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She was of course guilty, but I hate when cops say people don’t act a certain way after a tragedy. No one can say how someone will act in that sort of traumatic experience. There’s no set way.
Yeah the brain does some pretty weird things when it’s under a lot of stress. There’s a letter written by a Titanic survivor while she was on the Carpathia and she describes feeling really happy.
They are the pro's here. They do piss me off thinking they know when someone lies. They're not your friends either and some will get you in prison by pretending to be one.
"Tiger parents" is just a euphemism for psychologically abusive parents, who offer no love and all restriction. To these people, children are trophies, not humans, yet when they finally bite back, the parents are the only ones considered victims. This case should've been a way to focus on this abuse, not laymen claiming to know what it's like and downplaying it because it's not physical or sexual.
@@petrosaguilar8916 The fact that you see no gray area is the entire goddamn problem. You can responsibly parent without being a dictator. Hell, my dad was a strict parent, and even he didn't prevent me from leaving home after I turned 18 (jumping down my throat when I suggested taking a semester off to work more and save money, though...that's another story).
PhoenixRising87 I don’t understand how people are so dense and can’t comprehend what you just said. It’s like you are either a dictator or you’re careless. People don’t think and it makes me furious.
As an Asian myself I can understand the type of frustration and built up anger she had . The standard Asian parents have is almost unbearable at times . I have to say my anger was really bad until I got into college , going to church helped me a lot to learn to let go of all of the pressure I had . What she did was absolutely horrendous . I do not condone her actions at all . However that could be the reasoning behind it all .
True, but thats not the only reason. We are usually a product of our surroundings. For example, women with daddy issues most likely did not have a strong father figure (strong emotionally i mean) present. Idk how strict her parents were but as a kid to strict asian parents I understand the pent up anger and frustration that could lead to misleading actions. Only difference with people like me and probably 99% of other people who grew up in an environment with strict restricting parents is that we would never act on those frustrations to harm our parents physically, unlike jennifer pan
@lokindabbiru9944, so you would never act upon those Frustrations like jennifer Pan here did, but you would think of them? Or imagine? Or would you be pleased if your parents passed away naturally without you having to act upon it? My friend, nothing justifies murder, let alone parent's murder, that too when she can hear them screaming in pain. Coming from dysfunctional family is kind of common, not preferred but common, but if everyone started thinking this way, the world would see much more such tragedies. Thankfully, there are people like us who absolutely can not relate with Jennifer's thinking regardless of our strict upbringing.
it's not as easy to just leave for an Asian family. Family honor, 'losing face' among other reasons making living at 18 difficult. BUT that does not excused murder.
Some people on here do not understand how psychological abusive these types of parents are. These abusive parents hide behind the guise of being “loving” when it is actually the opposite.
I agree. I had terrible home and I understand Jennifer. She didn't see other choice. I was lucky not to kill my parents in self defense and run when I could.
Doesn’t give one a license to kill. She could have run away but she wanted money. Everyone in the world has some sort of trauma if we all killed the people who traumatized us most of us would be killed by now.
@@AT-eu4zu Its not that easy to run away. often these parents scare their children from being out in the world on their own. They're scared of being harmed by their parents (physical abuse is often part of the equation to assert dominance), or they maybe scared of being harmed by others if theyre on their own without any support. Sure, it doesn't mean all children should murder their abusive parents but theres elements that one can at least understand and should account for. what we should be asking is why abusive parents and sexualpredators are allowed to get away with it so much. Pedophiles barely get a slap in the hand. often the perpetrators are close family members of the child. Society fails to protect these children thats the ugly truth. not all snap, but that doesnt make it ok.
Preventing dating a drug dealer and living together with him and trying to give the daughter a good future is psychologial abuse? Nowadays everyone comes up with psychological and mental topics to justify anything brutal. NOTHING IN THE WORLD WILL JUSTIFY KILLING YOUR PARENTS. IF YOU CANT LIVE WITH THEM MOVE OUT AND DONT CONTACT THEM.
Honestly. Knowing how horrendous these kinds of parents can be, I cannot imagine what kind of state her psyche was in. And people saying she’s a psychopath because she kept asking what was gonna happen to /her/, well… Maybe no one other than herself has ever cared about her. I’m not saying I’m excusing what she did, but I’m also not too quick to condemn her for it either.
Some people have really bad demons. Can’t put it on “not having been shown love,” she IS a psychopath. Many people have tiger parents not everyone plots to kill their parents.
