How Celebrities & Influencers Financially Gaslight Us About Beauty 

As a seamstress I'm so mad that anyone believes they have to lose weight to get into a haute couture wedding dress. LITERALLY THE POINT of couture is to make a dress that custom-fits the client. You shape the dress to fit the body, not shape the body to fit the dress. This should be true of all clothing for everyone, but ESPECIALLY true for a haute couture wedding gown.

RU-vidrs are on a "you're not ugly, you're just poor/not wealthy" streak right now and it is giving me life

Two thoughts to reflect on: It's OK to have a human face. Aging is not a disease or problem that needs to be solved.

This makes me think of a study Brené Brown refers to in one of her books. It looked at the money women spent on ‘beauty’ and determined that if all of the women in North America stopped buying all beauty and self care products and services (from shampoo to facelifts) for just ONE WEEK the effect on the US economy would be similar to that of 9/11. A lot of people have a financial interest in us women feeling ‘less than’ or unattractive.

Chris Evans said while filming Captain America there was always a rack of weights nearby so between shoots he could lift to have that “pumped” look. He also drank a lot of red wine on set to dehydrate and cause the muscles to pop more. Between the weights, red wine, and living off chicken and broccoli, he looked ripped for the movie. This isn’t something you can maintain long term. Even body builders have an off season.

Celebrity skincare today is like the celebrity perfumes of the 2000’s

"Looking that way is their full time job." THANK YOU. Looking like Jennifer Lopez is mostly Jennifer Lopez's whole job, and she has an ocean of resources to do it with. She has all the time she needs to exercise with a personal trainer, and doesn't need to preoccupy herself with general housework or cooking (her nutritionist and staff can take care of that). Wildly expensive serums, facials from esteticians, spas, plastic surgeons (no shame but let's be real), and a fleet of professional stylists make it possible. I like olive oil too, but that ain't all that's going on.

“ holding her baby like a bag of turnips” i’m glad somebody is speaking about how she was holding that poor child😭

You were spot on. Are we all really supposed to believe JLO looks like that because of olive oil? And how convenient that now we can all look like her too if we just use her new skin care line...

I seriously hate that women feel the need "bounce back." My God you were pregnant for 40 weeks!!! Your body may be different forever and that is ok. Honestly makes me so sad. Being pregnant, labor and delivery, and post partum is enough to deal with. We shouldn't be putting pressure on ourselves to look like anything right after giving birth. Love you all.

I am 67 years old and over the decades have seen many "celebrities" in real life (I've lived and worked in NYC pretty much my entire life and worked in an industry where I'd often see celebrities). In my opinion, most of them look much better in pictures than they do in person. Even before social media, there must have been heavy duty photo editing.

Just so y'all know, most women don't "bounce back" after delivering a baby. We mostly never return to that size and/or shape. Even when I got back to the pre baby weight (which took nearly a year BTW) my hips, my abs, my body is a fundamentally different shape.

What's so bleak is that even when celebrities and models are honest about their expensive appearance upkeep, the standard is still set so high. Knowing a certain look isn't realistically attainable doesn't make it any less aspirational

I remember reading an interview to Giselle Bundchen in Vogue and she literally said “I think a lot of people get pregnant and decide they can turn into garbage disposals. I was mindful about what I ate, and I gained only 30 pounds.” To think that Vogue even printed that out tells how much pressure women get from everyone in the industry. This was I think 2008, I was prob 16/17 years old when I read that. Now that I am 29 I can understand why many girls and teenage have ed and its even scarier considering we have social media this days.

it's also tricky being a teen at this point in time seeing all these celebrities my age or close to my age (like charli, billie eilish, olivia rodrigo) being so successful AND having flawless skin, hair, expensive clothes, etc. when I'm a teenager working minimum wage and trying to keep up A grades in school in the hopes that I can afford to go to a good uni. of course less wealthy teens aren't going to have perfect skin - they're TEENS, and on top of that have higher levels of stress, less sleep and have to work twice as hard for anything. makes me so mad.

