How Jennifer Pan's Fake Life Went Horribly Wrong 

daniel: breaks up with jennifer because of too much drama daniel, 3 seconds later: helps her plan a murder

I wish she just ran away. It didn't have to end this way. Everyone loses here.

A lot of ppl commenting "she could just leave" and I agree she could, but I do just want to add that as someone with pretty overprotective parents, when you want to move out it's almost like they curse you, they tell you you'll never survive on your own, and that idea can get into your head. They wish the worst for you and it can be so scary to even think to go out in the world for the first time with absolutely no safety net! They set you up to fail. I really admire people who leave home with no support and make it work.

The moral of the story Parents: Don't set unrealistic expectations for your children. Children: Do not murder your parents.

these parents were pretty sucky but it really broke my heart when they begged the intruders to not hurt jennifer :/ they just wanted the best for her, just did it in the wrong way...

with that $10,000 dollars you think she'd just put a deposit down on an apartment and move out,,,

if your child cannot come to you and tell you the truth about their grades when they're struggling in school, you are the issue. they were beyond abusive

The dad called her bluff with the "wait until I'm dead" she said aight bet

Strict parents don’t make brilliant children. They make liars.

This is why parents should let their kids live a little it’s good to be a strict parent but sometimes kids needs to make mistakes to learn .

When this story hit the news in Toronto, the Asian community was ROCKED. Children of immigrants families sympathize with Jennifer because we have experienced what she has gone through. It doesn’t mean we all had Tiger Parents or the severity of strictness but we have all felt it. The pressure to do well in school and extra curricular. Moving out even as an adult isn’t as easy. I left my home at 24 and my family treated me so differently for years until another cousin moved out. Not being able to hang out with friends because you HAD to stay at home let along have a boyfriend. And on the other side, my parents really felt for Jennifer’s parents because they felt what it was like to push your child to be successful and have a better life and your child rebels instead. At the end of the day, the Pan parents’ were abusive to her treating her like a prisoner but that doesn’t mean their lives weren’t worth living for.

She was in her 20s (24 I believe) when all of this happened but I’m sure emotionally due to the restrictive upbringing she was more like a teenager.

What strict parents think they're teaching their kids: -Discipline -Respect -Obedience -Life skills What they're actually teaching them: -Fear -Anxiety -Rebellion -How to be incredible liars. edit: since yall keep saying "hurrdurr well i had strict parents and i did great" lemme just say you did not have parents anywhere near as strict as asian tiger parents lmfao edit 2: im not excusing what she did, what she did was not right, im just pointing out the kind of toxicity overly strict and controlling patents create in their children

Everyone’s making jokes about how Felix was literally minding his own business and living his best life as an engineer, but forget that probably the reason why he wasn’t mentioned at all throughout this story is because of how Asian culture treats boys WAY differently than girls. Parents kind of let their sons get away with much more and thinking of them as the trophy children while they are more strict on their daughters.

Listening to her interviews with the police I was shocked to find out she was 24, she sounded like a teenager. It's clear that she was both naive when it came to life due to being kept under lock and key by her parents and became a fantastic liar because of her parents.

For anyone asking why she didn't just leave - kids raised this way are unfit for real life and terrified of being on their own. They have never learned any kind of independence and even making small decisions scare them. This is how super strict and religious parents bind their kids to them for life. Their only survival skill is lying, but that doesn't really get you an apartment or help you figure out every day life

Homeboy pulled through with the friends and family discount tho

"And then she met ..." is the true crime equivelant of "but everything changed when the fire nation attacked"

Being Asian, I can understand what she went through. Especially being a girl. You feel like you're suffocating. The boys were more loved, treated as king. Us girls were seen as useless, slave. We do not have the same freedom as the boys. Go to school, straight home, cook and clean after everyone in the family. Especially if you're the eldest daughter. Babysit all your younger siblings. My family lived in a 3 bedroom house. There were 9 of us and my brother the oldest who was only 2 years older than me get a room all to himself. Everyone else cramp into the other room.. Whatever my brother wants, he gets. I still remember one time, I went to my friend bday, it was only 6pm, we haven't even had dinner or blow the candle on the cake and my mom already came and force me home. One time, it was late 8pm, I decided to sleep at my friend house and the next day, I got my ass whoop so bad I was crying for days. But then I see my brother going out, doing drugs, drinking and he didn't get his ass whoop. Just a few lecture. Man. It's very sad to be an Asian girl growing up. That's why when I was young I always pray in next life, please please don't let me be reborn in a Asian family. Those who did not grow up in this kind of household will never understand and know the mental, physical abuse the children goes through. Imagine how much abuse she must've went through for her to get to the point where she have the fake her grade and college acceptance. Killing her parents was extreme, but she was probably torture to the point all she see is killing them is her only way for freedom. I actually sympathize with her.

