How narcissistic ab*** IMPACTS your parenting 

There is hope! I had both a narcissistic mother and husband. I entered therapy when pregnant with my second child because I didn't want to do to my children what was done to me. My therapist reparented me with unconditional acceptance. She helped me to see that indeed I did have feelings and that it was okay to have them. It was the first time I was able to truly trust someone. The therapy was very difficult at times, but eventually I developed confidence in myself. Sometimes I even think that I am enough! Today I am 77. My daughter has 5-year-old twin boys. She is a fabulous mother and she actually likes me.

As a parent i make sure my children understand about narc abuse. We discuss openly about the impact of these relationships. Hope they raise their standards to avoid the narcs.

Being raised by narc parents who thought all personal preferences were "of the devil" or "worldly", I have probably over compensated with my kids by allowing them to freely chose how to express themselves. Having never been allowed to pick a hobby mom and dad didn't approve of, never being allowed to pick a single article of clothing myself or even listen to the type of music I wanted, makes you value individual sovereignty of every human even more.

Narcissistic parents are not in the kids best interest. Period. They should be the “visit” parents. Instead the courts do what is in the fairness of parent, not the child.

My teen daughter made the comment that I have never ever told her that she was stupid or crazy for feeling the way she does. I encourage her to share her feelings openly because this was denied to me. Then we discuss the circumstances behind her feelings, gently correct any misinformation, and readjust thoughts if necessary. And sometimes, help her figure out a resolution if possible. But sometimes I have to be a parent and still stand my ground when it comes to rules and values. It is okay for her to not be happy with me. At least she knows my reasons are valid and not just pulling it out of my arse to be a *itch.

Voicing their wants without shame , not always getting what they want, but voicing it without shame by another is KEY

As a survivor of being married to a narcissist for 20 yrs and divorced for 3yrs and now dealing with all of the parenting challenges you mentioned here. Worried how to help my kids with all of the psychological challenges they were left with while dealing with my own I just wish that we could find a psychologist with your knowledge in narcissistic abuse that my health insurance will cover 😢

The narcissist sabotages everything, they force court action to make anything better. I am always undermined. He doesn’t care about the kids well-being

I saw you on Today earlier in the week… I’m glad the mainstream media is shining a light on this toxic topic, Dr. Ramani!

The theft of Self.

My mother was wonderful, and I learned a lot from her. She was empathetic, loving, and a wonderful mentor. She let us be us. For me, I’ve seen a Lot of Garbage in my life, so I’m reserved by nature, and just prefer to avoid garbage

Dr.Ramani please make more video on coparenting with a narcissist

“Will I ever be good enough” was always at the back of my mind.

WOW this video hits HOME I tell you! I actually didn’t equate my struggles with the abuse but it makes complete sense. I’m glad to know it’s not just me 😅

🥇You are such a beautiful Spirit & I am SOOOO thankful for you! You hit the bullseye 🎯 when you said Narcissists are always Undermining & Invalidating. As well as: they care more about "Winning" than caring about their OWN children. One THOUSAND percent TRUE!🎯 BLESS YOU Sister💞 & Thank You for ALL you do! You are a Life Saver🌟 & an ✨inspiration✨ to me ABSOLUTELY, and to SOOO many Millions of others!!! 👏🏼💯💯You are beautiful❤️inside & out! 🥇🥇🥇Thank you!!! 🥇🥇🥇🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥©️

This video really explains why I feel drained and depleted all the time ever since owning a puppy. I live with my narc mother and raising a puppy has been the most exhausting thing, worrying about every little thing he does and making sure he gets attention 24/7. Then there's the internal battle of whether I'm being enough for my dog, giving him enough, making sure he's happy, it's all too much for me right now, especially at the start of my career. The falling apart inside is so relatable and it's difficult to be present with my dog. I sometimes dread spending time with him and everything you said in this video is spot on. I told myself I could never see myself having kids, but there are moments when I feel like I could be a good father and be there for them and show up in a way that my mother couldn't for me. Thank you so much for making this video, I learned so much and it helped me understand a bit about why my mother is the way she is.

