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I am glad that there is someone like you out there ! These days contents are all about views no matter what if they are not real. Beside people who do non-sense stuffs to "irritate" other curiosities , there others who create things which they think nobody will know the truth ! Thank you !
@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan, you can never know what other people are thinking. It's impossible. So why try with your mind? Their thoughts are not your thoughts so you don't have to think negatively about yourself. It does you no good to think other people are negatively thinking about you.
Currently living in Japan and in an international marriage with a Japanese man myself and I wanted to say thank you so much for your mature and No BS videos! I have had a lot of friends sending me some clips of these street interviews lately making comments like “Wow, I didn’t know this about Japan / Japanese people!” They often ask me if it’s true as well, as if I’m some kind of expert just by living here. 😅 They definitely don’t realise that the street interview genre on the whole is always highly edited and the interviewers are only going to select the answers that fit the narrative they want for their video. I’m going to be sending your videos in response to these messages from now on! As for my own personal experience - I’ve known and still know Japanese people who have cheated or been cheated on and it is absolutely not simply shrugged off by their friends and family. In one example, a married couple in our immediate circle of friends separated because one of them was caught cheating. Once we all found out, most of us stopped hanging out with or speaking to the cheating spouse. Like you said in your video, Japanese won’t say to your face that they’re disappointed in you - but they’ll for sure let you know through their actions.
Doesn't matter if they edit it or not. Street interview as a form of gaining information on society is flawed from the start. It's 5 minutes thinking to figure out why, but apparently most people don't think.
As someone who lived in Japan for 14 years (and married a Japanese woman), these street interviews are likely not representative of the populace at large.
Exactly, I find myself jumping into the comments section of those channels trying to explain to people that these are hand-picked interviews or extreme cases.
I only lived there for half that but I found that Japanese people were all... people: Glorious. Terrible. Selfish. Kind. Faithful. Slutty. But most all of this stuff is aimed at RU-vid weebs and Manosphere dorks who think Anime = Japan. They're not going to accept that life in Japan is going to be pretty much the same dull repetitive experience as it is back home
I'm American. My sister and her husband were both cheated on by their previous partners. My friend got cheated on a couple times. Yeah, cheating happens everywhere. It sucks. The street interviews about the cheating being common and the high body counts made me think I was looking at it wrong. Maybe it's not a big deal. No. It is a big deal. When you spend time with someone it is a big part of your life. If you find out they cheat and you break up, all of that time you spent was wasted. That would make anyone angry.
To be honest, I think it is only a big deal because we are taught to perceive it as a big deal. There have been tons of studies conducted on this matter. From a scientific, biological point of view, it is probably the most normal thing on earth, we can't simply accept it. I sometimes think about it this way: How would we think about cheating if the society didn't teach us that cheating is a bad thing? Would we be more relaxed? Could we deal with it better instead of getting mental breakdowns?
Thank you for clarifying Asagi. These street interviews musrepresent the reality of Japan rooted in social culture (tatemae) and historical changes (Kamakura and Edo periods). Even now the situation is complex and ever-changing. Love your channel and hope you accomplish awesome things this year❤️👏👏
Great job that you tackle that misinformation. I saw those videos and I was like "lol no way that's true". I am traveling to Japan for the first time ever this month. I am so excited!
You brought up a great point. Not thinking it is cheating and being okay with it are two different things. I moved to Japan a couple of years ago and my girlfriend is one of those people that doesn't consider it cheating. But when I explained that I did think it was cheating and had no interest in going, she was extremely happy. She said that while it may not be cheating, if the man doesn't go he seems more respectable and it's easier to build a strong relationship.
The statement might also be related to the fact that the word "浮気" (infidelity) in Japanese differs from the word "cheating" in English. The character "気" in 浮気 refers to the mind or spirit. Some might say, "Going to an 風俗 may not be considered cheating, but I would never date a man who goes there, and I dislike them intensely." I am a Japanese man, and most of my friends do not visit such places.
@@AnimeCriticalIn Japanese, "uwaki" (infidelity) often means having one’s heart stolen by another person of the opposite sex. (This isn’t the exact definition, but it’s how many young people define it.) On the other hand, the English word "cheating" tends to focus more on the act itself. I’m married and have a wife, and if she went to a female 風俗 service just out of curiosity, I wouldn’t consider that uwaki. However, if she chose one person and kept going back to see them repeatedly, then I would consider that uwaki. That said, whether it’s considered cheating, uwaki or not, I would be extremely upset, and if she went even once, I would probably consider divorce.
We here in the USA are fighting the same battles. This video is refreshing and encouraging; I've been studying everything I can that is Japanese, for several weeks now. This video was a great help.
