Too much trouble for her I guess. When I was younger I thought my friends parents who let their kids do anything they wanted were great, now as a mom I realized they didn’t give a sh*t it was just easier for them to give in
@@jesss428 I was actually one of those kids who would cry and scream and act all crazy in the morning when my mom would wake me up for school bc I didn’t want to go. I don’t remember what happened to get me to start going again I was so young but I def can see why it is easier for the parents to give in. My mom took my to therapy and the therapist told my mom that she needed to grab me and put me in the car in my pajamas and messy hair and drop me off in front of the school acting crazy and looking crazy, and I just remember my Mom being like fuck no I would never embarrass my child like that. She was like she has enough issues right now as is, you want me to make everyone at school bully and make fun of her, ya right, sure that will make her want to go. Idk I just remembered this and it is def hard asf on both sides, bc something is obviously happening in the child’s life to make them feel this way, and it could have nothing to do with actual school. But eventually I grew out of it but I can’t remember how exactly.
The first thing she needs to do is get his anxiety under control. Kids have treatment options now. I had to suffer through it as a child. School anxiety was a nightmare for me growing up and I would have greatly benefited from meds and therapy. It's neglectful they have all these options (and apparently the means to afford it as well) to help him now and they aren't taking advantage.
And it's absolutely not helping. Dad hit the nail on the head when he said that being away from school makes it hard to go back because every day away increases the likelihood of the kids asking why he's been gone so long when he gets back. It's very rare for a parent to appreciate how daunting that is for a certain kind of kid, and I'm impressed that Dad does. When this kid misses a day of school, he needs to have to go back as soon as possible, so that the anxiety about questions upon returning doesn't have a chance to build. (Just like I need to reply to text messages as soon as I get them.) Unfortunately, it's been so long that it _is_ going to be uncomfortable, but it's one of those things where the only way out, is through, or else it gets worse for him every day.
I couldn’t believe when mom’s lawyer sat there and essentially said that dad was in the wrong because he wanted to tell the son the truth about how long he was going to be staying with him, when mom wanted to lie. Like are you shitting me??
Exactly! Once the kid figures out that he's staying at Dad's for a month he's going to blame the father seems to me like mama always knows what she's doing.
As a child with anxiety who wouldn’t have gone to dads had we been divorced at the time I cringed when the judge said “tell him he’s going to be at dads for a month”. I mean, on one hand surprises aren’t good for kids with anxiety, but on the other hand, I knew if she told him it would be a MONTH there would be NO WAY he would go if he can’t even go for a week. They should have absolutely done the other way and done short fun visits to rebuild the sense of safety for the anxious child. This judge has obviously never even met a person with anxiety 😥
@@NickiNickiNineDoorI think a lot of these commenters have never raised a child with an anxiety disorder or OCD. This is spot on advice I wish that the whole courtroom had heard. None of them are doing what's best for the child here. That baby is hurting.
I have a 12 yo that has severe anxiety. There are things the mom could do to get her child to school. She is allowing excuses. I get it, its easier to just give in, but its hurting the child .
And she's allowing and reinforcing his anxiety, which is detrimental to his mental health at this point, and he needs the social emotional from schooling with other children. I really can't believe that she's just not taking him. Are there any consequences or is she allowing him not to go without any repercussions? She doesn't seem to be trying very hard. I mean, you can get in legal trouble for not making your kid, go to, like actual jail time. This is crazy to me!!!
I’m trying to be very understanding of the child’s struggles but at 11 there has to be more than can be done to get him to school. Frequent counseling, medication, something.
Some amount of anxiety is normal for every single person on this planet. The problem with kds these days is parents that reinforce the idea that anxiety is a bad thing….that it’s abnormal…that it means they’re sick. They create the monsters in the closet for these poor kids. Life is not all butterflies and rainbows and people need to start understanding that sometimes it’s hard, sometimes it’s sad, sometimes it’s nerve wracking. Someone somewhere (prob a therapist) convinced a whole lot of people that anxiety is a disorder and they need kids gloves treatment. It’s all ridiculous. It’s creating a Gen of soft head cases.
