How ANYONE Can Be Confident (Even As An Introvert) 

Why do you wear sunglasses when you’re inside?

It looks like he just got done playing a baseball game

Especially if you wear it in Russia 😉

In that case you better know how to fight or run fast@@oleksandrhrebeniuk2676

😂😂😂😂 I actually came back to look at the pants.

It is easy

Yes! Glad this resonated with you! 🔥👊

nice dude!🔥 almost everything he talks about is legit, i would advice you to also rewatch videos after a certain time, because your ras focus on different things and you resonate with other stuff he talks about stick to julien and owen they are great mentors!❤🎉

​@@JulienHimselfI also have flashbqcka I am 16 kinda confident but not enough, thanks Julien for what u doing.

Facts me too

Whatever you are chasing identify it and meditate to ask yourself how to fill that within. Each time you do this you improve a little bit... I walked from hell into this confidence. It's amazing to be unshakable, give it a try.

Yes, authenticity is ALL! 🙏

You don’t wanna die until it’s time. You are here on purpose. Don’t take it for granted!

Thank you so much! 🙏

You're so welcome! 🙌

Yes! Glad this was helpful! 🔥

You're so welcome! Glad it was helpful!

You're welcome!

What if he did stutter, would you dismiss his message? Just in case you would, please don’t ever let ‘a stutter’ distract you from a truthful message.

Boom! 🔥

It is like your dream is to be a millionaire, does it mean that you need to be rich (achieve your dream) to be happy? No. So you don't need to achieve anything or have anything to be confident, just like you don't need to be rich and you can still feel happy now. He said the method, just let go.

Enjoy! 🔥👊

Thank you! 🙌

Intresting

Thanks! Glad this resonates!

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I would actually focus on letting go of the self-doubt and self-attack around it... 👌

@@JulienHimself is it self doubt if I second guess on whether it is "giving value" for others on what I'm going to say ?

​​​​​​​​​​​​@@rishabhprajapati8423Yes. Just say what you think and then judge whether it was valuable after. Was it more valuable than silence? Do you know something that others don't? or see things in at least a slightly different way? Is what you say a little funny to you? Are you raising the mood or putting them in their place? Are you setting a good example? There are many ways to add value with speech. What you have to say should be valuable to you. If it's not valuable to you then it's probably not going to be valuable to them. Not everything you say has to be valuable, just don't make things/the situation worse. *What you're referring to in the initial comment is called imposter syndrome. The part of you that is doubting it doesn't want you to be a winner. Beating yourself up is for losers. He says towards the end of the video to not draw confidence from anything even the content of your speech!! A truly confident person wouldn't care about such things. I've fallen into that trap of value myself. Being quick witted is a skill to develop and so is decisiveness. Asking a question is adding value. If you personally know these people then automatically what you say holds more value than a random. Your intention can be to say things that provide value but that CANNOT be where you draw your confidence from.

What you are referring to is relying on doing something as a source of confidence. You need to provide value in order to be confident. Probably because of the red pill shit you see online.

I can really relate to what you said. Most of the time I would rather be with my dogs than most people. To me it sounds like you might be really hard on yourself. Give yourself a break. We live in a sick and selfish society. Maybe you aren't meant to fit in.

I feel the same as both of you. Its hard to fit in this society, theres to much egoccentrism, sometimes feels like if you wanna make friends with someone you gotta deny yourself. Better be authentic and not expecting anything from anyone. But im not saying thats not frustrating

Being confident doesn’t mean u need to be loud and expressive, u just gotta do what u feel like and not care what others think. It’s that simple, but it’s not easy

@@kevinmd1974 thanks 🙏

See you in Milan! 😂

happi

Here is a link to a great video of Julien explaining this precisely for the people that want to learn how to start actually letting go! ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-k4Ya1BsygXQ.htmlfeature=shared

ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-COz4cYvCh7k.htmlsi=7l5Dkn4VgSlvTAi7

Thanks! 😂

Here's my full letting go method: www.julienhimself.com/8p 👌

I relate with a lot of what you've written here but I've never been able to articulate my thoughts like you have just done.

