How A Narcissist Reacts When You've Become Too Strong! 💪

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If you've ever found yourself entangled in a narcissistic relationship, you know how challenging it can be to break free from their manipulation. But what happens when you start to grow stronger and more self-aware? In this video, we'll explore the narcissist's surprising reactions when they realize they're losing their grip on you. We'll also hear from viewers who have been through the trenches and come out the other side, as well as from Christina, who's here to guide you on your own journey to recovery. Whether you're just starting to recognize the signs of narcissistic abuse or you're well on your way to healing, this video will provide you with valuable insights and support. So, if you're ready to take the next step in reclaiming your power, join us as we navigate the complex world of narcissistic relationships together.
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00:00 High-Stakes Narcissistic Relationship Game
00:33 Understanding the Narcissist's Moves
00:35 Downplaying YOUR Strengths and THIER Abuse
01:47 Self-Belief vs. Narcissistic Manipulation
02:02 One Viewer's Harsh Narcissistic Betrayal
02:25 You're Not Alone In This
02:49 Yet Another Manipulation Strategy
03:54 Your Winning Hand
04:33 Narcissist Switches Tactics
09:09 Narcissist's Desperate Control Doubles Down
11:19 Narcissist's Isolation Tactics Cut Support
12:56 One Viewer's Story Of Triumph Over Isolation
13:22 The Narcissist Rewrites History
15:45 Standing Strong, Holding Your Truth
16:41 Navigating the Narcissist's Smear Campaign

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@CommonEgo 2 месяца назад

Free download: Suspect someone you know might be a narcissist? This free guide breaks down the phases of abuse to see if you recognize them from your experience: www.commonego.com/checklist

@Portia620 Месяц назад

You need to explain how they do it and they tell the truth with small little insidious lies sprinkled in with your friends and family members and that’s why they want you to be vulnerable with you because once they have that if you have a mental illness, they will totally use it against you!!!

@maribel5778 Месяц назад

My boyfriend's mother is a narcissist. Her rage is unbearable. When I told her that it is not fair to put up with her frustration and rage , she told me to look for another family and that she doesn't plan to change. She is a gold digger and craves for a high status. She tried to gaslight me telling me that I am too feeble and too sensitive.

@ricardocamara1602 5 дней назад

You just believe in yourself listen to your intuition they are cold and heartless and empty inside I have been no contact for almost a year and it’s never been so calm and quiet if it wasn’t for my kids .. I wish I would have never met this toxic person keep your head up your better without them ❤

@michaeljohns8817 2 месяца назад

NARCISSISM IS SUCH A SERIOUS PROBLEM IT NEEDS TO BE TAUGHT IN HIGH SCHOOLS

@lilfairycupcake 2 месяца назад

nice thought, but will never happen. its soooooo prevalent, totally accepted, and embraced, by society as a whole. this is how are keepers want us to be. go back in your brain cells; remember all the karens/kens from 20yrs ago? there were none, they are also a bi product of our present me me me me mine/take from you, society.

@martaszyszka7654 2 месяца назад

Or we should teach the children to be aware of the fact that such cruel people live among us. Let's not put everything on teachers' shoulders.

@lilfairycupcake 2 месяца назад

@@martaszyszka7654 the system will never, or should it do anything; its up to the parents. the problem there is very few of them truthfully know what one truly is, unless they have been threw it themselves.

@user-yj8hh5ym9f 2 месяца назад

I am dealing with a narcissist & alcoholic son 😢

@lilfairycupcake 2 месяца назад

@@user-yj8hh5ym9f you need to pack your bag and leave. they will both drag you right down the sh itter with them.

@krispela9626 2 месяца назад

They Attack what they Lack 🙏

@tombuddy100 2 месяца назад

Basically, if you can be independent, you are free from narcissist.

@CAPCAPTAIN Месяц назад

You still won't be free from the attacks. You still have to know how to fight them

@iamliyao7430 Месяц назад

Exactly, my sister just told me that I paid the mortgage by luck, this is after she told me my mother is planning to get me out of the family, that I’m not using my last name why I am I in the house, it was WILD that I’m now awake 1:45 I responded and I shouldn’t have, I was doing sooooo well.

@A.I-GAMING День назад

I think more specifically it is emotional independence, unless you feel trapped because you are being financially supported by a narc.

@tombuddy100 День назад

@@A.I-GAMING I guess it depends on a narcissist type, but some wouldn't even support anyone but themselves financially, and some are even thrifty on themselves, saving every penny they can, thinking they would live for a long long time. Unending thriftiness becomes their habit with no rhyme or reason to it. It makes sense only to them.

@Sheisme120 2 месяца назад

8:47 This part!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 If you trust your own mind, memory, and judgement, no gaslighter will be able to win.

@michaelshinners6847 2 месяца назад

SO TRUE!!❤

@pablomacias7393 Месяц назад

Everyone should understand that narcissists target people who they believe they are better than them,it’s not hard to understand the nature of all this insecurity.

@user-kf3yz7so6q 2 месяца назад

If you’re with a narcissist and don’t depend on them.. they don’t want you… you are too strong for them, they want someone to worship them 24/7 and who is weak and dependent on them… the reason being, they can control them so easily.

