Hey Steve: Premarital Counseling? || STEVE HARVEY 

She's gorgeous

A lot of churches require a premarital class before they will marry you! It's a good idea!

She is soo pretty and more counseling can’t hurt only help...

Counseling is a must!!! Counseling will help give you tools to problem/ conflict resolution. Having disagreements are wonderful for marriage when you can resolve them with out damaging or disrespecting each others beliefs, experiences, point of view & background etc.

Premarital counseling is the only way my bishop is marrying you in our church, it's absolutely mandatory. Having God at the center of your marriage is great, but you need to iron out the details surrounding your marriage before you say I Do. Premarital counseling won't hurt, just go and do your sessions and count down the days until you are married and implement what you learned from the sessions into your marriage

She’s so sweet and green! God Bless their marriage🙌🏽🙏🏽💕

All my friends who didn't do premarital counseling are divorced because they didn't know so many things. But my wife and I had it and going on 11 years best advise I got from my grandparents who been married 45 years. I think to often people say pray about it but don't realize there has to be work done

If you would want to plan for a successful career or wedding, why not marriage? Pre-marital Counseling is a great way to discuss scenarios/expectations and hash out a plan of action before it comes up during your marriage.

I love Steve's response

God uses people... 'In the multitude of counsel there is safety.' Godly counsel is a good thing.👍💙

God says that my people suffer for lack of knowledge - not lack of love. Go to counseling...

This girl is cute. Black beauty

Everyone should do premarital counsel. Then counseling maybe every year for a couple weeks. You work on, fix up, fine tune and learn about everything else in life. Why not do the same in one of the most important things you will ever do. Even if you have no “issues.” Just refresh make sure you are on the right track every now and then. Real talk.

"Marriage is hard" Depends on who you marry, in which case you discover more when you go into counseling

Premarital counseling is a must ! , from a doctor perspective

Pre-Marriage councilling may be a Blessing!

It's nice to know what to expect before going into something as big as marriage

All you need in your marriage is God,marriage is really hard, marriage takes a lot of sacrifices,premarital counseling is great idea ,from the counselling you have some clues on handling your problems.

The Bible says there is safety in multitude of counsels. The God focused man missed a portion of the Bible, I wonder how many more portions he has missed?

Steve is absolutely right and the woman asking the question is gorgeous! Premarital counselling is ALWAYS a good idea. You don't lose anything by going to it, so I don't think anyone in their right mind would be against it. Do not go into marriage blinded by love. Marriage is real, hard stuff.

Man... if I would've known this 😭😭😭😂😂😂😂😂.

Ladies, premarital counselling is ESSENTIAL for a healthy and sustaining marriage 🙌🏽✨

Yikes she sounds naive. Steve asked that question on purpose and her answer was very telling.

Gurl!!! That's an excuse for him not to be exposed on his stuff! My recent ex-husband did that & FUTURE FAKED me to death to the point that I later found out he's a Covert Narcissist! If he refuses to go, it lets you know how religious he is! And he's not balanced as a Christian! It's preached to some people that all you need is God! Doctors are not NECESSARY when Luke was a doctor & a disciple of Jesus!

Hmmm, it comes off like he has a big ego. Why wouldn't you want wisdom that has been tested by those before you. And the bible encourages older women and men to teach those who are younger. It's a bit weird, but my advice to her would be to make sure he respects your voice as well

You need to sit down first together and discuss all matters. Then, you need to plan how to use the educational resources in the market on marriage to say take a self help course to set the background for both of you. Afterwards, you can pinpoint the the complicated matters as a result of your prior work and take it from there for counseling.

Salute to Steve always giving good advice!!!

I think uncle Steve should counsel them..Lol!!..

My husband and I went to premarital counseling and honestly, the short counseling sessions didn't seem to really prepare us for the experience of two lives coming together as one. Ultimately, experience became our best revealing teacher.

*Great input Steve! Exactly right*

Always sooner than later 🤓

Premarital counseling is a must. Often times people think because they are in love they are ready to be married. Marriage requires so much more. It is good to have a professional sit you down and get you to think about the challenges that will come. It's one thing to "feel" love for someone. Its another thing to know how to articulate that feeling into actions, words, and a shared experience. Young people need help with that process. Because what good is that feeling if you can't adequately translate into something the other person understands and benefits from, and vice versa.

“All we need is God and we will be fine “🤣🤣🤣🤣LMAO these men 🤦🏾‍♀️

Steve is so wise! Honestly

I always wondered if my ex husband and I had done counseling would we have gotten a divorce?? Or maybe prevented us from getting married in the first place. I allowed him to ignore my very strong feelings of needing counseling and he ended up having an affair. So I think counseling works sometimes

I went to counseling and told the Dr that I had a plan...first my fiance would come in, alone, so she could speak uninhibited about us. Next was my turn. Then we would come in together. After following this weekly schedule for 4 months, I said we needed another therapist. When asked WHY? I said because You believe a relationship is worth ANY SACRIFICE to keep alive....I don't. I can't and won't give in on everything.

