Cut off game is as strong as Mike Tyson on steroids 🤣 Men will waste your whole life if you let em, so don’t even waste time trying to change one. Keep it stepping in your heels 👠 👍🏽💯
What a rude awakening!! I knew this about some men with other women. BUT ALL men! I had known this.. ."men know how to treat a woman." When i was 14!!?? Id still be a Virgin. That makes me MAD!!
Brother you are a blessing to me! I've learned so much about being the man i aspire to be because of you. Honestly some of us men just need the right guidance and to be honest with ourselves.
It's one thing when someone puts me at the bottom of the list, and it's another for me to purposefully co-sign to be placed at the bottom. Being kind is not an excuse to knowingly accept being mistreated. No ma'am. No sir.🙌🏽
Amen. I threw myself down as his doormat. Sitting on hold while he took other calls....and forgot about me....Waiting for him to call when he promised to...he didn't care. And he didn't care because I had put myself on the clearance rack. Now I've taken myself off, and marked myself up. I'm all done playing with the grown boys.
Women are usually in one of two different types relationships with men who really don't even exist, she is either hanging in there waiting on his representative to resurface or she is in a relationship with 'Potential Man" the man who she hopes he turns into, either way neither one of these men really exist. If women stayed in the here and now and made decisions based on who the man actually is, not who he used to be and not who she hopes he becomes, it will be easier for her to walk away from a toxic relationship.
The only relationship thing I do well is cutting off men!! Once I realised it actually give you power & shows him you don’t care about loosing him I use and abuse that method 😂
My cut off game is so strong, thank God!!! because I used to be so weak minded when I started dating at 18, I’m grateful God gave me that strength!!! I’m 23 now and grown so much❤️🙏🏾
“Look at the quality of life you want to have. If a man is not at that level or if he doesn’t agree that’s a quality of life, that’s not your husband. Stop compromising in those areas for something that’s a dealbreaker for you. The perfect person for you is out there.”
My cut off game was weak. But I am working on it by learning about red flags, my self worth and learning about the game .Watching this channel and reading his relationship books helped me elevate to a queen. 😴😴😴
Great message. I’m learning to become more in love with myself, not compromising my standards just to say I have a man... If his character does not line up with the will of God. He will get cut off immediately!!
Men act like they don’t know what women want after they get you but think back to when you first met him. He knew how to get you didn’t he. Alright then he knows exactly what you want and need from him.
Thank you Tony! I called him out on his grown boy games, and he ghosted me for 8 days. He tried calling me last night, but I didn't answer. He can't hurt me anymore.
My situation sounds similar. I'm not dealing with it anymore. I'm better than his 2nd, 3rd or 5th choice & I'm not willing to lower my crown to accommodate his actions. I'm on day 4 of not contacting him & I'm doing just fine. Getting stronger everyday
@@goldenlifelove7251 Good job! You can do it! Keep it up...but beware when he comes crawling back. It happened to me and sadly I relapsed for a short period of time. I was lonely, and loneliness will make you vulnerable. I'm happy to say now that I've stayed in no contact for a couple weeks again, and this time it's forever. 😊
Mine is similar too! He ghosted me for a month, he left Jan 14 and popped back up on Feb 14 trying to get me back. I kept talking to him but haven’t slept with him again because my trust was gone. Like what were you doing for a whole month without talking to me wtf! I was trying to make it work but now im guarded and he’s bitter he ain’t sleeping with me…. 2 days ago he told me he done with my mind games 😱🤯what!!! The pain I went through during the month he ghosted me… I couldn’t eat or sleep, blurred vision, lost my hair from stress..now I am just healing 😢
I have unfortunately dealt with a lot of dead ends and recently a narcissist. On a positive note, he only killed what needed to die inside of me. My abandonment issues and insecurities which my narc mother kindly gave me. On the road of healing. Dated another guy. There were no red flags. Then I caught him in a lie and I cut him off. He is now begging to talk to me by texting and calling me. I haven't even blocked him and I'm not even getting triggered. That's how you cut someone off when they disrespect you. Silence. No need for a dramatic scene. I am 30 and I am only learning my worth in 2020 👸🏾
@@shantalbarbot5801 it's not easy.. it took my years and distance to not be triggered by my mother. I spent my early 20s angry at the world and not even sure why. I can sit in a room with her and i treat her like she is air - non existent, i don't even acknowledge her. I wish I had learnt what she was and gone to therapy so I hadn't ended up in this narc situationship.. but hey, we live and we learn. I died early this year but now i am reborn thanks to therapy, self love and care. Currently using my knowledge on my narc colleague at work.. 🤸🏾♀️😂 it's all fun when you know how they function.