Jlo has what I call “hottest girl complex”. It’s simply not enough these days to be HOT, but we now have to pretend that we are magical beings who are so incredibly blessed with rare genetics, that we look the way we do NATURALLY. Because a higher power loves us more than the other girls. Lol

I'm starting to see a shift in negative attitudes towards influencers and celebs. "I live a healthy life style" gets slammed with "All you do is wake up in a 10 million dollar home and work out"

THANK YOU for raising the idea of "The Cult of Good Skin." I suffered with severe acne for over a decade and I always felt that acne and acne scar acceptance was a "final frontier" of body positivity. It is wild how people think they can make unsolicited comments about my face in the interest of "just worrying about my health"

~”Skin quality has become the new socially acceptable way to judge one’s appearance as a reflection of how deserving of respect one is” That really struck me. I’d read that dissertation

guys, for skincare: remember, the purpose of skin isn't to look good, it is to serve as barrier between your squishy insides and the rest of the world. Support it in doing its job! That means, keep it intact, hydrated, and clean. Having "perfect" blemish free skin =/= healthy. If that is the aesthetic you are looking for, go for it (in a healthy way)! just don't let anyone tell you that you having rough patches, blemishes, scars, stretch marks, or any other number of skin types is "not healthy".

‘Gaslight’ is the right word. These are already conventionally good looking people, who have had luck (along with talent and hard work) to sustain their fame, who can now maintain their natural good looks with a lot of help from their dermatologists and trainers. I love your channel Chelsea. Love your analyses.

Watching Korean TV shows for over a decade with all the thin body image standards and good skin glorifying led me to a collection of skincare worth more than a year and an unhappy mindset over my tummy. I NEEDED to hear this rant. Thank you.

Oh my god, I just remember reading some women’s magazines as a teen that would always repeat how Gisele bunchen would ‘always eat burgers and chocolate’ and was just ‘naturally slim’. Even though I’m in my thirties, it’s honestly taken me until very recently to understand how hard some women work to look ‘effortlessly thin’. Edit: OH and I cannot tell you how many compliments I got when I gave birth and then lost a ton of weight because my postpartum body went on to produce milk for 5 baby’s instead of 1 and I felt so ill. I looked so good! I was so thin! I was also MISERABLE and oh I also gained all the weight back after I stopped nursing so I disappointed everyone belatedly 😂

It's also genetic. I have dark skin, which protects me from a lot of signs of aging associated with sun exposure, and in general clear skin runs in my family. I care for my skin, but everyone in my family looks quite young far into life. Most people think I am a decade younger than I am, no cream is responsible for that. It would insincere for me to pretend it's the result of something I did.

Everything stated in this video is so on point. Beyonce told everybody in her Homecoming movie that in order to get "show ready" she didn't eat anything. Noticed she stated that she gave up carbs, meat, fish, sugar, all the things. I was left wondering what she did eat besides the most basic of vegetables and that apple you her snacking on. Also, when Cindi Crawford was launching her skincare line, she stated in the commercial that she first started her skincare journey when she was 18 with Dr. Sebaugh. These folks had access to the best of the best at very young ages. I'm not sure why folks are so desperate to believe the lies.

I'm glad you mentioned the trend of people saying "this is how you age when you're not problematic." I honestly can't tell how much of it is just a joke and how much is something people actually believe, but it's dangerously close to saying that being attractive = being a good person. Like, it feels like a modernized version of old Disney movies, where we can tell the villain is the bad guy because they're always ugly and old and wrinkly lol. I also discovered recently that most modern celeb paparazzi shots are staged photoshoots and NOT actual candids. I've always known certain "paparazzi shots" were staged, but once I became more aware of it recently I realized it's EVERYWHERE. Example: most of my awareness of Bella Hadid comes from seeing soooooo many paparazzi pics of her on Pinterest, Instagram, etc. Pictures of Bella seemingly out and about, seemingly candid. But after I found some ACTUAL paparazzi pics of her that look more like the paparazzi pics I remember from magazines in the 2010s, etc, I realized just how staged the ones on Pinterest are. In no way am I claiming she's not gorgeous - she still is even in the unflattering paparazzi shots! - but it's really scary how warped our concept of what a human being looks like is becoming. Even the most stunning model in the world is not going to look glowing and flawless and toned from every single angle and every single possible lighting, that's just like....how photography works? It honestly makes me feel so crazy!