I'm married. I can tell you now, most of those problems is when you get with a insecure, selfish, and stubborn. You mainly need communication, understanding, and sacrifice

In the Bible it says that seeking counsel is WISE. Especially for relationships knowing the devil tries to break Godly marriages.

I do love counseling 💞

Hello every one Thumb up Steve TV God bless

We didn't do premarital counseling and we are doing just fine . 6 years strong some people need it some don't.

Since he focus so much on the Lord. She can have his pastor explain that to him. Marriage counseling is important. Done!

Love that color combo on Steve !! And she’s a truly lovely young woman.

Premarital counselling should be mandatory

She is a sweetheart.

Steve gives the best answers! Wow! 😂❤

Loved this

Counseling is on a basic level provides Accountability Which we all need and it tough for Most Men because we're limited in our communication skills and it ain't easy for us give disclosure a person we dont know

If he is so God centered, why is he against the premarital counseling? Most churches try to educate its members about courtship (especially young people) and they promote premarital counseling, so I find this very strange. Even outside of a Christian context, he should be interested in taking some sort of class or doing some form of preparation for marriage so his excuse doesn't make sense. He may not be as Christ-centered as she thinks.

Her husband saying all they need is God should be a red flag 🚩 as lovely as it sounds. I’m glad Steve told her the truth. My friend got engaged and I suggested they go to premarital counseling and she never answered my emails :( Nothing more sad than seeing girls blindly in love with a stubborn man.

You can attend all the counseling in this world, if you are unwilling to apply yourself, nothing's going to work.

THAT BLUE AND BROWN THO 👍🏾👌🏾🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

😂😂😂😂😂😂.....oh yeah, God ain't gonna come up one bit when you start arguing....I'm a living witness, I know that for sure lol.......I love God and he's at the center of all I do but when that argument hits...looool.....God don't ever come up in it lmao

Good advice

Premarital counseling is good for the most part. But for two matured couples seriously wanting to settle down and understand each other well, you don't need an elder in a church to prep-talk you into that.

You’re right Steve you better go

I’m all for it 👍🏻

She has a great voice

She is so pretty!!!!

Pre-marital counselling is your friend. It will help you identify your differences before they come up and help you navigate your relationship

I went to it. It’s good to see the problems that may come up. We also had to write letters to each other and the church mailed it. I still have it. I was married for two years and unfortunately my husband passed away. Too young to go

I got married at 25 and thought the same thing. But I went anyway. 7 years, and a lot of trails and tribulations later, I'm glad I did go. We've had a wonderful marriage, I couldn't have imagined the things that we've been thru (no cheating, drugs nor violence Thank God) but I could write an essay on things that have tested us. I'd ask him what does he have to lose by going. Why not just go bc she wants to go and her family wants them too? Follow the advice and sacrifice for those whom u love. My wife's family required us to go to receive their blessing. 7 years later, I appreciate the fact they did that.

She is so beautiful end sweet! 🥰

Tell her what that's what God wants you to do your funny good episode telling what that's what God wants you to do LOL have a good day God bless

This is a "Red Flag". So now when the issues/problems arise, he won't want help solving them. That's prideful. Pride comes before a downfall. There's a plethora of scripture that states how God hates pride. There's also a plethora of scripture that speaks that there is wisdom in seeking good counsel. Only a fool will turn down counsel. All good kings in scripture had a group of counsel. Tell him that!

Maybe Steve should counsel them

That's right Steve! Reality check! God knows that weaknesses show up before and after marriage. God doesn't come down and fix things, he wants us 'to get up' and use the wisdom he gives. So many Christians say "as long as we have God" and don't even know what they mean. We need to understand things like God doesn't build tables, but gives us the wood, he does not come down and start planting full grown trees but gives us seeds, water etc.

She's gorgous!!!!!!

It's a good question, and just about all answers are right. The key issue is, most folks aren't raised to have some sense these days, so they go in there and make nonsense. If a man knew who he was from scratch, and what was expected of him; and a woman knows who she is from scratch, and what's expected of her; and most importantly if either/both know who they are in Christ and what their relationship towards Him should be... Then they'd all be fine. Problem is, that's a lot of ifs.

I think I did alot of research before getting married so I knew everything in premarital counselling.

beautiful girl!