@randy_cbc8811 2 месяца назад

Well said, even pastors and religious leaders can be narcs, sad to say. They all want people who will act in obsequious posture towards them, which, btw, is not Biblical at all. The Scripture calls a pastor to be an 'under-shepherd' a humble servant of all who puts others above himself; -- not a proud, domineering 'over-lord' who expects others to serve him. The former is to be like Jesus; the latter is more like the Devil, really.

@alivingstone4Him Месяц назад

@@randy_cbc8811 - Amen brother! They have demons who are controlled by Satan himself who wants to be worshipped by mankind and even tried to get Jesus to worship him as found in scripture but Jesus would not bow! Praise God! He is our sin substitute. The Holy sinless perfect One Jesus Christ of Nazareth (God in the flesh!) ! >>>> Matthew 4:3-11 And when the tempter (the devil) came to him, he said, If thou be the Son of God, command that these stones be made bread. 4 But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God. 5 Then the devil taketh him up into the holy city, and setteth him on a pinnacle of the temple, 6 And saith unto him, If thou be the Son of God, cast thyself down: for it is written, He shall give his angels charge concerning thee: and in their hands they shall bear thee up, lest at any time thou dash thy foot against a stone. 7 Jesus said unto him, It is written again, Thou shalt not tempt the Lord thy God. 8 Again, the devil taketh him up into an exceeding high mountain, and sheweth him all the kingdoms of the world, and the glory of them; 9 And saith unto him, All these things will I give thee, if thou wilt fall down and worship me. 10 Then saith Jesus unto him, Get thee hence, Satan: for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve. 11 Then the devil leaveth him, and, behold, angels came and ministered unto him. We will not bow to Satan either! We only bow to King Jesus- the Only One worthy of all our PRAISE, WORSHIP AND ADORATION! ! Hallelujah! >>> And from Jesus Christ, who is the faithful witness, and the first begotten of the dead, and the prince of the kings of the earth. Unto him that loved us, and washed us from our sins in his own blood, And hath made us kings and priests unto God and his Father; to him be glory and dominion for ever and ever. Amen. Behold, he cometh with clouds; and every eye shall see him, and they also which pierced him: and all kindreds of the earth shall wail because of him. Even so, Amen. I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the ending, saith the Lord, which is, and which was, and which is to come, the Almighty. \0/ Thank-You JESUS!

@kristeneichhorn6913 Месяц назад

I can relate to the comment made about how a narcissist wants you to depend on them and worship them. This is absolutely true! I had been dealing with a narcissist who was my landlord and boss. She targeted me when I dared to do what is best for the animals we are trusted to care for. She confronted me about why I didn't follow the rule she made and I explained to her various reasons her rule made no sense and how it goes against safety guidelines she should be aware of. For every bogus reason she gave for me to no longer be able to do what I was doing, I had a way around it. This enraged her! Especially when I told her to her face that the reasons she gave made no sense and were stupid. That I believe was the beginning of the end. She kicked me out and fired me. Little dose she know I couldn't be happier to be free from her bullshit!

@samsquanch1996 2 месяца назад

A few nights ago I had a nightmare that I got back with my narcissistic ex. Woke up feeling extremely anxious.

@CommonEgo 2 месяца назад

That sounds terrifying. Must have been a relief to wake up from that dream! 🙏❤️

@charettebyreddog2477 2 месяца назад

OH man. I had those recurring nightmares for years after getting out of a narc relationship. At the time (over 20 years ago) I didn't know anything about narcissism or have the language for that type of psychological abuse so since have read that these nightmares are a "normal" part of the recovery. Like they're little mini trauma flashbacks as our mind processes what happened. My recurring dream was that I was somehow back in a relationship with this person and the feeling in the dream was one of utter hopelessness. Sometimes in my dream I would remember I was with my now husband and it provided some feelings of relief. Thankfully they weren't very often but I understand the feeling one has during the nightmares and upon waking. It's terrible and it's almost as if it's real. I'm so sorry you are going through this!

@samsquanch1996 2 месяца назад

@@charettebyreddog2477 I appreciate your response to my comment. In my dream I also had the feeling of hopelessness, like there was no way out! In my dream she was love-bombing me again, but I knew what was going to happen next. My relationship with my narc ex ended only 3 years ago, so recent yet at the same time feels both so long ago and so recent!

@lilfairycupcake 2 месяца назад

sheeeeit, thats nothing. i had a dream about my ex wife. now thats a nightmare. lol

@maninthewild-bitterpill1078 2 месяца назад

Those dreams are the worst lbs

@jamesfilip3712 2 месяца назад

The silent treatment is truly God sent

@user-qv9nw1dq2f 2 месяца назад

Indifference to the narcisist and all of their BS is the beautiful outcome of healing from the horrible abuse those evil driven individuals inflicted onto us. Once you reach the point of becoming indifferent to their pathetic manipulation s and games, you are set free. Thank you Jesus for setting us free.❤

@aurorarene9909 Месяц назад

They go crazy when "the grey rock" method is used and "no contact" they have to know you are indifferent and have zero feelings , emotions or reactions to their antics. I drove a psychopath away with using these tactics. I'm loving myself because this scared him and he left and he did confirm that I was too strong for him.

@bridgettetraveler658 Месяц назад

If a narcissist tells me no one else would want me, I say hallelujah! After having a narcissist I couldn't want anyone else. Being alone is awesome 😎👍👍!

