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Former Stanford University dean of freshmen & NYT bestselling author Julie Lythcott-Haims joins Rich to talk about how to raise resilient, successful adults-and how to be one yourself. To read more about Julie and peruse the full show notes, click here👉🏾bit.ly/richroll635
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00:00:00 - Intro
00:03:12 - Rich & Julie’s past / Stanford alumni / Miserable Lawyers
00:07:54 - Julie's Experience with Over-Parented Young Adults
00:12:26 - The Rise of Helicopter Parents
00:17:46 - Generational Shifts in Parenting
00:20:01 - Our Kids Are Not Bonsai Trees
00:24:31 - Importance of Vulnerability and Human Connection
00:27:36 - Developing a Sense of Agency
00:31:30 - Finding Your Path Takes Time
00:35:15 - Being in a Miserable Job and Making a Switch
00:40:58 - The Plantpower Meal Planner
00:42:33 - Naomi Osaka & Simone Biles / Prioritizing Mental Health
00:46:12 - Julie's Experience as a Bi-Racial POC
00:52:51 - Race Relations at Stanford University
00:54:16 - Sports Programs Cut during COVID
00:56:21 - The Social Obstacles Young People Face Today
01:05:03 - “Your Turn”: A Road Map, Manifesto and Primer for Young People
01:08:33 - Julie's Health Journey
01:13:57 - Sharing Personal Experiences To Be In Service Of Others
01:15:59 - Writing About Advice that is Inclusive
01:18:01 - The Concept of Fending
01:21:23 - Finding the Middle Ground between a Helicopter Parent & Negligent Parent
01:25:12 - Overconsumption
01:26:22 - Talking to Strangers
01:28:15 - Stop Pleasing Others
01:30:23 - Rethinking Education
01:38:13 - Advice for Young People / The Next Step After School / Odyssey Years
01:43:59 - Lessons on Saving Money
01:45:44 - 5 Steps for Having an Important Argument with Your Parents
01:49:56 - Not Projecting Expectations on Our Children
01:54:05 - Finding an Affordable Place to Live
01:55:09 - It's Not a Failure to Move Back Home
01:58:26 - Re-Patterning Relationships with Children
01:59:58 - Setting Up Expectations for Success
02:01:15 - Modeling Good Behavior
02:03:51 - It's Good for Parents to Share Their Struggles
02:06:01 - Teaching Kids How to Manage Their Finances
02:09:57 - Closing Remarks
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@richroll 2 года назад

Thanks for watching! To check out the FAR Collection visit: tenthousand.cc/FAR -- and to learn more about Julie and peruse the show notes, visit: bit.ly/richroll635

@ritasewell1108 2 года назад

I was blessed to be raised by saying and loving parents. I am 68 and had a lot of freedom. My dad cared so much for my mom he did all kinds of chores wash the floors helped with meals and her nursing uniforms. My dad told us when we were kids my job is not to make you happy my job is to successfully raise you to be functioning contributing adults in society he never let us down we all lodged we all are there. Thank you

@lisamurphy7698 2 года назад

I'm not a parent or a young person, I am going to read this book for myself.

@Kiwiwanderer 10 месяцев назад

100% this is so good. Every parent of a newborn needs to watch this. I’m the daughter of 93yo traumatised uneducated WW2 refugee immigrants. We were raised tough…no hugs, no guidance, no praise etc. work hard be miserable. So my brother, sister & I wanted to give our children EVERYTHING. We ruined them - spoilt, indulged, lack resilience & drive. I’m the odd one - my brother & sister hugely successful in sport , university and career and wealth accumulation. I had learning difficulties , adhd etc and my daughter too ….i could only afford to indulge her till about 10yo ….our lives was more chaotic, poorer, transient etc …..I couldn’t afford to over indulge her ……so when she left school like me at 16 with no education it was straight into a full time job, always had a strong work ethic , just like me and my parents. By 22yo she had saved $130k for her first property in the hot Auckland market and now earns a $100k per year (still with no education). My siblings children flunked university , still live at home and indulged due to every mental illness or gender issue excuse. My daughter lacks friends due to her adhd and has often been unhappy but still persists and gets stronger. I read anti-fragile by nassim taleb …and he says it’s companies / people who get used to managing flaws, weaknesses and errors will thrive ….because they are used to it. The earlier children learn to work with use themselves & their resources the better. … it’s training for real life. Real life is not easy and that’s ok. Get the skills that you need early. It’s disrespectful and harmful for parents to take away the practice runs from kids. And yes I watched Julie’s Ted Talk years ago and completely changed my parenting strategy …even though I wish she was born a littler earlier and did the Ted talk earlier lol

