I think its important to have this conversation and get exclusivity sorted out as soon as you are ready to focus on building a relationship, I for one could not think of building a deeper connection if there is any thought that either party may be looking at others at the same time. Relationships need trust and loyalty. My guess is around 5-6 dates in - you should have a good idea by then if you are both suited to going further.
I’m confused. Being exclusive doesn’t mean he’s your boyfriend right? It just mean exclusive dating. Which means getting to know only you and no one else but he’s not saying that you’re his girlfriend. Can you please give me your opinion? Thanks!
Hey Coach Cass! I believe it is exactly what you said. It depends. Both have to be aligned on what they are looking for and commit by saying so. We will get in trouble by thinking something on what end while the other is on a totally different page :)
we went on our second date last night and she said i think we should go on more see where our heads at and if were ready. in my head im like howwww longggg damn it
I got here because I’m in the situation right now. I’ve sorta put all pause on my interactions with others outside of him but we still are not exclusive. It’s been well over 4 months. Im thinking of bringing up the convo after my bday to see if it’s going to be anything. I’ve been told that Men know.. if he is leading me on i want to get off this trail and on to another path. I really like him but I LOVE me even more and more so not to put myself in this situation. The question is should I stay and wait or just count my loss of 4 months and move on
I am so glad that you said this because I realize I did the right thing, it was him that was misleading. He probably wasn't sincere with the answer he gave. Because his action showed other wise. I should have left a long time ago.
That's definitely up to your moral compass and theirs. I think the majority of us nowadays that are outside of my generation's "hook up" culture like to be exclusive before having sex. I'm the same way. It's difficult to bring up the subject of sex before being exclusive because it might come off as too direct and open. You could go that route however, I've seen other people who have had sex first and then gone exclusive. It's ultimately up to what both of you want. If you don't know what they want, ask them :)
i asked her to be exclusive last night, after being with her for 3 years, her reply was ( what do you mean ) ( i said in a sexual manner, meaning its only you and me having sex, no one else ) her reply was your single and im single. ( which basically tells me she might be having sex with others ) i replied okay with a smirk. she texted me today saying we can be exclusive but you gotta help me get this house. ( i havent yet replied to her text ) i dont know what to do now, i do love her.
@@dragonfly4494 yes im still with her, and funny how today we get into an arguement cause hermom cussed her out, and she taken it out on me, and said shes done with me. now she wont answer my calls
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