@tonewilhelmsen2425 23 дня назад

Dont let them destroy Your life ❤

@badassmomomdotcom4909 4 дня назад

I got that exact sentence too😢

@benjamintice6400 2 месяца назад

Their favorite thing to say was "You're so hyperbolic, you blow everything out of proportion" any time they would be confronted with their poor behavior.

@annrodriguez2891 Месяц назад

Or your acting crazy..

@matthewwozniak9138 2 месяца назад

Always waiting for the next 👡shoe to drop. What you described is Cult tactics, separating/ isolating people from their friends and family.

@CommonEgo 2 месяца назад

💯

@SST4SSG 2 месяца назад

Nailed it! Signing off, a fellow guy named Matt (who also escaped a woman gone wrong who tried that game on me too)

@opalaminah9646 2 месяца назад

I have just blocked and began no contact for about a week now. I've been threatened and promised to be hurt by him. I will never go back or allow the abuse to continue. I will report if he appears anywhere near me. Please 🙏🏽 pray for my protection and removal of this narcissistic man.

@gracesanity6314 Месяц назад

If someone threatens you....that's where Police need informing. That's abusive. Lay low....and heal. Be very clever and strategic. Document everything.

@aurorarene9909 Месяц назад

Let him know you got something for him if he dares to come anywhere near you. Bullies like people they know are afraid. Let them know you will "F" them up

@VaginasaurusHex Месяц назад

Hope it's going well.

@SandroOnMars 7 дней назад

Restraining order.

@badassmomomdotcom4909 4 дня назад

Same here😢

@duromusabc 2 месяца назад

The good thing is if you keep on staying strong eventually The narcissist will leave you- BUT they’ll make up a lie that you caused the break up 🤣🤣🤣- really ? Remember the narcissist HAS TO WIN You the strong one will say ok you won but say it calmly and with apathy with no reaction

@lilfairycupcake 2 месяца назад

they really never win at anything. perpetual losers. hands down champions of self destruction/bad decision making.

@keeleehudson 2 месяца назад

They mean “work.” They have to put in a lot of “work” to control you. When they say, “you won’t find someone as patient as me.”

@titaniumcranium3755 Месяц назад

They lash at us and when we leave they call us unloving. What do you want from me?

@larryprimeau5885 2 месяца назад

when you consider the beauty and the possibilities within every relationship, it's beyond tragic and sad..and what makes it especially sad is that some people don't even know that there's a beautiful alternative which creates happiness..

@lilfairycupcake 2 месяца назад

don't even know, or do they want to know. all a narc knows is take, destroy everything they come in contact with, and this includes self destruction.

@createa.googleaccount713 26 дней назад

After not liking the abuse and letting it be known then I'm told that ... I was pouting & she doesn't feel like walking on eggshells around me... WAIT! So I don't like the Neglect, Triangulation & Confusing Power Plays and let it be known that I'm upset, and now She feels like She's walking on eggshells 😖🤯🥴 BLAME SHIFTING 101! Never Admitting her cunning power plays... Super Thanks for Decoding this Narc 💩

@Justin-tu4fk Месяц назад

Sitting duck was I. Totally unprepared!

@toridenton8394 2 месяца назад

Omg i’ve experienced all of this. It’s been almost 8 months and this man still making up lies even though i’m done. I told him moths ago im done and after the tells me to move on lol. Im like that’s what i been trying to do the narcissism is real.

@WaterBug46 10 дней назад

That certainly hit home. When I caught my husband on a local dating site and confronted him he said I was over reacting as he was just window shopping. Close cousins to having a pet. The level of cruelty that pours out of them like water. Amazing

@liamcanning8268 2 месяца назад

I lived with a Narcissist for 10 years and eventually got out I turned myself into the person I wanted to be Strong Independent and Happy! I met a woman I was in school with and Couldn’t believe when things started to have that familiar ring to It ! This Narcissist turned out to be way worse than the last One ! What I had learned from these experiences and my journey to be the Person I wanted to be was I was attracting this type of person and it was related to how my childhood was ! What I learned was this Attention is what most of this is about ! No matter what stay quiet turn the other cheek and learn to Love Yourself ! The best thing you can ever do is be a success in your own Life ! That is a bitter pill for every Narcissist Ever 🙏🏻❤️

@SST4SSG 2 месяца назад

Dude, I'm 50 and I used to think that was crazy talk as a guy when I was in my 20s. Yet the psychological model you speak of was totally correct that they told us back in the '90s! (Or me if you're my age). Don't beat yourself up because they don't show up that way initially of course. Love bombing morphs into sporadic DEVALUTION years later. Until it becomes a so harsh that you can't take it anymore!

@AugustusTiberius-tq1gw 2 месяца назад

My X left me for a rebound guy after a few years together. I noticed the change from the beginning of the relationship to the end. In the end my X noticed that her lack of attention and intimacy, manipulation, gaslighting and control wasn't working on me any more. I never felt better when she left the relationship. My X didn't provide closure. But I don't care at this point. For those who experienced similar problems. Be aware that your partner will take advantage of your financial access before they leave. So make sure that you prevent and lock any important information they will use.

@Ryukikon 2 месяца назад

How long ago was this ?

