Hey Steve: Is This a Relationship? || STEVE HARVEY 

Hahahahah. I heard that too!

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I hollered 😹😹

Definitely a black womans voice😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

dance4life1208 she wants to be on TV

That's what I said when I saw the title

I know right

Not really. Everything is about timing. It's like falling in love. Rarely do two people fall in love at the same time. She is well within her rights to ask him where does he see this situation going. It's only been a few dates and all she is wondering about is if he is interested in her in that way. She can simply have the conversation.

Exactly

Tf

Your preaching. Because from my experience men will date a woman just to get his strength back. Once he get it back then he's GONE.

April Jones so true 👌..

🗣A little louder for the people in the back

Me. This was me

JackieJacks it definitely seems to be a no. In this short conversation she’s talked about abstaining, biological clock ⏰, and how ready she is for relations. Out her own mouth, she displays her red flag 🚩 collection. But like a lot of women she has that I can convince him spirit. I hope ole dude has a Netflix account because it’s definitely about to be some chillin 😎

@@itwaswritten1196 PREACH!! I know too many women who come from the "sit and wait" approach. She really didn't sound like she was internally willing to reach out to "this man". It almost sounded like she would take "any man" who would make life easier for herself and if he happens to benefit from it too then that's just the icing. It don't entirely matter.

@@heddij.shiwani260 celibate

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I thought the same dang thing when I clicked on the video

Gwen Valdes This is the best comment!

Gwen Valdes yeeeaassss. Now you need to be on Steve’s show because your comment right here is the truth!

Wisest comment

@@Osteen529 For real. The best comment Ever.

Yup, rebound sex.She want this to work because 1 she realized her market value is in a sharp decline meaning her ability to attract a man is dropping quickly. 2 Her biological clock is ticking and if she doesn't find a mate soon to pass on her genes.Then her gene is out of the pool.It ends with her.Thats why she so desperate for it to work.

Well said,the only thing that would come from this is rebound sex.if he agrees to marry her she can finally have sex but no man in the USA that is smart would do that because the courts goes in favor of women. When she decides to get a divorce. Anyway she is going to have a hard time finding a man and it's so sad she waited till she was 30.I don't think god cares if a person get marries or not.The point of marriage is for passing on genes.But if you don't get married you can't reproduce wow that is rough.Adam and Eve were not married.They were the only 2 humans in the world so they just reproduced.Marriage lost its purpose long ago but people stick by it because of religion.She should try going for a common law marriage that's the only way a man would get involved with a marriage if it doesn't involve the state.

Stupid advice. Steve just told you whats up.

As I heard somewhere, ain’t no time for build-a-boyfriends

Ha ha, new term I've learned 😂.

Said perfectly

Lol....."leave the construction projects to the professionals"..I love it! My slogan is "I am not a charity, I don't do projects"

@@mora_007 🤣🤣🤣 I love your slogan!

This is so true and a hard lesson to learn sometimes 😩

No man should have to impress you smh...silly ass

Misutasutanto -- You do if you approached her. Otherwise...keep it moving 😴

Men are visual creatures.They are attracted to beautiful women and the fact that she wants to get married to have sex means she has to prove why she is worth getting married to when other women are giving up sex without the need for marriage.What makes her special from all the rest.That is what she has to prove.Unless she is wasting her time

@@candykane5442 Right? Smh these men here seem to want to put no effort into dating/courting a woman... it's sad these days and this is coming from an early 20s girl

unfortunately, the fact is women in their 30s find it hard to get men their age why ? well because they aren't as pretty as they were when they were in their 20s plus what drives them in their 30s is the need to reproduce and some men like to wait a few years before they do that but women don't have that time their biological clock ticks as she ages which makes her very desperate The right way to get a male is when your in your 20s you make sure to lock him down and mold him into what they want as a potential mate so that when the get into their 30s they can just make babies but starting to find a man at 30 is hard because women don't look as good as they were in their 20s and men are visual creatures we link beauty to good eggs

Pen Lavits Straight Facts

TheSunshinefee exactly! Happened to me. Never again!

@@QueenStylin Just so you know, males pursue women they like. If the guy isn't trying to please you or make you like him. Then your wasting your time.Now if you play hard to get that is one way to keep him on the trail but the moment he thinks your not interested he will lose all interest in the pursuit. Females should never pursue males it just means that he is not interested hence the reason why he didn't invest any money or time.