True, prepackaged by God. However, Tony is letting us know what to look for... What to stop and what to reinforce. His opinions are based off his life experiences as well as stories he's gathered from clients. Which are very relatable!🥴😂💯 If you dont agree with his suggestions, ideas or culture, why are you on here Bro?..
Most everyone has the same tasks in life: dealing with unfairness, struggles, work, relationships, families etc. Nobody gets to opt out. Over functioning, over caring, over empathizing, over sympathizing, and over feeling is not an effective way to do life. There is a price for being nice. Stay connected to others but do not do more than your part (i.e. know what you can, choose and want to do). Let everybody around you grow up and you will experience a higher version of your soul.
Ladies the best way to cut them off is to prevent them grown boys in the first place. When you write your online profile put on there you watch Tony Gaskins videos- instant block! 😂
Tony's videos are 🔥 Now I don't feel bad. My mom and sister would joke with me about how quickly I cut off a man who isn't doing right. As Tony said, men know exactly what they do wrong and I'm not here to babysit and pacify a grown man into changing
And I'll add a quality about Mrs. Gaskins-- on all social media platforms she ALWAYS HAS CLASS. Respectfully and modestly dressed, respecting her husband and sons. Very RARE these days, even from women who say they are CHRISTIAN. Beautiful wife- an example.
I agree about Mrs. Gaskins! She is exactly that classy queen in real life too! This powerful, beautiful couple the 🐐 of relationships! They walk the talk!🥰
Clearing my phone out right now .deletes deleted, deleted. Done being put at the bottom of someones list . They don't measure up to me anyway. Will definitely delete and block. Good riddence.
Having a history of child abuse is the number one reason why women stay in abusive relationships because that abuse is familiar. Intellectually, women know the relationship is abusive and unhealthy, but unhealed wounds from childhood keeps a woman going back.
I been "SLAP CRAZY" , Tony I knew better to try to deal with someone when they lied about small things. But now ...cut off and healing. Thank you for your videos.
This man truly loves his wife. The things that he define as a good wife is what I wish my soon to be ex would have seen. But now i see it was years with a grown boy. A grown boy doesn’t value any of that.
I can identify with that. I was a good wife. Above and beyond the call. I had to finally leave. I’m worth more than how I was treated. He was shocked when I left. They think you will put up with it forever. He played himself. Grown boy that should have known better for his age.
phinola Nurse definitely sounds like a grown boy tactic. They do that to keep us stuck for years. I should’ve been gone, but he knew just what to say to make me stay. Unfortunately he walked out on me and our son, but actually I’m fortunate he did it.
Thank You! For your continued words of encouragement for the women and Men. You just don't know how powerful your words are and What God gives to you are helping people. Blessings to you and your family!!!
True story Tony. My fiance engaged me after 5weeks of meeting me. He expressed on the first day that I was his wife. So far so God. I have dated grown boys who dragged me along for 2years and no commitment. Learnt a lot from Tony. God bless you
thanks to God and the pain I went through in the past with my divorce my cutoff game is strong 💪 I'm not like most woman. I don't care how fine or sexy or rich the man is. the moment I get disrespected or get a red flag or don't feel right in my spirit about the man he's GONE Instantly. I'll delete and block the number so fast. I don't have time to waste.
