More than a year on and owning my own truth STILL feels like an outer body experience at times ! Looking back I had allowed them to define almost every aspect of my being , my tastes , my beliefs , everything ! They have you believing that you would be nothing without them , but I am living proof that not only can you live , you can actually flourish , and THAT , my empathic comrades, is every narc's worst nightmare ! Although the world is a very difficult place at the moment ,..at least I have one less VERY BIG problem to deal with ! 🤨🤔😁🙏🙏
At times it feels like a part of my life was snatched from me. It used to feel like a vacuum, but it gets better with time. Thanks for all that you do Paula
Thanks for your genuine analysis. Yes. Looking back you wonder how we allowed ourselves to have been in the fog with a much lesser individual. However the awakening is the sweetest victory.
All of what you said is truly what I have experienced being with a narcissist. Their neediness, immaturity, and helplessness are exhausting. They get into relationships with people who are self-sufficient and responsible and then manipulate them to serve and protect their interests. It's mind-blowing how a person with no self at all takes the life out of a decent, loving, and kind person.
The narcissist is insatiable. No matter how you custom tailor the relationship to meet the narcissist’s needs, there will always be something you did or didn’t do that the narcissist will take offense with. This is usually something that takes your own needs into consideration. For this, the narcissist will find a way to harshly punish you. The narcissist wants complete control over you. They want 100 percent compliance and obedience from you, as they state they are bored with you and don’t care to meet your needs. The narcissist has a delusional, or unrealistic, view of relationships. They are the personification of the saying, “perfection is the enemy of good,” as they seek perfection in a relationship, and your best is never good enough.
Had a former friend (vulnerable narcissist) like this. On the second round of our friendship and she was living with me, I saw red flag after red flag and discarded her. I can only imagine the hell of a romantic “relationship” with any narcissist.
@@tanyatanya891 Having courted, married and divorced a narcissist, I can tell you what it is like to have one as a partner. One month into the courtship, he set me up and humiliated me in front of others. In the first year, there was emotional and physical abuse. In the second year, I was stood up (also known as silent treatments or disappearing acts) so many times that he must have had other primary supply and I was the secondary supply, although I thought we were exclusive. I had looked forward to spending Fourth of July together, only to be stood up. He later casually and unapologetically told me that he had gone to an amusement park with some friends. He told me that he wanted to break up many times, and when I finally agreed, he said that he wanted to stay together. We then got married. Being the narcissist's partner meant dealing with intermittent reinforcement, or the mean/sweet cycle, becoming isolated from my support system, focusing on the narcissist's needs while ignoring mine, gaslighting, blame-shifting, projection, lying, cheating, triangulation, disappearing, his refusal to work, physical and emotional abuse, flying monkeys (which could be affair partners), inability to have a rational conversation (also known as word salad or circular conversations), rage, abusive anger, stonewalling and constant criticism. It meant feeling like the parent of a delinquent child instead of an equal partner. The abuse and lack of safety in a narcissistic relationship increases in frequency and severity until the relationship ends.
Whilst you're with the narcissist you are reflecting back at them what they WANT to be , because you want so much to please them . When you leave or reject a narcissist you deny them that reflection , that fantasy , and all they are left with is a reflection of who they TRULY are ! It's like a performer where the audience has got bored of the show and has walked out ! HOW DARE YOU LEAVE !!!
The Big H: I like this analogy or point you made. I was so incredibly supportive of the Narcissist. I could hold my own, but I think I did reflect back all the things they want and wanted to be. I know other people didn't do that. In fact people who showed favor were pushed away or eventually discarded. In this particular scenario the performer got tired of performing and turned against the audience.
We just boost their fragile ego and they keep looking for other people who don't know any better. That is why educating is so important. Knowledge is power 💯 ❤️
They picked you because they want to look good by association. You have valuable traits/ abilities that they don't have. So you are important! They are empty shells who use traits from others to form some sort of a self.
Empaths are at the higher end of the consciousness scale...love peace joy. Narc are at the lowest end...hate/fear/greed. They try to drag you into their evil and hate.
This helped me understand that being ignored for so long and then blocked on everything and then the hoover text after with her new relationship thrown in my face was a show more than anything.