@@QueenStylin If a lamb presents itself in front of a lion the lion will gladly eat it otherwise it will see it but not see it .Hope you catching what i am saying. Just in case you didn't it doesn't matter if he can see you he doesn't care but if you appear and serve yourself to him he will be happy to strip you of your meat.

chris mit HELLO!!!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!!

FR FR👊

chris mit 🙌🏾🙌🏾

Queen Scorpion was that you?

The realest comment I’ve seen on RU-vid all year.

She's desperate!

By the info she gave she is in her 30s and biological clock ticking and right now to her this man seems like the best choice at the moment that is why she wants to make it work but little does she know is that at 30 her attractiveness declines and the amount of men she can attract becomes harder and harder as she ages and he is in his 30s he could still mess around with someone in their 20s but by how she behaving she is ready to settle with the beta male and mate with him if possible #thegenemustliveon

@@penlavits3305 I hearYa.. No excuse though.

@@user-zx5xw4yw2e Well imagine if you met someone who you thought was cool and you realized hey this person has a lot of virtues that would make a good mate to have children with. Wouldn't you try to make it happen.Knowing that the possibility exists that you won't find someone like this ever again

@@penlavits3305 That doesn't apply to this case here. What virtues n qualities are so great about this man. He took her on a date n allowed her to pay, 👎 👎. But to answer the question uposed: No I would not if its one-sided.

Well it's very simple.She is inexperienced and desperate.She seems to be in her 30s and she has not found someone yet to marry her.Her biological clock is ticking and right now this guy gave her a little attention. She see potential in this guy to marry her so she can have sex and start a family.But she is a little late to the game like most women in their 30s who had fun in their 20s they all ask "where are all the good men" that is the mistake most women continue to make lol.

@@penlavits3305 Yep. They wait expecting something magical to happen when they are 30

@@chrissalley9468This is so true and if they don't find a mate their genes end with them unless they go to the sperm bank which would be a good move if they can handle it financially but in the sense of ensuring their gene live on

bleah

So the man has to pay the bill on a date?

This response is stupid and shortsighted. Because she pays her own way she keeps control of what she will or will not do. If she tries of him she can leave with a clear conscience. It's not always about him, women need to set standards and not deviate based on getting things. Be strong sis you deserve a man worthy of you...don't settle

@@truthsavant6005 If you're dating a man, and paying for your "dinner date" that in my opinion is what is stupid. I can take myself to dinner. Again men pay for things that they care about, or interest them. Sorry if you're unaware.

@@Hayya45 I understood your point the first time, saying it twice doesn't make it true. It makes it twice as stupid.

Not a man's job to pay for a meal if he wants to spilt shows he has true interest not looking for nothing in return quit male bashing the guy

So when a woman pays for a man you nope out But when a man pays for a woman it’s normal? That’s not equal...

period.

Its only been a week maybe shes too emotional

Equality right?🤷🏽‍♂️

Why would I pay the bill if you're celebit? Does be have to pay all the bills all the way up until they are married?

Yes.. because its all about the money... thats what you call a man buying a woman. Its the 20th century people.

@@canogaparque818 wrong dusty 😂

@@Jackywitha_y 🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️

But what she is looking for is a male to fertilize her eggs not people to hang out with the fact that she is celibate means she very inexperienced which means she will waste her time pursuing men that won't commit plus her biological clock is ticking if she want to have children she got to make it happen with someone she can attract if she can't her gene dies with her

Pen Lavits 😂

I see most women are actually looking for free meals.

@@ramseyabsessien8990 WOW. SEXIST AND WRONG. You have no idea what it is to be a woman. NO IDEA AT ALL. He makes more money then women, he will make it back faster then women! Plus women already pay more to live. Women have NEEDS, not want to shop, NEEDS OR society expectations. Dresses, heals, pantyhose, must shave. Bras and underwear. Guys only have underwear, don't have to shave. The list is absolutely endless, she pays far more then you do buddy in money and time to get ready. So you can pay for date(S), it won't be equal but it will help some. So yeah she deserves free meals.

@@nofybn7794 amen sista!!!!

How cause he split the bill?

Help with what?

What kind of help?

Crystal Unique could it be help with algebgra?

