Holding On to Regret Does You Nothing 

@Dariel Figueroa exactly!

You mean figuratively.

How to get over regret ?

@@riddhimasingh2405 It will slowly gone it may took year to forget that thing

U just need to overcome it so u can move forward

I'm a 27 years old man. My regret is not taking care of myself in a specific situation. My mind is in so much pain. Almost 4 months ago, in an extremely distressing and painful emotional situation, I hit my head against the headboard of my bed. Actually, that same day in the afternoon, I was with my girlfriend that I love so much. She always shared her talks with her other male coworkers and I was absolutely okay with that. I never showed any insecurity. Now almost 4 months ago, I was sitting with her in a resturant, and showed her the profile picture of my PhD female class fellow from whatsapp just for introduction. And guess what? In a very disrespectful manner, she left the resturant immediately. That phd classmate of mine is married and has a daughter too. From afternoon till midnight, I kept on explaining to my girlfriend through whatsapp that my classmate is already married and I only talk to her in a very formal way. In the resturant, she had herself checked my messages and discovered nothing flirty or informal. I even sent my girlfriend the voice messages of that girl that the conversation was purely academic, related to phD classes. She did not listen at all and said extremely hurtful things. I don't know what happened to me that night, my girlfriend I loved so much not listening to me at all and showing apathy drove me insane and I smashed my head against the headboard of my bed in my room. Now I have a minor cut on my forehead. People can't really notice it but I so much wish it fades away over time. It has impacted my self esteem quite negatively. All the time, I am conscious of myself. Every morning I wake up and get scared by seeing myself in the mirror as it reminds me my disturbing situation. I repeatedly keep on asking myself questions like how could I do that to myself. But believe me, that moment was emotionally intensely suffocating and stressful for me. I wanted to scream alot to ease my pain that night but did not wish to disturb my parents. She used to tell me that men praise her beauty and I always showed no insecurity and laughed and told her that yes she deserves this appraisal. Don't know how could she show such mistrust while my conversation with my phd classmate was purely academic related to research work. Another important thing to mention here is that I have never ever checked the phone of my girlfriend till this very day. I always valued trust above everything.

I'm a 27 years old man. My regret is nood being good to myself. My mind is in so much pain. Almost 4 months ago, in an extremely distressing and painful emotional situation, I hit my head against the headboard of my bed. Actually, that same day in the afternoon, I was with my girlfriend that I love so much. She always shared her talks with her other male coworkers and I was absolutely okay with that. I never showed any insecurity. Now almost 4 months ago, I was sitting with her in a resturant, and showed her the profile picture of my PhD female class fellow from whatsapp just for introduction. And guess what? In a very disrespectful manner, she left the resturant immediately. That phd classmate of mine is married and has a daughter too. From afternoon till midnight, I kept on explaining to my girlfriend through whatsapp that my classmate is already married and I only talk to her in a very formal way. In the resturant, she had herself checked my messages and discovered nothing flirty or informal. I even sent my girlfriend the voice messages of that girl that the conversation was purely academic, related to phD classes. She did not listen at all and said extremely hurtful things. I don't know what happened to me that night, my girlfriend I loved so much not listening to me at all and showing apathy drove me insane and I smashed my head against the headboard of my bed in my room. Now I have a minor cut on my forehead. People can't really notice it but I so much wish it fades away over time. It has impacted my self esteem quite negatively. All the time, I am conscious of myself. Every morning I wake up and get scared by seeing myself in the mirror as it reminds me my disturbing situation. I repeatedly keep on asking myself questions like how could I do that to myself. But believe me, that moment was emotionally intensely suffocating and stressful for me. I wanted to scream alot to ease my pain that night but did not wish to disturb my parents. She used to tell me that men praise her beauty and I always showed no insecurity and laughed and told her that yes she deserves this appraisal. Don't know how could she show such mistrust while my conversation with my phd classmate was purely academic related to research work. Another important thing to mention here is that I have never ever checked the phone of my girlfriend till this very day. I always valued trust above everything.

SAME!!! I was 18 when this happened and i wish i should have asked for help instead

​@@user-pl1ki3ok6g5 months later and somebody read your comment and is responding to you. Merry Cristmas buddy! I somewhat felt your story as I read it. The feeling of hurting myself over a stupid and unfair situation always stucked în my mind as "I so much want to kill/hurt myself, but I cant do it because I am afraid of the consequences. I managed to always stop before doing something bad to myself or other things around me. But the frustration still kept lingering...

Word

But regret means something that did happen.

And that's the sad part....before it was different and ppl were better..

True.

Like mine and I regret even more now.If I could turn time around to make the right decision

@@scorpion1828 The thing is you can’t turn time around. So we’re stuck with the same reel playing over and over in our heads. A counselor once told me, “you cannot make a request of the past.” Anyway, this is our lot in life.

