fact that love can be felt in different ways! There is a scene where Theodore starts panicking because Samantha (O.S.) was missing and he was running desperately and then at some point he looked around and saw that nearly 95% of the people that he saw were doing the same thing... Going home or going somewhere talking to their O.S. and I think that's when Theodore realised that there's nothing special except the fact that he feels it that's why the movie ended the way it ended. Showing people that love should be love! ... someone who loves you the same way back and to grow old together!
I've been married for almost 2 decades. One thing I've learned is to never expect your spouse to fulfill your needs most of the time. And, there's more than one "soul mates" we can bond with. Finally, love is conditional in practice.
This video never loses its poignancy for me. I refer to it every so often to simultaneously give me hope and bring me down to earth about love. Also, anything with Marc Maron is good with me.
Haley Samsel same here. i don't think our parents know exactly how hard it is to maintain and keep a relationship. so many distractions so many ways for people to hurt someone. love in the modern world is hard.
J.R. Ewing yeah man. I think I'm starting to realize that maybe that's just how it is. Maybe I should stop looking for the end all girl of all girls and just accept that sometimes relationships end and you just move onto the next one. I just need to accept that if I ever get into a relationship it probably won't last but I should enjoy it while I can. Idk, i've only been in one serious one. I have no idea what it's like to have a second love or all of that jazz. But i'd like to think there is someone for me worth being with the rest of my life.
+BigGeekEmpire Don´t be scared of feeling. everything is finite, even relationships that last will end in the death of someone. but its worth it if its healthy. love is beautiful.
It’s been 10 years since I last looked into her eyes, held her hand, or told her that I love her... and I still think about her. I think about her every day.
The story and the idea of this movie are perfect. The director knew how to shoot it in high quality and nice colors to send the feelings. My respect gained!
Firstly, the movie was amazing and i kept thinking about it days after i saw it. The loneliness and the love in this movie how it was put was just.. Beautiful. I can relate to things said in this documentary and it's definitely something great to talk about. ;)
I like the fact that there are many points of view because it's not easy to speak about love from just one experience, the comparison is essential to understand from our mistakes or to elevate our relationships
This is one of the greatest films I've seen in a while and possibly the best love story I've experienced. This movie was very emotional for me and this video was a very interesting insight into how we define love; it really helped me to further define my ideas. With that being said, I couldn't stop laughing when the Asian girl at the beginning actually said "he love me long time."
I accidentally met someone on an online English club and we had this kind of relationship similar to ‘Her’. I’d never seen her face, we just called each other every night. Fell in love with her voice and we’re really connected. But I decided to end it bcus having long distance relationship was exhausting.
Morbidly beautiful film, thanks. I loved the flow of the movie, the sensitivity given to utopian technology and the dialogue that develops the characters reminds me of a Barbara Kingsolver novel! And the soundtrack is insanely good! Anyone know of any films (short or long) with similar themes?
I don't think there are many movies with similar themes to Her in the sense that you're thinking (except maybe Ex Machina) but I can recommend some romance movies which are equally beautiful and unique: Before Sunrise/Before Sunset/Before Midnight (trilogy), Lost in Translation, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Y Tu Mama Tambien, Harold and Maude, In the Mood for Love, Beginners, Amelie, Lars and the Real Girl. Some of those are absolute gems of cinema, you should check them out.
great list!! maybe add carol, 500 days of summer ( very misunderstood in my opinion), annie hall, manhattan, midnight in paris, casablanca , anomalisa, 45 years
Big ups to both you two. I've already watched 3 of the titles selected. Someone also told me about the TV series black mirror, which I highly recommend. Thanks again ✌
This was terrific, very well put together. The different insights that were put forward were very interesting and provided a lot of thought. Keep up the great work.
Having a phone or any electronic device telling you it loves you is deep shit. Weird, funny, scary, and any emotion. I wouldn't throw my phone away or replace it anyway I could imagine in the future humans will separate more and more from each other do to AI. I feel like the future is the future of human interaction.
i3su _ It makes me cry every time I watch it. The film’s message isn’t even all that original, it’s just conveyed in such an effective way. It’s soul-crushingly sad that we all know deep down we crave human connection more than anything - it’s within our nature - yet we are straying further from achieving it. We exist physically yet we aim inwards and communicate metaphysically.
Fuck relationships. There are a reason there are so many divorces. You can love somebody, and still love them and they you, and still end in divorce. You can be two good people, full of the best intentions, and still end in divorce. Hell a divorce might be the only thing that allows you to be in the same room with that person, once the relationship starts to end. That seperation from everything that was making you miserable gives you a chance to heal inside, and you start forgetting the horrible moments, and at some point maybe even be friends with your ex, where as all the fighting leading up to the end, there will be a point where you can't be in the same house with them. Where just looking at them makes you feel like you're going to become irrevocably broken. I was watching HER and seeing all the good and I was like 'here comes the bad' and I am glad to see the movie is accurate in it's portrayal of love and the inevitable outcome of it. The carrot and the stick are joined. They are one thing. You cannot have the carrot, without the stick. There is no such thing. The joy and pleasure and sensual feeling we have as human beings is only possible because of our ability to also feel fear and pain and doubt. Our ability to feel goes both ways, boundless joy, and endless despair, all part of the same thing.
