Tbh dating is an experiment in the 1st place if u think bout it. Each experience isn't the same. Some work some don't. U kinda just go thru different things n find out wht works for u.
It's cool that these interviews are actually about actual women. I feel like the internet is really deatatched from reality when it comes to know what a woman wants/ thinks.
It’s because podcasts are too fixated on interviewing women who are sex workers or women who really treat their genitalia as a door knob and have no self respect so it’s refreshing to interview normal people
I can relate as a Black woman. My husband is adoring and I’m grateful for it. But when I was single, I stayed open minded to a lot of races and I slowly learned the harsh truth that many of them just wanted to cross me off the list. It’s a gross feeling.
People tend to marry with someone similar to them. I'm from Europe and here the Asians and the Indians don't really look for local people. I don't know why, but i guess they found it easier to marry within their race. The africans are the most open to marry an European.
@@normant5056not necessarily. Sometimes it's because, as the woman in the video said, is easier for us to marry among our own people who are already familiar with our cultural habits, languages, expectations, etc. Research shows it's also less stressful in the long run when it comes to dealing with parents and raising children. That's not to say other ethnicities can't and don't learn, because there are plenty of wonderful interracial couples who mutually practice the culture together and have peaceful relationships.
0 humility. White guys like asian women, but shes just not that attractive. If she were to grow up in an asian nation, she would still not be very popular with the boys. Possibly even less popular. "Boys didn't like me cause racisms" no, you are just a 5/10 with the attitude of a 9/10.
@@medfibezk8745 it's a huge thing to know exactly how you feel and knows how to express that is another thing most of people don't know how to do it ! Am not talking about the expressing part alone , but knowing exactly what is the feeling you are having and how you felt about it when it happened , and how it effects you at the moment at through out your life ; note that every aspect of this need to be expressed and the majority of people don't even knows it has all these aspects if not more ! so they don't know how to answer such a question . so yeah it's not that easy at all !
@@lmeesgad4823 easy =/= common. Bunch of over dramatic nonsense, understanding your emotions is not a feat but after a reply like that I'm not interested in talking to you so I regret starting this interaction 😂
powerful and self aware about hating men of her own race while pursuing white male validation and complaining about not getting men's attention despite getting more attention from men in a day than an asian male or any male would get in a lifetime?
Her: all the guys in my school wanted the blond girls Reality: the top 3 guys in the school wanted the blonde girls and anybody else would have dated you
Haha yeah probably true. She was competing for the top 3 guys and didn’t make the cut. Meanwhile she cut all the other guys and justified it in her head that they wouldn’t be a good fit to bring back home to china.
As white guy who married asian. Dont do it. The cultural differences too much. In the end it doesnt mix well. Too completely different cultures. It eventually comes clear. Whether its 3 or 7 years.
I’m Latina and I’ve never compared myself to a blonde white girl. Don’t really understand why women do this. Please never let yourself feel inferior ladies.
High school is a little different than adulthood but we men love an "exotic" woman. I think what we like more than ethnicity is boobs and booty, especially is high school.
My Dad always tried to push me to date blonde white girls and I believe that's why I'm rebellious and date different ethnic groups. Side note: Never compare yourself because you'll lose yourself if you do.
Any minority who grew up in a predominantly white area and went to an almost all white school can relate to this. My parents moved from NYC a to a rural part of Florida when I was young. Going to school was ROUGH! Made fun of for how I looked, called ugly and more. This was done by students and low key teachers as well. Felt like an outsider and tried hard to fit in. It messed me up. I am now older and look back… cringe so much. Honestly, this is why I would never live in an area where cultural diversity lacking. I don’t want that for myself or my kids. It is a bit better nowadays but still…
Right I’m black and was in a predominantly white southern high school and it was literally no point in even talking to any guy unless he was a new student bc everyone only liked white girls. Even the other minorities only dated white girls
Sorry bro. I wish we could have been there for you to make things better. We had this Asian guy at my school who was in a similar situation to you, but he came from Hong Kong and spoke British English. I don’t know if you ever heard of Hilliard, FL, but we’re kind of a redneck and white trash town where the greatest thing to ever happen to us was that we got a YMCA. All the 30ish kids in my grade and all the teachers made him feel welcomed and we loved how he looked (I think he’s a Wilhelmina model in Miami now while going to college). It always makes me so sad when I hear stories of what you guys go through surrounded by narrow minded people. We aren’t all like that and I hope this can change for future generations so they don’t have to go through what you went through.
