Custody Motion: The Daycare vs CPS 

I'm gonna take the word of the daycare teachers who see and care for the children every day over a pair of neglectful CPS workers and the mother's personal social worker who has never even attempted to speak to the father. How does a social worker not know her own client's criminal history?! All these public servants involved in this case need to be fired. Also, the opinion of her enabling mother who never sees her grandkids is so irrelevant.

If this mom is abusing her kids by using fear to manipulate behaviors, how is she treating the nursing home residents where she works? 👀 Somebody better investigate that situation too!

I love this Jen lady, she is prepared and her statements show that she cares a lot for the children under her care; these are the types of people we need in our schools and daycares.

I worked in childcare for years and we know these kids inside and out. I would trust them over CPS any day.

35 mins in...dad is doing very well for himself considering he has no lawyer. And the daycare workers letter was so sad, as far as how the children arrived when in her care. Once even in the same diaper from the daycare, from the afternoon before. Thats abuse...not neglect. Leaving a baby in a diaper from 245pm until the follow day when she brought that baby back to daycare is abuse.

I'm usually really suspicious when a parent rambles non stop, but to me dad sounds so excited about home life with his 2 kids and what they do for activities.

That daycare provider is FIRE! I would let my kids say there for sure! Shes excellent!

Daycare: We’ve been caring for these children for 2 years and we have outrageous concerns. CPS: We met this lady a couple times and she seems legit. 😐

I'm a preschool teacher along with daycare... this is heartbreaking and absolutely ridiculous!!! The daycare woman was amazing.

I'll tell you, as a former foster parent, exactly why those CPS workers seem to have moms back (however pathetically executed). They DO NOT want to be held to account if it is proven that there was neglect or abuse and they failed to protect. They did not do it because they like mom better, as I've read in some comments. Pure and simple case of covering their asses!

Did I just hallucinate that woman admitting to the judge that she uses food withholding as a form of punishment? Between that and all that sighing like a 16 year old girl, that woman is making my blood boil.

Clowns scaring the son to keep him in his room...now child has problems. She did that, why?

My grandma had to quit school after completing second grade (back in 1903) because her family needed her to be at home to help with the farm and the house. She could write in cursive and print, read, pay her bills and balance the checkbook, run her and my grandparent’s home, raised her family. Lack of education doesn’t equal lack of common sense and practical knowledge. While Mom may be lacking in formal education, she seems to have deeper issues impacting her decision-making abilities.

Common sense tells me Jen Cantrell's only dog in this fight is the children's welfare. She's telling the truth.

The male CPS is not just negligent, he's dangerous and combative against the father in the mother's favour. That teacher's supervisor has forgotten that the teacher is a legally mandated reporter, not just compelled to testify in a case involving child safety, abuse or neglect. The other cps workers are weeping disgraces to themselves and their department saying outright that one case doesn't affect another and that one saying that (she) wasn't a mental health expert so she didn't have to answer the question of whether a small child's mental health would be affected by stressors. Unprofessional, lazy cowardice doesnt begin to cover it. Joe senior makes two excellent points- towards the end with the worker who praises Stephanie's improvement and progress , he points out that this is Stephanie's improvement, not necessarily the children's. Stephanie clearly has emotional developmental issues which she addresses well, but part of those issues I think is a personally (self) centred point of view of her world. She can't help questioning how everything will affect her first of all, then maybe how the kids might fit into the picture. Numerous boyfriends, hygiene and cleanliness, and not really caring about people's perception of her until it's too late, then using victimhood and shouting down manipulation tactics show this. But meanwhile, where are the kids in all of that? And if the worker had issues with Joe's co-parenting, why didn't she start a conversation between the two of them, at least to verify the claims of intimidation and ptsd triggers by mum? I don't know, this case riles me a wee bit hey. Great work, Legal Stuff. Thankyou.

If she has a seventh grade education she’s not a nurse.

The fact that this mom has had CPS called on her numerous times is telling, I believe CPS failed these kids. And if CPS wasn't involved, mom's home would still have roaches, and her house would be a mess. She wouldn't have food for the kids. The list can go on. She said the state paid for the exterminator service to get rid of the roaches, the state pays for her food and they are holding her hand to work her services but It's seems that every time CPS closes it's case mom goes back to what she usually does, and then the cycle starts all over again. I hope the judge gives dad primary custody

So many issues here, but I think the dad is better for the children. Mom is throwing up lots more red flags than dad, & her flags are bigger. I know she's not intelligent, and I feel for her, but she's all about what is best for her, not what's best for the kiddos.The fact that mom thinks the taxpayers should pay for daycare that could be free with dad really infuriates me!!

The Father needs custody. The taxpayers have to pay for the mother to have kids. She changes her story and has an answer for what she thinks they want to hear. Its all about her and doesn't trust the police. Its always someone else fault. She is Not A great Mom.

