How The Man-Child is Made (The 30 Year Old Boy) 

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The only thing my parents taught me is to fear everything. They never taught me how to fight back and stand up for myself.

the fact that life cost has risen to nearly 4000% was never even scratched, without opportunities there is no self sufficiency

41 year old here. After busting my ass working 50+ hours a week at a full time job and remodeling two homes on the side, I got screwed over by my partner when she cheated and filed for child support at the worst possible moment. I never thought she would be so despicable and it caught me with my pants down. I was 36, in the middle of a remodel for a home I had sunk my life savings into that was suppose to be where my kids would grow up and now I needed to pay $2000/mo so that she could live with her new boyfriend and take the kids away. She was suppose to help with half the bills after she graduated from MBA school but that support disappeared before it ever materialized. Needless to say, I learned real quick there was more to life than working and money. I had to. I lost it all. If I didn't learn, I would of ended myself like so many other men who have lost it all. So yes. I'm a man child but I have to be. I have to find a way to live life to the fullest without things I thought would always be there. I had to find a new purpose in life and I had to accept that my life had changed forever and there was nothing I could do about it. I got no say in the matter. No amount of begging would get my kids back. Child custody is automatic as soon as one person decides they want it and there's nothing you can do to contest it. Either take it and raise your kids alone or accept weekend visits and walk away (I work and commute too far to see them during the weekdays). You can try to rage against it but that will either break you or kill you. I decided to grab life by the horns, refuse to let it kick me off and see where this crazy ride takes me: hell or high water.

23 yo young man here. I was raised by a single mother that worked a lot. My father was absent the majority of my life. I have used videos like these for guidance as I have never had any positive role models. I never feel sorry for myself as I have grown to be very independent and have benefited from it. I look around me and see people my age or older that have achieved very little in their lives. My goals are big and I’ve achieved a lot already that I hesitate to share my success with people, so it doesn’t come off as bragging. Learn from other peoples mistakes and keep building. Wisdom these days is more important than ever.

An eye-opener for a man-child, like me, who happens to be 41 years old. In fact, it's the first time I encountered the term "man-child" and its meaning. I have an estranged father and a domineering mother and maternal aunts who never encouraged me and my sisters to think for ourselves. I acknowledge that it's my fault that I allowed my mother and maternal aunts to do the thinking for me and my sisters. And it's just recently that my father acknowledged his fault in not allowing me to think and decide for myself after I graduated from college. I believe it's never too late for me to improve myself.

Forgive your parents then take *RESPONSIBILITY* henceforth (live as if your dad was dead and it's up to you).

I’m 23, I wish I took on self development earlier. If you are 20+ don’t give up, never give up, go faster and stronger

One thing I've learned from my parents mistakes is the road to hell is often paved with good intentions

My parents got in the way of anything I did that moved me towards independence because they feared if I became an independent man they would've no control over me. For example, the first time I tried to get a job my dad offered to match my part-time wages - I will pay you not to work. He even hid my interview letters so I'd miss job interviews and I found out later. A year later I decided not to do something he wanted me to do so as a punishment he cut me off financially. He wasn't giving me money because he was my dad and he loved me but money was a tool to manipulate me. Same when I joined a boxing gym to fight back against bullies - both parents stopped me from going because they feared if I learned to fight back and defend myself I would fight back against them when they used violence to force me to do things they wanted. I overheard them saying to relatives who were confused as to why my parents removed me from the boxing gym. I wasn't allowed to learn how to get a job, get a house, cook, and fight. My mum wouldn't even let me cook and when I tried she would throw the food I just cooked in the bin. I had to go to my best friend's house to get his mom to teach me how to cook. My mum is the only person who cooked and she only cooked when I did what she wanted. Again, it was about control and not love.

When we take on WAY too much baggage and bullisht at too young an age for us to be able to handle it or know what's going on, then this is what you get as an adult. We're just doing the best we can do.

Well said, just recently moved out at 25, I can feel I'm developmentally behind some of my peers since I grew up a shut in. But I will catch up

That excuse, that "parents are just doing what's best for you" reinforces the attachment problem. That language needs to be changed, because idealizing parents, excusing them of being devouring, abandoning, abusive, is an infantile psychological defense. Seeing them for who they are as people who likely didn't know what they doing half the time and selfishly out to meet their own needs and not giving a damn about their child's well-being is how to step out of that. Once you see that, then it gets easy. It's like "Oh what am I even doing hanging around my parents then? Time to leave." Excusing them is part of the trauma bond that keeps man-children at home.