Yes -- It's true. He needed me much more than I needed him. I gave him social status & acceptability, prestige, normalcy. I threw him out and lost nothing -- He lost everything. As for "pain" -- I only feel hot anger -- I know my worth.
Thanks Paula for making these videos. I have been watching them diligently for over a week now. I glean a new nugget of wisdom with every single one! I was discarded by the narcissist last year in October. It's my final year in medical school - and he did it deliberately so that I would fail my exams. I didn't fail, but I have taken longer than usual to pass them. I can honestly say, I wish I'd never met him - but I'm beginning to feel better now after nearly 8 months post-discard
I’m sorry you had to go through this! ... you can use this experience to help others when they come to as their Doctor and tell you they are with a narcissist... wishing you healing ❤️
WOW, im only five months into a violent, cruel discard and when i see your comment i become inspired to just keep running towards freedom!🙏 Thank you and God bless you!
🎵 Welcome to the grand illusion, Step right up & see the con inside, pay the price, get your ticket for the show.....the stage is set, your heart is pounding wishing you were the star, but don't be fool by the gaslighting, the projection or triangulation. Your living someone else's fantasy. So if you think it's complete confusion because you never win the game. Just remember the next supply is the same as you, deep inside were all the same. Narcissism spells competition, join them for some blind ambition, Some day you will wonder, What on earth is this spell were under, we didn't make the grade and wondered just who in the hell we are. ...🎵 (apologies to Styx for the partial plagiarism. )
This Is It (Looney Tunes theme song) 🎵 Overture, curtain, lights This is it, the night of nights No more rehearsing and nursing a part We know every part by heart Overture, curtain, lights This is it, we'll hit the heights And oh what heights we'll hit On with the show this is it. 🎶
100% Agree! Outstanding content. I appreciate you and your time for making this video and producing it to others for guidance. You are a beautiful soul. thank you 🙏 and bless you for what you do each day. Empaths, Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️
Every thing you is so accurate, I've gone through every stage of the narc,which happens to be my husband. A long story short, I got to the point of total insanity to committing suicide but lived. I know now who he is, what he is,how EVERYTHING OUT OF HIS MOUTH IS A LIE!! Now I'm mentally on a road to recovery to sanity. I don't how I got to this point of realizing and having the knowledge of these evil people. I'm forced to have to still live with him. I'm a 62 year old woman, I'm on ssi disability which is not enough for me to survive. I have no living family, no friends, no car,nothing. So him seeing me waking up to knowing I know what he is and his mask has fallen off. On a daily basis he puts fear in me to be homeless and die in the streets alone. I show no fear and stand strong. But inside I do have fear,but don't show it. I go to God and say father God I'm your child I know everything will be OK. My eyes open up more and more everyday. It's mind blowing on such twisted evil. Thank you for your wonderful and accurate videos
You deserve to be at peace and have joy, its not your fault, you can't change enough to make them stop criticizing and as all the people on this channel having exactly the same experience, listen to Paula's talks and you will come through this with more strength, more wisdom, more faith, more courage as the gift we gained for going through being duped, and ignored while held in a no win relationnhship.. cuz to them, they are incabable of letting someone beat them. Its like a child who can't regulate emotions due to limbic system developmental disability. Love yourself and accept feeling the love from everyone here...
Most people, even ones working for organizations that claim to help abused women by bringing awareness to domestic violence, only see physical abuse as abuse. Emotional, mental and psychological abuse are forms of abuse as well. Shame on these people. Also they believe some and dismiss others when it comes to helping. Shame on them. They pick and choose according to who they like. Sometimes all that is needed is a listening ear, understanding, compassion and encouragement. That's too much to give for some people.
They are chameleons…from business man to cowboy to veteran to Harley motorcycle group…just depended on who he was with.. if it wasn’t so sad it would be comical
I have seen and heard, how they mirror other people’s phrases and sayings . Even how they say and deliver speech ‘this is how I can tall he’s impressed by someone. Usually to gain supply and cheat if he can. Validation
What an oxymoron. Being with the narcissist lifted him up in peoples eyes, yet people began to lose respect for me being with this type of sad person. They questioned my lack of judgement and self worth. I’m still very valuable to him even though I discarded him. Still recovering
I think my soon to be ex husband of 22 years was always obsessed with his childhood sweetheart. He left because he wouldn’t give up his emotional affair with her for the second time. I feel kind of lost still, but the pain I felt towards the end was unbelievable. I think the other woman is a Narcissist too, she’s on her 4th husband.