I like her cute hair

He's correct God is the ONLY thing needed. God is a counselor

Premarital counseling damn right they need it Faith first, God center but when disagreement God doesn't come up needed this counseling is cause little problems become big ones. Like he works late you can address it's the job, She is around attractive men her job yeah it's life not much can do. The couple one year apart must remember soul and love connection can never let die

If you rely on god all the time for something like this you aren’t gonna get as far as you think

Yes, counseling is a proactive process, which is necessary but the counselor has to be the right and righteous one.

Get counseling from a licensed professional... Truth be told, most clergy are counseling couples based on their previous EXPERIENCE & misaligning the scriptures in the Bible... There are countless couples where infidelity & domestic abuse of all forms from "church folks" & people stay in these marriages because they tell the couples that God doesn't like divorce.

Shes beautiful

25, he don't know s...... ,like my mom told me ,you don't have a pot to piss in and the window throw it out of..lolol that what she said to me ,love you mom...lolo..

She is gorgeous beautiful 😍 wow he is a very lucky man amen 🙏🌻💜♥️🥀

Go. She seems like their relationship is good so why not

If you're able to do premarital counseling, please do it! Even if only one person agrees that they need it, it's a good foundation to have and the counseling will give you tools to start practicing, to help avoid issues that will be magnified once you're married.

Anyone who's against counseling is a yellow flag... there is always a reason why people don't want to counseling. Growth comes from knowledge and experience and counseling helps make that happen with healthy boundaries

No man that prays every day is fake. counseling is always good before marriage but no matter how much counseling you get if you don't have God at the center of your marriage it will still fail.

Not! Another! Beard!

Jehovah God is our best counselor, he created the first marriage. Apply bible principles in your marriage, like husbands love your wife as you would love yourself, he who loves himself will love his wife. Ephesians 5:28.

Yass

I understand about the man saying all we need is God in JESUS NAME. DRAW HIM EVER SO CLOSER TO YOU JESUS.. JESUS ALL IN ALL. SO JESUS IS ALL YOU NEED. THE LORD KNOWS WHO TO SEND YOU WHEN YOU ARE IN HIM. HE DON'T LEAVE YOU OUT THERE BY YOURSELF. TRUST THE LORD WILL PUT PEOPLE IN THERE LIFE THAT WILL GIVE THEM HIS COUSEL. .

Where we can go for premarital counseling?

Any time i hear phrases like all we need is God, a breakdown soon follows. The most high more practical than humans. We need Gods laws and principles to have successful relationships. We need knowledge, hard facts to avoid problems and work our way through when we fall.

I think maybe if it hadn't been her parents suggestion that the boyfriend would have went for it if she brought it up to him. It's probably a good idea I suppose but it's most definitely not necessary or a must to have a good marriage. If you want a good marriage or a good relationship then both of you should give up social media to start off

If I was dude I would marry her too? Cause Lawrd she's beautiful.

she is pretty

What’s the point in getting pre-marital Counselling if there are already sleeping together. “Let’s get advice from the lord while doing the very thing he says not to do”

I feel like he may have been pressured into proposing to her. I knew someone who was pressured into marrying his girlfriend (who was pregnant with someone else's baby) and 10 years later they divorced because he never wanted to get married.

God is pro counselling 😆😍

"That's what God wants you to do." As an Atheist, I thought that was funny.

I doubt religion people who can't listen others have to say. What Bible did he read. For the I know, I believe you can find how in the book counseling is kinda recommended.

He’s a religious fanatic!

At 25, no man or woman knows God or life well enough to be able to be successful without wise counsel... which is why the Word of God says in Proverbs, the Pauline Epistles, and James to seek older, more experienced Godly people for counsel when making important decisions. Marriage is the most important decision any two people will ever make, so, GOD HIMSELF, according to His Word, wants them to have a MULTITUDE, not just Him directly, but a MULTITUDE of wise, Godly counselors. Before and during, if you read the Scripture carefully... so... of course, Godly premarital counseling is the right thing for them to go get. Ladies -- in life and in church as well -- ANY TIME a man wants to isolate you such that there is going to be no source of MALE ACCOUNTABILITY in his life and no source of FEMALE ACCOUNTABILITY in yours -- ANY TIME he says that you just need him and God, he is either IGNORANT of Scripture, LYING to you, or BOTH. He is CONTRADICTING the Word of God just as much as SATAN did when he spoke to Eve in the garden. It SOUNDS GOOD, and all spiritual, but the Word clearly says to seek counsel from other Godly people, and specifically the mature men and women in the faith are supposed to provide this to younger people CONSTANTLY. If you are with a man who aspires to any position of authority in your life who does not want to submit to this truth, GET OUT OF THERE. He is seeking the place of God to usurp it over you -- RUN FOR YOUR LIFE, for real!