@ZoltanHercules 2 месяца назад

I’m not scared of any of them. I’m just constantly bored of them being about and trying to get to me by targeting family members.

@JacK-qn4zh 2 месяца назад

Running into her after a fall out a year ago and been friends for 30 some years... Priceless...I'm gonna walk away and say Nothing!!!! I'm not scared anymore!

@NSEasternShoreChemist 2 месяца назад

Over the past few years, I gradually became too strong and capable for my covert narcissistic adoptive father. He died two days ago.

@jkevinparker 2 месяца назад

I started saving entire text conversations and recording other interactions in my phone’s notes with dates and details like a journal. After 5 years of this-and discovering that I’m autistic-I went back and reviewed it all and saw the _very clear pattern_ and suddenly was able to end our relationship. Rather than relying on my memory-which it turns out is very good!-I had receipts. She finally gave up the breadcrumbing and got very frustrated with me. GOOD!

@beautypablotamarini7315 2 месяца назад

Yes, I don't know to play on their level. THANK YOU GOD🙏

@christina1stallings 2 месяца назад

When my ex couldn’t get to me anymore, he would start putting down everything around me and literally looked possessed.

@lwontherez7927 Месяц назад

Plus, their deep shame (/“I’m a bad person.”) prevents them from taking accountability. This sounds like a whole video on the narcissists projection!!

@lilfairycupcake 2 месяца назад

my fav move when dealing with one is leaving. 0 contact. i use this method for narcs, and non narcs alike.

@natalieharrison5202 2 месяца назад

My job is all in my brain, my exes job was all in his hands. He was a carpenter. He used to say 'you couldnt do my job' which i used to reply 'i don't want to do your job - that's why i do mine - one day ill get paid just as much but my back wont be broken' and he'd get all mardy and angry and start being a pr##k.

@willemkoppier4540 Месяц назад

"Its not cheating, its just a little thingy I did, little mistake" "You're weak, your family is weak" "Your brother doesnt care about you, he just uses you" "You physically abused me, and you abuse your children" "You're sick, you're a psychopath" "Everything you think about me is wrong" "I told my children and "friends"(other men, supplies) that you are a sick man and what you did to me" The list of betrayel is endless.. What hurt me the most is the false accusations about me physically abusing women and children. It is so discusting to me it makes me physically sick when I think about it. Her children hate me over a bunch of discusting lies

@ruyko6300 12 часов назад

most of those points are probably projections of what she thinks about herself, and the things she knows about you which can hurt you the most. Vindictive demons. People will recognize the real person in the future. So time is on your side. Stay Kind, try to learn stoic control of your emotions and just be a good person with integrity. The People who are worth to be in your life will come back to you :) have faith and good luck

@willemkoppier4540 11 часов назад

@@ruyko6300 thank you for your kinds words. I'm trying really hard. But the pain and pity remain. It will be ok in the end. Thank you👍🏻👊🏻

@ruyko6300 11 часов назад

I think everyone would feel the same in your awful situation and I can barely comprehend the pain youve been through. Stay strong and keep moving. In the end everything is gonna be alright @@willemkoppier4540

@SerenityAndSurgery Месяц назад

yes in my experience , narcs make every attempt to drive a wedge between you and your support system and they literally want to completely isolate you for a better control

@Chris-hp2gg Месяц назад

Narcissists play three dimensional chess while the rest of us are playing checkers.😂

@AmberExista Месяц назад

Now it all makes sense to me! I am someone who sadly struggles with health issues, mostly auto-immune. He once said to me that I am sick because of how I am like, because of my stupidity and stubbornness. Needless to say my only reaction was wtf. I am confident overall so I am not sure there is anything anyone can say to take that away from me but he definitely tried. And I assume because it never worked all he could say is how masculine and domineering I am. Your video helps me understand why his 'trying to help me' was so absurd, I don't think he was trying to help me but to control me.

@Oderick801 Месяц назад

Mine started attacking me as a parent. But was completely unsuccessful, because I was that confident in how good of a parent that I am. But he tried so hard, because he knew how important it was for me to be a good parent.

@michaeljohns8817 2 месяца назад

FIRST OF ALL , A PERSON SHOULDN'T BE WITH A NARCISSIST !!!!!! PERIOD !!!!!

@CommonEgo 2 месяца назад

In an ideal world, yes. Unfortunately it’s not easy or possible for everyone to leave right away

@randy_cbc8811 2 месяца назад

@@CommonEgo Nor is it easy to recognize (before it's too late) that you're dealing with a narcissistic person, I suspect.

@lilfairycupcake 2 месяца назад

totally agree. the problem is few know exactly what they are dealing with. one of the worst things about being with one is 'not knowing'. im not stupid, but if you dont fully understand narcissism, your screwed. several months after i permanently kicked her to the curb, i was busy cooking in the kitchen, had u tube randomly playing for background noise. half paying attention, a man starts describing her, and her narc actions to a T. shut down kitchen duty, and spent the next several hrs watching narc vids. not only did the vids explain everything, they also explained her odd behavior. they are nothing more than lost, butt hurt children, living in a adults body. that was 9yrs ago, and if that vid would not have randomly popped up, i would most likely still be in the dark to this day. their entire mental dysfunction is very hard for a normal mind to understand. it was nice of black jesus to toss me that bone, giving me clarity/understanding.