@@JESUSLOVESYOU219 Just because not everyone reacts this way to abuse doesn’t mean it’s not abuse or that she’s a psychopath. Everyone’s w us to cope with shit is different.
@@mandarina4157 the point is you don’t murder, that’s crazy. This is what happens when people are spiritually ignorant. You’ll put everything on anything.
I caught that and smirked. I laughed that the boyfriend was labeled as a part time drug dealer. I turned to my wife and said “not even full time? What a loser.”
These type of parents put so much pressure on their kids that I am not surprised there aren't more cases and I can see why there are kids who runways. If you are of legal age, leave and live your own life, but please don't do anything illegal.
@@juanruiz-vb4bj 25 and her parents are this controlling? i don't even think this is about the whole date thing, if my parents wouldn't let me do anything other than piano lessons at 17, let alone 25, i'd flip
shrapnel77 Lol because they’re cheap. You’d think if you were gonna invest in a security camera you’d get a good one, god forbid you’d ever need to review the footage..... makes no sense. Cos when they DO need it, it’s hardly even viewable. Shrugs.
well i mean it was from a house across the street, the home owners didnt buy the cameras to record their neighbors house. And its meant to record the driveway and front of the house, which it does a good job doing. Its not 4k but you can see whats happening in the front yard. And cameras can be expensive as hell, also its fucking night time so the visibility is bad. And to the person saying they might as well not even have a camera if its low quality, at least if something happened, like a break in, the police would have video evidence and could analyze that shit. Im sorry that regular people cant afford thousands of dollars worth of high tech security footage (and the means to store said footage) so they can rewatch their home being broken into in 4k. I bet all the people talking shit on the cameras aint even got cameras of their own.
Yeah, anybody who grew up with tiger parents understands Jennifer. Tiger parenting is emotionally and psychologically destructive. What we see here are severe consequences of child abuse. I can’t say I feel much for her parents because I don’t, I know what tiger parenting does to a child and it’s a form of child abuse. Her parents were her abusers. It’s unfortunate it went this far and she wasn’t able simply separate herself from her family. She had choices, including running away and never be heard from again, or contacting the authorities after being locked at home at 19. She chose to unalive her parents instead and though I think that’s a direct result of the child abuse she endured, she crossed a line she can’t return from and deserves her punishment. That’s not the way to solve our problems.
Pressuring one to excel academically and not complimenting their achievements is definitely abusive. Hann Pan (despite a victim) should've been charged for abusing Jennifer tbf.
@@emmyo6678 Dude...do you know what website you're on? This stupid site will shadowblock any comments that contain "forbidden" words. The female who runs YT treats language like an 11 year old would.
I have a similar background to Jennifer. My parents weren’t too strict as her’s but they also never showed me the direction I could go after graduating school. They just thought I will find my way like a fish in the ocean, while restricting certain things that costs money, regarding my education. After years of not being taught how to face the real world, I was lost. I’m just recovering now, I still have a long way to go.
I'm going through a similar situation. Still to this day they control me so much that I never learned how to make my own decisions and live life by myself. I hope God helps all of us. PS: by no means what she did is justified. No matter what happens one should never even think of commiting this kind of terrible crime.
"Somehow she identified the footsteps as not being her parents" "Good ears!" Are you kidding me. What kid DOESNT know what their parents footsteps sound like, its kinda engrained in your brain your entire life.
To all you Tiger Parents out there, THIS is the outcome you're bound to receive, your children don't owe you a thing. Anyone who thinks otherwise wants this outcome to happen to them.
Yes she was old enough to leave home, and there is no excuse for killing them - BUT you do wonder what years and years of that kind of pressure and control from her parents did to her emotions and her mind when she was growing up. Sometimes 'tiger parenting' can slip into psychological abuse, and that her whole life may have twisted her emotions to the point that she genuinely believed her parents were better off dead than alive and disappointed in her. They didn't just want her to be happy and successful for HER, they wanted their kids to shine as accessories for THEM, showing what good parents they were. I wonder if she genuinely believed that if she couldn't give them what they wanted -her to be the perfect daughter- then at least she could give them not having to live with 'their' failure.
Why do they think it’s suspicious that she can distinguish her parents’ footsteps? I can literally name everyone in my household based on their footsteps alone
If my parents use the soft slippers at home, and the killers wear the boots, I think I would easily distinguish their footsteps. And also at night, the parents go to the kitchen or toilet, they don't want to disturb their children.
