How a narcissist handles your EMOTIONS 

1. If your emotions don't benefit them you will get indifference or a negative reaction. 2. They will always take the other persons side and blame you for not being stable, right etc etc. 3. They love kicking you while you are already struggling and down. 4. You can't express yourself to them, if you cry they will distance themselves or make themselves busy. They will leave you to self soothe. 5. They have limited emotional capacity. They will always make it about themselves.

Whenever I tried to express how I feel he either gave me the silent treatment or called it arguing ….this bird was something else..it’s been almost 1 yr narc free and I’m thriving

So why be with someone who is a narcissist? You are basically by yourself anyway!

They simply don't give a shit....mine made me so upset to the point of a mental breakdown and he just stared at me as if I was an inconvenience! I've been no contact with the POS for 3 months and my mental health is the best it's been in years!

💯 i stopped telling them ANY good or bad news when he blamed me for a scary threat that happened to me at work. But it also sucks when they find out your news and blames you for being secretive 😢

I've learned that more is said in what they don't say. And if I practice listening to what they don't say, everything becomes clear. Works especially well in discerning the apology.

May god bless ur life and give you the fullness of love in your heart. Im so glad you're still workin hard to keep toxicity at bay. I love your channel

Pushing up on 1,000 episodes, I like the episode numbers, Congratulations, Keep it up

THIS!! You either get dismissed and ignored as being too sensitive to whatever is bothering you or they take the other side (if it's related to another individual or external situation) and kick you while you're down. Even worse, sometimes they'll start adding salt to the wound by seeing this as an open invitation to pile on more insult and criticisms.

Lee, I say keep the episode count & put them in the description box for reference to specific topics. Episode Goals🎯

They’ll never be happy for you

There was one time, after he did something abusive to me, I was sobbing...he was sitting, I was standing...he pulled me in to "comfort me" with a hug (I didnt want) and after a few moments, said something off. I was like, "what?" Confused...apparently he deemed my reaction as genuine based on my heart rate...even at the time, before I learned about narcs, I was like wtf. Why? There was no way I could have faked that reaction... Hearing this just confirmed the feeling I had...thank you for the validation.

I saw and summarized this video on the day I went through all of these things. The day started simple enough, our house help came and she was taking a lot time with work. I was getting restless and hungry. So I quietly mentioned to him that I'm feeling restless and can't wait for her to leave cuz Im feeling dizzy. That's it, that was all I had to say to get a long lecture and warning on not directly saying anything to the helper and why is it a problem if she is working and she is only doing her job and on and on for half an hour. I responded by saying that I was not gonna say anything to her anyway, I am just voicing my discomfort and don't have the capacity for a lecture. To this he condescendingly said "thats right, you don't have the guts to say it to her face so you will waste my time, I am sorry, unlike you I have things to do, I work, this is why I don't talk to you, I am a victim in this house" and off he went. And I just sat thr wondering how my hunger induced headache become about him being a victim. Thr is nothing I can express or experience without it becoming about him. It may not sound like a big deal but imagine this happening multiple times a day, every day, year after year. It breaks you, your resolve, your self confidence. When we met I used to work, I had friends, I used to travel. Now I am trying to gather my life together while struggling with anemia, Hypothyroid, constant headaches, and 40 lbs weight gain. Sometimes it feels easier to give up than start all over again but I remind myself that we have to fight for our life through all odds. We must fight for our own sanity, thr is no higher form of self respect. I started with building myself up emotionally and prepping myself psychologically. Now is the time to physically escape this hell.

Mine could care less about my emotions. Wrecked my vehicle, said I shouldn't of moved. They don't care

YOU NAILED IT BROTHER. THANK YOU! 🙏

When I finally shut down and stopped sharing good or bad news she started saying things like, "You never talk...I don't know what you want from me....I can't read your mind." You literally can not win with these people. I'm ok with not winning, but I went no contact when I finally realized that I couldn't win.

He will listen to my emotions about anything else, but if it’s about him even if I’m respectful with my approach, nope. That right there will lead to silent treatment, backlash, gaslighting. Literally drag me through the mud. I laugh now cause I know exactly how he’s gonna act it’s like a button. So sad but I just have to chuckle that he’s like a robot

Lee is not lying on the emotional support system. By the time i was already emotionally checked out, it was atleast 4 3rd parties i had to go to make sure i wasnt insane for wanting to leave. All of them agreed that i should leave

They totally refuse to answer any questions about thier own feelings, they will not talk about issues or topics within the marriage to try to be closer, to work things through to benefit the marriage. They will not answer shit, will not talk about shit..tell you to get away from them. So how are we supposed to fix the marriage and work on things? Not everyone can just leave.

Good Evening Lee, good evening everyone 🌛💫

Hi Lee, I like hearing the episode number

One time I reverse narc them by manipulating them into not tampering with my vehicle or sabatoging my job because they can benefit from me having them. It works.

What about a narcissist when they are complaining to you about a situation/person in their life and you actually are agreeing with them and they lash out at you anyway? What is the mindset behind that?

My BF is more happier with his friends. He laughs. He have fun. The moment we are alone. He start treating me like I’m GUM on the bottom of his shoes. 👟. Like why are you with me if my existence erkks you

I have no one.

Hello everyone 🫶🏾

I’m curious about how being a narcissist influences your relationships. You seem very self-aware, which makes me think you might know how to navigate interactions with others effectively. After investing so much effort into understanding relationships, where do you draw the line to determine if you’re still considered a narcissist?

Superb Post! Could feel with everything on this post!

Numbers are great especially for referencing.

When my son was in an automobile accident and I wasn't sure if he was okay or not, I was hysterical, he was playing video games and acted as if I was just a nuisance and an interruption to him lol zero empathy.

He just ignored me. Played on his phone or messaged his new supply

I love the numbers.

Your real life examples are very helpful

Last week I was feeling emotional about being far away from my family during lunch and I started silently sobbing to myself. He saw me wiping my tears away with a napkin and he didn't even ask if I was ok, just no emotion. BUT when I looked over at him a few minutes later that mf was over there wiping his eyes like he's going through something and trying to look pitiful for my sympathy. Yeah he ain't get a damn thing from me. I just looked at him and continued to eat just like he did with me. I didn't bring anything up and neither did he. There was a storm last night from the residual effects from hurricane beryl. He went outside to talk on the phone to one of his women friends for about 5 minutes. He came back in in a huff and irritated that there was a puddle of water on the driver's side of his car. Other than asking him a couple of times what he was talking about because I didn't understand what he was saying at first, I gave him absolutely nothing.

Facts!⭐

Yep

Yep and my moms evil boyfriend will try to make me think I am negative and shut me down completely by controlling me into a positive mindset 24/7 happy only no other emotions or feelings to be going on

Can a narcissist be normal on a daily basis or are they always doing something?? Because mine would be triggered and then blow up or just get inpatient. But then say that he needs to stop doing what he does. Is that a narcissist or just toxic???

Lee I need your help please 😢

Yeah went through this to. Tbh I just feel like I attract narcs period ... It will never change. I have no boundaries because sometimes when you need the person boundaries go out the window especially when your in toxic environment

Episode # is good

I never spoke to him just spent his money lmao

No numbers pls

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I would love to be a participant on one of your lives. What is the protocol? Whats needed ?

Do you ever feel empathy?

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