powerful and self aware about hating men of her own race while pursuing white male validation and complaining about not getting men's attention despite getting more attention from men in a day than an asian male or any male would get in a lifetime?
I'm white as snow, and felt like this all my life because of past family trauma. I never belonged to any group of people, not even from my own culture and race. My advice is don't make it the only thing important because you'll forget to see other red flags that are perhaps even more important.
@@uwillnevahno6837Mass majority people who do OnlyFans are women, and mass majority of the people who watch them are men. This explains Western dating culture aswell. That's why things are like that. Most Western men are f boys and they like wh..... . And there are plenty of western wh.... in West and Western dating apps. Thankfully Asia is different. And this girl should have stayed in China. She is a innocent and respectful woman. Chinese men are suitable for her. I hope she would be happy. She won't be a experiment in China. She will be wife.
@@uwillnevahno6837Mass majority people who do OnlyFans are Western women, and mass majority of the people who watch them are Western men. This explains Western dating culture and those stats very well. West is full of fboys and wh.... Thankfully Asia is different. China is very traditional and conservative. And yes, Chinese men are very patriarchal but they don't treat women like experiments. They treat their women like wives.
"I was never the girl that boys lined up to date" yeah and neither was 90% of girls... how is that "traumatizing"? I bet she ignored all the asian guys that would go for her. Apparently people having preferences is discrimination now. Classic South East asian parenting and one child policy victims creating narcissists.
Statistically, the most desired demographic, in fact. But if you read between the lines, she dated a lot of men, she's just always been suspicious of them fetishizing her because of her race. The common denominator is her -- a racist with bias.
I was the girl that guys wanted to date when I got older, but just the same as her, I wondered if I was the token Asian/exotic. Once my dad took notice of the guys interested in me, he took me out for a drive and we had a heart to heart discussion. He was the one that told me I didn't have to put out just because I agreed to a date that the guy may or may not have paid for. He encouraged me to have fun and made me aware that I could say "no" and keep my options open. I had all the innocent fun I wanted and never felt the pressure of putting out because my dad empowered me. For anyone feeling the pressure, you can say "no" and have fun dating. Spending money is not a contractual obligation for intimacy. Choose quality over quantity❤
That’s so wonderful. Wish my dad had given a shit. I think he was too consumed with his own unresolved childhood mommy issues. I understand, but still hurts and affected my life.
As a white guy happily married to an Asian over 10 years (17 years together) that's it's such a wonderful feeling. This woman here is beautiful, I wish she would own it more. Respect to her
@@dominicfaison5889 And when asians speak about white people they dont specify either, whats your fucking point? He married an asian women, she married a white man.
She probably didnt. Average woman moment. Chased for the top 10-15% of dudes who are white and as her words say "am i an experiment" " why i was not getting picked by them" Ma'am because in fact you are dating out of your league in attractiveness. Be grateful that you had your "fun time" with the white guys and he never called you back or cheated on you. Most asian men in the west are treated horribly by women who in FACT ARE ASIAN. Also they never get a chance with white women, but we aint whining like she does. At the end of the day everyone is free to date whoever they want and no one should be forced to date anyone that they dont want. Look how her answer only includes white men,not asian men in the west.
What a beautiful soul.. I am a Caucasian male engaged to a beautiful black woman in Kenya… It took 5 years to be introduced to her family & overnight her family became mine… It is such a shame many people don’t realise we all 🩸 the same….
