How Did You Know You Were Gay? 

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True! And not every feminine woman is straight.

kklg2011 so many double negatives

kklg2011 wtf NOT EVERY GUY WHO IS FLAMBOYANT IS GAY PREACH👏👏

I saw this just as she said it

Oh my god same! I always was so obsessed over gay ships and stuff but now I am gay so it all works out lol

Me too 🙂👍🏾

This was my me my whole high school years, supporting my best friend who is bi and defending her against everyone, right until in college I found myself making out with a hot girl

In every tv show I would only ship gay couples and I always wonered why. I guess this mystery has been solved by the fact that I'm gay🙂

Sameeee Then I just went okay I don't care what gender I like. I am pan.

Wait is this a gay thing?? Wait a minute

society sexualising men and laughing about it made me mad since men get just as uncomfortable as women :/

@@blankface.señoritq Don’t do that... we can talk about more than one topic at a time. Don’t say “but men too!” When talking about women issues. We can talk about both

@@-ana_banana-2098 exactly , we can talk about both.

me too

Thank you!❤

Thanks!

Same idk why i'm watching this hahahaha

Aaaah thats so sweet!💞

Caitlin Barry aw congratulations fellow lesbian i know its freaking HARD...but at least you had the courage to do it here on the public comments of this video and thats really brave of you. It will get better 💪

it gets better trust me 🙌

Stfu

Caitlin Barry Ok?

why tf are you so mean YOU should stfu

The Avodkado I FORGOT ABOUT THAT

E F I remember I was so confused in that Ashley mini-series thing

The Avodkado Yeah... I miss that

The Avodkado that was iconic

The Avodkado I miss it!!!

Whitney D SAME

Whitney D same omg

Whitney D omg same. I realize my sexuality more and more each time...I've kinda thought I was bi but some things have made it more clear to me that I probably am. Like one example, there was some question thing on Instagram and one of the questions of the day said "5 guys you think are hot.." I only thought of 2 guys and it was difficult to think of some other guys that I found attractive. I thought to myself 'I find some guys attractive but I find myself seeing that girls are attractive too..' bc I'd see someone like a female RU-vidr and I'd be like "she's so hot omg" (and some guys too). Bc I have found guys attractive before but I'm also seeing that I'm finding girls attractive..

Whitney D Exactly the same

Whitney D pick us at school

Me toooo😂😂

fridanotkahlo me

fridanotkahlo same

This is literally my thought now and why I clicked on the video LOL

Me too🤣🤣

Love that!😂😂

I’m pansexual too, I just don’t want to come out. Im too scared.

I’m pansexual 💖💛💙

yobai arts me too

😂😂

blegghhh literally me 😂

Same

blegghhh thats so me... i really should think about it seriously xD

ꜱᴛᴇᴀᴍɪɴ' ʜᴏᴛ ɢᴀʀʙᴀɢᴇ me

Whitney D omg same. I realize my sexuality more and more each time...I've kinda thought I was bi but some things have made it more clear to me that I probably am. Like one example, there was some question thing on Instagram and one of the questions of the day said "5 guys you think are hot.." I only thought of 2 guys and it was difficult to think of some other guys that I found attractive. I thought to myself 'I find some guys attractive but I find myself seeing that girls are attractive too..' bc I'd see someone like a female RU-vidr and I'd be like "she's so hot omg" (and some guys too). Bc I have found guys attractive before but I'm also seeing that I'm finding girls attractive..

Rose J. As a straight person, I do acknowledge someone to be beautiful or attractive of my own gender but would I ever want to have anything with them? No.

Mary GG mhm true

Robin Colarusso not everyone lol..

maybe look into the concept of "compulsory heterosexuality", it could resonate with your experience :)

Jenny Holloway omg same same

SAME

Jenny Holloway SAME

SAME

If God wanted to make you straight he would have. There's nothing wrong with you.

That was my whole fear coming from such a religious background. People pressuring me to be someone that I wasn't. " Pray the gay away" No one can decide who to be attracted to. It's natural.

I seen crazy stuff on psychedelics, people are gay if someone’s homophobic give em some acid they might find out something they don’t like

Aww, honey being gay is normal and totally fine! Why would god just hate someone for their sexuality? Love is beyond gender, religion, sexuality or anything. It is free. We can love whoever we want to. Why would God hate someone just because they love and care for someone? If you love the person wholeheartedly, that's what matters! There's nothing wrong with being gay, I hope every queer person who has a religion realizes that...

Maybe you're bi//pan??

You may be bisexual or you could be pansexual

Try to be attracted by personality or something like that. Without thinking about gender. You may get your answer :) if you really like the person, the attraction just comes...

Yeah same 😕😣

Your bi curious buddy

true

same sis

hah same

Yo we got the same name

Brianna Garcia same

Yelyahfan88 x yeah, thought they both were bi.