Brilliant basic groundwork , once again ! These exposing educational videos will be such valuable learning tools to anyone struggling with these mind- bending , truth twisting incideous creatures ! The GOOD news is that they ARE so predictable , and although still highly dangerous , you give us some great shields with which to defend ourselves !! They are NOT superior OR stronger than us , they do not control the truth or reality , they are just EXTREMELY good at manipulating and depleting us , and will try to save face at ANY cost . It's what can make them so pathetic , and yet do dangerous at the same time !! Deep down they think no one really likes them and that everyone will let them down . When we wake up and realize the con and start to pull away and empower ourselves they will often go on the attack , hut we must remember ...THOSE WHO SPREAD TOXICITY ONLY END UP POISONING THEMSELVES ! 🙏🙏❤️
🎯 mine told me who she was by telling me nd talking about us however in the end damn yo late I realized she was describing who she was as a person and all the horrible shit she done to others and went undetected however I was a a prey for a while however the best for me is remaining NC and letting her direct secret with me remain conceal while I bowe gracefully and allow her to devour otrs .. she wins however deep down I really won because I left n won’t be returning idc how much time in Btwn occurs
Before I knew who/what he really was, and while I was still living in a state of constant confusion, he told me "I need to have you around" not "I need YOU". Looking back I see that was true. He said many such revealing things. In hindsight those things are now confirmation for what I'm learning about narcissists & the terrible, horrible, awful experience of having had one in my life.
Its just so upsetting that I did nothing to her when I met her , I was nice, respectful, loving. In Return, she upfront Hated Me, Jealous of Me, and from Day 1, set Plans To Destroy and Divorce Me Intentionally! Her family are just as guilty, they had to know! They stood by and said Nothing and did NOTHING!
My mother hoovered me after 4 years no contact. I am proud of how I handled her attempted hoover. She sent a Xmas gift via FedEx. I immediately looked at the return address. Recognized it as hers and I ran out to the driver before he took off. I said "I don't want to accept this package". He told me I didn't have to and he accepted it back. In effect, I 😎 I gave myself a Christmas present of esteem by blocking her attempt. I will never ever allow her back into my life. My world slooowly righted itself when I went no contact and I will never let go of how precious that is. Peace. I love my peace.
I want you to know that I have stoped completely hating the Narcesest that was in my life. Everything you have said is true. Finding out what he really is made that happen. I have completed the final faze of getting over him. I have been finding myself really feeling joy again. It took along time but I know that I will have nothing to say to this creep again. It feels so good.! (FOOLED HIM) Finding out who he really is was the last piece of the puzzle for me. So anyone listening please believe me, you can get over them!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!😊
Good title reminds me of the song WELCOME TO THE GRAND ILLUSION To everyone out there I don’t regret getting divorced. If you are with a narc run🏃♀️🏃♂️ They lie cheat and steal and some will POSION you. 🏃♂️🏃♀️ Thank you Paula your videos are so accurate.
Well done! I don't know that I've listened to anyone who understands this as much as you do . Thank you for sharing your knowledge with people, I know there are many many abused who need to hear this stuff.
Yes.. they get you to put them first and you put your needs last.. and it's exhausting.. in any relationship.. this happens occasionally.. but in an narcissist one.. it's always about them.. Their issues - their problems - their depression.. etc.. After pulling away and getting out of it .. - you come back to yourself.. caring for yourself.. and it feels great to no have the weight of them on you... They suck you and your energy dry.. then cut you off when you become exhausted - go onto someone else then they try to come back.. they are always searching - never finding.. they are horrors and full of demons..
So so true. My ex was depressed and anxious, recently sober. Chronic pain. Housing problems. Family problems. Emotional ties to an ex. Money problems. I remember thinking he's 47 and he's got nothing to show for his life. Yet I was falling for the you wait you'll see what I can do for us when I'm back working. I earn brilliant money. It was exhausting.