@@kp2855it's not beautiful at all there's black women all over the planet they're not just in Africa and the thing you have to ask yourself is why do these dudes always go to Africa to get married and it has nothing to do with culture it's for their land you can't get land in Africa without getting married so I find comments like this disingenuous white men are always putting themselves in a position to exploit people and the women are just desperate I don't find dating women that you can colonize empowering I truly believe that there's enough black women in Brazil and in America that are just as beautiful but they don't have anything to offer them for them to exploit they'd have to lift them up so you are never going to see stuff like that and that is exactly why Prince Harry married and Michael he can show her a palace and stuff and stuff that she's never seen before because she's an American biracial woman they're always trying to be this validation force and most of us know the truth story of white men going to African American women it ain't for no kind of beauty it's for the land😂😂😂😂😂😂 And no it's not because I'm jealous African women African women are beautiful I have a lot of their genetics white men are heartless they marry them for their land😢
Honestly, I rarely felt so comforted and happy because of a stranger on the internet. A lot of her experiences are really relatable to me, and it makes me happy seeing how beautiful she is, from the inside and outside, while still having this experience. I wish her the best and am sure good things are coming to her. She seems like an amazing, smart and beautiful person to know and be with
I would never let that linger. People get their foot in the door for a ton of reasons. Whether you stay or not in completely dependent on what you do next. Plenty of relationships start off something completely shallow but evolve into something meaningful if given a chance. Don't waste your time second guessing what could be a good thing. If it fails, let be for geniune short coming, not because you psyched yourself out of it.
As a black woman, I can relate to the experimentation part but not the validation part. Thankfully, we're in an era where the beauty that is shown is a little more diversified, so women can see beautiful women who look like them. I knew that there would never be a point in comparing myself to non-black women (despite dusties trying so hard to use that tactic to put us women against each other) because we all have our unique flavors. The half white/ half Asian guy I'm with loves me for who I am culturally, physically, mentally, and emotionally, and I feel the same towards him.
@dominicfaison5889 says the exact type dusty she is talking about. You all become dusty because of your collective mindset and behavior that you share and teach with one another into adulthood as blk males. The whole world sees this, except yall. This is why blk women need to completely disassociate from you and STOP BIRTHING black males at all.
She is single and the reason is not her family. She is not attractive enough for the one to meet and accept her family. That's a wicked game. Good men are rare
She never mentioned all of the men who sought her attention, and asked her out for a nice date. Yeah, let’s not mention the invisible men of this world!!
For centuries, even in male-dominated times, you would not have been allowed to marry without being able to afford a wife and family. You would also not be selected if you were sickly. So a lot of these "options" are not options. They're just men who want to sleep with her. It was even harder for weak men to score in a patriarchal society.
I’ve done everything that she mentioned. It’s very hard as an American to be accepted in the Asian culture especially Chinese. When I first met her family, I didn’t know whether to bow or shake hands so I did both. And in Chinatown in SF, I did celebration of the dead twice. Were you put a tablecloth and the persons grave with all the food they liked and if they smoked, a cigarette was lit and put on top of the tombstone with their favorite alcoholic beverage. I’ve been in restaurants where I was the only American, but I was well accepted . She wanted me to go back to China but I didn’t. I kind of wish I would have.
A healthy relationship is when two people are vulnerable with each other, and she being vulnerable and honest in this interview, she knows who she is and how she sees herself. She’s absolutely beautiful and very smart ❤❤❤
I'm a blonde/blue eyed man who married a black woman from Guyana. She moved to the U.S. when she was young so she has her feet in both cultures and that has made her a more well-rounded and attractive person. I just grew up poor in a large family, which I count as a fortunate thing that has given me much more life perspective. It is not your origin but who you become that matters.
@@aantaa.7618 I don’t care which country she’s from. I said Kenya in a sarcastic manner, my point being she’s free to return back to her own ancestral homeland. 😁
It makes sense that we would want someone with the same culture. And as she said, with her, it goes deeper. A guy would have to accept and learn a new culture
What a beautiful and in-tuned woman. I hope she finds a great man who is proud to be married to her. She seems like a total catch and I appreciate how candid she was in the interview. Edit; She reminds me of a girl in school who I thought would not like me for being white. Her insecurities about accepting my family are similar as well. Just proves we all are more similar than different.
