Men don't be intimidated by women, they just dnt want you!! Period! Your just NOT what he wants! Straight like that! And dnt feel no type a way, GOD probably was saving you from something....💯
Tesha Parx God is saving you, your mental health, your self esteem, your savings and investments and your peace of mind. Once a man isn’t attracted to you, the only reason he sticks around is to use you 💯
It's really as simple as that. As women, we really are more complex beings ...in terms of our thought processes. Men are simple tho! I appreciate Tony's honesty....I think many of us need to hear it.
@@LaTrav08 Good observance! Women should focus on making themselves happy and improving their own lives instead of constantly waiting on a man. A lot of women have a man, but are unhappy and feel emotionally drained and stuck.
Right, you got it. !!! Now stay focused, until you have become who/what you're working to become. It's so much clearer when you're living, walking in WHOLENESS. 🙏👊
We have been hyped up beyond what’s healthy. Social media has made us think we everybody’s type. So, it’s hard for us to hear that we really aren’t. We need balance in how we view ourselves.
@@InspiredUno Every guy is not my type and just like I'm not every guys type. Reset your mind to work on you to attract and recognize what's good for you.
It's not rejection, I don't look at it that way. I just may not be that person's cup of tea or he may not be my cup of tea. It's not personal. There must be an attraction.
After trying to do things my way, at the age of 33 I finally get it unfortunately took me so long. When a man doesnt want you , there is nothing you can do to convince to stay. When a man wants you, there is nothing can stop him from being with you.
Tony it's not about what he has or she has if it's not meant it's not meant it doesn't matter how good the person looks Title career if a person don't want you it's a rap!
@@tiarachiffon8131 So true. Dont think you can change his mind. He may be your friend and treat you like a girlfriend but soon as you catch emotions and question what's going on you will be put in your place you are just a friend. I learned the the hard way. You can not change his mind, he knows what he wants and who he wants.
Ladies, yes, he may not be interested in you because you are not his type physically. It could also be more so your personality (I know that hurts to hear but it's true). If you're not operating from the best version of yourself (say you come off as insecure or overbearing), then your personality could very well be the reason, but let me tell you this: you could be at your best and a man may still not want you. Don't internalize that to mean you're not lovable and something is wrong with you. It just means he is not your husband and that's something you need to come to peace with. Don't blame him or shame him, just go on about your business and have faith God has a better man in store for you. Plus, you are drawn to men who don't want you because you are unhappy with yourself. Truthfully, these men usually aren't all that great and have major flaws of character. You just see them as better than they are because of low self-esteem, yet they may have horrible moral character and they project their insecurities onto you. You don't want a man like that! You tend to see how much of a mismatch the wrong man is for you once you learn to love yourself. Then, if you didn't get involved, you see what a huge blessing in disguise that was. So ladies, please learn to cherish yourself first. God will send you the right man when you're ready.
You attract what and who you are! A man that wants you will do what it takes to have you! I know he looking for me bc I’m not Looking for him! Don’t settle ladies!
If you can wait to sex after marriage that's best. If you can't take your time. Most important don't go down on him/no top/no head unless it's your Husband.
I strongly suggest that as well. Wait till marriage. You have less to lose compared to those who gave up their bodies and got dumped because he was bored.
Sometimes relationships don’t work out even when attraction is there. Sometimes two people’s life purpose take them in two different directions. And sometimes people just aren’t compatible beyond being physically attracted. There’s also emotional connection and mental attraction.
@EnJoy Life And Smile he'd seen me a few times walking back and forth for lunch. I stopped to talk to him one day and he was like "Oooo weee!! Girl! You such a pretty lil chocolate thang! You're like a chocolate chip! That's what Imma call you. My Chocolate Chip." 😂😂 And he called me that EVERY TIME he saw me! 😂😂😂 Good ole Tyrone (that was his name). Lol
“Insecure” is a better description than “Intimidated” to describe how some grown boys react to an attractive, successful woman. One tried to dissuade me from buying my own home and taking a promotion that I’d worked hard for.
😳😳😳 Wow! Really??!! I have never heard of a man being bold enough to say anything that crazy. I'm glad you walked away. Receiving a promotion and becoming a homeowner shows you're a hard worker. So what did he want a lazy woman with no goals? Unbelievable!
I agree but I also feel that sometimes men have insecurities..and they play games once they know your not the one for it they back off immediately or they disappear or ghost you 🤷🏾♀️ and once they get what they want or was looking for they leave you ! So be careful and if he say he don’t want you have strength and let go don’t chase what’s for you.. you won’t have to chase 💯pray and practice decrement
I agree the word intimidation is used out of context in most situations... but most know when they are dating out of their league and they can become insecure about that fact and it will show. This goes for women and men.