I would leave my children with this director any day. She is very detailed

Our system is unbelievably broken… these poor children 😩

She’s a great mom but she has all these boyfriends in and out of her house BABYSITTING her kids! 😩 I don’t think either one of them are Parent of the Year but she’s off her rocker. The way she kept interrupting and sighing so loud and talking over the judge - she has no self control. Those poor kids.

I’m so disappointed in the social workers. This is sad

Mom was just huffing and puffing the whole time dad was talking... She's so immature... Those poor kids

I taught preschool and worked in the daycare, ages 2 through 12. I understand how the director's testimony seemed spirited and biased but I understand it. When you have children in your care, sometimes for 12 hours a day. You often spend more time interacting with their child than the parents'. Day after day, it becomes very clear what is or is not going on in the home and it can be very difficult to hide your disdain or frustration towards the offensive parent. Putting new, random men as an emergency contact! 😡🤦 That's scary. Not to mention changing a diaper that has your initials on it from the previous day! I'm still shocked when I see CPS being completely blinded by bias. The amount of things they'll justify for their preferred parent is baffling. 😔 I believe the mom's social worker mentioned that the daycare had been in contact with cps but nothing comes of it. Shocker!

OMG---I hope that dad got custody.

I pray Dad’s place of employment is embarrassed for only paying pittance to a grown man and corrects that. This Dad is a hero.

I hope the Director of the child care did her mandatory duty and reported the mother to CPS. What she described is severe neglect not changing her daughter's nappy overnight.

I am only about a 3rd into the video, but I CANNOT freaking take listening to mom audibly sighing into the mic every 2 freaking mins…

Wow cps failed these kiddos

Way to go CPS!!! Wow, "The kids were playing" kid screaming and crying locked in a room. And cps sees nothing wrong with this? All 3 of those cps staff need sacking for gross incompetence and a case of child endangerment pressed against them for there piss poor job performance.

Dad seems to have taken the time to understand the legal process. Mom didn't even bother to write down any questions.

These people need lawyers how can they call witnesses who've been in the room the entire time.

It’s crazy that she would rather pay a sitter to watch the kids- or HAVE THE STATE PAY FOR IT- than her kids be with their father - what in the world

CPS is not a good judge of the well-being of children. They have check lists of services that parents are to complete and that is all they care about. If the parent is taking classes and have a job they are good to go. It's disgusting. I have watched so many of these cases and the whole system should be re-done. Thank God for the childcare worker that had the guts to give an honest, INFORMED opinion.

ask yourself this, if a father brought his kids to daycare on the days where he had custody & the school reported the kids were disheveled & dirty as well as malnourished, and he had bugs in his home, would a judge hesitate in yanking his custody?

I had an abusive mother and a saint of a father. My mom used what my therapist labeled as "manipulative torture tactics" to discipline. My stepmonster she decided to marry did the same. Although I don't believe that this mother is as good a manipulator as my mother, her sighing throughout the proceedings was giving me flashbacks. She's obviously the type to act one way in front of people or "guests" and another behind closed doors. When they get mad, they seethe and use small queues to get you to stop whatever behavior you're doing that's embarrassing them or annoying them. I don't believe for a minute that she's doing anything the CPS workers are asking because she wants her children back. It's just to upset her ex and fix her reputation. What I find even more ironic is the fact that my mother also works with the elderly in homecare service. Is she a nurse? No, but she tries to act like one. I wouldn't trust my houseplant to either of these women. Some people should not be allowed to procreate. I firmly believe that people should have to be evaluated before they are allowed to have children. That way crap like this doesn't happen. Of course the older boy has behavioral problems. So did my older brother until he went to live with our dad. My dad NEVER hit us. He never had to. My mom took every opportunity to do that and more. I only ever remember my dad yelling once and that was because I dropped a pot of hot water and he only yelled because he was scared for me. I talk to my dad every week. Guess who I've blocked on all platforms? My mother. I can see clearly how this is going to turn out if the kids stay with the mom.

Amazing and terrifying what the CPS and Social Workers missed - Day Care director is much, much more credible. Mom isn't a great Mom, but she's trying... but she has a way to go.

Mom is over there looking like 😮 but on another note, if daycare lady is so concerned about so many issues, why hasn’t it been reported

Oh my god with the huffing and puffing from this lady Any updates on this case?? After watching the entire video i feel so invested and want to know the outcome. My guess is dad is going to get majority custoday with weekends with mom if not full custody.

Not to be mean and I understand that people can be loving, caring parents with a low IQ, but, the testimony of Mrs. Cantrell, the way the mother speaks with hesitancy and lacking logical critical thinking, and the dad pulling off changes in only a month says exactly what I would do in this case.

