How not to be Angry all the Time 

Prze Zając *lose. And yes pretty much.

thank you!

Not hope but expectations

Musical Pears do you? Really?

thats the choice really, when misfortune and suffering occurs to you you can either project it onto yourself in sadness or unto others in rage. neither is capable of holding the entirety of it by itself without reprocautions.

IdoN0TneedTherapy. Therapy?

just gotta liek try not to or just look at the situation and be greatful, as things likely could’ve gone mich worse. Sometimes that works, but often not. But, try to make the most of stuff. Not everything is gonna be horrible.

One step at a time

is it not even more soul-crushing though to be optimistic about a world where everything goes wrong all the time?

Slightly Positive nihilism

Yes. Stupid idiots making stupid shit videos.

But are you angry?

@@Prep965445 intensely

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You look like Fred ⚡. Just joking.

maxcoseti next time expect the worst .... this way u will get better than ur expectations .... result = satisfaction ... prob solved 😂

+Henri de Feraudy lmao!

maxcoseti I hope you're not still angry.

Bruce Dunn Well, he still is. Does that make you angry?

WaffleAbuser welcome to reality, but better a bit pessimistic than totaly depressed.

WaffleAbuser I'm still pissed off every day , and when my rage past , I'm depressed )

I don't understand this why these kind of videos are being made where there no education and knowledge. this is just one man's view and completely not true.

Saman Shrestha I thought I learned something from it , but it looks like it lacks any point or meaning . People differ, we all are stimulated by outside factors differently

Saman Shrestha so is it just true that this video has nothing to offer and it's just someone else's wrong opinion, or is it just your opinion (which could be wrong as well)?

It's probably good to notice when you're feeling unhappy in case there is something positive you can do to fix the situation. However, sometimes it's just a matter of enduring a tough situation. You can still make yourself a promise that if you discover a practical solution to your problems, then you will explore it.

Sounds like you've given up and accepted that you should be on the bottom rung. They've battered your ambition and drive to become who you deserve to be. This is a tactic that I believe governments impose on the public to keep us down.

Incredible Canemian That's pretty much what RU-vid wants us to do.

Incredible Canemian it's more like understanding the uncontrollable

No, it's about expectations rather than hope. Do you see the subtle difference? If you expect something, you will be angry when you are let down. Hope shouldn't make you angry in case of fail. The true hope, at the very least. Luke Skywalker (the new hope) wouldn't make people angry if he failed, he would make them more sad (and death, in consequence... heheh)

Incredible Canemian lmao!!! basically

Incredible Canemian Hope of what? What do you hope is going to happen?

you know what i dont have my phone im on my labtop so i cant send any emojis so hahahaha

Bryan A hahahaha

KourtlynLashae Caicedo hahahaha no one cares

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Bryan A bruh 😂😂😂😂

Nice👍

That's why many prefer more angry than fear or sadness in emotions, because of the false believe that fear and sadness represent weakness while angry represents strenght.

@@angief6364 anger is strenght

Love your answer :)

As long as action isnt throwing a chair across the room 😂

Well maybe you shouldn't expect all yt videos to be optimistic then you might not have gotten angry.

this video has no basis on reality. Angry is a normal human response if it is used the right way. This way of thinking will make everyone go from being angry to depressed.

mk17173n It's not pessimism per se, it's more realism. Being realistic that you'll lose things, your partner won't understand you and sometimes you just can't control the way things go. It's not saying never be angry, just how not to have a very bad reaction to even the most minor things.

yes but you cant think that way because it makes you passive. If everyone thought that way then no one would succeed. Life is about making mistakes and learning from them not accepting an inevitable outcome.

thats because your so optimistic, join us and you wouldn't be so angry. addendum optimism is important too but balancing these two is the key to making it through this madness we call life with your mind intact

If your life is ruined, you had too high of expectations for it in the first place ;) After all, who the fuck are you to think that you deserve happiness?

I just remembered an early Elvis Costello lyric: "Well I used to be disgusted, but now I try to be amused."