@SST4SSG 2 месяца назад

That's why they call it them "WEARING A MASK" because they don't show up as they really are until a half year (or two years at the very least) later in many cases

@SST4SSG 2 месяца назад

@@randy_cbc8811Agreed, Randy! It's the fight for your life out of nowhere to escape the hell that missy sprung upon you when it comes to crazy women, indeed!

@dinab7852 2 месяца назад

Thank you Christina for your encouraging e-mails that always show up in my inbox with perfect timing for how I'm feeling. These e-mails and your videos are 50% of the reason why I'm still standing after being crushed in every way by my narcissistic ex-husband. Him discarding me and disappearing from my life just over 1 month ago after abusing me emotionally, psychologically, verbally and physically for 5 years is a TRUE BLESSING as I was unable to discard him first 'cause he kept hoovering me each time I did and I was too weak to resist his hoovering. I've learned SO MUCH on Narcissism from your channel and this has helped me immensely to not break down, to stay strong, walk away and move on. All things I never though I could do. Thank you 100X 🙏🏻

@MindBuddies Месяц назад

Fantastic breakdown of narcissistic behaviors! The clear explanations of how narcissists react when their control wanes have been eye-opening. It serves as a reminder that recognizing our own worth and maintaining it is our greatest defense against manipulation. Truly a must-watch for anyone questioning their relational dynamics!

@fairygurl9269 2 месяца назад

"You Have NO Power Over Me" *Resource The Labyrinth 💞 Here's To Authentically Believing In YoSelf

@TuerlingsTim 2 месяца назад

Mine made the mistake to become angry and open herself with be honest the first time. She shared open here thoughts 😆. I thank here and said goodbye😜

@lilfairycupcake 2 месяца назад

boy, when that mask falls off its amazing. thats exactly when it happens, when they are angry. mask falling off is a part of their self destruction mode. not only do they like seeing you miserable, they love being miserable themselves, do to hate.

@angellollar1083 2 месяца назад

This was very encouraging 👏

@howarddavies782 Месяц назад

You are always stronger than you think you are. Go no contact and develop a new support system. If your a genuine and authentic person there will be people glad to have you among their circle of friends. Good video.

@mangoitaliano1757 11 дней назад

I think it’s important to hold on to THE truth and not YOUR TRUTH The Narcs latch onto that phrase to rewrite history ‘It’s my truth’ No. What is THE truth?

@SST4SSG 2 месяца назад

5:30--Mrs CE is right here when she talks about their classic STAGE 4 tactic of them playing HARD TO GET when it comes to the using reverse psychology to try to trick us back into "chasing them!"

@lo-ul8nq 2 месяца назад

Jesus is our hope. Dont forget your first Love. Jesus loves you

@alivingstone4Him Месяц назад

Amen ! Yes, He is indeed. The only hope of and for this evil dark world ! The enemy (the devil, Satan himself, the deceiver and father of all lies and the biggest manipulator, controller, gaslighter, narcissist himself - " Has God really said?" he said to Eve. ) comes only to kill, steal, and destroy but Jesus came that we might have life and that more abundantly! John 10:10. Jesus knows all about narcissists abuse as he was despised and rejected of men, envied and put to death on the cross though sinless and without any blame or wrong doing. He laid down his life for us - for the sins of the world - so we can be made right with God who is Holy and Righteous and Just and must punish sin. ( Sin is missing the mark and we all have missed the mark! ) - Isaiah 53. Jesus then rose from that grave three days later and made a spectacle of the devil and his demons ! Putting them to an open shame! Hallelujah! Jesus loves you and says Come to Me all ye who are weary and heavy laden... I am gentle and lowly in heart and you will find rest for your souls. - Matthew 11:28-31 That is what we all need REST for our souls. Jesus gives this and He gives us His peace in the midst of pain and suffering and in a world of chaos and confusion. Come to Him today friends. He will never reject anyone who comes to Him and he will never leave nor forsake us. He is faithful and true forever and ever! Narcissists all use the same tactics. WHY? Because it is demonic from the pit of hell itself and Satan. From the Holy Bible - James 3:5-18 5.Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! 6 And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. 7 For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind: 8 But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. 9 Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God. 10 Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be. 11 Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter? 12 Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh. 13 Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom. 14 But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. 15 This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish. 16 For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. 17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. 18 And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.

@user-gy1xc4dx4h Месяц назад

AMEN 🎉❤😊 THANK YOU JESUS ❤🎉😊

@alivingstone4Him Месяц назад

@@user-gy1xc4dx4h - Amen Amen !! Yes, Yes Thank-You Jesus our Living Hope and King of kings and Lord of lords !! Every knee shall bow to King Jesus ! Woohooo !!

@HyggeHomestead 2 месяца назад

"Mansplaining" as though I need obvious things explained to me & help with figuring things out lol thanks capt obvious. I couldn't have completed this task w/o you pointing out the obvious as though I am an idiot & need simple things explained. Good thing I have your around to put me down & tell me I am incapable lol

@muma6559 4 дня назад

when the narc is a family member you can't have them as support, it has to be your close friends

@deborahbloem1325 2 месяца назад

Thank you so much for sharing Christina. Your video's and lessons are great! We can learn so much from you.

