How Do You Know You're Gay? | Ingrid Nilsen 

*tell them you were never their child*

That is so hard

you can do it it's easy just text them

Don't.

I send my mum the "girls" song by girl in red on Christmas eve on WhatsApp xD

Omg😂 i absolutely love your humour

NightHawkBassing lol

Heyyyyyy I made a video about how I realized and it may interest youuuuu

Ashley504 funny

Lol 😂

Awww...

💜

Aw! 💓

Aww 💜

Wow I wish this would happen for me

Awwww that's amazing!!!!!!!

Thanks

i told my dad i was gay and he slapped the shit out of me

I'm so happy for you congratulations!!! So proud of you for being brave :)

peachy. jiminiee thanks peachy. Even though I had a breakdown when I told him.

Itchycat AJ Aww that's so sweettttttt

Itchycat AJ so cool 😊

it kinda sounds too good to be real xD

Weired

Y'all still together?

munira 02340 omg 😂

munira 02340 no stop😂😂

munira 02340 holy moly 😂😂😂😂

munira 02340 maybe you're born win it, maybe it's gaybelline 😏

maybe it's gaybelline

This isnt a joke?

@@favscripts7680 Depends on how you want to come on

Your profile pic 😂

@@GatitoEZ I don't remember where I found that image honestly

But it’s Good

Lol mood

Fat mood

Haha relatable... 😕

I am find comfort in being with my guy best friends, I am a guy, and I think I've developed feelings for one of my friends AAAAAAAAAAA what's happening my religion doesnt accept this please help what shall I do help

@@1vyKh4n please just do what makes you happy

Watts The Safeword haaa

if that's not a Trixie reference I'll be a sad gay

// J O R D Y N // uhnnnnnnnnnn

I wore the dress again, mother

*DAD peeks over from behind the newspapers sarcastically*

Sofix Sove I am! it intrigues me.

Me! 🙋

Same. Like I probs think about this everyday like people do ask themselves if they r gay but like every single person in world actually asks themselves that but a lot of people aren't. Like even though I'm straight but it's an interesting topic to talk about.

Sofix Sove me

nope I'm hella gay lmao

I had my first kiss in 2nd grade with a girl 😶

Avneet Singh 👍🏻 or 👎🏻

Kayz Pop 😂

Raly 0 👍🏽

Avneet Singh nice 😂👍🏻👍🏻

Bruh.. Can you turn straight? I'm gay but I really don't want to be... I'm scared please someone help

@@user-so3yw8tr1x Um don't try to force yourself too much...Try being with another guy or a girl; if you're not comfortable with your opposite gender partner then you surely are gay....Also if you're gay, I'd suggest you to come out as bi, some ppl might accept you more than if you say I'm gay...But the best solution is to openly say Whatever sexuality you belong to, if you're gay there's nothing to be embarrassed about, and to all the ppl who think of you differently, just tell them to mind their own business..

@@vegasapologist3181 yes, the tip about being with other girls makes me more gay, im gay which means i like men but i act 10x more gay around girls, and a few people are suspecting something... and you're right about being Bi because you still like the opposite gender but i always look forward to the boys and not both. Being gay is something you should be aware of, there is oppression, you're gonna have to have the talk with your parents, some people you know might be homophobic and you'll be treated differently. I need help quick because one more year left for high-school and thats when they get really pushy about you finding a partner with your opposite gender...

Of course sex is something you do, you don't say "I am/you are sex"

Angie Animations she just meant it doesn't define you...

Angie Animations yea but a sex is is like boy and girl. Those are sexes. Sex is called inter course or sexual inter course

I love that your teacher even talks about it

Starr y Same for me, but I've never dated or kissed anyone yet. It's ok to judge based on your feelings alone. Like Ingrid said, you decide who you are, when you figure that out. People who understand that shouldn't have a problem with who you end up deciding you are.

Starr y I've been bi my whole life but I never realized it until fairly recently because I thought that liking girls is normal.

i find crushes on girls are a lot more emotionally rooted and it needs to be someone i know fairly well, however crushes on guys can be as straightforward as a stranger who looks hot/does something cute in my vicinity. Not that the relationships that blossom from either of these are deeper/different in any way (it depends on the person, obviously), simply how quickly they start off.