Mom is really messing her kid up mentally! Who lets a 12 year old make their decisions to not go to school but play football!!! 🙄 I’m with Dad ALL the way! His kid needs structure and the courts are playing with this child mental state as well!
I am on dads side ALL THE WAY! There aren't a ton of dads willing to do what absolutely NEEDS TO BE DONE and this guy deserves to have a chance to get this kid some structure. Mom probably doesn't get the kid to bed on time, doesn't make him stop playing video games and then when she tries to get him up for school, he won't get up because he's too tired--and she just gives in since she doesn't want to hear him bellyache. I think dad will do well in getting him on a schedule, and getting his @ss to school where he needs to be.
The father needs an attorney full stop. He doesn't know what he's doing, running his mouth, slinging mud (As tempting as it is) is only going to irritate the judge. Should have just told the judge what he would do, and let the judge infer from that what mom isn't doing.
I have never seen a parent that needed a lawyer more than this dad. There were multiple opportunities for him to file contempts, submit evidence, make suggestions on specific actions, and he blew them all because he's totally incapable of representing himself. Most importantly, he presents obnoxiously by overtalking and flailing widely from one accusation to the other. I hope he shuts his stupid mouth and gets a lawyer, for the sake of himself and his child.
I totally agree. My guess is that he likely won’t get a lawyer because he seems to be convinced that he knows best and should be in control of the situation, and a lawyer would be an admission that he doesn’t and isn’t. He really doesn’t seem to like anybody having any kind of control but himself.
I have only recently started watching these and am realizing how much of a difference that makes! The way things go can totally depend on representation. And which judge hears the case as well. It's hard to watch sometimes.
Paying for an attorney during a high conflict custody case like this could take tens of thousands. I’m sure the mother would just love to run that bill through the roof. If anything Dad should’ve at least hired a high conflict divorce consultant.
Yep. This is the problem. If dad had a lawyer handling his case, the lawyer would know to make motions to either compel the mother to obey the court or to award custody to the father if she fails to do so. She is clearly failing this child. And the father is failing the child by letting his frustration cloud his interaction with the court. I also think the judge is bad in this case. He should do more to insist the mom follows his order. I don’t believe that she’s blameless and that it’s all the father’s fault.
It is unfortunate that Judge Boyd or Judge Middelton etc didn't hear this case. This judge is not able to control his court and follow recommendations by professionals. Judge has turned this into a confusing mess....
This Judge needs to be sanctioned, holy cow, he is not listening to anything the father said. He needs to force something to happen, he’s the Judge, he needs to force this mother to do what she is told. Send a police officer to her door to take the child to school. EDIT: This mother needs to be held in contempt, it’s past time for her to realize that she has to follow Court orders… Mom is contributing to this child’s anxieties, she is psychologically harming her own child. This Judge isn’t any better than the mother, this is the third time before him. Mom hasn’t done ONE thing she was ordered to do, yet, no sanctions against her. No wonder neither she, nor her Lawyer, are worried about anything, they are just doing whatever they want, since the JUDGE seems fine with this behaviour…
Exactly …simply perfectly said it’s really very simple what needs to be done and it could not be more clear that this mother is causing harm to this child this judge acts as if he can’t be bothered he does and says the exact same thing each time so this mother clearly does whatever she wants knowing she can and there will be no consequences from the courts that judge is actually very rude to this father how can he keep letting that mother do as she pleases that judge is irresponsible and is causing harm right along with the mother
The issue isn’t the Judges, it’s the requirements to be a Judge in matters for the courts they oversee! Do you think any of them have any degrees in social, mental, or behavioral health?! Remember they are appointed by who you vote for!
I also think the judge has the old mindset of the mom is the parent and the father is second to the mom depending on the moms wishes. The judge could've held that mom in contempt many times. How is it the child barely sees his father in 2 years but is afraid of his father which he wasn't until the mom stopped being a parent to the child. I'd bet as soon as he remarried or what not is when she started to hate her ex more than she loves her child.