@ShadowKing1993 Месяц назад

When you get stronger, they go into terminator mode. 😂 They go after your finances, your relationships and slander your reputation just to feel like they have the power. They're pathetic individuals who gets their karma eventually. And majority of the time they always try to come back when their supplies "fail" to accommodate them. 😂 Please do not accept them ever again. Tell them to kick rocks and move on.

@debbiegalica2992 2 месяца назад

I stand up to the covert narcissist. I think he finally gave up trying to gaslight me and his stupid mind games. Im the super empath.

@heleneisotta4288 2 месяца назад

I was told that other men wouldnt care about my kids the ways he did. «Because other men are not like me»

@TheCovertsEnabler Месяц назад

They are all so special and "built different" aren't they? 🙄

@SerenityAndSurgery Месяц назад

i am in the process of regaining back my control from the narc. and her response is sort of downplaying my strength by saying we will see how long it goes and will see who is the ultimate winner

@Cutest1TheGame 2 месяца назад

I guess I’m at stage 4 where he constantly picks fights about everything. Edit - actually we’re much later. He’s gotten physical.

@lilfairycupcake 2 месяца назад

try leaving. your only win is leaving him, before he replaces you; and chances are, he already has. ps. dont tell him your leaving, just do it.

@annrodriguez2891 Месяц назад

Please it's so hard to leave..I did it 5 years ago...He is destroying your mental health on top of any physical injuries he might inflict... Fractured ribs was one of my injuries... Freedom is so sweet ❤❤❤❤Prayers and luck

@user-lj2fn1gb8u Месяц назад

Actually my N-ex said that I wasn't good enough. Also he said he wanted to be celibate, he was scared of how much he loved me and blamed me for leaving when he was discarding me himself🙄. Yes, I couldn't keep my promise to never leave him as he made it totally impossible for me to stay. And he reminded me my promise after I left, very sick man😑. I met another narc after unfortunately but covert and I got tired of his mindf*CK behaviour too, so he's an ex also😁. And I'm totally allergic now to narc and abusive men and also women. Woohoo 🙌🎉

@tonywillams5099 2 месяца назад

My Narc and I were together for 30 years and when she found out I was on to her she said I think you should see a doctor I think you are loosing your marbles.And then later she said,the thing you have to get through your thick skull my friends are more important to me than you are.

@Black_Blow_Fly 2 месяца назад

I really enjoy your advice.

@AugustusTiberius-tq1gw 2 месяца назад

Mrs. Christina is on point.

@truebelieverinthelord7823 2 месяца назад

Thank you for this information!

@forumicebreaker 2 месяца назад

On desperate control: would a covert stealth file divorce papers? In mediation session it sounded like she "didn't know how I would react." On isolation: she wanted me out of the house (can't have me sleep in another room keeping to myself), attempted to use my family in a smear campaign, I've heard she has engaged in the social media stuff, she attempted something with one of my co-workers, and fully attempted to alienate the kids (succeeded in doing so with one). Etc. On rewriting: I've seen this kind of happen over the last couple decades in general.

@connieroot2586 4 дня назад

Mine tells me all the time that no one will ever love me as much as he does, as though I am unlovable 😅

@manienieuwenhuis3623 10 дней назад

When I started pointing out to the narcissist what they've been doing to me I was called senile ! Hehe

@Saritabanana 2 месяца назад

What about if your narcissist is your younger sister as in my 40 yo younger sister trying to burn me to the ground. I after years of therapy and not speaking to her for 4 years she hates that I’m not reacting to her like I once did when she had so much power over me. I had to let her back into my life because my dad was dying. He died Sunday. She did some dirty shit that day. I have been the one caring for him for years and she hated that I got recognition for a job well done by the hospice nurses. She thinks everything is a competition. She put all the work into me but wants recognition for doing nothing/things she never did. Whew ok rant over. I miss my daddy but he isn’t suffering anymore

@rp1645 2 месяца назад

A big YES to you. I went through this all my life by my sister's Christmas that my raging mom would say let's open one gift at a time. My parents lavish gifts for my sister's kids. My son is getting NOTHING This was done on purpose by my mom My Parents are going to my sister's graduation from the Army and lavishness to her. She did it just to scam money from the Army to keep playing the flute. When I got home from Basic training, what was the first thing my mother told me "O" you haven't changed the things that were printed in my dad's memorial about me was just sick. I believe my sister wrote the words. About me drifting away, not me coming there ( all about my sister kids Christmas) my son felt so miserable and did not understand the Family Christmas The most outrageous thing said at my Dad's memorial was a teacher friend of my parents all she did when it can time to say things about my dad. All she did was talk about her being this great lookut young lady when my dad first met her. Then that same day, asking my sister the Ex of will, if her son could just move into my parents home. That same day my sister E- mailed the JUST family member to have JUST family get together at my parents home, this BITCH and that's what this teach workplace friend of my parents was. She self invited my sister's E-mail I don't know if my sister did that on purpose or forgot to not send it to everyone. Of course I did not go. I hear late there was a huge blow out at my dad's property. Over just the kids using my parents rowboat. One sister told my other sister kids, that it was her boat, they could NOT use it. This was ALL my parents property My family is such an EGO crap festival. SORRY for being long winded. Growing up any family get together be it Holiday or birthdays was just unbelievable. Especially for my son, who was just treated like crap at these events. Him never knowing why. My whole family is such a disaster. My wife talks to her MOM daily, helps her out, I look at a real family on my wife's side, and I just do not understand my Family. My Grandfather was a great man. He showed me how to fix septic lines, he showed me how to replace the toilet. I will never understand what the "F" happened with my DAd and mom.