Yelyahfan88 x did y'all watch the video

ella is dating hannah

bluu e who the hell us hannah? I completely forgot

Hannah Hart. I ship it SO HARD.

SAME, it's uncanny

My family knew I watched the L Word and never said anything about it 🤔

emma n saaame

It was on national tv when I was little! So I secretly watched it

I still secretly watch The L Word

Thanks for being straight bc now you can procreate and more gay children can appear lmao

Thank you 💕

Same here sis 😂😂😂

If only all straights were as accepting as u!!

I think am too

YouraJin this happened to me as well I realized I was forcing myself into a straight mindset when I’ve never been interested in boys. A lot happier now that I know I like girls only

me 2

NiniannE same

Like I said "I know it was fictional"... To bad people don't understand the difference between fiction and reality. We lost a good sketch because of it, apparently...

mia s ashly is dating chantel lmao she's gay

NiniannE same

Nikita Michael YEP. RELATABLE

SAME

Nikita Michael OMG yes!!!!!

I’m starting to question myself after this video bc I’ve had two huge girl crushes on these two tomboys. I can’t tell if I’m attracted to the gender or that type of personality.

YESSSS I TOTALLY DO OMG YES....soo Annoying and they be lookin all good

Sometimes I think everyone at Buzzfeed is gay

It happens, when you're in an environment who is very accepting you'll start to become more comfortable

Idk I feel like it's forced and no one cares if they are gay or not.

Buzzfeed, the gay whisperer

+bubbavaszquez If no one cares, why are all of you here and commenting? Sexuality is interesting to most people.

iluvharrypotter97 lol, I love Choices! I always go for the female characters.

Im bi too. And i have a preference for males aswell!

Eyy me too! I find myself attracted to males more often, but I still do like girls.

That’s great :) it’s ok to like one more than the other. I use to identify as bi but gay felt more fitting, I’m a good 95% female but I experience slight sexual attraction to men, no romantic feelings though so gay just feels right :)

I didn't think I was totally straight but then I started liking my best friend which is girl so I told my friends and there friends with her too so they thought I was bi bc I've had crushes on boys before so now I'm bi and I went out with my best friend for a while but then she broke up with me.

Twinklingstarrs congratulations!

Rach Ellice c:

Twinklingstarrs congratulations for being so brave for coming out and stuff !

Same thing happened to me, me and my girlfriend have been together for 6 months, I wish both of you well

Omg same but it's been 2 months😂

Fausta Donauskaitė REEEESSSSPPPAAAAAACCCCCTTTT THE WWHWHHWHHHHAAAAAAAMMMMMMMMAAAAAANNN

respect da whamen

my name Jeff

Fausta Donauskaitė wAmen

Thank you 😆

then you have no gaydar.

is there really such a thing as gaydar :/

a human honestly, not for straight people. but gay people always know their own.

ashly isnt only into women tho

*스* she's dating chantel lmfao

Onnethox That's what I'm saying lol

Onnethox one of the requirements to work there

Onnethox not Ned

Jemstoness so true he always mentions his wife in every try guys video

wait ned has a wife??

I'm a tom boy and not gay too! Wanna ride mountain bikes, play basketball or go camping??

I’m a tomboy and I ammmm Gayyyy...... lol yep, u heard me. But that’s true, I know a lot of tomboys who are straight/or just bi/etc. doesn’t necessarily mean ur gay if ur a tomboy !!

Just get a girlfriend, then you don’t have to tell anyone. That’s what I did

Kairi Castillo have u come out yet

Well, I feel you. I don't know how to come out.

I came out to my older sister two days ago because I already knew she was bi, so she accepted me. Still not out to my parents but other than that I’m open about my sexuality to the point where people probably get annoyed by how often I talk about being gay. There are some bi and pan kids at my school that I know (all my LGBT+ friends live across the country RIP) so I’m the lonely lesbian (at least the only out one)

Me too. I'm bisexual and I have no idea why I haven't come out since I know a lot of accepting people. I guess I'm just scared of the questions I'll receive.

gece 👏👏👏👏👏

gece Indeed, it may sound wrong. But you're lucky if you're straight. Because NO ONE can deny there's still so much hate in the world against being gay. Part of that hate is because a lot of people are religious. Which makes religion a stupid thing in my opinion.

