How to be More Interesting

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This morning I logged on to do my monthly check of our website analytics. As I settled in with my coffee to peruse our latest numbers, search hits, and demographics. I happened to stumble upon an interesting little finding...
While scrolling through our top search terms (what people search to get to the Science of People website) I found this phrase was at the top of the list:
“How to Be Interesting”
This intrigued me. Why? Because it is not a word I often hear people use. I hear people say:
I want to be more memorable
I want to be more charismatic
I want to be more impressive
I want to be more powerful
I want to be more attractive
I want to be more successful
But, I almost never hear ‘I want to be more interesting’-at least not in person. Interesting it seems is a secret wish, just reserved for search engines. Well, worry no more! In this video I give 5 simple steps to being more interesting!
In this video:
0:00 Intro
1:01 A crisis of interesting
1:40 How to be interesting
2:08 The lazy law
3:12 Step 1: Stop doing boring things
4:45 Step 2: Stop asking about boring things
5:59 Step 3: Consume interesting things
7:29 Step 4: Ask others what interesting things they consume
8:08 Step 5: Hang out with interesting people
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Hi, I’m Vanessa!
You deserve more. More influence, more income, more of what you want. I would be honored to help you.
Do you want to be the most likable person in the room? Get my FREE guide now: www.scienceofpeople.com/
My name is Vanessa Van Edwards and I’m a recovering awkward person. I’m also a multi-time bestselling author of:
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@ScienceOfPeople 9 дней назад

Learn how to be more interesting: www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-be-more-interesting/

@kiyarna3744 2 года назад

Boring is not a personality. Boring is a set of bad habits. Vanessa summarized this well.

@Marta-to1mf 10 месяцев назад

I may be boring to you but not to me and others. Who are you to decide that I'm boring? And who are you to say that my habits are bed ?

@Escocobar 5 лет назад

"To be interesting, be interested." Dale Carnegie

@billionaireconcepts1095 5 лет назад

I love this

@tookytames8044 3 года назад

I needed that

@oliverford5367 3 года назад

@Karrie Dee I find that book is advocating being fake. Pretending and sucking up. Authenticity needs to be valued.

@clifb.3521 3 года назад

I love how to win friends & influence peeps. Suck a good book.

@kiyarna3744 2 года назад

As someone who has a lot of experience, It only works for so long until they ask me the same questions. It's just one of the habits of interesting, like icing on a cake.

@hamzasabir6053 5 лет назад

Interesting is absolutely equal self-improvement, exactly is when you work on yourself, your life and words become interesting!

@robinalexander3032 Год назад

Yes, we must fight the laziness! In 2023, it is a common temptation for many of us.

@alisa6594 5 лет назад

I agree with some aspects in this video but definitely not all. When I’ve just gotten to know someone, I wouldn’t want them to ask me questions such as what I’m thinking. Tbh, that would just freak me out because I don’t wanna tell some stranger that I just met what I think. We shouldn’t expect to dive into super deep conversations as soon as meeting people because most people won’t open up that quickly. For many, it needs a certain level of trust to have deep, interesting conversations. In my opinion, it’s much better to ask about people’s favorite things because this is something that they love and are passionate about so they will obviously like to talk about it. Ask them what they like about it so much or what they don’t like about something. Just in general, ask for reasons, but don’t be nosy. I found out it can really make for interesting conversations, especially when it’s something you don’t know much about or are opposed to (but don’t judge them then, try to understand them) because then you get to know new viewpoints and expand your own horizon. I also only agree partly about doing things not everybody does. Of course it can be really fun and interesting to tell someone about something you’ve done, eaten or read but only if the other person can relate to it in some way, so you can have a conversation. Conversations, however, won’t work out if it’s something so different that the other person can’t relate to it and won’t know what to say about it. Then it’s in my opinion better to talk about the new bestseller that everybody’s read. I think most important is just to be open to and interested in new things, new experiences and new people. :)

@peterjhartvideo Год назад

Alisa, four years ago you told the entire Internet how you thought.

@lm2519 6 месяцев назад

@@peterjhartvideo just got it! 😅

@SamTTrevino 5 лет назад

Take a shot every time she says interesting. That ought to make your night interesting 😶😂

@AhnastasiaRose 5 лет назад

I'd DIE

@MGrose407 5 лет назад

It’ll be your last night alive! 😂

@Tabsimone 5 лет назад

Lol

@donditheblondie9758 4 года назад

Well, the title DOES say, " How to be more interesting." So........

@SenorJuan2023 2 года назад

I think that would make me the "most interesting man in the world"

@ayliea3974 5 лет назад

I always thought that if you want to be interesting, be interested.😘

@benbotan3000 5 лет назад

that's a good tip

@kool4209 4 года назад

you have to be what women want and find interesting. Thats it. It doesnt matter if youre doing what you love because if she doesnt find it interesting she will find you boring.

@RuberSocks 4 года назад

I think a more effective and simple way to think about it is, "talk with the intention of having fun"

@osadohrobinson3706 2 года назад

All I can say is THANK YOU Vanee. I have virtually all your videos. It helps me and I love going back to them over and over. I know I'm a work in progress and I believe I can be better, I will be better.