My dad would always hit me as a child, I was always scared of him till now, he always wanted everything perfect and would get mad over the smallest thing such as the tongue of my shoe showing, I’m 22 and I stood up to him because he doesn’t respect anyone, doesn’t like people correcting him, doesn’t keep his word and if you use his word against his own to show him he’s wrong, his only respond is “I can do what I want”, I stood up to him and now I feel like I waisted so much time, I never been proud of myself, but for once I feel proud of myself and finally feel like I can take control over my life and try to be a man.

24yo, have little to no connection with my parents despite still living at "home". I feel like im trapped and have zero clue what I should be doing in my life, the funniest or saddest part depending on your perspective is I had a better view and understanding of myself at 13 and younger. Half the time I'm wondering if I'm even real, the other half I'm just living on repeat. I hate the world I see outside my window and most of all I hate myself because I feel like I haven't lived one day in my entire life

My father was authoritarian and physically abusive. I used to think it was normal but my cousins used to see the abuse sometimes and they’d ask me: “does he always do that?” His anger issues made him a terrible father despite the fact that he had good qualities. These good qualities such as financial stability meant nothing to me as I grew older. When my mom finally divorced and got her own cheap apartment, I decided to move in with her despite her not having the fanciest of things. If it weren’t for my fathers anger issues, he’d be pretty decent. For many years I associated anger with evilness because of my father. It wasn’t until many years later that I realized anger has it’s uses. My preference for my mother became a bad thing. Bills were getting more and more expensive and my mom was becoming more and more bitter. She’d tell me I couldn’t survive on my own and that I needed her to survive even at the age of 23. I’m now 26 and have lost years of my life because I believed in what my mother told me about myself. I no longer talk to either one of them anymore than is necessary.

This is very true, it's sad that we have gotten this far. Unfortunately, I am one of these man-childs that was produced through these circumstances but I am understanding that I can't be reliant on my parents and need to take matters into my own hands. I appreciate your channel Mr. Forged

Why a women never called 'woman-child'? They are never blamed for anything.

When I was 24 and my dad died, we were left on the streets, with no heritage or legacy whatsoever, he didn't leave a thing for us. Yet, I felt alleviated. Having him gone was freeing for me. At last I could start building my life the way I really wanted, and taking my own decisions. I took risks, endured crises, hunger, was on the verge of homelessness at least twice, and 10 years later, while I'm still lacking in many areas and always will, I am content with what I did with my life, despite how complicated everything has been. If you got nice parents, be grateful for them, most of us wish we had them.

One thing that definitely makes it harder to avoid the manchild trappings at least here in Australia is the lack of affordable housing. It's hard gaining independence from your parents when the rent of the cheapest houses is more then most Australians average salary. I'm desperately hoping and working towards moving out with a friend cause as much as i love my parents i hate living in their house and under their rule.

Most people who use the term "man up" or "manchild" use it as a form of shaming. In 2023 we should know better than to fall for the shaming tactics

I have become more of a man, my father ever was. My father was a weak coward. My Mum was really overprotective and worked 3 Jobs to keep me and my siblings fed. I moved out at 18 and figured a lot of things out by myself. I'm still far away from where i want to be, but i have built my body, worked myself head first trough walls over and over, i have truly become Independent, i have become a man others depend on. Never give up and find something worth living for.

Never existing in the first place sounds like a much sweeter deal than being born into a hell hole on Ultra Nightmare difficulty surrounded by heartless people. I would never subject another human life into this cruelty with all of my pitfalls, not only that though the reality of one's situation or on a grander scale life in general is horrifying once you strip back the curtains. Many parents did us a disservice selfishly creating more life into this world when they themselves were abject failures in the eyes of society on a whole host of fronts.

Gonna be 27 years old next month, no skill, no degree, no friends, jobless, never had a girlfriend and still living with my mother, my father died when i'm 19 ( he was a passive father, no masculine character at all), got health anxiety, phobias, anxious intrusive thoughts and panic attacks in the past few years, the only thing keeping me alive is my strong urge to change and becoming the man I want to be, thankfully my motivation for that is getting stronger, and my recent anxiety attacks are finally the last push to force me into action, for I assumed that my avoidance behavior of life tasks and challenges and overall cowardice in life is the main culprit of my mental health symptoms, I can't live like this, its time to finally face life task and challenges that I neglected and evaded for years.

