Coach Craig Kenneth would you please consider a video about an ex who comes back claiming very directly that they want to work things out, but leaves or makes excuses shortly thereafter. Its not always an indirect direct approach, this was very DIRECT with apologies and claiming they want make this work Is it common for people to leave and come back more than once? Mine was definitely an FA.
Same. This just happened to me! 1.5 years later…he reached out. I was so depressed watching Craig’s videos and so desperate to heal. Thanks Craig and Margaret
@@smonaful don't be like that, we all make mistakes, don't be like that towards them, resentment is bad, keep working in ur self, learn to let go of the hate, bad feelings, I know it's hard, hate comes to protect love, but do ur best to try
It took 5 months for them to reach out and very direct about wanting to repair things. He said he wanted to reach out for a long time but was scared. Margaret said if he did come back to see how much he invests and to be cautious about giving more than I'm receiving. So glad I did an enormous amount of work during NC. I feel much more secure with myself and will take it very slowly.
This give me hope… I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years. A huge mistake on my end. I’ve reached out recently also being very direct. Hoping it works but know I need to give her her space as well.
For everyone that got dumped, just like me. I know it hurts, it hurts like hell. I have 5 days of no contact. But you know what, I don't think that she will come back. But I think to myself, I deserve soo much more and soo do you, they think they will find someone better, or someone like you, but they will never find someone like you because you are special in many ways. There is someone out there who will love you and respect you for who you really are, not for who your ex wanted you to be. Just focus on yourself and improve. I see this as the fight of my life, the ultimate struggle, but what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger and better.
@@adrienne1717 it gets better, trust me, my ex has a new relation and I don't even care, I went through hell for 4 months, but now I'm perfectly fine without her. I'm still single, but I take this time to improve myself in any way that I can find. Just stay motivated and you will find happiness eventually
Absolutely not true. Secure people love their partners too, you know. And miss them/ want them back when things go wrong. We just have a healtheir way of dealing with it.
I dont believe in sitting around. People should go out and do what feels right for them, whether that's looking for someone new AFTER they have processed and healed from a break-up, or if its doing any necessary introspection on their own issues and contribution to a break-up, and then trying again wth their ex. 2-3 months is nowhere near long enough to get over a long term/serious relatonship, even if you were the one who called it. That's why there are so many people out there with emotional baggage that they just drag from one relationship to the next and then wonder why it never works out. But other people giving bad advice based on what THEY would do is the worst. Most of those people have their own issues or agendas and their view is generally biased and can cause actual emotional damage to the 2 people concerned and make the situation much worse.
@@djpdyson Well done for owning your mistakes. Not everybody does that. i sincerely hope you are able to forgive yourself and maybe get the chance to make things right even if you dont get a second chance at the relationship. ( hope you do, if that's what you want)
Guys don't give in for resentment and hate, we are here to improve our selfs, our exes are humans, we all do mistakes, sometimes we need to lose something to understand how valuable that thing was, soo please try to remove the bad feelings guys, improve ur selfs
My ex husband told me he was leaving me for a younger woman. He was seeing behind my back. I left to let him have his hearts 💕 desire. It must not have went like he thought. He sent me gifts thru the children. But i moved on with a divorce. Good riddance.
It’s been 4 months and I have no hope at this point but these videos are my coping mechanism … I want to be self aware so this kind of heartbreak doesn’t happen again
My ex broke up with me in 2017. I started watching every video from the coach untill the pandemic hit. My ex never came back after she realized I found out she was at least talking with someone months prior breaking up. I have to admit that those videos helped me a lot.