The interviews arent " Fake ". the only problem with the interviews is they are interviewing in places where the " Cool Kids " hang out so all of the responses are going to be reactive. At the same time these are the places that the people watching those videos will be going when they visit japan: shibuya , roppongi, shinjuku, osaka. i personally think they arent that bad if you already know that these certain areas are going to have more open people.
I wholly agree. Still, you can't dismiss those people either. Like it or not, those "cool kids" are part of Japanese society. Those interviews have value.
You’re absolutely right. Street interviews as a genre are extremely edited as well. For the most part, the creator is only going to use answers that fit the narrative they want for their video. They’re not going to use short, contradictory or “average” answers because those aren’t the responses that generate clicks and comments on a video. There are some unbiased, honest street interview channels out there where people do post all answers across the spectrum but they’re maddeningly hard to find.
I am 34 and I am from England. I have had the same girlfriend since I was 16. I have friends who have cheated on many of their GF's over those years. I think cheating is an independent choice thing. Loyalty is very important to me. Whether you are a friend/family or partner.
Most of these interviews are heavily edited and influenced. Not just japan related. The internet if full of videos like "americans are dumb" or "gen Z doesn't understand rock music" and the likes. These never give an honest representation of the topic, but work with extreme opinions, mostly as clickbait. What is important to know 1: these usually happen at places where the interviewer can expect extreme answers. Want to show that _young people_ are irresponsible? Go to a campus on the party week! (campus on a party week =/= young people) Want to show the population is conservative? Ask questions in front of a Kentucky church! (the crowd at a mass on sunday =/= the population) 2: the middle ground answers are usually edited out. It can happen that the majority of the interviews are not even used, only those selected few which support the message, and are clickbait-y enough. 3: very often the interviewers asks leading questions, which are cut out. Like, telling alternative viewpoints on topic, persuading the "victim" for minutes, before asking the question. THe leadup doesn't make it into the interview, only the actual question. Having said that! I cannot agree with "I don't think there's any way you can avoid cheating 100%" What the hell? It is definietly avoidable. Either fix your original relationship (so that cheating doesn't make sense anymore), or break up before cheating.
Most, over 90% of street interviews are fake and make me sick, and I don't watch those type of videos. They lack substance, research, and good amount of preparedness. They just go to the "best" and "populated" spots like Shibuya, Roppongi, Shinjuku, etc to get opinions very quickly.
I wouldn't necessarily call the interviews fake, but the interviewer lot of the time seems to have leading questions that make most of those people at the end say something like cheating being okay.. And should also note that almost always the people on the video are ones who are still in university so the marriage or any serious dating usually is out of the picture for another 5 years at least so they might not even understand the realities yet.
The Japanese government should crack down on these RU-vidrs as soon as possible by establishing laws. Just like Trump tried to regulate fake news on social media
Haha, I mostly agree with her opinion, but as a young Japanese man, I'll add a few things. 1. "Do you want to date a foreign man?" "Hmm, yes!" This answer given by many Japanese women is also likely to be Tatemae. 😂 They say they are interested in dating foreigners, but they have no intention of studying English. 2. In addition, many young girls today consider love and marriage to be different things. What Japanese women look for in a man to marry is not love, height, or muscles. First of all, cleanliness, income, and Profession. Then, education and height. They may have the desire to date a foreign man at least once. But when they think about marriage, how likely is it that your Japanese girlfriend will choose you as her final partner? :) 3. "Prostitution is not cheating." Now, what do you think when you hear Japanese women say this? Do you think it's a simple remnant of patriarchy? I'll tell you the hidden message in this. On the other hand, it also means that "women working in brothels are not cheating, so even if they get a boyfriend, they intend to work secretly." Are you confident that you can tell that your girlfriend is not a prostitute? Other messages include "I don't want to be a permanent sexual partner after marriage, so please find other women to be with me instead." After I give birth to a child, I will "stop being a woman and become a mother," so you "stop being a man and become an ATM." This is why the rate of sexlessness in Japan is so high. From here on, as you all know, they are expected to work hard like Japanese men. Please remember that I said that "Japanese women want their spouses to have a Profession and income."
I am a Japanese American and I really only know 4 Japanese women who resides in Japan. 3 out of the 4 are cheating or have cheated. They have admitted that to me. They were all really nice women. I would have never guessed
I would heavily consider their ages, where they live, and what their hobbies are. For example, if they’re all in their 20’s, live in Tokyo, and often enjoy the nightlife, then I wouldn’t consider those women as indicative of Japanese women as a whole.