Hango Maze we are all dancing, all singing crap of the world.

happiness is just a myth

Remember the stoics video? In that video they kinda already said this.

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couldn't agree more! Both are necessary to maintain a healthy mindset. When faced depression, my thoughts were "nothing will ever go my way and I shouldn't have any goals because they won't be fulfilled." After getting out of that mindset and seeing things for what they really are, I've realized how good of a thing hope and optimism can be when used in moderation. We need to use optimism when looking at our goals, otherwise we will never achieve anything and never find out what we could have done because pessimism tells us "it isn't gonna happen, so just give up" which is a very unhealthy way to live.

h0m3st4r I love how your profile pic says "light" XD 光明!

Gr8 Incarnate but there are small examples in everyday life where optimism can be very useful and get you that initial motivation to actually try and attempt to make things better for yourself. Optimism is a big part of motivation. An example would be when you want to ask someone out on a date. Pessimism would tell you "they're not gonna like you. What's the point in trying? They're gonna say no." So you would never actually find out for sure what they would have said. It takes a bit of optimism and thinking "maybe they'll say yes!" to get the courage to take chances. And even if they say no, you could at least say you tried and not have to live with not knowing what they would have said.

Gr8 Incarnate You're right, that is a possibility as well. Asking someone out means that you put yourself in a vulnerable position to the possibility of getting hurt via rejection. There is always a risk with that sort of thing. As with anything in life, one can become resentful towards something that has hurt and scarred them before in the past. It's really up to the individual to let something like that effect their choices or not. One must ask themselves if the risk is worth the reward. The last part of your comment rings very true. The optimistic viewpoint is a tool to be used, but not alone. Diversity is very important, and this is no exception. Optimism is one of many tools at one's disposal to build their life on. It is really up to the individual to decide what they want to use and when and where they want to use it.

Kiljaz Ink "you need both in balance" i think its fair to say y'all are saying the same thing.

Wendonely I know that shit right!😡

fuck why am i here year later

cantchoosename I don’t know. Why are you?

lol same

murun deep inside you're hopeful.

James Gilpatric -- Much better. You're elected to give the next lecture!

🙃!

Cant help but shake my head at some of this comments. Do you even speak english? None of you even speak like human anymore!

@@UnironicallyToastI don’t see anything wrong with the comments

Addressing your opening sentence; ..and yet people Want to live as long as possible. 😮

Just to shine a little light into the darkness, I think that the people on this page are trying to understand each other, and we are all motivated by a desire to make the world a little better. I am so sorry to think of all the disappointments that you have endured. I hope that since you wrote this post, that some good things have happened in your life.

@@aarone9000 that’s just biology.

I guess living with this setting towards life is just ugly. Would be interesting if he could give us an update from his actual life

Eddit Lugo Stoicism? shows us that "bad" things aren't ever truly bad

Eddit Lugo a walk in the park.

Kiljaz Ink A pessimist in the eyes of an optimist is a realist.

Start humping every thing you see

anger

But that's the thing, they are not always hopeless, but if you think of them as such, you won't be disappointed with how they turn out.

Realism in the way that, as the school of life has mentioned before, the understanding that everyone (hence most things we make/are in control of) is equally as crazy as us. I use this idea daily and rarely find myself angry.

If you're emotionally involved, you can't just be pure realistic. But you surely can learn to look at things from a distance so you aren't involved as much.

I highly agree. Not having an expectation on an outcome means you're settling with the results you are getting. The video isn't quite exacting in the language. But then language is prone not to be exact. Nonetheless, I find the idea interesting that failed expectations (it will work out) are the cause of anger. Avoiding anger could mean communicating your expectations beforehand which might help to put them in perspective. Did you know: For pessimists and disaster thinkers black is a bright color. :-)

@@isabellabihy8631 I’m pessimistic and things make me more angry.

I agree

This is much better advice than the one offered by the video, thanks Sofi!