God bless you . I love your voice it's so easy to listen to . and the way you teach resonates with me I binge watch all your videos and they have helped me more than you could ever know
Thank you 💕😊🙏 , SO much , Paula ❤️ It's only when you hear someone else explaining the arrogance and denial of the narcissist stubborn superior stance that we realize we are not going crazy , imagining things and that we are not alone 🙏♥️♥️
You give them life , you give them credibility , the more you interact with them believing that they are who they say you are the more they exist , the more powerful the construction is the more energy you're giving to the hologram .
He won't be back because he was given a narcissist injury. They are to blame for everything. I'm thankful he will never come back. Staying on my healing journey. 🙏
My father's motto on his coat of arms says "nosce te ipsum" which means "know thyself" in Latin. It helped me to not lose myself through the devaluation period. Even though my father is in heaven he left his words behind to guide me
I HAVE dealt with two types. One intellectual, other complete Dumkopf, but... still Satan filled. 1. Got in my head. Owned me. 2. Still got in, but different way. Altered my deep values, and .... altered me. Both, dangerous both gone and both... are going to answer to my Father in heaven! for anyone who does not get how dangerous this is..... DO THE WORK and keep watching videos like this.
Love your videos Paula, I’m glad you made it clear to say that the narcissist is an ACTOR. Just know we wait patiently for your next videos. Your next video should be “ What does LOVE mean to a narcissist” and why do they say it. Good day Paula.
I think it's true, it takes about half as long as you've been in this kind of relationship to start to recover from it. I was married 10 years & it took about 5 years to start to feel like myself again. I was a walking shell of a person for quite some time. I left the relationship when I looked in the mirror and didn't recognize myself anymore and absolutely didn't care what he said or did to me. He couldn't handle not being able to get any reaction from me anymore, because I literally had no fight left in me. He did try to re-enter my life, but the second he started trying to take over, I lost it and demanded he leave. I moved to another state, but within 2 months, he tracked me down so he could get my permission to marry a Catholic woman, and my permission was necessary for the marriage to proceed. I just begged him to be kind to her, but now see that he's no longer married, so she must've escaped as well. Needless to say, he must've been grooming her for a time before our divorce was final, he probably saw the writing on the wall & wanted to secure his new supply in short order - what a jerk! Anyway, I think he's a bitter, lonely man now - oh well...
One day...he snapped. It was sick. We made love, he asked if i felt good... I said yes...he asked how good...i told him. Next thing i knew, i got a bold ultimatum. (Something i had made very clear from the beginning was a solid boundary) He waited until he knew i was hooked. It ended. I hadn't cried that hard in over 20 years. I was devastated. He came back for 2 more years. I let him. But every time he did, we would be at war again within DAYS. I think he liked war. I finally ended it. He repulses me now. Hell return though. These people are SICK
I always wondered why he would get obsessed with new friends, it would last for a while and then he would have a new friend, now I know he needed to be like this to feel good, so really he must be insecure or just a user or both, whatever it is I will not feel sorry for him. I picture him dumping my 14 year boy back home after spending just 2 hours with him all week, then he sped off ignoring me begging to spend time with our boy, he sped off to his secret girlfriend and turned his phone off, and we are seperated but still married, monster he is, I will never forgive or forget what he did to my boy.
I'm married 10+ years to a narcissist. I never understood why he was like that, why I felt this way, and why it all felt so wrong at times. This is the first time in MY LIFE someone tells me I'm important! I hadn't realized I had lost my sight after being in the darkness for so long. God has been my only light, my only source of comfort and love, the only reason I breathe. Thank you for your videos and praying that your viewers may be blessed with them. I am blessed! Thank you!
You are also valuable as a human being -not only as supply or being an extension. You are your own person 🙂 Your value is Independent of the value your husband puts on you when he devalues you. It is only his faulthy perceptions and unrealistic expectations of you. God bless you and keep you safe 🙏💝🦋🌿
If I was so important to my ex. why did he treat me so badly? Doesn;t make sense. But I understand mental illness doesn;t make sense by its very nature. (Very interesting information)
Hey Paula and fam! Also check out: faith base work place narc free living the tea on bpd They have phenomenal channels diving into the spiritual aspect of narcissism and are in the same community as pink girl teaches. Those combined with Narccon have been huge in my healing!