@@beijingbikinibottom I mean, he said "really nice women", so presumably they don't seem like the "cheat at a nightclub" type. And so what does that mean? So the test is, if you find similar Americans, in age, social status, income, education, etc, how many of those would answer street interviews with "I don't think my boyfriend paying a hooker is cheating" or "A cheater? that's me!" The asymmetry means that the default assumption should be that the actual cheating is also asymmetrical. If you want to argue otherwise, the burden of proof is on you. If you want to argue that the different cultures have different ways of expressing themselves, and that somehow doesn't influence the rates, then the burden of proof is on you. If there's no data, you can't just say "no data, therefore we assume cheating rates must be equal despite street interviews and personal experience not seeming equal". That's not the rational conclusion. That's copium, just like this video, no offense.
One wonders why you personally attract and become friends with this type of person. If we look at published papers studying infidelity, the rate in the US is slightly higher (21%) vs Japan (under 20%). So statistically, you would be more likely to know an American that is unfaithful than a Japanese person. South Korea's rate of infidelity is over 50%. So seems like an issue with the type of person you are to be in a social circle of adulterers than a reflection on the country.
@@lekhakaananta5864 The number of people on street interviews who would answer however you want depends on how much you want to edit your video. Otherwise, based on street interview videos, the average American can't even name a woman.
Aba and Preach made a retraction video on their JP street interview video in the past. basically, "Yeah we shoulda known better, they do the same disingenuous stuff in the US and Canada" Your videos are changing minds and clearing misconceptions
@@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan I don't know why people think Japanese people cheat the most. Like the US has an epidemic of fathers finding out their kids aren't theirs after some medical emergency needing blood tests, with some states requiring blood tests now to sign birth certificates. I may have been a weeb as a teen but never thought these stereotypes were true, but all these "normal" people seem to think Japan is this strange bizzarro land. Its embarrassing.
@@durandus676aba and preach are the two of the most dumb human being I've came across on youtube. They pick any controversial video and comments without understanding the context. Their intellect is limited to making random statements Watchung a clip
Those street interviews are just showing a side of Japan that we rarely see reported by its very same society, part of that culture of concealing things that can disturb society as a whole, but that doesn’t mean the problems aren’t there.
Define rarely... These interviews are a dime a dozen and far larger than any innocuous videos exploring the countryside in Japan. This mindset that you are seeing the "secret underbelly" of Japan is flat wrong. You are seeing humans being humans, of which they are the same everywhere to some degree. It's your own fault if you didn't know what humans are capable of and thought geographic region defined that.
I lived in Japan for 8 years have a japanese wife and 2 kids with dual citizenship USA/Japan. And overall cheating is relatively common for women and men. And almost all japanese women I spoke with considered being with a prostitute not ideal but if there was no emotional connection then NOT cheating. DO NOT let others know about the affair so as to not shame your wife/husband. And obviously do not get some disease. That is pretty much it. It is humorous how many "experts" on here claiming anything else.
I noticed that after takeshi, many people started too with the street interview content, and its most of the time the same 4-5 topics they use to generate views.
I love Japanese interviews because I’m teaching myself Japanese and I want to visit/move there sometime but I am really glad you covered this topic. When I saw the interview in reference, I was so shocked!
Lmao, exactly. I hate those street interviews. It's only watched by people who want to believe that drama though. A person with normal brain will naturally understand that cheating happens everywhere and it's not common more elsewhere. I have been with a Japanese man for years, he is the most honest and loyal man I have ever met. Was dating non Japanese guys before, I got always cheated on. So now my Japanese partner fights hard to help me get over the trauma that people he has nothing in common with did to me. I know as part of my healing process I had to block all of these street interviewer and completely stop watching them so my brain won't be biased exactly because of my past experiences. I'm glad youtubers like you are still here to help me fix my point of view.
If memory serves me right, I think Meshida San shared a survey from a Japanese condom company about countries with the most cheating partners. Japan was not in the top 10. Although he also makes videos about cheating, a lot.
@@kevinreily2529nope! All the data points to the rates in America being similar to Japan, with white Americans cheating slightly less (iirc around 21%) and blacks higher maybe around that 25-26% mark. America is another country where bad news only gets reported. For example we're apparently dumb... but white American school kids test scores are on par with Japanese school kids. From a white American perspective the Japanese are definitely a bit more lax about cheating but it's gonna depend on the person and community. Same with America, attitudes in Idaho gonna be different from NYC.
He did do that I came across him before this channel. Yeah he does talk about cheating which can give wrong misconception about Japanese but is something to be aware of
I’m glad you made this video. These street interview RU-vidrs have so many subscribers. It’s like they can lead the people to say the answers to say what is funny and not true. It’s like they are making money selling out their own country. I guess it happens everywhere to get clout. I don’t watch them anymore because i know how it’s going to go. Thanks Asiago, hope family.