Have to dissagre. Seems like he playing safe not to get hurt, but they had some conversations...and he still there. He likes her. He might need help allso getting over stuff, but that is something a theraphist should tacle. But that dont mean they cant walk together.

I wish I could be this clear with men, but I always think it's gonna hurt their feelings so I come up with some other reason

LMBO ,😂 😂😂 😂

What’s the time stamp?

Mary Gitiha 3:14 is hilarious 🤣

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omg I noticed that too. maybe she knows her . she acts like she heard it all before

Wow this was well said Theron and thanks for your words of experience

Amen

Amen Theron. Purity is such a rariety in a sex saturated society, but it's always worth it being in God's will. No shame in my game

I COMPLETELY agree. Theron you're obviously speaking from experience. I know because I am experiencing this same strength from God to WAIT!! At this point I trust God totally with my whole heart. He has a PERFECT track record and He ain't failed me yet. Me on the other hand I have a 100% failure rate at picking a man and doing things MY way. But only TRUE believers will understand this and I've learned that even those are far and few between. I hate that Steve's tone was a bit condescending and made this young lady shrink back in her confession of celibacy. It's a beautiful thing that her husband will LOVE and RESPECT her for one day!

Clearly the man just doesn't want to be with her.

Unless you want a relationship with that person they obviously need to say it so the guy can find someone else who ain’t sullabite or whatever.

@@tommycastro9424 I've said it too early and it ruins things. Wait it out. Wait until the person loves you.

Thandeka Buthelezi that’s called settling and while waiting may work it will also push other potential relationships away and the risk of waiting for nothing wasting your time.

That's all nice and everything but this woman in her 30s she don't have time to be waiting unless she doesn't care about passing on her genes and if that's the case wait and let your eggs go bad by the time the man get there she has to get to know him 1 then she has to get married 2 then after 1 year of trying to have a baby with her age increasing that's going to be hard she may not even have kids.

The whole point of marriage in the old time days was to have kids

talawoods25 amen, thank you for your thoughtful comment! God bless you!

@@AngeliqueHenderson You're so very welcome. I'm a woman that is chosing my purity over a "relationship" too and Steve was out of line for his response. We shouldn't be shamed for taking a stand for righteousness. Everyone won't understand but the RIGHT one will appreciate it. A virtuous woman is precious and her value surpasses all others. Be blessed 🙏

@@penlavits3305 Not just to have kids but was a business contract between state government as it is today. People think marriage is something God invented, which he never did in the first place. Gd joined Adam and Eve spiritually. Marriage was later invented by men via states and gverment practices.

Bingo!!!

That was my thought too

exactly

so is that a bad thing ?

By the info she gave she is in her 30s and biological clock ticking and right now to her this man seems like the best choice at the moment that is why she wants to make it work but little does she know is that in her 30s her attractiveness starts to decline and the amount of men she can attract becomes harder and harder as she ages and he is in his 30s he could still mess around with someone in their 20s but by how she behaving she is ready to settle with the beta male and mate with him if possible #thegenemustliveon

@@penlavits3305 relationships are about more than just procreating.. just saying.

@@valerielinares2068 Yes they are more to relationships than just having babies but the main reason it's done is to make babies. otherwise men would just have sex with other men.Now If you were going the route of saying it's about getting to know the person or connecting on physical level or something that goes to something that suggests romance i would say men can do the same with other men but because some men want to pass on their gene they mate with females. So its like this men who mate with females follow their biology now men that mate with other men ignore their biology because for them pleasure is their highest value they rather not make babies but have pleasure so for them pleasure stands above the instinctual need to pass on their gene

You are 100% right!

Most do fornicate. In fact I would 93 to 94 percent.

I agree. Sounds like he's trying to to lower her standards. The evidence of real love is always the presence of joy.

And that came from a man. I would see him as a friend only and let not get the feelings be in it. ..

I agree ☝️ men are providers especially the beginning stages. If he ain’t paying at that stage he ain’t into ya

@@mard7880 daaamn right

Agree

Finally balanced point fair to him and her not just gut checking the guy good comment

That's not how that works. You just want it like that because it Benifits you.

rochelle thundercloud or he’s just cheap

So much for “equality “

He's not putting her in position when like oh he paid. And he's trying not get broke behind a woman before he knows real deal cut out male bashing

DEMETRIUS blaze it’s got to be “the real deal” before he pays for the meal on the first date?!? C’mon

...but it doesn't get her anywhere...

