Here’s another trick. Ask about a detail that pertains to someone’s narrative. For example, if someone claims they went somewhere and you think they didn’t, say “I heard there was a really bad accident on that route.” If they’re telling the truth, they won’t hesitate to confirm or deny. If they’re lying, they’ll hesitate and seem unsure, because they have to think of a narrative on the spot.
The looking in the eyes thing isn't true. In actuality, when someone is telling the truth and trying to recall a memory, their eyes will tend to shift because they're trying to recall said memory. It's more probable that someone is lying when they look you in the eyes because they're making sure you believe them.
I agree, I've seen liars stare me right in the eyes, trying to "read" my reaction and to see whether I am buying their lies. Kind of like a predator with a prey
Its true liars look into your eyes when lying to see if theyre winning you, but you gotta be cautious how long the liar looks at you. Liars look or stare longer in your eyes than the honest talkers. So both honest and liars look in someone eyes but you gotta watch the length/timing if their catering their lies or the real story.
Yep. They will sometimes lock eyes waiting for you to divert your eyes. This makes them feel like they 'won' and they have superior skills, but in actuality, they don't.
Years ago, the theory was if u look someone in the eyes meant u weren't lying. We all know now, this isn't true bc liars will eye to eye stare u down thinking u believe what they are saying.
Anyone else notice a lot of his comments sort of contradict the other comments. Seems like finding a base line and going with your gut is the best advice.
All good points. I don't know how many times I've told people who ask me questions if they are sure they want the answer because depending on the question, I warn them my answer won't be pretty but it will be true.
I find people let the cat out of the bag the more you engage in friendly conversation with them, make them relaxed by being relaxed and steer the conversation to where you want it to go and many times they want to get it off there conscience, your average male criminal isn't smart,
Rule #1: when a person makes the unsolicited statement "truth and honesty are my standard," R-U-N. Rule #2: if you find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, R-U-N. Rule #3: when in doubt, refer to rules 1 & 2.
Like what he said is some sort of formel for success. It can do more harm then good. People get paranoid over it. If the person thinks you are lying and they are just waiting for you to show some "signs" everything you say becomes a lie for them. You don´t need to use those tactics on someone who doesn´t suspect anything because they are trusting you. It´s more important to just listen to jerks like that. For example you being an ass basically telling everyone you goal is to learn how to trick people - That tells me, you have big issues to keep a healthy relationship. You probably lied a lot before to get what you wanted, but failed miserably at least on a long shot. So your comment tells me you are a loser too.
remotepsp just because your taking the doctors words and doing the opposite doesn't mean its gonna be easy to trick people. You know those things are just to help you to somewhat spot a lier, and its natural for people to get nervous when ever they are being asked questions that they don't have answers for because they have to come up with answers in an instant, meaning that what he just said and reversing it wont do you any good. Also you posting this comment is gonna do you worse, since people are gonna read it and know your terrible tactic.
So if you often lie, you cant sleep well, because focus too mucjh on your lies...They will see you dont have healthy lifestyle, eating sleeping, exercising etc.
Larry Yetman yeah except it didn't, this is already used in a normal basis to catch liars. It did nothing to help you because people still get caught with this method
Ok, acceptable tools but I have a few questions. What if you´re a very anxious person, even when you are telling the truth? Or, let´s say for example, you are addressing a touchy subject with deep psychological repercussions expressed in physiology? What do you think?
Or even better, what if you are telling the truth and you're simply tense about the subject or being accused? Of course you're going to be more fluid and relax more when a different subject is brought up. But you have to use all of these tools together. None of them are absolutes, and everyone is different. But he does have some great techniques overall.
Well he did say to get a base, if it’s just a naturally anxious person then they will still be somewhat anxious even if they’re discussing something else. He’s just saying you can tell what gets people going a bit more than other things. It’s good advice though I wish he would say everything he knows about catching lies but I know that’s not gunna happen haha o well
His show with the pathological lying husband was a mirror of my first husband , and now some other poor Sap has accepted responsibility fir him by letting him move to the USA she us stuck with paying g fir him for years. And he will get hugely abusive as he is no longer believed
When I lie, I don't think I'm lying, I tell myself its the truth and then when I'm questioned its no longer a lie to me so its easy to say. Never lie and while your lying think about how its a lie cause it will give it away. The truth can be whatever you believe it to be.
