HOW THE BEAUTY INDUSTRY MAKES YOU UGLY !

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is it impossible for us to feel sexy, beautiful, cool, and comfortable in our own skin when the beauty industry is working against us? when there's a product for absolutely EVERYTHING we need to fix about our faces and bodies? don't even get me started on AGING?
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in this video i challenge the beauty industry’s way of making us feel less pretty. plus why i consider myself anti anti-aging!
i talk about:
- how to be comfortable in our own skin !
- is the beauty industry dangerous ?
- ridiculous beauty standards !
- do we have to be FIXED ?
- aging = damage !??
- a product for everything !
- makeup, skincare, creams, haircare, rollers, gloves, wax strips - it never ends !
- what is holding us back from feeling pretty ?
- hairy upper lips, big pores, fine lines = imperfections ?
- looking in the mirror vs. staring at the mirror !
- putting each other down with “insult compliments” !
- feeling more sexy with AGE ?
- becoming older = becoming more kickass !
- criticising others’ looks !
- telling david to buy wrinkle cream !?
- do we feel ugly because we ARE ugly ?
- focusing on health !
- how to stop overthinking ?
- stop following negativity = choose media + influencers that make you feel good!
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@JennyMustard 4 года назад

thank you so much for watching this week ! do you use products for absolutely everything ? please leave a little like, lovelies ! hope you're having a nice start to the weekend !

@mariahunter9882 4 года назад

Great video. Your hair is great this length.

@rebekahwiller5487 4 года назад

Your hair suits you. This is a great video something that as ove gotten older I've been feeling so thank you.x Also I love your lipgloss the pink one, what is it?

@sophiakonstantinidou688 4 года назад

I like your hair but even shorter it will be great too! After all, it is only hait! Your skin looks so great too! Keep going :)

@ashleer3944 4 года назад

Daily I use a night cream, both in the morning and at night. Having sensitive skin means so many products just don't workout. This is a great video. Love yours and David's platforms!

@CuriousTashaGeorge 4 года назад

Usually yes! but for the past few months, cutting down on a lot of stuff so I use it or toss it! I want to spend less mental energy on things -- thanks for the great video :) x

@hannahkohler5408 4 года назад

It is SO ridiculous that we, a small species on a small planet in an unbelievably big universe have to worry about wrinkles and body hair lol

@JennyMustard 4 года назад

hehe !

@robertabuat775 4 года назад

😂 so true!

@ruthlessfairy 4 года назад

That's what I call a healthy perspective :)

@MrsLoveJoyFun 4 года назад

Haha so true

4 года назад

Hannah Banana especially with what’s going on right now !!!

@violetjones8690 4 года назад

In Japan, there is an idea called “wabi-sabi” that’s all about seeing beauty in imperfection. Reminds me of this ❤️

@fabjonahaliti6091 4 года назад

It reminded me of Wabi-Sabi too! Nice to see I am not the only one!! 😊👌🏻

@OdinsSage 4 года назад

this is one of my favourite foreign words, glad I'm not the only one who appreciates it

@alexs8253 4 года назад

I was just going to write about this! What a wonderful concept. Imperfections give us character.

@marissa4603 4 года назад

That's so sweet 😊

@YukiTombo 4 года назад

I wish I could say the concept of wabi-sabi extended to the standard for female beauty in Japan, but sadly it does not.

@shae2531 4 года назад

My first year in college, 3 years ago, I took a psychology 101 class and in a lecture, the professor said that as men age they become more attractive and as women age they become less desirable. Being a girl myself, this of course destroyed me, and I've been thinking about it ever since. I cant believe something like that is being TAUGHT to people like its a fact.

@mooncat5681 4 года назад

As if women's only value is they're appearance. When they could be just as invaluable and brimming with ideas as men. But yeah that stuff sticks with you. You have to look your best i.e. it always comes down to looks. And you can't just exist as men can.

@bellycurious 4 года назад

It's a fact that as time goes by we, women, become less desirable. But who says it's important to be desired? Who cares if a unknown guy wants to put his penis in your vagina? 😒😒 Their desire has 0 impact in our value. Be happy, have a good laugh everyday, drink wine/beer, eat chocolate/candies. Death awaits us. Enjoy life.

@bluellamaslearnbeyondthele2456 4 года назад

So because it's inconvenient truth he shouldn't say that? How is that not a fact? He's right and you know it.

@bluellamaslearnbeyondthele2456 4 года назад

An aging woman is less able to take the toll of a pregnancy, so both the proginy and the women are healthier, if you only make children while young. As males don't get pregnant, this makes prefect sense.

@amaliab6682 4 года назад

@@bluellamaslearnbeyondthele2456 Thanks for the laugh, enjoy sounding like a simpleton from the 18th century then and being laughed out of rooms by actual adults with an ounce of common sense. Men go bald, develop guts while simultaneously having chicken legs, start growing hair out of their ears and nose and all sorts of nasty shit. Not to mention that the average man already has fairly deep forehead and eye wrinkles by the time he's 35 because men don't even engage in the simplest body and facial hygiene and usually don't even wash their faces on a daily basis, much less moisturize or use sunscreen, god forbid. Trying to get a grown man to wear sunscreen is like trying to get a toddler to wear sunscreen, which is an apt comparison in your case. I've seen wrinkles on men in their early 30s that I've never seen on women in their early 30s. Rest assured that the average man at 40 already looks much older than the average woman at 40. An inconvenient truth is that many men can barely manage to take care of themselves because they spend their whole lives being coddled by their parents and then their wives so they act like manchildren well into adulthood. Men don't look better as they age, it's just that signs of aging are seen as acceptable on them and they don't have every centimetre and pore of their bodies scrutinized endlessly. Men can walk around looking dishevelled and mediocre and nobody cares, women don't have that luxury.