Amen!!

@@mssummerrose1 as long as God is pleased that's all that matters. U should not please Men

@@keked9231 Hallelujah! I’m a Christian and waiting until marriage. I’m honoring God!

Lmbo

@@tommyt264 ❤

Yeah, seems like he needs a therapist and not a girlfriend.

@@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect , most definitely

No new friends. Either you’re in or out, not a ‘male friend’

That’s rather selfish is it not?

@@AltNova are you a man?

@@dammee Yeh

@@AltNova No, it is NOT.

@@AltNova Then you have NO IDEA WOMEN'S LIVES COST SO MUCH MORE!!

She is pursuing him not the other way around.Which says a lot about how desperate she is to find a mate

Why should he have to pay in full if she never has to? Goldiggers...

@@wizeyy You sound so unmasculine.

@Taha Hagar this why I avoid men that say stuff like This. They usually have this misogynistic mindset with a lack of respect for women. If he says that women should pay half due to wanting equality RUN.. he probably bitter and broken and subconsciously hate and resent women. Don't bother.

@@kesh9252 Looking forward to seeing you single on Hey Steve asking why you cant "find the right guy"

hmm... that is not the case. She has patience hence the reason she is still a virgin.Now what is happening is that she is in her 30s and her biological clock is ticking,she is not as pretty as she was when she was in her 20s so her chances of attracting a male is a lot harder.She wants to get married 1st because of her religion.Now if she doesn't get married she can't have sex which means she can't reproduce which means her gene dies with her.Now this guy that she hanged out with seem like a good guy to her probably the type that would marry women.Now the fact that she is celibate means she is inexperienced with men and dating.Which means she is going to waste time beating around the bush when she should be straightforward and say what she wants and if the guy ain't about it move on to the next if she doesn't do this her eggs will all go bad on her before she can use them

@@penlavits3305 thank you for thoroughly explaining her predicament because everyone is just judging her

Ok👋

C0co Chan3L why?

lol She should try all options at this point she is in her 30s her biological clock ain't waiting on her.Plus her ability to attract a male is also declining

Or cause most women only use a guy for free food and also use him as a walking atm

Tyler Fugate -- Would you ever ghost on someone you wanted to see again? Me neither...you just didn’t make the cut. 😴It’s high time you accept this very fact and stop putting it under the guise of ‘she’s using me for a free meal’ because let’s face it. Unless you’ve met the person once before then no one can really ‘use’ you like that 😴

He is clearly not attracted to her if he were he would be pursuing her but she is the one who is pursuing so she is asking him out not the other way around

Listen candy cane. I had a good job and everything and was taking care of 1 women in my life. Never again. She was a user. She didn't want to clean, cook and complained I didn't spend enuff. She expected me to hire a maid. I told her straight to her face than what the hell do you do here your a useless human being. I cut her off completely and she ended up asking her dad for help. Your right guys should take care of a women who deserves it. Not the ones who don't give anything in return. I let her stay in my place, fed her, drove her places and she still had the audacity to say no when I wanted sex. If you want a guy to take care of you than he will except something back. Now I know she is not wifey material. In the end I stopped driving her and was enjoying to see her take the bus it made me happy. She left to her country after.

@@georgec8210 she's not wife material because she didn't cook, clean or give you sex whenever you wanted? I didn't realize women were only good for those 3 things and a woman DOES NOT HAVE TO HAVE SEX WHEN SHE DOESNT WANT TO!!! We aren't y'all's property. Maybe you're not husband material actually.

what else can she do she is desperate and need to make babies. She is not getting any younger meaning her chances to attract a male is going to be hard especially with younger girls going for older men and by the time that relationship finishes her chances for getting children will be gone.Thats the sacrifice of the religion lol.

Pen Lavits lol...ok

@@divinerae4966 yup it happens all the time women waste their 20s with the alpha men or the men they can't have long term relationships with then when they reach their 30s they get all desperate and say "where are all the good men?" meaning beta males- the men that make the money and have stable careers or jobs

Pen Lavits interesting.