Tijn omfg thank you, i hate religion

why are you guys so triggered lol

I get your point and I agree with it for the most part. I feel like they may be talking about when they actually accepted it. Being bi myself, it took a while to fully accept it or even realise it for me. Because I was attracted to guys, I just assumed that me liking a girl was just because we were best friends. It took until high school for me to realize why I was so much more invested in these relationships with girls then they were. Even after I realized it, it took me years to accept what I am. Like I said, not disagreeing with you at all, you make a really valid point :) just telling you, from personal experience, that I actually did have a realization, even though the attraction was always there

She's bi

darknesspixie 💀😂💀

darknesspixie Actually same. I’ve had two crushes before which I assumed were just girl crushes (actually I’m still not sure what they are) on two tomboys. I can’t tell if I have a tomboy fetish or I’m gay lol

Panned a If one of those crushes is Jen from Ladylike, it doesn't count as gay XD

If I just really realized I’m fully into girls. I went by pan before I realized it was forced heterosexuality and I don’t have any interest in boys and never have. It’s certainly a trip lololol. Sometimes I feel kind of doubtful for no reason, and just uncomfortable despite never having any attraction to boys and finding girls 10/10 👌

It’s a lot easier for me to say I like girls more than calling myself a lesbian for some reason

Don't call yourself racist when you've never won a race

Chizzy Chase Don't call yourself sexist if you are a virgin.

Nice!

you don't call yourself ageist if you're not an age ... oh... OH YEAH THAT DOESN'T WORK

Have you escaped yet?

*I’m in the closet with my grandparents, and I always will be*

Five days? Just wait till that turns into five years... it’s very cramped and dark in here :)

I've been in the closet for 10 years ans I still don't know hot get out of it... Sorry I cannot help you :(

Then you're gay. You might not be acting on it or even accepting it, but you are gay.

That's cause girls are cute! I think you can be straight as an arrow and still check out people of the same gender. Girls are just nice to look at :)

Books and Skin not necessarily. girls call each other cute all the time and sometimes we could look at someone pretty and think "wow this girls cute" you arent necessarily "not accepting youre gay" thats not really how it works these days

+Emily If you say so.

+Sammy Sosa "thats not really how it works these days" What does the era have to do with this? Whether it's 2017 or 1917, one is what one is, and if one is checking out members of the same sex for pleasure, what one is, is gay. Nothing wrong with that, but one should at least be honest with oneself.

Brian Wong same... the struggle is real.

Let it go. Andrew doesn't even act in Buzzfeed videos anymore, unless one counts making faces as one eats food to be acting.

I'm pretty sure Ashly is dating Chantel...

lol she's dating Chantel so good luck with that

Brian Wong I USED TO HARDCORE SHIP ASHDREW BUT IS ASHLY ACTUALLY DATING CHANTEL?!?! IF SO I AM SO HAPPY FOR THEM

OMG UR MY HERO FOR THIS COMMENT

the thing is, most of their employees are clearly straight, they just hire gay people and foster a workplace where gay people can be out and comfortable, so it seems like "most" to us. but remember the company has hundreds of employees who don't even appear on camera.

I mean, if a person who doesn't like their content feels like saying that they don't, that's up to them. They can watch videos they don't like if they want to. Depends on what they want, and you can't decide that for them. I mean, it seems practical enough to just look for videos that you do like, but then again, humans have ideas that they like to express with people, and telling them to hold it all in seems kind of extreme. If you want to do that, fine, but not everyone is going to choose not to express themselves, whether it's a positive or negative opinion. Everyone has lots of negative opinions; it doesn't make them bad people. It's a normal part of the human experience. We observe what we like, what we don't like, what we want to do in life, what we don't want to do in life, etc.

Sarah-Jean Lindsay Ikr? Like, how is this video offensive 😂

ikr, like ppl nowadays get offended for literally anything, it's insane lol.

Kate Black Gay is an “umbrella term” if you’re bi, pan, or anything in between, you can ca yourself gay if you wish. -a lesbian

@@Rae-eu1zb she literally called herself gay. if you experience attraction to the same gender as yourself and feel comfortable using it, i'm pretty sure it's fine.

*GASP* TIK TOK!

Elisa Battistino NOT*

Alison • McDonald well where I come from its perfectly acceptable

incorrect

Elisa Battistino except the for the HOT GIRLS, a hot girl became a lesbian means another lost for a straight man. A hot guy became gay means another threat is removed Sorry for my bad English

Jxsoph incorrect?!

lol but how did they know?

Uma Allen Yes, but I only have one for gays. Bisexual is also tricky because in my culture people either expect you to be gay or straight, not bisexual so I don’t know anyone that is one (or they are probably in a closet) and I don’t have any reference to work on.

i think i'm bi at least in the romantic area because i have had crushes on guys and girls. i also have the "what if I don't like going down on women" thought quite often because i think i wouldn't enjoy it that much. but at the same time i'm not really into giving head to guys either so i guess i'm just not into oral :D

@Uma Allen lol apparently a person in my school has an immaculate gaydar. I try to hide it very well. He knew I was gay the second I walked I'm because I was "too cute, and too nerdy" to not be🙄 He's cute too and he's one of those macho boys and he asked me straight up and I nodded yes😱😭 but he's okay with it and said that his grandpa is gay. He's straight though 😂 I was skeptical because not a lot of straight guys are accepting of gay people and I thought he'd be like "HA! YOU GAY!" but he showed me pictures of his girlfriend 😆 He kinds touches me and sends subtle hints and flirts with me, though 😭 I don't understand!

gay can be used as an umbrella term for same gender attraction.