Yup. My mom struggled with her rosacea for like 5 years. "Treating" it with lotions and hypoallergenic stuff. Then she finally went to a dermatologist who treated it with actual medicine and it was gone within a month!

I wasted SO MUCH money on over the counter acne products before I started seeing my current dermatologist. Once she put me on a daily dose of spirnalactone my acne completely cleared up. No amount of fancy products would have fixed my hormonal imbalance.

they really be gaslighting, gatekeeping, girlbossing

So on point. Thank you. I’m currently 7 months pregnant and some people have already asked me how I’m gonna “snap back” to my pre-pregnancy weight and size after delivering my child 😳🥲🙄. What the heck?

Glad to see the Lorry Hill mention. That woman is doing The Lord’s Work.

Thank you so much for citing me in this video! I emailed you ! Great video !

I interviewed a young actress who was/is VERY THIN. We did the interview over lunch. It was in her contract that I had to put what she ordered for lunch in the article. She ordered a double bacon cheeseburger with onion rings. I wrote down her order. She then began trying to flag down the server when she couldn’t get his attention, she pulled a bottle of some beauty product out of her bag and dumped it over the food. When she saw my face she said “I can’t risk eating it, award season is coming. You can’t write about this” She finally got the server’s attention and had him take away her burger and bring her a raw vegetable plate with unsweetened iced tea. As we were leaving she mentioned meeting her trainer. After a lunch of celery, carrots and cucumbers. I see stuff about her and she frequently talks how much she loves fast food and how she eats tacos every day but she can’t seem to gain any weight no matter how hard she tries! So many actresses love to talk about how they eat and eat and just can’t gain weight. Complete and total bullshit.

My favorite celebrity never lied about how he maintains his physique. Danny DeVito ♡

I would also add that facetune plays a huge rule in all of this. Not even those women themselves look like their instagram photos.

My partner and I were just speaking tonight about how something that seems so basic to health--eating good quality protein, fruit, and vegetables, that are as local as possible and as un-pesticided as possible--can often cost ⅓ to ½ more than groceries at a commercial supermarket (where we live). Of course, wholesome food helps you look 'good,' and age less quickly too. Yet even wholesome food is a function of economic privilege, never mind any other interventions or supports.

8:32 "Listen, I love Adele, but that album is just more Adele piano-jams" OH MY GOD THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SAYING THIS. I was thinking the same thing. Like Adele piano-jam is a genre that deserves to survive for centuries, but she's not breaking new ground and that's ok to acknowledge

This just reminds me of Kendall Jenner being an ambassador for an acne brand, while getting thousands of dollars worth of facials and lasers at a surgeon's office. She apparently got something called a Diamond Facial, where you literally have to wear a sheet mask over your face until you heal, as you've essentially peeled off your entire face.

I’m dead! I love this. I literally am underweight because I have colitis and damage from celiacs disease, and I had hyperemesis during every pregnancy and was CONSTANTLY praised for how much self control I had for gaining less than 5-10 lbs each pregnancy and dropping lower after. I literally weigh less than 100 lbs at 5’3 *because I am literally frequently ill* and I get told how amazingly lucky I am instead of getting to witness beautiful strong humans with all sorts of life stories written on their bodies being treated as whole human beings. It’s frustrating as fuck.

Exactly why I don't have Instagram, no reason to put more pressure on myself

I have one friend who mentions like once a month that she's going to get liposuction after she has a baby. We're 23 and single, nowhere near looking to have kids. She's already thinking more about the *horror* of having more fat on her body after GROWING A HUMAN than about the hypothetical child she'd be caring for. It's such a sad reflection of what she's absorbed

It seems very dangerous to be close to underweight when pregnant and having elective surgery shortly after giving birth. Your body needs some weight to support being _a human host_ and you need to heal after the trauma (from your body's perspective) that is giving birth. Don't get me started on guys dangerously dehydrating themselves to look that cut on screen 😔

I’ve watched a family member go through a large weight loss and I’ve seen how it has affected her daughter (she refuses food, mimics her mother as she is proud about that fact). She is 6 years old. We need to be vigilant, our children will pay the price.