I am a new mom and I think this video is for me. I have not had narcissistic parents but I have been through Narcissistic abuse.

I had a hard time and still do with showing proper affection towards my kids. My parents never hugged me or comforted me when I was hurt or sad. If I cried I was told to knock it off or when I was hurt I was told it’s not that bad. I didn’t punished or criticized my kids I acted more like a friend.

Everyday was a fight to be present for my daughter and myself because I knew what was happening behind the curtain. She resents me now for it because it was never enough

Ive chosen to not have children. I havent been treated the best from my parents and have suffered emotional detachment and inconsistencies throughout my childhood. I still feel bewildered from time to time❤️

This information is 30 yrs too late for me. I did the opposite of my narc mom and still my adult kids don't have nothing to do with me, they were highly influenced by my narc mom. So I lose in both directions.

I had a narcissistic parent. I married a narcissist and we have an autistic child. We got divorced in 2016 and the judge ordered joint physical custody. I wanted full custody because during our marriage I could somewhat protect our son from the narcissistic rage of my ex. Joint custody wasn't fun but I managed as best as I could. My ex remarried shortly after. Fast forward to 2019. I was served papers because my ex wanted full custody. I didn't think he would win but he did. He's very conniving and manipulative. My first visitation with my son, he told me that I wasn't his mom, I was his stepmom. Talk about getting kicked in the gut. It's always been about control and not what's best for our son. It's hard enough navigating being a parent of an autistic kid. It's even worse with the crap my ex and his wife are putting into my son's head. I pretty much stopped really living when the judge made his decision. I try to be the best mom I can be for my son when I have him. When he's not around I'm just living day by day. Autopilot basically. Thanks Dr. Romani. This video really hit home.

As a cycle breaker I didn't want my children to experience what I went through as a child. I grew up with a narcissistic mother and I was in a toxic relationship too. Am a single mother of 2 and I raise my kids completely opposite to what narcs expect their children to be raised. My ex was shocked how independent our child is because he has never experienced independence growing up and for him to see what freedom looks like in his own child, he was shocked. I have a very secure attachment with both my kids which is something I didn't have with my own mother or family

Thank you for this post. It is what I needed to hear today.

Bless you, Doctor Romani. You are very encouraging and full of wisdom and kindness. I had a narcisstic mother and went on to marry a narcissist. I have three children - two of them are happy, successful and in good relationships but one suddenly decided to disown our family five years ago. He is married with two small children but is now being extremely abusive and violent towards his wife while staying in the family home but leading his own life - a party lifestyle which involves staying out all night, going away for weekends with his "new" friends. He is also taking illicit drugs (which I suspect are part of the cause of his violence). He has now decided he is "trans". His wife has a good job but has also shouldered all the childcare but she is frightened of him and too frightened to leave because he is very cunning. I beat myself up at night blaming myself for the fact that he has turned out like this even though my other two children tell me I should not blame myself as they have turned out ok.

I think Dr. Ramani nailed it when she said, "There is an inherent delusion and hypocrisy built into entitlement..." Narcissistic parents believe that their needs are more important than those of their children and that those needs should always be met. Subjugation is a haunting nightmare that can steal so much from us. The weaponization of empathy means child who cares the most gets targeted and remains most affected.

Oh, I so needed this situation to be addressed! Thank you! Suffering from post-narcissistic abuse, and co-parenting 4 kids with a narcissist, has been even worse in my experience. It's hard enough to parent but with a righteous ex narc it is nearly impossible. The constant surveillance of every situation and decision I make or don't make is scrutinised, even by my kids on his behalf.

Thank you so much for this encouragement and validation. I also ruminate over what I should’ve done better with my boys. You made my day 😊❤

I've been healing from my marriage for the last 3 years and have 2 school aged kids. I want to be able to build my kids up and encourage them to be their best selves, so I had to start doing that for myself. I'll actually talk our loud to myself reminding myself how difficult all of this is to manage and how strong I am to be able to handle all of it. That allows me to feel secure enough to be there for my two sweet peas 💕

Growing up with 2 Narc parents I never felt safe. I am ordering your Book ! thank you so much for every video . They are all helpful. God Bless you.

