What a gift that you possess! To be SO real, SO articulate, and to be able to share SO deeply on here is such an attractive quality. Yes, I too first watched the "Older Men at Strip Clubs" video this morning.
Im in a similar spot. My mental health challenges have been developing for over a decade, but the past 2 years have been the worst so far. A few months ago I flipped my shit and was 5150'ed twice back-to-back. Ive tried a lot of different things, im very self-aware, and i still suffer every day. This shit is hard.
I am an older man but I feel I can understand you completely. Around 2007 my best friend died about 5-7 hours after I left his place after having dinner. he wanted me to stay and do some drugs another person was bringing over but I was not Interested and something in my guy just was at me to leave and quickly so I did to watch football at home drinking alone. I loved my football then and wanted to see and hear every word spoken so i did it alone. weird right? Anyways he died that night. it hit me like a ton of concrete had fallen on me. that set in motion for a decade and a half of severe mental illness. I'm just now feeling like I am and have began to recover + I came to have several health issues as well I have struggled with and I am alone. Anyways best of everything for you and everyone else who suffers. I want to make up for so much lost time in 2024. I have lived as a hermit for over 12 years. complete Opposite of who I am. I am going to be me once again and a whole lot better version of me. I used to be one of those judgmental assholes. i'm so ashamed. Big hugs and happy new years
I searched for the narcissism and trans correlation, that's how I found your videos. And they're good videos so I subscribed (also interesting to hear about other topics).
Sorry you had to suffer through your first boyfriend allowing that to happen to you.😢😢😢 can totally understand your lack of trust for others and your husband, thank you for sharing up your heart ❤️ and mind , really appreciate your openness sweetie. You are so smart the way your always trying to figure out your mental health issues dealing with 4 kids and a husband and running a home. The way you check off all the scenarios. You ❤️ do have a very big thread of sanity running through your core being. Keep sending messages cause i love how you human ❤️ you are ❤❤❤❤❤
I understand that you are not satisfied with your shape atm. But considering your videos you are a fighter, not a quitter. You are strong, I can feel that. Once the baby is born and you have all sorted out you will regain strength. Soon after you'll swivel yourself around the pole and do the pretzel stuff
My wife and i have been going through the same thing the last 3years , i will be sharing this video with her. She lost trust in me because i was talking to another person. And we definitely have lost intimacy since then. I have tried to regain the trust but like you said, that can be challenging.
Thanks for the update, just started watching videos this evening. Hope you pull through this, as we all Battle Trials from time to time. Don’t know I’m just bored and Medical Hypochondriac / Arm chair Psychologist studying and learning from People different perspective in Life. Being a Mother is a Blessing and giving that you gave your Husband 10-15+ Prime years it was a successful Marriage in my Book. Yes, some Women aren’t in Successful LTR and hang in their for Kids. Though what is Ideal Marriage, these Days. Had met a Couple on my Travels who married another Parent w Kids had Blended Families He had 2 kids, She had 3 found each other while working together. Only half way…
Okay from what I could gather watching a few Videos this Ventures on the Topic regarding Modern Day Struggles in Marriages. With Parental Expectations and Realities during different stages in Relationship’s over timeframes wants, needs, and cravings. No to mention Sexless Marriage that while reading a recent study had referenced that only 10-20% of Women have Sex 2+ times a Week, while most Marriages 1-2 Times a Month or 1-2 every 6 Months 60-80%. Emotional Attachment styles and getting enough Listening Intimacy, appreciation, Sexual release, Validation’s for one’s continued Tendering the Tinders in a Flame to keeps each other’s Love alive in Longterm Relationship. Yes, Mental and Physical Body Health play crucial roles in could be Linked to recent Rise in Divorces and people not willing to put in the effort with Partners. Though without therapy and Women speaking on Taboo Topics like this. How are Men supposed to Find out possible Solutions, since No Fault Divorce allows Women to Run away from a Marriage with the Kids causing more Harm and Displeasure to Men’s Mental States leading to Depression and as Failure to take care of the person they pledged to Love, Protect, and Honor.
Yeah. I think a lot of therapists understand how to deal with depression or anxiety, but anything more complicated, and they find themselves out of their depth very quickly.
@@oakleavesandonions771, it's not just that; I can't focus longer than 5 minutes and then I'm elsewhere like most people with ADHD, therapy requires the one thing that people with ADHD don't have, Focus!