Its possible for you to get your ex back after a break up. You just need help from Dr.okojie, he can help you cast a spell to bring you ex back after breakup.
best advice, they sound borderline or narcisitic. Nothing good long term comes from there. Waste of energy , its best to work yourself into someone new. You grief w someone new lol
Its been 2 years im still listen to your vdo from time to time. He is a party annimal, drunk all the time, took drug and cheated while i rewared his bad behavior by always being nice to him hoping he would change. He left me divasted and feel worthless at the time. Your content help me go through the hard time. THANK YOU SO MUCH
I am so glad I found your channel around 2 years ago! Your channel has helped me through 2 breakups and now a third! And luckily because I've watched pretty much all your videos and multiple times too, with this breakup, it was much more emotionally stable and accepting and I haven't contacted him for a month! WOW the changes is insane when you take the time to reflect on why you do the things you do and for me (anxious attachment style), I would ruminate and ruminate and go round in circles and in the past have begged, pleaded, looked like an insane psycho emotionally unstable person hahahaha. I laugh and cringe thinking back. But now I see how far I have come and it's all thanks to these videos! I have watched pretty much ALL breakup videos on RU-vid and by FAR I can say the value and honesty and NO BULLSHIT videos and content you guys put out is the REAL DEAL for proper and true changes within! SO THANK YOU!!
I can't even survive my first break up, how strong are you, to survive 3, I would have lost AL fate in true love and go in a bigger depression than I already am
These videos are so helpful. I have been broke up since 10-13-23. It was a really gentle break up. Been in no contact for 8 days now. Craig Kenneth and his team are amazing. Thank you for the bottom of my heart.
my ex of 4 years texted me on day 96 and day 106. She was going through a hard time in 2020 and she decided to leave the relationship. I went in no contact after I listened to the videos. I got a better job, worked out a bit and listened to alot of videos on relationship and I worked on my anxiety. I met my ex last week and we had a good time while walking through a park. We are going to meet again this Sunday to go biking (we used to bike in the summer). Please listen to Craig, he is right. No contact works!!! and you need to wait for your ex to reach out to you first. It is not easy but it is worth it.
I'd like to share this: a nephew of mine called me yestarday to tell me that his ex gf reached out after 1 year; the girl was almost crying on the phone asking him for another chance. By the way she is the dumper and was with another guy at that time.
Broke up with my Ex 5 days ago... this no contact thingy is agony on my anxiety lol I know I just miss the idea of her not her! I’m the dumper I broke up with her because I spotted red flags and little white lies that I didn’t want to ignore anymore I know my worth and knew it in my heart that it was time to walk away, I still love her and care about her but if she wasn’t reciprocating what I had to give? Or if your partner doesn’t value you... it’s time to move on guys! Know what your capable of and always trust yourself and love yourself first and foremost.
After 4 years together, she got into a new relationship within a month. Our last interaction included how she’s in love, moving in together, marriage and adoption. Erased In less than a min.
Hypergamy at its finest. If she left that fast then she’ll be back before you know it, but I’d be careful about that because you don’t want to be anyone’s backup plan.
If she’s in love than less than a month, it’s definitely a mistake and she’s experiencing the “honeymoon” phase. A lot of times, depending on whether or not your relationship was really bad in the end, it can make new relationships seem “that much better” when, in actuality, they are just normal in comparison. If an ex tells you all about a new relationship, they’re likely expecting a triggered response. Don’t give it to them. Tell them you’re happy for them and maybe throw in some hints that you’ve been working on self-improvement, but keep it short and sweet. It’ll peak her curiosity if there’s any left and interfere with her ability to focus on her new relationship if there are any residual feelings there or insecurities about your breakup. -a female who’s been on both sides more than enough times to count. (I come here for reminders lol)
One time I had an ex email me asking how I was doing. I emailed back, "Why are you messaging me? You are soooo last year." He sent back "Lol, I deserved that one, but how are you?" We are great friends now!
He knows I'm not normally that snarky and his reply back made me laugh... like yeah ok you're right, but still wondering how you're doing! We just always "got" each other that way. Great friends, not a great match romantically lol
8 years, immigrated together, got engaged, bought a house. My life is falling apart! 2 weeks nc, and the panic and pain is unbearable. I feel hopeless because I certainly made my mistakes.