I think what bothered most people about these videos was not the fact that Japanese people cheat. Of course they do and there was no evidence in the video to suggest Japanese people cheat more than other cultures. Of course select interviews were edited and omitted to convey a certain narrative for clicks/views. That’s obvious. What was troublesome was the way almost everyone in the video would giggle and laugh - whether they were the cheaters or were cheated on, they all giggled. There was no feeling of regret, sadness, melancholy, etc. It almost made it seem trivial, but I think this highlights the differences in culture when it comes to showing genuine emotions. That’s my take.
Trust doesn’t come from communication. Trust come from giving values to each other. You don’t bring values your partner will cheat when chances come. You can call him out but nothing will change
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As far as Taka’s interview, I don’t think it’s fake but it’s also not a representation of the whole country. If you really don’t understand Japanese culture or know anything about it, as a foreigner you’d definitely frown on Japanese saying it’s OK . I once asked a Japanese friend about it before like back in 2019 out of curiosity. He implied that if it just s*x without emotion involved it’s not counted as cheating. As long as it’s clear for both parties, he’s exact words were”it’s like sports.” 🤯 But of course they won’t let their partners know. I couldn’t comprehend back then but as I get to know more about Japanese culture I begin to understand where they are coming from. Also, even in Korea (older generation) wives give their husbands money to go to club to have s*x. My former Korean boss told me. 🤯
Even after considering the points in this video, it sounds like the "misconceptions" still have some fundamental truth to them though. For example, the last point was basically a concession. There's a test you could do. Can you flip it around and find content creators getting these answers on the street in America? I'm haven't seen any street interviews in the US where people say they know so many cheaters, or admit they themselves are cheaters, and then say that if their BF finds a hooker they wouldn't consider it cheating. And using Tatemae doesn't explain away the misconception entirely. Yes, it is possible that cheating rates are similar everywhere, and Japanese culture simply reacts to questions about it differently. But that is only one way of thinking about it! It could be that the reactions of people around you influence the prevalence of cheating. People react to incentives and fears. As an illustration, if people know their friends would be openly hostile knowing you're a cheater, then more people are going to convince themselves to not cheat, as opposed to thinking that the worst consequences you'll see is that your friends talk shit behind your back and maybe slowly stop hanging out with you. That's just an example for illustration. The real point is that if an entire cultural environment is different, the aggregate can have some bigger effect. The burden of proof would be up to the side claiming that Tatemae doesn't have an effect on cheating rates, because the simple Occam's razor option is that a cultural bias in hiding hostility should have an influence on how people make their decisions, when they weigh their pros and cons. If people think they face less consequences of cheating, or any other crime, I realistically expect the rates for those things to go up.
The story about prostitution in Japan and the fact than married men who go to prostitution and women have no choice to accept this is common to many country.
Maybe they wouldn't have to if their wife gave seks often. One thing asagi isn't addressing is that many women in Japan stop having seks after marriage and children. Of course, this isn't unique to Japan, but it's very common.
@@pekkapihlava4434 That's only some of the marriages though. Even if you find suitable partner, the life in bedroom will eventually slow down or stop completely for most couples which in turn can lead to the unhappy marriage if one has higher expectation than the other.
@@frorasu3949 This is so ignornant. What do men do to put the intimacy back into the marrigae? Why would a parent place themselves before a child? Men are so jealous of the attention their own children get that they make up so many excuses to justify being community D.
@@touma-san91 That can go for the entire relationship you start to fight more, you change, etc etc. Also there is some couples that have awesome bedroom time but soon as they're done they fight like cats and dogs. Only thing I can say is all relationships are work, but like any work you do the investment pays off of long-term.
Ashley Madison ranks Canada as its top country for users. Japan isn't even in the top ten. If we're looking for countries in which cheating culture is more readily apparent, Japan pales in comparison to Australia, the U.K., Colombia, Mexico, Hong Kong, the U.S. Portugal, etc..
A few things, Ashley Madison is an English website it makes sense that Japanese people wouldn't use it. Second it's technically illegal to cheat in Japan and you can be sued for it. I'm sure this makes it less likely that people sign up and willing put their name out there.
@@KeithMorgado The interesting thing is that AM does have a Japanese user base. I remember seeing it advertised there....with a misspelled website 'arnadison' I think it's been corrected now. As youmight know, adultery is also punishable by extreme measures in some muslim majority countries...which also have AM user bases. Do you recall when AM's database got breached about 10 years ago? Many users in S.Arabia of all places were in a bit of a panic according to my students from the middle east.
Man the amount of passport bros posts referencing these street interviews is horrendous. Thanks for actually shining a light on how inaccurate they are
After watching your video I think that these are not really misconceptions but the way you said it make it seem to me that these points are somewhat correct. Im older than you and I have never experienced cheating in my life. I heard once about a friend who did it and I was pretty shocked. To me it's unthinkable. However this depends a lot on the country. The US might be very different.
