5 ways to get back at a narcissist or toxic person | The Narcissists' Code Ep 831 

Seems to me either there nor here they are haters of spouse

That’s how it goes

That part

Boy isn't that the truth!

Soooooo frkn true!!!!!

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Love that You outlined this Tfs ❤

Done 😊

So RUDE…WHY do people think this is OK to do to a Creators video? Do you think that’s ok to undermine ALL the hard work , dedication, money , time, energy, editing, etc etc etc it takes to make these videos? You’re pretty much telling people NOT to watch the video, just to read YOUR comment instead… you’re going about it the lazy way by typing a few words in the comment section of someone else’s video… like stop piggybacking on other videos and make your own…there’s a thought

@@JuliannFlavin not really..but it helps remember the points of the discussion in the video..like example...bullet points..if u get what i mean..i always read comments but it doesn't deter me from listening to the video if its making its points thoroughly. Its all good hun. Dont get your panties into a bunch

Well said.

Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰

@Melissa-818 please read 2 Timothy chapter 3 versus 1-7 and 1 Corinthians chapter 5 verse 11 wherein God warns us to STAY AWAY from such people. Narcissist often quote scriptures as did Satan, however, we are not to be long suffering with those who choose to use scripture to manipulate or worse, mislead into evil. We, as Christians, are to stay away from those who choose to serve Satan. We are not to eat with them. We are not to invite them into our homes. We are to STAY AWAY from them. Bad company corrupts good morals. Please emerse yourself in scripture, seek knowledge and pray it elevates to wisdom. Then, and only then, will you be ready to quote and apply scripture in an educated manner to help spread the good news. Please receive these words in love ❤️

@@maryl9180 Yes, totally agree with you ! As christian, we don't have to be with toxic people. I receive it with love. Be bless and protect by the eternal God ! ❤❤❤

It's sad this gentleman prides his sin & really is using th8s as supply for his inner demons. I really believe these folks are separated from God & that's ehy the abuse & thinks its funny..there murders.

@monicaevans3163 I'm so sorry you're going through that. It's amazing how indignant they can become when we give them a taste of their own medicine. Like they never did anything at all to hurt us, but we're suddenly terrible for holding up that mirror for them to see what they DO do. My ex is trying to claim that I'm abusive, still insisting that I submit to him and only EVER do what he asks, saying that I hurt HIM... The projection and mental gymnastics they use blows my mind. They have to know full well that what they do is messed up and wrong. I just can't believe they really expect us to believe that WE'RE the horrible ones.

Yep and they end up taking it out on the next person they get with sadly. I feel bad for their future supplies.

@@Diarrheagod omg, me too! I wish that potential supplies would educate themselves more on toxicity and narcissism before they find themselves in our positions one day!

@@Diarrheagod I feel bad for the woman he cheated on me with as she’s going through it now. He’s cheating on her and I heard she’s feeling stabbed in the back. Pray she finds the strength to leave like I did. A year no contact and feeling strong now.

@@QueenBee-fg1iz sorry but if she cheated with him KNOWING he was with someone else, well karma happens and she deserves what she gets... I am tired of the cheaters breaking up relationships, then being all hurt when surprised! the person they cheated with was willing to cheat on them too. I think of cheaters as Narcs lite.

@@etaokha4164 how to talk to you if I need an advice

Yup I wish the same for mine.

Reap more than they’ve sewn later than they’ve sewn. 1 seed sprouts in multiples. Think of allllll the seeds they’ve planted.