Exactly, I changed from like to dislike because of that last sentence

I think that dead feeling comes from unacknowledged anger. We can't always be blasting people with anger, but we should acknowledge our own frustration and then think about the most positive and creative ways to make things better.

​@@tracesprite6078spoken like somebody who's never had soup-ripping life events happen to them before.

⁠@@Hyderageanright “find a way to make things better” sounds like that person never had issues good to them tbh.

​@@Zlik. What else can you do?

Not really. Just lower your expectations. Like I do!

Pessimistic doesn't mean sad, it means doubtful or just having low expectations for the future... you can be happy and pessimistic. I know because that's how I am... I'm a happy guy who doesn't expect much.

This isn't the type of anger that i experience.

@@peanut4820 Where is your Avatar from?

@@saskia4178 I don't even remember posting that comment, but I drew it myself

No expectations is the pinnacle of individualism and turns human into a beast after throwing away everything good. Humans function good when you expect good things, therefore you are motivated for good results. What that heretic priest is telling you is that he is depressed and expects nothing of life.

Moliminous L

You are so wrong, I have a nightmare without me having any sleep, you know what it is? It's called this reality I'm living in

Life IS a nightmare if you DON''T dream.

R Loyola

You always dream. You just don't remember most of them.

TheSimcraftFixion that's true!

TheSimcraftFixion People that need humble lessons the most won't understand them, this is why you "wax on, wax off" suggest to them.

but isnt that surrendering and that only losers surrender? im in a huge slump of my life just because of that thought that i cant accept things anymore and ive come to tell myself that if i dont fight every single little thing to be perfect i will be a failiure

armkenz It's not surrendering. It's acceptance. You will never be happy if you keep on wanting everything to happen the way you want it to happen.

But you can always change for the better. 😃

I just read all the comments, and this one is by far the most true and insightful imo

As soon as this video started i was thinking "the cure is to read more Camus". Once you realize that nothing really matters, then there's nothing to get angry about!

mindfulmike Fucking rights! Read Camus, stay mindful. Shit will work out!

Didn't Camus made it very clear that that one of the 7 ways to respond to the absurd is to become an existentialist, drawing a line that existentialism is different from acceptance and absurbism. I'm an existentialist, by the way.

UnpredictableSB I don't know. To be an existentialist, doesn't one need to accept the absurd and then create a superficial reason for being? I am probably way off since I don't know the precise philosophical definitions of these terms. I was just reading wiki's definition of existentialism... I am not sure the difference between nihilism and existentialism, so this is interesting: Although nihilism and existentialism are distinct philosophies, they are often confused with one another. A primary cause of confusion is that Friedrich Nietzsche is an important philosopher in both fields, but also the existentialist insistence on the inherent meaninglessness of the world. Existentialist philosophers often stress the importance of Angst as signifying the absolute lack of any objective ground for action, a move that is often reduced to a moral or an existential nihilism. A pervasive theme in the works of existentialist philosophy, however, is to persist through encounters with the absurd, as seen in Camus' The Myth of Sisyphus ("One must imagine Sisyphus happy"),[40] and it is only very rarely that existentialist philosophers dismiss morality or one's self-created meaning: Kierkegaard regained a sort of morality in the religious (although he wouldn't himself agree that it was ethical; the religious suspends the ethical), and Sartre's final words in Being and Nothingness are "All these questions, which refer us to a pure and not an accessory (or impure) reflection, can find their reply only on the ethical plane. We shall devote to them a future work."