The Rock is almost 50 and he looks leaner and more muscular than when he was a pro wrestler in his 20's. There's no way that can be achieved naturally and to pretend otherwise is gaslighting vulnerable young men who will feel like shit because they'll never look like that without ped's no matter how much they train. Same goes for all the Marvel Chrises.

As a teenager/college student with horrible acne, I spent ALL of any money I had on expensive sephora skincare. The only thing that worked was getting older and going off birth control pills. I only use moisturizer now and my skin has never been better. I feel like the entire luxury skincare industry is a massive scam.

I fought for YEARS with moderate and cystic acne. I tried everything OTC and all it did was irritate my skin and empty my wallet. I finally went to a dermatologist and tried some things that helped but didn’t solve the problem, and then my doc suggested it was time to try isotretininoin (accutane). I had bad skin for 20 ish years and now, at 35 finally have clear skin because to went to a medical professional. When people compliment my skin I am totally honest and tell them what I’ve been through because it is important for people to know that I may “wake up” with good skin now, but that is only after decades of struggling and years of dermatologist appointments to get this face under control.

JLo and I are the exact same age. While she looks very good for her age, my main reaction upon seeing her Super Bowl halftime performance was, “Thank God I’ve built a career so that my salary is not dependent on being able to squeeze my butt into a skintight catsuit.” That’s the trap of building your career upon beauty, because the flashy, more marketable form of beauty comes easily only for the young. I think often about how our society has a responsibility to help define beauty in a way that includes much older people, and what I see marketed by celebrities isn’t it.

I love it how we all survived 2020 and we're still having this conversation.

The rise of skincare routine visibility in pop culture correlating with the rise of celeb skincare products has always concerned me. I''m so glad someone with a platform is pointing it out

This reminds me of the lie many celebs tell about fertility. Many older celeb moms have had expensive treatments to get pregnant‼️My friends who wait to get pregnant after 40, often struggle with infertility, thinking it’s easy to get pregnant like older celeb moms. 💔

Being pregnant with my third child, this video made me cry. its literally how I felt after my second baby. I felt horrible I wasn't able to loose weight while taking care of 2 children and household. You are right, it is cruel, very cruel. Your life as a mum is hard on itself, and these days you also worry about your stupid figure. Thank you for your words, they helped me today.

I'm 35 weeks pregnant and lately my pinterest feed is getting inundated by articles about losing the baby weight and post partum exercises, none of which are topics I've searched for, but because I searched for other pregnancy/ baby topics for the past 7-8 months I now get those articles and ads all the time! Its too much pressure. Not only does society expect us to immediately bounce back to a pre-baby physical appearance but also to return to the workforce shortly after having a child since the US has such appalling parental leave policies. Its like great you spent 40 weeks growing a person but now you have 6 weeks to erase all physical evidence of your pregnancy and get back to work while taking care of this incredibly needy person whose whole survival is dependent on you.

Wow, posted just in time to divert another mid-thirties mirror sobbing session. You’re a gem, thank you 🙏

Definitely check out Emily Weis's wedding prep article in Into The Gloss. She spent 30k on preparing her body for her wedding and was only 8/10 happy with her appearance the day of...

Thank you - Jessica Simpson said she lost a ton of weight post Partum by breastfeeding and “chasing the kids around”. Turns out she had a partial tummy tuck, it wasn’t “enough”, so she had a subsequent full tummy tuck and was hospitalized after with an infection. That’s just one example of the gaslighting celebrities subject you to. Newsflash - it is normal to be *horrified* by your post Partum body. It can take a long time to lose the weight, but it’s ok - your body went through a big trauma.

Love this. Every time I hear an actor cite "Steamed chicken and broccoli" for helping them get super swole (and they all do) I just take it as shorthand for HGH and steroid cycling.

Wait. I thought I only needed the cream made with the secret melon only grown in France. Now I need JLo olive oil.

