how to stand up for yourself & set boundaries 

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sometimes arguing with someone is so emotionally exhausting i literally don't even bother anymore😭😭

the upbringing of girls has to change because everything starts in childhood. whenever I tried to have boundaries as a girl, to defend myself, to argue, my parents stopped me and that killed all the self-esteem in me. I'm working on it , but as a teenager I couldn't stand up to anyone at all even when I was in the right. Just a good little girl. If I'd had what you had, I'd have ended up in an airport bathroom crying because the guy was mean to me. We have a lot to learn.

Exactly, people are always like, "don't take it so personally, chill out" but proceed to make everything so personal and disrespectful. Well I won't take it no matter who you are. I'm the type of person who would NEVER put others down or disrespect them without a reason. I just don't care. You know why? Because I was that person to always let go, say nevermind, understand others' frustrations and stupid comments, but hell no, I'm no more that stupid. People just love to take any kind of advantage of you and your personal space as well as boundaries, or lack of them. Not anymore. It takes guts to be a genuine and respectful person, and once you cross the line with me, you'll lose my respect for you because if I don't respect myself, who will?

Reading the comments made me realize I'm not alone and there are people out there who are working on themselves, failing then trying again and never giving up... also people thinking I'm short tempered when I stand up for myself? people thinking I'm a crybaby when I'm unable to stand up for myself and have a breakdown instead? it gives me courage and motivates me to keep going especially after knowing that I'm not the only one facing these issues as nobody really talks about it irl. Y'all inspire me

I had a boyfriend who didn't see our relationship as... a relationship. He told a friend of mine who he wanted to cheat on me with (it didn't work out, she told me immediately afterwards) that we were just "smash buddies", and he was never clear to me that that was all he wanted from me, probably because he knew I'd refuse that idea. After breaking up with him he came to me like 4 days after, having the audacity to play dumb about everything, and when I told him what he did, HE ACTED PISSED because he was played just as well as he was trying to play me. We were friends before all this, and he came to me today asking to go back to that. I basically said, "No way, bastard, you're delirious."

Simone is always pretty but she’s actually glowing in this one, i love her

I had to cut out so many toxic people from my life because they didn't respect me or my boundaries. I used to think something was wrong with me for the amount of people I've had these situations with especially within close amount of time. I'm now here with much more healthier friendships & relationships around me and currently healing from my past trauma from the past toxic relationships. Thank you for sharing this as it generally helps

perfect timing. i had to stand up for myself today in a situation where i was totally being disrespected for a month. i said how i felt, and cut that situation out of my life. but i have been feeling anxious and guilty about it all day! for literally standing up for myself like what!?!?! anyways, this really reassured me that i made the right choice, even though i'm used to being the 'nice person and people pleaser' all the time. thank you!!

Setting boundaries and standing up for ourselves can be challenging, but it's an essential journey toward self-respect and healthy relationships. This video provides valuable insights and practical tips to empower us in this process.

I was having a bad day today, I just cried, and I started typing, "how to stand up for yourself & set boundaries". Earlier this day, this neighbor, despite having 9 kids, couldn't keep his hands out of my business and started insulting me about the income I make while working from home. In many situations in life, because I was brought up in a way that my parents would just shut me down whenever i try to explain myself, later in life, whenever someone is being rude to me, I literally get stunned. Afterwards, it makes me feel really bad that I'm not able to clapback. And that's exactly what happened earlier. This video of yours is a blessing. I just subscribed. These words were very powerful: "You don't have to like yourself in order to be deserving of respect." Thank you, Simone. I've always hated myself too because of my weight, and that adds up to my lack fo self-esteem and confidence.

I know there have been times I didn’t stand up for myself because I didn’t know how to articulate my stance. and then it kills me afterwards when I think about what I could’ve said 😫

I was this girl who would never say a word to defend myself, but I remember and yes so distinctly coz I just started watching you, and your words were like God sent angel, once i defended myself coz there was friend who always sarcastically body shamed Me for being skinny

09:50 Simone, what makes u different than other self help youtubers is THAT UR BEING REALISTIC!! this video needs to get viral. WISE WORDS! SLAY

I’m the same when I end up in arguments with people after sticking up for myself. It comes out of me so naturally too. People think I’m a bitch sometimes, but that’s because they aren’t used to women standing up to themselves I need to work on saying “no” without an explanation

Simone you have saved me and have woken me up from my daydreaming and have taught me how to actually set boundaries against people, i'm truly grateful!!

