How ADHD Affects Relationships 

Yeah its hard man you feel like when the hyperfocus is there you love them like anything like crazy. And then you feel like will I be able to continue with the same intensity. It's hard man

I deal with something similar, but instead it's with a friend whom I hyperfocus on, not my partner, and I feel emotions around affection really strongly, so it ends with me being too clingy with my friend and makes my partner jealous, but they're really the only one I can to talk to about it on a regular basis. Really sucks.

For most of the last 50 years I thought it was just me living this strange life 😢

my gf have adhd, she was hyperfocued on me for two month, i was so happy that i had someone who cares a lot, loves me, interested in all the aspects of my life, this phase has sat a big expectation , once the hyperfocus phase passed, it created so many issues, i felt that my partner dosen't care anymore, the relationship means nothing to her and her priority just changed, it made me so frustrated, unhappy,it felt that she just lost interest in me and the relationship, i started having doubts that she is cheating or have someone else who she likes now, i tried not to take it personal but its so difficult, i know she loves me the same way or even more but her actions are saying otherwise, now we are on a break and i'm considering breaking up

Agreed😢

Literally same

Seek help

That's autism.

I find it pretty disturbing how precisely you wrote down my life 😢

@@romienjoseph2458 Hey man, you're not alone. individual and couples therapy with someone who understands the pros and cons of this condition can help with coming up with understanding and mitigating strategies. At the very least, our technological world has provided many assistive devices to help here (simple example- my partner must merely invite me to appointments and it automatically shows up on my calendar and I automatically get alerts, even without agreeing to the appointment!). Maybe I should start a support group for husbands/dads in particular who are struggling with this? Or couples? I don't know...

This is really me, I have been into so many relationships and all of them got tired of me, my current is almost failing like on thin ice, I dont know anymore, I didnt realize that i have adhd symptoms over the course of my life til last week, it explains so much why I fail at so many aspects in thinking. sighs*

@@tristanjayvillafuerte1484 i feel you sigh at the end ... im over here wishing i would have known sooner

@@tristanjayvillafuerte1484 very much relatable. I’m turning 35 next month and I just got diagnosed. It really explains many things of my past life but like the OG commentor wrote: it’s really hard. I am at this exact point where I am going to watch videos of someone explaining how you can make your relationship work with ADHD with my girlfriend. At this moment I am still really hopeful to get it all done. Such comments bring me back to the harsh reality and make me feel uncertain of what is going to happen….

Glad that you've found ways to overcome this. This is something I also struggle with :)

Hi...would really like if you can share what works to help you self regulate/ calm yourself when your temper flares up? How do you avoid being confrontational? Thx. Glad you found a way.

Yes! That seems to be a big problem for many of us with ADHD. Thanks for stopping by :)

@@theadhdmind9419 I was dating a beautiful woman with adhd, ocd, depression, daddy issues, slight autism. She hid it well in the beginning when I wasn't around much.. The closer I got, the more arguing and unstable thoughts.. I tried my best to be reasonable, do t Complain, let her do what she does.. I couldn't make her happy no matter what. she moved on! Smh.. Life is harsh!

That's lovely to hear ❤ I'm having a hard time with my partner because even though they were diagnosed with adhd, they don't really acknowledge symptoms as much as I do. My therapist ¨can't believe¨ how much patience I have, but it just seems natural to me. Idk I'm a weird ass maniac depressive and my partner is a super spontaneous ADHDer but somehow we work?? Who the fuck knows. The only thing for certain is that if the day ever comes when I see us being toxic, that's the end of it Much love from Argentina babes

Thank you 😊

Thank you for sharing :)

You cannot be diagnosed with mild ADHD. Either you have it or you dont...

@@samtastisch86 my psychiatrist told me this. And yes adhd exists as a spectrum. But it also hard to say, we are getting to the bottom of mine; i have a high iq and according to my psychiatrists that masks a lot of symptoms

Omg I had the same problem when I was living with my sister!!! She always got mad at me because I didn’t put the dishes or towels organized.

Hmmm I like that

Hi I’m really frustrated at this moment, need some advice. I’m dating/ living with my boyfriend with ADHD with meds. and he never bothers to message me while his working, I’m getting the feeling that he’s losing interest on me, is it normal? More likely if your living together? But when I talk to him regarding on this matter he said maybe he was just relax, should I take it as a red flag or consider it as ADHD it’s normal? Thank you in advance.