Fatimata Jalloh ikr. hell no because that would invalidate bisexual ppl. considering bi ppl already have a hard time in the community (surprising ik) gay shouldn't be the umbrella term. a bisexual person is bisexual not gay they're very different

so if I like women and sometimes men, I'm not allowed to say I'm gay? I have to call myself bisexual? Is it wrong for me to call myself gay? I'm not asking in an accusatory way, I'm just unsure

AD L If you were to think of it from the opposite end, would a bisexual person also want to call themselves straight because they have opposite sex attractions? I think that answers the question.

I like men and women and i openly refer to myself as both gay and bisexual and sometimes pan. I've always heard gay as synonymous to queer or just "not straight" but I can see how some folks of the bisexual/ pan community might have a problem with that.

Astro Bear You’re so right!

Nishka The i feel. I cringe at the thought of bi and would rather use queer. But in matter of face I do believe I’m Bi. Idk. Also I don’t want to use it because it feels like this great big commitment to it. I know bisexuality isn’t 50 straight 50 gay, but that’s how some people perceive it... so... I totally get what you’re saying, but I like the label “queer” if I had to use anything.

It’s not about being ashamed or thinking it’s bad, its just that labels can sometimes feel uncomfortable to someone. As for me I’m a lesbian but I’d rather go by just gay, considering to me lesbian makes me feel boxed up and it feels oddly specific. Don’t know why it just doesn’t fit me despite me being completely into girls. It’s more so just the thought of being boxed up and defined I think that’s so unappealing, not the word itself. I have a best friend and ex who calls herself bi but I definitely relate more to not having a specific label no matter what my sexuality was.

hayley will true

Yep I have a secret Netflix acc to watch oitnb

hayley will yessss

want to be friends??

Feel ya !!

halidi What? The dry ashdrew? Yeah, we didn't get a close to the ship. They just abandoned it like wtf

Let it go. I do not think they owe us that. It has been dead and buried for so long. Plus I get, like, shipping real people as a concept but who are we to determine who ends up with who IRL. That is just weird.

Venecia Tartt She's dating Hannah Hart

noohlignuj wtffff

The girl on the left is Ella and on the right is Ashley...

The girl on the left is dating a famous youtuber named Hannah Hart. She’s on some of her vids too

yeah she's dating hannah hart, and i didn't know ashly was gay too lmao she's dating chantel 🙉

Lisa Marie yes she's gay and she is with Hannah hart ❤❤

I think she said several times she was bi? But in a gay relationship

NINI from I Hart Food Hannah Hart?

Hermione Granger is always right.

Lolli Rose {Kitten} I’m gay but this comment is hilarious

Lolli Rose {Kitten} 😂😂

Lolli Rose {Kitten} He must've been so uncomfortable oml 😂

Ew

The number of likes on this comment is 69 no one can is now allowed to like or unlike this

You need to quit comparing yourself to people your not gonna be. Just be you.

pinke kartoffel i check girls all the time now it made me wonder if im bi.. maybe i just havent met the right girl

Culieatumami Why do girls look at each other sexually. I mean you have the same body parts why not look at you assets.

Same, I’m comparing myself to them and when I realized that i was looking at girls more than I was looking at boys I thought I was bi but now I’m pretty sure I’m not and I was just comparing myself to them😂

Darcie X hey

Darcie X same

*which one*

Darcie X same

i read that as i love girls that top

Amazing Shrek is not on fire okay I know this comment is super old but no it’s not weird!! It took me so long to accept my sexuality because of my previous actual attraction to boys, but feelings change! It’s all a spectrum hhh

@@nellmarcus1530omg thankyou so much for saying that I thought you were just born it because I've just feelings for boys in the past but now boys just don't seem appealing and I only really imagine dating girls

that's oki! Read what nellmo said, also phandom lol

Amazing Shrek is not on fire Could it be false attraction due to growing up in very heterosexual environments?

SulkyChild hun, trust me, i was in the same position a year ago. a girl crush-surprise- is a crush crush. theres no need to hurry yourself into labeling, though. just know that sexuality is as fluid as you perceive it.

lady grinning soul Yeah, when I didn't know that I was, I used to call them 'Friend crushes' because I thought I wanted to be their friend. But I was wrong xD

Isabella Bortolotti heyyy

:))))

Pewds reference + tae wow i didnt know people like you existed