How Do I Not Murder My Husband for This? 

Match made in heaven 😂 She wanted to quit her job…. LOL

This is the greatest comment of all time. It needs to be pinned 😅

That's funny

the irony, this could turn into a drama

Hilariously sad.

Exactly!

He probably was a great date. "I'll pay😍!" or "I got it!🤑" Look what I got for you!💍Why talk about money when he obviously has money?💰💰💰How gauche.😉

He probably thought she was 😅

Bro you stole my comment 😂😂😂. Karma it’s a B

@@pi37 - Hit dogs hollering! 🤣😂😂

she OWNED herself

No kidding, no sympathy

The joke is on her for thinking.

The ones that look rich are usually broke!

People think nice things equals “rich” it means “debt”

Summed up perfectly. She thought she was just going to stay at home and clean lol.

@@bigpicturethinking5620Or maybe shop. Get coffee and lunch with her friends 😆

They are both gold diggers. He was counting on her income.

Gold diggers do thier research and background checks before getting married. We're smart.

She's not a gold digger. She married him without knowing. The fact she asked if she could quit her job, totally clueless about how much trouble he was in tells me he made a conscious effort to conceal his financial issues until she married him and took out a second mortgage she's now responsible for. That's calculated, deceptive, and predatory. One of the beautiful things about marriage is two people dividing up life's responsibilities so there's still hours left in the day to relax and enjoy each other's company. When both are in the workforce all day they come home and still have to deal with all the domestic stuff/errands/bills/cleaning/laundry and so forth, and the weekends are taken up by everything that didn't get done. When one person stays home to take care of all that during working hours both get to enjoy the night and weekends and relax/live a little. It's something humans figured out a long time ago that works quite nicely when both parties are sincere and good to one another.

I don't know apparently he owns multiple properties. The finacial situation may actually be decent.

​@jameswhite3415 Everything sounds very fishy. The fact he didn't tell the bank that his ex wife died two years ago and yet he's in possession of her vehicle and motor home. They both sound dodgy to me.

40+ year old women don't usually end up with a sugar daddy😂😂

@@ronaldmcnerneyjr3467 You need to watch all the Real House wives series. See how many of them have rich geriatric husbands.

@@ronaldmcnerneyjr3467unless he’s 80 and then she would be a trophy wife changing depends.

with women getting those fancy degrees and making the big time bacon, a sugamama is the best love a man can get!!

@@cutehumori like money

Pretty much perfect explanation 😂

🐐 comment

Lol 😂😂

They're probably getting divorced

They have tenants in the $300,000 house. I think they have to wait until the lease is up to make them move out. That could be up to a year. I would want my husband to sell both houses and we move into an apartment. Buy another house together once out of debt. Plus there is the matter of the added loan that she is not sure which house it’s on. I wonder what he did with that loan money? If he blew it all I would get a divorce or better yet an annulment.

@@anndeecosita3586 They can try and buy them out early (it'd probably cost you 1 to 3 month's rent). Or they could try and sell the $300K house to an investor with the tenant in place, but that doesn't usually go too well (most people, investors included, want vacant spaces) until you get to many-family transactions.

@@anndeecosita3586 whether the tenants leave next month or in 6 months. It’s the same. They can honestly solve all the issues within a year if they are wise.

@@ethanking4954 yep, depending on their state they can probably get an annulment within the year

and she did not know it:)

😂

Vice versa

Bingo!

I've never heard this expression before but it's great

At 45, I’m wondering if this guy IS the third (or even fourth) husband.

I am praying for him because that question was eerie..

😂

Hey....3rd times a charm

This comment stopped my scolling.😂😂😂

People spend money out of their living range. Credit cards enable people to be fake rich. If credit wasn't a thing you would see many more people living how they should be living. This would be lives less luxurious with less material goods and lower quality meals but removing the stress of debt and money you owe is a good sacrifice. Being debt free is a huge weight off people's shoulders.

America!!! It is the greatest achievement to have $50,000 worth of debt!!!

Facts 💯 at my job where I work at in a retail place. I see a alot of customers signing their life oway, from listing contracts, their percentage is so high, if the person don't pay it on time, the company is making that money.

I think saying “most” people are fake rich is a coping mechanism. People say say that because it gives them reassurance they aren’t alone being broke. There’s a lot of money out there. A lot of generational wealth and high incomes in major cities. I felt like everyone was pretending when I moved to a wealthy suburb but I discovered “most” of these people are actually loaded, come from wealthy families, have double six figure incomes, regular blue collar jobs with high salaries. Even nurses now a days, which only requires a bachelors are getting paid 200k. Sure there are still people out there faking it but everyone needs to stop comparing themselves and just do whatever it takes and come up with a plan so they aren’t dying on the Walmart floor as a greeter when they are 80 years old.