@@madzg6481 is normal atleast for me who has adhd but no meds never text via phone at work bcus its distracting and i dont want my boss to fire me Except for pauses i check my phone

Hi, how are you doing now? I know what you're going through , and it is rather frustrating. I often feel same as you. What I'm doing is to not focus my energy so much on him, but at the same time learning about this.

@@Athena-wp5fx I have to tell him more direct and being carefully using the words to express my feelings, and he is trying his best now to communicate more, it’s really not easy but always think how he makes me happy when he is not on his medication , I’m always reminding myself that my love for him is more bigger than his ADHD. That’s what keeps me holding on, hope you do too.

@@madzg6481 I hear you, I'm just soooo frustrated cos he breadcrumbs me. Yesterday he spent 12 hrs - all day away from me, not even inviting me along. Comes home, doesn't talk to me, other than saying he's going to decompress in the lounge. Brings me cold fries, in a plate laden with chicken bones...like I'm some dog!!!! but he gets upset if I put down his food and the fork pokes the egg yolk. He doesn't want me to talk about any of my interests, or ours down anything I'm interested in. He'll tell me people wouldn't WANT to listen to my stuff, as if I should always be lesser, (like I'm a degenerate, hmm? Why would he tell me that people wouldn't be interested? Like I'm some fkn LOSER!) but when I do speak to those people (3 people known to him) they're the first to bring up those topics, and he's SURPRISED as if they're supposed to dislike me talking. It makes me wonder why the hell he's with me ...am I the cook, the cleaner...that's it! Even times when I want to get close,few times he rolled his eyes saying, "Oh GOD!" So, me wanting to be close/ intimate is a burden???? So now I don't feel I want to anymore. Everything only seems to be on his terms...and HE CANNOT, HE REFUSES TO SEE IT. I don't even want to point it out anymore...cis no matter how nicely I talk, he says I'm looking for an argument! I'm beginning to think the only person he really cares about us himself...he doesn't care about a relationship; Im thinking he just wants someone to be there for him.... Imagine someone hardly taking your needs into account. Imagine you love them so much, but they DON'T WANT TO hear about your wants and needs. I'm not to share any positivity either.... I told him I need his emotional support...with a family matter--- his response: it's not his responsibility...yet his got debt, and says I should help him pay it... See the imbalance? Like I wait around for him all the time. Yet, he can't spare 5 minutes for me, and makes a big stink if he does....which makes me feel extremely anxious if we must go somewhere...and I sit there being sooo anxious...He's negative most of the time...it's causing me a lot of stress, and how can I enjoy myself OR BE MYSELF with him... I FEEL SO WEARY, cos I though he was a nice guy. I thought he would value me, respect me...but now I'm seeing it's only one-sided. Is it the ADHD, or just him? It really breaks my heart...in soooo many pieces..cos I do love him, and I wish for things to be better...but more and more I'm asking myself what happiness is here for me. It's all about HIM. And he just doesn't see it! It's like he's totally incapable of seeing it. It's like he cannot see what it's doing to me....I'm feeling so unloved, and him just saying "I love you" doesn't cut it. It needs to show in his behaviour....says he's trying but doesn't want to talk about things. How to change things if he doesn't want to hear anything? AND IM GETTING SO TIRED OF IT! Feeling emotionally drained....got heart palpitations almost every day now ... So not fair.... People telling me I should walk away, but I've never been a serial dater...we date to have / be with that 1 person, and work through things, but if they're not keen, and you must just shut up...that's abuse, isn't it?

I know what you're going through and hope one day soon we can find answers that better align with our situations.

