HOW I TURNED MY LIFE AROUND | JEALOUSY, COMPARISON & POSITIVITY | Lydia Elise Millen 

it took me until i was 50 years old to learn these things. when i did, i lost weight, went to nursing school even thiugh people told me i was toooo old! i started being me...and i have never ever been happier! so glad u know these things long before u r 50!! good for u! ♡♡♡

Sometimes, I come back and watch this video when I feel like I need to reset my life and mind and priorities. Works every time.

call this series: beyond the bags :)

I've said it once and I'll say it again, listening to you and watching your videos feels I'm with / hanging out with an (older, wiser) sister that I never had. You're incredible and so inspiring, I'm so glad I found your channel

I'm 57 years old. And I only ever watched you for Shoes & handbags. This video is so on point, you should do more of the same. So genuine and honest . So helpful and not only for the very young and beautiful. Good for you Xxx

Just discovered your channel. I am 54 years old and suffered from anxiety and depression since childhood, but a few years ago I really began to write down every little thing that I could be grateful for and it slowly began to work deep inside my soul to heal sooo much. I’m another person who now gets REALLY excited about the smallest things because sometimes they are bigger than you realize.

The part of this that really inspired me was when you talk about everyone having their own land, and to try focusing on what you can bulid with your land rather than being envious of what someone else is doing with theirs. This description of one's own land with their own resources and own style, not limited resources or matching styles, gave me a visual I can use for daily motivation. Thank you!

i'm 21 and relate soooo much to everything you said in the beginning! especially the part about expecting things to happen and materialize, without putting in the necessary work or steps. not necessarily in a spoiled manner, maybe just in an overwhelmed and naive sort of way? either way, love this video so much :) thank you!!

Tea time with lydia. ☕️. Honestly lydia. You're really relatable and you talked some real sense in this video wherein not only i can relate into. But also other girls and boys out there who are in the current situation. It's great how your very vocal with the things that you earned by working hard to get them. And the goal settings is really useful for me and husband and also maintaining positivity. We're planning on a really big move and we're in need of a solid goal setting and positive foundation. Much love and care lyds xx 😘

This video is everything. I have wasted so many years trying to fit in, wondering why I don't have it all. Last year was my turning point I cut out anyone who wasn't good for me and decided to work on my own goals. I'm not exactly where I want to be but I'm getting closer everyday. Thank you for this video it means a lot to know that I'm not alone in how I have felt and how I'm feeling xx

This had me in tears. I am in a point in my life where I needed to be reminded of these affirmations. Your candor and positive attitude is incredibly refreshing. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

I was having such a crap day today, so glad I watched this. I genuinely feel better. Thank you Lydia

You can call it The Sit down series with Lydia!

Jealousy is very self-destructive, draining and takes a lot of energy.

In all honesty, this is my favorite video on youtube right now. Ive never seen another youtuber sit down and share real life advice and what you've actually gone through and I seriously loved it. I hope you do more of these because I really feel like the world needs an amazing role model like you.

You hit on exactly what drew me to your videos - the ability to elevate the ordinary and celebrate every day. It's a true gift and great message. keep it coming! ❤

This video was literally what i started to do since last year. As a 20 year old working student I achieved everything on my own. If i wanted a car or a holiday to Mexico or that stuart weizmans boots that you made me buy haha I WORKED hard. You just another person to me that showed me that hard work pays off! Keep working ladies, be positive and stay focused! xxxx

Lydia posts= drop everything!!

It's this simple Lydia: thank you for your dope vibes and your down to earth sit down chats. Continue to shine bright xx

Lydia, you have such a knack for being able to sit down and talk and make me feel like you are sitting across from me sipping tea. It is a very lovely and endearing quality along with seeing that you are so down to earth. It is so refreshing to see someone who finds joy in the small things in life and practices gratitude daily. I enjoy these chats and your videos are helping me get by as the world has shut down from the pandemic. Wishing and Ali all the best and hope you both are staying healthy in mind and spirit!

Chillin with Millen 🤓

Thank you for this video. Someone once said to me that if your ship doesn't come in, swim out to it. Stop expecting things to come to you. Working for it makes everything much more worthwhile. Control the things you can, and don't worry about the things you can't control, it's a waste of energy and positivity.