My narc friend , charming, witty, brilliant and talented. During a conversation laughed at how she had ridiculed the size of a man's genitals while he was naked in front of her. This was a moment when the mask began to slip.
Hello dear Paula, and thank you so much for another timely and potent video. You may recall my ex-fiancé ghosted me, which was so cruel and difficult to recover from, then called me out of the blue 15 months later, which call I did not take nor return. That call was two months ago, and thankfully I haven’t heard from him again since. I do believe in my importance to him that you spoke about in this video, and I appreciate your affirming what I already believed to be true. It feels good to hear the truth of your message; it’s very validating, and I thank you for it. He used to tell me he loved me even more than he loved his ex-wife, who had passed away, so I know I was very important and he’s not forgotten me. Yes, what a trip it’s been. But alas, we can and DO heal. I’m just so thankful I had your teachings and guidance along the way. 💜 I look forward to the next video you mentioned you’re going to do on the supply chain. Thank you again, and hugs to you and Remy, as always! 💕
Great video , Paula ❤️❤️ I was wondering if you might consider doing a video about dealing with TWO narcs , and if any of your tribe have had the horrendous misfortune of two narcs conspiring together against them ? One is bad enough , but I think two would be like a living hell , but they must join forces occasionally ! 🤔🤨😭😭 Just an idea ,..keep the amazing empowering content flowing ❤️❤️🙏🙏
I was born into a family with 2 NARCISSIST PARENTS.....I had 5 SIBLINGS ALL Turned out to be NARCISSISTS... IWAS THE ONLY EMPATH IN THE FAMILY...ONE OF MY SIBLINGS told me a few years ago that she should have tried to KILL ME WHEN WE WERE KIDS...Our childhood was Horrific....I don't associate with any of them NOW IT was a VERY VERY DEEP WOUND TO HEAL...BUT I have emerged POWERFUL AND INTACT....
@@annamariehewitt3173 Amazing story of self salvation against almost impossible odds ! You should be SO proud of yourself , and it proves to us all , with enough education , self belief and determination it is never to late to pull ourselves out of and away from the madness 😁💗💗 To most people the words ' free spirit ' are just two little words ,..but to a wakened and reborn empath they become a revelation of joy beyond ANY OTHER WORDS 🙏🙏🙏
The narcissist is really like an actor playing a character. They are always pretending to be something they are not. They don't have any insight into how to deal with their own feelings and a lot of self loathing. They want the empathetic person to suffer their pain and shame. I agree that we can't give into their illusions or may be delusions. Keeping your boundaries and limiting your contact with these people is necessary for peace of mind.
They are game players. Don't play the games. Cut them off. They have a fake charming side...and evil side. Empaths are Authentic. Narcissist have no Authentic self.
I really doubt he will be back around anytime soon....i REALLY let him have it...all 4 barrels this time...narc injury for life...i waited until the intolerable happened..and we all have our different tolerance levels...but it was a sad day for him after i did a super nova on him via text....
as a German Biologist - I promote Inner Strength Training and Social Awareness - then you can make fun of the Vampyre - how bloody ridiculous they are. And offer to try a Bite on me...
It will be one year no contact for me on July 4th. Independence Day! Guess what? You're right, Paula. They are showing off that they're so happy with their new supply, but they will still find a way to mess with you! You know where I completely forgot to block him? On Google maps! I didn't even think of that! Because he's a long haul trucker, we always shared our location with each other on Google maps. I could see wherever he was in the U.S or Canada. He could see where I was too. Although... I will say, that often his location would be turned off for quite awhile, in the last 2 years out of 4. He always had an excuse, such as bad service area. Nope. I traveled with him so much in that semi. They have Garmen, Big Road, Google. Believe me, their locators work. I stopped sharing my location a week before the last time he discarded me. His was already off, and I knew what was coming. So. My Google notifications were to notify me that he had requested some of my photos to be taken down. I often contributed on Google reviews with photos from places we frequented while we were on the road. Restaurants, truck stops, semi washes, etc... These photos had both of us on them. He wanted them deleted bad enough to contact Google. Petty nonsense. Still angry are we? 🤣 It didn't hurt me like it would have months ago. Actually, I laughed. Whatever, Dude. 🥴 He's just trying to get a reaction. How ridiculous. But thank you, Booboo, for reminding me to block you on Google maps! I'm so glad you gave a shout out for Joy. She's wonderful. Like you are. Thank you for this video. I needed to hear it. ❤️
They want you to hold up their fake shallow nice side....once you see they are fake....now it injures them and they are angry. I no longer care what they think. It's their loss. They never have love to give....there is nothing an Empath can loose. It's giving up evil people that did evil to my life.