Live in Osaka and have made lots of friends in and out of work over the last 4 years. Most of them cheat and are quite open about it. Age ranging from university age to my coworker who has been married most of his life and is almost 60 years old… Maybe it’s just as common in America but I’ve never met so many people openly admit it until I came here.
Their channel name is pronounced "Aba and Preach" not "A.B.A and Preach" ^^ I agree with you for the most part, you even showed people the examples of Japanese society shawning cheaters in severe manners. One interesting thing though, we would all presume prostitution is for single men however it seems the sex industry in Japan is declining and people are actually having less sex. This phenomenon is not just limited to Japan, herbivore men as it's called there. Men in modern societies are simply opting out of relationships and sex all together and this will only get worse in the future, because nobody is willing to tackle the underlying issues. Additionally in Japan work culture seems to be a big part of the problem. I often wonder if something could radically change the situation because otherwise this phenomenon will only continue to snowball in the future.
I will also point out some other historical things just to make things even more complicated. In the Heian Period which preceded the Kamakura Period and was the first "golden age" whose culture defined Japan for centuries, there was also a lot of cheating. However, it's also clear that cheating was something they frowned upon. Both men and women could have their reputations ruined if they got caught cheating or even just sleeping around, and in aristocratic circles one's reputation was the most important thing anyone could have. I also want to just slightly push back on the belief that women were considered "unclean." While that is actually true, and historical Japan was a very male dominated society, girls were seen as very valuable for at least two reasons. 1. They were a family's ticket to a better life. It was fairly hard for a man to move up the social ladder and earn a better life for himself and his kin, but women could be married into a higher ranking family much more easily and thus, the Heian nobility took great care of their girls. It's admittedly a little mercenary but the fact remains women were considered highly valuable. 2. When it came to the leaders of the great shrines at Ise and Kamo, only a woman, specifically an imperial princess, was allowed to officiate as the main priest, or rather priestess, of these shrines. To say nothing of the role that girls play as shrine maidens. Just some extra thoughts to add to highlight that yes, these kinds of topics are indeed very complicated.
I think it is pretty rare simply because people are busy and, once out of our teens, we are simply not that motivated to just get nookie. This is in addition to the obvious risks and negative feelings one would have. I've lived in Japan for over 30 years.
Its interesting how different prostitution can be perceived depending on the circumstances. I know of several groups of foreign workers where their wives back home budget in the need of their husbands to go to prostitutes. They actually wanted them to go because they were concerned that them being alone and not getting any action may make them prone to look for a gf and maybe even leave the wife and kids.
Thsoe women self esteem and worth are beneathe their feet. Ain't no way that i will budget for a man to be use our household money for "fun". Either he is selling community D and sending back the money or he can move in with whoever garden tool he is slumming with.
As a very sad example, I'm Brazilian and under my personal experience, cheating happens quite a lot around here and it must be the same in the western world. My grandpa has been cheating on grandma for their entire marriage and she knows it, but doesn't leave probably because of a severe lack of self esteem. Recently, it came to my knowledge that my father isn't actually my biological father, so one more cheater in this personal experience, my mother. Recently I've found myself on a really tough and sad moment in life 'cause my ex girlfriend (been with her for 3.5y) cheated on me as well. I really don't think we are better than Japanese society in that regard.
I think that a lot of the girls and women who replied prostitution is not cheating is because they are or at one time were prostitutes themselves, many when they also had boyfriends. Prostitution is sooooo common among women in Japan when they are young. Even if it is not a formal brothel, there is so much "sugar daddying" and "compensated dating". I have personally dated many Japanese women that has this experience. No I was not "using their services" when I met them.
This is why I don’t trust surveys in general, the majority of people aren’t interested in taking them and this is even more true for something like a street interview with your face exposed. It takes a certain kind of person to say yes to those interviews, not necessarily in a bad way, but they don’t represent most kinds of people you’ll meet in daily life.
🤣This also happens among the passport bro sphere in the philippines...they go to philippines and make an interview to make it appear that Vast majority of Filipinas want Foreigners and don't date their Local men... One Western Expat even claim that Western men are rock stars in the philippines.... And this same expat Vlogger end up with a Single mom Filipina...
In a society where people seek "romance" and "dating" that's gonna be hard. The moment the relationship is challenged by hardship, people will second-guess themselves and assume their partner is not "the one". They'd think to search again because it's easy with all the social media and dating apps. The only places where marriage is still sacred is in religious countries.
Im happy being single I guess its better than wasting my time on dishonest people and their unnecessary bullsh*t which will only make my life more miserable
I was in Tokyo for awhile, and I from my time there I can say that Japanese people in general are very proper and conservative compared to my home country. I could never believe a video that says they cheat more, or that they accept cheating as okay. It just doesn't track with my daily experience there.
