How to Be Optimistic | Jordan B Peterson 

I feel exactly the same way. This man has almost single-handedly restored my faith in humanity.

I truly hated philosophy and pschology but this man has changed my mind.

Doctor Peterson ;)

Read about the hero Prophet Muhammad 👍🏽

His point is to make sure you understand that “YOU ARE THE HERO” of your own story!

That's the spirit. Stay strong, brother

Well said! And well done in striving for and achieving greater balance in your life. It's a titanic battle at times (particularly for some of us!) but keep at it.

I'm proud of my European heritage, confident that we can do something, and optimistic about the future. Because if I don't do it, how can I expect someone else to do it for me?

Europeans have always been strong and brilliant people-i have every faith in you to overcome this grave challenge to your existence.

Randy Kalff how can you be proud of that heritage? You didn't do anything to end up with that heritage ...

+Xeronimo74 If we are to take the definition of "proud", it becomes obvious. "Feeling deep pleasure or satisfaction as a result of one's own achievements, qualities, or possessions or those of someone with whom one is closely associated" My European heritage also means that I have genes that give me better qualities. (IQ and length being the tip of the iceberg) Many achievements of mine are thanks to my European heritage, specifically because of the granted environment. (although that's a bit of a stretch on the definition) And then the "someone with whom one is closely associated" refers to my ancestors as well. But even if we were to take the more common usage of the term, it's still easily possible to be proud of your heritage. Mind you that I haven't been talking about it too much so it will be rather messy in articulation. Basically I'm proud of my heritage because I'm apart of it. What I do is contributing to the whole. Just like you can be proud of your country if you help it earn its position.

+Xeronimo74 Did I ever say that there weren't? I didn't. My point was that those traits are from the European side of my family. (I'm quarter Indonesian as well) "Feeling (deep) satisfaction as a result of one's own qualities" There's your answer. And I do deserve them in my books because I try my best to utilize them as much as possible. The point in that statement is that while I didn't do anything to get it, I do contribute to it. Also, you can easily be proud of winning the lottery. It's an achievement that requires the quality of being lucky and gives you a lot of possessions.

Nife it is amazing to me what the most 'ordinary' people can do.

Having few emotions teaches you a lot about emotional fortitude. Personally, I've learned that it's quite the lonely life as the one guy who just won't cry.

That's very true as well. When you become a person who everyone can rely upon, not only you're left feeling unappreciated, but when your shit hits the fan, NO ONE will be able to give you the support you truly need.

+Nife I actually like being relied upon. It's just something about being the stable foundation/rock. And I never think to turn to others when something goes wrong with me. If I can get myself into it, I can get myself out of it. Plus, I really don't want to bother others with my mistakes/bad luck. It's my problem, not theirs. (Yes, I know that to be a dangerous attitude but I also can't feel fear as far as I know) To me, the problem is that there's no one like me around me unless it's some depressed emo kid. And who wants to get near those? At a funeral (rather recently actually happened) I'm the guy who smiles and just observes everything around me. Often I think things like "Why would you cry so much about something like this?" because it's a response I just don't understand. On something like that I have a simple motto thanks to the attitude; What happened in the past can't be changed in the present or future so why not change your reaction to it for the better? But also with happiness (one of my only (relatively) strong emotions) I find a similar problem. Because I'm always that parent like figure who just stands by with a smile. I don't easily get as excited as a child or such, usually just up to regular happiness. (often with a bit more loudness) And when I do get excited a lot, I only have a lot of energy being spend on the thing that excites me. (usually a new project) With anger I find something rather annoying. I don't get angry easily but when I do, I always channel it into energy and strength. And you don't want to know how bad things can get if you anger me in a fight because then it's not only energy and strength anymore. But because I can't get angry easily, I can't harvest much energy. Even after taking off all of the breaks, it barely improved anything. And then there's emotions blocking rational thought. After years of focus on it, I rarely feel any resemblance of emotion when using the rational parts of my brain. This is useful in debates but it's anything but fun to see others fall into the pitfall of emotional reactions. That part being even worse due to my natural urge to help others improve themselves. The biggest gap between me and others, however, is certainly the whole fear thing. I don't know whether there's something wrong with my amygdala or what but I have no recollection of fear nor can I find anything I'm afraid of. (and I've searched) So when people talk about being afraid of something, I have absolutely nothing to add to the conversation. I don't know what it's like nor do I know why it's so hard to overcome them. It's just all one big odd cloud. But I do think that once I get a family, my kids will benefit greatly from such a stable force in the house. Although, I first need to get a damn job. (Ideas by any chance?)

Randy Kalff Having a rock in the house is definitely a good thing for a solid family. However your feeling aspect sound like an absolute mess. If you want to be more than an authoritarian figure in the house you may want to develop your empathetic side if you have one. If the father don't understand emotions he comes off as a robot, which in turn can make his children feel ashamed and weak for having fears, doubts, or being sad. I don't mean to be condescending, I just want you to remember that having some wisdom of feeling and emotion is just as important as being a stable rock. You don't want your kids to channel anger into action, and you can't expect kids to handle death the way you do.