Be healthy, well rounded. Be fortitude, source of healthy attachment, stability, and remember that it’s okay to be human. Seek in good faith and be unshakable in search of the healthier, be that.

You are telling my parenting story after being raised by then marrying 3 decades to narcissist. One child like me, the other him. Been doing EMDR & CBT, following your videos…..just trying my best to recover & be better in all areas. Really pisses me off I wasnt aware I wasnt aware & how much damage…..what you said……the fact he cares more abt winning, than whats best for our children, or following judges orders…..just alot of drama & chaos making. Thk u for helping all of us❤

Why is narcissism child abuse not a crime? Do we have to wait to the kid grows up and is a mess ?

Truth ! Thank you, Dr. R!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

I was thinking about this I as worried I have been so overwhelmed and stressed out .Trying to be there for children while the narcissist suck up all the energy in the house your not allowed to focus on your kids and pets or yourself after years of being trained to always be focused on the narcissist. I love the color of Dr.Ramoi’s sweater

For the record/ it would seem that one would be devastated emotionally after having had to go through this kind of trauma: for the record: feeling sorry 😞 for anyone who had to go through this

@doctorramani can you please make a video about victims avoiding intimacy with narcissist because of betrayal trauma. There’s nothing online about it.

Thank you for the validation, Dr Ramani. It means a lot to know that at least one person on this planet understand me. You help me to keep going and I appreciate that. 💜

Being raised by Narrcissist's it taught me what not to do when my own children were growing up I feel i failed miserably with my 1st as that was when i experienced worst abuse by nex By the time my other children came along i sought support & learned so much & got therapy for younger ones I did the best i knew how from then on Lots of breaking up & hoovered, making up & it had to take its toll on all my kids I learned so much on your videos & learned to stop "throwing nex under buses to them" as it was tetchy to go there with some of them They have all coped extremely well considering all they experienced I aint doing so bad either Still in therapy & still tuning in daily to your videos & brilliant knowledge you so freely share with this great community Thank you Excellent video

They should start testing people to see if they qualify to be parents. Reproduction should be a privilege not a right.

I did not have the tools I have now, to understand trauma with narcissistic parents, until my 50’s. So unfortunately I raised my children in the ways, Dr. Ramani explains, so now I am taking a different approach, though my children are adults now, so it seems at times there are challenges.

I have been so determined not to raise my daughter with those patterns - thankfully I understood in time, that that includes letting her see me take good care of myself and my boundaries. At 7 she has overheard enough of these videos (where appropriate) to sort out accurately *for herself* who the people are in our lives with these difficulties. This has facilitated some profoundly educational conversations. I’m so proud of her brains, guts, and self esteem - rounding it off with age-appropriate education about abusive patterns, I don’t think she’ll ever end up in the misery I’ve been through. I teach her to consider every situation from the standpoint of honestly evaluating what responsibility she has (including if that’s none at all), what responsibility others have, and owning her part in things but only when she truly has one; not to let anyone gaslight her about her evaluation; and to be watchful for people who never seem able to take responsibility. She’s a firecracker, but one with empathy too, I think she’ll be just fine! 🌟

Thank you for this video! You mention that knowledge is half the battle. Can you please, please discuss those of us who are older and had no idea at the time what we were dealing with. Those of us who now have adult children (and grands) who treat us badly while we try in a whole new way to figure out what is STILL going on. Are they still being influenced by the other parent, narcissistic, flying monkeys?

Raised by a family of narcs & abusive father. Married into a family of narcs... sometimes i still wonder if I'm the one to blame (after 3yrs of Dr Ramani's videos)!! Yes the 'I'm not good enough' is my constant companion! I think enough damage has been done in my children's life, due to lack of awareness!