This clown (ex) have been decimating me for 30 years & still trying as I type this message 😂 I have not utter a word in 25 years. She's just a fart. She has used both my kids & they're out of my life for a long time. I had horrendous losses, betrayal, etc. I'm still here. Stronger, wiser. ..and EDUCATED on what narcissism. I've passed hating her. One big loser L. I'm living in a new country, idyllic coastal town. Unfortunately, she has been trying to contact my family overseas. That's another story.
Brilliant Paula iam still struggling 4 months down the line from separation with my narcissist she's gone silent and I've also gone no contact but yes it's difficult you have good days and bad days but trying break free from the thoughts about our life together over the last 20 years is so hard ...yes I loved her I absolutely adored her but she chose to start the discard and I started to look at signs I'd been seeing over the past few years things you suddenly think what was that all about but ignore them you go on to Google and bingo you find narcissistic personality disorder my god you've been living with one unknown for years ...to cut a long story short I put her out told her to her face I now knew what she was and yes she exploded into a narcissistic rage a very dangerous one at that I thought she was going to stab me at one point ...anyway we've been 4 months no contact but I've heard that iam the most horrible person on the planet the abuse she's had to put with from me over the years even our daughter is brainwashed by her lies and iam struggling to stay friends with her its just awful breaking my heart not seeing our grand children 💔 😢 iam desperately trying to free myself from the trauma bond its so hard and I struggle at times to cope with life I have good days and very bad days I must admit sometimes I just feel totally overcome with grief I loved her so much and struggle to try and forgive and forget...
My ex told me that he is ashamed of his former self, but is convinced he has changed due to his divorce and being responsible for his daughter. He called himself his second Version. He also said I might have not liked him for who he was in the past. But for 4 years only showed his better version to me so I sometimes wondered if it is real. Actually he knows that his behaviour causes every female to finally run away from him, but he tells himself they all are mentally insane and therefore could not stand a 'normal male'. So in his mind his only fault was to choose women who werent as strong as they claimed in the beginning. His first wife got a stroke while married to him with a young child. He pretends not to remeber anything of this marriage, even not the wedding Zeremonie. I never believed that but I always felt he is uncomfortable with this topic.
It took me a year to feel free of pain he didn’t want to leave because obviously he pay the bills But yes I felt very sick I thought I had thyroid cancer for many years, But I push my self up and got a job bought a car go out with my kid and just live …. Oh yes the silence it drove me crazy now he thinks he gonna fight me in court with those videos !!! Like lawyers don’t know they are the one ready to flip the phone on you .
When I've told him his bad sides openly he answered that he "doesn't like that somebody talk to him something"...and after all his lies and abuse I wasn't just somebody anybody but not nobody for sure. He was probably very surprised to hear that and that he wasn't on piedestal anymore. Then he made his last hoover manover. He put huge effort in promising and acting but also lieing and stealing what was some kind of punishment for me. How I dare to tell him that he wasn't good? Oh yeah...I've told him who he really is without mask(s).
Every time after the discard, I developed extremely quickly. Professional successes, physical successes. New friendships were made. It sounds strange but in some way their inhuman behavior helped me to grow. She did not change at all. She is the same person. I think even worse than before. And the most beautiful thing is when these individuals wonder why we grow and flourish without them. And they are extremely annoyed that we are not broken. What a sick life. Stay away from them. Go no contact. Enjoy life
Yep they need us to prop them up we’re preps and more than one way then you think. He said something to me about how I have no friends and I said no I don’t need people to prop me up .
My sister narc has come back. She has asked me to go to AA with her and help her. She keeps telling me she’s broke so I give her money. I love her but am scared what she will do. Years ago I told her about my sister in law stealing money from wedding cards. My other sisters wedding. This sister decided it was a good idea to steal from mums savings. She waited till I had an overnight stay at mums. This was years back. And she made my bed etc and stole the money. I got the blame for both thefts. I think she is dangerous and has no conscience. Those thefts affected my character status and regard in my family. And left me feeling guilt and shame for something I never did. That’s how they affect you. These selfish cruel evil creatures. No remorse no conscience. No pity. Nothing. They don’t bat an eyelid. Cool as a cucumber.