@Splitleaf 4 года назад

Here’s my theory: we cannot actually see ourselves, only reflections of ourselves, photos, mirrors, etc. It creates disillusion on some level

@starylize 4 года назад

yes!!!

@riase 3 года назад

Each time I see a video of myself I am surprised. I see myself differently.

@yousmakhan9 Год назад

I literally never thought of it that none of us have ever seen ourselves truly, Just Images, and reflections. And our reaction to our reflection is Just an awareness of our own selves.

@Sveiksmobile 4 года назад

Sixteen year old me was ugly. Twenty-eight year old me was ugly and old. Forty year old me is just fine and healthy

@MelB868 4 года назад

No they don’t

@10418 4 года назад

Meringue Lemon no ahah I’m sorry but.

@Beccination 4 года назад

4. I see my body as a mass of cells, chemicals, hormones and bacteria that work together in a incredible complexe way and actualy is a miracle

@elisabetheriksson7787 4 года назад

This is exactly why I've started applying less makeup. All this time alone is a great way to start getting used to seeing how my face actually looks like. Do my eyes look great with eyeliner, um yes! But do they look good without? Yes. Do my brows need lots of filling in? Technically no. Its like you say, men don't hear buy that cream or are you feeling ok, you look sick/tired? We accept men as they are and what you see is what you get. Shouldn't we do the same? Accept ourselves and present ourselves confidently in a what you see is what you get kind of manner?

@magda010195 4 года назад

That's exactly why I stopped bothering with makeup. I will much rather be "ugly" 24 hours a day than "pretty" for 8 hours and then feeling "ugly" during the 16 hours when I don't have any makeup on. I think that the switch between the "ugly" and "pretty" is way more damaging to my self esteem than never living up to the beaty standards.

@martayeremenko9288 4 года назад

Definitely... Just before quarantine a coworker approached me and said I looked like I'd been run over by a train. It was so mean! I said it's because I bust my ass there for the $

@elisabetheriksson7787 4 года назад

@@magda010195 I really agree with this! That the switch between "pretty" and "ugly" can be really damaging to your self esteem

@im_so_bored3896 4 года назад

yes we need to stop hating features that on a man's face would be just that- a feature, yet on a woman's face it's a flaw. men have it so incredibly easy yet they are always tho ones to say smth mean abt how a woman looks.

@im_so_bored3896 4 года назад

@@martayeremenko9288 i feel u, a few years ago a coworker said i was too skinny to wear yoga pants. sometimes coworkers are bitches and sometimes you just gotta slap a hoe lol

@kkkrasz 4 года назад

I swear a dose of Jenny every now and then keeps me sane in this world. Thank you!

@JennyMustard 4 года назад

aaaw, thank you :)

@katarzynai8819 4 года назад

Keep this hair cut nice face

@truthfulT 4 года назад

Nah, my 16-year-old self was a self-loathing and depressed creature, my 29-year-old self is much better ;)

@SoWhosGae 4 года назад

Same. People are like "Waaah young people are so lucky so beautiful". Like what? Lol I was a mess when I was younger and I look better at 30 than I ever looked at 17 at 22 or at 27, and a lot of my friends are like that. Yet they all act "blind" (esp the women) and torture themselves for inexistent wrinkles, lack of elasticity, lack of youthfulness and refer to themselves as "old". I even feel bad sometimes because I tell them this is ridiculous and even though they don't tell it to me personally, the fact that they complain about this all the time mean that they see me like that too.

@ItsMay 4 года назад

I am 16 right now, and the culture is so very toxic. I hope that as I get older, the beauty culture will phase me less, and I will find peace with my body.

@plantifulalexandra 4 года назад

same :D

@CarinaKi 4 года назад

Tatiana Petrova soon turning 26 and I gotta say I feel so much prettier than at even 24 ^^

@lassenielsen7319 4 года назад

Reversed for me.

@monikad.2819 4 года назад

Speaking of dark circles - I've always had them, very dark, purple-ish and huge since being a child. And I've always liked them, never thought about them as a flaw. Just imagine how surprised I was when I'd got older and started to get interested in makeup and I realized that every woman puts tons of concealer on their dark circles in order to hide them - which means dark circles are something ugly, so, I suppose, I should feel insecure about mine as well? I never did, actually.

@ashleyzeleznik5388 4 года назад

I've also always thought they looked nice.

@CS-mn2yd 4 года назад

I was always insecure of my moderate sunken eye backs but now I feel like they lowkey compliment me and show me I’ve been through some hardships but am still here

@aicerg 4 года назад

Same here, if I cover my dark circles my face looks... Empty. And also I feel like it's not me in the mirror, which is absolutely uncomfortable. I now have completely stopped covering them, I kinda like the 'sad' look they give haha.

@helloworld7818 4 года назад

Monika D. I had dark circles too. People would call me "the death" lol.

@fashirahparvin7434 4 года назад

I am 30 and I have always had dark circles due to iron deficiency; most likely. I use concealer a bit. Some people call me raccoon. Most of them have makeup slapped on their faces.

@bp1201 4 года назад

"I have lived longer therefore I look less new." This resonated with me so strongly! Many of us, myself included, own things and value them specifically because of their age; they even grow more valuable as time passes. And you're so right: t's time we viewed ourselves in that same way.

@carinaoliveira5850 4 года назад

Benjamin Parrish that quote makes me think of all of the older ladies who overdo their filler injections.. done well it’s youthful but mature. Done poorly and they look like puffy 50s plus.