My ex was very good at pretending to be meek while not being so. Won't go into detail, but she was living with a man while dating me. Women are not trustworthy in any country, and Japan is no exception. There are no guardrails left in Japan for limiting the selfish behavior of women. Maybe Japan is not the worst, but I'd say Thailand is pretty bad. Cheating is kinda expected in Japan. I once had a engagement ring on my finger and some girls flirted with me and one of them wanted to be in my harem. Joke or not... I found the concept disgusting, and this was in 2005-2006. But knowing what I know about women now, I probably should have taken advantage (except for STD risk, drama risk, chance that she's crazy, chance that she has baby rabies and want a haafu - never know), because I know my Thai ex-gf would have. I am not saying the average person in Japan is definitely worse than Westerners, but that doesn't say much. Japan has no guardrails left. A woman could be a yamato nadeshiko and end up as a hostess-prostitute in Tokyo because she doesn't wanna work at 7-11 and earn 1000 JPY per hour, which is somewhat understandable. Prostitution is probably way worse now with the economic downtown.
@@fjorddenierbear4832 Don't lose hope man. I'm from Indonesia, and women here are (relatively) sane. Cheating is rare. All because the people are religious. Yep. Their piousness is far from perfect, but at least it's at an enough level to maintain a respectable society. I hope the west and Japan can regain their old values and fix these filths from their society.
@fjorddenierbear4832 The allure to the money is the reason and not a disregard for values. They genuinely convince themselves that it is just a job and ingrain that into their mind. It's a defense mechanism. Japan's government is directly responsible for the lack of opportunities leading to young men and women feeling this is the only way to make a livable wage without becoming a サラリーマン. In fact with the advent of things like Fantia, OF, etc etc... it's becoming a worldwide problem.
@@Haunt888 A lot of observations about Japan stop at the surface level like that. Even in that context, heading to places like Osaka in the evening where people are more relaxed will show the externally "prim and proper" thing can vary.
4:17 So, people are talking behind the back to avoid confrontation. Cowardness is an international problem, not just Japan. I live in Germany, my family is from Lithuania, i traveled through many European and Asian countries, often Mongolia or Siberia and people like to void confrontation everywhere, because it is easier. People are like water, taking the path of least resistance.
I really dislike those videos as they give westerners false expectations about Japanese. These RU-vidrs only pick the ones that them the most unusual answers. When they ask the golden question ''so would you date a foreigner'' they say yes most of the time but in reality it isn't true. Many have had the thought but most of the time they want to stick to their own kind which is understandable. Japanese people avoid giving negative answers, that's why you often hear what you want to hear.
Thank you for this video! I really hate all the street videoblogs with their pretentiousness of giving the followers “precious insights” about Japanese society.
I think the sad thing is more likely the following. And its personal experience.... Japan, with its rich cultural heritage, provides an interesting case study. Japanese society is often characterized by high levels of conformity, a strong sense of duty, and a collective mindset. In relationships, these societal pressures can manifest in several ways. For instance, there's often a strong emphasis on marriage and family as pillars of social stability. This can lead to situations where individuals feel compelled to stay in unsatisfying relationships or marry due to societal expectations rather than personal desire. The concept of "Gaman" (perseverance or enduring the seemingly unbearable with patience and dignity) might also play into how individuals handle dissatisfaction in relationships, potentially leading to a stoic tolerance of issues rather than addressing them directly.
@5:50 yeah the VA for Cloud in FF 7 Remake had to step down because he got caught cheating. For context he's played Cloud for over 15 years. If anything this makes Japan seem more like heaven. A country that punishes people for cheating 😮.
This difference is based on the culture being individualistic or collectivist. In individual cultures, "fear of being different than the average" is usually punished by self-accusation, and being ashamed. That is, the source of the "punishment" often is internal. In collectivist cultures, the same fear and being different is usually punished by fear of public shame. The source of punishment is externally linked. None of these are healthier, just different.
That only shows that people in the public eye need to fear for their reputation. It doesn't say anything about how an ordinary housewife might expect an ordinary non-famous salaryman husband to behave.
I figured and I'm not amazed by the amount of people who are gullible to this type of content. Cheating is worldwide. Cheating should not be acceptable worldwide. And the prostitution topic is just wild to me .😅 Thanks for addressing this.
The infidelity law doesn't mean much. Even if your spouse cheats and gets fined 3m yen that wouldn't be much if you consider that divorce doesn't care if your wife was unfilial. She will still get custody of your child and 50% of your assets.