This is so sad. I understand dads frustration completely. Mom has some serious issues and is going to damage her child if she hasn't already. Judge is really so by the book, he hates excuses and demands the parents to come up with solutions which I appreciate a lot. Makes the parents start thinking about the child. BUT in this case dad had suggestions and Judge just woulnt listen but make much mote complicated suggesions. Not enough answers from mom to explain her actions .
@@gailmorraI think she wants a Dr that will side with her and say the kid is either sick or mentally disabled. She sounds like a lot of females anymore! Ugh my poor baby is autistic or has ADHD! 🙄 When really it’s them slowing their child down with behaviors like this baby momma!
Except one parent seems to already be thinking about the child but have no control over the situation. Because he doesn't have the child physically in his possession. So what do you want the father to do? Do you want him to use mental telepathy? To make the child do what they want the child to do or is it app to the mother to do her side of the parenting as well, instead of just blaming everything on the father who has next to no control over the scenario? Yes, done everything he can within his power. And it hasn't worked because people have to cooperate for things to work. And nobody seems to want to cooperate with him.
I agree but it’s because the father has a horrible attitude. I hate that the judge can’t see past it but the dad’s bad attitude isn’t getting him anywhere.
@@kierrataylor8344 this was my take in the live as well. The dad has great points and an argument but the way he comes across (and I don't blame him either) it's not going to be heard from this judge. He has a lawyer and I dont know why he didn't let the lawyer do his talking.
@@pipermccool or he's frustrated that he keeps coming to court and they do nothing to enforce court orders when he's trying to help his kid. I see both being true
This man desperately desperately needs a lawyer. The judge is so put off by this guy's personality that he's not hearing what he's saying. For example he told the judge that she is giving him medications the judge never caught that what medications and who's prescribing them? Also children don't get to tell adults what to do if she was truly on the same page with his father she would make sure he got in that car. If he doesn't listen to a court order at this age there's no way he's going to do it as an adult.
Sorry… think mom is causing the alienation! As a mom of four who divorced my ex while the children were around this age I could have easily influenced my children against their dad!!! This child being ‘afraid’ when gg to dads from moms tells me where this is originating from… no discipline from mom & allowing the child to make the choices makes her a bad mom!!! Judge needs to see what this mom is doing! As I have said, I could have easily created division & this child is gg to hate his mom & be messed up !!
Sadly, I agree some moms and their attorneys game is to cut the dad out. With that being said the dad doesn’t present well but I am not sure if it’s years of frustration or his personality. This mom could have made a choice to attend school with her son to get him comfortable. Of course that would be work. Some parents are lazy after the home school years.
Or Dad is just a creep and the kid really doesn't like him. Maybe that should be looked into as to WHY the kid doesn't want to go there. Why would mom has to bribe him to get him to go there.
@@jenniferj939 I agree that nobody should bribe Hunter. At this point, I don’t think either parent is equipped to be Hunter’s parents. I think all three of them really need guidance, support, and therapy, both individually and as a family.
My husband ex did cause a division with there daughter and she is almost 40 yrs old. From what we understand that mom now regrets doing that very thing. My husband has congestive heart failure and getting her to come and be with him during a surgery was going to take second seat to her going to a football game. I’m grateful she did come and I let them visit and stay as far away as I can, because she’s under the impression that I’ve cause her parents not to be together even though I was not in the picture before, during and for several years after. Parents need to understand there doesn’t need to be a poison relationship between parents in this circumstance.
@@jenniferj939 Okay... this guy comes across as aggressive.. but who wouldn't?? He's been trying for a couple years to just get his visitation! It seems like the court has not been taking this seriously enough. The kid went to school one week last year??? In moms care?? How can Dad be at fault. There's a psychologist on record saying there's a possibility of Münchausen syndrome and Dads the abuser?? If the kid is with mom all the time she has the ability to influence that kid in ways that there's no oversight of. If the kid is with mom for a year... why is he still afraid of Dad? Why would he even be thinking about time with Dad if Mom wasn't putting it in the kids ear?? Dad comes off as hostile but I venture to say any caring parent could get to that point after jumping through all those hoops. As for his issue with the GAL.. I was a trial paralegal and worked for a family law attorney.. not all GALs are good. Some of them suck. When the other GAL was mentioned what was Dads response? He said no.. why? Because he asked for it a year ago!! He's angry that the court has not been taking his issues seriously.. it still happens. Men are not listened to as much as women are when it comes to kids. Perhaps if the court had listened to him earlier this poor kid would not be in this awful situation...