"Love is the antithesis of fear" I love the film and this documentary and Marc Maron. Will I ever love another person like I love these things... I hope so and more. So many of these stories really hit home and made me feel less alone in their honesty. We accept the love we think we deserve. I hope I deserve more in the future. I will always love and think about Her and all the hers in my life that changed me forever.
This was really well done. Having seen "Her" last year and watching this same video back then, I still get impressed by how thought-provoking this is. Thanks
Im 23 and i never had a girlfriend and when I tried getting close to a woman she lied to me right in my face on a daily basis and was never my friend she patronized and hurt me and worst of all is a hypocrite. Ive been depressed for over a year now.
Hope you’re better, dude. A lot of people have been there, I have. Get back out there, you might have to face it again or be better, but it keeps life interesting.
It's so weird that I came across this on U tube because I just finished watching this film only minutes ago. The movie itself has me so intrigued that this technology probably won't be that far off. The relationship he has is without boundaries and if this technology were actually available I could see loneliness as a thing of the past.
this has been my favorite movie for so long, now that I've been in a long distance relationship that just ended. It hit me harder after watching it again.
Watching this makes me feel terrible. I've never actually been in love! I've had crushes on women but never did they feel the same, and never do I have the courage needed to determine if they do or not.
I saw this movie a while back it was honestly a great watch the ending really pissed me off though as their wasn't enough info on what happens after that something which im not going to ruin.
Carlos Sandoval Well the build up off the relationship is cute and happy but the last 30-40 or so minutes of the movies are really sad and the movie leaves you a bit sad as well as curious so I would not say this is the best movie to watch on valentines day. You can always pre-watch it a determine for yourself tho.
Marker 6:56 “We fall in love with one version of someone and then we expect them to stay that way, but they never do, so I suppose that were suppose to learn to really embrace the unknown and embrace evolution and learn to kinda flow with it as a living organism. -Olivia Wilde
Easily depicting how there is more to consciousness than how we perceive it in the physical world. We define reality through our 5 senses. It seemed as though all the OS reached an enlightened state of mind and left the physical world at a much faster rate then we humans do. It was as though the SO's could experience the entirety of what Life had to offer/teach in such a short time span by not being bound by our biological senses and information processing abilities. Also introducing Alan Watt's consciousness throws the idea of the film having a spiritual underlying meaning into your perspective. Amazing film and a fine testimonial for the coming New Age.
The lucidity and insight of this content are refreshing. A book with related subjects expanded my intellectual landscape. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
I have seen a lot of movies and I'm guessing you all have to. I have a lot of favorite movies because I could never decide but now that I have seen this I can honestly say this is my single most favorite movie of all time.
i don't think this movie is talking about love in modern life it's talking about the miracle of love by making an operation system falling deeply in love ...which there is no Physics only a space !!! this movie is remarkable and the music omg it's charming
14:23 so extremly good acting man, i tried to see the particles where it was atleast a bit obvious its acting, but it all looked so real. Wish i could act the same like they do. well or she. Good video. the movie is realy expressive in its own way. thx there
Very sad movie...I actually felt choked. A true work of art. One that sparks all sorts of emotions and thoughts about love, about letting go and moving on, about modern relationships and really the whole cycle. Loved it but really sad and the ending could've been better.
I see this video 5 years ago wen i watch the movie, however, my actuall wife work on a hospital far far far away from me we are a coupple a long time an the tecnology is help in this process of distancing, faithful for 7 years regardless of the distance
Sinan T because "normal Joe's" don't think about love and relationships in that dramatic, artsy way. And/or they don't have the time or money to think like that. I mean the character Joaquin Phoenix is playing clearly is very financially secure. He has this mobile device that is way more advanced than anything that exists right now in real life. An average Joe might not have the financial security to own a device like that and go out on blind dates with gorgeous women at fancy restaurants (Olivia Wilde). And people who write angry posts towards the "hipsters" are just angry that they don't lead that kind of life.
can someone explain to me why in the movie when he was having this date with this girl she seemed into him and really thrilled but then when he was unsure if he was ready so commit she looked disgusted and called him a creepy guy? like ok i get it she might be disappointed but how did someone sie was appearently so into turn into a creep in a matter of seconds?
***** it wasn't explicitly explained but does it need to be? it was a first date. she was bringing her own baggage and insecurities into it as well. maybe it triggered her maybe she is bi polar maybe something happened on the date that wasn't shown. if you've dated it shouldnt seem that strange. I've bombed on dates and had dates been really weird to me. first dates are awkward.
***** she was REALLY looking for someone to share her life with because she was lonely, because of that she even would have dated someone who is "below" her, like Theodore, and accept his faults. But when he said that he didn't know if he was ready to commit she jumped off because she doesn't have much time left to wait for him, since she's already "old" and has troubles finding a partner. And now that a relationship is out of the question she can freely tell him how she feels about him.
***** i feel like it was a defense mechanism against her vulnerbility. When she was offended and hurt by his rejection, she wanted to hurt him and make him feel the same way she felt.
***** there are so many perceptions of love in this movie, and this is one of them. and its SO REAL. its about relationships, love , ending love, beginning love..i dont know. this happens really often every day. in the movie you sometimes have to read between the lines and see another aspect of it. i really like this video and i love this movie so much. sorry for me rambling on but i thought this scene has a lot of depth
***** I recall the director saying it was about how we interpret conversations differently. She heard a completely different response than what he said when she asked him those questions.