It's hard to date someone MONOcultured if you're MULTIcultured at the end of the day. It's less of a race thing and more a culturally experienced thing imo
I agree, she's literally picking ignorant men. I could never date a white guy who had no friends of color or whose family didn't speak multiple languages.
I agree but really - thefear for the guy would be the question: Will you say in Fascist China -Heil Xitler. That said, she's sticking it out in far right America - recently, America is very mysoginist too! Still tho: out of both shit nations I'd choose the one that can have independent newspaper companies - the one where you wouldn't get tortured for just sayingBiden or Trump are nob edz INNIT
Openmindedness is the reason parents let their kids make life changing mistakes, being kind and being open minded are two very different things a grown person needs to have a filter to filter unnecessary things like you just can't allow in everything the World offers, Earth is a crazy Planet.
My wife is Chinese and its wonderful to be part of their family. Her parents would have liked that their daughter married a Chinese man but they also understand that love always wins. They accepted me from minute one. This can be an issue if her parents were very traditional but luckily they are very open minded.
@@gertebertyeah you're right, but as a white person currently engaged to a Chinese man, I must say that times are changing. Even foreign wives are appreciated, as long as they fit into the culture and can speak Chinese.
I mean I’ve literally been called too short to date as a guy lmao and I don’t let it stop me. Something I can’t control as well. Just gotta push through to meet the right people. I’m always surprised at how well you can connect with somebody sometimes and that always keeps me going.
When I went to college it was predominantly White and Asian then some Black students. There were so many stories from Asian students about how isolated they felt due to being a minority. It really opened my eyes to the fact that other races of people have similar experiences and feelings.
If it’s so horrible being “different” why is everyone pushing migration and diversity? Shouldn’t we all just go live in our separate racial groups again? Why not focus on what makes us similar- so much more unites us humans.
I know right. She is literally what women call an incel but in female version. If a guy sat there talking about how women dont want him and blah blah blah he is an incel. This woman had it better than most asian men and still complaining. At least she had the "am I an experiment" and had her fun. Most asian men dont even get that lmao 😂
It's so interesting to read these comments shared from different view points as Asian, Black, White, male, female. What has begun to really strike me about a lot of the vids I see of 'Street Interviews' is the lack of appreciation for Asian beauty. I think shenos super attractive. And, I'm completely drawn in by the features of Asian men /women, the bone structure, hair, dark eyes. anyway... In general that look is so unique. I find it beautiful. this is not to say that her feelings aren't valid. I'm simply saying with the planet becoming smaller & smaller, we need to expand our minds.
Ooof! As a black woman, both the “experiment” and “validation for not getting picked” comments smacked me in the face. I feel that a lot 😢 it takes practice to love yourself regardless of whatever bozo steps to you and realizing you’re worth more than the social value we assign to someone’s color and their attention.
@@ForrestMccroyunfortunately there seems to much documented and anecdotal evidence to suggest that a very large swath of of women of color fall into this category and I’m sure there are many different mechanisms and circumstances that build this mindset in them but I truly think it’s first Economics (they know the financial playing field aren’t always level)and second Psychology of western media that drives these perceptions by creating a mythical version of the white man thus creating a fetish by women of color based strictly on fantasy
Asian held those features in high regard, so they feel inferior to those who possessed them. I guess this is where her insecurity of not getting pick stems from. Met a Filipina here who is shocked that those features are just seen as normal in the west. I think you have movies to blame for their stereotype.
Me too and i went to single sex catholic school - so we definitely were not allowed to talk to boys until University and by then going to girls only school from 4 to 18....you dont know how to talk to men. So ive never been picked by men. But its ok as i bought my own house, farm and ivf
Coming from a guy that is married to a Korean women, traveled to Korea, met the family, and currently learning the language, there are definitely guys out there with an open enough mind. There just needs to be the desire to travel and embrace the culture of other places. Hope this helps!