For me the problem is that I don't trust myself to be able to tell in what situations I am "allowed" to react a certain way. Im always concerned that I am overreacting or that my behaviour is not justified.

I don’t usually comment overly sentimental stuff like this but I just wanted to say you are truly one of my favorite youtubers ever😭💕 You’re so naturally funny for one but along with being entertaining you also genuinely help me A LOT. i so often find myself throughout the day thinking to myself “oh, I remember Simone said this..” or “what would Simone do in this situation” LOL and it literally always helps me get through whatever it is. even on the rare occasion when i don’t 100% agree with your take on something i always still benefit from gaining a different perspective you just always make my day better 😭💞💞 thanks for existing queen ✨🌼

Thank youu simone, I’ve been struggling to set boundaries lately and now you posted!! LOVE YOU

I wish you'd do a video like this but for work or friendship environments - like how to maintain self respect when the issues are coworkers or friends you consider yourself close with - just for a twist instead of strangers

There is a person in my class who is super annoying and can’t stop making fun of me and my friends. This really helped. Tysm I hope I can set boundaries soon!

Idk if this will help someone, but sth I've noticed, also by listening to these tipps is: Imagine someone is getting affected and hurted because of u not standing up. I guarantee u won't be able to be silent for too long. Imagine u had to defend a little kid when u want to defend urself. Just imagine this. It's so powerful. Like for me these mother bear instincts just kick right in and I just get this attitude of: get out of my f* way. Hope that helped, loved the video ^^

Girl I screamed laughing “I went up to her window and I basically cursed her out.” Lol empath’s have finally had enough we are clapping all season :)

I love your confident energy. I will stand up for myself this school year. f them beaches 🙄

It's funny. I've never had a problem standing up for myself with strangers that are rude but when it comes to the way men treat me that is something I for sure need to work on.

Thank you so much. I wish I had known you earlier. Watching this video reminds me of every single time I have let things go and not stand up for myself. People you don't realise how important it is to do that. When I last stood up for myself I was being called dramatic. I questioned about it every single time and I was dumbfounded but now I can think clearly how much had I allowed people to treat myself poorly. Please stand up for yourself it's not dramatic it's necessary.

I was smiling almost throughout the video. I aspire to inculcate atleast this in my life. I do stand up for myself but yes i do justify my actions A LOT. It's time to stop.

You won't believe this but I think universe is sending me signs. There was a guy who I always helped even though it meant putting myself at inconvenience. No matter how bad the situation is I still try my best to help others even though they don't help me enough. I trusted and supported him when everyone was against him. Irrespective of all this, he would show his entitlement and not value my efforts and be a lil bitch. Long story short, it was just this morning that I confronted him and said that I'm not going to help him anymore by compromising on things I'd do for myself. I'd do wonders if I put even half the effort on myself. I've had enough of his entitled-ness and need to step up my game. After saying all this to him, after a while I felt bad for being rude, but that's right when this video got uploaded! Now I know I did the right thing! Universe definitely sending me signs!

im working on this, i always felt rlly small whenever i tried standing up for myself bc I'd turn red and my mind would go blank. But this vid helped so much, thank you!!

I'm really glad you included "pick your battles" as part of the decision making in conflict resolution (which encompasses this topic). Especially if you're a woman bringing up conflict to a man, make sure you're safe before you bring up the conflicts. I don't blame women for being extra cautious around men. If I was in your shoes, I'd be scared too. Its 100% reasonable and you have to adapt to the situation and the current state of the world.

This made me cry. I've been dealing with alot of stuff lately but this video really helped me. Thank you!