This was excellently written and composed. I had seen the suspect interview before and knew the whole story, but there is such quality to this delivery that I was still at the edge of my seat. The team that made this is stellar.
Agreed. Not to mention that in crime stories the kids always say they knew it wasn't their parents footsteps. You hear these people walk around for years and learn how they walk.
Patricia Jankey when ur living in hatred/fear of ur parents that’s probably the most common thing a kid will say about their parents, “I know their footsteps” or something like that as an example if u have extensibly abusive parents who beat u everyday or something related u learn when it’s coming real quick just by listening to the footsteps
Its just as much the fault of the parents as it was the daughters, that kind of parenting is far from healthy, no wonder it would drive a child to become a psychopathic murderer.
My father was strict when I was growing up. Cared about us getting good grades but not about mental health, no friends, being bullied, just take care of your parents and the business. 😢 I been in one rehab...kicked out I was told.went to another. They couldn't renew, bc they needed the space for new patients. Understood. Hopefully they're getting better.
True, same here with my parents, i dont give a shit about making friends, they’re going to betray you in the end. As long as i have good grades thats good enough for me and have a high allowance job.
@Leshy_ easy to say that now. But when you're in 3rd, 4, 5 , grade and you're not invited a a kids birthday party, pool party, barbecue, movie at the house, it hurts.....you feel unwanted unloved,, kids think ur a loser, etc
Why would you call her the Daughter of hell? More like parents from hell. Monsters are not born but created. She just wanted to enjoy her life, wanted to live as a normal kid but nobody talked about it. People who grew up with nice and lovable families and parents would never understand the struggle.
a shit ton of people have crap parents that doesn't justify murder though. she was an adult at the time she could've moved out and got a job if she was fed up with it. But no let's kill mom and dad
Workaholics, raised poor, trying to save for retirement and to provide luxury for their children that they were not given. This girl was evasive and made excuses to trick the parents into believing what she wanted them to. This piece is not very detailed... there is a more in-depth documentary on this which explains the situation much better.
Her parents are responsible for turning her into a liar and murderer . . . if they had nurtured her dreams and not theirs . . . she would not have done this
It isn't that simple in their world. Her parents likely feel disappointment of not living up to their parents' expectations, hence they force it down the throats of their children. Only certain types can turn into diamonds with this type of pressure to be perfect.
I lived through horrific physical and verbal child abuse at the hands of my mother, and ignored by my passive father. I ran away from home and things went really bad from there, but I ended up joining the army, becoming a cop and getting my EMT certification and help others who have been abused. If it wasn’t for Jesus Christ saving me, I would be dead. He has also repaired my relationship with my parents. I don’t know what I would do without the Lord Jesus Christ.
Don't they have more than 2 pictures of this girl?? I feel sorry for the editor having to keep reusing those two pictures and trying to make it look different each time, doing different zooms and pans and other sfx lolol
You know one of the biggest things that shocked me when I came back to Japan? It was the fact that even here ‘tiger parenting’ is considered one of the most extreme forms of parenting. While I did not grow up in such a household myself, most of my other asian friends did and it was pretty much considered the norm. It was only when I came back here that I learned that not all households were like this and that even by their standards this was considered far too extreme. The city middle class and upper class tend to put a lot of pressure on their kids but for those born in a pretty standard family we’re raised pretty normally. For those who have grown under tiger parenting I hope with this you will understand that tiger parenting is abnormal and a form of abuse. It is in no way normal and shouldn’t ever be normalized.
Looks like it’s an old highschool/middle school photo, people change. The investigator did say he sold drugs so yea that’s definitely not how he looks 😂
Poor poor girl. I can't imagine the emotional torture and abuse she went through. All she would have wanted was to be a happy person. The people who brought her into this world couldn't do that for her. Just to be allowed to take decisions about the course of her life on her own. Its a pity theres no psych evaluation done for intending parents. Their poor upbringing created a monster, led to her terrible decision making and finally her incarceration. I weep for her and all kids worldwide that experience this sort of abuse. So sad.
Dude you have no idea how fking long have i tried to avoid watching this video but its been appearing in my recommendation constantly as if youtube wants to shove this video down my throat and force me to watch it... so yeah i finally watched it. You’re welcome youtube.