You're laying everything on Dad. It is my experience that there is plenty of responsibility to go around. That said, Moms have an inordinate amount of control and are extremely willing to use it to control outcomes. Mom is so insistent about online school, the kid is afraid of Dad, he won't get out of the car, etc. If Mom won't help make this work the child will end up in some in-care facility.
The options are: 1) she’s alienated the child’s affection for his father; or 2) the child has severe enough mental/emotional problems that he needs to be institutionalized.
3) Hunter‘s dad and mom are pushing Hunter to hate the other parent. 4) the dad could be a horrible father. There could be justification to his fear. Regardless, whether this is the case or not, the dad is rightfully so upset. However, the dad is lacking restraint, and appears to put more on the mother and blame her for Hunter‘s issues. 5) while I agree with your number two. I have to truly wonder if it’s more of an issue of Hunter, needing more loving and supportive parents. I’m hoping that it will be a simple as all three of them have evaluations and receiving therapy.. Maybe the issues have grown and are more severe because Hunter hasn’t seen a medical professional in more than two years. That once he gets it needed treatment, hopefully things will be better.
I don't see the dad as the bad guy at all. I think his approach to the child, ie, being honest, etc, is respectful and correct. I think he's getting screwed. Though well-spoken, I don't think the dad will be acknowledged without a lawyer. Also, he doesn't know how to file a contempt motion, which I think is appropriate.
I agree! I believe his frustration stems from nothing being done that has been ordered and seeing the situation spiral out of control. He’s requesting nothing unreasonable.
I also believe dad is being truthful. While he does not act the way, people think he should, I believe it is out of frustration over saying mom manipulate her child and the system to get the upper hand in the battle of parenting time and decision making.
I don’t understand how a parent can’t make a child get out of the car or go to school. As a teacher, I understand mental health. But I also understand that children can learn to manipulate situations to get their own way. And that seems to be happening here. Hunter has learned he can just say “I’m scared” and Mom will give in. If parenting skills aren’t strong enough to deal with these situations (which seems to be Mom’s problem) children will use this deficit to get their way. While I agree Dad seems very aggressive & dismissive to women, but Mom also seems to be putting ideas into Hunter’s head. Going to school only one week last year & only 1 day this year, is RIDICULOUS!!! How is this legal? This kids is going to be SO FAR behind. The online school is not a solution because if the kid doesn’t want to get out of the house, then in person school is a MUST. It’s like Hunter is a toddler throwing a tantrum and Mom feeds into it. He wants online school so he doesn’t have to deal with hard situations. His “anxiety” is because of the chaos he is living in and these things are what Mom is putting into his head. This is ABSOLUTELY CRAZY that a 12 year old is RUNNING THIS HOUSEHOLD!!! Sad sad sad
Depends on the age of the child and it is possible to fall under abuse by physically forcing, dragging, threatening, pulling, pushing etc. Dad's case is weak
I totally understand a parent not being able to force a kid to go to school. My son wouldn't go so I started walking him into school and he walked out the other door. I sat in his room with him and as soon as I stopped doing that he continued to be truant. (I had to go to work and couldn't keep it up) The therapist finally told me to stop forcing him and he would not pass and would not move on to highschool but then the school passed him because he was smart.
@@travlnwoman The kid has NO PROBLEM going to school dad gets him there fine mom is the problem even the doctors said after time away from mom his attitude changed.
This is a horrible awful judge. He needs another line of work. If dad was violating court orders he would be doing a few days in jail. Judge acts like he would rather be somewhere else and could care less about this poor kid.
That was especially more prevalent in the first hearing. My first impression of the judge was not a good one, when he was under the assumption that everything was going perfect with the order that he made in June. I really have to wonder why it took that long to have a hearing. Actually, I suspect pirate has to do with the fact that the father appears not to have an attorney representing him. I also suspect that the August or September hearing was already scheduled. I gather the judge assumed everything was fine because he didn’t hear anything. I understand to some extent, a judges job is limited, and he relies on advocates and GALS. I don’t know if he is allowed to punish Hunter for truancy. Or that goes to a criminal judge. If he has the power to do it, why didn’t he?