For that last part you states about single people going to prostitution more, I don’t know if this is true. The reason why they are most likely single is due to the fact they are unattractive or don’t have money. In modern days women only want the most attractive men or have a lot of wealth. Therefore I can conclude most of these single men are not even able to afford prostitutes nevertheless a girlfriend. Usually the men who have disposable income are able to afford them. It’s the same with wealthy women in Japan paying for male prostitutes. The average or broke won’t be wasting their money on food for a one night.
Its funny that 3 of the youtubers youve mentioned in your videos i follow them including Aba&preach. When i 1st learn about cheating & tateae in Japan it did shock me but glad you discuss a lot of Japanese topics. Oddly enough i started following the other 2 youtubers until months after i got cheated by a chinese
The problem is simpler. Interview broadcasters can select respondents and edit answers. The purpose is to guide viewers. What women want is eternal love, and no one wants their partner to cheat on them. What they say is an acceptance, not a wish.
Your comments are pretty sensible, but I do think there is some difference in Japan compared to most western countries. There a couple of instances that come to mind: 1. My friend got married with a Japanese girl and her mother advised her to look past an infidelities that he may have. I thought that advice was surprising. I think she said as long as he supports you financially, it's OK. 2. from a girl I was dating. She said that her ex-husband used to visit prostitutes. I asked her if she minded and she said that the thing she didn't like was that he told her. Also, I do agree that "celebrities" are held to much higher standards on cheating and almost anything else. It's not just cheating. I met a guy (Shinobu) who used to be in Da-Pump but had to leave the band because of a DUI charge.
To be fair about the Miss Japan -- it's a complete joke of a "contest." lol As for the street interviews, I'm glad to see you calling them out instead of just going along with the herd. I feel slighted because even in my own RU-vid channel's niche, I don't get the kind of views, subs, support, etc that others get -- even newer content creators -- because I actually present reality and avoid both BS AND clickbait (unless I'm directly making fun of it). It's sad that not even the niche of old Japanese houses and renovations or DIY are immune to people lying to acting like fools just to get more views and subs. On the cheating note, I would like to make one observation from my dating experience in Japan, Asagi san. I'm in my 40s and have been single ever since my first marriage divorce in 2007, back in the US. I have been (totemo) slow in entering into another legally binding relationship because I really want to resonate with the woman I pledge myself to, and that just hasn't happened yet. After 4 years in Japan and dates, chats, or messages with several different women, I've noticed two regular occurrences that, when placed together, make up well over half of all women looking to meet or date me. One of those things is she's a divorced mother with a kid/kids or her kids are almost or out of the house -- and of course she had a terrible marriage with a terrible man. The second thing is the woman is still married but, again, the husband is terrible and she's not being fulfilled, so she's looking for a regular lover on the side to fill that gap her husband should be and perhaps used to but isn't anymore. I have to use both hands to count the women I've met in this category -- and some of them I even met on SINGLES/Unmarried ONLY websites. That being said, I don't know how similar this is to the experience I might have back in the US with women there, but it has really shocked and surprised me because it is so common. To be honest, if I didn't want or feel that I needed a good, committed relationship, then it would be easy to just maintain one or a few ongoing lovers who have husbands, because those types are definitely all around and not hard to find. It makes me feel sad that society has gotten to this point.
It’s very interesting that all I hear is no one is in relationships, the birth rate is very low and everyone is lonely yet these street interviews say the complete opposite.
thanks for this video! those youtubers are lying to their viewers by posting carefully curated content, purely for views, and not factual... i hate how youtubers are mostly just chasing the algorithm...
I am so pleased to hear your opinion, I had my doubts about the validity of some of those street interviews. It did seem a little Faked, I'm also grateful for the education.
Thank you!! I always skip those videos. I know they're trying to make a living, but it's a waste of time for me personally. I just feel bad for those who fall for those videos (and end up asking me if it's really like that in Japan)
I remember watching Jay Leno’s “Jaywallking” when I was a kid. Most street interviews or polling is not only very subjective, but highly edited in order to push the narrative towards a certain direction. Example: in the US, local media will interview thousands of people in a single day. But they only show the idiots, because it gets clicks and views on both traditional media and new age media. But all Thats my opinion. Also: Japanese Godzilla>Pink Godzilla.
it's just like those street interviews that shows american's that don't know basic geography. As much as i don't like american nationalism and things like that, i refuse to believe those answers to be true. It looks like cherry picked to rage bait us or something like that.
First by interviewing people in the street you already have a certain kind of people who only agree to an interview in the first place. Standing there for hours and basically getting rejected 95% of the time you have to take what you get, what surely is far from representative. But by the nature of the people who agree to an interview in the first place probably not the most convential answers. Then, if you have absolutely no shame like some TV channels do, you also can cut it down to the most stupid answers and make the people appear even weirder or dumber. But I think most of these street interviews in Japan is just: you stand there two hours and only get 5-10 people in front of the camera in the first place.