Divine Rae --- & You men aren’t getting it. The men you are describing aren’t alpha. The alpha man is the provider man. Even in the animal kingdom and the REAL WORLD this is the case. Only on RU-vid is it the opposite. Why do you think most rich, successful men are usually married/provider types? Why do you think married men get the most women? They are the true alphas. Any woman cheating/ risking her true alpha provider Male with some loser player thug type is a very stupid woman that’s probably using him because her real alpha man is busy with his mistresses 😴

20HAIB Your question doesn’t make sense.

You are in girl friend zone.

Then why go on the date if he's just a friend?

Golddigger

Such a balanced response. 😌

That's wonderful. I waited 35

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@@penlavits3305 You have a point, that will happen if she's not sure what she wants. If no sex before marriage then no sex before marriage have the rules clear. She will have stronger feeling but its easier to give up than to try

@@khaedeenb1873 well at what cost meaning that would she rather give up having children than not having sex.Meaning that the smart sexy woman she is won't pass on her gene and it will end with her. unless she can adopts or get inseminated by getting donor sperm at the bank but I'm sure she wants all the husband benefits so why take that route

I like that too. Q

Stephanie Cunanan I love u.

broke ass

You well spoken 👍 I agree with you. Splitting bill is a turn off. I see it as a joke.

@@BybiGurl1 gold digger

I don't think it's just the splitting the cost situation that is bothering her. If I have to ask myself if you're interested and if this is a friendship or a relationship, obviously you are not clear about your intentions and how you feel about me. Paying for the bill is one of many ways a man let you know he's interested. If he's not paying the bill that's fine but is he showing her otherwise that he's in? Not really. Their "dates" also sound pretty casual, more on the friend side than the romantic side. My SO paid on the first date, I paid on the second, we've been taking turns or splitting it since, him paying slightly more often tho because he makes waaaaaaay more. I feel treated like a queen, not just because he pays but because he makes it clear that he is after me and wants me...

Nope i don't think he is cheap ,this is just what happens when females pursue men who aren't interested in them.

Allways. He's God.

@@Nikolaiwww well he got 3 divorces and majority of the women he help barely do a update and not a lot can say "Steve help my marriage/get me a man" It's rare

@@UndergroundZoneFirst of all...my comment was a joke.

@@Nikolaiwww I know 💀. I would hope

Nikolaiwww he’s not God, but 9/10 uncle Steve is right

I beg to differ. I met my current boyfriend on POF almost 2 years ago. I've been in two relationships prior and I met them face to face. The one I met online is going better than the ones I met face to face.

You're incredibly naive if you think that. There are millions and millions of people in happy relationships/marriages that met online. Where you meet doesn't matter. It's how the two people click and connect. It doesn't matter if they met online or at a gas station or at a wedding.

this is a lie lol

well in her case she better use all the resources at her disposal because she losing her ability to attract a man and also her ability to make babies.So unless she doesn't want that then she will stay in her limited pool of men that have to marry her first in order to have sex with her

She's already found out. Shes in denial.

T G Probably right she stringing her own self along

Yup its very clear he ain't interested.The fact he didn't pay says a lot because they met each other 4 times.

My feeling exactly.

Right? Like I hope Steve's not relating sex (or the lack thereof) to being a decent human being/gentleman

That has nothing to do with it. I split the bills with my eventual wife for years. We spent years checking each other out before we invested in each other. Amd shes right, there is no relationship since there has been no proclamation if a rekationship from either party. When a man is hurt, its actually worse than if it was a woman. A man is really gonna shut down.

@@ddavis8988 Exactly. When a man is hurt he will shut down. Which is why he shouldn't lead a woman on by saying he wants a relationship. As for a man not being traditional and paying for dates, if a man asked me out on a date and at the end told me to pay my portion, I wouldn't talk to him. But as you pointed out not all women agree, which is a good thing for men that think like you.

@@Chaptersaudio No lies detected here!

I think he went back into the dating scene too quickly, without healing first. He needs to heal and enjoy singlehood for awhile before putting himself back out there in the dating market. This guy will put even the most attractive woman out there in the friend zone because of his pain. He just needs to heal

LOL okay then......

How will she get herself a man with money.what makes her worth marrying just to have sex with.She is not that pretty 1.How will she put up with the other women that don't require men to marry them to have sex 2.Men don't have biological clocks so they can reproduce at the time they get sperm to when they die where as her clock ticks the moment she gets her 1st period and gets worst when she reaches 30 if can't find a mate and her eggs go bad her gene dies with her

Amen