Yeah the Narc who abused me also found himself conned by another Narc in the worse possible way ! Making him own a child that turned out to not his and he was discarded to give way for the real father and now he insist to still be in this child’s life and he spends thousands of british pounds going to court just to see the child every two weeks 😂. The woman ask him to donate his junk , he felt so special to be asked but little did he know she was also banging her ex fiancée who was the real father. While this is all happening he was sleeping with me and thought we were dating. Only knew after 7 years as now he wants a real relationship with me. Apparently he didn’t tell me about all these drama because we weren’t even dating . Truth is he is now back for serious intentions because I now have a house and a high paying job. Those years I was struggling single mom so he wasn’t interested. He never wanted to get close to my child who needs a Fatherly care. Asked him why, he said he didn’t want to get close to a kid as it’s difficult if he can’t stay forever. So there from the beginning he knew that he wanted only to string me along. Would he have treated me better if only I loved him more ? Nope don’t think so , he already written me off right from the very beginning. He could’ve had a child together too. The psychopath had a neck to think I’d be fooled by the love bombing again! I asked him why he’d come back and what’s changed now? He said its ‘ respect’ the idiot clearly doesn’t understand the meaning of the word. And added because we have chemistry. Now I learned it’s not ‘love chemistry’ but chemical reactions in my body from an addiction and familiarity ( from similar narcissistic parent dynamics). And he said attraction too, again I ponder now how shitty he is in bed. I had to please myself first because ones he get going he won’t hold on for me. He doesn’t even know how he position himself in the most basic mercenary way. Sorry to be so graphic but just to paint a picture that he doesn’t like or doesn’t know the normal way of man on top, always preferred the adventurous ways. I do wonder sometimes he might be a closet bisexual too, since he like the male to male type of position. I don’t know what irked the woman who conned him and why she has taken him to court to make him disappear 🫠 from their lives with the child. She’s probably clocked in how dodgy he is. Now he isn’t even welcomed on birthdays and Xmases but he insists that he has a right to see the child and that he loves this child. All I can see is it’s all a show because he is never paternal to anyone. Definitely something he is after from this child or this kid is another thing that serves purpose for him. These people are very twisted don’t hesitate to stay away because their reality is way out from yours. They live in a Fantasy. Today, it’s been almost 3 weeks of no contact and I’m almost over and tired of the sad feeling. I have written on my journal that I’m now tired of what I’m feeling and it’s time to turn a new leaf using the lessons and knowledge I have gained on this topic. I will still continue to educate myself the psychodynamics of this personality types so I can better protect myself. I’m so grateful I feel this way now and now looking back grateful that I didn’t have a baby with him or that our relationship never gotten anywhere knowing what he is now. He is in his 50’s and it’s sad that he will keep chasing new victims he can control and manipulate. This kid will turn a teen and an adult soon and will clock on that this man who insist to be his father is a shifty human being , cannot be trusted and a waste of space. I’m just hoping this kid will be safe , because I’m Not entirely convince she is safe with him.

You are goals, I aspire to give as little fucks as you do about my ex! 😂 My dad and brother are also narcs and for some reason I've not had nearly as much bother cutting them out my life and moving on, like it's been easier and I have no urge to reach out to them because life is so much better without them and the stress they cause.

Blocked the Narc of 10 years over 2 weeks now and counting. More and more I understand it wasn’t love , he was not the person I went out with, just an actor and with a mask.

setting boundaries is revenge. being the bigger person is gaslighting yourself. nothing good came from being the bigger person. that’s how we got some holidays in the states. that’s how laws change.

stay safe

@@MentalHealness Thank you for being open and real about Narcissism. I think it is good for people to hear about this from your perspective also.

Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰

I wish I could!! But we’re coparenting 🥴🥴🥴

@@nydasialewis328 I know it must be hard. I have been in situations where I had to deal with narcissistic family members and couldn't leave right away so I had to keep my interactions with them to a minimum. I had to grey rock them until I could get away.

This man really hit the ground running and hasn't stopped yet. He gives us more understanding of him without interviews and negative antics he just shows us who he is through the Recovery. True living legend. We salute you. *Top phase Resolution* . The execution, creativity, and goodness that came from it were inspiring on a number of levels. Cheers Alex & looking forward to seeing what you do next!

I do that IT WORKS!

Unless it's a narc who feeds off of this type of negative energy. They enjoy it and it will exhaust you.

My narc...threw away 60 years of family memories. Along with becoming a multi millionaire. I countered all this by telling her nephew who she is...an covert malignant narrccisst. She's treated like black sheep so this hit HARD! Myself...stay away and have faded into aftermention. She's quite 'dark' these days...