If someone comes up and talks to you do you view it as oppression? Does anyone you know view a social interaction as oppression? If they do they probably have a mental disorder and that’s an exception and not the rule. Also people make it clear whether they’re open to talking to you very quickly normally. It’s their job to make it known they wish to not be in the social interaction. It’s your job to take the hint and walk away. They’re the ones in public where social interactions should be expected. If they really wanted to avoid social interactions so much someone casually talking to them is oppression then they’d likely be holed up in their house. Even if they really don’t want to talk guess what? It’ll be obvious in the first 5 seconds and then you just casually tell them have a good day and walk away. Wow, what oppression of that other individual. How dare you not have the moral decency to assume no one wants to talk to you. Convincing yourself the way you are is being morally decent is the height of delusion. You’re staying in a shell because there might be some outlier human that is “oppressed” by you talking to them. If they are oppressed by you talking to them it’s probably a good thing as they probably have crippling social anxiety from never talking to anyone, you’re probably helping them. That or they’re a mean ass person in which case move on with your life and feel sorry for them. Like I really don’t understand building your whole approach to life based on how some terrible people/mentally ill people might respond. They’ll respond bad to almost anything, don’t worry about their responses. You need to realize 99.9% of the time people complain about being approached/talking to someone it’s because they made it obvious they didn’t want to be in the interaction and the other person ignored it repeatedly. It’s not because someone casually tried to have an interaction with them. If you happen to be complained about it’s probably because you need to work on your social skills and you missed their hints they wanted to leave the interaction, they’re terrible at voicing/showing their discomfort or the above they’re a bad person/mentally ill.

Sometimes I view conversation with a stranger or someone in a social setting as meaningless. If I stand no reason to gain anything or if the interaction holds no purpose like an exchange of useful information, services, or goods what is the point. I’m really digging deep here. As much as I enjoy conversation there’s something to be said that any type of social interaction that doesn’t involve an exchange of information, goods, or services is just a form of validation for 2 people talking to one another thus making this entire premise meaningless. The thing is communication between humans has evolved into something meaningless aside from building a social structure. There’s also the important idea of building bonds with your “tribe” like your wife/husband/significant other, your children, and possibly larger tribe circle like your parents, brothers, sisters etc. but unless they serve a purpose to your wellbeing or your immediate families well being conversation is essentially futile. You should feel inherently less confidant if you’re less atteactive, smaller, make less money than an individual or group of individuals you interact with. This is nature and those are skills are things you learn to survive as you grow. A more successful, more charismatic, better looking tribe is dangerous to your family or your wife or is a possible chance for you to recognize their success and barter or take from them if you deem yourself as superior. 😂 just some random thoughts that came to mind late at night reading this. I was at a destination wedding this weekend for friends of my girlfriends that we’ve known for a long time but haven’t seen in years. I don’t personally have any history of friendship with any of the people at the wedding aside from an association with my girlfriend. In the past weve hung out with her friends sporadically throughout the years but we live in TN and they live in NY so it’s not very often. We had a good time at the wedding and my girlfriend enjoyed seeing old friends but for me I couldn’t care a less for my own personal interactions. It’s just small talk. I didn’t feel “confident” all weekend interjecting myself into her and her friends conversations or starting up conversations with her friends. We don’t see them often, don’t plan to see them often, nor do I really care to get to know them. I definitely felt a level of confidence because I carry a lot of my confidence in my business and the work I do it gives me an identity and role in society just like we’ve always had since we were living in caves in the woods. We identify by our contributions to society and our tribe. I also felt confident in my health, my body, my looks, my clothes. I like to dress nice it brings me joy. So the night of the wedding there’s the whole initial walk out, speeches, etc. everyone’s sitting at tables making small talk and I just couldn’t care less to. What purpose does it have other than to passs the time. Is it a confidence problem that I don’t want to talk to people or a I don’t care to bother someone with questions. Do I fake interest? I was at wedding a month before this and made 45 mins of small talk with cousin of my girlfriends who I’ve never talked to. I barely remember anything we talked about… I find this whole idea of confidence interesting. Confidence should be baked into your brain based upon what you own and what you do because that’s your identity. Who are you if you don’t do anything, own anything, or have no physical self. It’s truly silly to think about. I also think a lot of the modern day social situations we put ourselves in are total bullshit, unnatural, and meaningless and make everyone feel very unconfident. There’s a reason you feel confident at work or on a sports team it’s because you’re in a tribe with common goal and you have a purpose and a role. It’s as simple as that