@barborahrebickova4727 4 года назад

This hairstyle was a great choice, you look stunning 💕😍

@JennyMustard 4 года назад

thanks barbora !

@MicahRion 4 года назад

I just finished reading Rupi Kaur’s poetry collection “Milk and Honey” last night. And one of the poems said that your body is your home. Another person can only ever be a guest. And that really resonated with me.

@bakasasoribakasasori9885 4 года назад

It sounds so nice) I like it.

@Cloudipy 4 года назад

I think that quote also works well for talking about sex, this is why robbers who break in and bad guests leave a damaging/traumatizing impression, but someone who loves you will cherish your home and make you love it even more

@repa49 4 года назад

Love that!😀

@CandyAustin 4 года назад

Lovely!

@kirstenglae 4 года назад

I am 44, and I feel more beautiful than ever. I wouldn’t trade even one cell of who I am for anyone else’s. I do what is in my power to stay healthy and vibrant, but the most important thing is that I truly love who/what I am every day. I always wish others could feel the same about themselves, we would have a very different world.

@mckaylahsmith166 4 года назад

This is so wonderful to hear as a 21 year old that's really struggled with body image for a long time. I'm only now starting to talk to myself and treat myself kindly and i love that it seems like as women get older they only get more comfortable with this mindset. I love the way you love yourself

@calling911MG 4 года назад

The moment i went bald was one of the most eye-opener experiences i've had. So many people told me that they don't liked it, but in someway that was the moment when i learned i didn't give a shit. And it was hard at the begining, i started to put more makeup because my ''Flaws'' were more visible, put at some point a learn to love that things that i was trying to cover at the begining, i felt freaking beautiful showing that. I was 17. Now i don't say i don't like anything in my body, and although there are somethings i rather not have, i say ''i prefer to have them than try to change it''

@papperogue 4 года назад

I needed this video right now. Everyone in isolution seems to think this is a chance to loose weight, get into 'beach ready' or overwork to become their best version of themselves. I've even heard people being afraid of gaining the "COVID 19(pounds)". I don't say you should stop being healthy and exercising, but at least I'm feeling the pressure to now either overwork with my job or overwork myself to become "a butterfly emerging after the crisis".

@rekwa3860 4 года назад

There is nothing necessarily bad in using this time, when majority of people have much more free time, to build new habits. If you are at home 24/7 and you always tried to start waking up at 5.30 to do yoga - now is the time, why not? Wanted to eat more healthy - now is the perfect opportunity to try to incorporate this new habit, cause you are going shopping once a week and can be mindful with what you bring to your kitchen. I see nothing bad in trying to get some positive results from this terrible situation.

@amyoleary9157 4 года назад

@@rekwa3860 Yes that's an awesome way to look at it if you have a well adjusted mindset and others may not have that approach so it is unrealistic in my mind to assume some can switch that off and start doing it just because if the sudden free time. I have done as you suggested only haven't done the yoga I have beaten myself about food and compared myself to the "other folks in their routines and exercising and great approach" only hang on, I've been doing my stuff for decades and their stuff for moments. I've got a lot of dysphoric negative sxxt to take care of and this pressure to do great things during this down time when being surrounded by uncertain anxious stuff is hard! So I have got to accept the imperfections of my COVID 19 workouts and diet as two weeks isolation isn't enough to undo years of trying to do yoga, trying to love my flaws, but hey, we're all works in progresses, perfectly imperfect and i am now facing 41 and feel more hopeful than ever as it has been made so much more apparent that life is too short. Huge hugs to all.

@Mojichan13 4 года назад

Well, I certainly gained a little bit of those "Covid-19 pounds".

@amyoleary9157 4 года назад

Laura I have been looking at this on repeat: it's made me laugh consistently. I hope you like it even if you don't find it relevant. www.tiktok.com/@moldogaa/video/6810683672996449542

@rekwa3860 4 года назад

@@amyoleary9157 I do understand what you are talking about. We absolutely don't have to feel guilt because of our "not superproductive quarantine time". We are way too obsessed with productivity in general. It is OK to feel anxious, to feel stagnant or lost. The world goes crazy. I am just thinking about "why not to try". For sure all these "learn new language" things can make anyone uncomfortable. If all you can do is to lay down on the couch and watch movies to distract you from your anxiety - go on, that's what you need now to keep you sane. If you feel that you have plenty of energy and nowhere to spend it - then try some new exercises or hobbies. The key is to listen to yourself, not the "coaches". Love to everyone, no crisis lasts forever 💚

@angietaho7787 4 года назад

"We don't have to be mean to ourselves to be kind to someone else" I used to do it all the time. Learning to love myself is a journey and I am far away from where I used to be 🙏🏻

@ellenahl8178 4 года назад

Oh Jenny I really needed this. I just got dressed and cried over the way my body looks, went on youtube just to distract my thoughts and this video popped up. I'm not crying anymore. I'm still sad but your words soothed me, thank you Jenny

@mooncat5681 4 года назад

Doesn't it bother you, men don't get so caught up about they're body? They can just relax. Anyways, just something that was on my mind.

@Purplegirl19 4 года назад

Loved this Jenny🧡As I age I’m learning beauty is a feeling... so now I chase the things that make me FEEL beautiful - warm sunlight, saltwater - tears, sweat, the ocean - travel, movement, yoga, creativity, hot strong coffee in the mornings, sunrises, kittens, poetry, good books, nature, writing. I see myself much more clearly in them do I ever do in the mirror 🙏🏻🦋

@coffeetea8577 4 года назад

“We don’t have to be mean to ourselves to be kind to someone else” THIS!! It’s so important to be kind to ourselves as much as it is to show kindness to others! ❤️❤️

@patriciacasalrodriguez 4 года назад

A 40 year-old woman here feeling beautiful despite not wearing her push-up bra or make-up for the past two weeks... I am actually changing my perspective on this. Made me think... loved the video!