If she thought out her suicide excuse more, she could've said "I wanted to hire people to make my suicide look like a murder so that my parents wouldn't feel like it was their fault that I wanted to die."

Strict parents create rebellious kids, that eventually become anxious over thinking adults, always searching for approval.

Love how Felix was just living his life at an engineer college when his sister was literally trying to murder her parents and living a double life

Some parents still don't understand that their kids are individuals and not their puppets. It's a shame she thought murder was the only way for her to be finally free

My current boyfriend grew up in a very strict Vietnamese family. He is the oldest of 4 kids. He has two younger brothers and one younger sister. He said that growing up, the only thing his parents really expected from him and his brothers was to get good grades and to go to college and not get in trouble with the law in any way. His sister however has had way more standards set for her, not only does she have to get good grades (straight A’s specifically), get into a good college and stay out of trouble, but she has to go with the career her parents pick and she’s the only one out of the siblings that isn’t allowed to go out with friends or have any friends over. She’s not allowed to have any friends that are boys and she has to clock in time logs in when she studied and did homework. My bf hates seeing her under all that stress and he has actually been trying to convince his parents to let her live with him and his roommates because of how much anxiety she has just being in the same house as their parents. Their parents however won’t allow her to live with him but he still allows her to stay over whenever she can. It honestly hurts a lot to see her living her teenage years in a prison.

Can’t believe she used an iPhone as a burner phone🤦🏾‍♀️

Man wtf. $10K? She could have just ran away! Damn

There's blame all around here. The parents basically started the ball rolling by horribly, abusively controlling their daughter. They are as much to blame as her. Such a shame

I grew up with Tiger parents and I can honestly understand her. I've had my parents key-track my computers, ground me for 6 months, never went to prom, couldn't have friends etc. It gets to the point where it is easier to lie, just to save your own sanity. I had to cut them off completely to get out, it's so sad she never felt safe enough to lead a normal life. Fast foward 15 yr...I'm a piano teacher :D

Controlling/Strict parents have horrible effects on children. I do not condone her actions. And let's remember our children are their own person with freewill. Feeling entrapped does no good to the human soul.

Idk how she had such overly involved, helicopters parents and yet they never even tried to visit her at college or not known that she didn’t graduate HS.

In the beginning it wasn’t mentioned that she was excelling in middle school and she studied a looooot, she was expecting to get valedictorian, however, it was given to another person. And that’s when she completely felt demotivated and thought what’s the point of studying so much and putting so much effort and work when you don’t get much out of it. Then, high school started and that’s when she started doing much worse in school because of that.

I'm surprised there isn't a movie for this yet.

She was an adult with two jobs. She shouldve just left.

Omg a “family discount” to assassinate a family......at least he’s humble 💀💀💀💀

Her dad must be, “you’re such a disappointment you can’t even kïll me right”

I'm from Toronto and I remember when all this went down. I don't know what it is with Toronto and tiger parents, but I have known a few! Quite a few Asian people I went to school with were absolutely miserable because their parents would never let them sleep. If they weren't at school, they were at home practicing their instruments day and night. Yeah, they had good grades, but they had ZERO people skills, because they were never allowed to communicate with other humans in the "outside world." And they move like robots. So I hope this is a lesson for those overly strict parents out there. It's one thing to want your kids to be successful, but when you take it too far, it becomes CHILD ABUSE whether one chooses to admit that or not! Jennifer was emotionally and psychologically abused by her parents her whole life, and they drove her right off the edge. She wasn't born that way.

strict parents create rebellious kids, dont @ me.

*The hitman actually gave Jennifer a friends & family discount I’m so done* 😭

As a child of a incredibly strict father let me just say that it didn't make me respect him or work harder... It made me on some level loath and hate him and his parenting style. Spanking your children or threating to "take away Christmas" only works when they are smaller and weaker than you... Once they grow up, it just makes them angry, and that's not a good life for them trust me.

Not condoning her murdering her parents or anything here, but I completely understand why she did it. There's a fine line between being involved in your kids life and totally controlling your kids life.

“Going to school or being kicked out”. GET KICKED OUT. Start your own life, Jesus.

Strict parents tend to do more damage than good, imo.

I have extremely strict parents who made me feel ashamed to be anything else beside who they wanted. They were emotionally manipulative, verbally abusing me all the time. I have no sense my worth even as an adult so I finally left their home when I was 20 in secret. I wish she took herself out this family environment instead of what she did.