This is the ONE‼️

@@user-zq3gf4pf8l yes! They'll exhaust you and relish in pulling you out of character

That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him or her so you just dealt with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one-- living and seeing him everyday anticipating when will he or she do it again. Your videos are incredibly well done. No critique, thanks for doing this *Top phase Resolution*

Narcissist is the CLOSEST thing to the DEVIL 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽👁️🦅

This made me emotional. So sorry that happened to you, anyways *top phase resolution* is so wonderful. Keep up the good work!!!!

I can vouch that narcissist is also in female form. I’m going through this now. I’ve tried everything to get them to communicate. I let them think they talked me into thinking it was all my fault and I’m just gathering the proof. If I was a scumbag I would oust her right now. I just don’t want that to hurt my kids because they don’t understand.

The way you lose respect for yourself for not leaving, feeling sick that they are cheating at that moment, feeling powerless to stop them, trying to change while knowing that they value anything that’s not you-it doesn’t matter how much you change; it’s you they don’t want and that will never change.

Get out! You'll end up with PTSD like me and wish you left sooner!

​@@isidredicus6159for sho for real

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true!!! Happened today with me! 💯 I call them out and they cannot stand it!

It’s waste of energy dear

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i literally just got done arguing with one & i told him like you’re a narcissist & a gaslighter & he went crazy threatening to leak my number on twitter & expose our personal messages of us arguing, i made it clear i didn’t wanna argue i just wanted him to hear me out he disrespected me sooo bad when i tell u it was pissing me off because it was like talking to a wall, everything was my fault & i did him wrong in his book, like what about what u did wrong? i got so fed up i got my ass on twitter & got on his level & once i pulled a screenshot of him begging another man for money he shut up completely lol, haven’t heard from him since, i blocked him after i saw he ain’t have nun to say after that 😂

Adam, I love you man, you're the only techie i know who actually stops...listens... and seems to actually care sometimes. If I wasn't sure before, you have to be one of my greatest inspirations. Thank you so much for all of this, thank you so much for everything you've done for us, i'm literally crying right now 😂, thank you for caring *Top phase Resolution*

💯💯 Exactly

OMG thank you for this comment. I was going through a similar thing and this sounds just like someone i know. I believe you are so right about Narcs.

Thankyou for saying that I kept wondering why he kept saying I have children I'm old(why was he even with me) I was wondering why he kept pointing out my short comings this makes sense thankyou again.

Narcissist sabotage your life and create flaws.Because they want you to be beneath them

This man really hit the ground running and hasn't stopped yet. He gives us more understanding of him without interviews and negative antics he just shows us who he is through the Recovery. True living legend. We salute you. *Top phase Resolution* . The execution, creativity, and goodness that came from it were inspiring on a number of levels. Cheers Alex & looking forward to seeing what you do next!

Well done. You put up with his behaviour by staying though, whether you pointed his shit out or not. You're only human though and it's okay to forgive yourself when you've let others treat you less than you deserve. It was more likely a trauma bond than love. Makes the song 'what is love' less funny and more intriguing as genuinely such a difficult concept to understand and will be different to different people and setups. All the best to you on your healing and learning journey, you can do this!

Sounds like my situation only I’m having a hard time because we have a child together 🤦🏽‍♀️😂🙌🏽

Same here just very jealous and egotistical about any accomplishments or any thing I did for that matter

My former boyfriend left me 3 months ago. I’ve done a Lot of growing since then. At first I challenged myself to actually GO where I knew he’d be. To help myself. It did. Then I wrote him a letter telling him I knew all along he was cheating on me. Now he avoids me in our small turn or looks down when m around. I’ve also decided zero contact is best. And if I do happen to be in the same place I Absolutely Do NOT leave. I’m not the one who did something wrong. I refuse to comply with his game of false piety and false honoring of me. He’s ashamed and I know it. He can leave I don’t care. I’m living my life and I’m happier now

Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰

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Working on it

Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰

@@Melissa-818 Go away. Save YOURSELF.

@@DDumbrille I can't, and it's for this reason that Jesus died for us.

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I'm an introvert but I tend to over-share when asked simple questions...but I can understand how that can be seen as a bad thing at times...and obviously this situation about *Top phase Resolution* is completely superb. See, I'm doing it again haha.