I had my son 8 months ago via emergency c section. I put a lot of weight while breastfeeding and being in lockdown. My stomach will never be the same- I’m learning to love it- but it’s really hard

I think what’s the most sad is when they blatantly maliciously lie , that they NEVER had any procedures done.

There needs to be a massive DE-PROGRAMMING of beauty-obsessed thoughts in our society at all levels, or this will continue like it always has. Dove has attempted it with its "real beauty" campaign several years ago. Look for the videos titled Dove evolution, Dove onslaught, Dove reverse selfie. They convey the danger of beauty obsession fairly pointedly. There are others I can't recall. One especially moving ad shows a house with all the windows closed, and the caption says: "Mary doesn't want to leave the house because she doesn't like the way she looks."

Jane Fonda once admitted that the secret behind her looks was being rich.

Signing on to deliver your child *early* in order to keep your "pre-baby body" is probably the most selfish thing I've ever heard of in my entire life

Thank you for acknowledging the beauty industry pressures put on men. There's a very thin line put on us between "healthy and manly" and "omg he's queer", regardless of sexual orientation and gender expression. A man taking an interest in his appearance is allowed, but only if we do it in a very heteronormative way.

The skincare as morality thing is so true. My skincare routine theoretically costs *thousands* a month. I still look like shit. It isn't due to lack of effort.

Chelsea: doesn't have an associates degree. Also Chelsea: font of truth, wisdom, and bullshit-cutting. It's an honor to be schooled by you, young lady.

I just have to say Chelsea I love the delivery and writing voice you use for these discussions. A lot of video essayists can take a peppy, over the top yell persona and your more understated, matter of fact style is a great foil to those. It's an assertive confidence with a little bit of shade and it works wonderfully. Thank you for the great content!

Thank you so much for sharing this video Chelsea. Everything is SO ON POINT. I want to cringe so badly every time I hear JLO being praised on her amazing skin due to her "HEALTHY HABITS" and nobody EVER mentions her facelift, laser treatments etc. I cannot stand how these celebrities promise people that with their skin care line anyone can really get comparable results to them, just like we had access to all that array of treatments and privilege. I wish that at least they were more upfront. Also I cannot understand how the main focus on a mother that just gave birth is to 'bounce back' and even goin to the extreme to get a pre mature birth to avoid weight gain...but what about the health of the child? This is insane to me (personally) . I love watching Lori her channel is great she actually can provide a more informed view on what these celebrities actually got done.

Exactly. Same goes for Kate Middleton. Everyone says that she is just sportive when that women is visibly underweight and her diet/exercise regime is glorified in mass media

When I was 23 I decided to lose a ton of weight. Long story short, in less than a year I lost about 150 pounds and was down to about 175 lbs. Everyone always asked my secret and there was none: I watched what I ate, exercised religiously…and I was 23 years old and had stupidly overclocked metabolism because it takes way more calories to move and live as a 330ish pound man than as a 175 pound one. Now as a 38 year old man…there is no way I would have been able to do it: it’s a lot easier as a young person to change that than as a near-middle-aged person. This is the same thing. The same thing….these older celebrities do hardcore / borderline unhealthy regimes and have tons of hired help to help them maintain those looks. I’m now a little heavier (still healthy, but I’m 38 and have my “dad bod”), have rapidly graying hair…and you know what? I’m ok with it. But I’m also a man who’s well aware of the blatant double standard between men and women as we age. I routinely tell my wife she’s still breathtaking and that she doesn’t need to do cosmetic treatments. But she does because she wants to feel that same way about herself. And it ticks me off part of that is because society demands she try to look like she’s 31 when she’s 50 in 17 years.

So true on skin. I have rosacea too and what people don't get about the flare ups, is that they not only look bad - like really splotchy, red, acne - but that they actually HURT a whole heck of a lot, like your skin is burning. I tried lots of things for about two or three years before I went to the dermatologist. The first one was lovely and did help, but it was mostly topical stuff so it would work for a while and then flare up again, then I switched to a lovely doctor and he was like, you need antibiotics, long term. And probably will have to take them every spring / summer to prevent flare ups but it changed my life, I can haven't have a flare up in 2 years and it doesn't hurt. Going to an actual dermatologist is the best, much better than expensive over the counter stuff.

