As a Human Development and Families Studies (HDFS) major, we are constantly looking at how the child's environment effects their development. As a kid who was bullied, I wish I had learned this when I was in elementary school. I will definitely be spreading the word.
I appreciate your insight! As a pediatrician, I advise my patients to watch Brooks' videos. I have one suggestion...consider changing "mean people" to "mean behaviors" because I question the utility of defining people by their worst behavior. Thank you for all that both of you do!
I have stage 2 cancer and my bullies keep teasing me for looking skinny and weak, with treatment I get secretly shamed, it's subtle, like not sitting next to me and whispering something in the corner, when I look at them they stop and continue like nothing happened, it just crushes me. I'm studying in China in a rural village.
Bullies lack love. And when you show it to them genuinely, they get to the state of confusion. And the more you stand your ground in love they will eventually back off because you are not fitting in their game or play by their rules.
thanks for good comment, surnamesake. One thing is that you need first to be able to respond with your actual emotion (the English word responsibility has this root: ability to genuinly respond first).Then you are responsible for yourself in a situation and can choose to express your love to the degenerated bully.
Yep make them emotionally strong because you cant contol people or their thoughts, so the only way to slove the bullying issue is teaching kids to be strong and lovable.
The worst form of bullying I experienced was years and years and in school of being told to "shut up" its not as black and white as your examples. its more long term and subtle, making someone feel like everyone hates them. how do kids deal with that?
I believe the video is black and white to show principles not to make a cookie cutter for kids to mock. The idea is making the child resilient, and if the child is resilient then being told to "shut up" would not hurt. If I were to apply it to the example you gave (without background of the situation). It is the principles of resilience and using love (or the golden rule) if those two things happen the you have bully repellent. Or in other words it guarding your heart (resilience) and treating others the way you want to be treated. I hope that helps makes sense, or bring clarity.
You live in a fantasy world and your ideas will ENCOURAGE bullies! Kids get bullied because they lack self confidence all this emotional based "feelings" will just get them attacked more. Put your kids in a Judo or Brazilian jiu jitsu school to help build their confidence and the ability to defend themselves. No one bullies a confident kid who is unafraid to defend themselves and has the skills to back it up.