Y’all should stop calling everything “the bare minimum” when it’s literally not. Respect is the bare minimum, actually going out of your way to comfort and have an open ear for someone isn’t. Doing something like this is truly very nice and a great thing of him to do. I hope shit gets better for you and I salute *Top phase Resolution* for being mature when it’s needed!

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Perfectly said !!

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Lee don't be sad. I hope you are doing good and will definitely get out of the disorder

Seriously

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yes, well said! 💯❗ Live your life!

Expect hell

Lol, they don't care... Ignoring them is a better way.

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I thought Id get the most helpful advice from a BRAVE humaan that does understand how the narcs brain works. To be HONEST, from this Super-empaths perspective, I saw you be cheesy, just like EVERY narc I know Started out with way more concern about outing your tribe(Narcs) with genuine incite to help heal what these DISGUSTING humans are cable of doing to the loving souls who fell for it. You think it funny/ entertaining. You laughed throughout this whole clip while talking out of both sides of your mouth (hmmm, what sounds like an answer, but its safe to just say whatever you say) MY lesson and the TRUTH for you. Get the hell out, go, I know your love won't shutdown, like snap, YOU FELL IN LOVE 1ST !! BUT Go,, if thats not enough, GO further and GO on. You NOT going to EVER hurt them, they are missing pieces that can feel. And the next Ms. Right Now is groomed and waiting

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No contact is best

That is a fact lol 😆 😂 🤣

@@pam8962 for sure 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@@MentalHealness LOL Disappear like a magician 😊😊😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Thank you, I will. stay safe

Lol 😂

That’s funny.

😢I haven't fully understand this yet but I think I'm finding out .

My brother hated me educating myself about NPD. I couldn't stand his abuse any longer and have gone no contact.

I likewise did some of the same things. I didn't expose him because I don't want to be associated with him and he had contemplated suicide last year.

protect your peace

Totally agree 👍🏾💯, they are never ever ever satisfied. S*** is ridiculous you talk things out when you can cuz most times they don't want to talk things out but even when you do get a partial of it they go back and do the same b*******🙄

​@@MentalHealness Wow everything your talking is what I am going through I recently found out he is DATING My Cousin they don't care about me knowing he's acting like nothing is going on with them unbelievable and she's doing the same thing I'm Too sick to do anything I just agree with him when he tells me anything he comes to see me basically everything day as nothing is going on with my cousin Sick on my stomach

😁 is he still slithering around?

wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

Y’all should stop calling everything “the bare minimum” when it’s literally not. Respect is the bare minimum, actually going out of your way to comfort and have an open ear for someone isn’t. Doing something like this is truly very nice and a great thing of him to do. I hope shit gets better for you and I salute *Top phase Resolution* for being mature when it’s needed!

Lol😂

If come to the point of believing that only God can help them. And prayer. But all from far away! Zero contact.

Wow he's dating My cousin and she doesn't care about me or anything 😔

Tell me about that.Them dating even your close ones does that reflect too on the close ones and their toxity right?just undercover enemies because why date people close to me surely?

Imagine your kid being a narc. I had things happen over the years I thought strangers were doing to me. She will not be friends with anyone who loves me the minute she finds out they dont or I dont. She latches to them like a parasite. If they miss me she is no longer interested with them. I am a Libra which I am super cool and everyone likes me and she HATES ME. How I look, act, smell. I never seen anything like this coming from your child. She is 35 now. I went no contact 5 yrs ago and only hates I didn’t do it sooner. It destroyed me mentally.

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Bro...I give you an applause!🙇👊🏼 Many of us wish we walked away like the way you did! Please don't turn back because it will only get worse than it was before! Stay strong stay safe, all the best!

@@edwinedy49 Cheers mate! And all my best to you as well

I need support and strength to get over him

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I can relate to your story. Please don’t expose him. It could be dangerous. After, I exposed him to his family he severely damaged my car and broke in my home and destroyed it! Let go and let God! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

Just found out the same thing about my guy. He was using the Grindr app & messing with other women as well.