You will be just just give it to our Lord and savers I'm praying for you 🙏 I got dumped after 18 years it's been 42 days I'm feeling pretty good I don't miss him I was used to him.
After a year of dating my ex dumped me for someone else and I begged for another chance but never got it 5 years later she came back outta the blue and wanted to reconnect but I told her no and till this day she still regrets it. It may not happen right away but they always come back especially when they know they fucked up
A Sweet 16 episode showed a guy telling the birthday girl it was over. She cried 😢. At Birthday Party 🎉 she's all dolled up. Having fun. He tells her he wants her back. She told him. "No. But go have fun because i am" i was so happy 😅 for her.
I'm already a success story from all the improvement I have made. People around me see it, but more importantly, I see it. But I know things would be different if I had another shot with my ex.
I watched your videos and they have worked. Thanks coach. I’m just scared because it was a emotionally abusive relationship…. I hope with better considerate communication and a schedule that things can become healthy wish me luck xx
Its possible for you to get your ex back after a break up. You just need help from Dr.okojie, he can help you cast a spell to bring you ex back after breakup.
Thank you ❤️ . Your videos helped me through my difficult times. It has been 2 years from my breakup and now I'm a new woman, Secure and confident. He is super avoidant. Suddenly started to reach out but plays hot and cold 🤦♀️..I'm waiting for his suggestion to meet in person
Hello the do you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband girlfriend boyfriend crush within 48hours??????
Look dear, one thing you should is that, As pleasant as this final stage of love may be, it’s still no excuse to take each other lightly or stop appreciating each other, because love is an intense emotion that can be rekindled by anyone else at any time if he/she is willing to do all is necessary to make it come true.
Had a breakup with my boyfriend and he reached out after two weeks. I listened to your advice and it worked. I feel much better about myself having done some introspection and looking out where things went wrong and will continue to work on myself. Thanks!
yes ppl change and if you are #1 ppl will treat you #1. Treat them like they can get away then they feel you are a doormat and lose respect. leaving you was a favor without any drama or violence.
I just heard from someone I had a casual fling. Our conversation resumed on where we left... from a decade ago lol. They don't forget. And that was just a casual fling, so what more with your official partner
1 year after the breakup and her rebound is still jealous of me and she’s secretly still in contact with me. I think the pendulum is finally swinging back my way. She’s a DA and patience as been key 😜
I don't understand. We don't live together and we get along great except we don't know how to solve conflict constructively. I don't want him to change except how we fight. He loved me and didn't want me to change either. Right now I want to get help for us to learn how. For me, the longer the time apart, the less I want to try again. For me the love dies over time as I move forward. No contact will end our relationship permanently. That is just how I am and how it has always been in the past. 20:48
It’s been 8 months since I broke up. And now that I’ve had time to see things clearly. I was never the problem. I feel triggered when mentioned that they don’t think I would change as the dumpee. Now with time I realized he was a narcissist. He lacked empathy, very selfish with catering to his needs, down graded with the rebound. I brought so much love and value to his life and he completely left me dry. And when he devalued me and discarded me like I was nothing to him. So can y’all make a video that address victims to someone discarding them. Cause that’s unreal how someone can mirror you, lovebomb you, future fake, and here you are trying to build with someone that never even had intentions of building a real relationship
Why Exes come back? Their options fell through and like the dummies we are take them back smh. From my observation, men are more likely to come back than women. Women have a plethora of options and won't be hurting for men to talk to them. Men on the other hand on average have a harder time.
My ex monkey branched into someone else already and I don't expect she would come back.. What hurts me more is I still love her while she's sleeping with her rebound /new love.. She just moved on with a new guy just in a week....the reason why it hurts me is because I love her... That's my love.. But i have to move on.. I don't think she will ever come back but she will definitely monkey branch again
Work on yourself and raise your branch. Don’t do it for her, do it for you. When she comes back you’ll already have attracted someone worth of your love.