This is why Monica Bellucci is one of my inspirations with these things!! She's a very natural actress who looks amazing for her age but wears her curves and wrinkles with pride and doesn't shy away from them and aging. She's the reason I even look forward to aging as a woman!

Genetically it runs in my family to easily lose weight - bit of exercise, cut out high calorie foods. I have more trouble gaining than losing weight. I've had heaps of women ask me how to lose weight - I spent my time giving them extensive advice on cutting out high calorie foods and still eat a healthy diet. Almost all of them still eat what I wouldn't, and then say I'm just lucky because of my genetics. It is harder for some people than others to keep a healthy weight, it's affected by genetics, but also by what you eat & exercise. Each person has to work out what works best for them, and be realistic & know what you're willing to do or not.

The celeb influencer thing is a HUGE problem in my industry - I'm a personal trainer. Not only do people come in with super unrealistic ideas of what physical outcomes can be achieved, they're not even especially clear in what the role of the trainer actually is. Also, if you haven't yet I very, very, high;y recommend the book "Is Gwyneth Paltrow Wrong About Everything?" by Timothy Caulfield if you like this topic. He really tears the celeb/influencer skin care market a new one!

“Gweneth Paltrow I hardly the person to lead any sort of backlash” you spoke my mind gurl! Love your video more for this!

I used to work in the plastic surgery realm and it wasn’t uncommon for women to drop $6,000 on an office skin treatment. If you see a wealthy woman with good skin it’s skincare, Botox, fillers, laser, and microneedling on repeat

Yo, we need to make people watch Death Becomes Her. It's a commentary on keeping youthful beauty in your later years. And the price you pay to do so. In a very satirical and comedic way.

This is a great subject and needs to be talked about more. I once heard Cher say in an interview that she has had every part of her body "worked on," and that's why she looks the way she does. There was also a health club commercial where she is speaking, and she says, "If it came in a bottle, everyone would have it." As always, critical thinking is important when it comes to health and beauty.

The a c i d i t y in her voice when reading the mommy makover article, was so delightfully honest

"The truth is only just a question of money." Deeply true.

I'm so glad you brought up the army of domestic employees point as a huge advantage most well off people have. When don't have to worry about cleaning, cooking, cutting the grass, babysitting your kids, etc. yourself of course you're gonna have time to do all sorts of health routines and training to look amazing.

Every time I think about mentioned celebrities, or any other celebrities, to be honest, I feel deceived. Why can't they be just straightforward about what they REALLY do to be in such shape or to have such a look. For example, they get a plastic surgery and say about it honestly, not covering it up by lies such as: "Well, I lost weight", or "Shape of my nose changed overnight" 😅 I mean, constantly selling us some food supplements/cosmetic products definitely adds up to their wealth but feeding us with their lies... I'm not buying it anymore. And what makes me really sad: it's happening all over the world. I'm from Russia and celebs here are doing the same thing. Never telling the truth. Never. Which makes people feel incredibly insecure about their bodies.

Oh, this reminds me of an interview with Jennifer Lawrence. She went on about how much she loves cheesesteaks, ranch, and cheeseburgers right before a red carpet debut. It’s not that these celebrities/influencers lead these lifestyles. It’s the fact that these millionaires and billionaires will sit and claim it’s just vitamins and sunscreen that keeps them looking great while simultaneously selling a 40-100 dollar beauty product to the average person when in reality it takes thousands + to maintain that look.

I'm in my late 40s and id seen something like this 10 yrs ago. Despite obsessively using the latest skin care products, I wondered for years: ' what's wrong with me?' No more. Your video had me in tears, but now my eyes are open to this con celebrities and influencers run on the public.