@Chahlie 4 года назад

My skin has changed so much since not wearing makeup :)

@Bkate23 4 года назад

When you had short hair for a while, I loved seeing your hair grow, making your features more feminine, now that spring is here I love this new, fresh look. No matter which hairstyle looks “better” on us, change is always a good thing, so keep playing with it as the seasons change, as you style changes or your mood...it looks good at any length as long as it’s noticeable that you love it and feel good and confident in it. :D

@CandyAustin 4 года назад

Katelyn B : Well said!

@dovilesiminauskaite9305 4 года назад

thank you for helping us to build our confidence and be happy in our own skin

@JennyMustard 4 года назад

thank you so much :)

@MelB868 4 года назад

It didn’t help me.

@adriannapierzycka9818 4 года назад

What you're saying about healthy habits and their correlation to feeling beautiful is so true! I feel great about my body after I work out, even though realistically, it hasn't changed one bit visually after a single workout.

@eileenherrera2510 4 года назад

Thank you for this video, Jenny. I turned 60 a few months ago and can truthfully say I am so much happier about myself now than at 16 or 30 or any other age. I no longer see wrinkles and sagging skin. I see the faces of my mother and grandmother, and this make me so happy. Much love to you.

@iloveguymartin 4 года назад

You always seem to know the perfect time to put a video out when I’m disliking my body the most! I’ve stepped away from influencers who make me feel negatively about myself, you kill it every time Jenny!

@charlotteice5704 4 года назад

I think the bigger, underlying problem here is how much emphasis we put on beauty as a society. When you're told how beautiful you are, you're likely to think "they're just lying to be nice to me, I'm ugly" so instead of making you feel better about yourself, they often make you feel worse. That is why I don't like telling everyone how beautiful they are; it doesn't solve the bigger problem of beauty feeling more important to us than it actually is. It also annoys me when I see that one of my friends has posted a photo of themselves on Instagram and the commenty are only compliments about that person's beauty along the lines of "you are sooo beautiful 😙😍❤" but I haven't read a single compliment regarding that person's character traits or behaviour yet. I get that it's meant nicely, but it can have bad effects.

@michelled5655 4 года назад

Jenny, thanks so much for this reminder! I have worked in the beauty industry (marketing for a jewellery company) and even with these products, we - indirectly - perpetuated unrealistic beauty standards and marketed with a scarcity mindset - obviously, how else would you convey the message of: You need this product to look like this 18-year-old influencer xyz. Including photoshopped pictures etc. I am not against selling and buying things, but I don’t want to do this anymore. Imperfections are real, and we are real people. 💚

@klarawind 4 года назад

"We don't have to be mean to ourselves to be kind to someone else." Thanks, Jenny! And you know best - even if I say you I like the mid length more than the short one, it's you who decides what is the prettiest version of haircut for you. Have a nice day!

@emy625 4 года назад

"I have lived longer therefore I am less new" is honestly going to be my new mantra. I decided to start university at the ripe age of 27 and have been constantly anxious about my 'progress' in life. Thank you for the new outlook and girl. That hair is absolutely stunning and frame your features in an entirely new light its a lookkkkkkkkkkkk

@tammtammti 4 года назад

I have made the decision to focus on my health instead of beauty some years ago when I realized that even though it looks like the world is only accepting beautiful people, it really doesn't matter that much when it comes to carrier or relationships, or, just generally, in life. I grow tired of trying and there was a time when I felt disgusted when I looked at women who were all "dressed up nicely as a woman should". Also, you are absolutely right about the model of the industry; it is a moneymaker. You need much less product that you are told, and, on the top of that, it generates so much waste in the end; all those containers, perfume bottles (I can't buy them anymore, such a waste, really...), plastic packages... it is terrible. You will get old and, some point, ugly, yes, but I love how you pointed out value as meaning in this topic. It doesn't mean you will be less valuable unless you don't learn to love yourself.

@maureenlancaster1694 4 года назад

Petra Szalay no not ugly, just different, just older

@stinaspace728 4 года назад

Jenny is this brilliant!!!!! I stopped colouring my hair about 9 months ago and found having quite a few gray hairs at 35 brought up a lot of issues for me. I really got my questioning what is so bad about gray hairs. They are't even gray they are technically clear. Also who is to say gray hairs make you look old and that is bad. I also started to look at my looks more objectively and realised I can decide if I like how I look. I don't need societies approval. I've also saved so much money. Now I look i the mirror and think wow what an amazing unique hair colour I have. It matches my skin tone and eyebrows perfectly.

@Tatiana-cd1vu 4 года назад

I am 35 as well and have some sparse gray hair... but not to the point that I would want to color my hair yet. My soon-to-be ex-husband used to point it out (besides other flaws he liked to mention every time there was an opportunity), saying why don't I color my hair... that really irritated me, haha

@marnimanning2457 4 года назад

My body has changed so much since I had my baby in 2019...it's been an interesting year to come to terms with all the change. Thank you for making this encouraging, empowering video. Your thoughts and ideas are exactly the ones I hope to adopt and firmly believe about myself!