@MelodyProsser 2 года назад

I heard of Julie Lythcott-Haims for the first time today and it took me all of thirty minutes to fall in love with her. Now I have to pick up her books. This was such an amazing conversation! Thank you both!

@drewe9514 2 года назад

❤

@petrakosutic7904 2 года назад

Me toooo! Wonderful person with a big heart

@erinnicholl2628 2 года назад

This is without a doubt the most import podcast I've ever listen to. I have an child of 19 months and I could see myself in a lot of things discussed here. It's really opened my eyes to the importance of giving a child the space to becoming who they are and not how I think they should be. Thank you

@cosmopolidanu 2 года назад

X gen here, a girl that was expected to be the best in the class, a woman who's learning to let go and just be. touching. beautiful. thank you for sharing your Story.

@susanconnelly1692 2 года назад

I was so excited to wake up this morning and see Julie Lythcott-Haims on the podcast! I’m 53 and raised 2 kids to be adults with the help of her book How to Raise An Adult. I found this book to be spot on as a guide for myself and my kids to help them grow and navigate in a world where they had been held back by helicopter parenting. I always knew something was off by that approach and her book helped me to confirm that we had been doing them a disservice. Gen Xrs have so much to offer the Gen Z’s by giving them permission to make mistakes and that having fears are part of everyday life. Battle scars should be a badge of honor that a life full of experiences will help bring self-esteem, compassion and forgiveness to ourselves and others. Learning through doing will allow you to give respect to yourself and others. Not everyday is a “gold”star! But when we have one we can cherish those few moments and move on with the “business” of life. That’s what makes a life worth living. Peace, plants and namaste to Rich Roll. Your podcast is making an impact. That’s what your podcast does.

@leighn.8670 2 года назад

@1:29:56 - "People tend to gravitate towards people who feel self-actualized like it was an energy that person emits that makes them infinitely more attractive than the person who is needy or coveting favor." YES to self-actualized people let's have more of those, please.

@mamaraine8963 2 года назад

Wow--if you ask a question out loud, the universe will answer!! My 22 year old son just asked me yesterday about when I first felt like an adult. I told him I would think about it and get back to him because I wasn't sure of my answer. This was amazing and will definitely watch this again with him to start our conversation. ❤

@laetitialemuet3639 2 года назад

Thanks both for this amazing episode. I am not such a young adult anymore, i am 35 and just got a baby, but this episode resonated in me as an adult who still wants to build herself and as a young parent who wants to do the best to help her child grow in our always changing environment. Thank you so much!

@MegaRoteschorle 2 года назад

thankyou so much for the sentence:" in childhood somebody else would look after you- if some of your parents could show up and did show up to take care of you" it`s the first time i heard someone pointing out the reality of those without parents, without it being the main topic of the conversation- thankyou

@carolpessin4006 2 года назад

I am so excited to hear Julie I’m 77 healthy flexible working Artist mother grandmother, I am learning so much I am so grateful, it is so helpful thank you Julie

@katjabeardsell311 2 года назад

She just described ikigai at the end, so good :)

@tmpeoples9864 2 года назад

Wow, this was such a refreshing conversation to listen to, very timely and spot on. Thanks Rich for having Julie Lythcott-Haims as a guest!