I'm concerned about the Dads DV history, Mom's low IQ and her inability to appropriate advocate for herself. If they were represented by lawyers I think we would have seen a very different hearing.

Look forward to part 2.🤞

Awesome video! Thanks for posting it. I think it is very significant that the daycare teacher took the time to write the statement and also shows a lot of care and attention they seem to pay the children in their care. I actually appreciate that a lot although it does feel a lot like piling onto mom. Looking forward to more and more content!

Maybe the laws in this state are different but nobody including an employer can tell their employees to withhold information and/or evidence in a legal proceeding. I'm very surprised that this behavior was tolerated.

I really like the Jen. She keeps very good records and spoke clearly

Is it just me or do both of those parents seem very off?

Great post! Much gratitude for sharing it. Love to see the outcome.

1:28:18 seems the judge is catching on to the fact these cps workers are doing a half a job. ..

What???? No ending? Very good hearing. Would love to know the rulings.

Kinda depressing that he thinks they are treating him well, and they pay him $14/hr.

this plays out well with feelings going one way then swaying another. Very interesting work for the Judge. Thanks!

these poor babies. I am only a third way thru and am over her little sighs everytime he tells the truth.

Update please! Thank you for the content

How are the witnesses allowed to be in the room when others are tesifying? This is not the norm for any court .

The way the mom sighs 😂😂😂

My heart just breaks for the kids, the true victims in all of this. So young, trying to work out the world around them, and they have no solid foundation underneath them for those crucial years of development. Parents like this don’t understand that this blasé “whatever I’m still a good mom, just because I don’t practice good hygiene with my kids or feed them right doesn’t meant I don’t love them!” types of attitudes as being _just_ enough. It’s not. They need so much more than that. Saying you love them doesn’t amount to much if everything else is ignored. I get it. Parenting is rough. Been there, still there. Things happen and you make wrong turns in life, resulting in more poor choices. Happens to the best, but it’s never an excuse. Doesn’t matter if you’re dirt poor and can’t afford anything for your kids or you have it all and can provide all the material things without issue, doesn’t matter if you’re with the parent of your kid or separated … it’s physically and emotionally being there and giving them stability that counts, especially during those young years. Cases like this just depresses me because they’re so damn common in the courts. To sit and hear the mom “I’ve been downgraded as a mom by him” (it’s degraded, ma’am) just screams “I’m the victim in this situation, isn’t what he says about me just so awful?” along with the trail of excuses … it’s always someone else’s problem, someone else’s fault. Just incredibly sad.

Fact; children learn one word in every thousand, Dad like me talks a lot, he lives with and for his children. He believes in structure a must for raising kids. Mom is the opposite, maybe too much, diapers baths and food, it’s not much but it depends on your comfort level. That’s why the parents aren’t together now, I’m sure they have many reasons the biggest being the children. The daycare lady didn’t make things look good for mom, I’d like to see the judge order a lawyer for the children, this mess is just going to get worse. Advocate is a neutral party and is a separate entity from mom and dad.

Sounds like CPS dropped the ball on the two childrens welfare. Shame on them, shame shame shame!

I didn't know that the state gives FREE housing repairs. Like, why should I even bother working all day, paying taxes, buying groceries, saving money just to have a leaking pipe and other dumb catastrophes. Existential crisis HELP 😭

The mom constantly huffing and puffing is so freaking annoying!

Oh, man. The dad asking the preschool teacher. Do I drop my kids off better than her?

There’s so much to unpack but the clown thing is truly awful.

No decision??!! Ugh Terrible to have us sit thru all that with no resolve.

CPS called on a parent multiple times vs CPS never called on the kids with a parent. CPS doesn't go farther than coming in the house, interviewing tiny children, and then giving mom all the stuff needed to close a case until the next one comes along, vs NEVER HAD IT HAPPEN AT ALL. Dad deserves full custody. Hands freaking down. I rarely, if ever, think one parent over another deserves full custody, but.... Jesus.

Dad makes me nervous. He's verrry controlling.

This completely disgusts me. I mean it makes me so darn angry.

Yes, the kids have problems due to the father, as he is all to blame for all of this. I take no responsibility for any of this type of behavior. Sounds about right from a BMT or Baby Momma Terrorist. Always an excuse by the BMT. Why are the appointments not with the dad being involved. Sounds like mom needs to get a job. The mom does not like the fact that dad has all of this evidence against her. She is losing the ability to play the victim. Mom, you need to clean up and work on being a better mom. You put locks on the outside of the door, is due to the mom not wanting to watch the kids. So Joe the father, is going to be your childcare then. So why are these people quitting. The mom does not like the fact she is going to be losing the $$.

