For God's sake hold onto that girl . There are so many horrendously toxic cruel people out there but this lady is absolute gold! Be happy with each other and stay solid x
I lost a friend to this same situation, apparently he never wanted to be on his meds and that was the biggest difference, always in denial about the condition. Im glad you are both doing well and keep up with the great attitude.
i played hockey every week with a guy that had schizophrenia. he was fairly ordinary (as in you wouldn't know he had schizophrenia) one week he started to act really strange and admitted to being off his medicine. we got worried and talked to his family but they blew it off literally saying "he probably needs more sleep." about 6 months later he killed himself. really fucked up and sad. condolences to you.
For the families it's hard because so far the person has always been ok, each time they took a risk it has so far worked out. Until it doesn't. And then there's no undo button, no time machine. It's brutal. The family have seen them go through so many episodes, before meds, before diagnosis, and so far even though there were very difficult times it's so far worked out eventually. It's a very cruel illness in that it affects the individual and those closest to them so much, they want the best, but they aren't doctors. They are just people trying their best. If you have a mental illness please know that the rest of us understand it's just like any other physical illness that can be helped with medicine. The brain is a physical object, the medicine is working on a physical object, the brain. So please don't feel on the outside. Also, 1 in 5 people will have a mental illness in their life, even if it's temporary illness. 1 in 5. That means every family, every workplace, every group of friends, there are lots of people with it. So be kind.
It was heartbreaking the first time my husband had a episode. He was staring at me and looked like he didn’t even know who I was. It was this look of confusion and hopelessness and I didn’t know what to do or how to help.
Girlfriend? The title should be "How My Wife Views My Schizophrenia". You're a brave and encouraging person and I'm only 15 but I'm so proud of you because I couldn't even begin to understand how hard that is. Both of you keep being strong!
Oh she’s a definite keeper!! 🥰 but then her names Amanda, so of course she’s going to be a darling 😉 you’re an absolute gorgeous couple ☺️ and I loved hearing all of her answers!! Have just found your channel and subscribed 👍🏼
2:29 she's so smart! Her perception, empathy, it's high. And so is her kindness. Probably sometimes it's not always convenient, but she seems quite patient. I've known a few addicts and the distraction thing can help. Funny stories, them telling them, keeping them thinking and talking about good things. Getting something good done, even small, making a meal, tidying up, simple but positive.
Oh my gosh you two seem like the sweetest people and such a beautiful couple 🥹🥹🥹 I’m a new sub so just catching up on your videos. My cousin has schizophrenia and I’m trying to understand what he goes through and how to help him better, you and Amanda are teaching me that!
Just found your channel, thank you for sharing your knowledge & journey, that takes a lot of courage. It’s great that you have such a great support. Wishing you two many, many beautiful happy years. Cheers
Peace, Love, Light and Blessings to you both. My mom was schizophrenic during a time when she was hospitalized and given shock treatments and lord knows what else. As kids we didn't understand any of it and no one talked about it. She had an awful life. Seeing your videos having episodes is scary for me to watch but it is helping me to understand what may have been going on in her head. Most of my life she was in "an espisode". Constantly. It was horrific. She was born in 1929 and I'm now 68. I don't know how to convey to you - both - how much your channel means to me. For some reason you just came up in my YT feed tonight. Something the Universe wanted me to see : ) So. Thank you. Stay strong and rock on.
Patience is a huge part in building a healthy strong relationship, there is always going to be things we don't like or agree with, no matter how much you have in common with a person.
You are beautiful man, I wish you the best in life and in your relationship. You are alive, fed, breathing, and loved. Always remember that brother, I love you
What a beautiful couple you are :) thank you for sharing all your knowledge and bringing more awareness to this condition, I knew so little about it before
Im having a moderate episode....and I felt like I was hanging out with you all for just a moment. The mind is a deep, complex instrument. I love love. And it's just radiating here between these two. You do have a cool hat. Two beautiful people . I take Caplyta and flipped my car in January. Severe psychosis, I thought people put bleach in my saline port flushes and was rushing myself to the hospital...but also thought I was being gassed through the vents in the car and rolled the windows down to breathe. Be safe. Stay away from vehicles when having episodes
How has your schizophrenia been going lately? Have your meds have things going better? Does talking to others about it help you? I think it's fantastic that you are so willing to share.
You two are perfect for each other, and such a beautiful couple. Thank you so much for making this video, and answering all of the questions. I wish you two the very best!
You two are a beautiful couple ❤️❤️ i wish i could meet you one day! Your personality is so warming, and hers is so caring! You guys are such a match, and i am happy you have one another 🙂
Hi you! Just watched a movie it was amazing. Its called “words on bathroom walls” reminds me of your story. Thank you for sharing your stories with us on youtube. I am a counselor and you are very brave!
Make more content Do more uploads I’m schizophrenic and we need people like you and you can do a lot for us with this kind of work All the best from another schizophrenic all the way over in the UK England
Im so glad that you are there for him and understand what he is going thru. My son is a paranoid schizophrenic and we take care of him and educate people about this mental illness.
do you have a video on the medications you take and how each one makes you feel? If not that would be very educational for me. I'm sure others as well. I'm always looking for others to see how they are with medications.