@EveningTV Год назад

Thank you for the message of this podcast as it is not usually what is out there. I constantly feel like I did everything wrong as a parent because I gave my kids space to figure things out. I did this intentionally at first and then when my marriage was turned upside down this happened because I couldn't help it. As a Gen X latch key kid myself, and I was more engaged and available than my parents had been but I was also putting out fires constantly. So, when my sons ended up not fitting society's definition of success, I was fine with it as long as they were, but when they struggled, I guessed that all these fussy parents must have known something I didn't. I couldn't have done what they did anyway, but saw this as a failure. This talk reminds me of a time when my kids were young and I was worried about them and a wise woman told me that my children have God just as I do and it isn't me. That was a relief then as it is now, and ultimately I believe it is true.

@kathleenkulp240 2 года назад

Absolutely agree that the educational systems from K to college need to become the Change Arena for our country and our world to get healthy and stronger for ALL.

@nandspeartree7263 2 года назад

Such a sad incident, the story she shared about what happened to her on her birthday at high school. So young and having to bare that hatred by herself, I wish I could go to that 17 year old Julie and give her a big hug and tell her that she's going to be alright. So brave. Thank you for this conversation, like always I'm constantly learning. 🌿

@lindseymiller8368 2 года назад

Rich, this has been (by far) my absolute favorite of the hundreds of episodes of your show that I have listened to thus far. Julie, I so deeply thank you for your insight as a skilled trades employer and as a mother of a "tweenager" that I am desperately searching for wisdom on how to not mess him up. As parents, we usually aim for giving our kids a life better than what we grew up with, yet we can only draw from past experience which makes me/us feel inequiped to even begin to offer advice that would resonate or be applicable to these young minds. You have given me some invaluable insight and language that I can use immediately to facilitate deeper and more meaningful conversations with my son and my employees. I truly appreciate you and I hope you know that your works are spreading good in this world! 💗 I just purchased all 3 of your books on Audible and I cannot wait to dive in!!

@umrahsaleh2089 2 года назад

Wow this one really brought the tears. What a beautiful conversation. For my future mother self. Thanks Rich -this was a delightful way to start the week.

@donnadevens1897 2 года назад

Great to meet Julie. Thanks for helping our young people.

@flyingcrew2640 2 года назад

Just beautiful words from Julie. So heartfelt and vulnerable.. Loved it thank you.. As Mary Oliver says What are u going to do with this one beautiful life, and no one knows u more than yourself so no one has power over your life unless u give it to them.

@happiness4beginners449 2 года назад

How long have I been waiting for this video I cannot tell you. Thank you for finally broaching it. Someone needed to bring up the topic and hopefully many a podcaster will follow your lead. Most of what is taught on these podcasts our wisdom Choice discipline Etc self-care Healthcare responsibility basically how to be an adult without saying as much things that we were not taught in school. I come from a very dysfunctional background. Neither of my parents worked my entire life and my family was very chaotic I was the only one in my family to go to college I didn't know what I was doing. I made a lot of those mistakes that you when you look back you wish you hadn't. And I didn't see a horizon after college I only knew that far. After that I didn't know what you were supposed to do no one in my family has ever owned a home I'm the only one in my family with a college degree. There is no role model for what you're supposed to do how you're supposed to be. My parents were not helicopter parents they were the exact opposite. I managed to graduate college with an honours degree but then I've spent my life struggling to figure out the basics I'm currently working as a custodian. I've been using podcast to try to grow myself up. I don't think it's just a particular generation although it's very relevant to this specific generation. I think there are a lot of adults for a variety of reasons at a variety of Ages who hasn't matured much past 14 1521 and the skills that serve them then no longer serve them at 40. They honestly don't know how to change. Thank you Rich for finally going there. Hopefully you will expand on this topic hopefully others will follow. I think there's a large group of people that could benefit from this type of subject material

@ryanellis424 2 года назад

I'm 20 and have entirely divorced myself from my parents parenting, only relying on them for tuition(Naropa University). I haven't been able to rest into their discernment/advice for many many years. So I developed my own overdemanding, insecure, perfectionist inner parent that could hopefully fill that role. The funny thing is that I wrestle with a lot of procrastination, and I feel this self sabotaging mechanism as me rebeling against my own demands. So much "fuck you I won't do what you tell me" even to reasonable responsibilities like "get most of your assignments in" & "you know you don't like how it feel when to doom scroll for hours" etc But it feels nice to hear you two talk, and to know that as long as I keep collecting all these great lessons from people like you all, then this ride of mine will be all guud ✌

@Bigoldgrizzly1337 2 года назад

What a timely podcast. Thank you. Will definitely watch this!