I identified as gay for over a year before I recently kissed a girl for the first time. Everyone always doubted me because I'm a femme lesbian. However, the kiss was like fireworks and definitely worth the wait. You'll get your kiss soon

Starr y you're amazing and all your feelings are valid!!! ❤️❤️❤️

potatomarleen youre definitely a lesbian

it doesn't really mean anything. my suggestion would be to just keep an open mind and experiment

You’re a lesbian. That’s what that means.

This happens to me too

noodleminhyung online too?

DespressoBlox yes

Oop

Ah, yes. The gay panic.

How did i know i was gay? I was in mcdonalds and i see this boy walk in (about the same age as me) and i immediately stand up straight take my hood off style my hair and try to make myself look nice, is that gay panic?

Michelle the Bear girl me too 🙋🏽🙋🏽

Michelle the Bear the entire gay community 😂

My live...😂😂

Ahhhh.... Over here but she is beeing so nice to me and I don't wanna tell her because then she might like, stop beeing nice??

haha yup! Been there done that.

DeAnna Jones I’m happy for you

Awww!!! That’s amazing! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

I love this!!

@@rakhoo5236 How u know😒

@@rakhoo5236 OK but do you know for sure or are you just talking out of your ass?

Gacha Life You don’t need to label

Same.

CEXEBLY1 you know that people don’t just become lesbians, if she ever goes to far and discovers she can’t do it or doesn’t like it, she can and will stop or at least don’t repeat. Especially when the more accepted sexuality is heterosexuality, the repercussions for that decision will be lesser than the other way around. And just in case, I’m not 14.

iiam CÀŁƏB AYYYYE

iiam CÀŁƏB I am mostly attracted by girls and think they are way more sexual appealing for me than boys. But I am in a relationship with a boy atm and I am really happy with him even though I might be interested more in girls. That's why I define myself bisexual. You dont have to like both the same way and that took me soooo long to understand!

iiam CÀŁƏB it meee

iiam CÀŁƏB meeee

It's just an observation but this always seems to be among the top comments when the video only says gay, and female channel never male one, unless the male one says bi in the title, huh... Just felt like pointing that cause of how often I see it. Also it seems it's always the women in relationship with men that get the most likes while the bi women in relationships with women get ignored or never speak up.

Two of my best friends both came out as gay, one of whom I had dated. They seemed pretty girl-crazy, but the thing is... They were always interested in the same girls. They were just playing the part they were expected to and looking to each other for cues without knowing what was really going on. For a long time, I couldn't let go of my crush on my friend. But straight or not, people change over time and learn things about themselves they didn't know before. It's important to respect the fact that everyone changes over time.

Omg same, I'm from Argentina

Basically chillin with Aslan...! I love it lmao

Hate people like that.

"I was so deep in the closet I was basically chillin' with Aslan"

Deadass fr

I am not gay but I sometimes act gay and shit but in reality I can stare at a girls ass for hours

I don't know I am bi or gay because it's confusing whenever I see a hot guy removing his shirt I am like dam 🤤 but on the other side I want to date a girl and sometimes also I don't feel like having relationship with boys it's just so confusing and stuff 😭

we need more people like you in the world.

I agree. I am totally straight 100% but I clicked on this video so I can get an understand of others who are. Understanding each other instead of judging each other is what the world needs.

Totally agree!

Sameeeee

Me too!

aleigha thompson I feel exactly the same way wow, I have been questioning for 2 years now, and I feel like I haven’t made any progress..

usually if you can't see yourself in a relationship with guys/you don't want to like guys then you very possibly are a lesbian. my friend and i were discussing this (we're both gay) and we both feel this way sometimes but grew up in conservative places and have come to the conclusion that it's both society and internalized homophobia. honestly, there's no way to tell 100% what your sexuality is but maybe try saying "im gay" out loud, and see if it sounds right to you.

@@wreningber usually if you can't see yourself in a relationship with guys/you don't want to like guys then you very possibly are a lesbian. my friend and i were discussing this (we're both gay) and we both feel this way sometimes but grew up in conservative places and have come to the conclusion that it's both society and internalized homophobia. honestly, there's no way to tell 100% what your sexuality is but maybe try saying "im gay" out loud, and see if it sounds right to you.

aleigha thompson i've been questioning for 4 years now. at first i just thought i was gay, until i got sexual feelings towards guys too… kinda. i would have sex with one, but i don't find abs or a sharp jawline particularly attractive. maybe that means i'm just not picky and it's mainly about their personality? but i feel like i wouldn't be that comfortable dating one… maybe i don't like guys at all. maybe i just like then as friends. so maybe i am gay. it's just so confusing what the fuck is happening with my life ugh

Sounds like your homosexual+romantic and heteroromantic meaning you only want to have sex and be with the same gender but find the opposite gender attractive

The “obvious “ label is bisexual, but if you don’t feel like it fits don’t use it. Gaby Dunn talks about how you can have different attractions for sex and for romance. It might be helpful to separate them in your mind and not try to cram it all into one label.