As a man who's totally open to Chinese women, all the Chinese women I've met are very close-minded and don't even want to be with anyone out of their specific race.
powerful and self aware about hating men of her own race while pursuing white male validation and complaining about not getting men's attention despite getting more attention from men in a day than an asian male or any male would get in a lifetime?
I'm a 31 years old woman that have never been loved , chosen , interested in and finally approched ! it is a really really hard situation and a hard feeling that can't be explained by words... I'm always lonely inside even when i'm on a group of friends and family it really hurts ..all i want is to be loved and have a partner to share my life with and have children ...my dream is to be a mother 💔
Men cant love anyway. Youre not missing out. Also, you must look way younger than 31 because men literally skc the life out of you. If you want a child, please go to a clinic. Seggs with men is dangerous on many levels anyway and they get way more out of it than you.
It always seems in my experience anyway that when you genuinely start to prioritise yourself, focus on you, your hobbies, do your own thing thing and enjoy your own company, that they all start crawling out of the woodwork for you!! Have to fight them off with a stick 😂 keep us updated. Lots of love your way ❤ Btw: totally agree with the above ^ 💯
Do what you want. Be yourself. Having a child is not the ultimate goal in this life. It's rather a society pressure on women. And for the love...For sure , it's a wonderful feeling. To love amd be loved. But be honest and look around you. The vast majority of human beings are unsatisfied. Love is not like on Hollywood 🎥- an other big lie, only to put pressure on humans- Not to burst your bubble, but love is soooo overrated. I wish you all the best. Try to please your inner self. If you love yourself enough the others will love you too. Best of luck !
I want you to completly change you thinking patern. What do YOU want. What do you need. I was like you when I was young, I ended up in a realtionship with a toxic mentally abusve man, they can pick out the girls craving love. You deserve what you need, think about it and let it go. Look for that guy that is like a good friend.
I feel her so very much. even though I am from a different culture. But I guess it's is not about the actual nationality, it is about the experience you go through growing up. The girl is amazingly charming and beautiful, hope she meets a great loving man
powerful and self aware about hating men of her own race while pursuing white male validation and complaining about not getting men's attention despite getting more attention from men in a day than an asian male or any male would get in a lifetime?
@@rodrozil6544There are those who don't want children in the picture. Some people find their SO in their 50s or 60s, some later than that and sometimes never. People should stop being so primitive "ooga booga children seggs seggs"
Wow. She really just articulated my feelings in a way I never could. “Am I really just chasing some sort of validation to kind of heal this childhood wound of not getting picked by them 🤯”
Chasing white validation is something so many of us are guilty of and should be talked about more within the asian community. Many asian women even look down on asian men, because these asian women see asian men as lesser than white.
@@korra999c7Wrong. You lack the experience, obviously. Asian men often treat Asian women badly, that's why they prefer white men. "White validation"??? LMAO!! Your social justice mumbojumbo is useless.
I don't think her issue is that the boys all wanted white women. It's that she's pretty average, and blended in with all the basic white women. There are tons of Asian women out there who have no problem getting dates. It sucks to not be top tier, but there's no reason to blame it on race when it probably comes down to simple attractiveness.
Very often, it comes down to confidence. I had really low confidence, was very shy and thought no guy liked me since no guy approached me. Then I met my husband's, and him being attracted to me, made me feel more confident. I also learned from him that his friends found me attractive too, which boosted my confidence as well. And tnrough that new found confidence, I got less shy around people (men and women). Suddenly, more guys started flirting with me, which had very rarely happened before my husband. My husband also told me shy women can appear distant to people and so they're afraid to even approach them. You're beautiful and you seem like a good person so I can't imagine no guy was interested in you...
The struggle is real. I’m an American of Chinese descent also. Grew up in a predominantly Caucasian community and went to private school in a predominantly Hispanic & black community. No other Asians around. Born & raised here. Tried dating other Asians, but the culture shock was overwhelming. Very conservative, not Americanized enough. I’ve ended up dating Hispanic & Caucasian guys. Just be careful of the ones who want to fetishize you because you’re exotic to them. Find someone who accepts you for you
Conservative is a misnomer because it is not the same as American conservative (guns, big trucks, country, chicken fried steaks, rodeos) even though there is some overlap like traditional family values. If not Americanized, don't even bother.