Dr. Ramani. Thanks for this. When I had my children at 19 and 21 (1975) I knew I was doing something wrong in my child rearing but no one could tell me what it was at the time I’m 65 it was more about being the Abnegada-mother-the wholly-all fixing-encompassing one, like the Virgin Mary being Godlike to our children; But I knew something was wrong and also I didn’t think it was normal that I would be so sick over caring for them. I always wished there was a how to do it handbook for teen parenting, that told me what I was doing wrong (I was raped by my father also) hence, I use the word wrong (self-blaming, not necessary I know today) kindly because I know it was learned behavior. And I’m taking your lessons as growth moments. However, I am teaching these things to my grandchildren now for when they’re ready to have their own children. Perhaps you could write this teenage or young adult parenting hand book with the same explanations you offer to teach us about how narcissism works. What do you say? AlviLda Sophia Anaya-Alegría

Nice to hear that I am not a bad parent for letting my kid watch cartoons. I'm tired of all the holier-than-thou parents preaching that screens will cause permanent, irreversible mental damage to kids.

I recognize this in my stepson my husband overindulges him so much and makes excuses for his behavior.. and if I dare to call his behavior out then dad is mad at me.... thank you Dr. Romani so very much your videos help so much ❤️

Thank you so much, Dr. Ramani! This is such an important video! Being abused by a Self-righteous narc is the worst. My parenting style changes so quickly often from being a very easy parent to very strict. It often feels like I am a narcissist, and when I become strict, I feel anxiety and stress thinking I am damaging my own children and cannot repair them. Other times, I become overprotective and easygoing. My children get confused and cannot trust me anymore. The worst thing that we can do is become the narcissist to our own children. Every time I question/yell at them for their perfect grades, I know deep inside that I am doing exactly the same thing to them, but I cannot control myself.

Yep, and coming to the realization that my oldest has extreme traits & "failure to launch" at 36. It aint fun, after going no contact w ex husband 2 yrs ago (not his father) and abusive family I grew up in Dr Ramani - Thank you so much, the education is opening my logic brain from shut down and survival mode at 58yo. It is hard realizing and accepting our own role but thats what we have to do to grow into our authentic self. I want to know my authentic whole self.

Thank you for this video. I have grown children and was parenting pre-internet. I read every book I could find about parenting.It was harder to find books to help me understand my parents. I couldn't google their behavior and have search results. I knew my parents were manipulative and gaslighting. How wonderful it would have been to have resources like your RU-vid channel. Both my husband and I have grown and healed tremendously over 35 years of marriage; we were both traumatized by our parents without consciously understanding what had happened. Our children are healthy adults but there were certainly bumps along the way because of our baggage. I think overall we were present and balanced in our parenting. My childhood traumas certainly made me very hard on myself for every moment I didn't parent well. This last bit of healing is about truly loving myself and seeing all the parenting stuff I did really well.

Ha I feel like I am guilty of so many of these things, and so hard on myself if I think I failed them or did something wrong. Giving myself more grace and self compassion for sure, especially in light of the narcissistic relationships I’ve experienced including parental. Thank you Dr Ramani. ❤

I ended up over loving my son overptotecting him and giving him whatever he wanted because I never had anything or any love . But he did come out a good young man.

This video is a must see for anyone who has to co-parent with a raging narcissist and also suffered from narcissistic abuse in their childhood - it spoke deeply to me and I’m so grateful for your brilliant insights…I feel understood.

My mother is a narcissist. I didn't know these things when I raised my son. I now realize what a horrible mother I was, too. I learned it in therapy AFTER he died 2 yrs ago. Now I can't fix it. It's too late. It haunts me.

We are living this nightmare. Our grandkids will be third generation narcissistic individuals. The family is textbook. I can’t make up the crazy we have lived. Our daughter-in-law has total control and abandonment is the story of our life now. We said no thank you.

I’d love to have children- psychology is everything, and finding someone healthy is hard. I’ve helped raise kids and mediate between a parent and a child so I have a good idea

This is the first time I see my experience as a parent portrayed so accurately. I'm a solo dad, and for me, its really the perfectionism part that I struggle the most with. Now my kid is 3 and I'm slowly learning to let her watch screen without feeling guilty so I can nap 😂 But what is helping me building my confidence as a parent is therapy and consulting whith professionals of education to adjust my parenting when necessary. Thank you so much for sharing this knowledge with us !!