I think we are missing the root of the problem in this case here and that is the possible abuse by her 'Tiger parents'. Of course it's awful that this has happened; but you must ponder why a child would have enough contempt to do this to their own parents.
Easy it is called resentment. I don’t condone this woman’s behaviour but a series of events lead to this. If only this woman chose to leave and have no further contact with them, things would been different. Now she has to live with the consequences of her actions.
As an Asian, I can tell you that cutting off family isn’t always that easy. Familial ties could run deeper than most non-Asians could understand. If you’re really “lucky, “ you could even become an outcast to the entire clan! She really found herself pushed to the wall. And her lying ultimately became her maladaptive coping mechanism. I don’t completely empathize with the parents for their abusive tiger parenting. But I do hope that everyone find the healing they need, eventually.
She tried getting away but her parents dragged her back home... What she did is extremely out there and violence is never the answer but as parents you also have to let your children make mistakes and grow as individuals with a open door policy.
I'm reading her story and the more I read it, the more I see her as the victim. The dad was an asshole who micromanaged everything and put an enormous amount of academic pressure on her and also banned her from dating or hanging out with friends. And he was so harsh on her regarding her grades that she went to extreme length to forge them. I can't really blame her for snapping given how horrible he was.
tiger parents should face jail time, why on earth would they think its a good method when its simply emotional and psychologial abuse towards there child? look vid is a prime example
just because theyre asian they look emotionless? lol. they look like they acted normally on that one pic. you cant just assume how they act during whole funeral. +i think the information that she doesnt show any emotion wasnt according to that one pic.
Raymond Terutama It was “according” to her emotions, as they had filmed the funeral ~ I agree, everyone handles their emotions differently 🙏 Everyone ~
hahah i tell mines the same too. they had four healthy kids. we did not do drugs steal or had a drinking problem. We didnt study all the time but we are all pretty responsible.
I lived under the rule of a clinically narcissistic parent. Abused a lot. Tiger parenting can have lot of narcissism and projection intertwined in it. Depending on the degree it is absolutely child abuse and treating the child as a status symbol instead of a human being who has psychologic limits. While I don't condone murder or torture of the parents at all, the daughter was still the victim of decades of psychologic, perhaps physiologic abuse no doubt.
Narcissistic parents are completely different to tiger parenting Narcissistic parents play the most insane illogical mind games to manipulate Tiger parents while extremely strict only do logical things and enforce rules they think will help their children succeed
❤ exactly 💯 I was raised by sick family. My parents were both alcoholics, aggressively beating eachother, then my mom left with me and moved close to my grandparents. She continued drinking and abusing me emotionally. My grandparents made me take care of her and make sure that people don t see her drunk. They locked me with her and pretended there was no problem. I hated my family, I wished myself dead, my mother dead, everyone. Eventually I graduated and went to work. Moved out from the city, then from the country. I am done.
Having children does not give you the right to own their lives and expectations - Jennifer seems to have been driven to figure a way out of her parents tyranny. I don't condone murder, but I do say, if you are abusive to children or pets, you'd better prepare for a fight. You never know what limits will be the last straw that end in a revolt you created the groundwork for.
It’s a parent’s job to do everything they can to setup their kids for success. You can’t be overly involved in your kid’s lives but you can’t just let them do anything they want. If Jennifer didn’t agree with her parents, she had the option to leave them. Just because you have strict parents doesn’t give you carte blanche to do something like this.
LMAO! Yeah, this girl is definitely an idiot! I bet she probably thought that lie sounded good and convincing until she realized that's she a fucking moron! smh
Well ya.. if your upstairs... and your parents have not worn shoes in the house since the first move in day... and they are alot lighter then the men in the house. Heavier step with boots on. I can see how she would know it's not her parents.
Yeah I don’t get what’s weird about her saying that. When I lived at home I could always identify my mum, dad and brother by their footsteps. Some people walk more heavily or lightly than others, or have a different gait, or tend to walk at a different pace etc - I really don’t find that claim unusual at all :/
This reminds me of a popular verse. It says..."Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honor thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise....However, parents, DO NOT PROVOKE YOUR CHILDREN TO WRATH.." Enough said.
When you have strict parents, it’s not unusual to know their footsteps. Growing up in a very traditional asian family, I can identify who went out of their bedrooms, which car is about to park, which keys are for the house or the cars, and even their snores. It’s just something you learn when you are scared.