RE: How to catch a liar Dr. Phil made a point of having a casual conversation to learn the person's baseline before bringing up the subject in question. It may take more than one conversation and research into the person's culture to determine his baseline. One area I did not agree with him on was the tell-tale trait of overly emphatic; not using contractions; "I did not do it!" and a display of emotion interpreted as being too much. My dad was proud that he was an honorable, trustworthy, God-fearing man. When he was falsely accused or brought into question, he would be highly offended and spoke emphatically, with great emotion. He could not get over --the thought of someone would think such a thing of him. Well, there was an old movie that had a scene where the cops knew a suspect was lying because of his emotional and emphatic response. Some people wrongly accepted it as pure science back in the 60's. In my father's situation, the truth came out shortly after the accusation. They apologized to him. They wondered why he had responded the way he did. It was because he placed such a high value on honesty and his reputation. It had nothing to do with a deception. Other than that, I thought Dr. Phil was right on target. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-LQNYYP7GoC4.html
I’m the same way as your father. I was once accused of something so outrageous. Not only was it hurtful that people would actually believe it, but completely contradictory to my beliefs and character. I felt insulted and betrayed. And only one person (of many) whom this lie was told too, called to ask me “why did you do it.” NoT, did you do it!? I told them, your the only person who has bothered to even call and question me ...... why? And they said, because it’s totally out of character of you to do this! I told them, well that’s because I didn’t.
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IGeesh...I panic inside when I am asked to speak or to even think of my childhood memories... my inside shakes, as right now even to type this my hands are shaking as we speak, and making it difficult to type.....then I start instantly gasping for air.....my legs would also shake uncontrollably, but since two major concussions my legs don’t vibrate uncontrollable anymore...but I hardly ever talk of my childhood....just saying.
Yes....you help the liar by being in denial....this denial is a self protection for your own trust....especially if its a close family member...so that's the problem....you don't want to deal with the lies so you ignore them
lie by omission is as big? that means everyone on FB has a right to know my full day of activity on FB or don't type at all? Some people go way out of their way to obsess 'over' who is wrong when they play their own blame and shame game like the power of God to put their own self above others. Hence ... control Dr. Plus does he not get paid for all of this?
Exactly what I did before even watching this...only thing I didn't check, the whole contractions thing...but oh yeah, dude's lying...I'ma get him too !
I've heard Phil explain thus in the past. I pay attention using the Dr's techniques and can easily spot when my boyfriend isn't being honest. He often lies by omission and feels it's perfectly alright.
Jokes aside, there is no such thing as cheating, some people just have a strange belief that a person now belongs to them once they've had sex or hung out a few times.
Never believe anyone about anything. No matter how honest people strive to be, they will often end up lying to protect their own ass. And Im sorry if that is extremely cynical, but you know the old saying: "Just look out for yourself, because nobody else will", well that type of Survivalist Mentality dictates that personal survival is all that matters, and thus right and wrong does not truly exist, but rather culture simply makes it up as it goes. And if you think that people are inherently good, you're mistaken. Because there are those out there who are only interested in what they can get, and they don't care how they get it, or who it hurts. And that again all stems from that "Survival Of The Fittest", mindset.
WOW. I am so sorry that you feel this way, "The Cowboy"..I often do things just to be nice with no hidden agenda or expectation of something in return...someone must have hurt you deeply...💔😢
I was accused and arrested for something that I didn’t do and I can say that this is false. I was soooo pissed talking about it but when they changed the subject and I stopped thinking about the rage. I was fine. It’s not about telling the truth. If you keep approaching your kid about drugs then they might just get pissed about the conversation and that’s what you see.
the things he is ascribing to liars and polygraph detectors are also the things ANYONE would do if they are embarrassed with the question whether or not they intend to lie. so many good people are railroaded by lie detectors that did not give truly accurate results.
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I lie a LOT. I lie to individuals in the morning that they are looking nice today to a child that one day the world will be theirs to an obese person that all you need is a little work out and you will be fine. to my family that I dont work hard neither I am stressed. to my self that one day we will all will be one nation and no one would die from hunger, hate, lust, or fear. And the best part is no one can tell If I am lying or not
It's hanging in my office. What does that have to do with any of this? Not only am I educated (which doesn't mean much), but I am also an expert in the field of body language, statement analysis, and liquistics. From Dr. Phil's response, he is not. If he is, I would question were he was educated in the field of body language and statement analysis. Where is your doctorate? Give me a break! Do you ask your mechanic that when he says you need new brakes and Dr. Phil says otherwise? Wow!
My roommate is a chronic liar she has some elaborate duzzies too like her dr.wants to marry her she says she's got brain cancer to get out of chores and she lies and looks down when I ask for details. I don't even confront her we all just chuckle to ourselves
An easy way to catch a lier or a person doesnt matter who is she or who is he or the lawyers or officer's in differ branches just like marijuana and cannabis its all favortism has well even a physics has well its easy to catch a physics that carry the book by looking at them .
why block other shows from comments I would love to comment on those stupid people who are scammed especially old or ugly ladies or both believe a young age good looking man would fall in love with them
I have a PhD and 27 professional experience ( not an entertainer). Dr. Phil cannot show one valid empirical research that validate his claims. Totally BS but it sells to the general public.
He contradicted what he said earlier when a liar will use pronouns. Then later he said they won’t use pronouns bc liars don’t want to own it. Btw, Dr. Phil, in some cultures, they don’t make eye contact out of respect and NOT bc they’re lying about something!