@kanske7865 4 года назад

I truly prefer your hair long but what I like more is seeing you happy with whatever hair you decide

@tricia.playsgames 4 года назад

Love the message in this video! Just a personal experience: When I was a teenager I developed a lot of stretch marks on my hips and thought it was super cool because it was like a naturally occurring tattoo. My mom saw it and was really negative about it so she gave me all sorts of random creams to help "get rid of" it which led me to be super self-conscious about it. Now i'm in my mid twenties and still learning to be okay with all my imperfections but it's hard with all the messages i get from the people around me and social media

@rightwingleftwingchickenwi358 4 года назад

Patricia Villegas there was a study or article ( I can’t remember it a while ago) that said the way a mother talks about herself affects her daughter the most. And that mothers uphold the toxic cycle since the home is where children first learn about gender roles and sexism (mothers still do majority of childcare even with a job like fathers 🤷🏿‍♀️😒). I found it interesting because I only have one physical insecurity and I wasn’t aware of it till both my parents constantly started pointing it out. Honestly, it’s the ones who are suppose to support us who end up making us feel shit about ourself 🧐😑

@aicerg 4 года назад

@@rightwingleftwingchickenwi358 I was going to say the same. Sometimes what parents say are the toughest things to get over. This reminded me when in a random conversation my mom said that a breast augmentation surgery would be the only surgery she would allow me to get. And that's when I realised that my flat chest was a 'real flaw', because, you know, 'my mom said it'.

@KasiaVoss 4 года назад

I went through cancer with chemotherapy and mastectomy. I am definitely done with being ugly. I also recently discovered that a face massage or face yoga does such wonders that no cream will give you and costs nothing but a little bit of your time. Your new haircut looks great. Keep it!

@drsharonbrehm 4 года назад

The way you talk about getting "older" is so inspiring: more complex, more kick-ass, more wise - it is soo cool and I myself love aging. I think, now that I'm in my 30s, IÄm the most beautiful version of myself

@malasana6849 4 года назад

Thanks for sharing! This is so important! Especially as we are all at home at the moment, walking pass the mirror, looking (and probably judging us) - now we can tell ourselves how beautiful we are! 💕 I liked the medium-length hair the most. xx

@JennyMustard 4 года назад

so true! :)

@trashbin101 4 года назад

I am still very young (early 20's) so I am not worried about wrinkles yet, however the only way that I am "worrying" about it, is I don't want sun damage or dryness to be a factor to make my skin look older than it really is. For these reasons, I do care about wearing sunblock generously everyday, before I go out in the sun, adding a moisturiser because my skin is extremely dry, etc. So, in a way, it is anti-aging, but also protective because "damaged" skin can be due to not taking care of it properly 🤔 I don't expect myself to be wrinkle free when I'm 50, of course. I expect the wrinkles, and I will definitely embrace them. My grandma is very beautiful (with her wrinkles) even at 70. But at the same time, I don't want to "look 40", when I am actually 30. I'm not sure if that makes any sense 🤔 Regarding body hair, I don't remove it unless I personally want to feel my soft smooth skin underneath. Lately, I even wear shorts/skirts/dresses with my unshaved legs!

@marteumar8429 4 года назад

I was also wearing clothes that show my legs unshaved - before the Covid thing - and it was incredible to see that people in the streets care about it a lot less than what i thought they would and this WHEN they realize it because most of the times don’t even realize (and my body hair is not blonde or anything).. it’s great!

@csillagtalan 4 года назад

It's heartbreaking to imagine a world full of people walking around, all feeling self-conscious. Thank you for this great video to help people escape the spiral of feeling ugly. "Stop reading and following negativity" is a great and underrated tip. I also love your positive attitude towards aging. Friends of mine who are a few years older than me think that I'm positive about aging because I'm "not that old yet" (i.e. I'm on one side of 30, they're on the other) but in reality it's because I have an attitude very similar to what you described in this video. Thank you for your work!

@janetlettrich2705 4 года назад

LOVE your hair. It perfectly balances your face. And thanks so much for your positive message about loving our aging selves! 🥰I’m 64, and being and old lady kicks ass!👍

@bellahnemetona5924 4 года назад

Yes, Jenny💚💚💚 You said it! I am 42 now and feel more myself than ever. Skin is changing,wrinkles are visible and what? Not every day i feel good of course,but i refuse to be pushed by society in to stupid norms. I actually changed this several years ago when I started researching Cruelty-Free brands and become vegan. Plenty things changed for me that time, believe me! It was all eye opening experience. And about your hair: I would not cut it shorter, I would leave it this length or bit longer. 🌺🌺🌺🌺

@TheEwqua 4 года назад

Thank you! You've put into words what I've felt since I was a teenager. I have never worn makeup, only had it on like twice in my life and one of those was for a costume. I dislike the industry for creating problems and selling us the solution. Have you ever noticed that almost all their ads start with telling you what's wrong with you? "Do you have short lashes? Small lips? Somewhat shiny skin?" as if any of those were a legitimate health issue and not just an aesthetic preference. Now don't get me wrong, I have nothing against women who do wear makeup as a form of self expression. I use clothing and accessories as a form of self expression, and my lack of makeup is self expression too. If you feel empowered and truly like yourself with makeup, I'm happy for you. But so many women I know say things like "oh I can't even think of going outside without makeup on" or "I wear makeup because my skin looks like this and that", and I just think that's a mindset that the industry has forced into their minds and that's making them insecure and sad. I've noticed that the women who list their insecurities when I ask them why they wear makeup are the most prone to lash out at me and accuse me of trying to take it away from them when I voice my opinions. As for myself, I focus on being healthy and eco friendly so I only get the most basic hygiene products and buy things that don't have a plastic packaging (for example solid soap and solid shampoo instead of gel based products).

@NAP1983 4 года назад

Thanks for sharing this. I am 61 and getting better every day. There is a real freedom in loving the body that you have. Too much judgment from the outside and taking that in when their opinion doesn't really matter is a waste of time. Be safe and healthy.