@arenee118 2 месяца назад

Your sister sounds like my sister two years older than me. Although my youngest sister, about ten years younger, is just as bad.

@dylannaenzo9737 2 месяца назад

Peace to you, sister. You don't need to punish narcs, because they are already very unhappy. Stear clear of them. Find your place of peace, and don't allow anyone to move you.

@gangGreenthumb 10 дней назад

4:14 Narc: You'll never find another Me: And you'll never find another We were both wrong. I found another narc (which I recognized and ended it quickly) and she found another people-pleasing codependent to manipulate and abuse. I am focussed on healing me, not being a people-pleaser, setting strong boundaries, etc.... she'll never change, she'll just monkey branch to the next guy when this one catches on.

@suzettewalsh2854 Месяц назад

Mine said you’re just an angel, you’re perfect! So untrue ! Projection. Am open to admitting errors and correction; which they are incapable of

@ChariotOfFaith 2 месяца назад

@CommonEgo - The very definition of bluffing means: 'to deter or frighten by pretense or a mere show of strength' 'card games : to deceive (an opponent) by a bold bet on an inferior hand' How does that work with a NARC because that would be admitting or acknowledging that they *have an inferior* hand? At least on some level that is self awareness that they are not as strong as what they make themselves out to be? They would be too easily detected as bluffing every time they made an attempt to.

@margiewhitehead9070 12 часов назад

I need this class bad.

@sharonnugent408 Месяц назад

These talks are my support family

@graciebrezze8681 2 месяца назад

I am dealing with narcissist at this moment. I did the whole steps to the point no contact . But the thing is now he made another account just to say how sorry for the actions and how he treated me . Mainly saying that he still have feeling of "attachments " towards me.

@user-kf3yz7so6q 2 месяца назад

He’s lying!!! Don’t take him back…. Believe me when I say NARCISSISTS NEVER CHANGE and they are NEVER SORRY!!!!

@3Just3Jess3 2 месяца назад

Forget words. Watch actions. This is hoovering. You want no contact. He is disrespecting your boundary, already, with that other account.

@ruyko6300 12 часов назад

I experienced all of those points 😂

@dragonflymagictarot Месяц назад

Can you do a video on Splitting? And why that happens … to partners of people with this disorder? Please and thank you! 🙏🏼

@salbaloch7679 2 месяца назад

Awesome vedio.

@CommonEgo 2 месяца назад

Thank you 🙏❤️

@Justin-tu4fk Месяц назад

So much too offer, me. That was a then, n this is now!

@marcevans6771 Месяц назад

So true.

@dragonflymagictarot Месяц назад

Diminishing your strengths: 1) you’re too logical 2) you sound like a psychologist 3) you’re “cold” 4) you’re too professional 5) you’re turning our relationship into a business-ship (when I tried to have an adult conversation). I wanted to discuss expectations because he wanted to marry me and live with me … But he didn’t want to have adult conversations about it. 😐

@INHOUSEMUSICGROUP-PROMOS-vz7lm 24 дня назад

@dragonflymagictarot1180 Because he’s NOT an Adult Lol Narcissist are Toddler minded petulant children, who lack emotional maturity or wisdom.

@PurpleDragon-nw7vn 2 месяца назад

The goddess is our hope, don't forget your first love, the goddess loves you.

@thisgirlchris Месяц назад

I see a common number in the stories of those who have had to endure narcissistic abuse in a marriage. It seems right around the 24-year Mark is when things finally start to unravel or dissolve? Anyone else notice this?

@memoria.7 2 месяца назад

I love him and i can't do anything about it But he is everything you say

@ricardocamara1602 2 месяца назад

I had her call me one and she tried to push my buttons and hurt me and disrespected me and I called her out on her behaviour but I got emotional and swore at her and hung up I feel bad that she got me to lose control

@lilfairycupcake 2 месяца назад

she kinda won that round. your winning round is 0 contact.

@JaneAbbasvand 2 месяца назад

I wish RU-vid was existing 24 years ago so I could find out that my ex was a narcissist. So I wouldn’t waste 13 years of my life with him. I have experienced all the things you mentioned in my 13 years of marriage. Also after 10 years of divorce he doesn’t let go of me. He gets the Iranian new refugees to gang up against me. And they implement the same tactics to harass and abuse me. But I am much stronger after learning what’s narcissistic abuse and how to deal with the tactics.

@bridgetadarkly3598 2 месяца назад

This happened to me at a job that I thought would work out. It was creepy and infuriating...

@davidkeevil5151 День назад

Im really trying to break the trauma bond

@davidcoupal8083 9 дней назад

good vid

@gracesanity6314 Месяц назад

Check bedroom for camera's. My friend was blackmailed by ex narc....tape was going on internet. They were in a 12 year relation. She was terrified and stayed. We got her out with plans. She closed accounts, hide her documents elsewhere. And left....he has never been able to find her. We reported to police the tape. He was warned. Scared the shit ....he never put it up...cause he would end up in jail. My friend is at peace, thriving and content. He....l heard is now in jail...for abusing another women.