Heavyyyyyy topic. I think many people get influenced to get beauty products they straight up don’t need

Ain’t anybody that skinny if they workout; people that workout actually have muscle and you see the difference btwn skinny & a healthy fit body…

Seriously, this is so sadly believable. I have a very good friend of mine who is extremely thin who "plays" with her food instead of eating it when going out to a restaurant (which is most days), then says, "I'm so full." proceeds to pack it up, take it home, put it in her fridge, and eventually throws it out. Sick. These people have serious mental illnesses. My parents lived through the Great Depression. Live your life and enjoy it. Take nothing for granted.

skincare is a sore subject in my family, mind you, we are hispanics LIVING in Central America. My aunts always critizice my acne prone skin (they've been talking BS since I was 11) blaming it on my eating habits, and now at my 28 I spend a lot of money on specialist that got me in to antibiotics (acutane) and BOOM i wasn't dirty or a swine, I was just to poor

The funny thing is people don't even have "skincare regimens". They just like to mindlessly purchase and collect products before eventually throwing them out 95 percent unused.

God bless you Chelsea, Mentioning celebrity pregnancy before and after is the best thing I hate them for destroying my view of my own body image after giving birth to my kids wondering why I didn't look like them just two weeks post partum . So I stopped watching them for my own sake.

I am 33 now and truly realising that as you age it is a lot harder to stay thin. I saw twiggy who did a recent interview promoting clothes for older woman and she was asked "What she thought about being called twiggy?" She said she didn't strive to be that skinny anymore because when she was modelling she was a teenage girl and that skinny body was only attained because she was a teenage girl, she said after about 22 years old she became less skinny and more curvy like most women but no one had noticed because she had stopped modelling by then. Yet twiggy was the model that started the skinny is beautiful trend but the truth was it was the body of a child.

The sad reality (as someone in her mid 30s) is that it's virtually impossible for any man to find you attractive unless you're incredibly thin and fit and even then you'll still get the "well she looks amazing for her age," and this is coming from the mouths of men in their late 40s and 50s.

The one that annoys me the most is people taking adderall to stay thin. I have adhd and when i went on medication my doctor monitored my weight closely and made it very clear that if i lost any significant amount of weight she would take me off it. I was at a healthy weight and did not want to loose any, but i had to force myself to eat even when I wasn’t hungry so that I COULD STAY ON THIS MEDICATION THAT ALLOWS ME TO FUNCTION NORMALLY. Im not saying i should have just lost a ton of weight unhealthily but its annoying that people who actually need this medication have to jump through a bunch of hoops because people who don’t need it are abusing it.

Society: Shows and nudges women towards unhealthy habits of not eating to obtain an overly skinny body. Also Society: "Why are woman so week and feeble?"

Thank you for the affirmation.This is a video I plan to share with my husband because I know that he feels the same pressures as women do these days to be "ripped" as he gets older. Sometimes celebrities and media make me feel, at best, confused, and, at worst, insane. Can always count on TFD to be realistic. Such a breathe of fresh air in this space.

Having severe acne as a teenager before the skin care boom was hell enough, I feel for all the kids struggling today. At 25, I still have moderate acne despite having tried everything, (genetics and hormones, baby!), but I'm fortunate enough to have emotionally matured enough to reach a level of acceptance about my complexion - I've accepted that there's only so much I can do to help my skin, and that it's okay if my skin isn't clear. If I was a teenager today, that would be another story.

13:39, as a doctor, I find this concerning. Elective Caeserean delivery is one thing and it has its own medical indications, but choosing to do it prematurely is a completely different thing. I don't even understand how ethical it is to do so.

Who is the male celebrity who had a "glow up" but I was really a chin filler and hair replacement surgery???

I find it ironic that Rupert Everett, one of the very few openly gay leading men in Hollywood's recent history, has foregone all of those procedures, and let himself age naturally. The industry actually mocked him a few years ago, for doing this. But, recently, it seems he has actually gotten more work for refusing all of these procedures. I would say that gay men suffer at least as much from the impossible standards and shaming that straight women do around their bodies, so the fact that he did this is amazing. You should interview him on your channel!

I had to go and lookup the men with hair transplants and honestly it made my day... Thank you for that

Such a great video. We don’t talk enough about men’s beauty standards, I never knew it was that problematic until I watched a video about celebrities using steroids. For years I believed that Christian Bale has transformed his body for different roles like it’s normal and easy. I never questioned how he was able to do it.