@@Sddvhjkkll or sis... but use bro for my sis sometimes, it's just a thing, isnt it?

@@Sddvhjkkll thiss is a girl and that one boy was her brother

I really don’t understand my old thinking process

If you're attracted sexually only to men, you won't suddenly start feeling sexual attraction to women. Studies show that the only "change" that could occur is change in identity, not sexuality. Ingrid talks about this stuff because she already said that she's attracted to men too. And as the research on sexual minority women shows that's the only kind of lesbian-identified women who drop lesbian label and change their identity - women who were never exclusively sexually attracted to women.

Anna Gan You missed my point. I wasn't referring to sexuality. The weight lifting off my shoulders has to do with being me, and not worrying about what other people think. It doesn't necessarily correlate to my sexuality. It's another aspect of my life you're unaware of.

Ann Gan lmao okay... i thought i was pretty straight for the last 15 years... and now im pretty sure im not.

I wear a rainbow badge everyday to school everyone asks are you gay or have you came out yet and I’m really scared to just be myself and my sisters always say your gay or are you bi and my mum laughs and says it’s fine you know and I just feel like saying I don’t know my sexuality and is there a problem

@@idk_huh it's okay, you'll figure it out. There will always be someone who will accept you no matter who you are. Bi, gay, or the S-47 helicopter.

Your*

This is what I would do XD

Der Kleebaum It can also be you’re since that means you are

Helvetica09 that describes exactly how i felt

Helvetica09 That's exactly how I feel. I don't know what my sexuality is (I've always said I'm straight, but then again, I've never had a real crush on anyone - boy or girl), so I think it's definitely easier to refrain from putting a label on yourself and be open to anything that might happen in the future.

Same! I totally agree with you! I always just say I'm gay because I felt like labelling myself as a lesbian is really constricting and it really just makes it easier for other people but limiting for myself.

i agree, im basically in the same situation. labels help some people but sometimes they can be confining. we're always changing so my sexuality might change too.

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Izy needed this, thank you!

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addict_with_a_tyjo_and_jish with that said, it doesn't mean that expiriences their sexuality the same - for some people it is more fluid and the preferences fluctuate over time

Your sexuality CANNOT change!! But overtime you can find out and understand more about your sexuality. You could become confused some times in your life and do some experiments but as you get older, you become more of who you already/truly are. Things like styles and hobbies can change but DEFINITELY NOT your sexuality. I mean I would love to turn gay or at least bisexual because I just think girls are way less intimidating than boys but that's not the case. I just love dicks and I can't change that.

Yoruichi The Extra Terrestrial lol I’m straight but I clicked on this video out of curiousity

Ella Medeiros We love you, Ella!

Ella Medeiros yes, i was there too, and she helped me a lot, Ingrid has this amazing way of comforting, please, hang in there, give yoursslf time and credit, you're brave and wonderful, cheer up!😁😁😁

Ella Medeiros I'm so confused too still but this video helped me

Ella Medeiros I'm in the same situation, and I really don't know what to do... cause even if I accept myself, it is going to be really hard if I decide to tell others

Ella Medeiros me too... i'm sooo lost

Same here (I'm a girl)

10Millie10 Swift me too

How do you "defiantly" like them? That would mean you only like them to piss off your parents or something. If you're certain you like them, then you mean you *definitely* like them.

@@malvavisco10 lol just a mistake dude

Malvavisco Sexuality is a difficult thing. For 2 years I was denying that I was looking at girls, thinking about girls/crushes and shit like that and hen someone would say to me “Are you gay” my immediate response was No. a few months ago I was really thinking about it since I was becoming more mature and I remember the night that the thoughts were just overwhelming me and I woke up in tears and having a full on panic attack. From then on I knew I did have an attraction to girls but I wasn’t ready to admit to myself that I was gay so I kept it in my mind that I was Bisexual and I also told a few friends that I was bi. But from then on I was constantly thinking to myself about certain situations I would be in if I ever encountered a girl or a guy and the more I thought about it the more that I wouldn’t really give a shit about the guy stuff. I still wasn’t sure so I locked that away for a couple more months before (and coincidentally) ended up watching a rather erotic lesbian film with my friends and the feelings I was getting were just waves of enjoyment I guess lol (in other words it turned me on a lot). And a couple weeks after that I had enough courage to say it to myself In the mirror, that I was gay. I told my mother and she was very accepting but unfortunately went and told her friends when I specifically told her not to. I still haven’t sucked up enough courage to tell my friends because teenagers judge but I will tell them soon. I know people didn’t ask for a life story but this was my coming out and I really want to share it with people that struggle with their sexuality. You’re loved no matter what and no one should judge you for WHO YOU ARE. ❤️