Part of improving is admitting you have a problem. All of these descriptions of a man-child definitely resonate with my own life. I finally moved out of home at 31, after being pretty much a basement dweller with no job, no money, no aspirations. I weighed 125 pounds, was weak, pathetic and did not have the slightest clue of how life worked. I am 40 now. I can't say I am perfect, because I am far from being it. I still love video games, other hobbies that might be considered (and most likely are) childish, but at least I can say I am self-sufficient. I work, have my own place, pay my bills, and are no longer afraid of taking risks or facing challenges head on. Also, having a healthy lifestyle, working out, avoiding bad habits, working out, might not sound like they do much for your life, but trust me, it does A LOT.

It took me until I was seventeen to realise the absolute hell fatherlessness is, I met him last year and my head feels clearer now. I never tried in school never had hobbies and always lived in my older brothers shadow who was praised by my mother's side of the family. I met my older half brother who's 30+ and it was heartbreaking realising he had been robbed of his younger brothers too I despise my family for what they have done to me and I'm completely lost in life. I look at my friends fathers and think if I had just been allowed to see mine even just a few times a month growing up I would be ten times the man I am now, all the generational knowledge is gone and I'm never getting it back. A girl asked me if me and my full brother have the same dad (I'm freakishly tall in comparison to my dad brother and half brother) it completely shattered my brain thinking that my mother couldve held my real father away from me and I'm not convinced that the man I've met is my biological father I'm so lost I don't know how to process what's going on in my head

This is perfectly true. I'm also grateful for the truth that a lot of men who have not much of a father figure is curbing themselves to a better man to be there for there sons

I am there for my kids. An eleven-year-old stepdaughter, an eight-year-old daughter, and a four-year-old son. I spend every hour that I'm not working with them. There's nothing more important to me than my kids. No way in the world they're going to grow up without me being their dad.

I’m 22 and noticed this shit at 19. I’m building my self up for the better. Upgrade yourself guys. Become that strong lvl 100 character. We fucking got this

This is an eye-opener for me. Me and my timid father lived with my sometimes narcissistic mother. I used to wonder why I felt so free when my mother passed away due to an illness but now I know why. I was enslaved under my mothers expectations. Honestly, I didn't learn to think for myself until she was gone. I blamed her for my "infantility".

im sure not being able to afford housing as nothing to do with it as well as the living crisis and the fact that maturity is defined by responsibility and nothing more

With how much rents cost we will have a whole generation of involuntary man childs

how tf is young man supposed to move out with todays prices and low wages ? Is this for real ?

My parents taught me to escape. My uncle, aunt, and wife taught me how to be responsible and strong. I owe a lot to them.

"Without them there would be no you." I wish dearly that had been the case. Oblivion is my greatest desire.

I used to blame my parents until i realized that they are, same as us, the products of their missfortune, enviroment and families. Now i'm 30 yo and i keep watching these videos in order to find that strenght to start living. I used to be fearful of people until a year ago. Even so, still strugling with it . Can't find the proper motivation or will power in me to do shit for myself and i keep falling into this comfort zone. All my friends have left me because i think they didn't see anything worthy of keeping in me. The breaking point was last year when my best friend stopped being my best friend because i was only thinking of myself. Took me a while to figure what she meant but she was right. Because of my circumstances i developed this ...way of doing things without realizing unconsciously that im doing it only for my own benefit. Even tho i realize it now ...i'm scared because i don't know how to solve it...and there are many more other things that i as well as others are dealing with that i'm not gonna discuss here. Even more telling you guys all this makes me feel so low, like i'm yelling for help in a pathetic atempt to get attention. I do need help and i do want help....just dont know how to get it ...i'm ashamed of myself and what i've become and im just afraid that im far too lost to recover ...but yeah ...my story in few words...I hope you all get the strenght to overcome these challenges and become the best versions of yourselves no matter how lost you may feel..

I am 26 Have wasted 8 years of my life from 16 onwards - playing videos games, watching adult content and trying every bit to run from any real responsibility . Always wished for some magic to happen and turn my life 360 . Well , it took me 10 long years to realise - I AM THE MAGIC in my story . It starts with me learning to take self responsibility and accepting the process of adulting into a man who enjoys looking after himself and his loved ones .