Dating out of one’s league has always been an interesting concept to me. I always figured once it goes as far as a number exchange/first date that’s it’s assumed the two are in the same “league” otherwise it wouldn’t have gotten that far..
PrettyPoppin _ if you’re desperate with low self esteem then that’s the league your playing in/belong to.. no? It’s kinda like the proof is in the pudding so to speak.. that’s how I look at it. I’ve dated men in the past that I wouldn’t date today, but at that time I was in the place that would have me date them. At 26 I don’t date the same league I did as a naive 21 year old, but I wouldn’t say I was out of their league at the time because apparently they resonated with me then.
@@nickhoffman8634 Amazing , Healing , Creating & Understanding that God had my back when I didn’t have my mine ! That growth is admitting that I needed that to teach me more about God and myself ❤️❤️👑
What you’re saying makes a lot of sense. It takes a strong person to stick around. I myself have learned to just say no when I see something that turns me off.
My daily dose of wisdom ♥ Thank you, Tony, I hear your message from Argentina every single day. As soon as I can I will join the blessed tribe. I want to support you so much! You have changed my life for the better, thank God I found you
This is so good and valid. You can know right away if he is genuinely interested in YOU. Our female egos have to also come down at times. Sometimes, we are just NOT what they want. Point blank ... lol
Tony you may have touched on this I've been told several times by women who have been married for ages that the key is to love who loves YOU not who you Love. Something about the dynamic that we are out of our place and women tend to act more desperate for the ones they want. Feels like you have to treat the ones you LIKE like the ones you DON'T LIKE. @tonygaskins
I agree. For one, I wouldn't want someone that I don't like, just because he likes me. Two, It seems natural to not show how much you do, until he shows you
The craziest part is that this is absolutely true. Everything is based on looks at the end of the day. Which makes it extremely disappointing being that absolutely no one can control their features. Out of all looks ,colors and features you could have had, your spirit aligned with the body you have. That is all I NEED to make me love the body I'm in, despite what the world may think😌
What is so confusing to me is that the women they choose are not always better looking than you. They may have more money and status but I don’t think it’s always about the looks entirely.
@@724kdr I agree, but to THEM they may look better. I had one man praise the mother of his child to everyone when I first met him....I thought this woman was going to be beyonce herself when I met her😭🤣This lady looked like a deer in headlights to me, but to him she was everything🤦🏾♀️You could not tell him otherwise....
I had one male friend who even told me he talks to REGULAR women he knows he can get because the women he really wants wouldn't talk to him....but if he ever got a chance to talk to "BAD" women he would. It blew my mind. This let me know that most would leave you if the woman they really desire gave them a chance....Your attributes wouldn't matter at that point.
ChelleOnTheRun Wow that is scary that they could drop you in a heartbeat but that is exactly what they plan to do when they spend time with you but keep it vague or give you reasons why they can’t commit.
I WILL ATTRACT WHAT I BECOME. THE MAN FOR ME IS LOOKING FOR ME AND I WANT TO BE READY WHEN HE SEES ME. Thank you for that Mr. Gaskins.....one of my new everyday affirmations.
Please know the signs are ALWAYS there ..and deep down you know it...he simply doesn’t want you. Thank you Lord for Tony 🙌🏽. Y’all I have adopted Tony as the brother (sibling) I always wished I had. Who else claims Tony as family lol 😂
My nursing counselor told our beginning class thT we should not be surprised at the divorce rate upon graduation and makings good paper. It overall was true!
One of the reasons Whtiney Houston and Bobby Brown relationship didn't work out was because he couldn't deal with her success as seen in interviews and I have over heard men in their little gatherings say they would never date a woman who makes more money then them, So I don't know if "intimidated" is the word but their egos get rub the wrong way sometimes when they may less money; apart of human nature is to compete and sad to say but some husbands compete with their wives and vice se verse because to many men money equals power.