I was waiting for this one

I try to keep in mind that life is a learning process and when you make mistakes - as all humans do - you apologize and strive to do better. I always apologize to my kids when I screw up, because I want them to know that everyone makes mistakes and we can keep learning. More than school work or anything else, I emphasized character with my kids - kindness, compassion, empathy, generosity. I also made my kids each others defense attorneys - if one child is in trouble and the other defends them, the consequence is less. This helped them to empathize with each other and see things from each others point of view. It was hard for me not to do too much for them - because I had a lingering feeling that I was only valuable if I was useful, but my husband was a good counterpoint to this. Unfortunately, it took quite a long time for me to understand that when he was encouraging me to do less, he was not saying that I was worthless, but rather that I was worthy without having to "earn" my worth. That was shockingly hard for me to learn.

Singing my tune yet again, doc. I chose not to have children because of this reason, then I worry I am this way to my cats. I did appreciate your differentiation between feeling safe and keeping safe. I never feel safe. I spend the majority of my time trying to find that elusive feeling. I wonder what it is like. Thanks for the video!!

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🎉Can we get signed copies of your book when we order? I would LOVE that!❤️So would LOTS of others too I'm sure!🙌🏼🎉🎉

Thank you for this. I definitely show up with some of these.. Trying to work it out but honestly, I feel lost and overwhelmed.

Wow, every time I feel like I am going through a new type of struggle, Dr. Ramani seems to have a video for it. It came at the perfect time, I know I am over compensating and I do take each and every single emotion to heart and it causes me a lot of anxiety and I am always questioning or doubting my parenting skills and I hate that. And I tell my husband what sucks is that I am trying not to repeat my past, but it is also not allowing me to just be me as a parent because I am too focused on not being my parents.

Ain’t got kids and it’s attributable to narc parents…. Lost count of the times I told myself “I will never do this to my children when I’m a grown up” and now I’d rather not take the risk

My narc husband is completely absent as a parent. He gives my stepson no attention or love. He just acts annoyed with him all the time. Then he goes back and forth between me and his son trying to stir up drama and resentment. I think he really wants me and his son fighting over him. I also think he’s threatened by what a good mom and stepmom I am. He hates how present I am because it highlights how absent he is.

I believe I was all over the board. In discussion with a therapist I did things that were healthy and unhealthy, but the place that was a total fail was emotionally. I see me as a parent in some of the things described in this video. The one thing that I know is that how I felt about what I did and how they felt and perceived what I did was quite different. I know I loved and wanted to not only protect but teach my children to be able to adults on their own, be able to trust their self to make good choices and decisions. All in all I did some things right and some wrong, to bad the wrong made the most impact. I tried to not be my mom so hard, that I didn’t do things right.

I have many layers of toxic, high conflict people in my life. I’m the oldest of nine kids. I tried so hard to shield my siblings from my nightmarishly narcissistic mother. When I got married, my husband’s ex became massively vindictive and used their son (age 3 at that time) as a tool to manipulate and alienate my husband. My husband’s little sister is also toxically manipulative and high conflict and his parents were very much her flying monkeys. I was literally surrounded by them. I think my biggest error in parenting is that I conveyed the message that the outside world is unsafe. Which it is to a large degree, but I worry that I delayed her venturing out into the world. She’s been a late bloomer in many ways. However, she does know what a reciprocal relationship looks like and has been encouraged to stand up for herself when needed. She’s the best thing that ever happened to me. I truly don’t feel like I deserve her. She’s the reason I knew at a gut level that my mom was rotten even before I had words to describe her. I have never loved someone more than my daughter in my whole life. ❤