Chief Kawaiiwolf THATS PERFECT

Chief Kawaiiwolf bff goals🤘🏻

BasicWhiteGirlPie yes!😜

Chief Kawaiiwolf goals lol

Helena Leite yes

Hiiiiii 😭😭😭 Lol help meeeeee jk... but also help 🤣

Yes we are with you

do you have a penis if the anser is yes then u like girls and if not you like men just solved all your problums

I honestly would disagree for the majority of people, and I think saying sexuality can change can open up a pandora box of homophobia! It also seems to me like bisexuality can be fluid, but not so much heterosexuality or homosexuality.

Syntax I totally agree!

lost goose thank you so much for this👌

I hope you did not date ur sisters friend- Think about it in ur situation, let’s say ur sis is gay and ur friend is too, if they start dating.... I’m out the door😂 I personally think it’ll be weird but that’s just what I think

Same

same!

so u are gay?

That is fine. I m confused about my sexuality i like to date both girls and cute effeminate boys. I am also some effeminate boy. I dont know what to do in life.

@@saurabhsinghbagari5776 *Same*

WE ALL KNOW THAT FEELING!!!

charlie calmeckus you can do it I believe in you xxxx

I did it! I came out to my parents yesterday and it went even better than I could have imagined! :)

charlie calmeckus Hell yesss , congrats!! You're amazing and you deserve to be able to express whatever you feel! xxxx

charlie calmeckus dude I need help coming out give me support

WOW!!! That's so awesome Charlie!

idk if this will help but im also 14 and i've also started questioning my sexuality... well, i haven't really liked any girls in real life but when i see a cute or edgy girl, I AM ATTRACTED. (its just usually girls in malls though) maybe you can come out to someone who is also a part of the lgbtq+ community? if you have friends with one of them?? well, honestly, i'm still questioning my sexuality and i haven't really called myself bi or lesbian nor have i ever come out of course but i did tell my bisexual friend that i was confused about my sexuality... i hope this helped?

Questioning your sexuality is OK, and im sure most teenagers would start wondering about their sexuality, especially around your age. Don't pretend to be someone you're not, it's never really worth it. As for coming out, straight people do not need to "come out" most of the time,, so neither do you. If your family is homophobic or does not approve of your identity, remember, they don't direct you, you direct you. You make your own choices, your own decisions, and your parents are there to guide you, not control you. If you lose friends because of your sexual identity, they may not be the best friends, because friends should value eachother as friends, not for their sexuality, skin tone, but for who they are. I hope this helped, I'm hoping the best for you!

Just be patient with yourself. It is going to take a long time but just remember you will eventually figure yourself out. I understand how frustrating it can be (trust me on that one), but i promise it will get better.

corey_darling remember that it’s okay to question yourself. i’ve known i was queer when i was 10, i’m 17 now but i still don’t have a definite label for myself. i like who i like, and if you don’t want to label yourself that’s perfectly fine. sometimes labels help, sometimes they’re stressful. my mind on my sexuality has definitely grown over the years, but going under the label queer was always my fall back when i’m too worried to be labeled a lesbian or bi or pan or whatever. also, my family is christian too, i am christian too and it’s been a journey with religion and sexuality. it’s definitely been hard but you’ll get through it! as long as you’re not hurting anybody, be who you are. tell your family when you KNOW you’re safe and when you’re ready. you’ll be okay, it’s okay to be confused but one day you’ll figure it out :)

I’m a boy and I’m 13 and I don’t have a crush but I think about boys and never girls and my friends are like “who’s ur crush, maybe ur asexual” and I don’t know but I think about having a girl crush I think like maybe she’s cute? Maybe she’s nice? But then I don’t have feelings for girls and I’m confused help And also I have a little crush on a friend but he’s straight so Help I’m confused

LeslieXvideo me too both i am 14

Lol

I am too

Yay😁

Lmaooo

i can relate sooo much.