@@prestonjones8672 With my anxiety in social situations, yes I often become uncomfortable if others come up to talk to me. It places me in a defensive position, requires effort from me to think about what to say in return, causing me stress. Now, do I label them as oppressors? No, because I view it as my issue. But knowing how I feel in such situations, I don't desire to cause the same in others. And I don't expect others to view their discomfort as their own issue, and thus feel like I'm in the wrong in both situations. What I've outlined prior that I need to improve on, is understanding that others may not have the same magnitude of aversion I have. Being able to simply brush aside a "bad interaction" as if it was nothing, rather than running it back through their head multiple times. That I'm not oppressing them as much as I perceive. You say it's clear when others want to talk or not. That's not been my experience when I am approached. I think my nervousness is often evident, but people continue. (Sometimes using the exact accuse you laid out, that they are "helping" me). Which is often compounded because I seek to appease others by not simply declining to converse. I often endure it much longer than I'm comfortable with. (But yes, it can sometimes create beneficial outcomes where I am happy I dealt with the temporary discomfort, where "help" was actually given.) I'm not "terrible at voicing/showing discomfort", I specifically put on a facade to not appear that way as to appease the others' inquiry. And apparently I'm too good at that or I run into a lot of people with poor reading skills. I'm not basing my behavior based on how some "mentally ill" people will respond, I'm basing my behavior on myself not wanting to be uncomfortable. And often times making other uncomfortable is more uncomfortable for me that dealing with my own internal stressors. I hate public speaking, because I grow anxious listening to someone who is nervous speak. Thus when I likely speak in similar fashion, I envision making everyone uncomfortable. And you can quickly read such in the faces of people as they listen to you. If I could approach a conversation fluidity, I would become more confident as I would believe I wouldn't be making the other person uncomfortable. Which is why I'm often a social drinker, lowing my inhibitions to simply be more direct. I've been told numerous times before that I'm a lot more "fun" when I drink. It's simply difficult to get myself to that level of free expression with my standard mind. Because I also recognize such free expression often seems tied to less empathy and/or ability to read others. A lot of "confident" people I view as abrasive. I think there is a very fine line of confidence that I am comfortable with, and it's just very difficult navigating myself to such. "Working on my social skills" has been the difficult hurdle. Because it's often expressed through exposure therapy, often proposing awkward proposals of conversation that then seem "fake" to me and not fluid. SEEKING conversation is something foreign and bizarre to me. How organic a situation seems the more I feel comfortable, on both ends. "Convincing yourself the way you are is being morally decent is the height of delusion". I don't view myself as morally superior, quite the opposite. I view myself as lesser (not as a person or individual, but as a force in society), which is my issue. I'm not propping others up to be more "moral", it's simply how I perceive myself within the world. Not as righteous, but as distinct. While others may look to the world burdening them, I view myself as burdening the world. That's not "morally decent", it's simply a distinct perspective on subjective evaluation. Morals are subjective. Society rests upon shared morals. So with distinct morals from society often comes disconnects in social interactions. That's all I'm highlighting.