@bretstevens262 2 года назад

Thank you for an awesome conversation with Julie!

@DemetriPanici 2 года назад

*"Only I can change my life, no one can do it for me" - Carol Burnett*

@meganhopkins1497 2 года назад

I am going to have to read them all. Thank you Rich and Julie for being such prime examples of the compassionate, thoughtful, eye to eye conversations about tough subjects that we should all be having with each other. The biggest point I make on a daily basis to my son (12) is that the trying to understand the world around you and to be understood whether the world seems to be trying at all is paramount. And though you may fall on your face from time to time all you have to do is get up again. Most of my best lessons have come from hardship and “failure” and I call them the silver lining lessons. Those very lessons continue to make me stronger and more resilient in each and every moment. They are priceless. Thank you again so much! Blessings!

@isabellegagnon8042 2 года назад

Super interesting podcast: and particularly the bonsai tree analogy to me…I am of the baby boomer generation, and I have raised my daughter now 41 to be super independent, to have agency over her life, and I am super respectful of the choices she makes even if I don’t agree. But I am the bonsai tree for my daughter…she has often judged and argued my choices which go against some of her own scientific beliefs. So interesting how the “parent role” is sometimes reverse when children become adults 😉

@MoikaloopTV 2 года назад

Amazing talk, so much compassion for others, something I am going to teach my two kids as they grow older. Thank you for all the knowledge shared in here.

@drmhynes 2 года назад

So thankful for Julie’s work. Amazing. ❤️

@robsockett1710 2 года назад

Really powerful woman. I could listen to her all day. Just ordered the book.

@saravandenheuvel9103 2 года назад

I loved your conversation with Julie! As a parent it was uncomfortable!!! So many, oh dear I do that, that's me moments. But that's what I love about your podcast. I learn alot! Thanks Rich 🙏🏻

@rasto6325 2 года назад

Wow, what such an amazing and inspiring woman, and exactly what I had to hear right now. Definitely ordering the book, thank you!

@Golgibaby 2 года назад

Thank you for this life saving conversation. Life. Saving. Thank you.

@Beare. 2 года назад

Best, most inspiring conversation. So beautiful. Thank you. 🙏🏼

@duchessofessex2550 2 года назад

I adore her. Thank you for sharing this.

@JohnWSmartNow 2 года назад

Good lord ,this person is smart. Great interview .

@cindihunter9119 Год назад

Love this phenomenal woman! I resonate with her voice within this context! I now, want to read her work and study her perspective on life! Thx, Rich! Love your work as well! Fabulous video! ♥️😎

@paulboston6820 2 года назад

Thanks Rich! Another great conversation....Julie brought a lot of insights and life stories....hope to see her back on the RRP. Be well!

@janetarnold6292 2 года назад

Great conversation. Thank you for letting me join you at the table just to listen.

@crowley144 2 года назад

One of my favorite rich pods

@gabrielekennedy6123 2 года назад

Thank you for bringing her to us.

@calmestlad 2 года назад

I really enjoy how consistently these are produced, always keeping up with our appetite to learn

@VeganSoulMama 2 года назад

I thoroughly enjoyed this podcast thank you for bringing this insightful information. I'm in a similar industry and I agree with much of what she said 100%. I'm also a mom of one teenager and two young adults and this discussion was so relatable.

@soybeans8139 2 года назад

Phenomenal interview. Thank you.

@madalenafaria4563 2 года назад

Wonderful lady and interview. Thank you, thank you!

@LalaNaidu 2 года назад

What an important and enlightening conversation, especially with an interracial female. I enjoy the long form, thank you.

@angeliekklingen554 2 года назад

Second time I m seeing the new intro! Love it!