I had strict parents growing up, and even now at 30 they still would like to treat me like I’m 14. I had an accident and needed to stay with them after leaving the hospital when I was 25, and they tried enforcing the same “rules” that a high school kid would have. There’s a difference between caring and respecting their home while I was there for a few weeks, and the way they went about it. When we’re not living together my mom’s my absolute best friend and I’m on the phone with her for a couple hours every other day. However, I understand completely the pressure & control Jennifer felt from her parents.

Soooo your telling me that her parents didn’t find it weird that they didn’t go to a high school graduation

“The idea of going to the school dance now makes me wanna die inside.” I felt that to my core.

Her dad saying he has anxiety and ptsd but I’m sure they put her through awful amounts of stress and pressure for such a young brain developing. I grew up in a very strict religious conservative home where I wasn’t allowed to even cut my hair because it was a sin and couldn’t play sport because it wasn’t what a Christian girl would do. Just like Jennifer I wasn’t allowed boyfriends, was homeschooled because school was a sin and I had to be in a Christian homeschool program, was forced to go to church 5 days a week to sing in a choir and go to youth services. Also wasn’t allowed to move out until marriage. And on top of all that experienced sexual abuse at the hands of a church leader. Anyway that did a lot of damage to my mental health and to this day at age 30 I’m still struggling to heal. I’m definitely not condoning what she did and she should be in prison for what she did but her parents aren’t saints.

As an Asian myself, I can totally relate to Jennifer's story. I have strict parents, but not as strict as her parents. Still, it doesn't mean that you can hire someone to kill your parents.

a lot of people are saying “why didn’t she just leave” but when you live in a traditional asian household, that’s not the case. it goes against tradition to speak out , to refuse, to leave. it’s shown as disrespect. doing so just causes your family to see you as the black sheep, the outsider. you get treated differently. i could tell that yes, she wanted to do all of these things, but still get accepted by her family. i would know, because i’ve done the same lol. living in a traditional asian household for girls means you either grow up to be a home maker or a successful doctor/lawyer/etc. you’re not supposed to have time for anything else. tiger parents are super strict, but at the end of the day, they’re doing what they think is best. yes, the parents have somewhat of a blame here, but their consequences shouldn’t have resulted in their lives lost/traumatized.

The mom can go out line dancing but the daughter can’t go to a high school dance. Smh

I don’t condone what she did by any means. But I have absolute empathy for this girl. Imagine every single moment of your life being dictated by a person with unrealistic expectations… that’s abuse…

Honestly, I feel bad for her. She never had a childhood, her teenage years were robbed from her, even her 'time in college'. Now she won't even get to live as an adult. I'm not saying arresting her was wrong, she still hired literal hitmen. But like, I'm just wondering what living feels like to her.

I’m crying cause her parents were thinking of Jennifer when they were about to die...

A class trip to EUROPE??? My class went to the local state park for a picnic.

I think the most important aspect of strict parents disowning you is that they rarely teach important life skills that make people capable of surviving in the world as a young adult. It’s important for children to have a firm grasp of important traits like independence, collaboration, conflict resolution, empathy, resourcefulness, confidence, and adaptability before they leave the home. People with overly strict parents often lack these skills and suffer when they aren’t under their parents’ watchful eyes.

I feel like parents being overly strict is usually disastrous. It teaches a kid that grades are more important then THEY are, as a person. I think people should encourage their kids, but also let them know they are _more_ than just their grades ♥️

Instead of trying to murder her parents you would think she would try to run away or fake her own death

they did realise she was like.. an adult right?

As someone that live in Ontario Canada It’s great to see a Canadian case covered. However this was a case that shook the province and its just so crazy.

For strict parents it's crazy they never attended high school meetings, talk to teachers, like who was paying for college? I do not get how she got away with all that. Also, her defense was she had Tiger Parents, well she did, but she lived the way she wanted anyhow. She didn't listen to their rules anyhow.

The green and white pallet in this video is so pleasing.

When her Dad threaded to kick her out, she should have just left🤷🏽‍♀️

I have forged a report card several times, and helped my friends do the same. I understand the pressure of not disappointing your parents.

Strict parents like that only end up with kids hating them. This type of strict parenting is very damaging and abusive. I am not condoning what she though because it’s not right.

It really hurts my heart that there aren’t many pictures of Jennifer smiling. You can just see the pain and discomfort she was constantly in.

Jennifer: My parents won't let us be together Daniel: Too much drama, bye! Jennifer, three seconds later: We could kill my parents Daniel: I'm in let me call homeboy!

Tiger parents are definitely a thing. My grandma made my mom be a lawyer. She doesn’t even use her degree now lol. She also made my uncle be a lawyer and made my other uncle be a doctor.

I left home at 16, I worked 40 hours a week and still finished High School, I went to College. It's 40 years later and all is well. I was told you will never make it, you'll be crawling back home, you will end up in jail. None of that happened, the worse thing that happened is I ate a lot of Ramen for awhile:)

Imagine being a parent and you telling the robbers not to hurt your daughter but your daughter is the one who hired them. SMH. So heartbreaking.