The over-riding theme I see here is not so uncommon: one parent intentionally or mistakenly throws a wrench in the parenting plan. That's usually accomplished by actually encouraging a kid's poor behavior by saying ok, you don't have to go to dad/ mom/ school if you don't want to. There's no healthy, logical reason mom has fostered this situation and it gives kids the wrong message. The rule is you attend school, kiddo. You clean your room. You go to mom's/ dad's. Online schooling has proven beneficial - as supplemental education. Computers offer too many play distractions to kids who aren't developing self discipline. Why isn't mom home schooling 12 year old Hunter instead of planting him in front of a computer? It sounds like he does as he pleases without consequences at mom's. Not going to school should at the least be met with the loss of privileges such as TV. One thing that disturbs me is the attention mom gains as a result of Hunter's medical and psychological issues -- hallmarks of parental Munchausen Syndrome. It's troubling that dad, judge and mom's lawyer each have multiple suggestions for a solution while mom offers none.
I completely agree. I feel like mom needs to be held in contempt. Instead, she just throws her hands up and says, he won’t go, he’s scared of his dad. That’s nonsense. I guarantee fear isn’t the issue. It’s being spoiled by mom who’s seemingly encouraging this whole anxiety issue. I bet every cent I have, he doesn’t “like” dad’s house because he’s not allowed to be on the computer all day long. She has no urgent notion towards this child’s education. She’s letting him do exactly what any 12 would choose without the guidance of a parent, not going to school, not having to do anything you’ve decided you don’t want to……not a very good lesson for his future. Sometimes your kids will be mad at you, they get over it. But, if she refuses to teach him responsibility, he’ll be living there, with her, forever!!!
Why is the person who is posting this video making negative comments about the dad throughout the video? I can't blame dad. His son is missing school and he's only seen him for two weeks even though he has 26 weeks or six months per year of visitation. Dad has a reason to be upset. This is insanity. The child is twelve. He's not fifteen.
Mom has forgotten that she is the parent. As a parent, you set your kids up with expectations and consequences. I'm still thinking about a physician saying mom has Munchausen by Proxy. Mom has put a lot into this kids head. Poor child. He's only 12 years old. I would love a follow up if you can do it.
Munchuasen by proxy has also crossed my mind as a possibility. I'd love to hear more back story on how we got here because from the way dads speaking this had been going on for atleast years. We are already 10 months in with little interaction besides the kid with mom and there's been 0 progress. Why isn't the judge taking that into consideration?
@@elkennedy9176 The part that distressed me is all the medications he was on despite not having a pediatrician. That could just make him sick and anxious.
@@bcbock I'm baffled by so many things going on here. Perfect storm of a disaster. Mom and lawyer say child is so distraught with mental illness but does not do anything about it. Lack of doctor visits? Doesn't make sense if child needs so much care.
@@bcbock I had the same thought. The boy hadn’t been to a dr for what was it, 2 years, yet mom had him in meds … Rx meds or OTC, regardless she’s NOT a Dr
I think that not only is mom filling his head with negative stuff but she's also letting him get away with everything. He's not doing anything because of mom. Not enough discipline or encouragement. She's enjoying this too much to see dad fight for his kid.
The dad seems like he’s angry but when I’m scared for my child I come off angry. You just feel lost when you can’t help your child. He is fighting so hard for this young man to have a normal happy life. The mom seems like she’s just lazy! Let’s him do w.e he wants. I don’t think she wants her son to have a life beyond her, truthfully
Exactly. Dad feels helpless and hopeless - and for good reason, because the judge/court do NOTHING to help him. Just bc he can’t afford a lawyer it’s costing his relationship with his own child. It’s sickening. What an awful, horrid mother.
33:35 I’m still with the dad on this. The mom keeps coddling the kid, and won’t hold him responsible for anything! No wonder the kid doesn’t wanna go with dad. At dad’s there are probably responsibilities, like going to school! The poor dad looks frustrated beyond belief. I really feel bad for the dad. He’s trying everything he can, but the mom keeps impeding it.