Eh it's rough in this world hey...for putting camera he must had been so obsessed...love and light

I learned whatever they say or blame you is what they're doing & behind your back. They love to cause confusion, which I'd of Satan. He also kept trying to destroy me, that is of Satan. Your mind doesn't need the trickery & being used. Don't keep accepting the abuse, you are more deserving of real love. You will heal

I personally think they get off when you cry. So l have learned not to So he doesn't get the satisfaction of being happy knowing he has hurt me yet again.

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Holy shit, wow….” Like some kind of vacation.” That is f*$%ing deep. That just blew my mind. You are so right, almost like a body snatcher 🥸🏖️😮🫠😂

Right!

This one was offered 4 years in prison yesterday and that's just one case he has multiple cases& charges pending

Parasites

Calling the police and dragging you through family court gives them pleasure. I'm going through this as we speak. We weren't married and have no kids but she got an order of protection against me while I was home alone moving my thi gs out. Police showed up and served me. All because I caught her cheating and lying. They are truly unbelievable creatures. They will do ANYTHING to take the spotlight off of themselves to avoid being exposed. But when I was in family court I exposed her and everything she did to me. She was silent after that. These narcacissts over play they're hand and underestimate empaths just because we are good hearted people they think they can try to bury you and expect you to just lay down like a dog while they do it. But mine got a rude awaking when I exposed who she really was. I will definitely never get hoover from her now, and that's exactly the I want it. I've hit the gym again and put on 15lbs of muscle since the discard 6 months ago. I'm very fit again and healthy. I was sooooo sick physically while I was with her I can not believe I didn't see it then and how thin I got. Do not EVER let these people back In your life. They have not changed and never will without some serious self reflection and accountability on they're part but they are not capable of that. Eat healthy, train in the gym, save your money and surround yourself with good people.

Wow I thought I was the only one going through that. The retaliation is really difficult especially when they initiate all the things you mentioned and use their fake charm to manipulate a situation just to get back at you.

Have Faith. Good always prevails. Never react but respond if you must. If you do not engage this can drive them crazy and voila...they expose themselves by their own nasty thoughts.

Yep. Happened to me.

Speak for yourself.

​@@RAJOHN-ke7mc😂😂 you are a joke

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thats what they let us think, narcist are actually very insecure, low self esteem, fearfull of love and rejection. thats why they try to hold control, they are scared u leave before they can. so they def have lots of feelings but they wont tell u

@@michaelmich00 exactly and it’s low key eating them up inside. They can put in a good facade, but you are very correct. They are soooo insecure and will latch on to someone new to try to act like they’re unbothered when in actuality they are. And God forbid you move on and/elevate up with anything-job, new relationship..it destroys them deep within.

You van hurt their ego :)

Thank you

Exactly! I couldn't have stated it better!! It's just not worth it. Best, desirable outcome is to walk away, close the door and never, ever look back, as if they never existed! Erase them from your life and mind.

Agree, he is a diagnosed narcissist so I think he gives advice based on the NPD mindset which is unhealthy. No contact is the best contact. Even if you have children with a narcissist that does not want to do any real work to change you must go no contact. A person may never change.

If you consider, there could be many more victims before karma gets them, why waste anymore energy now? You are just another bump in the road until they crash, if ever. Adios!

@@lindawise5546 narcissists will eventually get there day

Incorporate within boundary in 'your life' the theory of...'Karma has NO deadline' and focus on YOUR life. It will get better when you gain confidence in yourself.

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Be mindful or else you'll become like them.

@@patricesutter4344 Yeah, I definitely don't want that, all I've been doing is posting about narcs on my socials and only made two posts specifically about her without any times, locations or names being mentioned But for some reason, just me posting this stuff about narcissism has given her multiple narcissistic injuries and has locked her into being extremely scared and angry

How?

@@peaceangel-rl2hf I research and post stuff about NPD on an account that she stalks and seeing herself in those posts gets under her skin big time

Excuses, excuses!😳🙄 seek help! No one can control others from being around you or not! It’s the Narc in you that makes people want to leave!

@@sashaclarke2749 he said USE TO…not anymore….chill

It works.