@@rich5164I don’t think most people are saying that as a coping mechanism. They are agreeing with what you said at the end - to not compare yourself with people and trying to keep up. At least that’s how I generally hear it used including from Ramsey

It was all a dream

Surprise

Bingo.

Nailed it.

100%

A vulture that ate spoiled meat. Wah.

She tried to retire early through him, meanwhile he’s acquiring investment properties through gullible women.

That’s usually how it works..

​@@djpuplex vultures eat rotten meat though

​@@MrTmenzo right 😂

Who are these people, get married and ask if you can quit your job? Lol!!

😂😂😂😂

@@jadedqueen3619most women. Theres nothing wrong with that. As long as both parties are aware of their roles up front but she was stupid for marrying a guy in this generation thinking he would be traditional

@@NoName-1239women hate traditional they want equality….. this is equality 50:50

@@jadedqueen3619 Living in 1950, want to be a nice house wife with a white picket fence 🤣

They have 200,000 in credit card debt.... That's stupid enough.

​@@leadnsteel1428Right😮

That was great!!

Even 2 rodeo's in not a lot of rodeo's.😉

3rd? 4th? 5th?? It’s a mystery!

she OWNED herself

Right!!! Talking about "can i quit my job?" NO

He's richly in debt.

😂😂 he’d be ok if he didn’t have all that cc debt. She was being courted with 1000 dollar steak dinners on CREDIT CARDS 😂😂

She's not too bright LOL

she OWNED herself

Ghetto Fabulously Rich 😂

This

I don't know where people got this idea rich people are really rich most of what you see is owned by creditors most of the time there's a reason why we have a 17.5 trillion dollars of consumer debt

100 %that was a black guy faking it

Plus she assumed it was all well there too! What a fool

She’s a complete ditz how dumb can someone be

She just saw his possessions and thought “Man! This guy is rich! I’m set for life! Time to quit my job and ride on his coattails!” 😂😂😂

I think she just saw that he had 2 houses and thought MONEY

Because she was trying to be the trad wife of a rich guy. Turns out the rich guy was all talk and not actually rich... They are most likely gonna get divorced.

Apparently this person 😂

I talk broadly about finance the first date. And this is why 😂. How do you get married and not know these things already.

​@mr5timewcwchamp I agree that the conversation should be had. The fiirst date? Ummmm I wouldn't be interested in that topic. We hadn't experienced enough of one another to know if it go any further.

A woman in America

Probably because he said enough to make her think he had that side of things taken care of and that they'd have a certain kind of life together. He probably encouraged that perception as a way to discourage her from asking prying questions that would reveal the truth.

she OWNED herself. I couldn't stop laughing with her bitchin about his debt and she really wanted to quit her job and do nothing

@@cutehumor Yup, she's a moocher trying to life the high life on someone else dime. These hoze r a dime a dozen.

You mean sugar baby 🤣

I think you mean when the sugar baby finds out she’s the sugar mama. 😂

@@anndeecosita3586 She THOUGHT she was the sugar baby.

She lost a ton of appeal

Same thing I said!!!

@@lynne4948 she also had a serious tone, I don’t think she was joking

@@calila650 me either!!

I expect almost every spouse to have the thought at least once in life 🤷‍♀️

Imagine a man said that about his wife, crazy statement to make

Almost every other host would have explained how the husband is a coward and a monster and completely left out she wanted to quit her job 9 months after getting married. Conspicuous timing.

Or just give the “walk the baby steps” talk

@@nailatiylluf Exactly. Dave Ramsey is often a simp when it comes to women and marriage, but not this time.

@@nicholasmartinez6043sounds like gorge reading from his pre-scripted baby steps copy and past line. I think he is a nice guy but had no business on the show SORRY.

​@@davecopp9356 I wouldn't say he is a simp. He has a good wife that he can easily take care off. Not the situation many men find themselves in. This chick married a retirement plan and is now pissed it isn't as well funded as she thought and wanted someone to complain to. No chance she is sticking around and owning half this mess

Post wall Au/79 miner

But that’s what most people do. They blame everyone else for their own stupidity

He is the main problem.

@@jiminswriter4209 no they both are.

More like she is awful

Probably finally start gaining weight also. Lol

Starbucks every morning

Bonbons French for candy

📠

She’s a Ding A Ling

She's an idiot. Self inflicted.

Yep, got to ask questions if you want to find out, but even then it's hard to tell if someone is honest or not nowadays.

"Don't ask, don't tell." They are from the 90s.

He hide it for her. Most his fault. She does not have to ask if he got a huge debt

@@squashmeee it would be one of the first things to ask to see if the person is financially stable, unless it's medical debt, that's one thing, we can't avoid that all our life, eventually something major will happen to us and even with insurance it'll be expensive.