@@feroth33 Thank you, kindly. 🤞🤞🤞

I don't know if this is a good idea... But tell him that you wrote this. Tell him how much you love him that's why you wrote this because deep inside you are also hurting and struggling. You want to be strong together. I don't know if this is the best thing to do, but I recently been more honest with how I feel and it's been doing me well so far. Just add a splash of sincerity and love. Tell him that you hope he understands because you love him but you are also feeling like that. Praying for you ♡

@@janmoon1100 Thank you for reply and your prayers. Will keep you in mine, too, for your relationship health to thrive. Regarding yr advice: Being expressive and honest (with him) is in my nature, and I express my love and support to him all the time, but toooo often to his annoyance. At times, my trying to be close, or support/ show affection... is met with an "Oh God!" a roll of the eyes and a sigh, which makes me feel like I'm being burdensome and it makes me feel so damn unwanted...that lately I find I don't even "want" to share things with him that I find important or interesting because I feel (and he often mentions) that if it doesn't interest him, he's not interested, period. This is sooo damning on a relationship, and I have to self regulate so much that my heart doesn't break! I also want his love, interest and support. (Should he read this he'd not focus on my feeling but say something like: "Are you trying to say I don't support you?" And turn it into an argument, as opposed to saying what can I do different that will make you feel more loved and supported." I feel that as partners, we gotta be there for each other- that's only natural, but getting positivity from me ...seems like he thinks I'm a know it all (which he already mentioned) and trying to teach him, which he also said he's not interested in. So...what is it about me ...that interests him? Is it just the convenience of having somebody there? Even in previous conversations where I tried to address certain issues that make me feel less than/ unwanted, my intention was to make it clear that I'm in no way judging him/ making him wrong...that I was just wanting my needs met (as I do meet his) and that we are to address things "together", he's response is that he can't show me affection cos he's not a woman. I read and listen to positive things-- he does the opposite. I feel I'm being bombarded with negativity ALL DAY. cos we mainly do things that interests him. So I rather go to the room and occupy myself with more positive things. The way I try to support him is through positivity- he's barely interested. Says "positive people think they know it all". His defences are up almost all the time, and I'm aware that he's had a lot of trauma, as well. I'm not trying to say I'm all goodie nor am I trying to be a martyr and save him, but I want him to trust me enough (which is what a healthy relationship is to have) in order to believe what I say to him, and what I do, so that he can relax and WE can have a relationship that is NOT ONE-SIDED. As far as this goes, he cannot even see what this negative behaviour is doing to me/ to us, and as far as I can see- he doesn't WANT to; cos as I said he says if something doesn't interest him, he's not interested. So relationship is then meant to only serve him? So, bottom line: he's very likely just NOT interested in me, at all. If he can listen to me when I speak about something IM excited about, and speak without yelling, or always wanting to be right, or try bringing if that focus onto me also sometimes...and we can both be calm, and have conversations...then maybe I'll feel otherwise. I really long for us to have a strong bond of a relationship where we BOTH feel loved and supported. I know it takes patience, that why I've shared here. I'm willing. However, he needs to understand that he needs to put conscious effort into a relationship. Few weeks ago I broke up with him cos he said he doesn't want to change...nor does he want my input. I already keep quiet more that I'd like to in a relationship. He's not in this relationship ALONE. If one day I leave again, which I don't want to, but... it will be because of his inconsideration of the other in the equation...because of my exhaustion, and my also getting no support / cooperation from him...in making us work and work through all the ups and downs. I really wish he'd have the courage to take my hand and trust that I'm not there to judge, I'm there to love

@King Sure. I'd like to hear your take.

Thanks so much!

They can’t. Us with ADHD have hyper-empathy, hyper-accountability, and are too overwhelmed by the possible consequences of everything. And narcissists hurt and dismiss people on purpose in order to feel pleasure from having the power to cause pain, humiliation, and deprivation, they can’t regulate their emotions or feel good without it being through making someone feel like shit. And they are incapable of feeling remorse or be accountable, while us with ADHD have MORE accountability than most and it hurts us like hell when our disability causes us to let someone down despite our best efforts. We are the polar opposite of narcissists, and all other cluster bs. These ableist notions and lies are extremely hurtful to those of us with the neurodivergence of ADHD whom are also survivors of narcissistic abuse. So please stop that.