9 months inconsistent in communication. He tried to reverse it on me. Me fighting with the grown girl in myself, I knew it wasn’t right, but didn’t know how to handle it. Long story short, I showed him I’m not the one (as if he ain’t already know) and made it to where we’re BOTH done for good this time. It’s hard for me to turn a guy I like down so I knew he woulda kept coming back, this time I think I sent him back to his ex. Lol I couldn’t take it no more. It’s time I get it together for SELF. I come to Tony Gaskins on ALL platforms for healing. And trust me ladies it WORKS. It HELPS. I get my mind right and the focus is where it should be. Keeps me busy.
My cut off game so tight... I'll forget you even existed...they'll keep trying to come back but they stay on block. My time and energy means everything to me and if I have to teach a man, he ain't it for me.
When you said about 365 days is enough time to know if your that mans future wife is so true bc I remember one of my exes proposed to me after like 11 months of dating but he ended up being an abuser but that’s so true. I would never wait around for a man 5 years plus and what not
Tony.. you’ve been programmed into my subconscious mind. Truthfully you’re the first guy who has had a positive impact which has allowed for me to be led when it’s something weird going on, I remember my worth, and now it feels as my worth is so set in stone, it’s stuck with me like a tattoo. I hope you and your family are great; I’m tremendously grateful for Mrs & Mr. Gaskins.
I was married for 20 years, after that I was in a relationship for 5 years, then 1 year, 1 week, 1 day. They want a perfect woman. They are not perfect at all. I'm 52 years. Where is he? I just wanted a man like you Tony😂😢😂😢😂😢😂😢😂
Honestly i give it 3 months. Every three months you get that evaluation. Three months is when you start seeing things. most men forget that they playing a role and start to slip up within the 3 months. Gat ta Go 🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️
If that spiritual bit ain't the truth! Every time I would drive back home, he would do a prayer for me. ...He was one of those "smart guys, very clever too. A thinker you could say" look back in hindsight, I think to myself, "what a waste of man, to play a women's heart like that"
Yup, same here. Would pray together every night before we sleep but the next day if he got angry at me he’d tell me to shut the fxck up and curse me the hell out. Safe to say, I finished it with him last night. Warned him the first time, second time with out warning it was a block and a see ya later mate 👋🏽
@@susanntillzxo3626 good for you girl. I'm glad you got out, trust me I know it ain't easy. We are worth gold, worthy to be loved the right way. Love shouldn't cause pain. Stay strong. You're beautiful.
It was nearly deja vu when you said “you knew at 6 months this wasn’t the one but you said I put so much time in.” Yes I did that in my 9 year marriage and my recent break up 90 days ago for a year. I will no longer let people waste my precious time. I’m working on me right now but when guys try me ima cut of flags in less then 30’days because women become emotional and try to see the good in people.
What Tony is saying is so true, however, for thirsty women, especially if she’s been waiting for 25 years to get with him, Tony may as well be speaking a foreign language because she can’t understand a word he’s saying. She doesn’t even realize at 50+ that she’s just a nest on the ground; a convenience. He’s made it clear that she isn’t “the one”, but she’s hanging on for dear life. How do we help these kind of women?
I never let a guy ses me with my weave off cause I went through breast cancer ....I dont think Im ready for that. My hair didnt grow back like it should. I thank God for giving me the gift of being a hair stylist. My challenge today that I struggle with is someone accepting me and loving me through what I went through. Some men these days are into breast butt and hair . I had to a breath reduction as well as my right breast removed. I'm thankful cause God bring me through it
I stumbled across a Q&A Mr. Gaskins did with his wife a while back.......I happened to scroll to a part where she said something to the effect of "I've never been the type to care much about the superficial stuff, if you were not making me FEEL good, comfortable and secure, I have no problem leaving you". BOY, what a word!!! Personally I feel like I have always given good looking men a little more slack, especially if they had their lives in some kind of order. This would cause me to over-extend the benefit of the doubt and keep myself in situations way past there expiration, which led to more headaches and potential heartaches. Ladies, that advice is solid! Leave people right where they are with their dysfunction, ain't no exceptions💯
My ex-husband randomly showed up at my house when we were dating when I was looking a hot mess. He told me later that I was more beautiful then and knew I was the one he wanted to marry. Sealed the deal because everything else was there. Whole different story why we divorced 😂😂