That was my question "are you ever scared , interesting posts you guys have and I think I'll follow you too cuz I'm very interested in your life story take care
I had a schizophrenic partner once, and honestly it was one of the most pleasant and chill relationships I’ve ever been in. When he started to have episodes around me, I had to think on my feet since I had no prior experience being in the presence of someone having an episode. All I knew was that he was likely to feel very paranoid about me having some kind of hidden agenda against him, so I was very careful to listen, gently ask questions, and not directly argue anything he was saying but instead gently remind him of things that happened earlier that day to establish basic info about why he was at my place, that he had chosen to spend the evening with me but was free to leave at any time. I also made sure to ask him constantly if there was anything I could do to offer proof that I have no hidden intentions and only want to support him. When I felt it was safe for me to pull out my phone without causing suspicion, I quickly looked up tips for how to support him and then proceeded to follow those-I’m happy to say that they worked! Once I was able to earn his trust about me being on his side and totally there for him, we began to unpack the delusions he was having and I was very careful to just listen and respond with words of empathy that neither confirmed or denied the scenarios he thought were happening. I would first say something like “that sounds really scary, I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with that threat right now.” Then I would say that I want to help him stay safe and protect anyone else who’s in danger, and ask him what he thinks that would involve. The more I got him to break down the perceived situation and examine the reasons why he was led to believe it was going to happen, I would start to find little entry points for bringing in contextual info and past experiences that I knew he would be capable of agreeing with, and I was very careful to do this in a way where the goal wasn’t to flat out dismiss the scenario he was fearing, but to offer little examples of how things might turn out differently and hopefully would. I found that, going forward, as long as I took this approach with him during his episodes, they would typically wind down surprisingly fast (usually within and hour or two). I also made sure to never point out that the delusions he was having were delusions, even after the episode had blown over, both out of respect and also because I as a non-schizophrenic have no idea what that adjustment back to baseline reality is like, and didn’t want to assume that the delusion from the episode had suddenly ceased to be true for him. Anyways, I’ve rambled too long. All this is to say, I hope that others who find themselves in this situation one day are able to do a little research and just show up with an open heart and a willingness to listen and adapt to the needs of someone having an experience that you simply won’t be able to relate to. Assume that you don’t know what it’s like, be transparent about that, emphasize that you don’t claim to understand any of the stuff that they are insisting only they have any knowledge of, and ask the person having the episode to help you understand whatever they would like you to know about what’s going on, and simply offer to accommodate any needs they might have at that particular moment (ie physical proximity, lighting, sound, location, topics of conversation, terms of engagement, boundaries, etc). And obviously, as the person who’s not having the episode, be sure to maintain safety, but don’t call too much attention to that objective, as that kind of language can make the person feel as though you’re threatening to control or restrain them. And lastly, don’t be scared. The delusions the person is having can be very disturbing, but focus on acceptance and cooperation, and you’d be surprised at how swiftly and peacefully these episodes can blow over often times. Once I understood how they worked and what needed to be done on my part, it was honestly not a big deal and just became routine. Just show the same amount of respect you normally would and allow them to be as autonomous as possible so long as everyone is safe. Only call for outside professional help if the situation becomes dangerous, and dangerous doesn’t mean scary or disturbing. Dangerous means dangerous-palpable threats or attempts at physically harmful behavior. I know we all have our boundaries and many people will feel like they shouldn’t have to take responsibility in this kind of situation if they don’t want to, but in my opinion, I think we could all benefit from putting our comfort aside sometimes and do what we can to help others around us live as functional a life as possible. We owe it to ourselves as a whole to be the kind of person we would want to have around in case we ever needed that kind of help.
Wait what, I'm from Arkansas too! I've lived here my whole life. My husband is also really into role-playing games, maybe we'll be fortunate enough to cross paths with y'all one day! ❤ He's 28 and I'm 24. We live in the central part of the state. I don't know how to contact people through RU-vid, but if y'all are ever in the area or want to be friends, just let me know here and we'll make it happen. Y'all seem like wonderful people to know!
Ok you handle your Schizophrenia and a beautiful relationship? You 2 are badass... 🙏🏿 I hope the best for you both. Your very inspiring... You 2 stay together that's my request! 🙏🏿
Boy. God really brought you together with a beautiful inside and out woman. Im sure she is thankful for finding you also. God bless you both in all things. Janet ❤❤❤ God brought my husband and i together. And for a double blessing, my daughter and his son fell in love had 3 children and we think she has schizophrenia (no doctor & no meds). He helps her a lot.
Omg where do i start cuz i have so many questions 🤯 But my 1st is has he always knew he was a skitso? Cuz my ex never believed he was even though he told me his dad is.. Do i got some crazy stories.. but later lol
She is an amazing person. It takes a very empathetic and patient person to handle the challenges they face. They are so funny together and together the have figured out how to make things work. God bless them for having the connection that is so well grounded. You can tell how much they love each other. I hope they are always able to care for each other the way they do. Good luck you too, you are good people.
Awe that’s sad tho her response was “not scared because she’s a bigger person”. How about because episodes don’t make him “dangerous” or abusive, like the media and stereotypes portray schizophrenics to be.
Thank you, but that’s also not a fair comment. Some people with schizophrenia do get physical. I’m not scared of him because I have no reason to be. On the second hand. My father with schizophrenia was explosive and did get physical sometimes. He’s not dangerous because he can’t help it. I didn’t say anything about him being dangerous or abusive. Thank you though.
Actually she did make a statement that she did not feel that he would ever harm her. The comment about being bigger and able to take care of herself was a great answer. I love that she both trusts him AND is confident in her own abilities.