I will agree that the judge did not seem to be unbiased, but I do see where there could be issues with the father. He speaks about punishment and perhaps strong arm tactics. Do not get me wrong, I believe in teaching the child proper behaviour, but the father seems to be too controlling. However, I do believe that the mother is not only the source of his behavior, but I suspect that she will undermine the court orders once again. Also, it appears that he has communication issues with child care court staff@@jillspence7227
@@vsbaretummysugastonguetech1540 He is 12…. He isn’t using anyone. He is still a child who doesn’t fully comprehend the dynamics of a broken family. Hard to blame him for being in this position…. Also, he has an arrogant bully as a dad, and mom…. We don’t know much, but she is obviously allowing a 12 year old to call the shots. Unacceptable in my opinion. But, that’s just me.
I think she’s ☠️ him. I think dad’s munchhausen diagnosis is spot on. When he was at the hospital for a few days his system cleared and he was acting like a normal kid. She is 1 mil % doing something to him.
Mom is in the wrong. Period. Mom is lazy, mom can't be bothered to make sure their son attends school, sees a pediatrician and psychologist, goes to football practice, and sees his father. Of course a 12 year old doesn't want to see the only parent who makes him do stuff he doesn't want to do!
This is crazy. The judge is not doing justice for this child. Mom is acknowledging that she is unable to effectively parent. Acknowledges that she cannot get a 12-year old to go to school, go to dad's, etc. Dad is saying he can do better. If Mom acknowledges that she is incapable, Dad needs to be given an opportunity. The judge could order CPS to pick the child up and transport him to Dad if Mom is incapable. If a child learns that he can claim anxiety over anything he doesn't want to do and not have to do it, of course he's going to do that. I'm all for listening to children and treating medical issues, but Mom isn't doing that either. The child didn't even have a PCP. The fact that the child was released from the mental health facility with no specific diagnosis and no medication is very telling of who the true culprit is in this case, and the judge is missing the mark at absolutely every turn. Dad needs an attorney and Mom needs to be ashamed of herself.
The judge ignoring the advice of the expert is worrying 😟. She said a month is too long for a child that age, but the judge does it anyway. He's not looking for the best interest of the child. FF a month... kid has intense anxiety. Um... he hasn't been around dad in several months. So predictable!! 🙄
Judge is way out of his league here. Bad calls all over. Doesn't hold mom in contempt and actually advises mom should take kid to school and if he doesn't go to school he goes with dad. Way to install more fear into a bad situation
@@elkennedy9176agree. I don’t feel like the judge is doing anything. There’s way more resources out there too. This has gone on too long. They need to step in and get a handle on this situation. How horrible.
@@stuff2047 he's really not. THere was once again no consequences for kid not in school, kid not with dad, and the dads the one looking for doctors, hand off areas, counseling, etc etc. The judge doesn't seem to have a handle on this case at all. He acts more like a referee hoping the people work it out on their own. There's another older judge who does the same thing. It's Infuriating. Nothing is ever accomplished they just set another hearing thus clogging up the court. It's ridiculous
This judge and the system is a big problem here. You are railroading the father, who is trying to be a father and allowing a bad mother to get away with doing what she's doing. The judge doesn't give a shit, is just a paycheck to him.
Their son needs in patient help. The father mentioned at the start he has PANDAs, which is usually severe OCD in children and then they mentioned he was diagnosed with OCD in the second call. If that's the case, I can see why he would have anxiety and not want to leave the house. OCD can manifest itself in many ways and it is a serious medical condition/mental illness. However, it is so bad that he can not leave the house, or has fear he is being poisoned, he needs to get treatment before he turns into a shut in.
If mom really believes he has such severe mental health issues that he can't function- she hasn't sought any treatment for 2 yrs & instead allows him to call the shots & do nothing.