28 here. Honestly, I sometimes wonder about if I am one. But frankly, I don't care. My father lost his life to cancer before covid hit. So, my mother has started working more in his place. Most of my siblings have moved out. I've decided I'm not leaving her. I'm going to find a trade school, get an apprenticeship and learn how to become an electrician to help support her as long as I'm able. Growing up and learning to think for yourself is the goal of youth. But Independence means nothing if it comes at the cost of abandoning your family when they need you.

I don't see this talked about much, but in my experience one of the biggest advantages that a young man gains from having a father stick around and take an active role in their upbringing is the connections his father will have and the employment opportunities they provide. Of my friends, the most successful either followed in their dad's footsteps, or got a job through their dad's connections shortly after leaving school, and now at around 40 years old, they are highly skilled in their fields and well paid. On the other hand most of my friends that came from broken homes might have gone to college but are still renting and working a succession of low paying shitty jobs, struggling to make ends meet.

Thanks, I really needed the pep talk. I've been feeling really down the last few months and couldn't quite understand why. The reality, was that I had started hiding away in my comfort zone again, and overindulging in non-productive and destructive habits

is extremely important to socialize and play with other children as soon as possible (around ~2yo mark), if not, that will cripple person for life to have proper interactions with others

What about the overwhelming narcissistic abuse that children experience?

The fact that Fight Club saw this coming 24 years ago is INSANE.

As a 39 y.o man, without kids, never married (I don't want kids) why should I grow up? Where's the incentive? To get a wife who will cheat/divorce me and take 80% of what I worked for? No way. I'll keep riding motorcycles, eating steaks everyday and never sacrificing anything I want for someone who hates me. Hard pass.

Absolutely right. The thing is that we'll never feel fully prepared to face challenges, but we gotta face them anyway. And if we ever face a challenge which we can do little to nothing to overcome, then it is our duty to learn and be ready to face it should it ever come knocking on our doors again. For me, there are two options towards success in life: you either achieve it because you've been trying long enough or you die trying. Either way, you can't just quit and expect things to go your way. And even if you die without achieving specifically what you want, you're more likely to get a good result if you just have the right strategies and mentality towards long term goals.

It's always Man-child which shows how inequal men are treated today, women aren't scrutinized or belittled for childish behavior or made out to be a woman-child

Economy also plays a major role. My father only finished high school and has always been rather immature and easy to anger, yet he could still get a relatively comfortable office job, buy an apartment alongside my mom and to this day is still being paid a pension from his old job (not a retirement fund or savings, but an actual salary). Some of the most mature, capable and wise young adults i know are still forced to live with their families because either renting or buying a home is so fucking expensive.

The way this video explains my family, emotional struggles and psychological reasoning behind it is so unbelievably accurate and relatable/ on point.

I started working full time at age 18. Two years prior I was started in a work program for learning disabled kids, where I got to leave school early two days a week to go work. I still sometimes feel like a kid who just got old. It's too late to start again, I had no idea that program would severely restrict my options and quality of life.

I am a Boy I always will be . Others will die defeated old men . Wile I will still be able to skate board .others will die chasing a dream . I will live the dream for the rest of my life . I see the thumbnail of this video and he looks so sad 😞. Here I am so happy that I exepted myself as the human I am . Living happy and healthy. I recently met a new friend twice my age . Living Similar to me . He inspires me to stay on my path . To stay in this positive mindset. I will remain the same for the rest of my life . Happy and Healthy.

I'm almost 28, and still live with my mother, and I am aware that I have some man-child behaviors. As a result of dad's death when I was a kid, and my faulty genetic predisposed for anxiety and panic attacks, borderline personality disorder, I'm very set for being behind. I don't use it as an excuse, and I'm taking therapy, but I need to change what I can.

Eye opener, makes me appreciate my parents. While my dad was largely unpresent at work, he still encouraged and still encourages me in my pursuits of self improvement and independence. While my mom doesn't really encourage independence, she still encourages self improvement.

6:28 In my regard I was blessed with a partner that had even worse insecurities than me but helped me grow past my shackles of my limiting beliefs on myself and love. Even after it got ugly I decided to stick with them because I thought they helped me finally stop self loathing I genuinely feel owed to return the favor and help them gain their footing as well, before that I was just convinced that I had no good reason to ever improve or even how to do so in a way that felt meaningful. Sometimes just getting that recognition that your parents hardly ever offered is all you need to start healing and growing, I never felt many examples of someone being so warm especially for so long in my life. Not even just that but seeing how accepting they were despite my short comings, its genuinely inspiring once you see that you can have worth if you try.