Especially later in life. It’s not like they are in their teens or twenties getting through things first together. Sounds like a dishonest marriage all around. Sad and maddening.

How can people get married is the question???? 😂

​@@gooserich3970I've been married for 11 years and it was the best thing to ever happen to me. Don't project your problems on others...

EXACTLY!! When my now-spouse and I got serious when dating, we had several talks about this to make sure we were on the same page.

People are taught foolish things in childhood. My mother told me never to question a man about money, it makes you look like a gold digger. She said don't ask for a prenump, that means you're planning on a divorce and asking a man for his credit report before marriage shows you don't trust him and he will probably break up with you. I married three financial disasters before I learned my lesson.

She s a gold digger 😂

@michelejohnson6459 Same with the man. He's the one with *17 credit cards, HELOC, etc* They both it seems, had unrealistic expectations of each other and the marriage. Or of what a marriage means.

If a spouse has Sole and Separate Debt, You are not responsible.

@@aolvaar8792grow up

If she decides to divorce him she won’t be liable for the debts he had before they were married. Just like she won’t have any claim to the house he owned before they were married.

@@aolvaar8792you are so long as you’re married. If your spouse defaults on their loans, that hurts you too

@anndeecosita3586 But if everything was paid off, she'd be trying to get half of everything if they divorced.

Yeah 200 grand in credit card debt. The guy is a poser who walks around like a successful big shot when in reality he’s a desperate loser who who would rather dig his own grave week by week. She thought all those $400 dinners, Caribbean trips etc. meant he had money.

@@carpediem6431they should have posted this video on April 1st cuz boy did that caller get fooled!

@@carpediem6431they should have posted this video on April 1st cuz boy did that caller get fooled!

Her first husband probably dumped her for being a complete idiot...

He has a MILLION DOLLARS IN DEBT.

I see you caught it too…

Women aren’t held accountable for saying things like that

Lol exactly. I prevented myself from getting credit card debt. How'd you do that? Self control. I prevented treason. How'd you do that? Self control. Yeah we all prevented ourselves from doing bad things. 🤣🤣🤣

😆What are you trying to buy? You make $150k per year, have no debt, yet cannot get approved for a home loan? None of that makes sense.

​@@Cautionary_Tale_Harrisprobably has a low credit score

Probably a bad credit score, minimal down payment or minimal work history. Banks aren't in the business of not giving loans.

Could also be A) Recent bankruptcy B) Previous foreclosure C) Doesn't actually make $150k a year D) All of the above 😂

Does this happen to be a starter home in California?

He flip flops on that randomly.

That is what made the show so popular over the years. His old fashioned hard truth call out bs approach when seems like what is happening.

These women are scared they would end up alone. So they just go for it and hope for the best

​@@Bmc2021Scared, not sacred. Lol, I had to read it 3 times.

@@DoctorSmartyPants lol I fixed it.

This man has a whole wife who passed away and he never told the bank. I hate to find my dateline stories in advance, on Dave's show, sigh...

@@jadedqueen3619 Yeah, this guy somehow has a quarter million dollars in CC debt that the mortgage lender didn't find. Sketchy as heck.

She saw the bees and thought it's honey. Too bad, it was 💩. 😂😂😂

Jades a dragon lady " what kind of debt?" She's gets her questions in no matter who's talking lol...I famous of our women of color

Exactly!

You need to watch Caleb Hammer as well

our pre-marital counseling had nothing on finances - which is a huge mistake for the churches etc who do the counseling

​@@aschulte7502what? Really? My church definitely discusses finances, and in depth!

People laugh at me every time I mention premarital counselling. Of course it's usually the non-believers and usually because the only thing that differentiates them from a married couple is a marriage certificate 😢.

😂😂

😂😂😂

That's so sad. Colorado is close.

@@one_ice_cold_chiq I'm exaggerating. You can get decent condos in nice cities for 500K.

@ljss6805 shit I'm not lol Colorado is out of control.

@@one_ice_cold_chiq No, you're also exaggerating. We all are doing that. We're being drama queens. I can buy a nice condo in the Springs for 275-300K.

She didn't even want to acknowledge THEY were married when THEY purchased the home. What a scammer she is.

Dave straightened her out real quick!

Every woman out there 🤣🤣🤣

@@3Augustin3Took the words right out of my mouth! 👍👍

Somehow, this guy convinced a bank to give them a half million dollar loan while he already owed a half million dollars to others. I suspect that this financial deception is a lot bigger than just fooling her, because there is no way that would have been approved if they knew the true state of his finances.

You know she's guilty ah.

She's 45 and doesn't want to work anymore. It's as simple as that.

