Ok, SSS Society member here. II just quickly wanted to stop by and express my gratitude to you. You have no idea how meaningful your videos are for me. The amount of work, energy and dedication you put in the work you share with us, both on RU-vid and on the private community is insane. You inspire me to work harder on my goals and to be a better person. I truly hope you are aware of your impact because you have changed immensly the way I see and live my life. So just THANK YOU.
How is she so perfect 😭 Notes: - stop being insecure - confidence comes from the heart: don’t pretend - never one up someone - eye contact - make small wins of others a big deal - don’t brag - never feel threatened by others - be present (don’t think of past) - don’t hog conversations - have own sense of humour - be good at human psychology - how to become good at psychology : observe and understand yourself - confident people are humble & vulnerable Conclusion: I’m not insecure I’m just not confident. I give off “complain” vibes which I need to fix.
Huge update: I no longer seem toxic to others . I no longer feel toxic. Which is great. I am to an extent toxic and still give off complain vibes but I am hoping it’ll go away too! I also really need to stop this whole pretend me era. I am not fake: but I pretend involuntarily I don’t want to.
seriously needed this girl, ive started posting myself on tiktok and i needed to reassure myself that i should NOT care what people think of me and here you are ❤❤
i've watched millions of confidence vids including this and i just hv to say, its a mindset..it honestly manifests itself because just yesterday was the last day of the term, and a guy literally walked all the way up to me and told me that i was the most confident person he knew..its just ur mind that gets in the way..believe u are worth sm more, and ppl will treat like that
Simone you are so mature for your age. I'm 26 dude that watch your videos and often forget that you are younger due to your wisdom. Thanks for posting!
Simone, you are the queen of psychological terms and thoughts. Not only that, I saw a video of you talking about friendships and it really helped me. Thanks Simone. Continue posting.❤❤❤❤❤❤
She's so fucking gorgeous but as i watched her video i realised thats not her beauty that is attracting me but her CONFIDENCE the way she talk her attitude I dont wanna be u bcoz ofc i cant but surely u are influencing me in positive way and just wanna be as confident as you are ....love u 🎀
You are never going to be the most confident person in the room if you are not comfortable in your own skin, which means you're actually insecure. 💯❤ Love yourself first fully and accept the way you are. 💖
even if ur insecure or have mental health issues u can start taking that position of focusing on the other person more, listening and asking questions, i’m sure with practice it’ll become more natural so fake it till u make can work here too
Thanks to the introduction I’ve understood why I didn’t like your channel when I found it some time ago, but now I’m enjoying your newest videos. I agree with everything you’ve been saying but I wasn’t convinced to your persona - vibe wasn’t vibing. So remember guys, energy thing is real. If your energy is off then everything else will be off as well.
All these things remind me of those kids who take AP classes who put others down and are condescending. If there is one thing that people need to start doing in school, it’s just being happy for their friends successes instead of putting them down
A lot of truths in this video. Highly appreciate it! The initial reason for me to watch this video was not the feeling that I would be insecure but thought you gave some tips on how to position yourself in highly professional environments, like being among multi-millionaires or billionaires at an event for example. I am charismatic & highly confident (and have fluctuation in that of course, everybody has, as you said too!) but what people do not understand that we are collectively learned how to be insecure about ourselves because of the false social programming. People would not feel insecure or learn how to be insecure if societal norms didn't suppress their authenticity and genuine personality...just like your innocent joke for example. You did not mean harm but people don't get that we are all individual universes and have our own way of expressing ourselves. She got insecure by your joke. And that made you feel unfit in some ways. It was just a joke. It is a ripple effect to the misunderstanding of each other based on false projecting onto one another. Embracing the totality of yourself (good and bad) projects you within your energy as embracing towards others too. Indeed. That is the trick! From the inside out not from the outside in!