@LeVi no, not at all. That’s actually EXTREMELY triggering and insulting to me as a survivor of narcissistic abuse who has the neurodivergence of ADHD, specifically the innatentive type. We are the polar opposite of narcissists! You have no idea what you are talking about. Don’t walk around spreading ableist lies like that, you have no idea how hurtful that is to us. And 50% of those with an ADHD diagnosis are simple misdiagnosed and actually have CPTSD or just brain fog, NOT the neurodivergence of ADHD. And us with ADHD actually have MORE sipindle neurons = empathy than neurotypicals, and definitely exponentially more than narcissists as well. We are NOT sadistic and vengeful emotional and psychological abusers of the worst kind like narcissists are. So again, please don’t talk about things that you don’t know. Furthermore, do you know what the neurodivergence of ADHD actually is? In all 3 of its types a hyperactive mind that can’t ever stop thinking regardless of the mood that it’s in that gets louder the more quiet the room is, and even creates stimuli inside of it when there isn’t enough, our emotions, senses, and empathy are heightened which gives us sensory and auditory processing disorders, we have time blindness, and very low spacial awareness so we bump into things a lot (it’s well beyond just being “clumsy”), and we always tend to over communicate and over explain and accommodate everyone and try to be as clear as possible in our communication about our intentions, and we care too much about everything. So how does ANY of that remind you of narcissists??? And narcissists hurt and dismiss people on purpose in order to feel pleasure from having the power to cause pain, humiliation, and deprivation, they can’t regulate their emotions or feel good without it being through making someone feel like shit. And they are incapable of feeling remorse or be accountable, while us with ADHD have MORE accountability than most and it hurts us like hell when our disability causes us to let someone down despite our best efforts. We are the polar opposite of narcissists, and all other cluster bs. ADHD is already a disability that most people either disbelieve the existence of or are severely misinformed about. So please don’t make enduring this burden any more difficult by making claims like that.

@LeVi anyone who “grows out of” or “has cured” their ADHD never had it in the first place, and 50% of those diagnosed with it say that later on, and they never had it’s actually symptoms to begin with! It was just conflated with brain fog and brain slowness - the polar opposite of a hyperactive brain. So why don’t you stop being so ableist and insulting and start describing things properly!! It’s not right to hurt people like me like that, especially because we DO NOT “APPEAR” like narcissists in any away!!! Everything they you have described is NOT ADHD at all. If all of the things that neurotypicals berate us for because we fall in the uncanny valley, appearing as NPDs is NOT one of them. I have no clue where you have gotten that from. Stop this extremely hurtful nonsense right now, and get off of YOUR high horse. And none of that was a “rant”, it was a carefully throughly out and heavily detailed response to your BS. And mirroring is something that autists do, not us. And any masking we do isn’t being manipulative it’s just trying to be normal in order to not freak people out! And it’s closer to grey rocking than anything else. Which is COMPLETELY DIFFERENT to how narcissists mask their evil intentions and malicious nature with the outer facade and reputation of being a good and giving person. So you were literally wrong about everything. And WHY didn’t you care at all about how much you have hurt, triggered, and insulted all other neurodivergent survivors of narcissistic abuse like me? Why did you conveniently gloss over that? It sounds like YOU legitimately appear like a narcissist right now, not me or anyone like me. And I am exceptionally educated on the nuances of the neurodivergence of ADHD, so I am uniquely qualified to speak about it and defend it from being ignorantly equated to horrible things like this. Especially because narcissists love to prey on people like me. We are in enough danger and pain without those like you throwing baseless accusations like that at us.

@LeViI read very carefully, it is YOU who doesn’t. It’s very weird that you are saying that I hurt you when you repeatedly hurt and triggered me immensely and did not care at all. You insulted me further and completely dismissed the emotions that you’ve caused, just like a narcissist would. You are also saying that I “came at you” when I was just defended myself from YOUR attacks! I have fucking CPTSD and many chronic illnesses because of how I grew up being abused by narcissists and I still am because I haven’t been able to escape my abusers yet, and there is nothing more triggering for a survivor of narcissistic abuse than to be accused of being even remotely similar to our abusers. You claim to be capable of empathizing and sympathizing with people, and yet, you have exhibited ZERO empathy or sympathy in these interactions with me. And you twist words and conceits, victim blame, and pretend to be innocent and that you never provoked anyone, just like a narcissist as well. If you really were a neurodivergent like me you’d understand how hurtful your accusations are, and how you have no right to make horrendous, ableist, and abuse enabling claims like this. And NO, I literally did NOT agree with ANYTHING you’ve said at alland no one has ever accused us of being psychological and emotional abusers who are incapable of empathy, remorse, and accountability. So if you really aren’t a narcissist you’d exhibit some accountability and remorse, as they are byproducts of empathy and accountability, and you’d STOP these accusations.