Very good video. You made good points and backed them up convincingly. I've been watching the videos you are talking about and appreciate the corrections.
I can't believe people watched countless anime where the girls will beat the shit out of the MC when he cheats and then say, "Yep, Japanese are okay with cheating".
I feel these street interviewers need to properly address this instead of just the shady side of humanity. I like taka & others but the fact they unknowingly or knowingly omitted facts is unacceptable. People are seeing & doing reactions to this without the complete facts. It's just click bait for these interviewers.
Just how I see it but i feel like Japan tolerates "discreet" cheating but in turn are hyper critical if it gets out. You can say that about other places too but there seems to be a culture in Japan.. (prostitution, soap lands, love hotels, etc)
Personally, I don't like the interviews on those channels you mentioned. They make it seem like, "most people do this in Japan," when that's far from the truth (I've lived in Japan over 18 years now). I will say, though, men in Japan who have a "mistress" - even while married and a father - is perhaps more common and acceptable than in the west. I drank with a Japanese man, one night, several years ago and he was quite open about his married plus mistress life. I still find it hard to believe that a father could do that. I'm sure his wife must have known, or at least suspected, what was going on. Lucky for him his wife wasn't a western girl; he would have copped a frying pan over the head at the first hint it was going on. So! don't come to Japan thinking that every woman, married on single, is waiting for you.
Agreed, not everyone does it but they don't seem to think it's as bad as we do. A good analogy might be pot - in America most people don't use it but they think it is acceptable enough to use it, but the Japanese are rather shocked by this since it's illegal there.
It 100% depends on the area they are filming. Obviously, people who frequent the red-light district will cheat more frequently than other places in Japan. I imagine if these same interviews were done in rural Japan, or Kyoto, the response will be very different. My Japanese bf is from Osaka, and comes from and grew up in an area of Osaka where the majority living there have a low socio-economic status. Cheating was common there, prostitution was common and he himself doesn't think of it as cheating. He had many friends who frequented brothels, and many female friends who prostituted themselves for money (out of necessity, not because they wanted to). 100% it depends on where the interview is held. That being said, those kinds of things DO happen in Japan, BUT those sorts of interviews are specifically holding interviews in areas where those sorts of behaviours may be more common and cherry picking their answers.
Thank you for sharing your views! Looking at the way how some people responded, I thought some of those bombshell street interviews could have the effect of normalising bad behaviour too!
Cheating will happen everywhere. The more "free" a society is, the more rampant it will be. I can appreciate how cheating in Japan is a punishable crime, and it speaks to the fact that a loose society--and I mean loose as in, low morality, people doing whatever they want and think there should be no consequences (like Americans)--a loose society will fail. Culture is everything, and if a culture is dead, so is your society. I respect this law. People obviously can't control themselves. Asagi, why in the world would a Ukrainian win the title of Miss Japan? This is very disappointing. If I were Japanese, I would be insulted. I am sure many Japanese didn't like it; I am sure of this. I am going to have to ask my gf about this now.....（笑）
Very interesting insight! Thank you for sharing it with us! I lived in Portugal for most of my life, and before I had a burnout and shit hit the fan, on the first weekend of each month, my work colleagues would invite me to join them at a brothel. They were all married, and I was the only single one, yet I was also the only one who refused to partake. Firstly, because it’s illegal and there’s a risk of exploiting a sex slave and victim of human trafficking. Secondly, as a demisexual, I don’t have an instant ‘turn-on’ button. And thirdly, I genuinely enjoy making love-having sex just for the sake of it doesn’t make sense to me. The prostitutes noticed this, and I sort of became their de facto therapist. While my married friends went upstairs to do their thing, I stayed downstairs talking with these women, and I really enjoyed it. Treating them like human beings and not just objects was incredibly fulfilling. In the end, I often got free beers (which were quite expensive) and was even offered free sex, which I vehemently refused. Now, I’m back home in Switzerland, where prostitution is legal. I’m also older, at 45 and still single. So, most people might assume I’d visit a brothel, but I just can’t. It’s partly because I’m socially anxious, but also because I struggle to see sex-or even something as intimate as cuddling-as a marketable commodity. I even struggle with dating apps...
Good video. Anyone who thinks that Japanese women are okay with cheating should watch the official live music video from my favorite hard rock band, Band-Maid - the song is "Hate?" - those lyrics are written by a band member about how she feels about her good friend's boyfriend cheating on her. (Okay, I am also plugging my favorite band here - but they're fantastic! - and what I said is still true.
As someone who is Japanese and lives in Tokyo, I've seen a lot. These interviews are not fake. Maybe you're just not familiar with this side of our culture, but it's definitely real, and it plays a huge role in the Tokyo lifestyle. Consider yourself lucky that you've been sheltered from it.