The root cause of this phenomenon is socioeconomic. The socioeconomic forces shape the family dynamics at young age which in turn reflect the psychosocial development of the child. Society changed in the past 30 years and so did people in how they view themselves in and others' social roles.

I love how you ended this video that we should forgive our parents because they only want the best for us..they are not perfect as well as we, and also we have free will and we are not robots that are just programmed so we are also responsible of our own growth

I like this video and I don't necessarily think that everything said here is 100% true but a lot of it is. I grew up in a household with both parents, but they were very controlling, and my father basically raised me and instilled me with fear to get his way of making me do things or not do things around the house that he wanted. I was never really taught to have independent thought and now at 27 years old. I have finally started to realize that and to realize the importance of confidence in oneself and pushing forward in your own beliefs, and trusting your own self, and not taking orders from somebody else. It was always negativity and being told about how every decision I made was dumb or wrong, and that I was not going to be successful unless I did what they wanted. Any time I wanted to try a new endeavor I was told I wouldn't be successful or that I wouldn't be able to do it. Eventually they started to wear off in my early to mid 20s and now I am in a much better place with that, but people have no idea how much it affects you to grow up in an environment like that until you're really old enough and mature enough to understand the impact that your parents can have on you as an adult. now of course everyone makes mistakes but there are basics that you need to know and they need to provide for your kids as parents and not everybody gets that and I was one of those people. This even poured into my love life up until recently, when I finally realized a relationship that I was in, was exactly the same situation of how I was raised. Constant fighting yelling and toxicity about how I was wrong getting the blame for it all and once in a while getting a sliver of positivity. I finally had enough and walked away from it because I know I needed to start respecting myself, even if it was just now in my mid 20s. Once again the impact of being raised in the household like that has many effects on you of what you don't even know until you're older, and I just realize that in my life especially being treated the way I was from my parents Made me, unconsciously, not respect myself because of how they spoke to me and treated me and how I excepted that as normal behavior from people. The environment that you live in, and that you are brought up in make some major difference in life, and plays into who you become. Although this is not set in stone, and like I said, you can always better yourself and always mold yourself and be a help to yourself. The honest reality is that some of us are dealt better hands than others in life but we must go forward with what we have. There's always hope and there's always room for improvement every day no matter how young you are or how old do you think you are. You can always change for the betterment of yourself.

Sou um cara de 27. Criado pela mãe e avô. Sim, me sinto um homem criança. A parte boa é que tenho consciência disso, não estou em negação! Agora que meus pais são idosos, as responsabilidades parecem que vieram tudo de uma vez mas não, eu que fugi delas a vida inteira.. mas a hora chegou, veio e passou.. estou aprendendo com meus erros e quero me tornar um Homem melhor. Keep grinding kings 🔥💪👑 I see you guys in the top of the world 🔝

This is hitting too close to home for me. For a guy who lost his father when he was 11 everything you said in this video is true.

That applies to maybe 60% of me. It was an eye opener. I dont plan to be one of those hyper masculine men who uses women but theres a lot to be said for being independent, learning stoicism and leadership skills, and knowing what you want out of life.

This hits extremely hard...Thank you

Thank you for this video. It's a sure eye-opener

this needs be put out there for more young men to see

We owe YOU, the angles u touch on are on another level.. thank you!

I hate the fact that I was born just because I was born to uncaring parents. It is a curse and no one cares about leftover men. I don't even have a driver's license.

As someone who is 25 and still has these child like tendancies, and understands that its not a good things to have those, i really appreciate how this video comes from a place of understanding and isnt condescending. My father was... around but. Not really. My mom passed away from breast cancer when i was 14 and me and my brother were left under the care of my dad. His method of parenting pretty much boiled down to yell and belittle. If that didnt work, hed just give up and let us do what we want. He'd often just go out to his favorite bar. Brought home a psychotic girlfriend who would at best be an enabeler for our bad behavior if it meant we'd do her a favor or be incredibly emotionally abusive at worst. He didnt make much effort in preparing us for life as an adult, just go to college right after high-school or be kicked out with no where to go. Hell, he didnt even want to teach us how to drive. Im currently learning from my best friend whose kind enough to give me lessons and before the year is over i should have a car. And to kick it all off im also autistic and he just did not care to understand how to go about that. Needless to say... I'm a touch developmentally stunted. I now live on my own and have been working towards being a functioning adult. Work full time, take classes, and am working on bettering myself as a person and learning the things my dad didnt want to teach me. To those of you in a similar situation to mine, its not hopeless! Its up to us to prove to our worthless deadbeat fathers we dont need them to be successful.