@cambenbow6812 2 года назад

class conversation as always rich

@JFlynn1207 2 года назад

Great episode. Thanks, Julie!

@hnttakata713 2 года назад

RR, mahalo from Big Isle. Always learning something fresh, exciting and hopeful when listening to your interviews. My life has been enriched by choosing to be a healthy balance of left, and right brain thinking. An optimistic INFJ, or as Deepak said, a tri dosha is my nature.

@katieabbott315 2 года назад

Fantastic! One of my favorite podcasters interviewing one of my favorite authors! (Hi Julie, I'm Elizabeth Heise's friend). I didn't realize you were both at Stanford at the same time- very cool. Amazing discussion- thank you!

@prettypurplekao 2 года назад

The best part was that “namaste” by Julie. She did her research!

@suesbent 2 года назад

Great conversation. 🙏🏻

@catsteinhilb2880 2 года назад

Thank you, I thoroughly enjoyed this and look forward to reading her book (s)! Perhaps an introduction with Tiffany Haddish…and these two ladies could change the face education, self empowerment, community growth…

@hayleyhawkins 2 года назад

Loved this one so much

@kathleensullivan3926 2 года назад

As a baby bust generation person, I am struck at how we consistently blame the education system for kids being so dependent and unable to cope. That is not the job of schools it is the parent’s job. And more often then not parents do not want their kids to think on their own. Much love.

@jayc326 2 года назад

Wonderful talk!!

@DawnalynForrest 2 года назад

We didn’t know what questions to ask! That was one of my most difficult times~lost!

@DemetriPanici 2 года назад

*"Put your heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest acts. This is the secret of success." - Swami Sivananda*

@luna_belle5029 2 года назад

🙏🏻 Thank you!

@jesf570 2 года назад

WHOAAA brother loving this new intro !!!!!! Super fucking sweet ! 🔥🔥🔥🧨

@michaelabarbier9161 2 года назад

This is so good

@janelycardenas6771 2 года назад

thank you for such an intimate and sincere conversation on what can be extremely painful topics… as a 23 yr old trying to make their mark, and follow their ‘own path,’ this felt like a much needed long, warm hug… thank you!

@doctork1708 2 года назад

Trying to “make your mark” at 23.🥲🤣😂🥲🤣😂 sit down, watch, listen.

@gretchenhewitt5675 2 года назад

Fantastic! I am sharing this like crazy! I like to use the image of a director of a play makes a lot of decisions during the rehearsals, and when the play begins they sit in the audience. Can't get up on stage!

@svalentina3075 Год назад

she's amazing

@mikemasail823 2 года назад

Love the statement I am Not a religious person, but a spiritual Person. The difference is; A religious person will do what they are told irrespective of whether it is right or wrong, whereas a spiritual person will do what is right irrespective of what they have been told.

@LilGigiGabor 2 года назад

Hello! Can I say this is the first time I've listened to the whole show. The first time put me off - why? Because I see you both having gone to university - had more to start of with then I could have hoped for or imagined. My parents found themselves in a situation where none of us - their children did go to uni. Until my youngest sibling put himself through an independent course. We just never had the means or possibility afforded us. None the less. Today whilst painting my flat. I listened and listened and boy. Am I glad I heard it all through. How insightful and totally grounding your share was. I am a minority. Who had never met a single person like me. Or even resemble me in my childhood years. I was a foreigner who didn't speak the language nor had a community or extended family I could relate to. Isolated and alone. I spent the first half of my life just making do and plodding by. Until the pandemic and isolation. People cried out with fear and misunderstanding. I was and still am more than happy to clarify any issues that I in the past couldn't and didn't have the opportunity to speak up. I have always felt an outsider - never quite understood my situation or why I always stood out and not for the good reasons. Despite that my outlook was always a glass half full. Until one word broke my glass. That along with other issues outside my reach or capacity was left a victim off. That just opened up a past I had long forgotten or put aside. You see for the last twenty years all I having been doing is trying to fix my personal problems so I could be a better and stronger parent for my children and those of my nearest & dearest What a whirlwind of a black void that lead me. Rich, thank you for your work. Kind and considerate way you present your topics. Best of regards and thank you imensely. Gill;Dx

@LilGigiGabor 2 года назад

Julie - you speak my truths and so we'll put together. When I can I would love to read your book and pass onto my little tribe. Gill;Dx

@msdaus14 2 года назад

The discussion about changing how higher education is conducted need to happen more. Why can’t it be more accessible?