i don't feel like i need to say this but i'm just glad i'm able to have most of these qualities, will need to work out the other ones because i really do tend to look at people when i enter a room. i be wanting their attention so bad that i need to practice that it shouldn't be like that. gosh how embarrassing 😂
I watch how to be more attractive and these charismatic videos for 1. I like you Simone 😜 2. Why not? Why not find out a new secret to make me look even better or be more charismatic 🤪❤️
Hi simmon , it's been a while since I'm watching your videos , I'de like if you can do one about how to be part of the group , because at school I really feel apart when I'm with my friends , and I actually started to notice that my friends doesn't really care about this , please can you help me...😌
@@anonymoush4671 really! I'll them out, thank you for sharing 🩷. Also one really good at home workout is from "Oceane Andreia", her most viewed video(standing inner leg workout) is my holy grail, it works so well, at least to me.
-they make others feel important -eye contact -they do not feel inferior to others! -don't prove anything to the world -being present - WORK ON MENTAL HEALTH
But there are charismatic people who are obviously and even openly insecure and openly hate themselves. Enneagram Fours seem to have a charisma that does not go away entirely unless they are dealing with shyness in a stereotypically avoidant way. When they overcompensate instead, something special can shine through the bluster. When they drop the bluster and work on other methods of coping, their charisma increases with their mental health. But it is always there to some extent unless they are currently experiencing social anxiety disorder with the stereotypical quietness and avoidance of being noticed. Most people are drawn to them positively, some minority are repelled by them in some cases but they make an impression on everyone, their presence is felt strongly and they are memorable even at their most insecure. A tonne of rock musicians are like this. Russell Brand, love him or hate him, has always been like this, magnetic from his worst to his best mental health. They can have active addictions and eating disorders as what feel like empowering distractions and escapes from their emotional problems and trauma, and still have this charisma, the vulnerability can even increase their charisma because people are more drawn to people who seem impressive overall but are open about their flaws and vulnerabilities, it makes them relatable.
Simone, i just got curious as you said we have to be nice to everyone, but won't that technically make us lowkey people pleaser (sorry if I'm saying something weird lol)
“Sorry if I am saying something weird” is a classic people pleasing line. You’re right, being nice to everyone isn’t possible. Just own your observations. I actually agree with you.
*How to be the most confident & charismatic person in the room?* * Confidence and Charisma doesn't stem from insecurity, energy don't lie, people can feel it. It has to come from heart, it should be who you are. * Stop being insecure. * Make people feel important when you meet them, see them eye to eye, be genuinely interested in them. Don't speak over them, don't let your ego speak, it will show you are not confident within. Be attentive while talking to them. * Be personable, when someone is talking, listen genuinely. * Don't feel inferior to other people, don't feel threatened, stay calm, lay back in confidence. * Be present, don't have your mind all over the place. Be fully present, take the moment to respond accordingly and appropriately. People * Don't hog conversations, let the people speak freely. * Look inward not outward, focus on yourself and not on people if they are looking at you or not. Everyone gets magnetised to you when you are being yourself and focused on yourself. * In order to achieve these states you need to work on your mental health and your confidence, your own security. * Be super warm, give someone's intro to other like they are really big personality. * Be funny, have your own way of sense of humour. * Be good in human psychology, should be able to read other people emotions, read signals if they are bored. To be good in psychology understand yourself more, collect your own data, observe people around you, collect data and learn from it. * Be humble, have this mindset that you don't have anything to prove. * Be vulnerable, don't shield everything that you are, human connections are built through vulnerability but off course have some boundaries with strangers. * Are you truly confident or are you actually insecure? * Fix yourself first, be confident in your own skin.
I'm literally very laid back, but some people think I'm lazy & not active because I'm not talking nonsense all the time with everyone & bragging about something I'm not
Was there a certain branch or focus of psychology you studied? I’m so inspired by all the videos you make and was wondering how I could get into something similar!
Fix yourself Fix your insecurities Don't compare to others Make people feel important Listening and paying attention Being humble and lifting up others Do not feel inferior Be quite and listen without flexing Being present in the moment