@LeVi English must not be your first language, and you must not be educated on the cluster b and the abuse that they are capable of and enjoy doing at all. And you actually didn’t empathize with me at all because empathy = caring about other people’s feelings, and you have exhibited zero of that. I have a degree in the cluster b, I know more about narcissists than you ever will. So stop projecting YOUR narcissistic traits onto us, and stop projecting your refusal to see the truth onto me. Regardless of how hurt we are, we do NOT turn into narcissists, nor do we ever think in narcissistic ways = vengeful, violent, manipulative, sadistic, deceitful, and entitled, and needing to humiliate, hurt, and deceive others in order to feel good = the narcissistic supply that they can’t regulate their emotions without. I am the authority on what a narcissist is right now, not you. So please stop.

I'm glad that you've found this helpful!

You're welcome! :)

That's a great tip! Thanks so much for sharing!

I got adhd I was so upset once I set down for 6 hours and typed out a letter then hand wrote what I typed cause hyperfocus iykyk

THIS IS ME :( I find myself having ptsd .. I will have a panic attach before he gets home I can’t think straight. He belittles me and I cannot express my emotions I’m TRYING SO HARD . In my situation my pArtner doesn’t even want to learn about adhd .. I try but he gets in a rage.. I need help :(

@@staybruta leave the relationship, I was in your position until I realised his symptoms turned into actual abuse which i couldn't put up with anymore

What do you mean ?

@@sir2657 you don’t have to be in a relationship with someone that has untreated ADHD. I think it’s patronizing to tell neurotypical people that they need to make accommodations for ADHD-sufferers. Everyone needs help, sure, but people also need to be held to account.

@@sbgonzalez167 thats up to the person who loves another person to decide what adjustments they want to make for that other person

@@sbgonzalez167 you probably think adhd isn't real

@@sir2657And you probably think that ADHD absolves people of the disappointment, stress, resentment, and disengagement that their inaction/lack of attention/forgetfulness causes. ADHD is real and it sucks beyond the sufferer. Try living with someone that is completely thoughtless of how their actions affect their loved ones. You get burnt out real quick.

No. Me and my friend both have adhd and it'd not been a bowl of cherries at all. His seems to be more pronounced than me. And, at times I've turned into the nag I hate. And jealous or abbandoned.

Hi jason, I have ADHD and i’ve been with my boyfriend for three years we had a conversation about this before, because he felt the same way. i would suggest that you do creative stuff with them or whatever they enjoy doing. it’s not anything personal to them, it’s just a different way our brain works.

@@mossyrosegentrylecroy2807 thank you

Yes I have ADHD. Just go with the flow

I have ADHD and i talked with my girlfriend about it i start making my mindset different and work on myself so i will warn myself that I'm losing myself sometimes she warn me so we work together about those problems so make sure your partner understands what you have and don't think it's excuse cuz some of them can think its excuse

@@massimodaz5777 Thank you for sharing. It's true that some use it as an excuse every time something important needs to be discussed. So it ends up in an argument, with both of us unhappy. Relationship is a give and take...not a give give give and partner must continue giving despite getting little in return.

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@@JoshWestDesign I couldn’t even do that! It felt like a torture … like someone is screeching her nails on the backboard :))))) so much understanding of how ADHD mind works :))))

@@theadhdmind9419 it won’t work, if you want adhd people watch your videos you have to make it interesting it’s really ADHD 101. Or you could put in the title that it’s for the none adhd partner.

@@theadhdmind9419 Your video was great and very informative thank you

@King u trippin

@king see he stole my phone and said that

Maybe you turned her off from being too clingy and calling/texting too often instead of just focusing on seeing her in person. RU-vid Corey Wayne “subtle mistakes that turn women off”

I completely feel you on this. Talk about feeling ignored and invalidated all the time. He would get upset when we would talk on the phone and say someone asked me a question and I would tell him "Excuse me for a moment" he would get triggered and hang up. But it was perfectly fine for him to be on Facebook scrolling through his feeds and watching Netflix while being on the phone with me. You can't do anything to do them because you're the asshole but when they do it, you have to be understanding because their ADHD. He would tell me to communicate with him whenever I felt he was making me feel abandoned and everytime I would, its like they forget and he would just tell me "well I guess this isn't going to work out then". I'm glad I finally let go. They don't see how much the other person suffers, crying every day wondering if you even mean shit to them.