@@markg9177 My knee jerk reaction was to be like, “Oh no! I can focus just fine.” And then I remembered every therapy session lmao 🤣 We were all over the place because I couldn’t concentrate to save my soul. I think that’s why she decided I must have bipolar lol
There’s a RU-vid channel called “healthy gamer gg” where he talks about why therapy fails people. I remember watching it years ago, and it was pretty good. I should probably rewatch it to see if I encountered the problems he described. But yeah, if you do a search on healthy gamer gg and “therapy doesn’t work” you should find some interesting stuff. (I’d leave a video link here, but I’m not sure if you’d get a link or just a block of text you can’t copy/paste.) Edit: Let’s see if this works. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-1xrKMSySQOQ.htmlsi=l4i3xVKTiqor9yV3
Hey. Thanks for the video. I just watched it. It was a lot better than I thought. But overall, I still didn’t hear something that I have observed about therapy. It is not about helping people. In the 21st century the primary function of therapy is public safety. The main job of the therapist is just to evaluate whether or not someone is a danger to themselves or others. Then, they intervene if necessary. Patients are not aware of it at all. When it comes to well-being and improving our lives, we have to do it on our own.
@BlackBoxOnlineRadio You might be right… I really haven’t been left with that impression. I do think many therapists try to help people who are struggling, and sometimes they’re even successful at it. However, I just found this video today ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-G2-p4A7Bl6s.htmlsi=j5ysDyT1jhZHegti “A Former Therapist's Critique of Psychotherapy: Daniel Mackler Speaks” on a channel that’s understandably called “Daniel Mackler” (I’ve never heard of his channel before today, but the video was interesting) he talks about the shortcomings of the modern therapeutic process, and concludes that most therapists just aren’t very good. Honestly, the points he raises line up very well with my own experiences. So many of these people want to help, but they aren’t open to making and accepting their own mistakes. There’s also a certain self-affirming grandiosity I’ve seen in a couple therapists now. “I’m a therapist. I know everything about the human psyche. I’m always right.” And they aren’t even close, and they’re not open minded enough to realize this. So therapy falls flat.
A therapist or a psychiatrist? Should have went to a psychiatrist..not to hurt anyone’s feelings but therapy sucks! I’ve done it on and off since I was a teen and nothing.
Read Roy Masters' How Your Mind Can Keep You Well. He saved my life when I was a boy. Meditation is freedom. Welcoming the world without judgement is your choice. Like exercise, choose to do cardio, just breathe. Roy has a good assessment of the medical establishment and how you can function properly. People tried telling me I was this and that when I was young. An uncle said I was an asshole because I meditated, put the Roy Masters techniques into place. My mother was the worst, still is... Recently, an Indian doctor told me to meditate and get off the meds on was on since my car accident. He was right.
Sometimes it’s hormones. Sometimes it’s just circumstances. Like, if really messed up stuff happens, there comes a point where it would actually be weird if you weren’t messed up over it.
Abuterol does the same thing to my wife. Makes her shake too. Sorry to hear 😞 you are still under the weather , so tough when you are pregnant 🤰. You sound horrible honey. 😢 and you say this an improvement! 😂
@@oakleavesandonions771 girl can't even imagine wanting to kill myself daily for 2 years , I think we all have suicidal thoughts that pass from time to time. Let's face facts Life is complicated and hard , you really encourage me to stay the course in my marriage, It's kinda of like you are driving on this long trip and tge weather gets nasty in spots and you slide off the road. You just want stay on the shoulder because if you go off the road you may not be able to get back. I was so happy you have a wonderful ❤️ Dr in your corner to get you helpful medication. 😊 totally get you needed to talk to your guy friend. I have sister in law and another lady who use to be my boss that I can talk with on big problems. Prayers for you feeling better soon and rest during your pregnancy. I am also praying for your ❤️ loving husband by your side. It almost brought me to tears 😢 when you had all that blood and you said there's was nobody else you wanted holing your hand 💞
Dude. It’s funny you say that right now. I took a bath last night, and I actually looked at my body and felt completely horrified by what I saw. Like, my rule for navigating pregnancy is, “Don’t think about what you look like. Don’t look in the mirror. Whatever is happening, you can deal with it when the pregnancy is over.” But last night, I looked down, saw myself, and just cried. Like, I get that no one looks too great when they’re pregnant, but I feel like every single thing I like about my body has been put on pause for 9 months, and I’m serving out some sort of body swap prison sentence. When I’m not pregnant, I can usually focus on my more masculine physical features and stay reasonably happy. Right now? Nope. It’s all a horror show.
@@oakleavesandonions771 Your masculine physical features? I don't want to split hairs but many women are also upset when they see the effects of pregnancy on their figures. You've had multiple pregnancies now which, at least in my mind, indicate that you value your role as a mother above your anxiety over losing your masculine physical features
@@annarboriter I value biological success. If I could hand this off to my husband and be like, “Here. You incubate the thing. I’m going back to work.” I would.