I can tell you for experience that even tho your “monkey” is with someone else, while she closes her eyes she sees flashes of you, and the melancholic emotion that’s deep inside kicks in. ….That isIf you guys had a strong connection…..And even while is kissing another? Well, it’s not that easy cause it’s not you.
the way i see it is in no contact i will focus on myself get better, she will see what life is like without me maybe she’s happier and if she is i’m happy FOR her but if she isn’t obviously she will come back i will be a better version of myself and maybe i still have feeling maybe i don’t either way it’s a win win for me
Would be great if you discussed the topic of anti-depression medicine and breakups. I think it plays a significant factor in blunting feelings during breakups.
What about when you finally hear from them after 51 days, you follow the rules, you don't bring up the problems, you don't let your anxiety get to you, you only exchange a few messages, he tells you he hopes you don't hate him and he has missed you, then 2 weeks later, and still have not heard from him again. Yet you did not ignore him and you tell him you missed him too.
He's giving breadcrumbs to you and checking if he still have chances when anytime hes ready to come back. Ive been on that situation and hell yeah, I go back to square one on no contact and radio silence
@@susiearchie2889 its way more painful than the first no contact feeling...but as days passed by you will soon realize the things or reasons why its not worth it to get back on him aymore...you see things clearly especially when youre focusing more taking care of yourself
What do you do if your BF is depressed and wants to be alone? He looks terrible. He hasn’t broken up with me but he keeps saying he wants to be alone. He has a history of depression. I’ve been in NC with him for 9 days now…😢
Going on 3 years. Moved someone in quickly after he needed space. I had minimal contact just for few things left behind, no discussion of relationship. Do they really ever reach out, I played fair and feel good about my part, he was not the honest one!
I wasn’t even in a serious relationship last year that lasted like 6 months. The guy broke up with me over text and we wished each other luck and I deleted his contact right away so I’m not tempted to reach out ever. I also changed my phone number. 4 months later he’s asking my friend to confirm my suite number so he can send flowers and champagne for my birthday 😳 He sent those and I asked my friend to say thanks on my behalf. My ex goes like she could say that to me as well you know haha but I started seeing someone so my friend told him to move on (in a nice way of course lol) Now I’m with the bf I’ve been seeing last 6 months and it’s much more serious. He broke up with me 3 weeks back. Let’s see what happens. FYI I did not beg, plead or cry in either
My girlfriend left me for someone else after 4 yrs of relationship. But I hope one day she will realise how much I loved her!😔 Currently I'm in no contact, & she has blocked me nd is hiding her new Bf from everyone, Hope that she will comeback 😑
Can you touch base on what it means or how to “meet in person” when the relationship is long distance? In my situation I feel like my ex can’t really call and ask for his stuff back to just talk to me but he could call and say he needs something (?) Idk lol but how or what can people do with “setting a date” to meet if it’s long distance. The relationship has been working or was working long distance but then obviously we broke up.
How do you respond to a closure text/email from an ex gf? For example "I'm sorry I broke up the way I did but I'm happy and I hope you are too." "I'm sorry things didn't work out between us" "I hope you don't hate me, I hope we can be friends?" Does this all fall under indirect/direct? How should these be responded to?
Just say your glad she’s doing well and that you are fine. As far as being her friend goes, don’t agree to it if you know you want more. It might feel good to relieve that thirst to see them again, but agreeing to friendship and trying to push for more will ultimately get you in a worse spot. You could keep it ambiguous and just say that you’d like to catch up and just be yourself and don’t bring up the break up. Just have good conversation. Them extending the offer of friendship could be their first step towards you and they are likely in the curious stage of the break up. Look up coach Lee the ex back coach on RU-vid if you want more clarification of the curiosity step. Do not take my advice blindly. Do what you feel is right and if you want things to work then I suggest you trust the professionals, I’m just speaking from my life experience.