I so needed to hear this. THANK YOU! I had as a kid and with my soon to be ex husband. Unfortunately my kids live with him and he's been alienating them from me. Their general behaviour has even gone off the rail because he doesn't discipline them. I feel like I just failed them as a Mom. Thank You for mentioning the thing about sometimes being snappy or too exhausted to always be present with them because I feel like I neglected and abandoned them when they wanted to do stuff with me and I just couldn't (even though I wanted to). I see other mom's doing all these things with their kids and I just feel like I failed them and am a crap Mom. I know in my mind that I did the best I could at the time especially as I didn't have all the information and knowledge that I do now, but I still feel like I could have done better and should have done better and now it's too late. I live with the regret and guilt that had I known everything I do now, that things would have been different. Now that I'm healthier and in a really good space, I can't do anything now and especially because I haven't been able to be so present in their life for the 3 years my ex and I have been separated. I wanted to protect them and keep them safe and I feel like I failed in that too and the scars they'll carry just because of me.

Thank you for this. My kids are 17 and 19 and I have over compensated in some ways. In other ways I did really well and am still learning. Inwas raised by Narcs who were physically emotionally, sexually, and intellectually abusive. I still caretake my narc mom and narc grandmother. I was an only child and both of them are unwell and I am trapped watching out for them and being abused by them. The constant battle for boundaries is exhausting. Both of my kids have autism and I was diagnosed later after they were. I was in the car with my 17 year old yesterday taking them to an appointment and I wasnin a lot of pain and Inwas really tired and I'd had a stressful day. My kid was aware of this but truly unbothered. They knew it wasn't anything to do with them and they just calmly went about their regular routine. It struck me how different it is for me, that I am like this huge antenna, tuning into everyone's moods and then also bending myself into a pretzel to regulate them. Especially my parents and grandparents. I had to reguate THEIR moods from extremely early childhood. If I could luve my life iver I would've gone NO CONTACT at 18 and never looked back and that is my advice to anyone reading this.

Thank you Dr. Ramani for all your hard devoted work. YOU have brought a great amount of healing and understanding to my life and I want you to know that! I also want you to know I LOVE YOUR HAIR UP!! SO PRETTY!

I feel like I’ve failed and don’t know how to fix it. I wanted my children to approve of me.

I have never felt like i am doing good enough. Never. If i feel I’m doing my best that voice kicks in… no you’re not.

This is so true. It makes me realized how npd really is. I am glad that you made this video. You really said a heck of a lot

I only started therapy after i had my first child, when he was a few months old, it was only then that i relaised my parents were narccistic because i was having such trouble reconciling their behviour and my own memories childhood and me not understanding how to "be" a mom and looking at how my parents responded to me as child and the advice they were goving to me as new mom versus how unnatural that felt for me as a mom. Its been two years and the last two weeks ive come to accept it, with like these series of flashbacks to moment all throughout my childhood and adult life. I have decided to immigrate to keep my family safe. I just realsied i dont actually know who i am, ive soent my entire life putting my parents needs and whims first, ive sacrificed my career, time with my own nuclear family, my husband. They expect me to them first all the time.

You just blew my mind 🤯 !!! Trifecta!!! I feel like you just gave me a big hug 😢

Thank you, Dr. Ramani from the bottom of my heart. Thank you

Looking back, as I am older now, the abuse I took from my narcissistic mother left me dangling in the wind as far as my parenting. Fortunately, my grown children are also dealing with their grandmother, and have a gracious forgiveness of me because of that.

Yes Dr Ramani 💕 it was so hard when I was being abused 🙏❤️❤️❤️

I’ve allowed my daughters to express everything they feel. I allow them to say and speak to me in ways i would tell someone else isn’t ok.

Parenting social media is narcissistic even if the influencer herself isn't necessarily narcissistic. I have learned to stay away. The moment I catch sight of it, I click off. Dr. Ramani gives great advice.

facts, facts, facts. also i am always scared to be not liked by my child, even though he does truly adore me.