@@lisadev7563 some people are just shit and use their mental illness as an excuse to be a piece of shit, everyone's mental health is their own responsibility, yes, it may negatively affect other people, but if you care for them, you communicate with them how you can compromise or make up for whatever you can't do. What this guy did to you, it was one sided and it was gas lighting, he made you feel like you were the problem when he was not putting in enough, he got upset when you did what he did in that isn't just having ADHD, what that is is verbally abusive behavior, straight up falls into that category. He selfishly put you in a shitty position, even though he probably already knew he shouldn't have dated somebody because he wouldn't be able to be a good partner, and especially if he was a sexual guy, I hate to say this, but it was probably just for the sex.

@@demon.that.draws777 Yes I always found myself apologizing more than I was supposed to. I even start self diagnosing and thinking I probably have BPD because I do share a lot of traits and have a lot of childhood trauma. I started convincing myself that I am a shitty ass person. But I'm just glad I finally let go. Yet I still find myself wondering if I was really the asshole?

Funny-- after reading a lot of the responses here-- I turned to him (having earphones on, watching something on the laptop) was simply going to ask him how much he's read up on ADHD himself. His response to me, closing his eyes for long -as if working himself up just by my mere talking/ expecting the worst...i think (cos it's very often like that), and he sighs saying "Rather ask me tomorrow." He is interested only in his own things, doesn't realise that's selfish or self-centred. So yes, seems ADHD people lack SOMEthing in their emotional way of relating to people close to them. I feel as if it's the ones close to them whom they seem to punish, throwing childlike tantrums, while the rest of us are required to give into their every whim to keep them happy (IF we want to stay with them). In my experience, they make up the rules of the relationship, you must abide, but the same rules do not apply to them, oh, no. Saw thing is, they CAN learn better ways of relating, but their willingness to overcome has to drive them. Yet, the longer they resist getting the assistance/ intervention required, the more of a disconnect they create between themselves and others, and eventually with the person who really loves them, this person actually walking away for his/her own sanity. Pity...big pity. I still believe that if they care about their own wellbeing as well as that of the person they claim to love, they should willingly get help, & in this way ALLOW themselves to have a great relationship, too. I really hope things turn out better and love wins. Courage to anyone reading this.

@@lisadev7563 I feel you. You apologise cos your ego doesn't matter to you more than your happiness. That's a good thing. Being happy is better than being right and, as a sign of emotional maturity, it shows that to you it doesn't matter who's right, but it's the principle of MAKING THINGS RIGHT between you that is important to you- it's commendable. With ADHD people, because of their impulsive nature, they don't get this logic because they jump way too quickly to negative conclusions, even if you have good intentions. So sad, hey, to have a nervous system set on fight-flight mode ALL THE TIME. I'm sure it must feel terrible for them. I'm sure if they only realise how very lucky they are to have someone who really loves them so much, that that person would stand by their side to help them face this demon. But it's very challenging for the partner who seen as to be at the receiving end of most of their punches- cos ANNNNYthing triggers them. As I am writing this, I'm having anxiety right now...feeling pain over my heart, but told myself to take my focus off him, and put it back on me. It's said don't take them personally, so I will focus more on me, that's how to do this, I think, or exhaust myself completely, feeling all their projected stuff. Nah, not my monkeys. Anyways...hope you both can find a way to be happy.

yeah. Look it up.

No that's bs

I would also like to know...as few people have said it sounds that way. I'm just here to learn so I can be better equipped to be with my ADHD partner. I see soooo much Love in him, but then also much pain thru which the ADHD and whatever not so nice things come. I just want a solution...and to save our relationship from being eaten alive by whatever this thing is causing this.

ADHD and narcissism are completely different things

Dude I feel ya. I have ADHD and was going to try dating again, but looking at all these comments Im losing hope 🙃 I think theres a reason a lot people with ADHD end up with people with ASD!

do you understand how adhd works ? its not like a turn of a button this is equivalent as telling a blind person that they should just see ..

Thank you. I am going to never contact him again. I just cannot take it.

This is the worst, most selfish and insufferable advice I’ve ever heard. You do not deserve love :)

hi mr brownmoney .. hope you are doing well .. did you get diagnosed ? are you using any meds ? .. please don't give this type of advice like this unless you mind to explain why you would tell someone to just leave someone like that ..