Omg I can’t. Good to know hitmen have a “Friends & Family” discount. I wonder if they also take coupons.

My parents were strict like hers, besides the grades. They were happy with a’s or b’s but I wasn’t allowed to have friends after school and never was allowed bday parties etc

Fun fact - a "C" in Canada is actually in the 60% range. We break grades down differently than the States. Less than 50% = F, 50-19% = D, 60-69% = C, 70-79% = B (which means that you are meeting curricular standards), and 80-100% = A

Father: You will date this young man over my dead body. Jennifer Pan: Hold my beer

Her parents were a bit much, but they didn't deserve what she did to them.

Let's say she was the wife and it was her husband who was abusing her... no friends, not allowed out, monitoring phone calls, etc... what would the opinions be then? Could she use battered spouse syndrome as a defense? At 24 she is an adult in an abusive relationship with her parents, and she sees no way out. Of course, I'm not condoning murder, duh, but isn't there some argument and parallels to abused spouse?

i had very strict parents growing up, still do just am 25 now. still see a therapist because of how traumatic it was. I understand her frustrations but when I was 18 I moved out right away and actually moves across the country. They call me all the time saying it's selfish and I need to go back, they love me and want the best just do not understand balance and did not grow up in America, I never was allowed to see anyone (not even friends) and had to wear uniforms to public school

Reading the comments, you can really tell who had strict parents and who didn't lmaoo

This could be a television show...I'd binge tf out of this

I can't feel too bad for the parents. They were controlling and abusive. Murder is never the answer but what a horrible childhood.

When the dad screamed on the phone call…my heart DROPPED

Just remember: Tiger parents raise tiger children....

It's kind of heartbreaking that, after doing all that in search of freedom, she's now going to be imprisoned for life.

i've been binge watching kendall rae's videos over the past three days.. anyone else? lmao

Nobody is worth your freedom. Jennifer should have taken Han's ultimatum and left/moved in with Daniel. This could have all been avoided. It's such a sad situation..

I find this really sad tbh, sure don't let your kids run wild but don't make their life a living hell. People can only take so much before they snap.

Imagine your sibling doing all of that while you're chillin in college with no clue

I've been debating posting this but I know there are young people out there who might be stuck in a situation like this with a friend:My childhood best friend was a vietnamese girl with incredibly strict and quite abusive parents. As we got older and I started to call into question her parent's behavior even considered getting my parents involved with helping her in someway. Any time I did this she or my other asian friends would say will that is "just how asian parents are" or "that is our culture, it is normal." As a white kid I was definitely worried about appearing judgmental of another culture so I mostly let it go. I didn't tell my parents much about her home life and minimized things when they expressed concern. I regret this so much! I remember one time vividly I was sitting at lunch and I told her a story about how my uncle shot a animal in front of me once as a kid because he felt I needed to "toughen up." Like any sane person she goes "wtf" and I said "will he's a redneck that whole side of my family, that is just how they are." I saw this look of realization come into her eyes and I wish I had pushed that further. Culture isn't an excuse for abusive behavior. There are way more important things then staying "pc." So if you are in a position like this please try to help your friend. The way her life has turned out I really wish I had done more when we were kids but I was too concerned about looking bad.

It’s April 2021, I just discover this channel and it instantly became my favorite! Your story telling is amazing, English is not my first language and you are the first person I can understand completely without subtitles! Loyal subscriber from now on and I’m definitely binge watching all your videos 😊😘

During the 911 call when her dad screamed I got chills. So sickening...

“family discount” to assassinate a family i can't

When her dad said either go to school and stay or leave she should’ve just left.

she went from one prison to another there’s no excuse for what she did but from personal experience i understand how suffocating and debilitating it can be

Jennifer had a kind of talent for formatting and artistry. If she could do forgery to THAT degree, she could create a career for herself.

“The strictest parents make the sneakiest kids” -someone on Twitter

So glad you don't censor yourself or use the "beeps" anymore....you are a great storyteller.

When your parents are unreasonable about every detail about everything, you’ll go to any lengths to avoid their reactions. Including but not limited to faking report cards.

Just because they had “good intentions” towards their daughter doesn’t mean they weren’t abusive. They are abusive parents. Intentions don’t matter. Outcomes do.

I really don’t have much sympathy for the parents but the fact that they begged the “intruders” not to hurt Jeniffer when she was the one orchestrating their murders is kind of heartbreaking

I hope Netflix is paying you since they just released the same video with less details but more interrogation videos.

I’ve definitely forged my report card before. When you try your hardest but your hardest isn’t good enough, your not left with many choices as a kid.