Omg, Dr. Tony is too funny! Im 62 yrs. old nd im old enough to be his mama but even I listen to this young man faithfully! God bless him & his beautiful family! Lord, if I had someone teach me these things when I was younger.Ladies, we hv NO reason not to get played these days. I share all this information & wisdom onto my daughters! He has a special anointing to teach & heal the masses, who God has chosen nd called him to reach. I just love him. Plus, he aint neva scared to speak the truth, facts, & reveal stupidity! Tony Gaskins PhD. 🙏🏾
This was too funny and too real! Thank you for the video...although my uncles and my observation had already put me up on game🤣. HEY LADIES: understand this, men are petty...don't let them tell you they aren't. Petty, vengeful and immature. They also do NOT settle....so YOU better not settle. If he ain't your type keep walking. No need letting the bum "get you back"🤣🤣🤣Thanks Tony!💃💃
“Femininity does not mean weakness” ...there has to be a masculine and feminine in order for it to work even if the roles are reversed. I love this wisdom.
Yup. Not attracted to how i sound coz my voice is low. I am not slim, either but i feel pretty and stylish, thanks to my sister who is a make up artist.
I think in fact know that I hurt a ( surface level) one because the whole office found out about the crush and I was nasty in my attitude to draw away attention. I have repented but just knowing I hurt someone bothered me.
I'm so happy a MAN said this because when a woman says this other women take offense to it. I never believed that "You're too intimidating" excuse. I knew deep down inside that was the guys NICE way of saying I wasn't HIS type. We as women have to learn how to ACCEPT the TRUTH without it putting a dent in our confidence. Thanks Tony for ALWAYS telling us the TRUTH about our situations and ourselves. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I don’t know how many levels there is to this university and I don’t know on which level I started on this journey and it don’t matter either. I journey forward everyday, improving and growing into a whole and very happy woman. 🙏 be blessed, Tony + family and everyone that’s here to grow 💚
Tony you don’t understand because you pretty much had ambition and grew your lifestyle. There is plenty of men who are triggered by a successful women who isn’t a gold digger just want an balanced man. Some men do lack ambition so when you have it or overachieved it’s not looks Tony! These men SHRINK!! As soon as you speak about your lifestyle or your accomplishments he doesn’t like it if his lifestyle is no match so trust Tony they aren’t inspired they are upset and back away. So we working on the 3Bs and successful and it’s still too much??? No his ego will make him back away.
@Moon I 100% agree! That’s why men run away because he can’t match or make more than you. I don’t think a woman should ever take care of a man ever. A man should always hold his own especially if he is over 25! This is why men run he running away to future provide for a woman or he just feels insecure about his own life. A woman’s accomplishments doesn’t mean she doesn’t want a man to still provide and she can’t be interdependent. It just means she was successful in her ambition and has more than her LOOKS & BODY to bring to the table. Come on Tony the 3Bs!
@Soul Flower sis don’t be confused. You didn’t say it in a bragging way it was probably a natural convo and it triggered him. You upgrading your bed shouldn’t of shifted the convo. I travel a lot for my job (pre-pandemic) and I would express I am leaving for my job and plenty of men would be upset/jealous over it. It’s not bragging it’s our lives! So its almost a double standard to not talk about our lives. Tony did a video on the preparation and he even says women should have ambition, drive but when we have it we shouldn’t talk about it at all? No I love Tony but I don’t think he sees where many of us are coming from. There are too many men actually COMPLACENT with their lives so when we have high ambitions and they have low ambition we look like our jobs/lifestyle is a personality trait. It’s not these men really do be grown boys and jealous of grown women. PERIOD. Tony dont understand everyone doesn’t have his hustle and ambition they doing the bare minimum out here and jealous of our independence or our accolades that we are SUPPOSED TO HAVE to prepare ourselves for our husband. Just remember women work on your 3Bs and don’t be ashamed of it either because you better believe a man can’t wait to rub in his accolades and tell you all of his achievements! Black women you deserve to have your accolades don’t shrink them (but don’t make it all of your personality either I agree with Tony on this). A real man will support you and your accolades and actual be in a good position in life where it doesn’t shrink him!
Tony is right. I have always been an over achiever. As soon as my looks took a turn for the worse due to health reasons the men that used to want me pretended not to know me.
TONY! Look!... It makes perfect sense. "I" or "she" wasn't "his" type. Makes sense to me. Take the truth as is. No explanation needed. As many opinions that exist in the world now days. SOMEBODY ain't gon' be EVERYBODY'S type🤗🤧🤷😊
It’s true no man will leave a woman he loves because she is doing better than him. He will probably want you to keep working hard so that he can live off you
Lord have mercy! Tony you tickle me! Totally crazy in a good way! So on point! Sheri thank you for such a Godly standard and for allowing God to do whatsoeva He wants to do! Blessings to the Gaskin family! ❤️ My God!