Finding someone who's parents aren't divorced would be a bit of a miracle these days

The part about withdrawing from "social activities", the guy doing the video forgot to mention one important detail in regards to that.....incentive. Without it, it's simply nonsense.

Thanks this was great..Stay strong fellas

Sums it up! Great Vid!

Very much an eye opener, and some things clicked. I am not sure if my parents made things worse or not, but having actual ADHD has been a major impairment to things without me even acknowledging it for years, fueled by dopamine, left uncaring and distracted by the lack of it. In some ways it has made me take risks, in others I have been too safe. Currently in the breaking out process, grown tired of things and started to pay attention. With age maturity sure comes, but there is still growing to be had. I suppose in some ways I was stunted, I know that with certainty, religion played a role, I did not live my teen years as a teen, I lived them in my early 20’s.

Independence is a lie, because you're always depending on something. It's all one big circle, people take it way to serious and the price for "independence" (which usually means being a wage cuck, tied down to a place by bills or in worst case some sort of loan, which is quite the opposite of independence.) is misery. Like... How are you independent when you depend on a landlord that enables you to get a place to sleep, a bunch of stores that enable you to get food, doctors that fix you up if needed and lastly; a workplace that gives you the money for all that and a place in the rat-race as well. Even when living off the grid, you're depending on a source of clean drinking water, on some sort of income or food supply etc. The list could go on far longer and it applies to all that lives on earth. True independence is just as real as true self-made man or santa claus. P.S I just don't get it. So many people are seemingly proud of getting scammed by society while being miserable in the process. Grinders a miserable, Manchildren are miserable pretty much nobody is really happy or fulfilled, yet everyone is acting like they got it all together. Truth is: Existence is pure luck and live is total chaos. It's quite irrelevant what you live like and the best you can do is enjoying the ride while you can.

Proper video packed with info, hard hitting truth and stuff I can teach my son.

Damn. Just sat through this whole video reliving my entire childhood and adolescence. Almost as if you were reading my biography with some modifications. I hope I can free myself from this.

Joining the military in my teens set me on a good life path. That was 20+ years ago. Today I would not suggest the military to anyone! Times are a lot different than they were in the 90s and 80s.

I used to rent an apartment room about a year ago. I felt so nuch more independent then. Did what I wanted, whenever I wanted, it was true freedom. But money... My hours were cut and i had to buy cheap food, sometimes I'd go bed starving because I had very little money. It was brutal. So when my hours were cut I moved back my parents, they buy the shopping now and rent's much cheaper but... I now live under their house rules and thar freedom, independence and maturity fades. You fall back into a moody teenager again, because you just want to ne left alone sometimes, but it's a tiny full house where you can't escape your family, so you grow to hate eachother and now I just play games all the time I'm off, where before I'd feel more grown up, decorating and buying furniture or trying out new foods in shops and restaurants. Most importantly, I had peace.

Thanks for this vid pretty much left home at 18 in a new country 23 now but these help alot

Thank you for this video

Add inflation, minimum wage society, You have a recipe here

i can and have stopped expecting my parents to fix things for me but i will never, ever, ever forgive them. No matter what. They are getting old and will one day need me to support them. At that time i will either be not there or even if i am forced to be there through societal pressures i will do so without any love for them and they will get from me only as much as they can strong arm me into giving them. They have strong armed me my entire life, lets see how long they keep their 'strength'. And as for the last sentence of this video: its an empty argument for me because i never asked to be born.

This was totally me, and forgiveness was the key to my awakening. I thank YAH for that! Thank you for this video.