Thank you for always slaying simone. Always putting out videos at the perfect timing 💃🏽

This is exactly what I need right now thanks queen 💛

FINALLY! A fellow clapback queen. I was feeling bad for being so quick to shut shit down, like maybe I'm an overly angry person. It's made people I'm hanging out with at the time uncomfortable in the past. I had to have an internal conversation with myself that their discomfort is their problem. I'm allowed to stand up for myself. More recently, I've had coworkers and friends pull me aside and thank me for saying what they were too nervous to say. I just try to be mindful of who's a jerk and who's going through something and acting out of character, but otherwise, I'm golden.

I stood up for myself firmly and there was no combat. If I even hesitate and try to be nice, it never works. ❤ thank you

I automatically get so happy when you post! Really needed this ❤️

This is something I’m really working on. I get so nervous standing up for myself bc of bullying. I have a complex that im wrong and I’m really sensitive to anyone being “mad at me”

I swear I was upset from someone and I saw a notification. This was a sign that’s it💅

Why are ur videos ALWAYS perfect for the situation I'm in atm!! I literally love u sm babes thank u❤😘

hiii simone! im really happy that you made this video, thank you so much for helping us.

Thank you so much Simone, I really needed this!!!

This came at the perfect time, thanks queen✨

6:39 "PRETTY MUCH 💯" lmao that cracked me more than it should have i absolutely love how you don't take shit from anyone

Society thinks that we're mean and heartless for speaking up for ourselves, we literally have the most caring heart, that's why we care what we feel and would not be able to stand the feeling of having to think what we could have said back and just letting it all slide, it hurts thats why as normal human response we stand up and let our thoughts out, being rude is depressing yourself until you feel worthless because of what other people do to you, that is being heartless.

you re literally the biggest inspiration on yt

Simone you are really an inspiration to all of us and I want to tell you Thank you 🙏🌷

thank you so so much simoneㅠㅠ♡ definitely what i needed rn ! i will keep on working towards on myself, improving, learning and growing along the way. thank you for your guidance

I wish I had seen this video yesterday because I had to stand up for myself today( I don’t know if I technically stood up for myself because I was pretty scared and shaking but I did) so recently I have moved classes to go with my friend( kinda stupid cuz we broke up soon after) and in this class there was a group of girls that always laugh abt EVERYTHING. There was one who starts the laughing sessions so I’ll just call her “M”. So I noticed that M always looks at me and laughs with her group. At first I was ignoring her and kinda feeling bad cuz someone who laughs ALL the time is probably miserable(based on experience) but then after some time I got sick cuz I don’t go to school to be laughed at. Today after school I asked to speak to her outside class(her annoying friends still peaked from the door to overhear) and I asked her if we have a problem and why was she laughing at me. She literally told me that she wasn’t laughing at me and she doesn’t remember doing so. She gave me a look as if I was crazy or smth and kept denying and I didn’t know what else to tell her so I walked away. Now I kinda feel embarrassed cuz I’m starting to think I might have made the whole thing up in my head(cuz I have a lot of anxiety)

this is exactly what i have been looking for these days ! simone comes at the right time ! our sunshine 🫶🏻

So damn glad I found this video & this channel. Bcuz inner G! The last few years have felt like a downward spiral for me and my personal relationships rooted in narcissistic abuse. There’s so many levels to acknowledging that type of abuse especially when you consider the ppl that witnessed u endure it and now subconsciously use that against u in ur new era. They’ll be the ones to poke and agitate at your growth & new boundaries

Humour and a smile along with assertiveness can charm you out of a lot of situations.

Wow 👏🏾👏🏾 I love your attitude, this is how I'm tryna be 2024

You're like that good badass friend we all need! Thank you! 🌸

It has been a long time since I watched a simone video ,because life just happened but it is good to be back❤❤❤

how do you get more stunning with every new video omg 🫶 you're glowing!!