This is sooo good Tony thank you so much for sharing...what really made this so special and valuable was when you said a immature man only does this.. not a grown man.. I really do believe there are good men in this world but guess what it's worth waiting for my King because I know he's gonna be for me and love everything about me.. I was so hurt and heat broken when my ex told me we wasn't compatible and he wanted to end things...I didn't know why at that time but I do now and it's ok because at the end of the day I'm still winning and I know who I am and my worth.. and I'm very confident to say oh well his lost 🤷🏽♀️ thanks again Tony you have done so much wonders in my life may God continue to pour in you so you can pour into us!! Much love!!!
You are freakin smart. I wish so many people could understand what you and your wife understand about relationships and the stuff behind the scenes in the spirit realm trying to destroy precious lives. Thank you for sharing wisdom with people that are listening. We gotta keep serving the LORD any way it benefits the Kingdom and the people He loves.
That's a good analogy mentioning that a homeless man can pursue you with no problem. So how is that different from any other man.. It's not intimidation. Good Point.
I have watched this video more than once and TG is hilarious! If I’m feeling a bit low he puts me into the best mood! His sense of humor coupled with such great gems of advice is the best! 😂😂😂😂
On point as always. Well gone raise us up then TG! I’m considering this message a reminder from God. As I take steps to lock it all the way down by locking it all the way up, I’m reminded that the nature of a thing is important. And acting in concert with that nature is our protection. He said he would get all except My purified ones. Purification of anything is never pleasant. Grateful for you TG!!
I do understand. Women keep telling themselves stories and believe in them. They would compare notes with other women. They all keep going in circles and there is no progress.
Tony, i think some men look down on beauty as well. I am an attractive person. I met this guy online and we’ve been talking for about three months. He saw me at my good and bad. But I was always the type to keep nails done, I did wear wigs the whole time but he loved my natural hair. Been around my family and they would say to him “make sure you treat her right” I had a good family support system and he saw that. I’m assuming that he was jealous because after I had my bday party, he saw the support, the tables turned and he start dogging pulling disappearance acts and just changed the whole dynamic. I didn’t give in and to this day he still in and out. It may be others things but I did nothing wrong to this man. I was open to him, but maybe too soon. Idk
This was very insightful. I appreciate your honesty and wish there were more men that could just be honest. I see that they cannot be real bc if their fear. Like you said, they operate out of fear with everything!
Omg, I am in tears. Not bumblebee 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 but you are speaking the truth ‼️That narrative will mess you up, ladies better be humble and pay attention to all details and go through the states. Mutual interest Become friends Date Decide if you two want to become exclusive Engagement Marriage If you look down on men they sure will switch, make you fall, and straight dog you. AND when they do LEAVE 😌
Uncle Tony, when you said in a past vid that you'll never be fully prepared or where you want to be getting into a healthy relationship, that stuck with me.
I just completed your book yesterday.. now I’m craving more knowledge in every area....I was sitting next to my 7 year old son.... lol.. thank you so much for ..a light in the dark.. continue to be blessed you are spot on.....but you know spirit don’t want you to know that!!! Keep pushing!!!
Absolute Facts All Day Long. Ppl do what they "WANT" 2 do. Loved this... A Great Truth. This narrative w/ many women is also Laced w/ arrogance & ego as well. Tony is speaking the Truth N love 2 us. Lol I'm humble & gentle by nature. LOVE 2 serve & Give ‼🎯 Thank God this has Never been my issue. Blessings Again Tony Gaskins...💯🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Makes a lot of sense . I can also apply this to my Christian walk with God . Walking in humility not thinking that I’m better than anyone because of my faith but treating everyone one with honor and respect .
You are awesome! Thank you for keeping it real telling it straight. I'm a woman and a lot of things you're saying make me feel uncomfortable but I know that is 100 and I appreciate a man like you who's clearly a strong smart intelligent man putting that out there for us to wake up. All love give thanks
🤣😂😂😂I almost choked on my dang cereal!!! How Beyoncé and Serena married and you walking around talkin bout men are intimidated by me..LOL!!!! It was that voice and neck roll..😩
I know THREE homeless men who proved this by me because I do try to treat all folks with respect ... one of them was a strong and handsome fellow, and he and one other tried REALLY HARD to make their case... I listened respectfully and turned them down, but they certainly were not deterred by the difference in our status... on the other hand, I grew up around vets, and so I knew: unless you can kill a man, he's not going to be afraid of you, and if he thinks he has a chance to win even in a deadly contest, he STILL may not be afraid of you. The only thing a man fears about a woman is losing her -- of her leaving him before he is ready to let her go or put here away for himself.