If this doesn't paste properly, please look up "A Shropshire Lad" :-) A. E. Housman (1859-1936). A Shropshire Lad. 1896. LXII. Terence, this is stupid stuff ‘TERENCE, this is stupid stuff: You eat your victuals fast enough; There can’t be much amiss, ’tis clear, To see the rate you drink your beer. But oh, good Lord, the verse you make, 5 It gives a chap the belly-ache. The cow, the old cow, she is dead; It sleeps well, the horned head: We poor lads, ’tis our turn now To hear such tunes as killed the cow. 10 Pretty friendship ’tis to rhyme Your friends to death before their time Moping melancholy mad: Come, pipe a tune to dance to, lad.’ Why, if ’tis dancing you would be, 15 There’s brisker pipes than poetry. Say, for what were hop-yards meant, Or why was Burton built on Trent? Oh many a peer of England brews Livelier liquor than the Muse, 20 And malt does more than Milton can To justify God’s ways to man. Ale, man, ale’s the stuff to drink For fellows whom it hurts to think: Look into the pewter pot 25 To see the world as the world’s not. And faith, ’tis pleasant till ’tis past: The mischief is that ’twill not last. Oh I have been to Ludlow fair And left my necktie God knows where, 30 And carried half way home, or near, Pints and quarts of Ludlow beer: Then the world seemed none so bad, And I myself a sterling lad; And down in lovely muck I’ve lain, 35 Happy till I woke again. Then I saw the morning sky: Heigho, the tale was all a lie; The world, it was the old world yet, I was I, my things were wet, 40 And nothing now remained to do But begin the game anew. Therefore, since the world has still Much good, but much less good than ill, And while the sun and moon endure 45 Luck’s a chance, but trouble’s sure, I’d face it as a wise man would, And train for ill and not for good. ’Tis true, the stuff I bring for sale Is not so brisk a brew as ale: 50 Out of a stem that scored the hand I wrung it in a weary land. But take it: if the smack is sour, The better for the embittered hour; It should do good to heart and head 55 When your soul is in my soul’s stead; And I will friend you, if I may, In the dark and cloudy day. There was a king reigned in the East: There, when kings will sit to feast, 60 They get their fill before they think With poisoned meat and poisoned drink. He gathered all that springs to birth From the many-venomed earth; First a little, thence to more, 65 He sampled all her killing store; And easy, smiling, seasoned sound, Sate the king when healths went round. They put arsenic in his meat And stared aghast to watch him eat; 70 They poured strychnine in his cup And shook to see him drink it up: They shook, they stared as white’s their shirt: Them it was their poison hurt. -I tell the tale that I heard told. 75 Mithridates, he died old.

Logician I'm cynical instead of angry

Or you do some research on ayahuasca (plant medicine) and work with our psychological issues, by going through our emotional and mental fields. And do the clearing work of the distortion energy in the emotional field, calling these energy patterns to be resolved and dissolved, as well as working with the mental field, aka the mind-field, from a similar idea of both fields having energies built into them by our interaction with our reality as well as other humans :)

Problem with that is you can end up taking shit out on people that really don't deserve it, instead of the source.

Surviving as Mom I take meds.... they help a lot.

So what is it that is important?

I've thought about doing that too, to humble my ass

pessimistic******** lol,

Seems quite British. Lol

If you can cannot distinguish the difference between being realistic and being depressed then you're truly lost

Yeah, this was an odd one IMO. Usually they’re really good at explaining their entire message (there’s a much better term, can’t remember right now), but this time it fell flat, again IMO. While I was able to guess what they were getting at, there’s likely someone or two who can’t, so what do they do with such sad info? 😕

CharziParziPuddinPie is the word you're looking for "elaborating" perchance?

You were so HOPEFUL

Sarcasm I hope. Unrealistic expectations are the cause of anger. If you temper your expectations you will not be emotional when what is in your mind isn't reality.

You explained it better way better than he did.

Thinking mediocrity and sitting for less is bad, is itself a desease. The cure for almost all bad feelings is to keep your expectations alienated with the reality, might it be lower your expectations or work harder to make them true, but none of them is actually bad they both are just ways to reach happiness

ImmaterialDigression mine too

I relate to that. Realistic, understand how the world works and how people and things don't always cooperate ... still pissed.

Me too.

JSR Devon what makes you angry?