@@theia1653 I've spoken in detail about this topic with one of my asian friends and I'm pretty sure when the commenter says "conservative" in relation to asian men she is speaking about how they may hold old traditional values such as woman is the homemaker and man makes the money, typically mommies boys and very driven by their parents opinions, very quiet, not outspoken, can be closed minded and may have a view of "this is how things are" and don't like to operate outside the box. Like just think in a workplace, that person who is very by the book. Very strict and narrow.
@bria8886 Yes, I know exactly what she meant, more than I would like. I as an Asian guy would not accept anything less than fully Americanized, the exodus away from these values is absolutely justified, and I would even warn my own daughter to stay away.
Respect for her being honest about it. Its a wound they want to heal, not being picked in school. Most Asian women picking white men are the ones who were brought up in the West.
I understand completely. When I dated Caucasian men, I often found myself questioning whether they were genuinely interested in me or if it was simply because I'm Asian. It's true, cultural differences can present challenges, and I also had difficulty making it work with White guys. Ultimately, I married someone from another Asian background, albeit a different country. While we still face cultural differences, it's comforting to know that we've shared similar experiences growing up here in the United States.
That happened me with Indian men i didn't if i was a test they loved me genuinely or had a hidden agenda. I had to discard much men asking money marriage and papers.
👏🏾🫂💓👏🏾 happy for you! That is the easiest, most 'natural' thing, and added bonus there's more likelihood your kids will look like a beautiful combo of you two, representing both of your ethnicities. Happy you found your person ☺️💓
I was born and raised in NYC and North Jersey. My parents were from Cuba who came to the U.S. before Castro. To Anglos, I’m Hispanic. To Hispanics, I’m Anglo. I understand her. Perhaps, this is why I tend to gravitate towards someone like her. She’s beautiful, intelligent and based on her experiences, probably understanding and not judgmental. She’s perfect!
i do not usually watch shorts and least of all comment on them but I have to say that her self awareness and the way she articulates herself was amazing and that makes her highly attractive. that's all it takes really, what do I care if she's Asian.
@amandafrombrooklyn7514. I would say between 70-80% of men are looking for skin deep attraction, the rest are looking further into you and other attractions like your intellect, sense of humour, cute ways, how you sound and whether they can imagine a life long term with you. So basically most men like butterflies rather that the rest of you.. Stupid if you ask me, theres so much more to ppl
I definitely related to this one. As a hispanic woman, I felt that beauty was often only portrayed in the form of a blonde, blue eyed woman. Made me insecure for yrs. It took me leaving behind my teen yrs to realize the beauty and strength that so many ethnic women have.
@@user-jj5mp7ib1fGirl what u didn’t notice all the blonde stars back in the day?! Where u even alive in the 90s-early 2000s?😅 Honestly, I think this is something millennials & zillenials went thru because nowadays the actors are all kinds of phenotypes. Also who’s bashing yt aesthetic? Most of these comments are recalling & opening up about their childhood wounds & what it was like to grow up in wyt schools & on top of that with hardly any media representation. It’s understandable how this would personally affect them in some way idk how u think that is “bashing”
I envy Latina women. I still struggle to think I'm beautiful because I'm dark skinned black woman. As I've grown up and lived in different areas I noticed not all men want blue eyed blondes with huge boobs.
@@user-jj5mp7ib1fIt is seen as acceptable to put down white women. I AM NOT SAYING I AGREE . I honestly do not think ethnicity has much to do with physical beauty. Beyonce, Eva Mendes, Angelina Jolie, Blake Lively are all beautiful and different I think the mother from Ginny and Georgia is so beautiful. The blonde named Kristen Frost is beautiful. There are tons of beautiful blondes. Blonde women aren't seen as exotic. Everyone seems to be mad at the white men. It seems like low key a lot of minorities want to be white.