@aegidoll 4 года назад

It's been very liberating to create my own personal standards of beauty in the last few years, and to be honest about what I like and what I don't care about. I stopped removing my body hair because I realized that I love the way body hair looks on other people, so why did I feel like mine was ugly? I stopped wearing makeup unless I felt genuinely inspired to do a look, and not because I felt like I needed makeup to look "presentable." I stopped using skincare that targets "imperfections" like dark spots and started using skincare that meets my skin's actual needs.

@milloeh 4 года назад

About your hair. Normally I’m not one to comment on the way other people look, but now you asked :) The short hair is super cool! And makes you look mature and sleek. I may remember you talking about trinity from the matrix and in my opinion, you would achieve that look with a few layers, so the ends isn’t so thick. But seriously, you rock your hair at every length.

@karakurie 4 года назад

I like designing characters and people watching and there's styles of people I think are beautiful, but maybe other people don't. Imperfections make someone beautiful like kintsugi. And there are a lot of human biological changes that are inevitable and don't fit the standards doesn't mean they should be thrown out. I think aesthetics have rules bound in color theory, composition, and there are some patterns that work together to give different impressions, but none of them are bad, just unclear. And lack of clarity means lack if confidence.

@linneahult8 4 года назад

I also like drawing charachters - and it is always more fun to draw someone with "imperfections" than a perfect copy paste instagram model....

@CGVArt.Fashion 4 года назад

This is an amazing truth that we need to close this chapter and always leave the chapter of self-acceptance of love of who we are because those details we consider imperfection are the human's nature and beauty perfection!

@katethegreat7749 3 года назад

Love this! My (nearly) 50 year old face and body are "more damaged" than my 23 year old face and body were, but I am learning to love it. My body is my "spirit taxi" on this earth and I am so privileged to be here in good health and able to enjoy a good life!

@ruthsdyspraxiacontent 4 года назад

Spot on Jenny! I'm 24 and have had major eye crinkles when I even slightly smile since I can remember haha. I don't like them so it is nice to hear that you love David's and that alone already impacted me positively. Also the fact that David loves your butt and you're not putting pressure on yourself to change the shape of your butt. You go girl! True about the beauty industry overall

@rubya7678 4 года назад

Love this video! My mum always says, "your body can hear you, so be nice to it". I'm 21, and already have a little cluster of grey hairs, but instead of pulling them out, I actually think they're cool! I definitely don't want to spend my 20s feeling negatively about myself, and videos like this always put me in a good mindset 🖤🖤🖤

@lynda.grace.14 4 года назад

I would also suggest a fourth pointer: Stop aiming a camera at ourselves so much of the time. If we turn the camera toward things outside of ourselves there is beauty everywhere. I know that people have made it their career, but I think it's not healthy to constantly count likes and followers. I don't think that Instagram, RU-vid and the whole notion of influencers (many of whom are complete photoshopped fakes) competing for likes and followers--a very recent phenomenon in historical context--are helpful in this. Internet trolls and malevolent camps of "fans" contribute to the malaise as well. I know it's part of the job, but I would rank the quest for clicks and likes and comments with people-pleasing pathology. Why bother others to make essentially private decisions? Why should anyone ever ask anyone else whether or not to cut their hair this way or that? Why should anyone care who else likes it? I believe it's healthier to know and be at ease in your own mind. It's hair. It grows. It's cut. It grows again. Do as you like whenever you please. If you don't like the result, try something else.

@kaylee.oatman 4 года назад

Sent this video to my mom, aunts and friends 💓 thank you for sharing and spreading all the women empowerment vibes! It makes me so sad to see my mom feel so down about herself because she has some gray hair. Spending hundreds to fix “aging imperfections” is profitable by making people feel bad about themselves.

@AA-jy2qs 4 года назад

When I was 14, I asked my mother for a breast augmentation and rhinoplasty and laser hair removal. Her anwser was, that If someone doesnt love me with my big nose and skinny body, its not love. To me, that meant the world. I'm so happy to see you speak up about the profit the industry makes with our insecurities. Thank you Jenny.

@marteumar8429 4 года назад

🥺😢❤️

@alexandrasnelders4238 4 года назад

Totally agree with you, I am pro aging and learning to accept my ‘flaws’ and highlighting the best parts of me. Loving your new haircut, it looks très chic! 💕

@elliecraun9770 4 года назад

This is such an important video! Age shouldn't be something that we run from, it should be something that we are proud of. I have stopped wearing as much makeup as I used to, and I wear the little that I do to enhance my face, and not hide it.

@equisita8097 4 года назад

I love your point of view and how well you’ve expressed yourself in this video!

@MicahRion 4 года назад

Changing who you follow online is huge! I’ve stopped following anyone who promotes diet culture because I do not need more input telling me to worry about food or hate my body. It’s been a great change!

@Lore.r13 4 года назад

Yes this is so true! I have been thinking about this for months... and it is true! A woman who is not happy will always spend lots of money to feel better, but the true happiness comes from inside. It is a state of mind!

@jasminkasilajdzic6425 4 года назад

Videos with this kind of content are much needed among women... Thank you Jenny for pushing through in this mass of human dambness

@midsummerdream2957 4 года назад

I really loved the message! I'm about to hit 30, and aging scares me, but I don't that fear. The way you put it helps me embrace looking less new.

@fieryelf 4 года назад

This is how I see self confidence. Work on what you can improve and accept what you can't change. It's the best way to feel good about yourself.

