I’m also from a African Muslim household and I’m 19 in a relationship with a guy from my college. He is the nicest most respectful guy I know of and we were best friends for months before becoming a couple. He wants to eventually meet my parents and I wanna meet his parents too knowing that they are more kinder than my strict African parents I’m just afraid that they will disown me or judge my boyfriend simply because he’s white and not Muslim. If only they knew how kind and loyal he is to me but I’ve decided that after a year of dating I’m going to tell my parents because I do want to be honest and be able to meet up with him without hiding my relationship I’m still a tad bit scared of how my parents will react. Any advice?
@@Ancientflower I forgot I wrote this message lol it’s been a year since we dated and my mom founded out and is okay with it but she still wants my partner to be Muslim when it comes to marriage (I DON’T plan on that happening) and I have yet to tell my dad who is much more strict about religion
Heartwarming and inspiring. Your love claimed victory over some very powerful energies. Im haitian too. Me and my Ghanaian ex couldn't make it work because of her religion after years of on and off dealing with her guilt and the recurring issue of faith church and her family. There were other issues but the love was there..or maybe it just wasn't what i thought it was im still unsure when i think about it. We met on blackplanet when she was 17 and i was 20. 3 years ago (im 36 now) we had a deciding moment and she broke it off for good. Her church isn't like others though it's quite cultish. C'est la vie, life goes on.
Culture and religion can really make or break relationships. I’m glad we were able to love each other despite our differences but I know that’s not always the case. When one door closes, another door opens. I think you’ll find the love you’re searching for 😊
i’m guyanese and i’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. i’m an only child, and my parents have always been strict so for almost a year i’ve just been sneaking and lying to them when really i be at his house cuddling with him in bed 😭 once i told them i was staying back after class to study when in reality i took the subway with him and he took me out on a date 2 hours away. i want to tell them about him so bad but i have no idea how. he’s older than me by 4 years and has a few tattoos, so ofc to caribbean parents that might already raise an eyebrow. but i love this man to death. he’s my first love but he always does his best to make sure that i’m happy and takes such good care of me. i’m in my second year of college now and am turning 20 this year. not to mention my parents are extremely toxic and i don’t have a great relationship with them in general, so im just very terrified to bring him up to them because im so scared of how they’ll react.
so i looked up videos about this on youtube lol and i feel like you went through a pretty similar situation. i’m just so very afraid. i want this man in my life forever but i’m scared that if i tell my parents that they might force me to breakup with him.
Wow! I definitely understand! I was sooo terrified to tell my parents! I didn't tell them until senior year of college and sometimes I feel bad about having kept my boyfriend a secret for so long. I honestly told them because I got tired of hiding him. I knew I loved him so much and we would be together for a long time and it starting feeling disrespectful to keep hiding him. His family knew me but mine didn't know him and I was hoping he would be my husband someday. I told my family out of respect to him and honestly to just put my foot down as a woman. Yes I'm your child, but I am also old enough to make my own decisions and you should trust me to make the right ones. When you're ready to tell them you'll know ❤️ Fear will take a back seat in that moment. Good luck! 🤗
@@meem2562 I’m Guyanese and I’m in the same boat girl would love to talk more about with u since u can relate it’s so hard to find others who can relate
5 years wow I’m 17 now and me and this guy want to start dating its a God centered relationship and I know I will have to keep it u til I graduate uni which is not long now at age 19 or 20 I’ll break it to them so my man can come to my graduation
My mom already accepted my boyfriend we’ve been together for over 2 years and we’ve been good friends for about 6 years I couldn’t ask for a better life partner( I’m 18)….but I’m scared to tell my dad because my dad is super strict…he might try to break me and my boyfriend apart and destroy my phone and hit me or hit my boyfriend and disown me but I’m tired of hiding it it’s so exhausting and draining for both of us and it’s ruining the relationship because sometimes we don’t see each other for weeks or months
I am 15,turning 16 soon.I have been dating my boyfriend a year .And all time we had to meet secretely because of my parents won't allow me to have a boyfriend.Idk what to do
That’s how it was for me but there came a point where I realized hiding him was only hurting me & the growth of my relationship. I knew I loved him & our relationship had so much potential for the future. There came a point I had to decide, this is my choice and whether or not you accept it this is what I have decided. You’ll know when the time is right. Trust yourself ❤️
I wasn’t sure if they would accept him but I knew that I unapologetically loved him, wanted to be with him & there was a future with him. I made the choice that even if they didn’t accept him, I would be with him. I had to make a choice for myself and not for my parents because my future is for me and not them
Hi guys my name is Katherine and I have really strict parents and it’s against my religion to have a boyfriend and you are supposed to be friends and then get married once you love each other but I really like this person and I already know my parents are not going to accept it so I need some good advice because my friends always Simp me and him and I’m really getting sick of it but I really want to date him but I really don’t know what to do so please respond or help me please thank you (btw I am kinda Young)
Hi Katherine! I would say you have to weigh out your options and decide what is most important to YOU specifically, not everyone else. This is your life and the decisions you make affect you. Is he everything you want in a guy and you just have to figure out the religion part? I personally knew I was willing to deal with the backlash I would get from my parents because I knew I loved him so much and I felt we would be together forever. I was also willing to figure out the religion issue with him and we made sure we communicated and discussed how that would work for us in our relationship and the future. Follow your heart and what feels right, not what everyone else thinks ❤️
I'm struggling to get my mom agree on letting me go with my guy friend to prom😔she prefers me going alone or with one of my friends but thy all got their own dates🤧any tips?advice?anything?🥺
I definitely understand what you’re going through. I would explain to her exactly how you feel. Tell her that you want to go with your friend and that prom is an event where people usually go with someone and none of your other friends are available. Ask her what her concerns are and express that she can trust you because she raised you right. You can also explain that your friend is a good person. Maybe it may help if you introduced him to her before? It may help her feel more at ease. I hope this helps! Let us know how it goes 🫶🏾 best of luck!
That's cool...God is love...Before there was a Quran muslims read and followed the Bible...Religion was created to divide people...Think of it this way, before there was a Bible or Quran, there was God...And God had love for His people...He wants us to love one another...Spirituality is much stronger than religion...The Bible doesn't teach Christianity...It teaches God's people how they should live...in all of the Bible, Christian is only mentioned 3 times...Process that...Love is only of God...Continue to love one another the way He loves you...Blessing