Don't respond at all!! She's just fishing to see if you can be a back up plan. NO woman will contact her ex just to tell him how happy she is, and her I'm sorry blblabla BS. EX is exit and should stay there.
One year nc. The last months have been hell. Especially the fact due to COVID I don’t meet anyone. The most horrible time in my life and I‘ve been 8 years in the Army.
It’s been two weeks since I’ve gone to contact. I left my golf clubs in her garage. Not that I’ve been playing golf lately, but they are my golf clubs. I don’t want her to think if I call her to get them back that I’m trying to talk to her. Everybody’s telling me to go get my golf clubs but I’m thinking I may wait a while. I’m not sure if this is the right thing to do
My husband and I separated (he wanted it to end), he reached out to me several times....sort of. He never reaches out through text, but he did reach out at work (we work together), he waited for me in the parking lot randomly to walk with me and he asked how the cats were. I answered him with "they're fine". And I just shut down and walked....I understand that we aren't supposed to ignore them if the reach out in whatever way....but what if im just not ready....I am also very hurt....and although I have a lot of feelings, I honestly don't know if I would want him back. I feel like right now I'm just trying to protect myself first...although part of me DOES want him to reach out...I just don't know how to handle that.
After watching this video. I realized my ex was doing the in direct direct appropriations in texts for over a year it got so confusing. I thought she was playing games every time she tells me she’s moving on she comes back 7 days later to 3 months later all in text This is so confusing. It would be simpler if a ex just gave opens up and you both can talk it out instead of. Making a guy guess what he did
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem ❤️❤️❤️
Taking ownership of your own contribution toward the break-up is huge. I loved my ex so much that l owned my 50% and even her 50%.... initially. Six months in I'm still hearing crickets.
I am now pretty sure my Ex left me because of Grass is Greener "Syndrome". The more i read, the more boxes she checked. Could you maybe make a video about it? The stuff i read might be fairly consistent, but i am not trusting it 100%
My question is if there’s a limit to how many times the cycle can happen? At this point, the NC and reconnecting has happened at least thrice already. With intervals of being together and the NC after the fight progressively getting longer as time goes by with the repeated cycles spanning close to a decade already despite of what happens during NC.
After 7 months he texted me "Happy Birthday" and I answered with a simple "Thank you ^^". I was so confused to see that he wrote me because he dumped me and I didn't want to stay friends. His birthday is in a month. Should I also text him "Happy Birthday" or ignore it?
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Shouldn't you let them set the date, otherwise you're just come off acting needy again and letting the power dynamic go back to what it was. They should have to risk their neck and be more direct if they truly want to see you.
Does know contact works in a long distance relationship where the reason for break up is distance and not being there for them when they needed you..??
What about when we were married, divorced and had a custody fight. After a couple of years we became friends again, and started to enjoy being around each other. She married after the divorce and had kids, but has been separated now for 7 years (not divorced), and the last 3+ months we spent a lot of time together, even spent the night together (no intimacy). She said she just wanted to be friends because we moved too fast...anyhow I told her I wasn't interested in just being her friend, but to let me know if she changed her mind. She then said that friendship was all she had to offer and since I didn't want to be friends, goodbye. COMPLICATED! HELP!!!!!
Thanks so much. Its so much helpful. My ex brokeup with me 3 months ago and I reached out in the two months time but in the last month I never reached out. He had blocked me everywhere but recently he unblocked me. I called him and he listened to my conversation. Since I was nervous, I was unable to make a sensible conversation with him. I ended the call and promised to call him later but he later text that I shouldn't call him back. I never contacted him again and its 7 days now. Can he really come back? I think and dream about him everyday. What can really help me forget him because he doesn't even mind of how I feel.
Ive watched alot of your videos. Im anxiously attached to you guys!!!😉😊 This is among one of my favorites! Victoria's comparison to Jesus coming and how we dont know when then Margaret chimed in, "Jesus is coming, look busy!" Im heartbroken AND Im laughing...goodness im a mess!!!😅😅😅