@mcd4370 4 года назад

Negativity is just an echo in our heads from somewhere where we first heard it. Instead of questioning ourselves why do we think that way, we just roll with it instead. So here is my message: you are beautiful and forever be beautiful, even aging 😊. Take a break from social media and filter the content you consume, if needed. Also don’t put yourself down to lift someone else. ❤️

@rosamancuso2740 4 года назад

You are so right. Aging is a natural process and I believe it’s important to take care of our bodies so we can age well and healthy but when a woman is so preoccupied in retaining her youth by doing all kind of procedures in my point of view it makes her look little attractive and unnatural. We should love the bodies we are in but that only happens when we nurture ourselves from within, spiritually, emotionally and physically and accept our imperfections

@ashlynnkaplan680 Год назад

I see that this is an old video but it is timeless. As long as we keep putting forward, such a made up version of ourselves, that’s what people will expect to see as beautiful, and worse, ourselves. I feel the same way. Like I’m getting better with age because it’s not about how I look, and even how I look, I learn to appreciate and love the life with within it that I have already seen and been through. Thank you for putting this video out.

@lindsaytoussaint 4 года назад

honestly, this is one of the best video essays i've seen. great points were made here and i hope folks take it to heart!

@soso8746 4 года назад

Dear Jenny, I love your words about this theme! I'm 47 and all the years when I was working as a Make Up Artist and Personal Stylist I tried to tell the clients exactly this. Personality and confidence ist beautiful. You can't reach this just with Make up or clothes! Since I had gut cancer I have 5 "holes" on my tummy. Well, first I struggled but I was so happy to survived that now I'm fine with them. They are telling an important story of my live!! And what about my wrinkles? They are there telling other stories - good and bad ones. Do I hate them sometimes? Yes - but girl, you better don't waste time struggeling with imperfections! So: the older I get, the more I accept how I look. That's an win!!! Greeting from Munich, Sonja

@moniqueferrell9076 4 года назад

Thank you. I needed to hear this. Now I am going to work on truly believing it. Aging does not equal damage. Just brilliant! I am 67 and I am not damaged.

@alexandra1147 4 года назад

This is a video that I’ve needed for a long time, but possibly now more than ever. I’m 20 years old and have struggled with eating and body image issues since I was 11. I went through a spell of being okay with how I looked, but recently it has gotten out of control again. I recently deleted all photos I have of myself, including archiving all my posts from Instagram because I thought I looked so hideous and ugly in comparison to all of the other girls I saw on my feed, influencers, celebrities, even people I knew in real life. It was when that happened that I realised something had to change, and this video has just shone more light on that fact for me. Thank you so, so much Jenny. I’m ready to take my life back and stop hiding away (post-pandemic, of course 😜) ❤️

@lukedylon3971 4 года назад

I LOVE that hairstyle on you. It says powerful, confident and creative.

@chelsealee9459 4 года назад

I needed this video now. Seems I was falling down a rabbit hole of bad self doubt, all related to aging. Thanks for reminders and love your hair every way

@scarlett4295 4 года назад

you genuinely inspire me, please never stop making videos

@ElyceBehrsin 4 года назад

Oh I've missed you! Your take on life is so cool! It's so true too. I love being 31 and I feel so much more of a person than I did at 24 or 16. We should embrace age, it means we have grown, experienced and learnt. I'm way smarter and cooler now than ten years ago and will be in another ten...of I plan to be anyway haha x

@MoonpieM 4 года назад

Why haven't I found this sooner? Jenny talks in a logical but also reasurring way, just like a good friend or big sister whould, giving us points while also explaining them to why we feel a certain way and how we should change it. Keep up the great work, you're one of the most inspirational youtubers for me!

@dasunperspectives 4 года назад

I see my wrinkles and other "imperfections" as an evidece for getting more and more experienced. An ageing body is beautiful and kick-ass, and I'm so grateful for it working and carrying me through life. We shouldn't judge ourself and others so hard 🌟

@mariegabriellee 4 года назад

jenny has helped me change my pov on aging. I'm pretty sure she talked a bit about this before on a video or on the podcast and she gives a fresh and healthy perspective. I used to be scared (?) of aging. Now, as I grow older, I can see all these changes in my body and I find it vvv empowering and awesome.

@CandyAustin 4 года назад

I am 61 and still feel beautiful:) Inside and out. And beauty from the inside can reflect out and be seen by others. It’s the most important one:) I also think little girls shouldn’t be constantly told they are beautiful, pretty, etc. I’d prefer they be complimented on their creativity, ideas, accomplishments, acts of kindness, etc.

@cheshirealice8461 4 года назад

I think this video is really gonna shape my thinking as I get older. As a teen, I never cared about my looks, but at 20, I’ve started doubting myself. Thank you for talking about this 💜

@mbellramirez4833 3 года назад

Bravo! This is right on point. I wished I could see all of the "getting older" like you do. Getting older has put a lot of stress on me but I'm trying my best not to obsessed so much about it and let life unfold naturally. But I've got to tell you...it is a struggle.

@jamesbriggs5740 4 года назад

I dressed up for a meeting today even though it's on video conference. I notice I don't dress in nice clothes unless I am going out. It reflects how I feel about myself and being on disability. And the only thing I've never accepted is my stomach sticks out. I basically dress to hide it. Being depressed and in pain all the time makes it hard to make the effort (work) to look good. Kathy B.