Thanks I Really need this and I’m literally tired since literally everyone in my family treat me like shit and said I’m too sensitive. My sister throw my things away as she please without my permission, my mom and dad ignore me not entirely but my feelings and what I need (even though I told them tons of times, they just shrug it off) and also my mom always judging my outfit and said I look ridiculous 😫😭, my other sister blame me for not always speak up even though I said that I already did that and the fact they just ignore me 🙃.I can’t wait to get out from this relationship 💆🏻‍♀️

FINALLY A SETTING BOUNDARIES VIDEO FROM SIMONE THANK YOU SO MUCH🫶🫶🫶

Hii you have honestly made me such a better, more confident person, and i wanna say ily and ur videos sm stunner ❤

"yeah 100% straight up" you're my favorite person LMFAO

Immaculate timing!

Girl, you deserve WAY more subscribers on your second channel! Love your content

Your videos are always on time

You’re so real 💯

i needed this ! thank u so much , my fairy godmother

Everytime i waych Simone i always tell myself that she is that older sister that we didn't have but needed. ilyyyy

Her " Ich liebe dich" was tooo cute tho 🫀❣

needed this video sb! thank u sm for this simone, also idk why but u look insanely pretty like black hair makes u badass wow

Omg this helped so much. These boys today were making front of my teeth and i didnt know what to do lol😭😭 But now i know what to do. Tysm Simone ur a lifesaver❤️❤️

Simone slaying like always 💗

about the first point "stand up for yourself", idk when using silence and ignore it or to stand up for myself. which is better at any kind of situations? i usually ignore them and move on as i was but sometime is better to speak up which i'm not sure when to speak or how not have to deal with their rude response.

I literally needed this right now thank you

I really needed this video, you're so awesome Simone !

Revealing the keys to assertiveness and boundary-setting - your advice serves as a potent guide to personal empowerment! It instantly recalls the transformative teachings of my lifecoach Lisa Haisha during a soul-enriching retreat in the serene Philippines. Your insights and Lisa's wisdom blend harmoniously, motivating me to chart a course towards greatness with confidence and authenticity.

great timing, thank u xx

This is the content I’m here for 🔥

When I learned about boundaries, I started saying no to my brother because I wasn’t being his servant anymore. I’m not selfish I’m just setting boundaries between me and the world. He would start sayin please and slowly start screaming at me until I scream at him too and it would be mentally draining to me, he would sometimes start housing his hands to maybe push me so I would fight back but of course he was stronger and he would hit me. I don’t really stay around him now and but for some reason he thinks it’s all my fault that I “annoy” him.

AAH THANKKS I LOVE YOUU

You're becoming my favourite youtuber day by day wtf I can't believe I came so early on a youtube video

word omg simone, i had friends telling me to "be more patient" when i stood up for myself ??? and letting people stomp over me when i clearly know they won't do sht for me? lol no thanks

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU OMG

ive been learning to respect myself but its so hard when people you live with aren’t respecting your boundaries and seeing it as nothing i would really love some advice 🤍

In my life i have always been made fun of my classmates and my relatives and let people make assumptions abt me and thank you for this video bcz it will help me stand up for myself ❤️❤️

Love this woman!!! ❣

I love you sister ❤ grateful for your existence 😊

I saw this when I really needed these advices... Thank you so much Simone ❤️

NEVER CLICKED SO FAST ILY AAAA YOU CHANGED MY LIFE

your channel is a blessing for me

I admired how brave you are. Anyways, i reallly love your new video mwa < < 3💋

you're so pretty omg

Thank you!!! I'm a people pleaser and I'm going to finally have boundaries 222nd comment BTW I'm 15

Omg i literally was searching for a video like this yesterday but i couldnt find one froma good youtuber, ig the universe is sending me help lol, thank u simone

love you so much

black hair looks great on you!

my fav channel for a reason

I get scared unconsciously when people yell or speak in unpleasant tone to me. Even if I stand up for myself my voice gets smaller☹️ so for example I’m speaking in normal tone but s1 is trying to take upper hand by yelling and when I yell back at them they get back in their place. But i honestly hate so much raising my voice, that most of the times I don’t. So since I’m not yelling when I argue people start raising their voice and I get progressively scared.

I hope i become extremly kind extremly empathetic yet strong when i grow up who puts their priorities first

Yes!! Love your videos ❤️❤️

I needed this

I love your vibes

I knew all of these because I'm born to be a fighter i don't let anyone disrespects me in any way