Geoffrey so many things. Most of it stems from me being frustrated and disappointed by my life

I agree i personally have a hard time relating to the "anger comes from expectations" idea because I expect very little from people yet they even fail on that front sometimes. It could be an issue of being too hard on yourself and lashing out on others as a result.. you need to be kinder to yourself and realize it is not all so serious.

atta boy

Violet i could just as easily say antidepressants are a huge cause of substance abuse, so people should not use antidepressants. its called balance. you need it to function.

Violet Sarcasm is anger. Why are you angry?

Light RED FIRE, being suicidal is much different than not caring about life or living. Being opposed to yourself living is different than not caring either way.

billy bob I think the video is just saying that being too hopeful can be a problem, but it's not suggesting you to give up on hope entirely.

I understand but there seems to be a lot of hopeless people in the comments lol

billy bob 😂😂😂👏

A life without all that leads to empty life. Only sorrow can make us feel life in a deep way.

Eduardo Felipe Hmm i agree to an extent but if you're sorrowful 24/7 then the only life choice you have are 1) should i kill myself 2) should i cry some more

I literally saw the video after 15 seconds after its uploaded, I know no one cares okay.

Delighted you are here early!

The School of Life I enjoy your videos! :)

hai hai

(Hi (sorry for my bad english

Даниил Инкин I'd recommend their "Why it's so hard to be present"

Meditation. Just beware, you might become slightly apathetic to the world around you and start doing things which actually make you happy, regardless of what anyone thinks.

Start by staying the fuck away from philosophy lmao

No you don't. You need to think harder, and better. Once you eat of the Tree of Knowledge, there is no going back.

Даниил Инкин overthinking

Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.

It's basically saying don't be too optimistic with your expectations so you aren't constantly disappointed. Instead remind yourself that things can go badly, which should be thought of when assessing potential outcomes (risk). Of course one of the outcomes is positive or even much more positive than you expected, but that's easy to do, most people except the good only

Hope for the Best, expect the Worst. Great song from the Mel Brooks movie, the Twelve Chairs

Cynthia Johnson exactly! The video has a good point but phrases it wrong

THANK YOU

Accepting of pessimistic views over optimism, don't believe in anything as it's not 100% going to happen so never believe

Except you can't be simultaneously content and dead inside. Those two states of mind are only similar superficially. When you are dead inside, you are in fact still clinging to and mourning your sky high expectations.

I wish I didn't.

ObiJuanKenobi3 not sure it works. realism is good after things happened and youre calming down. not so good to foresee every possible problem at every possible turn

ObiJuanKenobi3 I would disagree even though realism is the most rational; the topic is dealing with an emotion/reaction. Specifically, I believe this addresses the deep optimistic idealism rooted behind the anger which in a practical way is effectively lessened with the counter to that optimism: pessimism(cynicism may be a better word). I personally understand the analysis, though I believe nihilism is an even better cure to anger, though a root for depression. But if you are able to go one step further(one step back) and accept the relativity in the world, along with the irony and dissonance, I believe that that is the next step in cognitive evolution. Perhaps one day we will even come to understand the works of the universe, but for now, the term 'realism' is probably more ambiguous than optimism or pessimism, simply because of our cognitive limitations and lack of knowledge as individuals. Of course, "true" nihilism remains in theory yet not in practice, and the point of the video I believe was not to give you a pragmatic way of solving anger, but an idealistic approach to the problem. In turn, your perspective on life can change how you are, but not what you are completely.

Siwar Rivers I agree with you. However, I think you mixed stuff on: "I believe was not to give you a pragmatic way of solving anger, but an idealistic approach to the problem" I think the video does gives a pragmatic approach, (expect the worse, so you can be thankful for the best when it comes and not surprised and angry when the worst comes: pessimism) and the "realism" proposal is more of a idealistic approach. Also important, but belonging to another level.

both are the same, just a change of perspective

Yout comment eas better than the video

You won't have to tell pessimistic people that. The video is arguing those people already have zen-like understanding of things.