@Catyoukai 3 года назад

Feel called out, but that's why I'm here. Fitting all the boring categories and feel desperate to break out

@lm2519 6 месяцев назад

whoa...never thought of interesting and laziness being connected. but totally makes sense

@nutritionalblockbusters7690 5 лет назад

This is by far one of the most interesting videos I have ever seen. I am going to try this. Thanks V. 🤗

@annastromer1383 Год назад

I’ve been looking for videos about this topic, and none of them really helped me, but this one is actually really good!

@benbotan3000 5 лет назад

The way she describes lazy people in a conversation, is a perfect description of myself sadly, lol know I know what I'm doing wrong thanks!

@sahilmalushte1532 2 года назад

Same here bro ,you are not alone

@kimmiewagner5628 Год назад

Same! When she said boring people eat at the same place, go on the same vacations, watch the same shows… haha that is me to a T. I don’t think that’s wrong. I like what I like. I do interesting things too though. We wouldn’t be here if we were really “uninteresting”.

@amymcdaniel1433 5 лет назад

Vanessa I'm reading your book. I've taken your quizzes, and I watch every RU-vid video I can find. I'm feeling so much better. I know what to do with my body. I feel more confident. I know it takes practice but I'm so thankful for your work...Thank you. Thank you Thank you! 😘

@nawfalshammari4579 5 лет назад

Your tips actually do help me. Thank you a lot Vanessa

@centurion6651 5 лет назад

Love it! And you are one of the most interesting on RU-vid! Thank you for you dedication! ❤️

@sherryrichelle 5 лет назад

Awesome, Vanessa! Thank you!

@earlraff9162 5 лет назад

Trista and I loved your recommendation on visiting the forest and Tea House while in Portland. Thanks Vanessa!

@WarinPartita6 2 года назад

You're a GREAT inspirer, Vanessa! BIG THANKS!! :-)))

@bellamonique 5 лет назад

Your channel is so interesting and I'm glad I found you. Just subscribed!

@excellence90 4 года назад

Laziness is the enemy of interesting. Well said

@Narraaja2 4 года назад

Just found your channel Vanessa. Great, easy to take steps here - and plus for the length of the videos! :)

@sukhwantfarar2623 5 лет назад

Brilliant, thank you Vanessa

@Linda-dc7rl 5 лет назад

I wish i could give this a 1000 likes, I love your work Vanessa!

@brenwaller5645 5 лет назад

Awesome, I love your videos Vanessa! Thank you so much!

@supplychainsants 2 года назад

Interesting 👍👍👍👍👍 Vanesaaaaa! Your teaching content and way of delivery are amazing. You are toppest in the top 1%. 💫💫💫💫

@ludovicmahieu8278 4 года назад

Watching the same Netflix shows can be a good way of finding similarity with people for bonding but that's not enough to be interesting past the bonding phase :)

@vladislavno 2 года назад

I just talk about the international banking conspiracy. It always gets people fired up.

@lookaroundyou8108 Год назад

Only for a one time conversation, in the end u won't be able to talk about it forever

@sharonworyn8024 5 лет назад

Great video and I have to say I do work at this. I am retired and there is nothing more boring than being with retired people who only talk about their ailments, doctor appointments and meds. I am currently learning how to speak French because I always wanted to learn that. I workout 5 days a week, I facilitate a Bible study and I'm reading Captivate! Psalm 92 has something to say on this subject: they will remain vital and green and still bear fruit in old age. I live by that.

@feliciakalman7815 5 лет назад

That's awesome! So inspiring :)

@hanaabdulahiibrahim5074 5 лет назад

That's amazing..... Try doing research and comparing different religions instead of going with the default

@sharonworyn8024 5 лет назад

That's a good idea but I did that for college and I worked in an environment where almost everyone was Muslim so I do know a bit about other religions.

@hanaabdulahiibrahim5074 5 лет назад

@Sharon worny Ooh, I see...... wish you best of luck

@Agr8fullife 5 лет назад

I love it!

@curtisfoster4256 5 лет назад

Grand slam home run, per usual. Gold. 👑

@iytwales 2 месяца назад

I love this! Thank you!

@ftweedy5580 2 года назад

Excellent!!!!!

@jagteshwarsagar8728 3 года назад

You are right mam. .....laziness is cause of being boring

@Ateneu2023 5 лет назад

Awesome Vanessa 👏👏👏👏

@shariqweston7191 5 лет назад

This is something interesting..thank u venessa 👍👍

@chuaseahhui 3 года назад

You are interesting person! Enjoy learning from you Vanessa. Thank you

@gregoryrunningelk865 2 года назад

This is the best advice I have ever heard! Point blank! Thank you love. I love you because you hit great subjects.

@ScienceOfPeople 2 года назад

Thank you so much! I'm glad you enjoyed the video. Sending love! 🤗

@davidpeterson2374 5 месяцев назад

I use alot of these videos in a high school social skills class I teach and I have loved them. The students seem to like them as well and I have defiantly noticed a few who really try to change using skills and steps given.