Mine did not call for 6 months but she hovered me ... also they are mad not worried about you . This made no moves to truly do what a real person would if they loved you . She only assaulted me or used me .. time and other things .. they do not change it does get worse .. and no co tact is awful too bc of trauma bond I gues . I assure you they have close to 300 and more supplies .. of all just sitting there waiting
It's a game... And if you're not careful their character traits rub off on you. You can't stay involved no matter how bad they make you feel for them. The mocking of your good character and attempt of steeling it. Is very creepy to watch. The longer your around them the more wicked energy you'll absorb. Fixing them is not an option✨🤍👑
Wow! I’m Obsessed with your RU-vid Chanel! I’ve never heard it broken down this way. So Practical and makes so much sense! Your Chanel is definitely helping me heal through this storm. You’re Awesome and thank you for helping us Empaths heal 🙏❤️🙏
Seven months post discard a close friend of mine (who also works with the Narcissist) tried to gaslight me about my experience. This friend was with me from day one, they knew every terrible thing that was done and said, and how it all played out... then my friend tried to imply that my experience and discard was all just a big misunderstanding because I didn't understand some simple things. This was so outside of who I knew my friend to be so I immediately asked, "Is that what "they" are saying about me?" Of course my friend denied it. Apparently the Narcissist and their associates NEVER speak of me. On the contrary I know for a fact that the Narcissist harasses former supply that have not blocked their personal accounts. Its usually very passive aggressive comments made through social media but with enough hints and dog whistles that you can make the connection. I've blocked the Narcissist but they let me know they still stalk my account regardless. As a result I've gone completely silent online- no supply. But why would a friend of mine suddenly try to reframe my entire story with the Narcissist? It obviously doesn't help me. It doesn't help our friendship. I do not see how it could serve my friend personally unless they are at a breaking point with their cognitive dissonance... the only person it really serves is the Narcissist. If it all was just some terribly sad misunderstanding with poor communication then they don't have to hold blame for their actions or words. After our conversation I realize my friend is not, and can not be "safe" after that attempt to gaslight me.
Your so called "friend " is a flying monkey to the narcissist. Same pretty much happened to me at my workplace. A family member to the narcissist boss made the statement that if she didn't do what the narc boss wanted outside of the office, she would suffer the wrath of the narc later. I mentioned later to my coworker about her statement and she said she never said that. I knew at that moment I couldn't trust her. No longer at that job and no contact with anyone there.
Hi Paula! I have to see my ex narcissist’s brother at work frequently. I am sure that all his family and friends knew about the betrayal that was happening behind my back. However, I feel bad for not acknowledging him at work. I have mixed feelings because one one hand they helped him with the abuse & on the other hand, they do not owe me anything. Still, I am disappointed that they could support such evil. Any advice?
Paula can you do a video about if the narcissist knows you know who they are and that you even told them they were a narcissist and you even told them about all the techniques they use in detail to manipulate and you werre on to them and that they were toxic and they discarded you in the end.., will they hoover?
Silence to them is abuse or a game .. they have no thought that you are hurt and have found out about all the massive cheating they did while they accused you of it so bad too were too tired to even get on a date app when we no contact . But I did withdraw and I did find the app , bc I was going to move on .. no I gotta heal from knowing the narc created that app a year before I found it .
Wow that was powerful I truly enjoyed listening to this vid as it gave me a sense of hope in that I can get my power bak and that Iam not the failed one
Why do i feel like this video was made just for me? Because these creatures are all the same. They are like a hamburger from a chain fast food. Where did they all get their training?? .....from hell.
Besides the channels you recommanded, Paula I have found much help from listening to the little Shaman, so would like to mention her in case someone might want to check out her Channel. The last one of hers I listened to (for the second time) is about the egotrap (“narcissists and the ego trap”) and it is about the ego in the one who has a relationship with a narcissist. Very interesting. Thank you for sharing your insight, Paula 🙏🙂💝🦋