Regina Ponce ikr that would be amazing

HAHAH Someone please make that a thing!

Jeongkookk honestly don't try and force yourself to find a label you fit. Just go with it and be happy

Jeongkookk I totally relate. It is so beautiful to come across someone else who is like that. Thank you.

I Totally feel You. You dont need to stress about a label now cause Well, I thought I was bi For The longest time and a Year and a half later I Realized I was curious and Realized I was gay. IT Will come to You in time if u are I sexual or gay. Just dont stress too much :)

That's how I feel except I would love to try being in a relationship with another girl and I find other girls hot and the female body attractive but i've had like a billion crushes in my life and maybe 2 or 3 of them have been on women yet i've never dated another woman but none of my relationships with guys have worked sexually for me. So most of the time I see myself as 100% straight but other times I feel really curious about women and would love to go out with one and see where it leads i'm open to anything...

Jungkook ITS A SIGN!!! 😂 but same. still straight? my friends have said the same & that they both kinda went through that too or at least questioning.

Hello fellow confused person. I’m 17 and I’ve been in this situation for a while (4 years). The easiest way out of a conversation like that is either saying “idk” or “I’m not really interested right now”. If you ever get a crush or suddenly feel attracted to someone (like lady Gaga in her music videos) just go with it. Just don’t let anyone rush you or get you into anything. I know it is very ultra frustrating, but just keep going. And who knows, maybe with time you turn out to be lesbian, asexual, bi or other. Also, a lot of people discover their sexuality in high school or university, so do not rush.

HEY! WAIT! Hey hey hey hey you!! LISTEN!! AROMANTIC! And then there’s about a gazillion variants. A R O M A N T I C! Seriously, look it up. AROMANTIC!! Greyromantic? Lithromantic? NO IDEA! BUT I KNOW ONE THING: You can live life and.... NEVER DATE, and NEVER GET MARRIED. IT IS POSSIBLE. IT IS. AROMANTICS. ALSO: If you don’t really wanna label or whatever I know that feeling but still. Just. It’s okay to not want to be in any romantic relationships. YEA

dAfoodie101 thank you SO much u helped me come out and I can't thank u enough

dAfoodie101 I was bisexual in 5th grade now am in 9th grade and girls like me, is that weird cause one am my friend that are girl said I always wanted a gay friend.

Da Queen If u don't get it don't judge!!

dAfoodie101 same

Same.

Me too girl, black and gay lol :3

*****

Ayesha E literally me!! Omg

Ayesha E ohh I'm mixed race as well

but still black lmao

Milly Packham why? I don't understand even if you don't believe in God what is it that makes you gay? No hate I'm just trying to understand. Because to me liking the same sex wanting to have sex with them is just lust not love. also sex with same gender has been shown scientifically unsafe. So help me understand why

lmao you realize men have a g spot on their prostate, right? that's not opinion, thats just science lmao

Aye but its science that engaging in sexual activity this way is unsafe and harmful

How? I wasent being mean nor rude i was trying to genrally understand

Its not about stds physical engaging in sex this way is not safe. For example anal is very bad on the body because its not meant for sex

Chani Smith I knew I was bi at age 8. I am 11 now.

Ellis this is 1000% relatable

Well I feel Ya. For me I Realized I dont have sexual attracties to Guys and only to girls but Guys can be Pretty Cute sometimes but I just would never have sex with them Ya know...... Yeah sorry This is weird XD

oh. its in...words.

Hey do you have Instagram if you do heres mine juanita21savagee

Sphynx how did it go?

Sphynx dude don’t leave us on a cliffhanger what happened?

How did it go? (Edit: I don't know if this is a good sentence... Probably not because English isn't my first language and I'm very bad at grammar and stuff so yeah... But please say it if something isn't good, because that will improve my English.)

@@bofriedbo it's how did it go or how it went :) don't worry you'll improve in no time🤗🤗

@@091keshavani7 oh okayy thanks!

Skyler - it is never too late to explore any part of your identity, and only you can decide who you are, who you love, and how you identify. I was 31 before I was willing to admit to even myself that I am bi, and finally started dating someone who makes me happy. They were born female but identify as genderqueer with a slight slight leaning towards woman and we are happily engaged now. We have discovered that it doesnt matter what other people think and that they dont need to know any more details than we are willing to share as long as the 2 of us communicate and are happy together. Be you and be happy - thats all that matters.