RU-vid knows you are an angry person. Shhh, shhh. It will all be okay. RU-vid is here to help.

that vegeta picture is perfect with your comment

Erwin Rommel Kyiv, Ukraine

come on. wait all that until you live in México City

Try Egypt and it will make the Ukraine look like a ride in the park.

Zagwe Yemanu I have a hard time believing someone stepping on my foot and not excusing themselves or smelling like alcohol and sweat while pushed up against me or parking directly on the cross walk so it's impossible to cross the street is 'character building' but I do appreciate you taking the time to respond to my comment.

You might nor like it, but is it realistic to expect these things *not* to happen? "Vedius Pollio believed in a world where cups did not get broken", says Seneca in "On Anger". *Is* it realistic to expect everyone to park politely, not stagger drunkenly into your path, etc?

May Ad you have daddy issues don't you. That's why you let men treat you like shit.

Kevin with hair I find it hilarious how you even came to that conclusion. Who am I kidding? You're probably a mouth-breathing neckbeard that's never talked to a girl based on that sentence alone.

Kevin with hair just so you know i am actually an autistic 11 year old. close though

It's sad, but you won't find someone who will fulfill all of your expectations. It's not about lowering the expectations, it's accepting that everyone is imperfect and everyone can make mistakes at any moment, even you.

Then you'll always be in for disappointment, rigging yourself for terrible relationships and it's why people are having shallow and superficial relationships that actually mean nothing..

Seriously? So you found this video BS? Have you found an effective way of dealing with your anger and depression issues?

No. I can't seem to control my anger. When I feel that way I just try not to be around people. I stay at home, I don't awnser the phone, I **try** not to go online etc. When I'm depressed I do the same thing. People think I'm anti social...I'm not. I just can't be aroud people because I either come across as nasty or overly negative 🙁

Gina I also find it easier to excuse myself from a situation rather than hurting someone else. Well good luck to us and our battle with our issues.

No disrespect but your advice is isn't helping, tbh it's actually wants me to take a wrong pill

Guess what, You feel your in a world with mindless sheep? Following the same process of living? E.g wake up, go to work, pay bills, get married, have kids, retirement, death? It's not worth it!

me too :)

What did bill burr do?? Did he say this was a crock of shit or something?

Don't blow it Keep it simple Count your money

Well spotted!

The more I think about this the more I realize how intertwined expectations are to anger, and more importantly happiness. Initially my reaction was that anger was a physical and hormonal response, so just hit the gym and tucker yourself out to quell those feelings (as I have been doing.) But then I realized perhaps it's because when I do go to spar, or lift weights, or whatever I am faced with inexorable truth in my abilities. You cannot pretend to curl a 100 lb dumbbell, you cannot pretend to outbox the other guy, when you are forced into the situation of having to doing so. Perhaps these activities have evened and elevated my mood not because I'm too tired to get angry, or my hormones are now more in balance (although these all may be true), but because it's a constant, objective reminder of what I can achieve, and what I cannot. Many of the most angry people I've met are also the most delusional, expecting themselves of greatness when they're incompetent. I would argue that this is because they have no measuring stick for what they're capable of, they're lost and hopeful (as your video points out) -- they assume the best of themselves. This ties closely into the philosophy of "knowing nothing." I would say the best solution to prevent anger and live a productive life (i.e not lowering your expectations to null) is to simply be unafraid of failure. Find out how good you are at things by doing them. I feel like that was a very roundabout way of saying not a whole lot, but since it's all typed up I'm just hitting submit.

thanks

slackerlifeman That's an astute observation. I noticed the same thing about the angry people around me. They spend too much time living in fantasy, in a world where they are 'King' because it is easier and more appealing than reality. Then when they are reminded of the truth of thier delusions, they respond in anger to try and protect their fantasy land. In a way it also ties into ego and having too much of it.

longshlong if an angry person were to read this and then approach you for advice on how to be free of deep anger, what would you say?

The Toxic Atheist mind explaining?