@@Earthtime3978 it's true but it hurts to see how your choices led you to only despair.But like my mentor used to say life goes on and we can't change the past but only the future

@@scorpion1828 Yeah. If only.

i know this makes so much sense but for me there’s also this anxiety in me like i know i should do this one thing bc i know i will regret not doing it but anxiety of failure or social anxiety is paralyzing me, it’s the worst

I'm a 27 years old man. My regret is not taking care of myself in a specific situation. My mind is in so much pain. Almost 4 months ago, in an extremely distressing and painful emotional situation, I hit my head against the headboard of my bed. Actually, that same day in the afternoon, I was with my girlfriend that I love so much. She always shared her talks with her other male coworkers and I was absolutely okay with that. I never showed any insecurity. Now almost 4 months ago, I was sitting with her in a resturant, and showed her the profile picture of my PhD female class fellow from whatsapp just for introduction. And guess what? In a very disrespectful manner, she left the resturant immediately. That phd classmate of mine is married and has a daughter too. From afternoon till midnight, I kept on explaining to my girlfriend through whatsapp that my classmate is already married and I only talk to her in a very formal way. In the resturant, she had herself checked my messages and discovered nothing flirty or informal. I even sent my girlfriend the voice messages of that girl that the conversation was purely academic, related to phD classes. She did not listen at all and said extremely hurtful things. I don't know what happened to me that night, my girlfriend I loved so much not listening to me at all and showing apathy drove me insane and I smashed my head against the headboard of my bed in my room. Now I have a minor cut on my forehead. People can't really notice it but I so much wish it fades away over time. It has impacted my self esteem quite negatively. All the time, I am conscious of myself. Every morning I wake up and get scared by seeing myself in the mirror as it reminds me my disturbing situation. I repeatedly keep on asking myself questions like how could I do that to myself. But believe me, that moment was emotionally intensely suffocating and stressful for me. I wanted to scream alot to ease my pain that night but did not wish to disturb my parents. She used to tell me that men praise her beauty and I always showed no insecurity and laughed and told her that yes she deserves this appraisal. Don't know how could she show such mistrust while my conversation with my phd classmate was purely academic related to research work. Another important thing to mention here is that I have never ever checked the phone of my girlfriend till this very day. I always valued trust above everything.

@@user-pl1ki3ok6g i readed your entire message, i have been in the situation people not treat me the same as i do to them . (It is not your fault that she doesn't trust you as you do and you don't need to get annoyed or punish yourself over that it is not your fault and you can't control it ! ) And it is ok sometimes we get angry we lose control and do stupid things we all did that sometimes it is totally normal , but try to learn from that and control yourself if faced with unpleasant situations in future,and don't regret the little scratch you mentioned instead accept it . Hope that was helpful

We all wired differently

@@cashpower3365 yes sir!

I say no, too easily. So much so that it harms me. Heres something that happened recently: I life with my parents. I have huge depression and fysical health problems. They were thinking of a holiday place to go and asked me to go.. I diden't know. I diden't know. The day came that they were about to go next morning. I sed yeas. I went to Shower packed some stuff to luggage. Morning came. Had migraine and depression. I diden't go. They left. I slept. Once I woke up I broke to tears for not going. Being alone.

@@SplendyCross Its all about balance. I find I say yes to things too often, especially when I was younger.

Hey just curious how did it go?

Tell me I’m sure it’s better then what I’ve been through

@@dennislevasseur7848 I’m really over it now it was super stupid

Can i share my regret?😢

​@@kimberly-pn1zyyes sure dear Kimberly. Express yourself.

Yes he is

I'm a 27 years old man. My regret is not taking care of myself in a specific situation. My mind is in so much pain. Almost 4 months ago, in an extremely distressing and painful emotional situation, I hit my head against the headboard of my bed. Actually, that same day in the afternoon, I was with my girlfriend that I love so much. She always shared her talks with her other male coworkers and I was absolutely okay with that. I never showed any insecurity. Now almost 4 months ago, I was sitting with her in a resturant, and showed her the profile picture of my PhD female class fellow from whatsapp just for introduction. And guess what? In a very disrespectful manner, she left the resturant immediately. That phd classmate of mine is married and has a daughter too. From afternoon till midnight, I kept on explaining to my girlfriend through whatsapp that my classmate is already married and I only talk to her in a very formal way. In the resturant, she had herself checked my messages and discovered nothing flirty or informal. I even sent my girlfriend the voice messages of that girl that the conversation was purely academic, related to phD classes. She did not listen at all and said extremely hurtful things. I don't know what happened to me that night, my girlfriend I loved so much not listening to me at all and showing apathy drove me insane and I smashed my head against the headboard of my bed in my room. Now I have a minor cut on my forehead. People can't really notice it but I so much wish it fades away over time. It has impacted my self esteem quite negatively. All the time, I am conscious of myself. Every morning I wake up and get scared by seeing myself in the mirror as it reminds me my disturbing situation. I repeatedly keep on asking myself questions like how could I do that to myself. But believe me, that moment was emotionally intensely suffocating and stressful for me. I wanted to scream alot to ease my pain that night but did not wish to disturb my parents. She used to tell me that men praise her beauty and I always showed no insecurity and laughed and told her that yes she deserves this appraisal. Don't know how could she show such mistrust while my conversation with my phd classmate was purely academic related to research work. Another important thing to mention here is that I have never ever checked the phone of my girlfriend till this very day. I always valued trust above everything.

@@user-pl1ki3ok6g keep strong mate that lady showed no mercy, she doesnt deserve neither. Im sorry for your loss. You will find reciprocation someday dont let yourself down king !!

You only let go of the regret fully once you immediately replace it with something better. Until that happens, it will resurface from time to time as a mistake that you regret.

Brendan Bauck Right... 😂

Yep