As a former CPS worker, the daycare's statements and records (they do DAILY sheets!) Would be invaluable to substantiating or ruling out advise/neglect. The statement that the child returned to daycare the next day with the same marked diaper was enough for me.

If the things said about the mom are true, then that's awful. Idk if they did, but it sounds like they didn't, but if daycare truly saw all that, they're by law required to report it to cps. Again if its true then the mother is absolutely awful, but the father is talking about the moms educational level and the filth of the house, but he has TWO kids by her. Not one but TWO!!! There's no way he didn't know what kind of person she was.

Anyone know why the teacher wasn’t able to go into any details when she testified? As a preschool teacher for many years I’m curious. Also it was so awful to hear that the little girl was still in a diaper that she had been placed in by the school THE PREVIOUS DAY

The mother seems to be a "victim" type.

Anyone else think the CPS workers are complicit???

Daycare lady seems to have a huge chip on her shoulder. She didn't have to be that snippy when speaking to mom.

All you have to do is slide $100 bill under the table and CPS will say anything you want them to🧐

Idk how he can even deal with that woman!!! She should be happy her kids have such a great dad who wants to be involved with his kids and be happy they have a dad as loving n caring as him!

"I don't need to tell you." No, you don't want or have to, but you absolutely need to. That's what co-parenting is.

Holy crap what daycare is this. Love it just slapping down facts

Mother is like a 16-17 yr old....mentally. imo And she can't be quite when someone is speaking. Always wanting to let everyone know her struggles but how well she is doing and what a great mother she is.....SHE has 3 CPS cases opened on her....that is NOT normal or good parenting..smh

In my opinion, issues exist on both sides. Mom’s delusional while dad’s a bully & possible control freak. Dad’s testimony was just as self-serving as mom’s. The claim that he completely changed the children’s lives in a month is questionable.Testimony was so contradictory that I question both sides credibility. I really hope these parents can learn how to be the kind of parents their children truly deserve. Change won’t be possible without any self-awareness on either side.

You do an outstanding job selecting interesting cases to share with us.

This dad tries so hard. Shows the bias of the court. He literally has to prove everything and a woman just has to feel something's wrong then court sides with her. These poor kids will be delayed over their mother's actions.

She works in a nursing home!!!!!! Do the residents get clean diapers or are they left too?

The sighing from this pos "mother" is so disgusting!! How can the judge allow that?

I believe the daycare witness. That doesn't mean I think the father is perfect.

Is she in an relationship with this social worker??? He is really speaking out strangely

I have a bad feeling about the dad. I wonder how he really is when no one is around. Normally I'd be praising this dad but something feels off to me.

Love Mr Paige. It's rare to see him do these longer trials so I double ❤️ it!

Before seeing after Jen’s testimony I believe Jen. She’s using the records they have and witnessed to give that testimony.

Dad should get custody. Mom's not ready. But she should have visits.

1:10:08 I'm so glad the judge called out cps on the fact the kids weren't playing and did appear distressed. Cps doesn't like the dad bc of past DV but frankly sometimes people can be pushed to a breaking point by someone crazy (mom) or acting crazy and may have to push her to ground to stop her from DV him. I mean we all know this happens by women as much as men. Men just don't often report as women do.

Don't the cps people carry records to court ? I think this was CPS error all the way.

The mom seems very immature and uneducated. She thinks she's doing good when actually she isn't meeting the tasks at hand. So, I have to wonder, how did the father end up with someone like her? They had to have been together for at least a couple of years.

Dad’s environment sounds much more stable while mom’s is the opposite (and multiple men showing up at daycare???) Dad does appear controlling but that could be more structured.

And if the kids come into daycare hungry the défense is not “well there’s always food in the fridge and cupboards”. THAT IS WORSE. If you can’t afford food that’s terrible but easily fixable. If there is food that you don’t feed them - that’s a big problem. What a dumpster fire of a hearing.

Judge: "Do you have any criminal record?" Father: "No, just a couple of minor things I got in trouble for, the domestic violence that I went to jail for, a couple of priors when I was younger ...". The judge didn't call him out on it, but I am sure that he noticed. To me that is a huge red flag. I would have expected "Yes, I went to jail for DV, but I deeply regret it and I am a different person now". Instead he passed it off as not a big deal.

Ok now I’m conflicted. All of his witnesses say how horrible the Mom is. But the CSD workers all say there’s nothing seen

So CPS investigated complaints and they went to her not to him speaks volumes

❤ Those kids are blessed to a dad like. That's true love for your children.🤨😒 What's wrong mom tells all what you do with the kids?? Dad better get them because if he doesn't judge you need to step down from the bench 🚫👨‍⚖️

It really disturbs me she having different boyfriend's over, to babysit the children. She sleeps all day. Puts spare time into herself. Why not let Dad have children until she is finished doing what she is doing?