And I’m twice that age and still mostly a child EXCEPT I took care of my dad on hospice for 18 months and that really helped me become a late stage adult. Great content

I'm 41 and I'm going through this. How embarrassing 😫 I don't want no woman in my life and I can't see myself with one yuck 🔥

I don't have a father and I'm gay and yet still independent at 21 and masculine. It's all because people look down on me that's why I wanted to prove that I can still be manly despite my preferences 😌

So for my case my dad was in the army and after he returned home he just made everything 1000 times worse without even trying and he just blame everything on me or my mother So,my mom took the leadership role in our house This did affect me too and my dad can't do anything correctly with everything that went trough for years now It's very hard to go indipendent for me but I'm trying my best with the circumtances I'm not blaming my parents here I am thankful for them for raising me My mom taught me how to be kind and headstrong while my dad provided for our family the problem is me here IK my mistakes and my mom and dad points some of them for me as well they do support me how ever they can and thanks for this video

What a helpful video. Thank you

I had two things in mind aside from dealing my personal problems with my parents while trying my best to manage myself until I got enough money to get the shit outta it... First, Shotzi, a female wrestler, raised by his biological dad and her step dad. Both her step dad and her original dad had good relationship as best friends. In fact, she considers them are two of the best friends in the world and they help her raised as a better person. And the second one, my friend, a former PUA and taking his own philosophy of manhood and making connections with real relationships. He was living alone, has wicked brains in psychology, philosophy and business opportunity. He is not quite handsome and fat but he fits some balls. Loves playing videogames most of the time, suffered from depression, and being bashed by most people. He knows about truth about social status and power. It sometimes neglected due to constant confrontations with society. Now, I was asking myself if these two were worth as role models. Talking about guys who have been nurtured by parents and decision upon themselves to be a free person.

"She can't trust you to lead, protect, and provide for her." Good. That is by design. I'm not some resource to be exploited by women.

Wow, I would like to take the time to thank you for this honest and revealing information. Definitely will go over it a number of times to glean it's truths. While now in my latter years, it is never too late to learn and apply important principles of life.

You said it all. Nice video.

Unfortunately it sounds like you describe exactly the problems in my upbringing, which lead exactly to the kind of problems you describe and I have had. My parents were very caring and good people and I miss my father a lot since he passed, but I still realize they made a lot of mistakes of the kind you describe. I am still grateful to them for doing their best despite their flaws.

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I was sexually abused by the first kid my parents ever sent me to play with. Was headbutt right in the nose a few years later. Lived with that disfigured face for years. Then when I realized how bad it was in high-school I started hitting it so bad with my fist that a huge bruise developed and there would be open wounds on the bridge of my nose from my finger nails. After I fixed it (surgery. Doctor said it was just a matter of how long i would last if i didnt get surgery.) I asked my dad why he never helped me when he knew I was hurting myself. He said "one day I loved over at you in church and all I could see was evil so I decided to leave you alone." I was adopted by him and my mom as an infant. When I would ask my mom about what I should do with my life she would tell me that God would tell me what to do. I'd come back to her saying that he isn't guiding me anywhere even after I'd pray. She would tell me that I'm not right with the lord. If I was right with the lord (going to heaven) God would be telling me when to do. I'm 30 now.

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This is excruciatingly painful because it is true. I'm a 32 year old man child. My father was an abusive alcoholic and my mother handed in a divorce when she couldn't bear him any longer. This was only 2 months after my birth. From then on he abandoned us and never partook in my upbringing. I always yearned for a male father figure but never found one because I don't have any brothers or uncles and my grandfather died when I was an infant. This resulted in an overly attached and caring mother who couldn't teach me any masculine values or virtues. After all, only a man can teach another boy how to be a man. Everywhere I was raised by women. Mother, grandmother, female teachers, hell even all the psychotherapists I saw over the years for my clinical depression are female. And it shows: 0 dating, 0 relationships, 0 work success, 0 social life. After hitting 31 I've been sorting my life out for the past year but my word, is it hard to learn how to be a man. Especially when you have to do it by yourself.

This is one of, if not the best videos I have seen on this topic. This is unfortunately too real for me. My dad died when I finished 8 grade and I was raised by a very demanding and overprotective mom. My upbringing has really crippled my adult life. I'm much older now and still stuggle with the effects of my early years. I've made some progress but still have a long way to go.

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Great content! Love the reference to Carl Jung. Keep it up!

Blaming parents for showering their love, care is just pathetic excuse for not growing up. They've seen hardship and don't want to see their kid suffer what they've been through. Great video

In 2019 I was ready to buy a house, I was going to wait until 2020 to save up just a little more. Then the virus happened, I am now in my 30’s still living with my parents in the same room I was in my teens. I feel stuck, I knew moving out was a chance for growth but with the cost of living now I don’t know what to do

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