How do I stop putting women on a pedestal? 

Stop hoping that she's going to permanently make you feel good.
When you put a woman on a pedestal, she becomes your biggest fantasy. You make her into a mythical creature that will make you happy, take away your pain, and make your life awesome.
Forever.
You may not be consciously thinking that way, but that might be the way you're playing it.
That's a lot of pressure to put on a woman. She will feel your anxiety and neediness. And that's not attractive.
It's impossible to fulfill that obligation. Nobody can take away your pain and make you feel good forever.
Nobody can do that. Not even a woman.
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