I had the same question like did she just want to quit because she thought he was wealthy? At 45 I’m guessing it’s not because she has little kids.

yeah that got me... she's 45 years old, no mention of kids either...

Had the same thought. There are so many women calling into this show wanting or having quit their jobs, including a doctor who had accumulated (though I think mostly paid off) a lot of debt for school. Idk I wouldn’t do that under any circumstances. You never know what the future holds, and we’ve seen that on this show too.

I think it's reasonable to assume you're not marrying someone with a MILLION dollars in debt they've never thought to mentioned before. Give me a break. This guy knew what he was doing and scammed her big time. You don't seriously think he would've told her the truth, do you?! He would've had some fancy way of evading a complete picture until he had her locked down and financially liable for his mess. He knew about all of this the entire time and kept that from her while presenting himself as doing well in that area. I seriously doubt he had any sincere intention of this marriage lasting, you know your partner is going to feel wildly betrayed that you kept that from them until after the fact. Everything about this feels like a con job on his part.

@@thestorybehindthat5236 Yep, and somehow got a half million dollar loan with nearly a quarter million in CC debt which tells me he's doing something to hide his liabilities from the bank. This guy is probably a financial audit away from serving time in prison.

My husband and I knew each others’ incomes and debt before we got married 🤷🏼‍♀️ down to the penny - it’s not that hard y’all. I made more than him as a lawyer but nobody comes around here saying “oooh your husband is a Au Miner gold digggger!” Just both parties be reasonable and responsible for God’s sake.

His debt became her debt when she signed the contract to become married

@@disco4535 Not even remotely true, learn the law before commenting next time. As long as a person doesn't assume the debt or hold a joint account the debts remain with the original debtor.

@@meateater4life551 both of their paychecks are put in one account, so yeah, her money is going towards to his credit card debt. hahaha

@@cutehumor True, if they have joint accounts. Only a stupid person would do that though.

@@meateater4life551 I wouldn't bother getting married if didn't have a joint checking account. I would make sure I marry someone making the same income or higher than me

You need a full audit before marriage. What do you make, owe, spend, have invested, etc. If you have tons of debt, no savings, & nothing planned for retirement it’s an instant no.

Bingo! This is what I suggested for all my Soldiers if they planned to get engaged to anyone.

she wanted to quit her job 7 months after they got married! big red flag! she OWNED herself

They didn't discuss this before getting married 😮? What exactly were they talking about during the dating phase 😢?

@@kap849knowing people with this amount of debt and spending habits. I bet the dating phase was the man saying “I’m going to make 300k next year, we should go to a resort in Mexico etc. And her being a gold digger, she met her perfect match.

or do you ? May be she is a Russian Spy

😂

And that kids is how you work as a team

@monicavandeventer5429 well done girl 😁

I guess wisdom doesn't necessarily come with age 😢.

Guy has a 6 figure job and owned a $300,000 rental property. Somehow he hid a quarter million worth of CC debt from the mortgage lender on the second house, which we can tell because there is no way they'd have let that slide without a lot of very probing questions. I think this guy is doing something to hide his money and Dave is being either too polite or too self-righteous to make the connection.

@@thecactusman17 I mean, you could be right, but I wouldn’t be so fast to assume. mortgage lenders are more than happy to approve you for way more than you can afford. A lot of people are house poor because of that. but he is definitely doing something to keep that debt under wraps because I’m not sure how they got married without talking about it

Maybe they should have the marriage annulled if still within the deadline. Both if them are together for the wrong reasons, and I'm not entirely sure going by the snippet here, that love and mutual respect was part of the package. Remember the man's deceased wife as only been dead two years at the time of this phone in. Both married under clouds of illustration - she wanted to be taken care of, he wanted someone to co-sign loan and more CC documents, and maybe clear his debts.

Oh he def be laying pipe 😂

After decades of loneliness she was an easy mark.

Or liar.

He probably has a hog enlarged paid for using his credit card.

That's what I thought. Annulment, but they already passed the 6 month mark.

Yeah she's bolting for sure

Doesn't matter whose name it's under. After marriage it's 50/50, that's why dave kept asking about when the house was purchased.

@@jeremylewis5154 She can force the sale of the house in the divorce.

@@jeremylewis5154Not in every state. My name was not on the house, and I was not responsible for payment. However, in my state if I paid anything towards the house or fixing the house I would be entitled to that money.

they must believe they are doing some "great investment" in real state:) actually they are just digging a big hole of debt to bury themselves

They live in Anchorage, $500k is a starter home. In my area $500k get's you a mediocre 3 BR on a postage stamp sized lot.

A 500K house is not huge in many areas of the country. It's just a very basic home.

My house is only 1496 sqft. and it is worth over $500,000 right now.

You caught that as well? 😂😂😂