@ScienceOfPeople 5 месяцев назад

Oh that makes me so happy! Thank you for sharing my work with your students. ♥

@created4passion442 5 лет назад

Sometimes it's a challenge to be when you're dealing with depression or discouragement but I do like the idea and will try to keep my antennas up

@d.collins1134 4 года назад

Fact is most people don't think their interesting when they are. The willingness to engage in conversation is key. Don't just answer questions, have some to ask. My 2cents.

@rakeshkumarmadella7955 5 лет назад

YOUR channel is also interesting.. I have seen your interviews with Tom beilyue.. impact theory and thought ur interesting that's y I subcribed ur channel.. happy Friday Vaneesa

@moisesrocha9250 5 лет назад

Interesting channel, interesting video! Thank you!

@menrofloridablanca7154 4 года назад

i love this video. I really got so excited! Thank you!

@pinacolada2386 2 года назад

Recommendation algorithms on social platforms (RU-vid, TikTok, ...) are making us less interesting as they only recommend things that align with our views/browsing histories. Have to turn on incognito mode to see some "interesting" new ideas

@sanfordjessop5956 5 лет назад

Thank You Vanessa

@danter1126 4 года назад

Vanessa is my favorite charisma teacher.

@Erudite48085 4 года назад

This was really good with practical ideas and tips. "Fight the laziness." I feel like tatooing that on my body to remind myself that although my mind wants the best for me, laziness is my worst enemy! I will not let laziness win now that I can identify it! She has a good voice, tone and pace too. Pleasant and easy to listen too. Not distracting.

@Iksiksinski. 5 лет назад

There is a lot of powerfull practical knowledge i love it! Polska Like

@supplychainsants 2 года назад

You are an interested person. I like you and learns from you since Nov- 2020. 👍 Best wishes for your future endeavour.

@TheLandscaper0115 5 лет назад

Thanks for the great video! You rock!

@alexandramarinamaris40 4 года назад

Interesting video. Thank you!

@raghvendraarya9852 3 года назад

Thank you mam, nice teaching...

@prestonkoehn2323 5 лет назад

Very interesting video Vanessa! I had to laugh watching it but it makes so much sense

@parshotamsingh2349 Год назад

Good . Thanks

@leenalsader8476 2 года назад

Very helpful! 🌹🌹

@vipuldesai7251 2 года назад

U r interesting Venesa.. So nice explained. Thanks.

@thathacoelho 5 лет назад

Gorgeous!!! Thank u!

@garretbrent1819 5 лет назад

Such a great video! Very good topic and great advice!

@amitdedha6038 2 года назад

Amazing video, please keep it up...

@kuznetsov284 2 года назад

Great video! Thanks! 👋👋

@AllyKit 4 года назад

Wow. I was interested bettering myself on one or two flaws but after watching your video I realize I am guilty on every count and feel so much worse. Thanks.

@celinemaltais6676 5 лет назад

Absolutely love it & interesting

@triciajensen9679 3 года назад

Great information and very interesting 😉

@chriswaldorf1560 3 года назад

Great video. Thank you.

@lookaroundyou8108 Год назад

People are more consumed in their past and live and repeat their trauma events, I have not so great past either, but I noticed that no one will be having a great time listening to my sob story and traumatic past at least not early on in a friendship or a relationship. So better not start with that, in the end no matter how much ppl care they will find themselves walking away from someone who complains about their life, no one wants to hang out around those who complain all the time whether u like it or not.

@Akakri1000 2 года назад

Thankyou so much💞

@Ronnieindo 2 года назад

Thank you, vanessa

@Pedritox0953 5 лет назад

Great video!! Well made!

@MelissaGarza 5 лет назад

Great Video!!!

@Harshil_Deshle_ 3 года назад

Hi, Vanessa , i thank god that i got you in start of 2021, i am very much impressed by your thoughts and movements. reayou are doing great things to pump up people life, your all videos are very interesting and see to understand, deep and encouraging , adv. sanjiv deshle , pune city, india

@BE713VE 10 месяцев назад

Very well put together speeches and videos. Great ideas and wonderful advice. Thank you!

@ScienceOfPeople 10 месяцев назад

You are so welcome! Thanks for watching ❤

@abym1086 2 года назад

Loved it !!

@antoniodossantos5960 3 года назад

Thanks Vanessa

@Iamcapable4 2 года назад

thank you for this knowledge

@parshotamsingh2349 Год назад

Good Topic Thanks

@ScienceOfPeople Год назад

Glad you liked it!

@patriciahalloff288 2 года назад

Very unique. Very interesting.

@renelia21 2 года назад

Thank you 💖

@cranjismcbasketball2118 Год назад

I dont always drink beer but when I do... I make ot DOS XX...👨🏻‍🦳 The most interesting man in the world!

@rdfi1823 5 лет назад

Hey Vanessa! I love your videos, and I already watched your course on LinkedIn. I'm curious to know what are the books, documentaries, podcasts, or anything that changed your thinking and, ultimately, your life. How do you learn? What advice you give to people seeking personality development? What skills you advice them to learn? Now I know how to be interesting; how can I be a person who wants to be authentic, self-aware, confident, and proud?