I love this! Such a great message for the ladies who watch this channel. I love how you inspire Lydia!

We need more of these videos from Lydia. I've been on the fence about her for a while and find her much more relatable when she openly shares in this way. I realize it's hard to be fully authentic on social media as negativity can make you retreat and not want to share, but this is likely some of her best stuff. I hope she finds the confidence and strength to do more of these.

I'm only a little but of the way through this video but, you are so unbelievably open with us guys it so lovely to see. Thank you for being so honest and stripped back darling..love ya doll xx

Really looking forward to this! #LEMChats, feels like just listening to a friend chat! x

This is one of the greatest video of yours Lydia! Thank you for being such a inspirational example for me! Maybe it sounds a bit too much but you really changed my life from the personal point of view. You taught me how to look at goods and precious things, how to spend money consciuosly and also how to enjoy life. I love watching your videos especially your vlogs. Please do more video like this chat! It makes me feel good!!! Kisses from Italy

hi Lydia i know this is an old video but love it, please do some more like this! xxx

Lydia I would love to see you do the draw my life or if you don't feel like drawing you can always do it without drawing. Just so we could get to know you more. Only if you're comfortable with it. So honored and proud to call myself your subscriber. Love you always.

Lydia, I subscribed to your channel a week ago, not because I love designer shoes/bags/clothes. TBH, I don't have designer shoes/bags/clothes in my wardrobe (well, I have a Coach wallet lol, does that count??) but because I see the similarities that we both share: workout, makeup, skincare, the way we save money, mindset and etc. I watch your shopping videos, I enjoy them, and then I go on with my life because I have different goals than yours. I too, have come a long way to where I am now. Honestly, having your own goals, staying positive and not comparing myself with others are what helped me get through the rock bottom 8 years ago. Keep up the good work Lydia!! xoxo

LOVE THIS!! i think your the most uplifting funny and inspiring youtuber ive found lately and i love your message behind this and how humble you are!!!

I keep coming back to this video when ever I need to reset my schedule and get back on track. This is so motivational. I wish there were more video's like this😭💜

OMGosh Lydia seriously I loved this video! Think this will be on repeat several times over today and these are type of vids that is a vid of service. I appreciate your beautiful, kindess, but now I can add to the list ...wisdom! Thanks so much for sharing your heart. So glad that you spoke of friendship and never being in competition with other people. Omgosh you had so many points! Okay so I vote DEFINITELY MORE OF THESE! Okay so what about Laidback Lydia or Relaxing w/ Lydia ???

This video should be required viewing for everyone! It is so refreshing to see a young person understand the merits of hard work...something that seems lost in this entitled generation. THANK YOU for this video!

Wow, wow, WOW!!!!! This is just exactly what i needed to hear😭🙌🏻 (i know its a year old but things like this never get old!) Love this just so much, thank you for sharing ❤️

I'm a stay at home Mom of four kids and we couldn't have more different lives but I do find so many similarities through your personality and style. Positive people attract other positive people in their lives. I REALLY related to you talking about how you appreciate the little joys in life and how you accept the the draw backs as well and move past them. You made this overwhelmed stay at home Mom have a brighter outlook on my day after watching this so keep doing what your doing Lydia ♥

Lydia Elise Millen You could call the series "Lydia's Life's lessons"

You are the best Lydia! This was exactly the pep talk i needed right now, thank you ❤

Probably one of the most brilliant videos you have ever done. Big CONGRATULATIONS!!!

I enjoyed this video immensely. I truly appreciate everything you mentioned in this chat. And I'm currently working on becoming a better version of myself and creating a future that I want, as cliche as that might sound. And we may not be able to afford the same things but that doesn't mean we can't relate to each other. All in all thank you for opening up.