Saaame...I know who’s using the bathroom without seeing them go in. Like it not a matter of fear tho, it’s more like who do I have to mentally prepare to talk to.
I feel you, I used to live with my brother-in-law, he’s a dad,also a HS teacher and he’s pretty much a strict person, not in a forceful way like other, he understand how things goes, he used to be an ex-gangster that’s why he didn’t want everyone else to step on that mistake especially me and his son,but still... I could definitely identify his movements, his habits, and other things, so overall I think My situation change since I move out.. well what a story, but hopefully your parents would go easy on you... much respect.
Asian woman here and i see this type of parenting all the time. Its awful and abusive. The way they belittle their kids for not being amazing is hurtful. I totally understand for completely snapping. She probably felt they owed her for all the abuse
It is awful, but by no means limited to Asian parents. Many parents demand that their kids do at least as well, if not better, than they did. My own mother would throw abusive, insult laden tantrums if I got an A-minus on an assignment in school, rather than another A-plus, and literally nothing was ever quite “good enough.” It has its own consequences, as I am not close to my parents and cut them off completely for a couple years in my 20s, before saying that any further relationship was going to follow MY guidelines on decent, respectful behavior. But that said, murder is “outrageous overshadow” where what one person does is wrong, but the other persons’ reaction is so extreme, it makes them the “bad guy.” And she was 24, in Canada. No matter how sheltered or brow beaten, she could have just left and made her own way. It’s not easy, but those with truly abusive parents prefer to be homeless on the streets, or join the military, or couchsurf, or anything just to get away from the abuse. I think she was more a “failure to launch” case like Chandler Haldersen or the other cases of adult moochers who kill parents for money.
Strict parenting is a polite term for abuse, let’s not fool ourselves here. Lifelong resentments are harboured and no relief until both parents close their eyes for the final time. I hope this sad tale is a wake up call for strict parents.
Strict parents and abusive parents are VERY DIFFERENT. Strict parents: No, you must finish your homework before you get your phone. Abusive parents: your phone made you the idiot you are today and we're never giving it back, or we're smashing it. Strict parents: You cannot have McDonalds today because you had it yesterday, it's unhealthy. Abusive parents: Eat this oatmeal three meals a day because you broke our no-Mcdonalds rule. Big difference. I had the former. Wonderful parents. Strict, disciplined, turned me into a polite and disciplined human.
Sort of….but “strict parent” is a pretty vague term. Does that mean any parent who won’t let teens do whatever they want, or a parent who picks your career? Or how about advising a daughter not to date a small-time drug dealer? Some would call that good advice, others would call it interference. And had she been 18, maybe….but she was 24. People with truly abusive parents would rather be homeless on the streets, or immediately join the military, or move in with an older bf/gf, or couch surf,…..anything just to get away from the abuse. But she did little and stayed home, and then told ridiculous lie after ridiculous lie (it was all a wacky misunderstanding) and blamed everything she did on everyone but herself.
Strict parenting is not abusive though. It is a style of parenting. I do feel strict is better than spoiling at least. Regardless, her parents did seem to abuse her because it's wrong to lock your 18 year old in the house and control their love life.
@@JenniferHales what I have observed in my life experience. The wild child are the ones who come from overly strict parents. I also observed that child are often scared of their parents and chose not to confide in them. I have witnessed this some many times when the parents are hurt when they own children are unable or unwilling to come to them if they need advice. To address the point about a spoiled child, what is a spoiled child to you? Remember, children are not property they should be treated fairly and with a degree of firmness. Please let me explain firmness, this doesn’t mean threatening way, but a proper explanation why things have to be done in a certain manner along with the consequences when it is not followed.
Guys she was 25 years old and her parents only let her to go play piano! She was kept captive and psychologicaly abused by her parents! How nobody questioning that?
@@colouroflife1 not sure if you are a parent but for yourself as an adult I am sure you do what you want. Children do not OWE parents to go to university or college get good grades and become lawyers and doctors. When a child becomes an adult a parent does not have to support them, in fact they can lock them out of their house. She did not owe them anything because she did not beg her mother to give birth to her. We cannot and should not live our lives through our children. They are individuals with their own lives. Many parents are totally unaware of who their children are and will do anything to try and let them fit what they want them to be. As a parent ACCEPTANCE and knowing who your child is, is often difficult for parents to accept. But once you accept who you brought into this world everything will fall into place. Her parents should shelter a big chuck of the blame for the unbearable standards they set for a child who was unable to live up to them. It is tragic but loving and accepting your children is higher than PhD.