@alexlorenz7 2 года назад

I feel like I say this every time a new episode is released, but this was one of my favorites ever! Julie's insight and perspective is so interesting and I can't wait to pick up her books. There are truly so many wonderful people in the world.

@happiness4beginners449 2 года назад

Also this is way off but I never commented on the video you made a compilation of microbiome video I really like that format you have done so many wonderful videos overtime with so many different and diverse brains I'm to scour your whole show site I tried to find each video that is related to a specific topic is massive undertaking. I found that a very nice or Matt and hope to see a few more of those compilation videos come out from time to time to gather all the knowledge in one spot and have a really throw conversation we learn better when we hear it twice

@aurelioduh 2 года назад

Thanks

@darreylbugg4573 2 года назад

Julie, thank u for your message and incredible insight!!

@julietschutte966 2 года назад

23:00 in and just in love with this woman!

@yukunwu3074 2 года назад

Well, that's a great job, Julie! And yes, Mr. Rich Roll, I might write a comment for you as well - as long as you reply to me.

@richardmorehouse2165 2 года назад

Referendum for the word failure: how about rework or recalibrate

@Shevock 2 года назад

Good episode. I don't think any of this is generational. It's John Dewey and AS Neill. It also glorifies the wildflower above the bonsai. Truth is, I grew up a wildflower and my wife a bonsai. She's a doctor and her dad is a retired doctor. In contrast my dad was a carpenter and I'm a music teacher with a PhD, writing articles and books making poverty wages at a university, unable to find a full time job, so piecing together substitute teaching in public schools with giving lessons and still unsatisfied. My book selled great for an academic book, but what did that get me? A couple hundred dollars over 4 years! I wish somebody had honestly told me getting my PhD would mean a life of dissatisfaction and poverty wages. That I'd get lots of interviews but always be passed over for someone who publishes less, with less experience in the field. I've definitely done worse than my dad (who was able to work 40 hours a week and spend time with his kids), and my wife has done as well as hers. There's absolutely something to be gained from helicopter parenting by folk who know what crappy systems kids are entering. And it is a crappy economy we're entering and in, and winning the lottery isn't an excuse for pretending it's than it is. It's never about hard work. Always about luck. Great get employee was willing to hold her job. My university refused to hold mine for a single semester after being there for 6.5 years.

@calebgonzalez2946 2 года назад

Stanford did code in place. A free online coding in Python course that was going on during covid.

@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559 2 года назад

It's interesting to hear about American parents' interference with their children's college education, because that doesn't tend to happen so much in Europe. My guess it's because of the exhorbitant fees that American parents may be paying. In Europe, university tends to be much more affordable, so it's easier for universities to tell helicopter parents to take a hike if they meddle in their adult child's education.

@willzinc6137 2 года назад

It's not just the price, it is also the fact that American parents over-identify with their children and want everything to go perfectly for them so they meddle in everything from education to relationships.

@nshell2714 2 года назад

This was a great interview & show!!! She is new to me but I'll definitely purchase her book(s) and follow her. A very notable moment is the classic liberal reaction at 52:40, she speaks of her racial experience and Rich is the quietest he's been at this point in such that she initiates the pivot in conversation to changes the lull and "exposure" (both probably felt) by asking how he felt about sports at this time! Smh. C'mon: Although you may not be able to relate you do not have to be deer in headlights -> Continue to engage the conversation -> care to change what/where/how you can change -> ask how can I change this? At 54, you apologize for the Standford experience but are you willing to take action(s) in such that racial deference is not perpetuated on Stanford University campus and off?

@dfsnell76 2 года назад

"Fending" must be a term that was used in black households. It was used constantly when I was growing up. Another Gen X'er here though on the younger side.