You should name this series 'Just Lydia' because it's just that...Just Lydia! It's quite refreshing to see you open up like that rather inspirational too. Lyulots Lyds keep up the hard work! x

Beautiful Lydia, thank you for this wave of what I needed. I'm in this big dark tornado where I hate my office job for my city, it sucks, it's boring from monday to friday 9 to 5 I pay bills for the city. I so unhappy since 5 years now. So many people telling me nah you can't leave you have a job that pays you so do it and don't complain but it is depressing and a real burden that my health got affected with zona & anxiety. I have stability and nice pay checks but ugh I just can't anymore. I'm just a passionate, over the top like you, creative woman that lives for fashion & my famille. This year, I'll turn 27 and I decided that I'm gonna work my ass off to wake up every morning doing what I love dearly with my heart & soul. I don't care anymore about these negative comments on fashion industry. I'm just done pretending being ok because it might be a dream job for some, but NOT FOR ME. I'm gonna finish my University certificate and I will start the fashion business program I've been dreaming of for too long now. I am so excited and so happy to know that I can finally be who I am and do what I love, that it almost feel like a coming out you know I didn't want to disappoint my parents & hear people's degrading what I love the most. Finally .. when they realized where I was mentally, so tired and no more energy or motivation (which is anormal cause I'm an over the top girl) they finally understood that the government is not for every human being and they encouraged me on the path of MY happiness. All of this to say thank you for putting light in this dark not so dark anymore kind of place I was, since I watch you for a while and you helped me a lot through this even though you don't know me :) I can say that I love you cause you've been part of that process and I look up to positive hard worked women like you. Keep spreading love and joy around you, you can change people's lives without realizing!! I will start back my RU-vid channel I abandoned cause work took that motivation I had. I must be one in a thousands, but ya truly, thank you :) xx Sofia from Montreal/Canada : sofashion_mtl

I literally could have made this video myself but I can't tell you how good it feels sometimes to hear what you preach from the voice of someone else!! Thank you Lydia!

I'm old enough to be your mom. So with that said you are such a beautiful person from the inside out! Love your videos!!

Oh Lydia, you've uploaded this on the best possible day for me! Over the last couple of months I've just felt like I'm going backwards, and my (normally positive!) mindset has really been slipping; this was a fantastic reminder to stop feeling sorry for myself, and get back to making things happen! Also, just a side note - it's been amazing watching your channel grow over the last year, so well deserved!

I love the growth of your chanel. I think you are on a right path, and every video, I like you a bit more. Great job 💜

lydia your smile is contagious! I was feeling a bit down before watching this! however your smile and words has turned it around! a bit of an encouragement boost by you always helps! x

I really appreciate that you acknowledge mental illness as being a much deeper issue then just changing your mindset! A lot of people don't recognize the difficulty people face with just trying to stay positive when they struggle with mental health issues!

Love this Lydia! Your shining personality is beaming out of your face 😊❤ Gorgeous words to live by! I feel the same about appreciating every tiny thing, being grateful for the morning is something I love to practice I mutter a little mantra to myself every morning "health, hope & happiness" ✌🏽You inspire me ✨

The reason I keep coming back to your videos is because you have such a sincere way of delivering your content and I really feel like you are exactly the way you are in your videos as you are in real life. I've been watching youtubers for years and I've completely out grown all of the obvious faces because they keep delivering the same (quite frankly rubbish) content with no thought for growing with their audience! I truely love your sophisticated and thoughtful content and it's made me fall back in love with RU-vid! You go girl!

I am so grateful that I have come across your channel. Perfect timing as I am trying to pinpoint where I stand today as an interior designer who's just starting out, and for sure as a person. I have been binge watching your videos the second I discovered your channel. I know it's not the best anyone could ever do if they've got jobs or so. However, it was just what I needed. Your realness, positivity, enthusiasm, productivity, and creativity! I can't tell you how much it has helped me now. & Omg this videos! Perfect! I know you may not read this since it's been so long, but I truly want to Thank You Very Much Lydia. I wish you all the very best xx

You are just such an amazing person. So beautiful in every way, im completely in awe of you.

Wow. Thank you, perfect timing, I really needed this right now❤

It is amazing that you have learned to never compare yourself with anyone else, Lydia. That is one of the greatest life lessons that we can ever discover, for we will either look down on others or look down upon ourselves!