@@sharona7428 Guess I don't make myself clear. Your entire theory based on that compulsive liars lies whose entire life based on deception. I'm asking you to show me proof how her parents had too much expectations of her? She was a drug addict and had a drug dealer lover. Her father told her to pick either her drug dealer or family. She chose to stay in the family's house. She is 24 ( twenty four), thus very much an adult. She could have left her family, picked a full time job, studied whatever she wanted to, instead, she murdered her mother and tried to murder her father for money. That's how she sees them, ATM machines. Her goal by murdering her parents was to get their money, car, house everything they worked for. She is a psychopath and to be honest, the dumbest psychopath I've ever seen. She is utterly selfish, she doesn't care anybody else but herself. That's why she asked numerous times in the interrogations " what happens to me". The brother who was raised by the same parents turned very well or countless other Asian children's. It's only her who chose to murder her mother. I wish her parents had just kicked her out once she hit 18 as they wouldn't owe her anything anymore.
Never heard of this term, but it makes sense. A lot of Asian parents are really strict on their kids and want them to be highly educated and achieve academic excellence. But to have the intent to hurt and end your parents life is beyond a crime! Why not just leave home?
That’s why you make sure to raise your kids with boundaries they understand from a very young age, don’t force them to choose a profession you want and you support their choices. My kids are all grown up and happy. They never gave us any trouble because they knew about consequences for actions from being toddlers…without any physical punishment. They all have great jobs, happy lives and I’m happy knowing they’re happy.
For those who thinks she is 24 and she could just leave … its easier said then done ! I am 28 . Still lives with my mom who used to emotionally , verbally and physically abusive . And sometimes she can be loving . And when I have money from disability she will ask me to contribute rent because she is almost legally blind and cant work And she even asked me to pay her back for the years I was underpaid and the years I used her money saying all those payments I need to pay back before I move out ! And everytime i mentioned about moving out she will threw a huge fit! And so does the rest of my family members does NOT support me move out ! And when I do anything I need her permission like even wasting money on a taxi she will get real angry !she insisted on me giving her money to buy us a house and live with her until 30 ! And if you never know what is like to grew up with Angry Asian parents and gaslighting you dont know what its like !Money is not the only issuue. Physically and fiancially we can move out but mentally we cant . We are scared of upseting our parents because how controlling they are . My mom never taught me how to cook , how to clean , how to fend for myselfnever be supportive of me when I was underemployed. And when lock myself in my room she will tell ne how lazy I am and how useless I am .and when i point out what she did wrong she will either yell at me saying all those mistakes I amde or somply lock herself inher room and never speak to me until the next day …. And i know that eventhough i am capable of moving out but mentally I cant . i am scared of making her upset . Its that we dont even know how to live for ourselves anymore . We dont know what is like to be happy for ourselves and fight for ourselves and what is it that makes us happy .. the only thing we know is what we are scared of upsetting our parents . Its like a dark shadow that is casting on us. And I believe that Jennifer Pan lies about her grades and her life not because she likes doing that . Its because she was scared of disappointment and punishment from her parents ! And she would rather kill them then upsets them because thats the only way she feels that she could be free. I relate to Jennifer Pan a lot and every day I am scared that myself will go crazy and turn into someone like her . Everytime my mom verbally put me down and called me names and attacks my character on every single mistake I made I buried my anger and hate and I am afraid I will go crazy one day to the point I started avoidng knives , cooking , and even driving And whats worse is that in people grew up in traditional American household never understand what we have to go through . Our parentsraised us this way because they grew up in Asian countries w everyone were poor. Farmers, and the only way they know love is by putting food on the table . Is like the Marslow hierarchy of needs . Their needs stuck with fod and shelter and while their children . Needs of love , social and accep never will be meet . And in the end they dont even understand why their children is depressed .