I feel bad for Hunter! I have been the child in a situation very close to this. However it was my step dad and mom being jerks and my dad just wanting to help me any way he could. I had awful anxiety I was bullied at home by step dad and bullied at school to the point I didn’t want to wake up. My step dad (& backbone less mom) dressed up and said all of the “right things” and my dad told the truth the good the bad and the ugly. If it weren’t for my boyfriend I had at 14 I wouldn’t be here to say that we have been happily married for 27 years. I wish Hunter (&family)the best of luck
I of course dont have any history on this family but from what Ive seen in this short hearings that Dad is absolutely 100% correct! This Dad is frustrated and scared and no one is helping his son!! This Judge really pussed me off! Telling a dad to bribe his son to do everyday expectations!
I think the mother needs a psychiatric assessment.Young men need their fathers. The young man’s language is a mimic of the Mother. The Father needs a great attorney. This judge is not serving the Child!!!!! This “advocate” seems to not be contributing anything. The child needs an advocate!!
Who is that woman if she is not a guardian ad litem? Personally, I think both parents should lose custody of Hunter. Both of them have issues and it’s not just hating each other.
I do not like how judge is handling this case, it is so obvious that the mother is the issue. Dad's doing everything possible, trying to anyway! Breaks my heart for that baby boy! I'm a mother of 3 in my 30s and it seems to me they're taking mother's side... There are definitely some crappy mothers as well as father's out her, this lady is exactly that! I hope dad and son are together soon!
This kid is playing this. He knows at moms house he can do what ever he wants. Dad makes him go to school, do his homework and probably chores. I would bet money he plays video games for 15 hours a day.
This judge is completely unfair to the father. He won't listen to him, he's not requiring proof of what mother says and she's absolutely in contempt. If they can't handle him at 12, wait until he's 16. If this kid is going to stand a chance, he needs to be with his dad so he can start undoing the damage mom has done.
My dad went through this with his only biological son in the 90’s. The mother was bitter bc Dad married my mom and adopted my brothers and I. So, in response, the mother completely alienated my dad’s son from Dad and us. She’d claim that D didn’t want to come over or that he was too sick. After a while D just stopped coming. My dad didn’t want to force him… My dad is the most amazing, loving father and grandfather that you could ask for. He was a SAHD with D for the first 3 years - they had a strong bond. The wife cheated with a loser and demanded a divorce. Her loss was my mom’s, brother’s and my gain. Unfortunately D is still alienated from Dad. His own mother lied to him about Dad, claiming it was Dad that cheated and demanded the divorce. SMH. Some women are truly just sick and evil and full of selfishness. Lacking any shame or decency.
Wow. Yep. D dropped out of school around 7th grade bc his mom made excuses - always claiming he was too sickly. She’d allow him to stay home and play video games all day. The last I heard, he still lives with her and has never had a job. When she passes away he’s going to be screwed bc Mom never forced or encouraged him to live life and my dad wasn’t given the opportunity to once D hit about 5th grade. I pray this judge gets his act together or steps down. He’s making a huge mistake that could change this boy’s entire life.
This is a wonderful father who is actually taking action and keeping the best for his son in the forefront. The GAL should be someone who is completely neutral and not someone with previous experience with this family. This is a pathetic judge. Looking at Legal Stuff…your on-screen commentary is all wrong.
Im not liking this judge. He seriously needs to hold mom accountable. Mom is not trying at all. He wouldn't have freaked about a month if mom had done what the judge told her and to talk to him before so he doesn't get upset at drop off... Dad absolutely needs an attorney. Just for focus if nothing else. I think dad is wound up because Mom's inactions. He feels like he screaming and no one is listening. Of course screaming louder doesn't work.
My daughter had this EXACT issues….OCD and general anxiety. Dad should 100% be more involved. These mental health issues are not because dad or mom is there or not. The MOM is allowing a CHILD to make choices. These parents need to get it together. His description is more like parental alienation encouraged by MOM. Don’t give up dad…….you are correct.
Mom says people dont understand mental health - neither does she - she hasn't sought help for him for past 2 yrs! Instead she uses it as a weapon against dad.