Lydia I'm not no one to often comment on videos as I'm awful at RU-vid BUT I just want to thank you for making this video. I love this dimension of you. Everything you said calls to me - thank you so much 💕

didn't realise how much I needed this, thank you

This is seriously the best video you ever made ! I really really enjoy those kind of inspiring videos and I think there's not enough of those on youtube ! Thank you so much Lydia for helping us with your experience in life ❤♥

🌼 This was the video that truly cemented my respect for you not just a professional RU-vidr who takes great pride in her work but as an ever evolving woman. I use this video as a pep-talk and resource when I need to get back on track with my goals. So appreciative that you went this route with motivational videos based in your experience. 🌺

I love your enthusiasm for small things and big things alike! It's something that I began doing when I started doing a gratitude diary - every night for the past 5 or 6 years I have written down 5 things that I'm grateful for that day and it's changed my mindset completely! Such a positive video - love it! 😘

Firstly, you can't pour from an empty cup. Second, If you don't think you're worth spending your own time to make " you" happy why do you think anyone would think you are worth spending their time to make you happy? People take a queue of how to treat you from how you treat yourself....period! Treat yourself well and people will treat you well.

Love your videos, especially longer ones 😙 "I PROTECT MY POSITIVITY" - need to make a t-shirt with that quote 😋

Love how genuine you are on the camera , also you have a beautiful smile x

Hi Lydia I'm 48 and I still need to remind myself of all these points you've discussed. I wish I was a wise as you at your age. Mind you im so ancient I don't think there was such a thing as social media at the time lol Brill video. Love you're channel and look forward to all your posts x

I love this so much

Love these sit down videos! I used to be so jealous of everyone with anything I didn't have. I have now learnt to appreciate those people and instead of being frustrated I don't have what they have, I set them as goals!

It’s nice to hear such a young woman understand what’s important and have such wisdom! Bravo. I’m old and love nice things, but they also don’t define me.

I really struggle with people who think they are 'entitled' to get what they want. Nothing gives easy, easy gives nothing - that's my motto xxx

Oh my goodness, Lydia, this was fantastic! Please make more videos like this. I couldn't agree more with what you shared. Going to be watching this one a few times just to make sure I'm fully absorbing everything. Comparison truly is the thief of joy, I fight the urge to compare myself to my grad school colleagues all the time. Grad school is a horrible environment for comparison, we all do it, but it makes us all miserable. Over the last year or so I've had to work really hard to stop comparing and my life is a lot happier because of it. Can't wait to see what other videos you do in this series, this was so relaxing to just sit back and hang out with you for a bit. :) xx

Found your videos yesterday and have watched/listened to several now. Thank you, love this one! My life is so full of negativity, a lot of it self inflicted. I'm much older than you, 60, and still trying to figure out some of this. Your amazing already, think of how amazing you will be at my age!!! Thank you for your inspiring words.

This is probably one of my favourite videos on RU-vid so far. So inspirational and motivational and just lovely to watch xxx

Truly get so excited when Lydia posts ❤❤❤

Just finished watching the whole video.. you're so beautiful in and out, i felt so much joy watching :)

I LOVE the natural feeling this video brings. I've always felt that you're different from most RU-vidrs because you show genuine happiness, honesty and humility. But now, these chats just seem to relax the tone even more and it's so obvious you love what you do and you don't ever mind showing us who you are. You have so much support on here and through social media, I'm sure you won't be able to see this but just know you have so much going for you!! 💛

Lydia this video really inspired me and made a change to my day today. I was in a bad mood this evening and you made me clear again that being a bad mood is somehow a waste of time. If there are things that can't be changed we have to accept them somehow. But everything else that we can influence lays in our hands. We decide if we make this work or not. I would LOVE to watch more videos like this. I think your channel is such a nice mixture! I love seeing you talk about handbags and seeing Lumi. And I also love you just sitting there and talking to us. You are such an inspiration! Hugs :-*

This video made me wanna get up superr early tomorrow and make a difference, even a tiny one!

I'm 19 and this video really did help. I had so many pals when I left school but know I hardly don't talk to no one, I don't have friends because I feel like no one likes me at all, as hard as I try to make friends I just can't, I look at other people friendships and I wish that was me. I focus more on life goals then friends and that's what I feel like I'm doing wrong. But amazing video Lydia really helped x

I love the fact that you are making these videos now, they show your qualities and they are inspiring and motivating. Well done!