I am the blonde white girl. I was never asked out by anyone in high school. The girls who were asked out were all different and not necessarily the prettiest. They were confident. ❤
I had a few Asian friends growing up. It was always interesting to learn about their cultures by hanging out with them and meeting their families. I was probably more open to doing that kind of thing because my family immigrated to the USA and we had to learn about American culture. I still like doing that kind of thing today.
While i agree with this on some level, sometimes people have others get so in their face about their appearance and differences that it is hard to see anything other than the things being reflected on you and shoved down your throat.
As a white guy who has dated quite a few non white women I had never thought of the situation from this lady's point of view. She expressed it in a non confrontational way and has opened my eyes. Thank you.
For all you people saying she should date Asian guys, she never said she didn't. The interviewer asked specifically about white guys, so that's what she discussed. Stop assuming things that weren't part of the discussion.
@@anonygentyes but she gives two negative examples and sounds like that’s why she doesn’t want to date Asians. I mean this is all off of three very short clips. So I mean I could be reading into it but that’s the impression I got.
@@WildBison74 ["So I mean I could be reading into it but that’s the impression I got."] Yes, that's exactly what you're doing - reading into it. You're putting words in her mouth.
A lot of people here don't understand what it feels like to grow up being bullied and ostracized for your race. You look different, act different and this is too much for some people so they bully you and you don't GET to have a vibrant social life. You're always the one left out and last pick. You feel unwanted and wonder if you'll ever fully integrate into the country you've immigrated to or if they will always see you as a weird foreigner. Her being aware of this emotional trauma and trying to make good choices is amazing and wise.
I may not have been bullied for my race but I was bullied for a lot of other things … how is that any different ?!!! Fuck some of you people in these comments are DAF
What people forget sometimes is that feeling of isolation, self-doubt, second guessing and insecurity of one's self while in their teen years can shape both positive and negative perceptions later in life. We all go through it, but it's those who learn how to deal with it and overcome it make them a more well-rounded and mature person going forward.
Key word "crazy" family. Means she treats her man in a crazy way that her family treated her. It's great if you match and or compliment her crazy with your own❤
Dead on point. I love her honesty beneath pain and wish. It breaks my heart to see her eyes when she said "That's why I'm single." Our society build on superficial lifestyle, lies, domination and entitlement. The statesico is being dismantled so much resistance but long way to go. The main advice is to know yourself and your identity no matter your surroundings then accept you love you unconditional. Do not put if I get this then I will be happy or I will be fulfilled. Happiness is not a destination but is in now.
It’s funny because as a blonde white girl, I wasn’t what they wanted. They went after Hispanic or mixed girls. I think it depends on the region you grew up for that region’s standards of beauty.
Bro you are interviewing real people its so cool. Everyone that people post nowadays are idiots who the interviewer just makes fun of for being dumb. Interviews with actual substance are super interesting to hear. Keep in up man!
The Chinese are fairly picky about who their daughter brings home. Same as most cultures. In China, she's already considered Shengnu, or Leftover. Therefore, anyone she brings home would most likely be welcomed.
Yah I’m like wtf. Random women just use white girl, blonde, blue eyes girls as a crutch for why they men don’t date them. It’s either your just not attractive or it’s just that 99% of men are invisible to you and she chasing that 1% man that has no interest in you.
I take it she is into her 30s or getting close to 40s, so if course in those days(her school days) the beauty standard was blonde (thanks to Hollywood for reinforcing that idea). So yeah times and taste have changed and maybe she hasn't noticed it🤷🏼
listen to her other comments when she dated a Korean guy( he ordered for her and then made her pay the check)and a Japanese guy( he complained about how she dipped her sushi in soy sauce)
I totally feel this girl. Despite I have no Chinese roots, but Persian roots, I can fully relate to her point of view. Whenever I've met white guys online or dated, they were at first amazed how feminine, well educated (I study and speak four languages), pretty I am but suddenly rejected because they then thought of cultural problems in the future and I thought at the moment ,,well, I did not hide my Persian roots. Why did you even ask me out if you are afraid of cultural differences?'' One guy even told me his parents might be against dating a Persian girl, as my parents are not from a Western country. I don't wear a headscarf, I go out, I have no brothers, I study and work at the same time, I've spent two semesters abroad alone, my mom doesn't care about a man's nationality and even if I tell a Western man I have German citizenship, I get faced with prejudices. I would not refuse giving a white guy a chance but would be cautious due to my experiences. And I also hate getting fetishized aka how 'exotic' I am. Even other middle Eastern men fetishize me aka 'I love Persian girls. They are so white'.