So she is the parent and can’t get him to go to school? She had all the excuses in the world why she can’t and blames the kids anxiety for her lazy parenting
I also think dad is reacting the way he is & being dramatic because he’s upset & tired of the moms being allowed to do what she wants & not be held accountable for anything she does. She has had multiple violations of the order & she isn’t even admonished by the court when should of been held in contempt by now 😮
GAL!! GAL!! GAL!!!!!!!!! Why does dad have an issue with a GAL who really should clear things up for him. If mom is doing all of these bad things, the GAL should bring everything to light.
A GAL that either parent has known previously to the assignment is normally ruled out. I’ve been a GAL, you have to walk into the situation with a completely blank slate. Middleton is a clown.
Wow! Mother would rather ruin a child’s mind, future and life, rather act like a sane adult. To be so vindictive and divisive is crazy. Poor mixed up child.
So Dad gets to pick him up Sept 2nd or 3rd for month on, month off visitation... Yet he has to return him on Sept 30th?? This judge hates Dad for some reason when he really should be attacking the mother for her lack of discipline regarding their child, neglect and i fully agree, medical child @bu$3 as well!
Wth is going on??? This judge is horrible! If they were ORDERED to have him establish drs & the mom didn't take the child repeatedly, this judge should've held mom in contempt! Dad shouldn't have even had to say that & judge def shouldn't have spoken to him like he's the problem.
Who is this Judge? What is wrong with him? This child doesn't belong with mom!! The faculty should have released this child to the Father not the Mother!!
I don’t like the judge. We are made to believe it’s all on mom. But I highly suspect that is not the case. Unfortunately, I don’t think Hunter should’ve been released. I honestly think that this should have been brought before the judge some way, shape or form. I highly suspect under the law. They did the right thing and sending him back to mom. You can’t have a kid return to a parent that they are allegedly afraid of. Unless everyone is evaluated and they’re allowed to make a recommendation. Sadly, it appears at the hospitals hands were tied. I really have to wonder why CPS is not involved.
Mom is not doing her job. If her child is sick to this extent, she hasn't addressed it with medical and/or mental health professionals. What attempts has she made to get him help? She doesn't just get to make the claims she is making without any sort of proof. I think it would be more damaging for the kid to get picked up by dad and then told he would be with him for 30 days... I think this judge is too rigid and set in his ways.
Dad is telling the truth about the Dr’s. They will release you as a patient fast if you don’t keep those appointments! I took in a 3 year old and tried to make an appointment for them with their pediatrician! They said nope! She’s no longer our patient due to mom failing to keep appointments! I spoke with them and literally begged that she be able to keep the Dr because she was already going through so many changes I didn’t want to put her through anymore stress. I completely agree with dad! I’m not bribing my child to do a that is EXPECTED of him in order to grow!! This mom is crazy and vindictive! She probably wants her kid on social security. This is becoming the norm for many females in wanting their child to be sick or autistic! 🙄 This judge is off his rocker! He’s basically making excuses for a trashy mother! I would be outraged too if my child’s parent was interfering in their health and education!! The courts solved nothing for this dad. I’m not surprised though because they seem to love kids who have no education or respect for anyone!
I'm getting anxiety issues just watching these 2 parents!!!! This poor kid will not be capable to function as an adult if they don't get help for this kid ASAP !!!!
Hey @LookingAtLegalStuff could you place a link to the original videos in the update video description? I can’t find the original video. Thanks for your hard work,
I’m not too sure that I agree with that. I have to wonder why the dad is being so passive. There is only so much that the dad can do. However, he definitely needs to have an attorney that can help him navigate things better.
I’ve heard the phrase “it’s not what the child wants” “it’s not what the child wants” used over & over by the moms’s side & that is a BIG part of the problem. A child should only be allowed to pick & choose what they want do/are going to do to a certain extent. That’s why children have parents to step in when the child needs to be parented & told what to do. if not you’re going to end up raising a unruly, entitled child who thinks the world should move and bend the way they want it. Then that child is going to grow up to be an unruly, entitled adult who will not be able to be told what to do & will the think the world owes them something 🙄 Sorry but this case & cases like it drive me insane I loathe “mothers” like this one very much
This is a horrible judge. And the mother is definitely at fault. The only blame I place on dad is being without a lawyer. I would go in the debt if i had to fight the judicial system and the mom.