Luna Looney It makes no sense to me that assholes are only angry because they are full of "hope". That makes no fucking sense what so ever. Anger has nothing to do with having hope, and some people are angry because they are simply just simple minded assholes. I have known people who are the most pessimistic people I have ever seen and they still have sever anger issues.

you realize that he means people with anger issues, prone to have anger attacks about small things? he is not talking about cultural collective hatred, or about being evil or intolerant.

@@NightfallShadow you lack empathy

I feel like you misinterpreted the video

Nelson Frew I understand, could you clear it up for me then?

Theres a difference between being sad and being pessimistic. One means being upset when your expectations aren't reached, the other, you never expected much therefore can't be upset.

Joe P Yeah dude, the point is fairly neatly encapsulated when Alaine refers to the fact that (to paraphrase) "we're always losing things of value," "flights are often imperfect," "relationships are laden with disparity." You might say that IS being realistic, but that's what the video suggests healthy pessimism is. It doesn't suggest that you be "sad rather than angry" imo. Pessimism isn't about being sad, it's about chalking in the unattractive reality that things will often be lame. This is discussed in their video about the Stoics, which I would recommend btw.

Nelson Frew "Chalking in the the unattractive reality that things will often be lame" Pardon me, but that seems more like REALISM than pessimism. Pessimism - the unrealistic assessment that everything will go horribly worse than it should Realism - The fair rational assessment that things will go as they should (which is less than perfect) Optimism - The unrealistic assessment that everything will go great or perfect. Do you see what I'm saying? The Metrics they use for expectations is too narrow in my opinion.

Jen Ye late reply, because you hope for things to go well, so when they don't go well, you get angry. If you think things will go wrong, when it happens, yoiu won't feel as angry.

acceptance

It's the same as "the key to happiness is realistic expectations". If you accept and embrace that reality never lives up to expectations, you won't feel let down so often.

rachelmeowcat Haha😂 You're so right!

TheJclub24games but they where so hopeful...

ESPECIALLY around the holidays! haha

Thats because humanity as a whole are fucking scumbag pieces of shit.

Nah, I know people who have no goal in life and they still get cranky over the most random things. I wouldn't jump so hastily to conclusions. One can have high ideals and control his anger imo. He won't stamp out all the anger, this is about stamping out the pointless anger.

Perhaps, or maybe they just have very fragile egos.

We can recommend Alain de Botton's The Consolations of Philosophy.

The School of Life Thank you I will check it out.

+The School of Life Who is this Alain de Botton? He seems like a pretty cool dude.

unathorizdwatermelon 50 shades

He's the narrator of nearly every School of Life vid mind you

none of your business same goes to you mate ;) now be a pal and take your own advice.

Realism probably has some definiton but i would state that Realism is a perspective where you don't attach to any concepts. You just take reality as it is without filtering it through your ego.

Eh not impossible just not for everyone.

I fear that I might start a nuclear winter to make the world truly smile again.

Um...no, it doesn't have to be "one extreme or another." Those who operate in only extremes will never be happy.

no. basically "prepare for the worst and come to terms with it.". one expect things to be perfect, and they aren't, so one gets angry. the solution is to stop expecting things to be perfect. that doesn't mean they can't be enjoyed or appreciated. on another note, as someone who has anger issues but has gone through a nihilistic "dead inside" period as well, my honest assessment is that your situation is even worse than mine.

Tuxedo Joe good one haha

Tine Woodbe exactly

I have a different view. I like to think of man as good, and the bad ones are the mistake, not think of man as bad, and the good ones are the mistake. It gives us something to look up to, while this vid tells you to look down.

The correct attitude is, "calm down, and figure out the problem". We can't change reality, (true reality), it is what it is and it is up to us to figure it out. But this vid is not talking about any reality of nature, but the environment man can control. If I want my pencil to fall up in my living room when I let it go, but gravity keeps pulling the pencil to the floor, that is a true reality I have to accept.

EarthSurferUSA you can always know where your keys are, hell if you care enough put them in a safe...I think we influence our outcomes way more than we realize half of the time