That sounds like a great idea for a book! You should definitely write that! Definitely keep the title, too, I'll be looking out for that!^^

Thanks? My sarcasm detector is spinning around in circles telling me NOTHING!!! I'll stick with thanks.

That sounds like a book i'd read!

Very intelligently said!

thanksfernuthin: No sarcasm. I really like the idea. In fact I have some similar ideas for books of my own, which I hope I will be able to write in the next few years. Keep at it and best of luck!

Chris D his middle name should be Bucko. Not Berndt. Jeez, Dr Peterson needs to get that changed.

Chris D mind boggling

I am very sorry to hear that, and much respect for that.

Bubba Lee And if you can't find the light, be the light.

regalianpeaches1 good job my friend

I think the music is something from Mozart's Jupiter symphony. I can't remember which part exactly so do listen to the whole thing (30 min) and you'll probably find it, don't forget to enjoy it.

I just had a go at it, it's the 3rd movement a few seconds in.

regalianpeaches1 You are absolutely right, I never finished the video and assumed he used the same piece for every video. Thanks Then the question remains...

No, the music from the clips is not mozart. The music from biblical series and 2017 university lectures are Mozart's Jupiter Symphony. I used to listen to it all the time falling asleep in my late teens ;p It is gorgeous music. But I'd like to know what the piano piece is at the end of the clips. He used it for past lectures as well, in 2014, 2015...

Grey Wombat standing by

Kataklyzm510 just a minute, still cleaning my room...

Sunshine standing by.

"Snake Wrangler 3" standing by.

Not just the men, but the women and children standing by.

I'm optimistic about our society's future. Both because we've been through the Black Death without too much of a struggle and because it's the only way to have a chance. If we don't believe in our own competence, we will turn ourselves incompetent without a doubt.

That it is empowering doesn't necessarily eliminate the naivety, judging by what he usually talks about i'd guess he is talking about the helplessly desperate scenarios where to be optimistic is clutching at straws. May be empowering but it is still naive. Like if a jew expected to be rescued before annihilation in a death camp, yes it may be valuable to be optimistic but it's naive nonetheless.

You didn't fully understand his video. I apologize if I seem patronizing as I say this: What he means is that blind optimism is naive. A child is blindly optimistic. Optimism that is not naive, which he advocates for, is optimism despite the terrible suffering of the world. But first, it must be recognized by the person that there is unbearable suffering in the world. The person must genuinely understand, encounter even, true suffering, so that they are prepared to handle it. To put it metaphorically: Naive optimism is running out onto the field of battle in silken clothing seeing flowers and rainbows everywhere. Mature optimism is running out into a battlefield in a suit of armor wielding a sword prepared to fight, and hoping that they will win.

i agree with your username

Doubt is your subconscious trying to tell you something. Sometimes it's trying to point out a problem. Sometimes it's making up excuses.

Endurance

I oppose war even more strongly.

More like superman

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I never forget girl.

TeaTime maybe we now we don't understand how tough we are.

Maybe. Survival mode can bring out the best in a person (or the worst). People don't always have the opportunity to show their stuff like those men on the Endurance. I'll try to be more optimistic. ;-)

TeaTime you only know how tough you are if you test yourself against adversity, or come up against adversity. Maybe people aren't so tough now because they don't have adversity to test against, or they don't really know how tough they are because they have never measured themselves against a difficult task. Those bits of teaching, the ones about overcoming the biggest obstacle possible and then getting up and going for another, are my favorite teaching bits of JBP. I haven't found an ideal clip to put up on FB or anything yet, but when I do, that clip is going to become a mantra of mine. Every time I go to the gym, or want to yell at my kids, that's the bit of teaching I want to remember. "You can achieve so much more."

TeaTime I work with people who are surviving all sorts of debilitating diseases. People are tough.

Some good ole fashion hardship would bring some toughness out. One of the challenges is that the whinging donkey SJW , and the virtue signaling news media puppets have never done it hard. Decades of peace and prosperity softens people and their innate aggressive impulses are directed at themselves and others for petty reasons. They dont know how to deal with their 'dark' side

I assume by now that this commentator has either killed himself, or is in prison. What a way to try and solve any of the problems of life. Brilliant.

So you hate yourself, do you. You don't have a partner because they're just more awful plague viruses. You hate your mother. You've never looked at a work of art. You've never looked at a baby without feeling it should die before it destroys something. You've never seen a charitable act, or the work done by a hospital. You've never had the opportunity to find out about - even if you are not able to visit - the wonders of Rome and Florence and Venice and New York. "How is humanity not a plague?"!! Get some therapy. You're seriously ill, and we all need you to be better. Do even leopards have the sense to defend themselves and to look after their young, and to keep living because they know it's worth it? What would all those endangered species do without people who look after them? - they'd fall to death by predators, under brainless Darwinian selection, because they can't build civilizations or ethical systems.