@arkmstick3495 2 года назад

I see now why My life felt like I lived in a pinball machine .

@dimif2351 4 месяца назад

Does anyone remember Marie Baron interfering in Robert’s FBI interview?

@redman8119 2 года назад

What about the 6 months break?

@lynnnewton5520 2 года назад

Weren't play dates also a result of the rise of women in the workforce and two income parents? The 'guilt' they felt for not being home set up the desire for play dates and perhaps overly praising for participation?

@loppan4534 2 года назад

Same trend in Sweden unfortunately. Parents who don’t let their children grow up

@SimplyDBee 2 года назад

This happens in other parts of the world, I'm sure. I live in the West Indies and I see it all of the time and normally the "child" will be forces to grow when the parents are ill or die. By that time the person in well in their late 30s, 40s or 50s 😮. The "child" is still saying that the parents didn't give or show them this or that or whatever rather than taking responsibility for themselves.

@DMWBN3 2 года назад

When I was 18 I'd been at work two years & moved into my first flat. Now days I hear 21 year old say 'I'm a kid, or I'm not old enough to know & such phrases. Got a 22 year old who works with a friend & he con barely string a sentence together. What has happened ?? !!

@aurelioduh 2 года назад

7:05 🌼🤙🏼🦦💛🪲

@GOD999MODE 2 года назад

I do often feel like a 30 year old man child.

@shartmann2008 2 года назад

"Look at us tumbling backward"

@lsisak7651 Год назад

If anyone gets sad about a lack of opportunity compared to the people who went to Stanford type, thanks to the internet it seems like nobody ever has anything good to say about those highly coveted jobs. I think if you came from nothing, then you'd appreciate it, but that's not the Stanford type.

@robinr5669 2 года назад

This all sounds good, but losing your child to suicide, after they were turned down for help by the school, makes some of her words sound hollow. We knew there were serious problems but couldn't share or get any information. Ours is not an unusual story. Look at the stats in suicides.

@hannahrl 2 года назад

I am so, SO sorry. My husband is leaving an arts magnet public school because of how intractable the administrative failure is in both support of students but absolutely in support of the teachers. This includes issues with ignoring reports of bullying (with a suicide attempt of one of the bullied- thankfully failed) despite the most ardent efforts of the teachers, plus the blind pursuit of the kind of environment she describes that is also leading to things like student walk-outs when a substitute teacher reads an attendance log that doesn't have many students' preferred but not officially recorded names (unnerving number of kids looking at "transition"). The tacit and overt support of these kinds of fragile and furious actions hurts these kids, and hurts the people entrusted with their education. Anyway, super weird and frustrating times. He joined the Heterodox Academy, which is awesome (Jonathan Haidt, mentioned in this briefly, is one of the founders).

@yvonnehyatt8353 Год назад

Tell her to study , Nikola Tesla, and his life. It is all about, seeing the picture.

@gabrielekennedy6123 2 года назад

Jonathan Haidt : The coddling of the American mind talker about this 2 years ago.

@Trying2dobetter 2 года назад

Mind-numbing exponentially with every windbag arduous minute that dragged by but surprisingly the best cure for insomnia I've seen this yr.

@barbara5051 2 года назад

Dont grow up...stay a kid

@sidilicious11 2 года назад

May e grow up while keeping our kid-ness.

@willzinc6137 2 года назад

You can keep the same open, playful spirit of a kid while also learning how to make your own decisions and take care of your responsibilities.

@sidilicious11 2 года назад

@@cruisinusa5110 don’t have kids

@Trying2dobetter 2 года назад

Passed out at the 17 something min. mark.

@GH-fx1lg 2 года назад

Too bad it didn't keep you from typing.

@Trying2dobetter 2 года назад

@@GH-fx1lg the truth hurts, doesn't it?

@Trying2dobetter 2 года назад

You must be running out of subjects, cause I can't believe you just did one on how to be an adult. Is there a follow up next week on how to cross the street or how to wipe when done with a #2?

@catsteinhilb2880 2 года назад