I would really like to see a video about how to be constistent and what consistency truly is about, like the video about intimacy (it was really helpful): some kind of narc. families teach you to live from day to day, in a bad way, to be prepared for anything, your "routine" is to daily surf on complete chaos (violence, financial abuse, drama, etc) and to overcome every different challenge in your way, in order to get your basic stuff done. As an adult, I really do not understand consistency, even if I know it's important and it feels good when it's there, but the maintaining part it's the real challenge, because everything tends to change and shift constantly when you're still living on the conseguences of narc. abuse, like facing economical challenges or ptsd. I can behave (emotionally) with a good amount of consistency, by instinct, but it's still something that no one ever taught me, or that I ever witnessed.

Great tips on how to stop self blame and get through parenting and life in general. Thanks Dr. Ramani

Thank you for the video! I have to admit I wish you touched on the subject of growing up with a narcissistic parent + a codependent parent who fawns for the other. This was my situation and I am left wondering what my relationship with my mother could have been like if only she took a different path. I imagine our connection would have been more authentic, but her position as inferior / narc supply for her life partners didn't allow that to happen.

Support groups, community groups, therapeutic groups are so important for survivors of narcissistic abuse and having been in many of these with people who are parents (I am not) we hold space for each other without judgement and this is why it’s important for people to be able to help people parent. Yes there are people who don’t anything about parenting with or without children but to blankety say (in a previous video) that people without children or people who’s oldest child is younger than the person who is complaining about their child can not give parenting advice is nonsense. If someone is clearly being unreasonable and/or harming their child, people should speak up. This is how children continue to be abused because we all must keep quiet and not hurt people who made a choice to procreates feelings and not how their actions are harming the child. People give unsolicited opinions or advice on everything and we should be learning how to filter out the noise and discern what if any of the advice/opinions are worth anything.

Thank you Dr. Ramani! I needed to hear this today❤ After watching so many of your videos since I’ve subscribed, I ended up preordering your book the other day and I can’t wait to read and learn from it💕

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Omg the parenting influencer advice 😅 gold ✨️✨️✨️

I said it before, but i feel i need to repeat it, the world is a much better place because it has you, dr. Ramani. Thank you for how much you share your light with the world!!!! ❤❤❤

This is exactly what I was looking for I became severely depressed following a Narcissistic relationship and became a single mother and was petrified i was an awful parent and put myself under excessive pressures which even worsened my mental health. This so has helped me be a little kinder to myself. Thankyou.

Dr Ramini, this video is so on point. I don't have the words to express how much I can relate to it all.. 💯

I ❤ yr videos. Keep them up. Thank you Ms. Ramani. My mom dad and younger brother is narcs. Mom died so feeling confused. Husband is one and hes and we had one a boy but we misscarged. But i know he well. Little angel in heaven with my mom. Hoping. And i am a empath. I think my older brother is one too but he died too. So lots of losses. But i gonna be going to some therapy maybe one of theses days. ❤

Giving myself up. I am guilty of this. I gave and give all to my children. Except when i had a mental breakdown; i feel i definitely didn’t and feel extreme guilt for this. I try to make up for it so they don’t fee neglected or unimportant. I felt unimportant as a child growing up (narc mother, enabling father), i felt immense responsibility for their happiness and moods that i didn’t come into it, that was unacceptable. Self doubt, doubt as a parent 💯.

I can so relate with this video. I went through exhausting trials with meddling inlaws. There are so much pressure for us to be supportive (monies and laborious duties) for elderly inlaws. My relationship with my daughter has become strained because of their intrusive interferences. Their expectations for us goes beyond what we can provide. No one wants to be accountable for his own retirement. Many elderly inlaws expect the family members to be there for them. Their set ways hinder the rest of the us.

I never had children, I knew better.

Make feel good parenting my child from dad confronted my narcissistic mother behavior. I teaching them so much we are getting to a good place

Thanks so much Dr Ramani!! Fantastic advice ... as usual.

This was the first video I’ve seen anywhere that reached into my mind and helped me so much. As a person with mental illness on top of all this the emotional pain is crippling. It’s nice to finally know I’m not just crazy, lazy and inept. Thank You

I would love a series on handling narc grandparents would be great please, especially cause we can't go no contact w/ my fil cause it would mean no contact with mil