Yeah I understand her and you. Guys don't line up for me. My ex was my first love and an asshole in the end, pretending. I just want a guy to love me for who i am ,and of course appreciate my difference . Not because asian =manga or whatevet
@@mohcinerouessi4388 Even if she is, there is no problem with that. Especially if you have grown up in a predominantly white area. White men will be more attractive because that is familiar to you in that case. As someone who is from a Northern Asian country but grew up in an area where most people have blonde hair and blue eyes, my preference is still a man with light skin, hair and eyes. Even if there is a man who resembles my people more (dark hair, olive skin, dark eyes) he will look intimidating and very unattractive to me. But maybe it’s also more because my father has light skin and blue eyes. Because there is a saying that we are often attracted to people that have resembling features to the parent of the opposite gender or something like that…
powerful and self aware about hating men of her own race while pursuing white male validation and complaining about not getting men's attention despite getting more attention from men in a day than an asian male or any male would get in a lifetime?
Something to add… in contrast, a lot of asian men also go through this existence of feeling overlooked, but on top of that, there can be a lot of violent racism from others and even denigration from asian women who sees race as a hierarchy and asian men as lesser than the default “norm” (in their eyes, whiteness).
I totally agree. In Australia and from the POV of a non Asian person, I'd say men in general have a preference for Asian women and Asian women have a preference for white men. Sure Asian men find partners, but are they anyone's preference as a type??? Not that I'm aware of. AND they are joked about
Yessss she put words to what I couldn’t explain! Most people don’t pass the lingering “are they open minded enough to bring back to the small village I’m from” vibe. It’s really heartbreaking when someone you’re with puts down where you came from and/ refuses to acknowledge cultural differences.
I think the most important aspect you mentioned is definitely going there to learn and adapt to them and contribute to the economy by supporting locals directly instead of having the people adapt to you and spending money at big businesses/corporations that then increase outside influences by catering to tourists too much to the detriment of locals and the local culture
It’s funny. Because I’m a typical blonde girl with blue eyes. I would call myself standard attractive? I can count on one hand how many times men approached me or asked me out. I’m usually seen as fun and not serious. Oh and she’s very beautiful. Love her aesthetic.
she didn't say she doesn't or wont date asian men...you thought that all on your own.Answering questions about dating white men, doesn't mean you don't date other women. You could be asked questions about dating white women...that doesn't mean you ONLY date white women... take the chip off your shoulder brother. you can't blame not finding a woman on this.
Thank you for the HONESTY. I've felt same. Insert "black, latino, literally any women of color." Your experience is super relatable ! Keep being awesome. Race be damned you seem very aware and best of luck in love!
@@roseparade_ the point of my comment is that a lot of Asian women like this one have a no Asian men policy. One of the weirder forms of discrimination if you ask me but to each their own. Hopefully one day that good looking white man will make her like he likes her more than the blond women and fill that massive black hole that she has inside.
This is why I chose to be with someone from my ethnic background. I always knew that’s what I’d do because it’s easier and feels like home. I think it’s ok to do so and not feel bad that you’re not being “open-minded”. Don’t care what background my friends come from but I care when it comes to my spouse
Or you just don't know how to be around the right person who is not in your ethnic background many of us don't mind different ethnic backgrounds but it's usually the other person isn't ready for such a thing
@@divergentthg7925 No I’m also just sexually attracted to my ethnic background. I love my culture. I love people in general and I’m a people person. I find it quite easy to talk to anyone and understand anyone but I have certain values