I have to say I find this truly inspirational. I have recently quit my job which is making me very nervous but this blog has just reassured me that I am doing the right thing as I am not happy and need to make this change. Thanks Lydia xx

Thank you SO MUCH Lydia for this video ! Being myself a blogger and you tubber since ages (we were in Marrakech together in september with Clinique ;-), what you say here is very interesting and could actually be life changing for me. I'm not kidding. You are so mature for your young age (I allow myself to say that as I'm 20 years more than you ;-), I'm very impressed and admirative. Really, thank you for what you share here, you might have no idea how much it can touch peopele. Thanks again.

This has made me so happy. I am 61 with systemic lupus. I don't look 61and I don't look like I have a chronic illness and it bugs some people. Everything you speak on is so on point it sounds like it's coming from a sage. Shopping has always made me happy so I get it. You are a remarkable young woman. Stay happy and healthy.

This was a great talk! (and I usually get bored when you tubers post sit down talks.) The advice was real and grounded and really seemed like it came from your heart. Thanks!

Thanks for the advice Lydia, love your mindset and can realate to most of it. Would love to see more sit down and talk videos from you :) One of the best advice for anyone out there is for sure "comparison is a thief of joy" - we should only look at others' lives to admire them and get inspired to work on our own goals 👍🏼 Btw you look gorgeous as always, Ali is so lucky to have you in your life ☺️

I do not comment your videos but i do watch most of them and i i must admit... this one felt sooo geniuine and true, just as if i was listining to a friend,stay your true self Lydia, do not change xox

Stumbling upon this years later, but the words you speak are timeless- that’s what I love about your channel..so much more than handbags and shoes 💕

your channel has so much substance. its amazing how much you've grown, i cant wait to see how much you're going to grow in the future! your positivity and honesty is truly refreshing

I'm so down now in my life, I hope so that I will find my way back. Thank you for this video.💜

YOU ARE AMAZING. I LOVEEEE THIS VIDEO SO SO MUCH

THE BEST video of yours so far! Thank -you so much for this! Just the direction I needed. Please do a list of your make-up favourites or a make-up tutorial - you always look amazing!

Good for you Lydia! I started my RU-vid Channel last January and I'm always trying not to compare myself to others as this is my journey not theirs. I love you open ethos on life, really enjoying following you x

Your videos are so inspiring Lydia, you truly are an amazing person x

Great video Lydia! I'm a 40plus blogger (still learning and trying to grow) but your blog and RU-vid channel really do inspire me and spur me on to try and achieve great things. I feel it's harder for us older blogger but I'll keep on trying and one day may get brave and start my RU-vid channel!!!!

I've watched your videos here and there for a while now, and I've finally subscribed! So excited to be apart of your subscriber family ❤

I loved this, I really needed to hear this today. Non of the fake positivity rambling , just genuine and relatable advice. Do more like these, you came off super concise and realistic xoxo

Really enjoyed this babe xxx

You get out of life what you put into it. If you put nothing in, you get nothing out but that's with anything. Time will pass no matter if your sitting on your ass or if you're striving to make a better life for yourself. I like that you accomplished a lot in one year. I think everyone starting out should work their ass off and look back that first year and say, Wow, if I can do all that in a year think what I can accomplish in 5 yrs and set some goals. Don't let anyone slow you down or discourage you.

Absolutely FANTASTIC!!!!!! I went through a dark period in life at one point and "You JUST BE YOU!" Is what my Dad told me - so this really resonated with me..... and speaks to me even a couple of years later. Absolutely loved everything you said!!!!!!!

OMG, this couldn't have come at a better time! This is what I'm going thru right now, I could literally stay in bed all day for weeks because I keep comparing myself to others and how I've not achieved what I've wanted to by now. Knowing you've gone thru this and are finding you're happiness is starting to help me see I can still get it together and go forward. THANK YOU😘😘😘

I love sit downs with you! Lol I feel like your a big sister lol just giving me your honest advice/ guidance on life! I am so happy I came across your channel and appreciate you so much!!❤️❤️

You should call it "Life with Lydia"!

I like this setting for your chitchats! Thoroughly enjoyed this and really needed this today! tfs love