I am stunned to see that all of us are going through hell because of our parents. I also wanted to kill my parents 3 years ago. And, I was so crazy that I used to post on social media saying "somebody please kill my parents, I'll pay for it" Well, thank God my boyfriend helped me a lot to manage my anger and stopped me from doing the unthinkable. Then, I started working on myself, and after 3 years, I'm eloping with my husband (the boyfriend that I mentioned earlier, we are married but I couldn't disclose it otherwise my parents would have killed me). Within a week from now, I'll be in a different country, free from all these chains ⛓️. 🎉
@@lawrencebruan-vy2px Do you have any idea what it's like to live with someone who needs to be in a retirement home? My grandpa came home the other day from being released from the retirement home he was at............. in the hours I was away at work, he broke off door of the sink cabinet in our bathroom, threw powder Comet all over the walls, the floor, and the door, and anything that wasn't affixed to the wall, he threw and made a mess. So please, unless you're in this situation, don't speak for the people actually going through it. And my mom came over and had to call the police because my grandpa was being very aggressive and combative. He's back in the hospital now because honestly he can no longer live at home.
When my best friend's mom died, she just became numb to the world for a couple months. She didn't cry at the funeral, she cried behind doors, so that people couldn't see. I'm just saying...someone not crying at a funeral isn't horrible or suspicious. People grieve in different ways.
Yeah strict parents sometimes suck but … I’m thankful mine were. Unlike most of my friends … I’m the only one who didnt experienced teenage pregnancy… so yeah thank you mom and dad. I might have hated them as a teen but today I love them and understand their ways. Jennifer is crazy.
I've seen many of my friends who had understanding and loving parents (their parents weren't strict at all and they treat their children like best friends) and they grew up to be such good people, they were happy as children and happy as adults too. So no, you don't have to be a "tiger" to raise your kids right! Being that tiger only makes your kids either rebel or become a people pleaser, but nothing in between (may suffer from PTSD as well) 😶
Yeaaaaah the “she didn’t cry at the funeral,” bit is a tad stupid. Some people just don’t cry at them, they can’t. Whether they’re in shock or they’ve cried so much they can’t let anything out anymore.
True. Everyone has different coping mechnism. Although no tears could be just a small red flag that motivated police to dig deeper to find more evidence, can't blame them.
Agree. My grandmother died almost 4 months ago and I never cried in her wake and burial. I love her so much but I needed to be strong for the people she left, so I didn't cry in front of many people, at least.
My ex boyfriend was like this. He started lying about EVERYTHING after the day that his parents decided to transfer him to another uni because he failed all the classes. But the reason was not because they wanted him to be the best student, they wanted him just to get a degree and paying our current uni was too expensive. I wouldn't say that they were strict, because they always gave him the chance of "If you don't want to study go to work and build your own life by yourself". Well, after that our relationship started to be a nightmare. He would lie to me about all the grades (one time he even falsified a document and send it to me), he would lie about his entire day at the new uni (later I discovered that he was actually home playing games), he would lie about his parents being okay with him traveling to be with me, about was he was doing, about everything. And 90% of the stories and lies he initiated by himself, and not because I asked about it. That year he failed again all his classes and of course he lied about that too. I didn't want to control him, only help. Several times I told him that if he wants do drop uni and start another thing I would help him and support him! He would say that everything is fine and he will graduate. Years passed and everything stayed the same. When I discovered the lies it messed so much with my mental health that you can't even imagine. After an argument he would suggest to me that he may end his life and then block me everywhere for 3 days. Then came back like nothing happened. IT WAS A NIGHTMARE. That fortunately ended. This people are scary. And blaming only the parents is completely wrong. He was not a child, not either this girl.
i failed to in exams wasn't smart student but i cheated on exams and passed out as asian people only accept you if your are graduated have passive income if you are drop out you'd shamed yup i lied many time to my relatives about my grades even to my mom that everything was okay Even thought it wasn't okay since the cost of University i was studying was costly till last year just passed and completed my graduation lol
2:20 they act like this is a weird thing to be able to hear. But when I was a kid I could identify Who was walking up the stairs, mom, dad or my sister. If it was my mom or dad I had to turn of my Light real Quick but if it was my sister i could go on with reading my book. I bet she could identify her parents their footsteps from anyone elses. But of course we now know why she knew they where from someone else
Asians often take off shoes when go into house also so if not wearing shoes or wearing house slippers would sound different than street shoes or boots.
She told them that she could only get one ticket for the graduation so she’d rather give it to her friend so that it would be fair since one parent wouldn’t have been able to come
This gave some details that the Netflix doc didn't, for example it never said she had a brother. I assumed she was an only child. It also never explained some of the logistics of the crime scene. It made it seem like her parents were shot in the living area, not the basement. It never explained that she didn't graduate high school was living with her boyfriend. They explained her faking a degree and pretending to go to uni, but these details give a very different picture.