@CandyAustin 4 года назад

Sometimes I dress up just for me:)

@she_esh 4 года назад

My mom always tells me to not go for anything chemical. I used to get offended once but right now i don't even use a face wash. I don't wear makeup. I use natural face packs only. I don't say that it will make you beautiful but I believe that it will help you mentally when you get used to your natural, raw self

@RoseDawsonworld 4 года назад

Hi Jenny, thank you so so much for making this video! I wish people would talk more about the importance of self- love and self-acceptance and point out the dark side of the beauty industry. I can safely say that this is the best video I have watched so far

@lolaxxx3669 4 года назад

SAVED, I'm going to show this to my 13yo old daughter, who is BEAUTIFUL and I'm not just saying that as her proud momma, I'm saying it because it's true, but no matter how often I (and others) tell her this she still has such a low opinion of herself and it breaks my heart 💔. I think it's so sad that we live in a world so shallow that the amazing women who choose to become artists, rocket scientists, brain surgeons etc are left in the background for the "beautiful" (dare I say self absorbed😉) influencer types. Celebrate brains and imperfections people, lipstick won't cure cancer but that lady scientist just might. Thanks for listening, you are all BEAUTIFUL😘

@Callmemarq 4 года назад

Love this video. Definitely decided to stop being so hard on myself as I’ve gotten older. I ❤️ me and all of my imperfections and being healthy does help with that. I love the length of your hair now, it definitely compliments you well.

@sandrawilliams7318 4 года назад

Hi Jenny you are spot on! Love your confident attitude! So many young people are influenced in a bad way about imperfections aging etc, you are a positive role model! Great to see! Best wishes to you and David xxx💕👍🏻😎

@maggiecawthorn5653 4 года назад

Great perspective. As a 64 year old woman I am doubly aware of society’s view of ageing. We should celebrate each year because it means we have been given that year and so many others don’t. I think it’s a real shame when so many of the beautiful, older women in the media such as Cher and Jane Fonda have plastic surgery to try and recapture their younger selves. Love your hair as it is.

@crystaltoro9120 4 года назад

Hey Jenny. I just wanted to let you know that I felt this so much. As a Latina living in the U.S. , I observed from a very young age the super unrealistic beauty standards for girls. I was constantly surrounded by images of skinny, light-skinned, white women. Me being a young Latina child with tan skin, super curly black hair and eventually a curvier body, I saw these things as flaws that I thought made me ugly and un-loveable. I starved myself, tried to lighten my skin, and considered many times dyeing my hair blonde. The younger me would've done anything to look like you because you, in my eyes, would've been the definition of beauty. I'm trying more and more each day to love myself and accept myself for who I am. I still struggle though, a lot. But I know it will all be worth it in the end. Thank you once again for making a video like this. I know that many women of color struggle to accept themselves in a world that glorifies euro-centric beauty standards. Keep up the great work Jenny!

@mickim5507 4 года назад

LOVE this! I’ve been getting increasingly resentful that it’s ok for men to look the way they look and women are expected to spackle and paint and adorn themselves. I bought into it, too, for a long time. And then got mad about how I’ve been manipulated. So much wasted time and effort and heart ache trying to achieve an ideal that marketing created. Boo to that! I find that re-programming my mind and being kinder to myself is a two steps forward, one step back process. But there’s progress! 😊

@Tatiana-cd1vu 4 года назад

I am so glad that I am cheap and I strive to be a minimalist, the beauty industry is not taking my hard-earned money! I take care of myself, but only the necessities and while I do not think I am perfect, I am satisfied with the way I am naturally for the most part :D

@anikazebron9036 4 года назад

So very true! Healthy to hear that it's really about industry & commerce in the end. Our life stories are beautiful and celebrating them in/on our bodies is beautiful too!

@emptysoul8462 4 года назад

I recently started to realize that I am the one in control. I am young, I can do whatever I want to do. I know what my problematic areas are, but I also see that I'm beautiful. I want to enjoy life, and so I do!

@dariaraidho7627 4 года назад

Well said! I agree 100%. I don`t want to spend so much time ironing out an accumulating list of "imperfections". I want to live!

@nommh 4 года назад

I totally agree. And the beauty industry has more ways of making us look ugly. What about the angry caterpillar eyebrows that are in vogue? They are so ridiculous. And although you are right about men not being supposed to care about their looks all that much, they do, of course. And now the industry wants to bring us sexual equality by making young men unhappy with the way they look. I’m all for sexual equality, but that is so wrong.

@itsHeatherKay 4 года назад

I love that you are kind to yourself.

@partdelange1109 4 года назад

Thank you for this speech which helps me a lot. I'm in this mood where the only thing I can see is the success of all this perfect women on Instagram and other social media and it makes me feel bad about myself. But you are right, deep down we know our worth, that we are all worth it. I can't wait to grow older and learn more and more because beauty might fade but we can still be curious, no matter how old we are. Thank you tank you thank you

@helenvelazquez4 4 года назад

A lot of young girls need to see this!

@hofdori 4 года назад

So good to hear this! I love your positivity about life and people. The most interesting for me is that I don't like your style, your clothing (this one you wear in the video is an exception), sorry.. but somehow I love your videos because your personality is so kind and opened. I think the time is here when woman shouldn't hide but be natural. During the years I realized the only important thing is to be loved. Since my boyfriend love me so much and keeps saying me I am beautiful, my thinking of view has changed a lot. I only do what I like, for example I do not use make-up at all, but wear more comfy (but nice) cloths. There are sooo many woman around the globe who is not not satisfied with the looks and that's why your video is so important. Anyway statistics tell us that not makeup or clothes attracts men. It is the smile :)

@giulialana2815 4 года назад

One thing that bothers me above all about the beauty industry is that the ultimate beauty standard is being the opposite of what you currently are. You are short? You should wear heels and vertical stripes to look taller. You are tall? That's manly, you should try to look shorter. You have curves? You should hide them to look skinnier. You have no curves? You look like a little boy, here is a padded bra and use your clothes to add volume. Your face is round? Wear your hair and makeup in a way that makes your face look more squared. You have a squared face? Wear your hair in waves to make it look rounder. And it goes on and on

@mooncat5681 4 года назад

Basically.