@alexbaker6435 2 месяца назад

Similiar: "Make sure you don't pass out" definitely DID NOT see that coming as manipulation until after I was dependent completely..... I have a syncopal condition diagnosed before the relationship, but I went from 3-4 episodes a year to 3-4 a day/week. Now that I started standing up for myself and setting boundaries again (although still living with the narc), I haven't passed out in weeks. If the joke is meant to point out your flaws, embarrass you, or if you just do not think it is funny; then it isn't funny and you do not need to justify that to receive validation from someone who is healthy. These jokes have an impact on your psychological well-being, and anyone who cares about that will respect that.

@natalieharrison5202 2 месяца назад

I told mine I have sexsomnia so they raped me in my sleep. Wish I never indulged that information.

@whfh178 2 месяца назад

My bf used to praise mt memory,until it's me telling him something he said that hurt me. Then he goes "did i say that? I think you misunderstood." Or "sometimes i feel you make.up these things because you know I have bad memory and want to use that to make me feel bad" 😤

@3Just3Jess3 2 месяца назад

Same here.

@lo-ul8nq 2 месяца назад

Both of my parents are Narcissists

@21cormorants 2 месяца назад

Does this apply also to Covert Narcissists? It’s so much tougher to be sure if it’s the same kinds of tactics when it’s so much more hidden than some of the examples that you give, and isn’t a romantic relationship. I’d love if you could offer more covert tactics in these videos!

@lo-ul8nq 2 месяца назад

I been a Christian for over ten years. I know my worth and values. I know if someone is in the spirit or not.

@honestpainter 2 месяца назад

I am a narcissist to my ex narcissist

@stevensawyer5924 2 месяца назад

You perfectly described my 2yr experience with a trauma therapist as a client. It was all about the money. She robbed me of my life savings. 13 months no contact and only now starting to regain my psyche. Had to find a new therapist to heal from a therapist. Seriously thats messed up. How can I prove it to get her license pulled?

@3Just3Jess3 2 месяца назад

Hard to prove. I tried to get recorded therapy sessions, but no therapist, I asked, would agree to it, even with a waiver of right to use it in court. So, I don't trust these pill pushers..

@christina1stallings 2 месяца назад

My ex did ALL the things you’re saying.

@Sunshine-hb2tx Месяц назад

My husband done all the above. Accused my friend of coming on yo him. Then told me that he waa sexeually attracted to my friend and she wanted to break our family. He expected me to be angry with my friend. But the things he said just didnt make sense. It didnt make sense to me to be angry at my friend for how he felt.

@INHOUSEMUSICGROUP-PROMOS-vz7lm 24 дня назад

@Sunshine-hb2tx That’s a narcissist way of trying to attack you in 3 FOLD - 1. Break up your friendship and get you to mistrust the person - 2. Give you a heads up, they would sleep with your friend if the opportunity came about - 3. Try to learn the best ways to hurt you, what will trigger you and what will make you unravel and go into Rage, while they sit back and secretly laugh at pushing your buttons. They are truly WICKED, Evil minded people.

@nano7586 2 месяца назад

My ex said "I don't know if you're getting too comfortable with me or something, but..." or "oh how boring that you don't get nervous around me anymore" or "if you do x you don't deserve to get treated well by me" or "if you don't respect me I will look for another partner" or "you're egoistic" or so much more shit :)) In short: she tried to make mye question myself, and very hard so. Other stuff I didn't mention here.

@AmyOrlando-ds6ok 2 месяца назад

Proud of you for choosing to live + heal

@nano7586 2 месяца назад

@@AmyOrlando-ds6ok Thanks a lot, that's nice of you

@TheCovertsEnabler Месяц назад

I wish i could triple like this lol

@madscotsman3390 23 дня назад

@CommonEgo, Is being diagnosed with narcissism a game breaker? Can a narcissist become a better person through therapy, or should they be discarded? Are they doomed to be alone and labelled as an evil narcissist person? There are so many symptoms that overlap with other diagnosis - how can we tell narcissism apart from something like being deficient in empathy? Does that alone make someone a narcissist? Is narcissism learned, or are people just born like this?

@jeanholtz579 2 месяца назад

I was too strong for him. He tried destroying my reputation,telling everyone I was a whore and spreading STD'S. I have been CELIBATE for decades. It all backfired on him. He lost his vehicles,all his money,his house and his reputation,he is terminally ill. KARMA KARMA KARMA KARMA KARMA. Whatever you dish out will always come back to you in spades.i am totally healed,I learned my lesson and am moving on ,not looking back. Happy Joyful Enjoying Life to the fullest.♾️♾️♾️♾️🔯🔯🔯

@INHOUSEMUSICGROUP-PROMOS-vz7lm 24 дня назад

@jeanholtz579 I absolutely LOVE your comment. It is encouraging and brings us hope to learn that they never get away with all the evil they have done. Time is undefeated 💪

@jeanholtz579 24 дня назад

@@INHOUSEMUSICGROUP-PROMOS-vz7lm THANK YOU for your kind words. Be Blessed in Jesus Name!!!!!!!!

@Justin-tu4fk Месяц назад

Maybe in some ways, I still, don't be get it!